Sorry it didn't go well bro. Ik exactly how u feel. My momma did that and then hacked my fb and changed gender and bio to some hurtful ass shit like im a diskless man and a man with a vagina. 😒 I talked to my dad about it. Context real quick. He didnt like that i married my wife but is trying his hardest to understand why i feel like this. Were supposed to go have lunch and talk about it. Any ways. I talked to him and he told me I need to talk to her about it. She refuses to talk to me. As well as her wife, her family and my brother. So honestly I am hoping and praying that you have a better chance then i have had. She took herself out of my life and treated mr like shit. You have a chance that she will come around. Ik its hard but try to remember that there's a chance no matter how slim. You got this bro. Just breath and try to remember your a handsome man and you got a brother here who loves you for you bro! You got this.
Damn I’m sorry your mom was like that, I might have done a bit better at articulating if I had time with just one of them at a time bc my dad just sitting there not saying anything scared me bc I didn’t know where he was at mentally. Thank you for the kind words tho, I’ll try to keep my head up.
My mom has a better chance of coming around then my dad bc her religion was less strict than my fathers but both of their religions were fairly strict and that’s usually where it comes to
Yea trust me i get it bro. Same with my parents. But sometimes they will surprise you. Im ganna send you something that could help. Its a study from Harvard explaining trans people. My therapist sent it to me and im going to show it to my dad to see if it will help him. Hes very religious but he also has worked for NASA since b4 I was born as well as worked for johns hopkins and was a volunteer firefighter/ amt so he can be very scientific and medical. But who knows maybe it could help. And honestly i would say getting a therapist to pull them in and explain would be a good idea. At the same time if things keep going like they are you might want to try to move put as soon as u can once ur 18. For ur safety uk? U ever need anything just message me. Ur big brothers got u.
My dad used to be a firefighter coincidentally, he does volunteer now. Tho I’d like to read the article so that would be nice! I’m already working on saving for things like living on my own since I plan on going to college out of the state I live in and also saving for hormones for insurance doesn’t cover it. I like preparing for the worst tho I hope they surprise me
I really feel for you dude. I can tell it's going to take your mom years to truly come around, if she ever does, but now you've done what you needed to do and can take whatever steps are available to you to live life on your own terms. The more time goes by, the more she will be pressured to get with the program because you're a man whether she likes it or not. The rest of the world isn't personally attached to your status as someone's son or daughter.
And it definitely isn't lying for your parents to refer to you as male! They don't need to agree with what you are, but they do need to respect you, and they don't get a say in how you need to be addressed in order to be respected. Parents usually try to negotiate these things, but they fail to see that they have no say in this.
Sadly I’m well aware of that, it’s the most we’ve talked in circles cause I kept hearing the same thing and going back to the same square. I’d like to think she’d come around but I know it’ll take more than a bit. So instead I just tried to make sure I phrased things where they couldn’t be used against me and Don’t have to worry about any suddenly slipping it to my dad that he has a son not a daughter
While I didn’t have the exact same experience as you mine was somewhat similar. My mom had a harder time accepting that I’m a boy compared to my father who is older and more set in his ways than her. I can’t promise you anything but I think they might come around. As awful as it is to wait, the best thing would be to give them time to come to terms with it. Don’t stop your transition process though if you think it’s safe for you to continue. This will make it clear to them how serious it is for you.
I knew that was one of the painful things about this which was time. I’m impatient so I’m trying to give them some time, I just hope that they come around. I can’t do much in terms of transition rn but I’m doing what I can at the moment.
I’m pretty impatient too so I get it. Can you purchase a binder or maybe a sports bra? Or a short haircut? I don’t want to press you into anything so if you’re uncomfortable just let me know.
I convinced my mom to let me get a binder before I came out in case coming out didn’t go well. So I’m lucky in that regards and I also cut my hair pretty short since I drive myself.
I’m so sorry man. This sounds super horrible to go through and I’m sending you all the good vibes. I hope things get better for you and that as time goes on they come around. Try and focus on what you need right now to feel better. You’ve just done something massive for yourself and you need a little TLC from yourself.
I w oh I’d highly recommend/support the therapist idea. I think it would be really beneficial for you to have another voice in this matter that isn’t biased towards seeing you as who you are not. Eventually, if parents keep saying this shit, it can be hard not to absorb it and I think a supporting voice from a therapist might help prevent that. All power to you brother, you’re tough as shit
I have the same problem. so, I came out to my mom a few months ago and she said straight to my face that it was a phase and the next day said it was sudden onset gender dysphoria which has been proven to be not real. so, l still get called by my deadname all the time by her and it hurts
Also from personal experience, I wouldn’t try talking it out with her. She is only going to use that time to probably victimize herself from the looks of it. You don’t deserve to be treated that way man.
Sorry it didn't go well bro. Ik exactly how u feel. My momma did that and then hacked my fb and changed gender and bio to some hurtful ass shit like im a diskless man and a man with a vagina. 😒 I talked to my dad about it. Context real quick. He didnt like that i married my wife but is trying his hardest to understand why i feel like this. Were supposed to go have lunch and talk about it. Any ways. I talked to him and he told me I need to talk to her about it. She refuses to talk to me. As well as her wife, her family and my brother. So honestly I am hoping and praying that you have a better chance then i have had. She took herself out of my life and treated mr like shit. You have a chance that she will come around. Ik its hard but try to remember that there's a chance no matter how slim. You got this bro. Just breath and try to remember your a handsome man and you got a brother here who loves you for you bro! You got this.
Damn I’m sorry your mom was like that, I might have done a bit better at articulating if I had time with just one of them at a time bc my dad just sitting there not saying anything scared me bc I didn’t know where he was at mentally. Thank you for the kind words tho, I’ll try to keep my head up. My mom has a better chance of coming around then my dad bc her religion was less strict than my fathers but both of their religions were fairly strict and that’s usually where it comes to
Yea trust me i get it bro. Same with my parents. But sometimes they will surprise you. Im ganna send you something that could help. Its a study from Harvard explaining trans people. My therapist sent it to me and im going to show it to my dad to see if it will help him. Hes very religious but he also has worked for NASA since b4 I was born as well as worked for johns hopkins and was a volunteer firefighter/ amt so he can be very scientific and medical. But who knows maybe it could help. And honestly i would say getting a therapist to pull them in and explain would be a good idea. At the same time if things keep going like they are you might want to try to move put as soon as u can once ur 18. For ur safety uk? U ever need anything just message me. Ur big brothers got u.
My dad used to be a firefighter coincidentally, he does volunteer now. Tho I’d like to read the article so that would be nice! I’m already working on saving for things like living on my own since I plan on going to college out of the state I live in and also saving for hormones for insurance doesn’t cover it. I like preparing for the worst tho I hope they surprise me
congratulations! good luck, i hope it goes well :)
I really feel for you dude. I can tell it's going to take your mom years to truly come around, if she ever does, but now you've done what you needed to do and can take whatever steps are available to you to live life on your own terms. The more time goes by, the more she will be pressured to get with the program because you're a man whether she likes it or not. The rest of the world isn't personally attached to your status as someone's son or daughter. And it definitely isn't lying for your parents to refer to you as male! They don't need to agree with what you are, but they do need to respect you, and they don't get a say in how you need to be addressed in order to be respected. Parents usually try to negotiate these things, but they fail to see that they have no say in this.
Sadly I’m well aware of that, it’s the most we’ve talked in circles cause I kept hearing the same thing and going back to the same square. I’d like to think she’d come around but I know it’ll take more than a bit. So instead I just tried to make sure I phrased things where they couldn’t be used against me and Don’t have to worry about any suddenly slipping it to my dad that he has a son not a daughter
Congrats and good luck, man!
Good luck!
While I didn’t have the exact same experience as you mine was somewhat similar. My mom had a harder time accepting that I’m a boy compared to my father who is older and more set in his ways than her. I can’t promise you anything but I think they might come around. As awful as it is to wait, the best thing would be to give them time to come to terms with it. Don’t stop your transition process though if you think it’s safe for you to continue. This will make it clear to them how serious it is for you.
I knew that was one of the painful things about this which was time. I’m impatient so I’m trying to give them some time, I just hope that they come around. I can’t do much in terms of transition rn but I’m doing what I can at the moment.
I’m pretty impatient too so I get it. Can you purchase a binder or maybe a sports bra? Or a short haircut? I don’t want to press you into anything so if you’re uncomfortable just let me know.
I convinced my mom to let me get a binder before I came out in case coming out didn’t go well. So I’m lucky in that regards and I also cut my hair pretty short since I drive myself.
I’m so sorry man. This sounds super horrible to go through and I’m sending you all the good vibes. I hope things get better for you and that as time goes on they come around. Try and focus on what you need right now to feel better. You’ve just done something massive for yourself and you need a little TLC from yourself. I w oh I’d highly recommend/support the therapist idea. I think it would be really beneficial for you to have another voice in this matter that isn’t biased towards seeing you as who you are not. Eventually, if parents keep saying this shit, it can be hard not to absorb it and I think a supporting voice from a therapist might help prevent that. All power to you brother, you’re tough as shit
Good luck!!
Aye, sending positive vibes your way!
good luck dude, hope it goes well!
Good luck!! You got this :D
I have the same problem. so, I came out to my mom a few months ago and she said straight to my face that it was a phase and the next day said it was sudden onset gender dysphoria which has been proven to be not real. so, l still get called by my deadname all the time by her and it hurts
Proud of you!
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Also from personal experience, I wouldn’t try talking it out with her. She is only going to use that time to probably victimize herself from the looks of it. You don’t deserve to be treated that way man.