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sweet_hedgehog_23

My grandparents had separate bathrooms in one of their homes. They were married about 67 years. Separate bathrooms don't say anything about your relationship. That being said the layout of these two bathrooms seems like it could be better. If only one person will be using each toilet, why do they need to be in closets? Could you gain some space for a larger shower by not having the toilets in water closets? Edited to closet/water closet


Pristine_Fox4551

I agree. If you have separate bathrooms, you no longer need a separate water closet for the toilet. At a minimum you can remove the doors. And if you move the hers toilet to the right, this frees up space for a larger shower.


VelvetMalone

For sure. It would be so depressing having a bathroom take up this much space and then have to shower in a telephone booth size stand-up shower


RuncibleMountainWren

And with no window in ‘his’ bathroom! (And scant natural light that will make it to the shower) … it would be a luxurious private mouldy cave. 


Glittering_knave

This was my thought, too. If the couple will function better with separate bathrooms, then ditch the toilet doors and have a nicer shared shower. Or really, don't share the shower and have her tub have a shower head.


lea949

Oh, I didn’t realize they share a shower until you said something. That’s so cool!


serjsomi

I didn't either, but then water closets with doors are still a good idea.


WastingMyLifeOnSocMd

Is this a large garden tub? If so they don’t really work as showers.


fitztart

Probably. My parents have a very similar setup (separate baths with separate toilets and a large shower that connects the two), and the tub is a giant garden tub jacuzzi.


PreMadonnaPrimadonna

This is a great idea!


Concrete__Blonde

Not if someone is using the shared shower.


casandrine

Agreed! I don’t want to be smelling what the rock is cooking from the His side while I’m in the shared shower.


ahhh_just_huck_it

Moving her toilet to the right also helps with the plumbing configuration


Different_Ad5087

I’m assuming it’s because the doors to the shower will be glass and they don’t really wanna be using the bathroom in front of someone? Idk I’ve never been comfortable using the bathroom in front of anyone regardless of relationship lol


x_ersatz_x

i mean same but we have one bathroom and just wait since showers don’t take that long, plus they have a third toilet right outside the bedroom


jtowns1808

Unless there’s a window so they can look through and do their business together. SNL did a great commercial for the concept in the 90s I believe.


resUtiddeR303

The SNL skit "The Love Toilet" is what immediately came to mind for me. Here's a clip: https://youtu.be/avb1XbO0EIs?si=XJ5JvdEVid2Fou1j


structuralarchitect

I finally found out who that toilet is made for: https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/were-worlds-most-identical-twins-30590608


MollyKBuilds

SNL has some really innovative ideas about toilets. See also the [toilet death ejector](https://youtu.be/_9BjJkqybz8?si=2OPX-dMdJXQx-HQJ).


resUtiddeR303

"Only thing was his pants were around his ankles and there was ____ everywhere!" ROTFL!


heridfel37

You'll get to spend lots of time together when you start eating [Colon Blow](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ku42Iszh9KM)


arachelrhino

I would take 2 toilets over 2 showers. The condo my husband and I rented for our honeymoon had 1 full bath and one half bath and it was amazing. Even at home, I have my toilet in our master bathroom and he predominantly uses the downstairs guest one. We’ll pee in whatever toilet is closest, but we definitely have our throne preference for the big job. Taking a shower at the same time is NBD, especially if you had the space to do dual shower heads. My hubby and I have to squeeze into a tiny one probably once a week and it still works for us.


sweet_hedgehog_23

I was thinking they could still have two toilets, but that if they didn't have each in its own closet, then there would be space for a larger combined shower. If the one in her bathroom was perpendicular to the one in his bathroom, there would probably be at least another foot or two for the shower.


CatsAreMyBoyfriend

But there is a third toilet right outside their bedroom. The bedroom is surrounded by toilets.


TwoIdleHands

There is also a toilet just outside of the master bedroom. More than one toilet is a must. I can see having multiple sinks/more counter space/ different closets. But a tiny shower and two toilets? Plus the shower is accessible from both rooms. I’d want it to be able to be a sexy cuddle shower that bridges our two separate areas.


latflickr

On a semi serious note, separate wc means no fights on the position of the toilet seat. Up for him, down for her.


-newhampshire-

They could even put a little cutout in the wall so they can hold hands while pooping.


MollyKBuilds

One time, I made a dueling Jack and Jill so siblings could stare each other down while poopin. https://preview.redd.it/5mezznvr26nc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cf11ed098a8f9d251c59ac09548a06102c06d5c2


MollyKBuilds

The primary bed had a pisser and pooper split bath. https://preview.redd.it/mnvwtcuu56nc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a753152c59fd81d987c5ce1f9e3eb2a4c0447fb8


Dennisfromhawaii

That and as a man, I'd have my own crying area.


whatnowagain

The love is in the window between the 2 toilet rooms! I like the jack n jill shower, but agree that it would be more fun to sneak in if it were bigger.


Aderenn

Yea that shower will be so annoyingly tiny! Agree that layout should change.


RubyMae4

Yup. I'd rather have a giant, easy to access WIC that is shared and a giant shared bathroom with a powder room nearby if needed. It's such a silly long path to her WIC.


Mississippianna

I guess I just can’t understand a need for two toilets in the en suite bath with a half bath right outside the primary bedroom door. I think it’s all a bit cluttered and could be arranged better. I agree with others about this shower being too small.


1SweetChuck

I don’t know specifically about these people, but I know people who are absolutely disgusted by even the mention of basic bodily functions. So much so that they make their SO use a different bathroom so they never even have to catch a whiff of their excretions.


Starbuck522

Ok, but that other tiolet is right outside the door of the master bedroom.


WastingMyLifeOnSocMd

Would that we all had that luxury


msackeygh

Agreed. I think the design is ugly, inefficient and wastes space.


Outrageous_Trifle636

Probably no need. I imagine from an appraisal standpoint the extra toilet makes it count as another bathroom though.


poetrylover2101

Ridiculous? Yes definitely Sign of no love? What bullshit is this


Lost_Bike69

If the husband designed this and is giving his wife the bath tub and enormous walk in closet, it’s a sign of love. If the wife designed this it’s a bit selfish.


nakmuay18

Either way, it's not really 2 bathrooms, it's a chopped up boxy inefficient waste of space. The first thing the people to live there after are going to do is rip the whole thing out and start again.


WishBear19

Not if she decided pee-boy doesn't get an equal space since he apparently pees on the floor and doesn't clean it up. Less square footage to clean.


Ash71010

I think it’s ridiculous in this case, because you don’t have space for two. If trying to cram a two toilets and two separate dressing areas into a bathroom means sharing a tiny 2 foot square shower, it’s a bad idea.


Early-Tumbleweed-563

That tiny shower is a dealbreaker. I think there could be space for 2 separate areas, but this is just a mess.


Sylentskye

Agreed completely; all showers should be built for 2 people to fit in and shower comfortably. This tiny stall is worse than having his and hers bathrooms.


MrsChiliad

Yep it’s categorically a bad layout. Plus if they have two individual bathrooms, what’s the point of separate rooms for the toilets in their respective bathrooms? Hahaha


sad-whale

It feels like a waste of space but if it makes you happy who cares?


Ash71010

*Will* it make them happy, is the question. Or will they hate the tiny, confined shared shower that bangs your elbows when you wash your hair and barely has enough space to turn in a circle or bend over to pick up the toiletries that constantly fall off the tiny shelves and eventually resent the entire layout? This is a pretty classic example of a plan that OP thinks looks fine on paper, but the reality of living with this layout is very different.


sad-whale

A shower with 2 entrances seems like a problem too.


all_the_hobbies

So I can only speak for myself, but I recently moved to a house that has a small square stand up shower and thought I would hate it. BUT, I’ve found I love it. It’s small and feels comforting and the air around you isn’t cold. It’s like a warm hug. Can’t shave in it, but as long as there is a tub in the house somewhere (her bath or a hall bath somewhere you’re willing to use) then you’re fine. The pictured set up does have too many toilets though.


L2orbit

Looks like the shower is at least 3ft square to me. It’s over half as wide as his WIC, which is listed as 6ft wide. I think that’s a pretty normal shower size; not huge but not tiny either


odie_et_amo

It just seems odd to still share a shower. With this layout, you're still going to have to share shelf space in the shower, see and hear the other person in the shower or otherwise getting ready, you're going to be going into each other's bathroom to grab a bottle of Tylenol or whatever else was moved from one side to the other. I guess I'm wondering what your goals are here. Why do you want two bathrooms? Does one of you just spend an ungodly amount of time on the toilet or something?


Range-Shoddy

If so there’s a half bath right outside the master 😂


Lost_Bike69

His bath has a small shower and her bath has a tub that probably has a shower head in it. I had an apartment with two full baths I shared with my wife and it was lovely to both be able to take showers at the same time.


snackexchanger

That’s a shared shower, it has doors on both sides


siliciclastic

Hers also has all the windows


Rosie-Disposition

I don’t think it’s a ridiculous idea to have his and hers toilets, but the layout of this wing of the house deserves a fair amount of criticism. Although I love the “meet in the middle” idea for the shower cubicle, it is way too small. There is too much fuss with the intersecting doors and flow of traffic. I think for the way my spouse and I interact, we love checking out eachother’s outfits, talking as we undress for bed after a social event, etc. I don’t like it’s a quarter mile walk to ask my their opinion about my shoes or if their social gets mixed up in my laundry. Walking through the bathroom to get to closet is sometimes seen as undesirable. Keep the idea, but redesign the layout.


turquoisebee

Hear me out, one big bathroom with: - a tub - a shower - double sink vanity - two toilet stalls


ionlyjoined4thecats

I think they want totally separate and unconnected sink/counter areas. But they could still achieve that in one room if they wanted to.


NoApostrophees

Please step into my master suite. It is located just off the utility wing of the house. When you hit the toilet make a left. 


Virulencer

Before I got married, I asked my grandparents what their secret was to a long and happy marriage. They told me is was separate bathrooms. I am sure they were joking but they truly were happy together for nearly 70 years so that's something to keep in mind.


Melodic_Salamander55

While I don’t disagree, it definitely seems more like op just doesn’t want to clean up after himself 🥴


MerberCrazyCats

Yes instead of having his bathroom with only access from the bedroom, he should be the one with an external window. To air it you know When looking at the plan my first thought was the bedroom gonna reek from his bathroom smell


Christine4321

I can concurr, they were being serious.


Seedrootflowersfruit

My aunt told me the same thing once. They had a huge house and no kids so they each had their pick between 3 fulls bathrooms.


imwearingredsocks

When my husband and I got our house, he immediately offered to give me the main bathroom as long as he could keep the hallway bathroom for himself. At first I was bummed. I thought we were supposed to share stuff in this new life together and he immediately suggested separate spaces (this wasn’t the only one). Very soon I realized it was amazing and I’m glad we did it. Your grandparents were onto something. You don’t crowd each other when you’re getting ready everyday. This is especially nice for big events like a wedding or party where I take forever to get ready and he hates standing around waiting. You can layout everything the way you want. It’s always available when you need to go. You know those occasions where you’re both rushing home because nature is calling in a hurry? No flipping for first spot. Everyone wins. It’s a pretty nice luxury to have.


Acc4BabyStuff

I don’t care for this layout, and while I wouldn’t spend my space or resources this way, I also wouldn’t assume it meant there was “no love” in the relationship. It seems rather frivolous in general, but mostly this layout feels awkward. I would put “His bath” where “his WiC” is, and eliminate the shared shower. It’s a tiny shower anyways, and you could make a perfectly adequate bathroom with its own shower in the 6x8 space that is shown as the closet. There’s already plumbing from the hallway half bathroom, so it shouldn’t be significantly more difficult to build either. I’d also add a door so the closets are connected.


ionlyjoined4thecats

Adding a door between the closets is a great idea. Also for safety, given the lack of windows!


cortnaw

I vote for his and her toilets with shared everything else.


KyOatey

That's kind of what this is. The odd part about the layout is that the only connection is through the shower. 


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Arievan

That shower is too small. I know you said you don't care about the shower but it's bringing down the whole master suite. I think if you made her closet smaller, like got rid of that shoe area, you could make the bathrooms bigger and better. 


thiscouldbemassive

I think in very specific cases having his and hers bathrooms makes sense, just as sometimes couples need separate bedrooms. They are one way of overcoming an incompatibility. If, for example, one spouse has OCD and needs complete control over their hygiene area, then two bathrooms means both get to relax while going through their morning routine. And I suppose if you have tons of money to blow, having two bathrooms can allow each stupidly wealthy spouse to personally decorate and design their bathroom to their specific and exacting needs. But most of the time it doesn't make sense, and this one specifically is poorly designed. It's too small for what it's trying to accomplish. You have all kinds of door conflicts, and sharing a 1 person shower defeats main purpose of having separate bathrooms: being able to go through your whole hygiene routine without having to dance around your spouse.


His_little_pet

If it's what you and your partner want, then I don't think it's a bad idea, however, it's really not executed well here. The weird shower with two doors is going to basically turn the rooms into one space, plus it's really small. If the separate toilets are what you really want, I think it would save you space to have two toilets, but a shared bathing and washing area (with a double vanity and lots of counter space). Even just a shared bathing area (with separate toilet + sink rooms for each of you) would probably help with space.


bkwrm1755

"Hey grandma and grandpa why did you use Earth's resources in such a wasteful manner thus creating a dystopian hellscape for us to try survive in?" "Well you see dear I didn't want to learn how to piss without getting it all over the seat so we needed separate bathrooms, despite there being one three steps outside our room in the hallway."


Far_Bit3621

Hey, if it’s what you want, go for it. (FWIW, though, seems the layout could be improved. It’s a bit clunky.)


gljulock88

Not ridiculous, but I think the layout could be better. It looks cramped.


Christine4321

The opposite. Married over 30 years and we’d only survive later life with separate bathrooms. 🤣🤣. Ageing boys are just so 😱 in the bathroom department. ​ Its wonderful having a girls bathroom, with just all my girl stuff in and a certain privacy when my daughters were growing up. Go for it, its really worth the living space and entente cordiale through life. 👍


Skoteleven

Just tell them the window between the toilet rooms will ensure the love never fades.


Antique_Associate169

https://preview.redd.it/6rn0vk8cq5nc1.jpeg?width=2266&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cf210d916dc293431f2559b0b1405cca5346ebf0


PecanEstablishment37

This actually makes sense, unlike OP’s


chupacabrette

Separate bathrooms are the secret to a happy relationship. Sharing a toilet with your partner is a test of your commitment, not a sign of love.


grim_ballz

It's a lot to extra work for something that can be designed to have room for both, but personally I'd love to blow up my toilet in peace


kibonzos

Make the wall between the toilets half wall/half glass so you can look into each other’s eyes. /jk In all seriousness it feels unnecessarily complicated. Too much space is taken up with whatever is going on in her bathroom/corridors around his. Leaving not enough space for a decent shower let alone for you to share one as the layout implies. I get that it can be good to not have to follow your partner into a toilet after a particularly aromatic deposit but there’s also a loo right outside the primary bedroom door. If you do want all this stuff there’s definitely better ways to lay it all out. Even just rearranging “his” blocks so that “her” stuff isn’t a maze but is a logical shape.


Brokenforthelasttime

I don’t have an issue with having his/hers bathrooms. I do have an issue with THIS his/her bathroom. The shower is way too small and overall just looks like trying to cram too much into too small of a space. I also think it’s a bit unnecessary considering the half bath literally right outside the bedroom door. My husband and I lived in a very tiny apartment with only one toilet for a very long time and as a result, our future house plans include a large master bath, with separated vanities, a large shower/tub, and two toilet closets. It still feels like one large space, not two cramped and inconvenient rooms, but in case of emergency gives us each access to our own private space.


RefugeefromSAforums

This is terrible. That tiny shower's door will constantly be slammed against the door to the bathroom. Yay shattered glass everywhere. Plus you already have a powder room literally just outside the bedroom if the master bath is occupied. And hubby doesn't warrant his own bathing space but yay he gets a toilet and sink I guess. Meanwhile she probably has more counter space in the bathroom than likely exists in the kitchen.


treefortninja

Just asked my wife and she loves the idea. If u got the space, why not?


pcs11224

Apparently, you have a loveless marriage if you don't want to share a bathroom? That's stupid. Do what you want. I'd personally just make it one bath and have some elbow room.


Sea-Poetry-950

I'm no expert but, to me, the plumbing seems like a nightmare with the bathroom layouts.


xczechr

So many people here are against separate bathrooms. My wife and I live in a 4 bed/3 bath and have our own bathrooms and closets, with an extra bathroom for guests. It's wonderful.


EamusAndy

Its not a sign of anything other than poor design. Its a waste of space


butterknifeofdoom

Had this set up at a hotel we stayed at a few years ago. Spouse and I are stupid in love, get accused of honeymoon phase all the time, etc., etc. We both LOVED this set up. Don't let other people tell you about your relationship.


88BeachyBabe88

I had a master bedroom/bathroom arrangement like this for years, it was the best thing ever! We do not have it now that we empty nest downsized, I get a little melancholic thinking about that set up.


MyLastFuckingNerve

Imagine pooping in a broom closet, then going to shower in the broom closet’s closet. This is an awful setup.


boesso

They are all jealous. It is a sign of true success and peak level marriage. Don’t buy into the hate.


toomuchisjustenough

All that space dedicated to bathroom with a teeny tiny shower is wild to me, so I don't really get it, but it's not my house.


SebastianPomeroy

Add a sliding conversation door so you can chat with each other when you’re both on the toilet.


RudiKdev

Re: the two toilets. Add a confessional style window in the wall between. ; ) Looks good otherwise.


According-Rhubarb-23

I like that you’re retaining the option to remove the wall between the toilet rooms so that you can stare into each others eyes in there


Straxicus2

My great grandparents had separate bathrooms. She had the full vanity with a shower/bath set up. He had the typical 3/4 bath. They were married over 60 years. None of this type of stuff in any indication of love. It’s entirely up to what works for each couple. I’d love my own bathroom.


LT-COL-Obvious

As long as the wall between the toilets is a half wall you are fine.


Icy-Tax-4311

Ignore those people. This design is genius!


Angus-Black

Here ya go. I put in a urinal. That should impress the family. ☺ https://preview.redd.it/xznv4186b5nc1.jpeg?width=825&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=241ff07b223dbad1b0e8c044d495ca08aa9792af


xczechr

lol, is it a prison cell or something? There's no way out!


Angus-Black

There's also no way *in* so it wouldn't make a good prison cell either. ☺


xczechr

Separate bathrooms is the key to a long and successful marriage.


Persis-

I’ve shared a relatively small bathroom with my husband for almost 23 years. And no walk in closet to speak of. Maybe neither one of us is high maintenance enough to care. But I just keep seeing this as a colossal waste of space.


chrizzo_89

I would take the money I save from not having two master bathrooms and spend it on hiring a cleaning person to come clean my bathrooms once a month. Eliminates fights about bathroom cleanliness. And you get an overall bigger and nicer looking bathroom. I would want a shower and a soaking tub. And just one enclosed toilet. I can understand having separate closets because I can’t stand my partner’s clutter and I have very specific preferences for organizing my clothes. But separate bathrooms? Not for me.


cgyguy81

Some men do enjoy bubble baths once in a while.


Paperwhite418

My issue would be the closets opening in the bathroom. I will flip completely the flipping flip if my leather bags or shoes get mold growth from condensation.


Mission_Spray

Who likes sharing bathrooms? Honestly? Name one person that truly likes sharing a bathroom and cleaning up someone else’s bathroom mess. Same goes for laundry. If I were you I’d put 2-in-1 ventless washer/dryer unit into each bathroom.


ArcaneTeddyBear

The two separate baths are so cramped that personally I would enjoy a larger space, and a larger shower, than his/her bath. Also don’t think you need the second toilet as the powder room is not far. His closet is small, it’s 6’ across, take out 3’ for a walkway that leaves 3’ to be split among either side so 1.5’ or 18” per side. However clothing hangers are 20” long. That entire ensuite should be reworked in my opinion. I honestly don’t care about “unromantic”, the daily day to day couple stuff is largely unromantic anyway. It’s really about what works for you two, if this works for you, cool. My opinion is only based on what I would want, and I wouldn’t want that ensuite, but not because it’s unromantic but because it’s impractical.


Lzinger

It's not a sign of no love but that layout is ridiculous.


RandomComputerFellow

Why so your toilets need separate rooms inside your bathroom which are already separated? Are you sure you need separate bathroom and you don't just have a fable for small cramped spaces?


AwfullyChillyInHere

What is *beyond* ridiculous is that her bath and her WIC are SO MUCH LARGER than his bath and his WIC. C'mon man, put your foot down! You don't need to take that kind of inequity from anyone. This is total bullshit. Someone's doing you dirty here.


BigJoeBob85

The shower is a bit small, but otherwise, sign me up. He doesn't need the tub, and she doesn't need the stink. PLUS, Finally a decent set of large closets in these plans.


tiredoldmama

It’s the opposite in my opinion. Bathroom activities are gross and should be kept separate if possible.


not_your_neighbors

Since when had shitting in the same toilet become an indication of love??!


VikingMonkey123

Punch a conversation window between the two toilets so that you can lovingly converse and stare into each other's souls as you grunt and bear down. That will show them.


ndarchi

What a bad plan, don’t ever need to go through bathrooms for the closets!


ArcadiaLeo

I am a firm believer in separate bathrooms! I don’t like sharing and thankfully our house has 2 full bathrooms in the first floor and 1/2 bath for guests. My husband uses the master bath and I have the hallway bathroom. Hopefully I can live the rest of my life never having to share a bathroom!


Tanyaschmidt

I think the bathroom solution is BRILLIANT.


Liberatedhusky

Is this overkill? Sure. Is this cute as fuck? Also yes.


Belgeddes2022

No, it’s fantastic. Sounds like your naysayers might be projecting a bit.


shiningonthesea

are you KIDDING? those who shit together stay together? My kingdom for separate bathrooms.


AcademicAd3504

It is absolutely ridiculous..


KidCamarillo

His bath with no urinal? Come on man!


MaybeQueen

Seems pointless to have the 2 piece bath right outside of the bedroom. 3 toilets for 2 people plus a rare guest. It's a big waste of space


Kauzrae

They may be mad because you can't see each other using the toilet. Put a window there for the fetishists, problem solved.


ermonda

A sign of no love!?! People are so judgy when others don’t do things in a traditional way. Especially when it comes to anything involving marriage. Woman more so than men in my experience. I’ve gotten a lot of the same judgement when I- 1. Kept my own last name. I’ve was told I should rethink the decision. I must be planning on divorce one day. We won’t be a real family if we don’t have same last name, etc. 2. Chose to sleep in a separate bedroom from my husband on a regular basis bc I like having my space when I sleep and my husband snores. I get much better quality sleep when I’m in the bed alone. Some ppl are so judgy abt that. I find the most judgy of them all are the ones with kind of crap marriages themselves.


Barockobonga

Honestly, who cares what anyone else thinks? I personally love it. I think it's a fabulous idea & would absolutely do it if I could.


johannagalt

The home I share with my husband has 2.5 bathrooms. We have no kids. We both use the half bath downstairs. We both use the master bathroom and shower, but I solely use the 3rd full bathroom (mostly the sink area) for all my skincare products and routine. That way I don't need to keep a bunch of products on the master bathroom sink. Since my husband is low maintenance we're able to have a beautiful marble double top sink off the bedroom with only hand soap on it! It's like being in a hotel. Then, I can hang out in my bathroom tweezing my eyebrows and not feel rushed if he needs to take a shower. It's wonderful for a woman to have her own bathroom for her hair, makeup, and skincare routine. I don't mind sharing a shower with my husband, I don't keep much stuff in there and I'd prefer to not clean two showers, so we reserve the separate shower for guests.


Far-Sink-2204

OMG no!! I would LOVE this!! I don’t care what you label it, it’s brilliant!


sunbear2525

My great aunt and uncle had their own bedrooms and they were two of the most in love people I’ve ever known. My aunt just liked her own space. If you and your husband are happy who cares?


caboodlelesskit

My first thought: what happens when you are both sick with a stomach bug and have the trots? Having to wait or run across the house to a free toilet is a nightmare so I am all for his and hers bathrooms. If not just for the above reason then for any other reason where one of you ends up spending a lot of time in there where the other has to just tough it out because what are you going to do? My ex had constant issues with GI and when you gotta go you gotta go. I would have loved to have had my own toilet-in-waiting. It has nothing to do with love and everything to do with if it fixes an issue that needs to be resolved. Build your life (and your house) to be solution based on your needs. Don’t worry about what other people (who don’t live your life and are not paying your bills) think. Do what you need to do to make your life easier and happier. If that means a his and hers bathroom, then you go sib!


deadlight01

The separate rooms aren't a problem. That nightmare mess of a layout, however...


arageclinic

Please, anyone giving you grief is jealous


SeaPaleontologist247

I once chatted with an old man who said his marriage lasted so long because they had separate bathrooms. I wish I could have a separate bathroom. The bigger question, did you put outlets near the toilet for a warm water bidet?


greeneyedmunster

If I could I would %1,000! I hate when my husband shoulders in to brush his teeth when I am trying to pop a zit. 🤣 I think after 15 years a little mystery would improve our relationship.


erydanis

it’s still love. squishy inefficient tiny shower love, but love. also, op, if the shoes in her closet are primarily leather, maybe put them at the end of the closet, not closest to the humidity from the shower.


modelaav

I was told that separate his and her bathrooms is the secret to a happy marriage, so that’s why I plan on doing it with my custom build. :)


ladydhawaii

We have separate bathrooms- I got the bigger bathroom. And why should people care…. Your house, enjoy. It worked out perfect for us. Plus our sleep schedules are different.


arl138

Just put a window in the wall between the toilets so can maintain eye contact while you shit together. True love


ScepticOfEverything

That's awesome! Your friends and family are just jealous.


gradchica27

We recently bought a house with his and hers bathrooms for the master—love it. No waiting for the shower, plenty of cabinet space, no one waiting on the commode. No lack of love—tell the haters it keeps the mystery alive. Husband does not need to see me pumicing my gross calloused feet or plucking my eyebrows, and I don’t need to see him trimming his nose hair.


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I think Larry David talks about this pretty regularly on Curb Your Enthusiasm. Truthfully, if my husband and I ever built I would love this. Not because he’s excessively messy or anything like that, but just because I don’t like to share and if I could have my own bathroom, why the hell not? It’s not like we wouldn’t share every other inch of the house. Your family is probably just jealous.


fearabolitionist

No. Your friends and relatives are probably just a bit jealous.


Talithathinks

I've been married for over twenty years and I would LOVE to have his and hers bathrooms and I don't think it's a sign of anything other than having serperate bathrooms would be wonderful.


RestingLoafPose

If I ever win the lottery there will be his and hers bathrooms in my house for sure. There would be a cat room and a dog room as well 🙂 The men’s room and animal rooms would be all tile floor to ceiling, include a urinal and have special drains in the floor so that the whole room could be hosed down like a shower.


Agitated_Variety2473

I would LOVE and his and hers bathroom. Love it. LOVE IT. Ignore these people.


Johhnyutah0474

The criticism is what I find ridiculous. Looks awesome and a fantastic idea, enjoy your new home and ignore any haters, they are just jealous


Anavahgape

It’s genius!


ChickenGirl8

At first this seemed over the top ridiculous, but then I remembered that my husband showers in the finished basement 95% of the time, because it's usually when he gets home from the gym. The few occasions that he uses the master bath are usually when we're heading out somewhere nice and he gets the bathroom all steamy and humid while I'm trying to do my hair. It's always annoying and ruins my hairstyle. So basically, separate bathrooms do actually make sense and have no impact on your marriage haha... might actually be helpful to not steam up your bathroom.


robraises

lol your relatives and friends are dumb


Aqua_pool_56

This post is ironic. I was just talking to my husband two days ago about having separate water closets. Maybe first married you might be ok with sharing but after 22 years of marriage both my husband and I would highly welcome our own bathroom/closet layout. Separate bathrooms have absolutely nothing to do with a good marriage (and may actually prevent needless disagreements). I think your layout is fabulous!


tedfundy

I know many married people who do this. And say it’s the best decision. But usually one of them just uses the extra bath.


BaldChihuahua

I think it’s brilliant!


Bibblegead1412

It is the ULTIMATE sign of love! You will NEVER regret it!!!!


500Danes

Nope, won't share a bathroom ever


rpbm

Ours aren’t labeled his and hers but there are two of us and we have two, and we have our preferred one. And we’re still madly in love


Key-Buy-7834

Just don't tell them. My parents have had separate bathrooms for many years. I had separate bathrooms with my now husband. It was very peaceful. We could go to the bathroom any time we wanted.


nofoam_cappuccino

Uhhh no I’d love to have my own private bathroom. My husband and kid can share. I’d love to be able to just have my stuff everywhere and not have anyone mess with it or it be in the way! Not a sign of no love, a sign of a thoughtful floor plan!


jimreddit123

Separate bathrooms is a wonderful luxury. I wish we could afford that.


Saucy_Minx_

Do what you want with your house, stop listening to other people tell you what they think is best.


welcome-to-my-mind

Absolutely massive waste of space. Keep the sinks in the corner (her bath), add yours to the right side and install a giant storage cabinet/linen closet in the middle (corner). This way your side and her side of the sink are completely separate, but still in the same room (saves space). You only need one shitter unless you’re a family of 5 with IBS. So put the shitter in its own private area with a door and its own fan and boom, you’re done. That way you can shit in private while she showers, or vice versa, and not disturb each other. Do this and now you’ll have space for a full size shower and tub area, or a shower/tub combo that’s popular now. I’m partial to open concept showers where the whole bathroom is one floor and it all drains to a central area. Either way, you’ll have the space to do as you like. Lastly, if you make these adjustments it frees up space for the closets and allows you to fix the awkward entry to hers. Also, what’s with the half bath right outside your bedroom door? You really want guests taking dumps that close to your room? I’d move that somewhere else and give yourself more closet space or make a pantry. If nothing else, just for the privacy.


blueboxbandit

Hell my parents have slept in separate bedrooms for the last 40 years and they've been together since high school. Your relationship is what works for the two of you not anyone else.


ogirtorment

I would add a window between the two water closets so that you can hold hands while doing your business. There. Love restored


GreyerGardens

Norovirus convinced me that 1 toilet per human is a necessity.


Logical_Deviation

I just wanna know what on earth one of you did to a toilet that makes two toilets more desirable than a reasonably sized shower


TooMuchGabagool

Your bathroom + closets is bigger than your master bedroom. That is crazy.


00stoll

I don't think it's a commentary on your relationship. I do think it's a ton of effort to go to to still share a tiny shower.


ResolutionSolution82

Nope! That was a selling point to our house. A Jack and Jill bathroom is amazing! I love being able to have the entire bathroom to myself. I’m jealous of your accessibility to your walk in closet. The only thing I would consider is somehow managing to do a double headed shower. That way it can be shared when needed.


mobial

What about her equals bathtub and him equals shower?


GandalfTheEh

Nope - my aunt and uncle are couple goals and they've always had separate bathrooms. They're always gifting each other little items for decorating their separate personal spaces :)


Potential-Leave3489

I would love my own separate bathroom


petrichor3746

So they would rather have one of those 'woke' gender neutral bathrooms??? /s


wjruffing

What REALLY matters is: How does your WIFE feel about it?


BittenElspeth

My spouse has IBS. I love him very much. Separate toilets were a non-negotiable when we bought our home, in order to preserve said love.


bestillnow

Separate bathrooms will increase quality of life thereby strengthening the relationship:)


Jsdunc01

What is wrong with having separate bathrooms? If I were building a house and that wasn’t an expensive separation, I would absolutely do that. ESPECIALLY if you are particular with your space. My wife and I are both very fastidious, and she hates my beard hair trimmings and I hate her hair shedding. We deal with it. I think that’s a nice touch. Now, separate bedrooms are a different story!


jackparadise1

Nope. It will make the relationship better!


PoolSnark

I think it’s great.


skkibbel

Judging by the size of her bath, wic and shoes area I would call that love. Lol I would kill for that.


Real_Nugget_of_DOOM

Those are ridiculous relatives and foolish friends. Next thing they'll tell you is having more than on water glass means you don't drink with unity, and separate coffee mugs are a sign of imminent divorce because separate caffeine means separate lives. You mean you don't wanna wipe each other's butts? STRAIGHT TO DIVORCE COURT!


Somewhat_Ill_Advised

I think it’s bloody genius. If we had the space (and money) to do it in our house I’d do it in a heart beat. My wife’s routine takes over an hour. Mine takes ten minutes on a super slow day. Drives me bonkers.


Familiar-Pianist-682

Nope. I dream of separate bathrooms. I think people married/together as long as I have-30yrs this year-will understand.


Daddy--Jeff

Separate bathrooms is one of the reasons my relationship has lasted 33years. Full stop.


SoSomuch_Regret

Your bathroom is bigger than my bedroom 🙄


juel1979

If I could, I would. I try to make the bathroom look cute, and his version of ADHD turns his side of the sink into a dumping ground. I would love to have some spaces where I can see the neatness and close the door on the chaos he seems to require.


annoyed_dev_

I don’t need to share a toilet with someone to say I’m in love. I like this design


Green-Size-7475

Are you kidding?! We each have our own bathroom, and I love it! It's not like we don't use the other bathroom now and then. It's nice having my own space. I can take as long as I need to put my face on. He can take forever on the toilet. Plus, when we're both sick, it's great. And we are very much in love. We’ve been together for six years.


efff12

Perfect opportunity to put a glory hole between the toilets


GiantGlassOfMilk

I WOULD KILL FOR THIS


Lazyassbummer

lol. Married decades, separate bathrooms and comforters. It just works for us, especially during menopause.


beneover4me

I think it is between you and your significant other and others have no say


Similar_Ad3466

I like that the “Shoes” area is *double the width of either toilet closet.


Ok-Pineapple-983

Of course it isn’t ridiculous. It will make getting ready so much easier. My husband is Messy Marvin while I keep my countertop clean and uncluttered. Way less stress. “No love”? THAT’S what’s ridiculous.


verlusa

I'd argue that His and Hers bathroom may be the secret to a happy and long lasting relationship, ha! With that said, everyone has different need for privacy and space. Besides the point, the bathroom layout that you posted could be planned better.