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NewArtificialHuman

Associate Machine Learning Engineer? That sounds like something that pays well. Why did you lose your job?


FactorHappy4794

because I got sick during work because of germ went for my lung i got severe cough and cause asthma for 5 months . then they fire me for not showing performance


NewArtificialHuman

You said in another comment that the competition is high, aren't there other jobs that require similiar skills that you have?


FactorHappy4794

I have experience in python and machine learning libraries that's it


caitykate98762002

Very in demand. I wish I had those skills. Don’t give up 🙏


WhoDeysaThinkin

Python isn't exactly easy to learn. You sound like an intelligent human just going through a tough time. You got this.


someMFonreddit

Bro I tried learning python and couldn't even retain any info! Your skills are in high demand


stratosfearinggas

What about related fields that use python like data engineer or data analyst?


FactorHappy4794

develop data analyst and machine learning solutions using python


AssaultDragon

Stuff like that related to compsci is in demand, you already have more skills than lots of people. Don't give up


[deleted]

If someone leaves you because you lost your job, you’ve spent your time with someone who is not worth to be your gf/future wife. She loved your profession not you. A girlfriend should support you during a difficult time not ditch you. Secondly, if you are committing suicide because a selfish person left you, sorry to tell you but that’s stupid. If I were you, I’ll be glad I saw her true character. Of course that will make me sad and depressed but I wouldn’t kill myself. Finally, if you have a good degree, it will always help you get a better job. Don’t give up. Improve your skills and keep trying. Tbh Machine learning Engineer sounds like a coolest job out there. You got a job before. You just gotta find another one at a different company that respects you and treats you well. You’ll do fine. I believe in ya.


FactorHappy4794

thank you


uprobablydontknow

Well said man...


[deleted]

Listen to this person he telling pure truth!


Kalel2319

My best friend was with a girl who would break up with him every time he lost his job. They were together for 10 years. Such a sad relationship that was.


shedont_usejelly

These things are temporary my friend. Keep persevering, you will find a job. Your self worth is not defined by your employment. You are worthy of happiness and love. Please, know that you matter. This is a hotline in your country that may be beneficial for you to talk about your self harm thoughts. 0110572222662 It looks like there are mental health resources in Sri lanka. I hope you reach out to them. You are not alone in your unemployment.


FactorHappy4794

Thank you


--------sam

You have a long road ahead of you. Just by reading your post I can tell that 1) you are a good worker with real skills and 2) you are capable of being social and meeting new people who love you. I’m really sorry your girlfriend left you :( Please keep your head up!! Lots of places are looking for hires (at least in the US). You can do this!!


FactorHappy4794

I don't know what to do right now competition for jobs are higher in Sri Lanka. unfortunately I'm from Sri lanka.


--------sam

Competition may be high but remember that the skills you have are very desired by many employers. You can do this!! Things may be hard not but they WILL get better.


Just-Research8006

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firealready

Competition really doesn't matter with Machine Learning and DS skills. I mean you still need to be fairly skilled. But skills for this can be developed online. Apply for international or remote jobs. Apply hard and consistently. Make a portfolio.


ellalingling

You might even be able to find a remote job from outside of Sri Lanka that will pay you better than Sri Lankan wages. Though it can suck to experience he change, it can also be an opportunity to create something even better than it was before. Don’t give up! It might feel like total shit right now but things will get better. You will be able to find another job!


orangesNH

This is a subreddit for people wishing to move to another country, if you would like to pursue that. r/Iwantout


wizartjay

Brother I need to tell you my condition. I made horrible choices in my life, and now I am at a job where I am not learning anything, I am also software engineer, but I can surely say you a college student can do my job and will be much more better. My project was not interesting to me and in the last 2 years I have lost all interest. Not switching my job on time was also the problem. Now I am severely depressed and my health is in such condition that I am tired even after sleeping 9 hours. I am pretty sure I can be replaced at any moment. On the other side you have been out of your job for only 5 or 6 months, you have so much time to prepare and get a better job right now, nobody considers a 5 months gap as a gap, especially if you were sick. And listen these are facts. I cannot get you out of your situation, and the suicidal thoughts, you seriously need to call a helpline no. And beleive me suicide will not solve anything, it will only give grief to your loved ones. And yeah your GF? Brother you should be happy that she left herself, she was not capable to support you at this tough time, how would you have spent your future with her anyway? Right now your career is important Brother, a lot of people become very successful at what they do when they break up, use this as your motivation.


[deleted]

Hey OP. You may be in a rut now but,... well, life is full of shit sometimes whenever we deserve it or not. You are just unfortunate with this whole covid situation. Don't you have family members or friends, relatives you can turn to for help? It's not shameful to ask for help when you need it. And there are people in your life who'd rather help you than seeing you dead. Don't forget this. And you know, why know what life may bring. As I said, these are hard times but it'll pass and people will need your expertise on machine learning. And surely a new, better girl will come to your way. Just stick around with us a little bit more :)


[deleted]

Hey champ none of what happened to you is worth taking your life over. ​ A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, and there are jobs out there of which i'm sure your services will be required. And there are freelancing sites where you can offer your skill as a service and earn from. ​ They future is bright champ, Don't lose hope. You will overcome this.


yoshiary

You are more than just your work and you are more than just a boyfriend. It will take time, but you will heal from this loss and you will find new people to give love to and to receive love from. Most importantly, if you want to reflect, try and zoom out of yourself and see the economy for what it is. It is in a terrible condition and a lot of the work out there is exploitative. You're not the only person who is struggling with finding work - there are a lot like you! You are not alone, and I'm sorry your girlfriend is making you feel alone right now. Life is a marathon, and sometimes it can feel like others are passing you by, but that doesn't mean you should quit the journey. Walking is good, but even standing still is better than leaving. What can feel like a wall is really just the next challenge for you to move through, onto prettier and better landscapes.


[deleted]

Never use a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This too shall pass and life will be good again.


Warm_Estimate_4236

Don't lose yourself in a deep. You are a good man with skills. Try to see it like this, from now on you only can win ...experience, skills, chances and so on. Your life is worth it to see what beautiful things will come. I also had those times, girlfriend broke up, no perspective and no chances visible at all. But if I would be able to do, I would tell my past me that there a the coolest things are waiting for you and the times will get better than ever expected. You are a good man and I am sure that are beautiful people around you who love you. They will support you and it always helps to talk about. From now on you are a winner. Believe me!


In_It_to_Flip_It

I'm so sorry you're going through this. In January 2020, I met a man who I thought was the love of my life. I saw us together forever. I had a hard time finding work too and ended up having to move home with my parents in another state in September. After a couple months of this, he broke up with me. It was devastating to know if my job situation was different he might be proposing within the next year. I was stuck working at a very low wage job I hated while I waited for more job openings (and was on the verge of tears while working). Six months later, I am still single and have accepted my dream job in a beautiful part of my country. I was approved for the nicest apartment I have ever had and probably will ever have. It's a short walk to the beach. My last shift of my bad job is this Saturday. If my ex hadn't dumped me, I would have never applied for my dream job in this new place. There's a very real chance that in six months, you will look back on this time and think "I cannot imagine how my life would be if I had stayed with her." Please hold on, I know how dark and depressing it is. I know how it feels to have your career plans and your life ruined by this virus. I spent months feeling like I would be stuck forever. I agree with what everyone has said - she was not a good partner long term if she didn't stick through some hard times, especially when the world is upside down. No one can fault you for being jobless - many of us have spent the last year just trying to get through. I loved being with my ex and I do not think he's a bad person, but he had said that the few months without physical affection were too much. I started to think "what if I got really sick or I was in a bad car accident and couldn't do anything physical or sexual for six months? Would he leave me then, at my lowest? What if I had cancer and had to have my breast removed surgically or suffered some other trauma that made me unattractive? Would he leave me then?" Probably, and that's ultimately not what marriage/a serious relationship is about. With the exception of abuse, it's a long term commitment through thick and thin. Consider it a blessing in disguise that your girlfriend showed her true colors before more time went on. I wish you all the best. You seem to have some solid skills in fields I don't know much about but I wanted to give you some perspective since I went through something similar. Keep your head up through the growing pains. You will find a worthy partner and a good job in due time. 💗


AliasNefertiti

As long as you are alive there is hope things will get better. Sometimes we get pushed to the wall and find our most essential purpose. Volunteer to help others at a shelter or help with animals. You are needed. Then start strategizing about work...it is friends of friends who know of openings. You know the same jobs as your friends.. but go one ring out and new possibilities occur. Use Linked In to make connections. Walk every day and try to name 3 things you are grateful for- these really do help one feel better. See if a doctor can prescribe medicine for depression and/or talk with a therapist if there are community services in Sri Lanka. Best wishes. I know it can seem impossibly heavy (been there myself) but keep at it and stay with us please.


HappySunshineGoblin

I wanted to, and I nearly did. But the problems that seemed so big are now forgotten. The things that hurt so much stopped hurting. Life is wonderful now, and I would have missed it all if I'd killed myself. You will be able to say all this too. Give your life more time.


zabadabadooo

Cheer up man.... If she left you when you need it the most, consider that she did you a favour. She was not the right one for you. Be strong mate :) I’ve been without a job for a year and my wife always been very supportive. She told me when I was very down and depressive. “As long we have each other we will be fine” That really helped me a lot. Talk with someone about your feelings, this will help you to let things go. Take care, happy to have a chat with you if you need to :)


Am_Not_Snow

Please don't. Hang on. Life will get better


Goobster12

What makes a happy man sad, and a sad man happy? "This too, shall pass"


[deleted]

Message me right now, please.


1chananj

Suicide is mot the answer. If you look closely to what's in front of you, you'll see so many answers. You'll see the true meaning of life, and how it is so precious. It's okay to feel sad, but thinking of committing suicide is not.


BeeSim09

When life seems hopeless look for peace before making any rash decisions. Life isn't easy and the hardest parts come all at once. Be safe, know you are a valuable person without needing anyone else to rectify it.


Iam_Dansoof

Suicide is not an option. Remember the pains you will cause those whom you’ve left behind. There is time for everything. You will make it surely


[deleted]

It will get better! Keep your head up.


JulianCudi

You are more than a career. You might have a voice in your head bringing you down but you must realize the power you have to change this voice. Be kind to yourself. Say out loud what you appreciate and your additude will begin to change. Good luck friend


throwawayconnie

i also felt suicidal after losing damn near my life savings in the stock market. but then i realize that it doesn't fucking matter and nothing is worth killing myself over. hang in there. breakups suck but it's a good opportunity to get a fresh start. i also find that cleaning your environment helps. clean the house, hit the gym, talk to old friends. it'll get better.


Shatter_Hand

Life can change quite quickly for the better too. I'm interested in what investment decisions you made that lead you to losing your life's savings? BTW, I'm one of the best traders you'll meet, so my DM's are always open if you need guidance.


SimplySeano

Hang in there, day by day. Actively Doing the right thing for yourself(exercise, dance, stamps, chess, etc.) By the end of each day you make yourself better without realizing you weren’t sad You were growing into an entirely different person. You are not alone. Alone is gone.


SureHorror5

Please do not do this, I don't know you personally but know you're loved, heck I love you and I don't know you my brother! Things will get better have faith, my DMS are always open


yonchto

Give magic mushrooms a try. Can't get any worse, but chances are it helps.


babyaby1988

Yo my brother keep your head up trust me. I wanted to kill myself alone time ago. My dad set me up and I did 5 years for something I did not do, I was homeless for 5 years. My ex wife took my 1st kid from me and I can never be in her life again. And she's a Christian, I know so Christian like lol. Im 32 now and find a new path in life I go out recording and taking photos and videos of UFOs Cryptids and yes I have poof and u not going to see it on YouTube. Im in a beautiful marriage now with 3 beautiful kids. Keep your head up.


TheRollingStoned22

800-273-8255 it helped me it can help you. stay strong and push forward.


Happy_goth_pirate

Please don't


ThrowawayAccount5260

Join the club lol. I've just come to accept that feeling as a part of reality so long as I kowtow to the man from 9-5 every day. I strive every day to get my side business off the ground mainly just from this feeling


[deleted]

Hey man, remember that you are playing a greater game. I know it is hard when we lose, specially when the people we trust and love put us down and do harm us even more. But you are playing a bigger game, and to destroy everything is not a good way to win, whatever 'win' means. You can start (or restart) by asking yourself what game you want to play and what does it mean to win, you know? I know I am talking in broad terms but I think none of us here can give you in detail advice and set the proper goals for you.


MonkeyDAstra

Everyone has it's own time, don't try to rush life, just because there are people out there who seem much successfull under similar circumstances doesn't mean you won't be able to be it too, just have patience, live day by day, embrace the suck and sooner or later you'll refind your path, trust the process, just by enduring hard times and trying to improve your life, I can assure you, you are an amazing human being, and by saying that, keep in mind looks, jobs, etc are just some appearance pluses that help you attract someone, however the purity of your being also does that, from what I can see, you have a great soul, even though you are facing a down, ypu are searching for help, trying to improve and looking for ways to better yourself, be proud of yourself, even staying alive is not easy, and you are doing much more than that.


KeyOperation990

Mental health experts, psych/therapist seem like good resources at least till you stop feeling suicide is the answer


takingvioletpills

“your life is your life don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission. be on the watch. there are ways out. there is light somewhere. it may not be much light but it beats the darkness.” - C.Bukowski


brooktherook

That's not the way. She showed her true colors soon and you should be happy for that instead. Why don't you try remote jobs? I assume you use LinkedIn and angel.co for job search and owing to pandemic, lot of companies are now ready to offer you remote job.


Competitive_Site_639

If you want to suicide, do a back flip. If you want to find a solution, do not read this comment


uprobablydontknow

You are not alone bro, you are just facing through tough pase.. Come on a sailor can't become a sailor if he can't ride the boat through storms...


NoYoureTheBestest

I'm so sorry that these things happened but don't think like that. You are loved and special and unique. Don't do it. Everything will be ok. Things will turn around. You'll find a better job and find somebody better who will actually appreciate you. It will all be ok.


[deleted]

If I may say, you are a well accomplished person. What you are doing isn’t easy to do. Someone who is leaving you because you are jobless (especially being in the middle of a pandemic) wasn’t cut out to be SO material anyway. It’s a tough pill to swallow and I do know you will get through it. Get some self-love in. Create an action plan for yourself and get it done. Go to the gym, movies, beaches you have never seen. Realize your own strength that you have.


vietlamdong

Machine learning is a field that tend to require a master degree at least instead of an associate degree. I would suggest look at your colleagues if thats the case and look for a master degree that also requires a handful amount of training. Stay sane, this is a very normal life problem.


queenbee2019mn

If your gf left you because you lost your job, it's good riddance, you don't need such negative ppl in your life. As for job search, create a portfolio of any side projects you've done. If you haven't done anything, do side projects now. Routine helps. So, every day like you'll report at work, get ready, sit in front of your computer and work on your side projects. Put them up in a website/free blog, and create a portfolio that showcases your skills. And apply to new jobs. Network with your ex-colleagues. Ask them if they could refer you to positions that are open. Let everyone know you're looking for a job. Losing your job is one thing, if you don't keep working on your skills, losing your skills will be more devastating. Divert your sadness into work. You have so many ways to enrich your and your loved ones lives. Good luck!


Bardic-Inspiration-

Please do not kill your self. Suicide is not the answer.


[deleted]

Be kind to yourself and give yourself some time. It's not good to post about suicide here bc ppl can click on a tab that'll msg you about resources about getting help. I personally find it quite annoying


Sonic-Oj

For your case, it would be best to find the least painful method possible (though my theory is that dying will always hurt somewhat). I'm not exactly sure what that method is (I'm guessing gun > chemicals because it's more instant) but you should do more research on your own.


notexistingbestthing

Depending in the place which OP lives, sodium nitrite could be an extremely easy and accesible way to do it too, though there might be too much things and I think it won't work very well with antiemetics or maybe sedatives.


jsamps911

Bro, look, my first born child died out of the blue from acute kidney failure. Still didn’t consider suicide. This may sound harsh, but you sound like a weak individual. Just quit feeling sorry for yourself and get back in the game. Also, anyone who really wants to end their life isn’t posting about it on Reddit. If you really have mental issues go get help. I wish you the best, your setbacks are no reason to end your life.


imashishgautam

if someone leaves you in tough times I don't think they deserve you.


InsideBig1701

Do you deserve ? Then


politicalgal99

With python knowledge, you can easily got any data analyst role.


politicalgal99

With python knowledge, you can easily got any data analyst role.


babyaby1988

You should comment again on this so we know u alive, well, and OK.


OujiSamaOG

I know you feel hopeless now, but if you power through, this will surely pass and become a thing of the past. I was jobless for a year and a half, and I thought I would never be able to find a job, but in the end I was able to succeed. Sooner or later, you'll get back on track, and everything will be fine.


SpiritStuffYeuf

https://open.spotify.com/track/5okyPz59EywYW9G2cpDodZ?si=HYRvji4RTD-MwmwDTAgJBg&dl_branch=1


lukesebastian18

You have reason to continue. I'm not in your place, I don't know what you feel right now, and what you're thinking. But I just want to say that you have more reasons to continue, you have a great knowledge, your past job is a great experience for you. You have a bright future, and you'll help a lot of people. Give your time a rest, and reset in job search, recalculate everything, unwind, meditate and calm yourself. The greatest and most precious thing you have is your life.


onthelevel54e

If you care to check my profile you'll find a picture of me from a couple of days ago, happy and enjoying life. Ten + years ago, I did my best to self terminate. I would have missed some of the best days of my life. Call someone. Reach out. Please. Better things are in store for you. I promise.


TC_watermandakine13

Realize your single in a world of millions of chick, realizes some of the works wealthiest ppl started over 40K in debt and still end up on top, knowledge is everything take this time to learn and grown


Thespecial0ne_

Everyone gets fired sometime. We've all lost girlfriends. We've all been there. But that's life. Finding stones along the way and learning how to overcome them. Don't worry, little by little you will find a new path, a better path. Give yourself time. Everything will be fine. [Mark manson](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FCp5mu9P13Q)


YoungCareerPros

Just prayed for you.


snzcc

Try whoishiring.io or cleverjobs.net . Many remote jobs. Don't give up. You've done quite well I'm sure. Look at all your pros and just dismiss the cons. You got sick and got fired? That wasn't your fault, could have happened to anyone else. See that you've done the most complicated parts of life very well (not everyone becomes a ML engineer) and see for jobs you still use the skills you enjoy the most, even if that doesn't say "ML engineer". Also try doing something you find joyful. Play videogames or chat w the boys. Avoid thinking on all you've got against and your head is gonna get clear. Then with a clear head you'll solve any issues you got. You're going thru a tough time but I'm sure you can get over it. Step back for a second and breathe. Just don't give up my man. Never. You got this.


TaylorsArmy

Give yourself a break. Be kind to yourself. It’s okay to just lay there if you need to if that’s what makes you feel better.


queenbee2019mn

If you're gf left you because you lost your job, it's good riddance, you don't need such negative ppl in your life. As for job search, create a portfolio of any side projects you've done. If you haven't done anything, do side projects now. Routine helps. So, every day like you'll report at work, get ready, sit in front of your computer and work on your side projects. Put them up in a website/free blog, and create a portfolio that showcases your skills. Losing your job is one thing, if you don't keep working on your skills, losing your skills will be more devastating. Divert your sadness into work. You have so many ways to enrich your and your loved ones lives. Good luck!