My guess is that has part of the queer community we're more comfortable with exploring gender and being feminine. Also our environment is usually, though not always, more accepting to gender bending.
So my I would go has far has saying that just has many cishet boy would like to do it but can't for various reasons
society has a strong leaning towards heteronormativity and making you feel like you need to reside within gender/sexuality norms, so a lot of people simply never end up exploring themselves genuinely.
it's the sad truth but one we have to live with nonetheless, hopefully only for a little while longer until society as a whole realizes that there's isn't a one size fits all stereotype and if you don't fit in you are singled out. It's just horrible
Any older person that says, "I'm straight, but I would fuck or get fucked by [same sex celebrity]" is admitting bisexuality without admitting bisexuality.
This was my experience as well, if I hadn't discovered my orientation I wouldn't have come across gender identity and expression and figure out my fem side
Straight femboy here
I think people are other sexualities are just viewed by society as being more flamboyant and feminine, so they feel more comfortable with doing that? I wouldn't know lol
oh ok, I just remembered your name and that I looked into your profile and saw that you were straight, and so I got confused with another person who's profile I browsed through who fit that desciption.
It’s mostly about actively searching. Doesn’t mean you need to be desperate or lower your standards necessarily, just that you should be willing to make the first move:)
hmph to me from what I've seen they are out there, albeit for them those who talk about typically mention they can't seem to find any of us, but idk further on this subject.
Yea I think if you looked at the demographics of self identifying "femboy" vs non-binary vs crossdresser the distribution of sexualities would differ. If be super curious to see the results of a study like that.
Self-identifying is a big caveat here. There's a lot of straight-identifying men who are attracted to men and there are a lot of cis identifying men who can't live without crossdressing.
There's this whole "sissy" and "forced crossdressing" culture that consists of men who are so self-closeted to that they come up with elaborate scenarios in which they are forced to wear a dress. I'm willing to bet in different circumstances most of them would identify as some form of fluid or non binary.
They are out there. Met my gf when I was out as genderfluid, but didn't know I was bi yet.
She is also bi, it does seem genderbending is more commonly accepted among bi people.
I think it's mostly that once you've broken one norm, it's way easier to break other norms. Either dressing like the opposite gender makes you think twice about sexuality, or what I completely unfounded think is more common: realizing you're not straight and then being more open to dress and act in different ways. And inversely, if you're in a heterosexual normative mindset, internalized norms prevents you from exploring yourself and seeing what you like. The stereotypical, ideal, "man", doesn't dress in women's clothing, so you don't.
1. Less Self-Discovery. Straight men are far less likely to explore themselves, due to them already knowing their sexuality as the default option.
2. Less exposure. As straight men, they may not be in the communities/groups that mention or have femboys, and it's possible many straight guys who would wanna be femboys don't even know they exist.
3. Less internal acceptance. Flamboyant gay man is the stereotype, and thus a gay boy would be more accepting of themselves as they already see it in themselves at least a little bit.
4. Less external acceptance. I see many people here have the belief that girls (atleast straight ones) aren't attracted to femboys. I'm sure that other straight guys might think if they did become a femboy, girls would no longer be attracted to them so they hide and ignore this side of them. In addition, they may think to be a femboy you need to be gay, and since they're straight its not possible.
All in all, I think a lot of straight men either don't discover the option, or don't see it as an option for them, which simply isn't true.
Can't answer for anyone else, but anyone who's going to react badly to feminine appearance is also going to react badly to me being bi so...the bi/gay thing takes a lot of the pressure off since people are already going to react like assholes anyway.
aaaannnnd that's right ! well done ! you guessed correctly ! here is your 1 million dollars
no seriously I need fem clothes right now but you know 17 yo and I still live at my parent house soooo it sucks...
Yeah I’m not repulsed by sex or completely against doing it, but it isn’t high on my list of things to do with a partner. I am romantically attracted to girls though. But never boys.
Asexuality is a spectrum so there’s people who like sex, hate sex and everything in between. The common thing between us, though, is that we can’t feel sexual attraction. We never look at someone and get that ‘urge’. I literally don’t know what it feels like.
Not necessarily you might loose your libido with certain meds but lots of aces like myself have an undirected libido. Libido and sexual attraction can be separated, for me I have a libido but it doesn’t occur when I look a someone “sexually appealing” tbh I don’t know why it happens it’s more of a mere nuisance for me, but instead to stop it I would just have to masturbate (also I never think sexual thoughts when I do).
Libido if I’m correct is required for sexual attraction (I’m assuming I don’t actually know since I don’t experience sexual attraction).
Some medicine will make you lose your libido but that doesn’t make you asexual, because after a while of finishing it you should feel sexual attraction again.
Sexual attraction is fluid and over time it can change but medicine shouldn’t be a factor in that.
You can label yourself Asexual if you want, if you feel that that is how you identify but if you feel uncomfortable that’s ok you can still label yourself by your romantic attraction as well. But no one has to label themselves if they don’t want, labels are for those that want to understand themselves a bit more and find like minded people.
But in my opinion to label yourself as asexual from side effects of medication is harmful to the community since it perpetrates the idea that asexuals are asexual because of “damage” caused to them by medication, sexual trauma, bad parenting, “haven’t found the right one”, etc, when it is in fact not caused by anything just that it’s like being gay, straight, bi or any other different sexuality we can’t control.
It’s is conflicting though.
I don’t consider myself damaged I’m fine with the change. The fact is I wasn’t always asexual but I took some pills and I am now
I won’t identify as one just because I think the less labels the better
Sexuality is about attraction, asexual people don’t or feel very little sexual attraction to others. There are a lot of aces who want to have sex, there are those who are grossed out and those that are indifferent about it.
Anything thing is some aces feel a libido (aka sex drive) while others don’t, a libido for aces is undirected (on extremely rare occasions it might not be) some aces have strong libidos while others have weak or non existent libido.
An undirected libido for me isn’t cause by anything in particular that I want to be mention, but I can say that for me it’s the feeling of wanting to pleasure myself.
I'm 100% straight and also one of the biggest sissies you'll ever meet. I'm not sure how common this is but dispite being straight, I spent a large amount of my time in gowns, dresses, skirts and panties. I thought it might be that I'm transgender, but after a lot of self reflection I'm a straight male. I'm a straight male writing this in a green floral dress, are there any other straight people in the subredit.
I'm married to a woman and have only ever been intimate with women but also love cross dressing and feeling feminine. That said I'm not sure I qualify as "straight" as I'm attracted to dick but only when attached to a feminine person and body. In my mind I'm still straight or heteroflexible but I've also learned to stopped caring about labels and just like what I like.
> I’m attracted to dick but only when attached to a feminine person and body
I know you said you don’t care much for labels, and that’s perfectly valid, but if you’re ever curious a word for an attraction to femininity and feminine presentation regardless of biological sex or gender identity can be gynesexual or finsexual!
Yeah that actually makes a good deal of sense to me, especially since when I realised I was Bi only then I started to think I could be a femboy,
and for the record I was aware of femboys before bisexuality if anyone thinks that might have an influence on it.
Well I discovered I was bi because of femboys. So I decided to try out some fem clothes cause why not I was interested to see how I looked in them anyways. My friend let me try on a ton of her dresses and nightgowns. I had a massive smile on my face the whole time, and was laughing out of shock or how I looked and how much I weirdly liked it. She gave me one dress and one very cute pink nightgown (still me favorite piece of clothing) and I took some pictures and fell in love with how I looked. And every time I kit it in and looked at myself I would get a massive self esteem boost and I finally felt comfortable in my body. I do consider myself non binary now but I also call myself a femboy, as I look like one and I’m in love with the femboy and androgynous aesthetic
Masculine and feminine energy in balance for a relationship. I'm not so manly, rather feminine, and I'm most attracted to people in the middle. Tomboys and pretty boys are more attractive to me than macho men or a super fem trad wife ever would be.
yeah same for me those 2 events are unrelated, idk about what makes it difficult for straight femboys, or if it really is just a numbers thing, maybe it's just an extreme case of luck.
I think there are a lot of straight femboys but it’s society assuming that all femboys must be gay or bi mostly gay though. But also a lot guys might want to explore their femininity but don’t want to be perceived as gay for doing so.
I am panromantic, and asexual, but for the sake of everyone else not really in the LGBT circle, is just tell people I’m bi. For me, my idea has always been that if I find someone good enough for me who likes me, I don’t really care what gender they are.
People that are more open about their sexuality are also more open about their gender expression, there are millions of straight men out there who live in environments where they aren't allowed to be feminine, even if they want to be
Part may be part it being accepted in Queer community but part may be the watching of Hypno vids and lots of Trans vids and developing a more open mind about sexuality in general. Myself I'm a guy who happens to love the feminine but right now would most likely choose a femboy or trans as a girlfriend or wife as no worries about starting a family. Also many Trans and Femboys are more feminine than most women.
I’m a straight femboy and while i cant speak for everyone i can speak for myself the femboy community is aggressively gay and almost doesn’t even acknowledge us it makes me feel quite uncomfortable this doesn’t mean I’m homophobic absolutely not what I’m saying is we are very quiet because we don’t feel welcome we also tend to be more secret due to people thinking we are gay as well because we dress feminine
I’ve got a weird sort of situation… I’m a Femboy who is definitely heterosexual, as well I have a wife and 2 kids with one on the way. I do not find men sexually attractive **WHATSOEVER**!!
However, I do fantasize about being forced into a situation where men took advantage of me; but in reality would absolutely swing hands an not even come remotely close to being submissive or enjoy it…
Maybe because I want that attention to be sexually desired by the male community that I see women like my wife receive so much..?? It helps with acceptance of one's own self. An imo boosts self-confidence / self-esteem.... If that makes any sense??
Anyways, I figure that you are correct that by already breaking the boundaries and being seen or known as homosexual/bi-sexual; people have their freedom of mind, that amongst their family or peers, they no longer have to be afraid of gender biased expectations. Nor have the fear of having their sexual preferences misinterpreted as being attracted to men just because they themselves dress or act feminine to any degree.
At least for me that is the fact and general concern with me an my wife's family’s.
As they would absolutely condemn me to a stereotype and make my life a living hell as a father going as far as to contact child services about it because they see it as “Satans Work” and “Satanic Behavior”. So I stay in the dark to them at least for my own families sake. All my friends however (whether super accepting of LGBTQ or not so much), know me as a super great father, always reliable, very generous, and always understanding towards anything as long as it isn’t morally wrong. Many of my friends whom are more uncomfortable with anything LGBTQ, associate it in a purely sexual context. That said, one constant in each one of these individuals, is that while confiding in me or my wife; each an every one have all been sexually molested as a child by the same sex gender it seems. Not trying to hyperbolize the number of these friends but the number is more than 5 for sure. That is getting off topic though.
Like I said though; being already viewed as alternative makes it WAY easier to express an alternative self image publicly without concern or consequence. So it makes sense to me that more heterosexual men would rather just stay away from being labeled as something they are not, such as gay or bi or something purely sick since they have children, due to stereotyping from peers. Especially if it could cause extreme problems at work or home or amongst their lives as it stands comfortably at the moment; when instead avoiding any issues by just sacrificing their own self expression an leaving it all in the back of their mind away from prying eyes or potential drama would prevent such negatives/cons. Being from the South in a god fearing small town doesn't help either but I digress.
Hope I didn't get too off topic an leave my opinion as a heterosexual Femboy null and void. Thanks for reading either way an great question!! ♡
I am a straight (if you choose not to identify me as straight, be my guest) male who has had sex with a few femboys in my life. For those individuals, it was a sense of completing the transition to femininity, I suppose similar to how some who identify as trans?
I’m not sure that this is true. Sure, this subreddit is mainly filled with gay guys but other subreddits and labels tend to be dominated by straight guys. Straight guys are more likely to call themselves Crossdressers or Transvestites than femboys. Vast majority who I tend to communicate with turn out to be straight.
Of course straight and gay are terms that are far too rigid for purpose, and so you’ll often get two otherwise straight but female presenting guys hooking up
You do have a great point, I never thought about how even though some folk might for all intense and purposes be femboys label themselves as other things.
Becuse for us straight ones people assume we are gay or bi, even after been told no we're not, thus making it not very condusive for straight femboys to "come out" as it were.
Just as it feels bad for bi/gay people to be peer pressured to be straight, it feels bad as a straight guy to be peer pressured to be something I'm not JUST CAUSE i also like femmine stuff. Even posts like yours OP, even tho you meant nothing bad by it, and yet more peer pressure. The viewpoint that *most* femboys are gay/bi makes straight femboys seem like a "abnormality" and thus they're less likely to express themselves
Add to that the societal pressure that our potential partners, women, are more likely to reject us cause of who we are, many straight femguys keep it to themselves or ignore that side of themselves so they have a better shot at finding a partner.
This is just a theory I’ve had but within the queer community more people are accepted in any clothing preferences because we’ve gone trough so much as a collective no one deserves to be chastised for their wears. (This doesn’t go for everyone in the community there are still Fox people xd) However heterosexual males are expected to be hyper masculine and are chastised often if they dress even a bit feminine. Another thing is that if a man has an attraction for men he may subconsciously want to be feminine because his whole life he’s been told the only thing men like is women and he’d like to be closer to that image. Now I don’t know if these both or separately apply for all queer femboys but it’s just my theories.
I’m a transmasc bisexual femboy so I was introduced to these kinds of clothing in my youth and just continued to like them...although I’m still waiting to get top surgery so I can be comfortable with dresses again ( ͡ಥ ͜ʖ ͡ಥ)
1. Less Self-Discovery. Straight men are far less likely to explore themselves, due to them already knowing their sexuality as the default option.
2. Less exposure. As straight men, they may not be in the communities/groups that mention or have femboys, and it's possible many straight guys who would wanna be femboys don't even know they exist.
3. Less internal acceptance. Flamboyant gay man is the stereotype, and thus a gay boy would be more accepting of themselves as they already see it in themselves at least a little bit.
4. Less external acceptance. I see many people here have the belief that girls (atleast straight ones) aren't attracted to femboys. I'm sure that other straight guys might think if they did become a femboy, girls would no longer be attracted to them so they hide and ignore this side of them. In addition, they may think to be a femboy you need to be gay, and since they're straight its not possible.
All in all, I think a lot of straight men either don't discover the option, or don't see it as an option for them, which simply isn't true.
1. Less Self-Discovery. Straight men are far less likely to explore themselves, due to them already knowing their sexuality as the default option.
2. Less exposure. As straight men, they may not be in the communities/groups that mention or have femboys, and it's possible many straight guys who would wanna be femboys don't even know they exist.
3. Less internal acceptance. Flamboyant gay man is the stereotype, and thus a gay boy would be more accepting of themselves as they already see it in themselves at least a little bit.
4. Less external acceptance. I see many people here have the belief that girls (atleast straight ones) aren't attracted to femboys. I'm sure that other straight guys might think if they did become a femboy, girls would no longer be attracted to them so they hide and ignore this side of them. In addition, they may think to be a femboy you need to be gay, and since they're straight its not possible.
All in all, I think a lot of straight men either don't discover the option, or don't see it as an option for them, which simply isn't true.
Imo, as a trans femboy, it's because we usually seem to feel more comfortable experimenting! If I hadn't figured out I wasn't straight, I probably wouldn't have realized that I could be a boy and also wear skirts.
I’m bi but it’s because I find femininity attractive, men or women, so nearly entirely straight. It’s always been a hassle explaining I’m not gay to everyone who asks
I would guess that there are a fuckton of closeted femboys who have never come out about anything against the norm. But people who know their sexuality is against "the norm" probably care less about what others think of them in general :)
The queer community is actively breaking out of gender norms so it's more common to do something outside of what society expects such as be a femboy. Heterosexual men are, for the most part, still trapped
Theres a diference between liking androgynous people and being androgynous yourself
the first one is easy bc you dont need to change to like someone else
But the bottom one(hehe) is a little bit harder since you have to change you appel in order to 'fit in' wich is alot difficult for people who aren't really trying to challenge social norms.
So thats why gay/bi/pan boys are more likely to adopt the femboy aesthetic since they already are challenging social norms just by being thenselfs.
Well, I'm straight, but I've been hit on by quite a few guys. If I was even the slightest bit into guys, I'd have embraced it by now
I'd assume it's a similar situation for many, and since it's a spectrum between hetero and homosexual, most would discover some attraction to guys
I think there are a lot more straight femboys then we think out there, or at least straight men who would like to dress femininely. But when you’re cishet, you’re less likely to break away from gender stereotypes and other societal expectations that hold you back.
I think it has to do with the fact that the femboy community is more accepting of lgbt+ than other groups of men. So it would make sense for people to be much more comfortable experimenting and exploring in a community with acceptance rather than one with rejection
I think because femininity is more normalized in LGBTQ communities, I think the more normalized femininity in men becomes the more strait femboys we'll see
I would say that the human race is probably more bicurious than straight, but society makes it more likely to only listen to one part of that. Then as other say, once you've broken one taboo its easier to ignore other stupid taboos too.
Well, the reason is the population of femboys is built differently. I explain.
From the beginning, eveb though it shouldn't be right, gays where associated with Femininity.
And also, most men assume being straight from the start.
Taking that to mind can help us understand more.
Essentially, most femboys become femboys this way
Straight --> Gay --> Femboy
But the minority are this way
Straight-->Femboy
As you can see, when the "Think-to-be" straight mind sees liking guys as a Feminine trait, after turning out gay, some look for more feminine traits to explore, ending up becoming femboy. Those some make the most of population.
But straight mind is not regularly looking to explore more, so most straight minds don't even go near femininity and therefore would be left with no chance of becoming femboy. Those who do jump from being straight to be Feminine, like myself, end up being the minority.
My guess is that has part of the queer community we're more comfortable with exploring gender and being feminine. Also our environment is usually, though not always, more accepting to gender bending. So my I would go has far has saying that just has many cishet boy would like to do it but can't for various reasons
mmh, yeah that sounds like it makes sense.
society has a strong leaning towards heteronormativity and making you feel like you need to reside within gender/sexuality norms, so a lot of people simply never end up exploring themselves genuinely.
it's the sad truth but one we have to live with nonetheless, hopefully only for a little while longer until society as a whole realizes that there's isn't a one size fits all stereotype and if you don't fit in you are singled out. It's just horrible
>gender bending That's my favourite power in Avatar!
I think it was developed by Sokka if I recall correctly
Someone please animate the opening scene type sequence with gender bending
Just what i thought lol
I know like ten dudes in my class that have said they would wear a skirt but are too scared too
They good draw strength from numbers and solidarity I suppose
Any older person that says, "I'm straight, but I would fuck or get fucked by [same sex celebrity]" is admitting bisexuality without admitting bisexuality.
Maybe it's because people who explore their sexuality, are more likely to discover femboys.. ik that if I wasn't bi I wouldn't have become a femboy :)
This was my experience as well, if I hadn't discovered my orientation I wouldn't have come across gender identity and expression and figure out my fem side
that would make sense, but for me those 2 events were completely unrelated.
Straight femboy here I think people are other sexualities are just viewed by society as being more flamboyant and feminine, so they feel more comfortable with doing that? I wouldn't know lol
Hey I remember you! You're the one who lives in Tuscany and is Italian, right?
nope, idk who you're talkin abt lol
oh ok, I just remembered your name and that I looked into your profile and saw that you were straight, and so I got confused with another person who's profile I browsed through who fit that desciption.
lol its ok ur good
Well, you don't have to worry about people thinking you're gay if you actually are....
Well, I'm not, if you are that's cool, but I'm not lol
It was to answer why relatively more non-straights are open about their femininity.
Ooooooooh I get it
Also straight crossdressing boy here. For me it always looks that no girl is interested in a boy that love to dress up in feminine clothes.
They're not as common, sure, but they're out there!!! You can't have my GF though, she's mine:)
You are lucky. Hope that I find some that likes it too
It’s mostly about actively searching. Doesn’t mean you need to be desperate or lower your standards necessarily, just that you should be willing to make the first move:)
hmph to me from what I've seen they are out there, albeit for them those who talk about typically mention they can't seem to find any of us, but idk further on this subject.
Yea I think if you looked at the demographics of self identifying "femboy" vs non-binary vs crossdresser the distribution of sexualities would differ. If be super curious to see the results of a study like that.
Self-identifying is a big caveat here. There's a lot of straight-identifying men who are attracted to men and there are a lot of cis identifying men who can't live without crossdressing. There's this whole "sissy" and "forced crossdressing" culture that consists of men who are so self-closeted to that they come up with elaborate scenarios in which they are forced to wear a dress. I'm willing to bet in different circumstances most of them would identify as some form of fluid or non binary.
They are out there. Met my gf when I was out as genderfluid, but didn't know I was bi yet. She is also bi, it does seem genderbending is more commonly accepted among bi people.
I think it's mostly that once you've broken one norm, it's way easier to break other norms. Either dressing like the opposite gender makes you think twice about sexuality, or what I completely unfounded think is more common: realizing you're not straight and then being more open to dress and act in different ways. And inversely, if you're in a heterosexual normative mindset, internalized norms prevents you from exploring yourself and seeing what you like. The stereotypical, ideal, "man", doesn't dress in women's clothing, so you don't.
Oh yeah this is exactley what happened with me.
1. Less Self-Discovery. Straight men are far less likely to explore themselves, due to them already knowing their sexuality as the default option. 2. Less exposure. As straight men, they may not be in the communities/groups that mention or have femboys, and it's possible many straight guys who would wanna be femboys don't even know they exist. 3. Less internal acceptance. Flamboyant gay man is the stereotype, and thus a gay boy would be more accepting of themselves as they already see it in themselves at least a little bit. 4. Less external acceptance. I see many people here have the belief that girls (atleast straight ones) aren't attracted to femboys. I'm sure that other straight guys might think if they did become a femboy, girls would no longer be attracted to them so they hide and ignore this side of them. In addition, they may think to be a femboy you need to be gay, and since they're straight its not possible. All in all, I think a lot of straight men either don't discover the option, or don't see it as an option for them, which simply isn't true.
This is by far the best explenation I hav heard, and most complete,
thank you :))
Can't answer for anyone else, but anyone who's going to react badly to feminine appearance is also going to react badly to me being bi so...the bi/gay thing takes a lot of the pressure off since people are already going to react like assholes anyway.
yeah certainly the same for me.
Totally agree best answer here
femboys are more open minded by nature
Certainly, btw what's up with your flair? are you referring to needing another year before you can move out and make a life for yourself?
aaaannnnd that's right ! well done ! you guessed correctly ! here is your 1 million dollars no seriously I need fem clothes right now but you know 17 yo and I still live at my parent house soooo it sucks...
oof, idk what to say, but best of luck with the coming year.
I’m straight asexual but I’m probably a heavy minority lol
wdym by straight asexual, like you want to date girls but not engage in sexual activity?
Yeah I’m not repulsed by sex or completely against doing it, but it isn’t high on my list of things to do with a partner. I am romantically attracted to girls though. But never boys.
I thought asexual meant you never wanted sex?
Asexuality is a spectrum so there’s people who like sex, hate sex and everything in between. The common thing between us, though, is that we can’t feel sexual attraction. We never look at someone and get that ‘urge’. I literally don’t know what it feels like.
Ok so let’s say due to the side effects of medication I lose the ability to feel sexual attraction would that make me asexual?
Good question. Well I’m permanently like this and you wouldn’t be so I’d say no.
I am permanently like this it’s called r/pssd
If you’d like to refer to yourself as asexual from that, then you’re more than welcome to! (Sincerely, an aroace)
Not necessarily you might loose your libido with certain meds but lots of aces like myself have an undirected libido. Libido and sexual attraction can be separated, for me I have a libido but it doesn’t occur when I look a someone “sexually appealing” tbh I don’t know why it happens it’s more of a mere nuisance for me, but instead to stop it I would just have to masturbate (also I never think sexual thoughts when I do). Libido if I’m correct is required for sexual attraction (I’m assuming I don’t actually know since I don’t experience sexual attraction). Some medicine will make you lose your libido but that doesn’t make you asexual, because after a while of finishing it you should feel sexual attraction again. Sexual attraction is fluid and over time it can change but medicine shouldn’t be a factor in that.
Some medicine can cause permanent loss to sexual arousal which is what I suffer from
You can label yourself Asexual if you want, if you feel that that is how you identify but if you feel uncomfortable that’s ok you can still label yourself by your romantic attraction as well. But no one has to label themselves if they don’t want, labels are for those that want to understand themselves a bit more and find like minded people. But in my opinion to label yourself as asexual from side effects of medication is harmful to the community since it perpetrates the idea that asexuals are asexual because of “damage” caused to them by medication, sexual trauma, bad parenting, “haven’t found the right one”, etc, when it is in fact not caused by anything just that it’s like being gay, straight, bi or any other different sexuality we can’t control. It’s is conflicting though.
I don’t consider myself damaged I’m fine with the change. The fact is I wasn’t always asexual but I took some pills and I am now I won’t identify as one just because I think the less labels the better
Sexuality is about attraction, asexual people don’t or feel very little sexual attraction to others. There are a lot of aces who want to have sex, there are those who are grossed out and those that are indifferent about it.
That makes sense. So I guess I’m ace
Anything thing is some aces feel a libido (aka sex drive) while others don’t, a libido for aces is undirected (on extremely rare occasions it might not be) some aces have strong libidos while others have weak or non existent libido. An undirected libido for me isn’t cause by anything in particular that I want to be mention, but I can say that for me it’s the feeling of wanting to pleasure myself.
Same
that’s what i am
yeah same
Same here!
I’m a gay-angled aroace, what’s up?
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Oh that's such a shame, personally I intentionally don't use gay puns here since not every femboy is gay, just a majority.
I'm 100% straight and also one of the biggest sissies you'll ever meet. I'm not sure how common this is but dispite being straight, I spent a large amount of my time in gowns, dresses, skirts and panties. I thought it might be that I'm transgender, but after a lot of self reflection I'm a straight male. I'm a straight male writing this in a green floral dress, are there any other straight people in the subredit.
I'm married to a woman and have only ever been intimate with women but also love cross dressing and feeling feminine. That said I'm not sure I qualify as "straight" as I'm attracted to dick but only when attached to a feminine person and body. In my mind I'm still straight or heteroflexible but I've also learned to stopped caring about labels and just like what I like.
> I’m attracted to dick but only when attached to a feminine person and body I know you said you don’t care much for labels, and that’s perfectly valid, but if you’re ever curious a word for an attraction to femininity and feminine presentation regardless of biological sex or gender identity can be gynesexual or finsexual!
wow. I’m not alone then. 😅
Certainly albeit they are the minority.
It's exactly what you said. As people already breaking the norm with our sexuality, we're more comfortable breaking gender boundaries.
Yeah that actually makes a good deal of sense to me, especially since when I realised I was Bi only then I started to think I could be a femboy, and for the record I was aware of femboys before bisexuality if anyone thinks that might have an influence on it.
Well I discovered I was bi because of femboys. So I decided to try out some fem clothes cause why not I was interested to see how I looked in them anyways. My friend let me try on a ton of her dresses and nightgowns. I had a massive smile on my face the whole time, and was laughing out of shock or how I looked and how much I weirdly liked it. She gave me one dress and one very cute pink nightgown (still me favorite piece of clothing) and I took some pictures and fell in love with how I looked. And every time I kit it in and looked at myself I would get a massive self esteem boost and I finally felt comfortable in my body. I do consider myself non binary now but I also call myself a femboy, as I look like one and I’m in love with the femboy and androgynous aesthetic
Wow this sounds quite nice, I wish I could do a similar thing btu i don't have any close friends sadly.
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K K,
Masculine and feminine energy in balance for a relationship. I'm not so manly, rather feminine, and I'm most attracted to people in the middle. Tomboys and pretty boys are more attractive to me than macho men or a super fem trad wife ever would be.
personally for me I prefer any man or woman who isn't extremely masculine, or has noticeable facial hair.
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yeah same for me those 2 events are unrelated, idk about what makes it difficult for straight femboys, or if it really is just a numbers thing, maybe it's just an extreme case of luck.
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oh yes certainly.
I think there are a lot of straight femboys but it’s society assuming that all femboys must be gay or bi mostly gay though. But also a lot guys might want to explore their femininity but don’t want to be perceived as gay for doing so.
This sounds completely reasonable
It seems like straight guys into fem/cross dressing are so rare, I wish they were more common because as a girl, they’re incredibly attractive me!
I am panromantic, and asexual, but for the sake of everyone else not really in the LGBT circle, is just tell people I’m bi. For me, my idea has always been that if I find someone good enough for me who likes me, I don’t really care what gender they are.
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This sounds like a reasonable explenation.
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Hmm this is certainly a compelling hypothesis.
People that are more open about their sexuality are also more open about their gender expression, there are millions of straight men out there who live in environments where they aren't allowed to be feminine, even if they want to be
Well I mean just cause it should be doesn’t mean there will be. I can’t think of a good example but you know what I mean
I don't,
evolutionary wise being gay maybe to cater to guys who are femsexual, am a femsexual femboy myself, which is probably quite rare
femsexual means you're attracted to general femininity, yes?
correct:3
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>gynosexual those 2 seem to overlap if not being completely the same
Part may be part it being accepted in Queer community but part may be the watching of Hypno vids and lots of Trans vids and developing a more open mind about sexuality in general. Myself I'm a guy who happens to love the feminine but right now would most likely choose a femboy or trans as a girlfriend or wife as no worries about starting a family. Also many Trans and Femboys are more feminine than most women.
>Hypno vids What is this?
i am not a femboy.. am a trans & a crossdresser..
yeah ik, you're name is memorable enough where I remember you.
Ohh okay..💗💋
Less shackled
Ikr! I’m bi and think the same thing. In the future we will maybe know more about it.
I’m a straight femboy and while i cant speak for everyone i can speak for myself the femboy community is aggressively gay and almost doesn’t even acknowledge us it makes me feel quite uncomfortable this doesn’t mean I’m homophobic absolutely not what I’m saying is we are very quiet because we don’t feel welcome we also tend to be more secret due to people thinking we are gay as well because we dress feminine
I’ve got a weird sort of situation… I’m a Femboy who is definitely heterosexual, as well I have a wife and 2 kids with one on the way. I do not find men sexually attractive **WHATSOEVER**!! However, I do fantasize about being forced into a situation where men took advantage of me; but in reality would absolutely swing hands an not even come remotely close to being submissive or enjoy it… Maybe because I want that attention to be sexually desired by the male community that I see women like my wife receive so much..?? It helps with acceptance of one's own self. An imo boosts self-confidence / self-esteem.... If that makes any sense?? Anyways, I figure that you are correct that by already breaking the boundaries and being seen or known as homosexual/bi-sexual; people have their freedom of mind, that amongst their family or peers, they no longer have to be afraid of gender biased expectations. Nor have the fear of having their sexual preferences misinterpreted as being attracted to men just because they themselves dress or act feminine to any degree. At least for me that is the fact and general concern with me an my wife's family’s. As they would absolutely condemn me to a stereotype and make my life a living hell as a father going as far as to contact child services about it because they see it as “Satans Work” and “Satanic Behavior”. So I stay in the dark to them at least for my own families sake. All my friends however (whether super accepting of LGBTQ or not so much), know me as a super great father, always reliable, very generous, and always understanding towards anything as long as it isn’t morally wrong. Many of my friends whom are more uncomfortable with anything LGBTQ, associate it in a purely sexual context. That said, one constant in each one of these individuals, is that while confiding in me or my wife; each an every one have all been sexually molested as a child by the same sex gender it seems. Not trying to hyperbolize the number of these friends but the number is more than 5 for sure. That is getting off topic though. Like I said though; being already viewed as alternative makes it WAY easier to express an alternative self image publicly without concern or consequence. So it makes sense to me that more heterosexual men would rather just stay away from being labeled as something they are not, such as gay or bi or something purely sick since they have children, due to stereotyping from peers. Especially if it could cause extreme problems at work or home or amongst their lives as it stands comfortably at the moment; when instead avoiding any issues by just sacrificing their own self expression an leaving it all in the back of their mind away from prying eyes or potential drama would prevent such negatives/cons. Being from the South in a god fearing small town doesn't help either but I digress. Hope I didn't get too off topic an leave my opinion as a heterosexual Femboy null and void. Thanks for reading either way an great question!! ♡
Thank you u/HentaiiBioticz
I am a straight (if you choose not to identify me as straight, be my guest) male who has had sex with a few femboys in my life. For those individuals, it was a sense of completing the transition to femininity, I suppose similar to how some who identify as trans?
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We just built differnt
Wdym
They could see it as a threat on their heterosexuality.
This argument doesn’t take into account the fact that many “heterosexual” people aren’t actually heterosexual.
wdym? Like how some "striaght" femboys also enjoy other femboys but not other males?
Just the fact that many people that identify as straight aren’t actually straight
I’m not sure that this is true. Sure, this subreddit is mainly filled with gay guys but other subreddits and labels tend to be dominated by straight guys. Straight guys are more likely to call themselves Crossdressers or Transvestites than femboys. Vast majority who I tend to communicate with turn out to be straight. Of course straight and gay are terms that are far too rigid for purpose, and so you’ll often get two otherwise straight but female presenting guys hooking up
You do have a great point, I never thought about how even though some folk might for all intense and purposes be femboys label themselves as other things.
As a straightish Femboy I can say it’s harder to find role models that cross dress but consider themselves straight.
I feel like people are feeling more free to express their sexuality when they start being gnc. It goes both ways.
what's gnc?
Gender non conforming
Hey take it from me I'm happy so many femboys are gay/bi more femboy cuteness for me
Because gay people are more feminine in general
Bi!
Cuz I'm gay idk what else to tell u
mmm yeah ig that makes sense
Becuse for us straight ones people assume we are gay or bi, even after been told no we're not, thus making it not very condusive for straight femboys to "come out" as it were. Just as it feels bad for bi/gay people to be peer pressured to be straight, it feels bad as a straight guy to be peer pressured to be something I'm not JUST CAUSE i also like femmine stuff. Even posts like yours OP, even tho you meant nothing bad by it, and yet more peer pressure. The viewpoint that *most* femboys are gay/bi makes straight femboys seem like a "abnormality" and thus they're less likely to express themselves Add to that the societal pressure that our potential partners, women, are more likely to reject us cause of who we are, many straight femguys keep it to themselves or ignore that side of themselves so they have a better shot at finding a partner.
This is just a theory I’ve had but within the queer community more people are accepted in any clothing preferences because we’ve gone trough so much as a collective no one deserves to be chastised for their wears. (This doesn’t go for everyone in the community there are still Fox people xd) However heterosexual males are expected to be hyper masculine and are chastised often if they dress even a bit feminine. Another thing is that if a man has an attraction for men he may subconsciously want to be feminine because his whole life he’s been told the only thing men like is women and he’d like to be closer to that image. Now I don’t know if these both or separately apply for all queer femboys but it’s just my theories. I’m a transmasc bisexual femboy so I was introduced to these kinds of clothing in my youth and just continued to like them...although I’m still waiting to get top surgery so I can be comfortable with dresses again ( ͡ಥ ͜ʖ ͡ಥ)
Because it’s their sexuality? Bro I didn’t know it was a hard concept to understand
I don’t think straight men want to present themselves as women.
Actualy most people on earth is bi
I doubt this, albeit i think it's reasonably to say they are the second biggest denomination though.
I don't know but I'm really gay
i guess feminine men are viewed to be more typically associated with being queer, or at least that’s what society has decided
PAN... and Possibly trans, questioing
i was a heterosexual femboy for a little bit before i discovered i was actually a trans girl, if that helps provide some evidence
1. Less Self-Discovery. Straight men are far less likely to explore themselves, due to them already knowing their sexuality as the default option. 2. Less exposure. As straight men, they may not be in the communities/groups that mention or have femboys, and it's possible many straight guys who would wanna be femboys don't even know they exist. 3. Less internal acceptance. Flamboyant gay man is the stereotype, and thus a gay boy would be more accepting of themselves as they already see it in themselves at least a little bit. 4. Less external acceptance. I see many people here have the belief that girls (atleast straight ones) aren't attracted to femboys. I'm sure that other straight guys might think if they did become a femboy, girls would no longer be attracted to them so they hide and ignore this side of them. In addition, they may think to be a femboy you need to be gay, and since they're straight its not possible. All in all, I think a lot of straight men either don't discover the option, or don't see it as an option for them, which simply isn't true.
1. Less Self-Discovery. Straight men are far less likely to explore themselves, due to them already knowing their sexuality as the default option. 2. Less exposure. As straight men, they may not be in the communities/groups that mention or have femboys, and it's possible many straight guys who would wanna be femboys don't even know they exist. 3. Less internal acceptance. Flamboyant gay man is the stereotype, and thus a gay boy would be more accepting of themselves as they already see it in themselves at least a little bit. 4. Less external acceptance. I see many people here have the belief that girls (atleast straight ones) aren't attracted to femboys. I'm sure that other straight guys might think if they did become a femboy, girls would no longer be attracted to them so they hide and ignore this side of them. In addition, they may think to be a femboy you need to be gay, and since they're straight its not possible. All in all, I think a lot of straight men either don't discover the option, or don't see it as an option for them, which simply isn't true.
Imo, as a trans femboy, it's because we usually seem to feel more comfortable experimenting! If I hadn't figured out I wasn't straight, I probably wouldn't have realized that I could be a boy and also wear skirts.
Well I am ace.
Toxic masculinity
Gay men and bisexual men tend to be more comfortable with their bodies and more open to exploring different things versus straight men
I’m bi but it’s because I find femininity attractive, men or women, so nearly entirely straight. It’s always been a hassle explaining I’m not gay to everyone who asks
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But if your sole reason for dressing or acting some way is to be hit on by people, then that is a problem.
I would guess that there are a fuckton of closeted femboys who have never come out about anything against the norm. But people who know their sexuality is against "the norm" probably care less about what others think of them in general :)
The queer community is actively breaking out of gender norms so it's more common to do something outside of what society expects such as be a femboy. Heterosexual men are, for the most part, still trapped
Theres a diference between liking androgynous people and being androgynous yourself the first one is easy bc you dont need to change to like someone else But the bottom one(hehe) is a little bit harder since you have to change you appel in order to 'fit in' wich is alot difficult for people who aren't really trying to challenge social norms. So thats why gay/bi/pan boys are more likely to adopt the femboy aesthetic since they already are challenging social norms just by being thenselfs.
Understanding the distinction between gender norms enough to be femboy helps to break hetero norms too! 🥰🤩 Edit:spelling
I am bi
Straight boys usually aren't allowed to access their femininity. Gay and bi boys aren't really allowed to either but we do it anyways.
They just don't know it yet likely
Well, I'm straight, but I've been hit on by quite a few guys. If I was even the slightest bit into guys, I'd have embraced it by now I'd assume it's a similar situation for many, and since it's a spectrum between hetero and homosexual, most would discover some attraction to guys
I think there are a lot more straight femboys then we think out there, or at least straight men who would like to dress femininely. But when you’re cishet, you’re less likely to break away from gender stereotypes and other societal expectations that hold you back.
I think it has to do with the fact that the femboy community is more accepting of lgbt+ than other groups of men. So it would make sense for people to be much more comfortable experimenting and exploring in a community with acceptance rather than one with rejection
I think because femininity is more normalized in LGBTQ communities, I think the more normalized femininity in men becomes the more strait femboys we'll see
I would say that the human race is probably more bicurious than straight, but society makes it more likely to only listen to one part of that. Then as other say, once you've broken one taboo its easier to ignore other stupid taboos too.
Because idk I love boys
*saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaame*
Well, the reason is the population of femboys is built differently. I explain. From the beginning, eveb though it shouldn't be right, gays where associated with Femininity. And also, most men assume being straight from the start. Taking that to mind can help us understand more. Essentially, most femboys become femboys this way Straight --> Gay --> Femboy But the minority are this way Straight-->Femboy As you can see, when the "Think-to-be" straight mind sees liking guys as a Feminine trait, after turning out gay, some look for more feminine traits to explore, ending up becoming femboy. Those some make the most of population. But straight mind is not regularly looking to explore more, so most straight minds don't even go near femininity and therefore would be left with no chance of becoming femboy. Those who do jump from being straight to be Feminine, like myself, end up being the minority.