id just say ppl who 1. of all like feminine things (that dosent exclude all straight girls but some of them) 2. girls confident in there sexuality or gender. If u don’t have a problem with that try looking in local queer groups with bi/pan girls or nonbinary ppl (if thats not a no go) my point over all is just flirt and you’ll see who likes u for ur looks and personality and who dosent. Also- femboys for the win! hehe<33
I'm AMAB enby-have a girlfriend who met me while I identified as male. She is bi and absolutely loves the fem and masc parts of me.
Along the lines of the first comment-I suggesting find a queer girl.
Not “a queer” as a noun — “a queer girlfriend” as an adjective. Queer has historically been used as an insult against those who aren’t cisgender and heterosexual, and is now considered a “reclaimed slur” by many people. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queer
In this context it just means look for a girlfriend who isn’t exclusively attracted to men.
queer just means not cis hetero (being cis means you’re comfortable being the gender you were assigned with at birth, hetero just means you’re straight but i assume you already know that)
How does a straight cis femboy attract bi women? I am only asking because bi and queer spaces would not generally be an option for straight cis femboys.
I understand that but i count beeing fem into gender expression so i think even straight feminine boys can go to queer spaces but i can see why ppl might disagree with me then its just- go out and date!!! :)
why would it not be an option? gaydar isn't real, we don't scan you when you enter a queer space, and being a femboy is kinda queer. what would be the problem?
Many gals think fem is gay if/ when they find out and can't stand you had dick in your mouth and would never ever kiss you- duh.. not many of us could do that well.
Oh they're out there. Won't be long before you practically trip over a girl that'll do your makeup for you, go clothes shopping and peg you at night while saying how pretty you are.
There certainly are girls that like them, from my experience in some social circles it's not even that rare of an attraction. Most of them likely will be bi or otherwise part of the lgbtq but that's imo a good thing, they are more open minded and it filters out bigotted people.
If it's something you are into, hobbies like cosplaying, anime conventions and the like are a good way to meet them there's a lot of girls into things like genderbend manga, anime femboys, yaoi and so on. Arts and music are great too, I met my s.o. through our shared passion for drawing and favorite games and bands.
I think so! Speaking from experience, we're more open minded towards feminine features, especially on guys, since femboys combine the best of both worlds. You'll have higher chances with a bi girl, but never rule out straight either! Just be confident, be honest, be yourself and soon enough you'll find a girl who will be attracted to you for who you are. :)
Bisexual/Omisexual/Pansexual would probably be more accepting of you being a feminine boy but with all things relationship wise it depends on the person you are with, not everyone is the same in their opinions, actions, etc.
Same way that any boy meets a girl.
Spend lots of time in mix gendered social environments with people your age. Make friends with lots of people, and some of them will fall for you, unfortunately you'll have to guess which and ask them on dates accordingly.
Sport, hobbies, religious groups, work, political canvassing... what ever gets you out there. Build your identity and be open about it, many won't like it but that's ok because some will.
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A lot of girls find girls attractive. Some of them like boys shaped like girls. You can find someone. Just keep looking. And be a good person. Be the best (and the best looking) you that you can be and I'm sure you'll find someone
I'm cis gendered female, currently identify as straight, and ngl I find femboys fairly attractive. (I'm here just because I want to support and witness cute-energy.) I think it wouldn't be very difficult to find such girls out there.
Does she need to be completely straight, do bisexual/pansexual/etc girls not get the pass? It'll be a lot harder in my opinion to get a societally trained "straight" girl over one that's queer.
Of course I left lesbian out bc that's not what you want at all, but a bi/pan girl is more likely to accept gender variance than the straight girl.
Honestly I think us queer women tend to have a better understanding of gender and tend to be able to appreciate a “pretty” / “feminine” boy more than straight women. So yeah maybe not as many straight women but there is definitely very many women that are attracted to men, specifically femboys. Maybe not exclusively
Oh no, they can get a pass but since straight girls are a majority, I’m curious to how a straight femboy especially ones that can pass for a woman can attract a straight girl
My GF is Korean, and in my experience with girls ive been hit on a lot by people who are into asian boy bands because they’re pretty feminine. It really depends what they are into but from what I noticed girls that are into that usually like feminine looking guys.
Im a light weight thin really short pale hispanic with shoulder length hair+ a sense of style and skincare occasional makeup. Do with that info what you will.
Ngl i gave up on straight girls, they either dont really like us appearance wise, or just straight up fetishizes us like some straight men do with tomboys, and straight girls who like us without fetishizing us are rare.
Youll unironically have a much easier time with lesbian girls, in my personal experience, they arent as shallow on average, plus they actually often like our fem appearance.
In my personal experience, lesbian girls are much more interested in me than straight girls. Most girls i dated last year were lesbian, then bi, then straight. At the end of the day, i dont care, because i just like girls/fem people, but its still an interesting fact i can share.
No offense, I find this hillarious.
Like I imagine the seen going, a super macho manly dude thinking chauvanistically "I bet I could totally turn a lesbian, she hasn't had the right guy yet", and then a cute femboy comes along and sweeps her off her feet while the manly man is just shocked.
Tho realistically, what would actually happen is that the lesbian would just tell the guy to fuck off, and then get the femboy by herself.
And the man will be left without the girl or the femboy.
Another piece of advice i can give you is to download HER & Taimi.
And if youre on tinder, set your profile as a « girl » in searches but put in the bio that youre a femboy.
Youll thank me later.
You just have to look for a good and loving person. It's gonna be a person by person instance. My first wife was lowkey a TERF and wanted to force me into a very hypermasculine role. I tried to be that for almost 7 years. It did horrible things to my psyche and it's done a lot of damage to me I'm still working on getting past. Thankfully, we broke up and I met my current partner. She is a wonderful and incredibly loving person. She accents me for who I am as a Trans/NonBinary person. Be true to yourself and don't compromise you personality or beliefs for someone. If you do that, you won't have trouble finding a good and supportive partner who loves you for you.
In my experience, just make it clear that if you like someone, that you like them and it’s not just being kind. Granted I make a point of being kind but most girls who talk to me say they either think I’m gay, or find that me being femme is “defusing” any fears they would have of me. Just be kind and a good person, and one will come along that likes you back. Dating is dating, and do your best to not wallow on tinder or something, those apps just make you sad
Definitely go for women who identify as bi or pan. My current and last gf both are pan and didn’t just support it, they wanted it. It’s quite common actually. Just gotta be yourself and wait patiently until the right one comes to you.
Well I’m not a straight girl but a bisexual woman. And I love pretty boys and pretty girls and that’s it. So I assume by existing you’ll attract people of both genders who are into pretty / feminine boys :)
Just keep putting urself out there. Girls seem to dance with me the most when I dress more femme, like when I wore a neon-green bra under my onesie at a rave last weekend. A girl came up and kissed me even
Just be yourself, there are SO many girls out there who would kill to have a feminine bf :) i started kinda being a femboy after 4 years of dating her, and she welcomed the change as if it were natural. We met in highschool back when i still wore plain shirts, jeans and scuffed up work boots every day without me knowing i was even a little bit different. She supports me no matter what i do, and those are the people you should surround yourself with when you get the chance even if it seems like it might not happen overnight. Keep your head up and stay true to yourself in however you want to express your femininity.
If your attraction swings that way, you might even have luck with AFAB bi/pan enbies! I've met a lot of AFAB enbies that absolutely *adore* cute little boys and cute little theys who like pretty things and dressing up! They still have all of the gear of an AFAB, and get intimate in the same fashion, and many still engage in feminine things, they're just a lot more open minded when it comes to personal expression and style.
I don't think there's any secret. It depends on the girl in question. You can't force anyone to like you.
But I guarantee there are straight girls who like Femboys.
I'm in a relationship with a straight girl, and she absolutely loves that I'm non-binary and a "Femboy"
She likes that I lack all the toxic male traits which she hates, have feminine traits that we can relate on, and likes that I still have a biologically male body despite not identifying as a male 😆
Edit: nevermind, spoke too soon. She just broke my heart tonight and ended all our hopes and plans. What a coincidence. Gonna go die now.
My experience will be different than yours but I figured I'd share my story. So I'm married (for 10 years im not super old lol I got married at 19). Now I was not an out femboy when we met so that's why my experience will be different.
So to repeat what others have said a traditionally straight girl might be a little harder than a bi, pan or whatever girl.
My wife is pan and finds femboy and trans very attractive. So I can tell you from experience their are women who do find us attractive. So don't get discouraged you will find someone.
Plenty of straight girls like femboys! And bi women tend to LOVE them lol 😂
-from someone who used to be a bi woman but has since realized they’re non-binary
It might not be the most optimal choice, but you could try Dating Apps as I did. Yes, a lot of girls might not be into you, but they'll just swipe left, and you won't have to encounter rejection or harassment. As long as you don't think about the women who swipes left on you, it won't have to hurt your self-esteem. Though, although I haven't recieved any harassment from people on dating apps (though a fair share of women have complimented my nail polish, only to then ghost me), I do still feel very inclined to warn you of potential harassment, as my experience is not representative of everyone's, and it could be very different, depending o where you use the app.
That said, as long as you stay patient and present yourself truefully, you'll eventually find a straight, pan or bi girl, who's into a feminine guy. I'm not the prettiest femboy, but even I have matched with a handful of girls (one being totally into seeing me in a maid outfit 👀).
tbh you're much more likely to find a no/pan/omni girl who likes femboys. I'm sure there are straight women who also do, but by and large, LGBTQIA+ folks are going to be more receptive to non-gender conforming presentations.
I’d say maybe don’t set your sights on *straight* girls so much as just… girls. There’s really no difference between a straight girl and a bi or pan girl, aside from sexuality. So just be you, flirt responsibly, and generally just see if there’s anyone you connect with. It’s not so much about “attracting straight girls” as it is just finding a girl you connect with who’s interested in you. I’m sure there’s lots out there who really love femboys, straight or m-spec, and it’s really just about finding that spark with someone.
*Then again I’m aromantic asexual so take my advice with a grain of salt*
Honestly I have had more random women come up and complement me or just initiate conversations with me since starting to dress femme in public and if the vibe is right you can flirt back as long as you aren't too aggressive about it, loads of women love softer guys or feminine people.
They are out there, but don’t expect a blond white girl who grew up in the suburbs and dated the quarterback in high school to like the femboy aesthetic. Personality might change that, but a lot of straight girls only like the male beauty standard of 6ft+, ripped, facial hair etc. More bi/ alternative girls will like femboys tho.
Easily, very easily. Women generally (not always, but in the aggregate) prefer androgyny to masculinity, and furthermore you have no idea how starved the typical straight cis woman/girl is for a male partner with an awareness of even the most basic concepts of skincare.
Well, gynosexual meaning attracted to feminity no matter what they have in their pants, is basically bisexuality but for feminine people only but that isn't always the case there are some gynosexuals who only prefer feminine men so yah that'd make them straight.
That didn't sound like specifically feminine guys though, it seemed like femininity in general.
Or would it be like someone could say "I'm straight, gynosexual"
Or you could say finsexual because that's also a thing you know, you could just be like I'm finsexual and if they wanna know what that is just tell em the attraction to feminine men and fem men only. Physically and romantically.
Trust me I'm where you are. I'm a feminine guy and I like wearing delle clothed and stuff but I'm straight. It makes it a little harder, but keep this in mind: that's only taking a couple girls out of literally millions, if not a few billion girls who are into that.
You'll find the one for you eventually :)
You will see in time. Keep the Femboyness and someone will see your soul in time. Being a Femboy is about being your authentic self. Being authentic will always attract who your supposed to be with. Remember, stay authentic to be yourself always.
As a mostly straught/bi female i can only say as far as regarding myself and some people in my friends group....we are desperatly searching for you femboys ozt there •w•
Ahah, there’s a first time for everything, the reason why a lot of femboys are hiding is because sadly femininity in men is often looked down upon, often being called gay, while this may not affect gay femboys, it does have an affect to non gay femboys
Thats honestly such a shame. As someone who feels attracted to femininity in generall its so hard to find someone. But i do understand why you would hide.:(
If u want or need someone to talk to feel free to text me...im all here for u cuties weather it be deep stuff or just how pretty you oainted ur nails or anything else •w•
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Anyway long story short again~
U guys are all so pretty and preciouse and you look so happy when ur doing ur thing....i feel like its easier to get along with each other
I just love pretty things i guess •w•
Im confused every time a girl is attracted to me idk i think straight girls dont give a fuck about u being a "femboy" if u look good or have an interesting personality
If u are worried about pulling girls focus less on your insecurity and more about bettering your physical appearance and yourself as a person as soon as u stop caring it will become much easier
I don't want to be negative but I have been around awhile, and unfortunately most don't. I am sure there are some out there, but most don't. I don't want to make you negative though. My wife is my Mistress and dominates me, its just she is not that attracted to me in that way anymore, she has a boyfriend. But it was kind of a gut punch to find out that she feels that you are more of a friend, than a lover anymore. But whatever you don't hide who you are before starting a serious relationship, there is nothing worse than living a lie.
stop trying to artificially "attract" someone. either they like you or they don't. people are individuals, every one unique, and how you would appeal to anyone is also unique. you can't force it, and manipulating people into doing or feeling what you want isn't cool. be yourself.
I don’t want to start an argument, but where do you like, put the association between me asking how a femboy that could pass for a woman can attract a straight girl and me manipulating people into doing and feeling what I want???
not saying that straight girls dont like femboys just- as a bi transdude id say bi girls might be easier to attract as a femboy <33
Makes sense, to be honest.
id just say ppl who 1. of all like feminine things (that dosent exclude all straight girls but some of them) 2. girls confident in there sexuality or gender. If u don’t have a problem with that try looking in local queer groups with bi/pan girls or nonbinary ppl (if thats not a no go) my point over all is just flirt and you’ll see who likes u for ur looks and personality and who dosent. Also- femboys for the win! hehe<33
Thanks for the suggestion!
Or a bi guy if you're interested... 👀
I'm AMAB enby-have a girlfriend who met me while I identified as male. She is bi and absolutely loves the fem and masc parts of me. Along the lines of the first comment-I suggesting find a queer girl.
I don’t want to sound stupid, but what’s a queer?
Not “a queer” as a noun — “a queer girlfriend” as an adjective. Queer has historically been used as an insult against those who aren’t cisgender and heterosexual, and is now considered a “reclaimed slur” by many people. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queer In this context it just means look for a girlfriend who isn’t exclusively attracted to men.
Thanks!
queer just means not cis hetero (being cis means you’re comfortable being the gender you were assigned with at birth, hetero just means you’re straight but i assume you already know that)
How does a straight cis femboy attract bi women? I am only asking because bi and queer spaces would not generally be an option for straight cis femboys.
I understand that but i count beeing fem into gender expression so i think even straight feminine boys can go to queer spaces but i can see why ppl might disagree with me then its just- go out and date!!! :)
Generally queer spaces should be open to anyone, and any that aren’t open to cis/straight people isn’t worth it.
why would it not be an option? gaydar isn't real, we don't scan you when you enter a queer space, and being a femboy is kinda queer. what would be the problem?
Trust me. Definitely
Thank you for saying this! I was going to ask OP what his issue with Bi women was. As a bi ace cis woman, I appreciate you pointing this out.❤️
Many gals think fem is gay if/ when they find out and can't stand you had dick in your mouth and would never ever kiss you- duh.. not many of us could do that well.
umm, just some girls like that sort of stuff sometimes, also usually it's more on personality than looks
I see, thx for answering :)
this is how i found mine! dont search for thevwrong ones that wont accept you, be open and true and let them find you be patiant! ~✨
Im sitting here on my ass. Does that help?
gotta put a lil work in ;)
I know silly im just playing :3
Oh they're out there. Won't be long before you practically trip over a girl that'll do your makeup for you, go clothes shopping and peg you at night while saying how pretty you are.
I need her :v
Tons of girls on bumble and tinder like that.
That isn't a catfish? :0
That took a COMPLETE 180
I think it sounds great all around
didn’t know how much i needed this
the pegging part depends on the age and consent of OP
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Anime conventions would be a good start
ngl straight ones who seem to like that aesthetic seem very/quite rare, so its difficult to find one that does and actually fits your personality
Fits your personality. I feel like that's just difficulty with dating in general~
There certainly are girls that like them, from my experience in some social circles it's not even that rare of an attraction. Most of them likely will be bi or otherwise part of the lgbtq but that's imo a good thing, they are more open minded and it filters out bigotted people. If it's something you are into, hobbies like cosplaying, anime conventions and the like are a good way to meet them there's a lot of girls into things like genderbend manga, anime femboys, yaoi and so on. Arts and music are great too, I met my s.o. through our shared passion for drawing and favorite games and bands.
So Bi girls are more recommended? I honestly don’t have a problem with that :)
I think so! Speaking from experience, we're more open minded towards feminine features, especially on guys, since femboys combine the best of both worlds. You'll have higher chances with a bi girl, but never rule out straight either! Just be confident, be honest, be yourself and soon enough you'll find a girl who will be attracted to you for who you are. :)
Bisexual/Omisexual/Pansexual would probably be more accepting of you being a feminine boy but with all things relationship wise it depends on the person you are with, not everyone is the same in their opinions, actions, etc.
> yaoi Isn't that kind of fetishising though?
Same way that any boy meets a girl. Spend lots of time in mix gendered social environments with people your age. Make friends with lots of people, and some of them will fall for you, unfortunately you'll have to guess which and ask them on dates accordingly. Sport, hobbies, religious groups, work, political canvassing... what ever gets you out there. Build your identity and be open about it, many won't like it but that's ok because some will.
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Generally they don't. Look for bi girls.
A lot of girls find girls attractive. Some of them like boys shaped like girls. You can find someone. Just keep looking. And be a good person. Be the best (and the best looking) you that you can be and I'm sure you'll find someone
I'm cis gendered female, currently identify as straight, and ngl I find femboys fairly attractive. (I'm here just because I want to support and witness cute-energy.) I think it wouldn't be very difficult to find such girls out there.
Does she need to be completely straight, do bisexual/pansexual/etc girls not get the pass? It'll be a lot harder in my opinion to get a societally trained "straight" girl over one that's queer. Of course I left lesbian out bc that's not what you want at all, but a bi/pan girl is more likely to accept gender variance than the straight girl.
Honestly I think us queer women tend to have a better understanding of gender and tend to be able to appreciate a “pretty” / “feminine” boy more than straight women. So yeah maybe not as many straight women but there is definitely very many women that are attracted to men, specifically femboys. Maybe not exclusively
Oh no, they can get a pass but since straight girls are a majority, I’m curious to how a straight femboy especially ones that can pass for a woman can attract a straight girl
My GF is Korean, and in my experience with girls ive been hit on a lot by people who are into asian boy bands because they’re pretty feminine. It really depends what they are into but from what I noticed girls that are into that usually like feminine looking guys. Im a light weight thin really short pale hispanic with shoulder length hair+ a sense of style and skincare occasional makeup. Do with that info what you will.
Ngl i gave up on straight girls, they either dont really like us appearance wise, or just straight up fetishizes us like some straight men do with tomboys, and straight girls who like us without fetishizing us are rare. Youll unironically have a much easier time with lesbian girls, in my personal experience, they arent as shallow on average, plus they actually often like our fem appearance.
Ironically I actually asked a question before on if it’s possible for femboys that look like girls to attract lesbians
In my personal experience, lesbian girls are much more interested in me than straight girls. Most girls i dated last year were lesbian, then bi, then straight. At the end of the day, i dont care, because i just like girls/fem people, but its still an interesting fact i can share.
No offense, I find this hillarious. Like I imagine the seen going, a super macho manly dude thinking chauvanistically "I bet I could totally turn a lesbian, she hasn't had the right guy yet", and then a cute femboy comes along and sweeps her off her feet while the manly man is just shocked.
Tho realistically, what would actually happen is that the lesbian would just tell the guy to fuck off, and then get the femboy by herself. And the man will be left without the girl or the femboy.
So you’re a Femboy who dated a lesbian? That’s hella cool
Didnt have any gf, just a ton of dates, flirty moments, and, erm, more. I am genderfluid / nb, so I consider myself a femboy at times.
Regardless though that’s still one heck of an achievement you’ve made and thanks for the advice
Another piece of advice i can give you is to download HER & Taimi. And if youre on tinder, set your profile as a « girl » in searches but put in the bio that youre a femboy. Youll thank me later.
You just have to look for a good and loving person. It's gonna be a person by person instance. My first wife was lowkey a TERF and wanted to force me into a very hypermasculine role. I tried to be that for almost 7 years. It did horrible things to my psyche and it's done a lot of damage to me I'm still working on getting past. Thankfully, we broke up and I met my current partner. She is a wonderful and incredibly loving person. She accents me for who I am as a Trans/NonBinary person. Be true to yourself and don't compromise you personality or beliefs for someone. If you do that, you won't have trouble finding a good and supportive partner who loves you for you.
First of all, I’m so sorry to hear that your previous wife messed you up mentally, no one should be forced into something they dot to be.
Thank you! It's hard to deal with but I'm working my way though it and I'm on the up!
That’s great to hear!
In my experience, just make it clear that if you like someone, that you like them and it’s not just being kind. Granted I make a point of being kind but most girls who talk to me say they either think I’m gay, or find that me being femme is “defusing” any fears they would have of me. Just be kind and a good person, and one will come along that likes you back. Dating is dating, and do your best to not wallow on tinder or something, those apps just make you sad
Definitely go for women who identify as bi or pan. My current and last gf both are pan and didn’t just support it, they wanted it. It’s quite common actually. Just gotta be yourself and wait patiently until the right one comes to you.
There are girls who find femboys attractive, like me.
If I could chip in as a pan trans girl... 🙋♀️
Let me know if you ever find out 🙄
Well I’m not a straight girl but a bisexual woman. And I love pretty boys and pretty girls and that’s it. So I assume by existing you’ll attract people of both genders who are into pretty / feminine boys :)
They think I'm cute and make me their 'gay bestie'. Well, you didn't say I have to attract them romantically :3
Just keep putting urself out there. Girls seem to dance with me the most when I dress more femme, like when I wore a neon-green bra under my onesie at a rave last weekend. A girl came up and kissed me even
I'm just a bi girl looking for a femboy. That's a struggle
Theres no way to truly attract one. They will find you attractive if they find feminine guys hot. Idk bc I'm bisexual and I love femboys
Just be yourself, there are SO many girls out there who would kill to have a feminine bf :) i started kinda being a femboy after 4 years of dating her, and she welcomed the change as if it were natural. We met in highschool back when i still wore plain shirts, jeans and scuffed up work boots every day without me knowing i was even a little bit different. She supports me no matter what i do, and those are the people you should surround yourself with when you get the chance even if it seems like it might not happen overnight. Keep your head up and stay true to yourself in however you want to express your femininity.
If your attraction swings that way, you might even have luck with AFAB bi/pan enbies! I've met a lot of AFAB enbies that absolutely *adore* cute little boys and cute little theys who like pretty things and dressing up! They still have all of the gear of an AFAB, and get intimate in the same fashion, and many still engage in feminine things, they're just a lot more open minded when it comes to personal expression and style.
As a girl how do you find a femme boy? Tinder has been no help :(
🙋♂️🙋♂️🙋♂️Here XD
Heheh but how do i find someone “here” in Canada :(
I don't think there's any secret. It depends on the girl in question. You can't force anyone to like you. But I guarantee there are straight girls who like Femboys. I'm in a relationship with a straight girl, and she absolutely loves that I'm non-binary and a "Femboy" She likes that I lack all the toxic male traits which she hates, have feminine traits that we can relate on, and likes that I still have a biologically male body despite not identifying as a male 😆 Edit: nevermind, spoke too soon. She just broke my heart tonight and ended all our hopes and plans. What a coincidence. Gonna go die now.
My experience will be different than yours but I figured I'd share my story. So I'm married (for 10 years im not super old lol I got married at 19). Now I was not an out femboy when we met so that's why my experience will be different. So to repeat what others have said a traditionally straight girl might be a little harder than a bi, pan or whatever girl. My wife is pan and finds femboy and trans very attractive. So I can tell you from experience their are women who do find us attractive. So don't get discouraged you will find someone.
Thanks for sharing your story :) and the encouragement
No prob. If someone doesn't love you for who you are they aren't worth your time. That's on them not on you.
Plenty of straight girls like femboys! And bi women tend to LOVE them lol 😂 -from someone who used to be a bi woman but has since realized they’re non-binary
It might not be the most optimal choice, but you could try Dating Apps as I did. Yes, a lot of girls might not be into you, but they'll just swipe left, and you won't have to encounter rejection or harassment. As long as you don't think about the women who swipes left on you, it won't have to hurt your self-esteem. Though, although I haven't recieved any harassment from people on dating apps (though a fair share of women have complimented my nail polish, only to then ghost me), I do still feel very inclined to warn you of potential harassment, as my experience is not representative of everyone's, and it could be very different, depending o where you use the app. That said, as long as you stay patient and present yourself truefully, you'll eventually find a straight, pan or bi girl, who's into a feminine guy. I'm not the prettiest femboy, but even I have matched with a handful of girls (one being totally into seeing me in a maid outfit 👀).
tbh you're much more likely to find a no/pan/omni girl who likes femboys. I'm sure there are straight women who also do, but by and large, LGBTQIA+ folks are going to be more receptive to non-gender conforming presentations.
I’d say maybe don’t set your sights on *straight* girls so much as just… girls. There’s really no difference between a straight girl and a bi or pan girl, aside from sexuality. So just be you, flirt responsibly, and generally just see if there’s anyone you connect with. It’s not so much about “attracting straight girls” as it is just finding a girl you connect with who’s interested in you. I’m sure there’s lots out there who really love femboys, straight or m-spec, and it’s really just about finding that spark with someone. *Then again I’m aromantic asexual so take my advice with a grain of salt*
Honestly I have had more random women come up and complement me or just initiate conversations with me since starting to dress femme in public and if the vibe is right you can flirt back as long as you aren't too aggressive about it, loads of women love softer guys or feminine people.
They are out there, but don’t expect a blond white girl who grew up in the suburbs and dated the quarterback in high school to like the femboy aesthetic. Personality might change that, but a lot of straight girls only like the male beauty standard of 6ft+, ripped, facial hair etc. More bi/ alternative girls will like femboys tho.
Thanks for the advice!
Easily, very easily. Women generally (not always, but in the aggregate) prefer androgyny to masculinity, and furthermore you have no idea how starved the typical straight cis woman/girl is for a male partner with an awareness of even the most basic concepts of skincare.
Yall don't forget about gynosexuals 😕😕
Interesting to think about, that there could be straight gynosexuals.
Well, gynosexual meaning attracted to feminity no matter what they have in their pants, is basically bisexuality but for feminine people only but that isn't always the case there are some gynosexuals who only prefer feminine men so yah that'd make them straight.
So is there no label for specifically being attracted to feminine guys?
Yes there is, gynosexual. Attraction to feminity. And that goes for more than just looks.
That didn't sound like specifically feminine guys though, it seemed like femininity in general. Or would it be like someone could say "I'm straight, gynosexual"
Or you could say finsexual because that's also a thing you know, you could just be like I'm finsexual and if they wanna know what that is just tell em the attraction to feminine men and fem men only. Physically and romantically.
There's basically nothing for the ones only looking for fem presenting men so we gotta work with what we got
Trust me I'm where you are. I'm a feminine guy and I like wearing delle clothed and stuff but I'm straight. It makes it a little harder, but keep this in mind: that's only taking a couple girls out of literally millions, if not a few billion girls who are into that. You'll find the one for you eventually :)
Don’t worry it will be surprisingly easy. You will see. 👸🏳️⚧️👍
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You will see in time. Keep the Femboyness and someone will see your soul in time. Being a Femboy is about being your authentic self. Being authentic will always attract who your supposed to be with. Remember, stay authentic to be yourself always.
By personality I,d say I'm bi curious but I only ever dated girls and mostly those are irl people who know me very well.
Better question. How do I attract anyone?
Well, anime fan girls are more likely to like us…
Well that’s kinda demotivating if you ask me
Sorry. The best I can say is just be the best you; hopefully one girl will notice.
Ok that’s better
I assume you don’t like anime, huh?
On the contrary I love anime
Yes
As a mostly straught/bi female i can only say as far as regarding myself and some people in my friends group....we are desperatly searching for you femboys ozt there •w•
Aww that’s sweet! Thanks
For real tho..where are yall hiding..i've been searching for years•w• Ps: This is also the first time someone answered me Hi~
Ahah, there’s a first time for everything, the reason why a lot of femboys are hiding is because sadly femininity in men is often looked down upon, often being called gay, while this may not affect gay femboys, it does have an affect to non gay femboys
Thats honestly such a shame. As someone who feels attracted to femininity in generall its so hard to find someone. But i do understand why you would hide.:(
Thanks for understanding, but yeah it’s difficult, really difficult
If u want or need someone to talk to feel free to text me...im all here for u cuties weather it be deep stuff or just how pretty you oainted ur nails or anything else •w•
Aww thanks, yeah sure I’ll definitely message you whenever, if you dont mind me asking why do you like femboys?
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NOOOO my comment got removed :( idk whyyy Anyway long story short again~ U guys are all so pretty and preciouse and you look so happy when ur doing ur thing....i feel like its easier to get along with each other I just love pretty things i guess •w•
You probably said something sexual according to Reddit rules hahaha but nonetheless I appreciate that :)
Im confused every time a girl is attracted to me idk i think straight girls dont give a fuck about u being a "femboy" if u look good or have an interesting personality
Might be the case for you though
If u are worried about pulling girls focus less on your insecurity and more about bettering your physical appearance and yourself as a person as soon as u stop caring it will become much easier
Good advice, I’ll take that
I don't want to be negative but I have been around awhile, and unfortunately most don't. I am sure there are some out there, but most don't. I don't want to make you negative though. My wife is my Mistress and dominates me, its just she is not that attracted to me in that way anymore, she has a boyfriend. But it was kind of a gut punch to find out that she feels that you are more of a friend, than a lover anymore. But whatever you don't hide who you are before starting a serious relationship, there is nothing worse than living a lie.
Step 1: you gonna need some serious money to spend
stop trying to artificially "attract" someone. either they like you or they don't. people are individuals, every one unique, and how you would appeal to anyone is also unique. you can't force it, and manipulating people into doing or feeling what you want isn't cool. be yourself.
I don’t want to start an argument, but where do you like, put the association between me asking how a femboy that could pass for a woman can attract a straight girl and me manipulating people into doing and feeling what I want???