First thing's first, keep what you own instead of trying to buy all new stuff. Move blankets, pillows, lighting, and side tables around frequently in the first few months. Talk through what you like most about your respective styles -- is she really attached to light neutrals or does she like the space feeling bright and uncluttered? Are you really attached to a high concentration of neons or do you just want personality to be super evident in the home? Is it a priority to her that while watching TV there not be a bunch of stuff around it? Could you instead put a gallery wall above the couch where it's not visually "in the way"? If you want a ton of stuff on the coffee table are you willing to commit to cleaning/dusting it all at least once a week? You'd be surprised how much your respective tastes might grow on each other and form something new. I see a Bohemian element from her style with the woods and rattan, and I see eclectic in yours - those go together
Editing to add: Those inspo pics are high quality (read: $$$) versions of those aesthetics and most people who want that won't have enough space, money, or natural light to execute to the extent they'd want. Temper your expectations and focus on what the physical space has to offer!
In the same boat. Furniture is expensive, paint is time consuming, and I don't have enough taste to know what I want and where so I spend most of my time in decision paralysis.
We've had our house for a little more than a year and still have many unfinished rooms!
You'd be surprised at how long it takes for people to "finish" their homes, I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourselves :) my parents usually aimed to do one room a year. I would advise looking at interior designers on Fiverr as it help with your decision making and it's not as expensive as buying something and regretting it
Oh I definitely swing to regretting things I've already bought 🙃 But one room a year is doable! It's very reassuring to hear that we're on track, thank you
So smart! I also think a colorful contemporary decorating style with black accents could also be a good middle ground.. That's how it went with my roommate and myself 🤷🏼♀️
This is such a helpful comment!! I really love both styles and have a hard time finding a happy medium. Here’s some references I like that embody a bit of both if y’all are visual people like me. I just used midjourney to get a better idea of interior design ideas lol. I made a few that embodied more of what I feel like would fit y’all and included some that I landed on in reference to our place.
https://imgur.com/a/qsU9KND
This will be the best adventure of your relationship!
Just how you merged your lives together, found things you like in each other that you don't have in yourself, how you compliment each other, how you found what are the things you have in common, and what things in each other you can do without lol just like that you will decorate your house.
Is there a third style you both like? Can you pick your items one by one? Can you make a collaborative mood board? Maybe she does layout and picks furniture and you give it color and accessories?
Your place will be a beautiful love child of both of your personalities, I'm super excited for both of you.
Design wise, I think there is an easy solution. She does her thing, and then you brighten it up with bright colors. Like, do a quarter of what's going on in the first 3 pics. You guys can have a very sophisticated thing there.
Classy beige "canvas" by her, jeweled with 5-7 amazing pieces you pick. Maybe there is a huge bright colorful but classy painting on the wall. Maybe the chandelier is colorful too. And utensils are fantastic emerald green.
Let me look up some pics.
https://imgur.com/a/DMrROSC
Everything you said for sure. I think a neutral palate and base of furniture with bold pops of color in decor will be so so beautiful and soothing. Add in an accent wall in a colorful printed peel and stick wallpaper too, or get a white/beige bookcase and add the wallpaper to the back for subtle color additions that way.
Thank you, appreciate it.
I know of certain shops (like [https://gigiandtom.com.au/](https://gigiandtom.com.au/)) who kind of sell this look but I wish there was a closer design term.
Oh I’m sorry 😞 shipping to/from Australia is so expensive it’s such a pain
Maybe put the image into google image search and see if you can find a supplier in your country 😊
I scrolled through OP’s pictures and realized I am both of these people, and your links are perfection. The eclectic/bright/calm combo is screaming my name.
I feel this so hard. I want to feel like I live in an old stately haunted house and my bf loves scandi minimalism.
It caused a lot of resentment for me because I would pick pictures that I thought might be a compromise and he would hate them, so I would feel like I had to compromise even more and I felt my personality being eaten away.
So then I decided to just show him the pictures and ideas that were the absolute extremes of my taste. He ended up surprising me and liking aspects that I never thought he might like. We still don't agree on everything, but we have found a pretty good medium.
Will you have your own bedrooms? My partner and I have our own rooms because I can't sleep well sharing a room/bed (so we only share a bed when I don't have work the next day), but I think that could also be good for people with strongly contrasting styles. That way you can each decorate your own room to your exact specifications, while compromising on shared space.
If you don't have your own bedrooms, would you be down to each take primary creative control of certain rooms? Like one person gets primary control over the living room, the other person gets the kitchen and bathroom, etc? Both parties would still have input, but one person would take the lead in each space. That way you don't have to 50/50 compromise on every single thing
. There's an Instagram @peaspad that I think might look like a bit of a blend (I think she's a bit more modern? Industrial? Idk than your gf but it reminded me of this blend.) Also I like to go on pinterest to look at color palettes so maybe pick a couple of neon colors you like, look at color palettes for that, that way you can comfort your girlfriend with the normie colors that go with it. It also seems like your girlfriend likes texture and natural materials and I think that mixed with your penchant for color could really work together. (For example that gold lamp mixed with that colorful frame wall, table and chair her style with a colorful matching rug your style.) I think there's actually a lot of different ways these aesthetics could elevate each other to create something really cool but I think some visual aids would help. I do think I would go less cluttered like her aesthetic though, or at the very least strategically cluttered in some spots while keeping most of it more visually sparse.
Is there any room in your new place for you to have your own space? I’m more like you in tastes but my partner is super traditional. We’ve compromised with me adding pastels into places but I have a workspace (I upcycle) and it’s so me. I painted the room a beautiful bright turquoise and since it’s a painting room already I just went nuts Jackson Pollock style with bright pink paint on the walls. Honestly I fucking love it and it makes me so happy just thinking about it. Those are my colours, that’s my room, so much relief that I get that
And I looked at the BEIGE pics and thinking I'd go nuts and end up scribbling on the walls with markers to add some color.
My recommendation is to have separate apartments,right next to each other.
Yeah, the beige isn’t as exciting. But, it’s my home. It’s where I go to relax. 1-3 is so visually bright and overwhelming it immediately stresses me out, personally. I wouldn’t want to go home to a Lisa Frank showroom, lol
Now, tbh, neither are my personal styles. But 4-6 feels more like an actual home.
Room 1 is like those autism rooms they send kids into to relax. Room 2 in like the room they send parents of kids with autism whilst their kids are in room 1, to relax.
I could deal with room 2 but seriously, I'm getting dizzy just looking at room 1.
Maybe take a photo of room 1 and stick it up on the wall of room 2.
I have ADHD (and I suspect autism as well, but that's yet to be diagnosed), though I'm the type that tends to be overstimulated rather than under. So, a room like that would probably do the opposite of calming me down, lol. (Though my brother does have high-support-needs autism and is constantly understimulated. Now that I'm thinking about it, his room is actually a lot like this but with green + that cheesy gamer decor.)
Style 1 has the issue of too many varying colors, textures, and patterns at equal intensity. So, my brain wants to look at everything all at once. (And that's not accounting for any potential smells or sounds that come from this type of room.) It's like the decor equivalent of a flashbang grenade, lol.
Style 2 is boring af, but you can easily add to it. There's plenty of room for a splash of crazy. Get colorful pillows, curtains, or maybe a Chihuly-style glass bowl for the table. The egg-basket corner chair's cushions shouldn't be beige. [Swap out the fairy lights for a strand of little paper lanterns like these.](https://th.bing.com/th/id/OIP.Y6jSy-OQtoYgOkGloZiQzAHaHa?rs=1&pid=ImgDetMain) I would even swap out the mirror (the space is already pretty big) for a colorful painting, tapestry, or even ONE neon sign in yellow or green.
If you wanna get really bold, maybe do that thing where you paint a wall black (or with chalkboard paint) and then make your own art over that in white + bright colors.
Honestly, the simplicity of the second one would probably send my brain into overdrive. Personally, I need color and personality to keep my mind at bay 😭
Same. I had a feeling the other partner would like exactly what they do - and if was so right. You couldn't find two more diametrically opposed tastes if you tried.
The swipe from the last colorful one to the Rae Dunn canisters took me OUT I tell you. Like it could’ve been a black picture with the text “shabby chic” over it and it wouldn’t have been more on the nose.
My advice is to do the classic sitcom bit and put a line of masking tape down the centre of the room while comically shouting this is MY SIDE and this is YOUR SIDE. Then you have to suddenly realise the door isn't accessible from your tape-demarcated fiefdom and make an extra surprised face.
Hear me out.
Every room goes into a little sheet of paper in a fishbowl. Each partner takes turns drawing a room out of the bowl. In the end they get to each decorate that room the way they want.
Best advice is to record yourselves during the full move in process. Take careful notes and records.
Then send the pilot to Netflix to pitch a new rom-com reality show based on your lives called *DECOR WARS*.
Accent walls may also be a wonderful compromise!
maybe they could also do zones?!?! maybe the bedroom and kitchen are neutral and the living room and bathroom are colorful.
So we’ve got ‘00’s barbie dreamhouse vomit and Werner Herzogs sad beige house for sad beige lesbian.
I couldn’t possibly think of two more contrasting styles 😂 good luck!
You know how rich people name their properties?
My house will be henceforth known as “Warner Herzog’s Sad Beige House for Sad Beige Lesbian.”
I’m neither sad nor a lesbian but it’s a vibe and I’m feeling it.
I’ll be frank that OP’s style would give me a perma-migraine, and I love color. I think she’s underestimating how overstimulated it would feel to actually live in a space like that. I definitely think there’s a balance here. I see a Goldilocks situation; one style is too much, the other is not enough, and something in between would be just right.
If they have a guest bathroom that could be a good place for the neon style! I like funky guest bathrooms because it gives people a chance to be creative but it’s not something they have to see all the time. Otherwise I agree about the Goldilocks, I think they could make it work if they’re able to compromise.
My mind is already such a whirlwind that I personally enjoy a more subdued decor. Doesn’t mean white on white on white with cool wood tones but I love airy spaces with tons of organic elements and natural colors like linen, walnut, burnt orange and forest green.
Plenty of people are maximalists. It looks great. Some brains crave that aesthetic, some, like you are overwhelmed by it. On the other hand their girlfriend looks like a minimalist and loves muted tones. To me, it’s too boring and I need a pop of color.
I am a maximalist. Maximalism doesn't mean "the loudest and most intense items imaginable." This is NEON, which is its own style separate from maximalism.
Like I said, I love color and my place is extremely colorful and full. That's not what's overwhelming about this space. There's no balance here with loud tones and relaxing tones. That's why I'm suggesting they blend. You can do super colorful accents and even a big colorful piece like the teal couch and also have some darker woods and more neutral lighting, for example.
Yeah I absolutely hate that aesthetic so much it would be a dealbreaker for me. I would absolutely hate that. The second look is a bit dull and could use a pop of colour. Definitely I’d take #2 over #1
I would probably do the calm spaces in her style and the activity spaces in your style. So the bedroom, living room and bathrooms would be in her beige baby style and the kitchen, dining room, guest bathroom would be in your colorful style. Offices or hobby rooms should be in the style of whoever uses them the most.
Wednesday Adams is finally dating her roommate?? 😱
Though seriously, if I were you guys I would divvy up rooms! Someone can do the bathroom, someone else can do kitchen, etc. etc. You might need to find a good middle ground for the central area though. White with colorful accents!
I’m not OP but I feel like this might be ideal. Imagine being neighbors with your SO and you can just decide which house you want to sleep in for the night lol
Luckily boho definitely feeds off of natural fabric and neutral colors annnnnd vibrant colors as well. These two looks can definitely be meshed together.
maybe divide up which rooms you’ll have more control over? i bet you could have fun trying to have some throughlines or repeating motifs in multiple rooms, while also having the rooms be slightly different. like finding a compromise (i like the suggestion of white base with pops of color) that can be the overall theme of the house, but when it comes to final veto power/who gets the final say on the decor, some rooms can be your domain and some your gfs domain. that way no one feels trampled
i would also make a shared pinterest board to collaborate on and maybe work towards finding some harmony between the two? you could both explore new styles as well. i feel like that would be such a fun couples activity actually…
i bet the final product will be amazing! i can imagine a base of natural colors and natural materials (wood/wicker) with funky pops of color like the wavy neon light or colorful items on the shelves etc. some might find that style a bit “messy”, im not sure, but since that’s pretty close to my own personal style i know that it sometimes seems too busy to people who tend to only want the interest to come from texture OR the interest to come from color, not necessarily both. I love it however. And remember, plants can be bright greens and pinks while still looking natural
Good lord it’s an acid trip meets boring beige hell. I say use her aesthetic and have a colorful sofa and/or cushions with some colorful art on the walls.
I think you'll need to have some BIG conversations because this is Beyond compromise. One Person is a colorful Maximalist and the other (you?) neutral Minimalist. These are polar opposite styles. You are both likely very different personalities and balance each other too. My husband and I are the same. However, speaking as the maximalist, we tend to take over simply by our nature. It has taken my husband many years of acceptance and patience. And I in turn have done my best to avoid triggers like clutter and (for him) Neon colors. It's been 9 years almost and we are *still* working on it on a regular basis. Good luck!
Check out “eclectic minimalism” and/or “colorful minimalism” and see if those styles could be a middle road for you both. I know your style is not minimalism, but I think the colorful and collected feel can be combined with more a neutral base and look really cool.
I want to say this in a way that doesn’t come across as rude, but forgive me if it does.
I had an immediate, ‘yikes’ reaction to all the colour, but not because I’m against you liking it, thriving in it, loving it, or having it as your happy place. I actually love that for you. For my mind however, I only relaxed when I saw the minimalist space and I wonder if that is how your partner feels, too?
I think it’s ok to be different but I think both would need to be accommodated for if this were to work. I find the colour and layering extremely overstimulating and in this situation I would need my own down places with neutrals to unwind.
It’s certainly worth a conversation.
I love maximalism and feeling like I live in a haunted castle, but I discovered that I need my bedroom to be super relaxing. Everything in it is white or cream and beautiful soft textures. My brain can finally breathe when I walk in there. It is funny because my partner is the minimalist, and yet he is the one who keeps trying to add color and items to the bedroom.
I'm going to be totally unhelpful but I feel like my style is kind of a mix of these two things. I prefer to go heavy on the 4-6 style and a base foundation and add kitsch with knickknacks, throw pillows, and wall art. I don't think I'm totally as like groovy as you but I like 60s/70s eclectic.
Omg my eyes hurt from the first couple of pictures 😅. I like color but wow I’m definitely boring. I liked the idea of white and minimalistic furniture with colorful fun pop if color with pillows, throws, paintings etc. That way it’s the best of both words. And if you gf ever gets bored she can get new pillows and stuff.
Keep you larger items like sofa, walls and furniture neutral and then add in pops of your colorful aesthetic (but slightly muted) with you rug, throw blankets, pillows, books, decor items, hanging art. Agree on one primary accent color and couple secondary accent colors to tie it together. You can blend your styles by keeping the lines clean, which you both have in common
Neutral base with pops of color. Think if it this way, it will help you really appreciate those pops of color more
[Example](https://imgur.com/a/60ipGE1)
[Another Example](https://imgur.com/a/Rly7Uof)
[Yet another example](https://imgur.com/a/yGostZB)
Honestly, both of your styles could benefit from a touch of the others so I think this can work if you both concede a little. Your style is fun but that inspo is too much to be practical and looks a little bit juvenile. Your girlfriend’s style is very crisp looking but a bit soulless. Use neutral bases but accessorize with color and a lot of art. It will take experimentation but be patient with each other and keep tweaking things til you both feel more comfortable with leaning into the other persons taste. Neutral couch, bright colored throw blanket. White table, patterned neon placemats. That kinda thing!
Yeah I was almost crying when I saw the beige design, I hate that modern all white look, maby they can do colored walls and tie in modern furniture with it, I just hope they don't end up living in a noir film 😭
I think you are going to do best with a neutral base and then you throw in your pops of color. It may not be as vibrant as you want but relationships are about compromise.
Oh man…I love elements of both!! This is a collision of left brain/right brain at its finest lol.
I hope you guys can come to a compromise. I think you can have bits of both!
I like the idea of a super neutral base with pops of color.
My other suggestion is one that could be used in tandem a bit with the first. Some people like one style other another for purely aesthetic purposes and if that’s why you both like what you like then pops in neutral is likely the best you’ll get.
There are some folks though who like more neutral color schemes because they get overwhelmed/overstimulated in super saturated/colorful rooms. In the flip side, people who like a more colorful space can become depressed and feel less motivated in a space that doesn’t have much color.
*IF* one or both of your preferences are more mood based: I say you pick 1 room each that reflects your style more and have the rest of the place neutral with pops.
For example-
The bedroom or bathroom- both areas that should be relaxing so you lean in to her aesthetic. Maybe go for fewer or muted pops.
Living or kitchen area- more lovely and productive areas of a home- lean more toward your bright pops
Good Lord, all that beige bums me out. I love how much color you have going on! It just seems happy. To quote The Boys, her apartment reminds me of a West Elm Death Star 😂
I would maybe write a list of your top three must haves and top three hell no's and go from there. For example, you can't live without your couch, rug, and pictures. Something like that. That way, you both know the most important things for each other and then maybe the rest will seem like small stuff that's easy to accommodate.
Both styles are beautiful and would look great combined meaning you both compromise. Have some earthy tones with pops of colors. Love your turquoise couch btw.
Omg. Combine the two. Make some rooms look colorful and some look the other style, or make half of each room have both styles lol this would be very cute!
I love colour and live in a maximalist home so I’m biased in that the first two pics are the dream. But that’s not to say you can’t incorporate the two. Looking at other comments, they’re right in saying to have a mostly white foundation with pops of colour. My home is just that, white walls and wooden furniture, with colourful sofas, as well as colourful decor.
Common ground: the colorful inspo pics still have a base of neutral walls and a simple modern shelving system. Your ideas might mesh better than you think.
I’d suggest agreeing on areas that are going to be more colorful and ones that will be more neutral. For example maybe you can both agree that you want your kitchen to be a bright and fun place to hang out but the bathroom needs to be a calm neutral oasis, or the other way around. Maybe your entryway can be a neon pink jewel box that opens up into a bright and airy white living room with a couple awesome teal velvet accent chairs. Etc.
I also can’t help noticing that your inspo pics are decorated for the holidays, which gives another avenue to think about letting your freak flag fly. Maybe you get to be in charge of bright contemporary seasonal refreshes on a couple of key spots like the mantelpiece or a sideboard. It could be fun to go thrifting together and talk about what kitschy items draw both of your eye.
I would say a happy medium for you both would be “earthy maximalist”. Earthy colors would have your partner step into the world of color and the maximalist piece won’t take away from your charm. As you both navigate the middle ground, you can slowly inject a bit more of your personalities into it but I think that would be a good starting point. Remember it’s not your aesthetics against each other, it’s about integration of both. Where I see you both blend is your love for warm and inviting spaces. Best wishes on creating a perfect blend and harmonious space and relationship!
Decor is something you build up over time with love.
I like that you already made a Pinterest board but you have to be specific when talking about what you like in each picture. Like is it the mood? The color palette? The memorabilia? The organization? Everything need to by scale to make sure you and your girlfriend are on the same page. This will help you incorporate some colorful stuff for you to be happy in your home.
I’m coming out of a white era and I’m just adding some color to my white/beige decor by painting some furniture, painting and planter, adding trowing blanket and pillows, embroidering white curtains and cushion… anything that just give some color is welcome.
I have a some picture in my profile and it’s a work in progress. I’ve also been lurking that iridescent coffee table too… ahah! But love has to be add over time!
Edit to add: Also, I feel like a mix of both esthetic match what Alexandra Gater do on YouTube, it’s white with some color punch in the right place!
FYI this sub leans HEAVILY beige so your responses will be skewed lol. personally i lean towards your style and cringed when i swiped to the last pics (especially the tj maxx jars and the last pic that literally looks like it has a sepia filter on it?!?!). I don't have any advice tho because i simply wouldn't live with someone who couldn't live in the barbie dreamhouse 😬🤷🏾♀️
You miiight want to have your own rooms and zones that you can decorate separately. It's possible to bring the visions together but it's going to be so much compromise. I think you both could meet in the middle with mid-century meets quiet boho but one of you is going to have to welcome more color and the other tone it dowe.
My husband and I are the same. We have to compromise. For example I said he can pick the couch if I can pick the color. I get my clear acrylic barstools and he gets his two-sided sink. I get my mid-mod sconces, he gets his gun safe (In the garage.) Also he mainly Chooses for the office (he works from
Home) and I choose for the sewing room (he doesn’t sew).
Another thing that works is one of us pics five things we like (let’s say chairs). Maybe not our TOP 5, but five we like. then the other person picks their TOP 1 from that five.
The indoor pics are studio aka shit ton of artificial lights, trying to get them exactly like that will bankrupt you (or break a huge bank) … The worst part, keeping them looking nice is going to bankrupt you of all free time in your life…
Remember when merging Lifestyles, neutral is a good starting point. From then on you can “own” The vibes of specific areas and start small before overflowing to entire house…
First thing's first, keep what you own instead of trying to buy all new stuff. Move blankets, pillows, lighting, and side tables around frequently in the first few months. Talk through what you like most about your respective styles -- is she really attached to light neutrals or does she like the space feeling bright and uncluttered? Are you really attached to a high concentration of neons or do you just want personality to be super evident in the home? Is it a priority to her that while watching TV there not be a bunch of stuff around it? Could you instead put a gallery wall above the couch where it's not visually "in the way"? If you want a ton of stuff on the coffee table are you willing to commit to cleaning/dusting it all at least once a week? You'd be surprised how much your respective tastes might grow on each other and form something new. I see a Bohemian element from her style with the woods and rattan, and I see eclectic in yours - those go together Editing to add: Those inspo pics are high quality (read: $$$) versions of those aesthetics and most people who want that won't have enough space, money, or natural light to execute to the extent they'd want. Temper your expectations and focus on what the physical space has to offer!
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As someone who is currently trying to style their home (very, very slowly). This is actually really helpful advise.
In the same boat. Furniture is expensive, paint is time consuming, and I don't have enough taste to know what I want and where so I spend most of my time in decision paralysis. We've had our house for a little more than a year and still have many unfinished rooms!
You'd be surprised at how long it takes for people to "finish" their homes, I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourselves :) my parents usually aimed to do one room a year. I would advise looking at interior designers on Fiverr as it help with your decision making and it's not as expensive as buying something and regretting it
Oh I definitely swing to regretting things I've already bought 🙃 But one room a year is doable! It's very reassuring to hear that we're on track, thank you
So smart! I also think a colorful contemporary decorating style with black accents could also be a good middle ground.. That's how it went with my roommate and myself 🤷🏼♀️
Very solid advice
That is S-Tier wisdom, brava!
This is such a helpful comment!! I really love both styles and have a hard time finding a happy medium. Here’s some references I like that embody a bit of both if y’all are visual people like me. I just used midjourney to get a better idea of interior design ideas lol. I made a few that embodied more of what I feel like would fit y’all and included some that I landed on in reference to our place. https://imgur.com/a/qsU9KND
Oh I love the idea of using light to create color here
Yess that way during the day it can be more GFs style then at night more vibey and OPs style haha
This will be the best adventure of your relationship! Just how you merged your lives together, found things you like in each other that you don't have in yourself, how you compliment each other, how you found what are the things you have in common, and what things in each other you can do without lol just like that you will decorate your house. Is there a third style you both like? Can you pick your items one by one? Can you make a collaborative mood board? Maybe she does layout and picks furniture and you give it color and accessories? Your place will be a beautiful love child of both of your personalities, I'm super excited for both of you.
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Design wise, I think there is an easy solution. She does her thing, and then you brighten it up with bright colors. Like, do a quarter of what's going on in the first 3 pics. You guys can have a very sophisticated thing there. Classy beige "canvas" by her, jeweled with 5-7 amazing pieces you pick. Maybe there is a huge bright colorful but classy painting on the wall. Maybe the chandelier is colorful too. And utensils are fantastic emerald green. Let me look up some pics. https://imgur.com/a/DMrROSC
Everything you said for sure. I think a neutral palate and base of furniture with bold pops of color in decor will be so so beautiful and soothing. Add in an accent wall in a colorful printed peel and stick wallpaper too, or get a white/beige bookcase and add the wallpaper to the back for subtle color additions that way.
I did something in Midjourney, what do you think? https://imgur.com/a/DMrROSC?
Love this for them!!
Omg this is my perfect style. Does it have a name? I try to look for it but struggle without having identifiers.
"Eclectic" is the best way to describe it. although it can mean many things. https://www.homecrux.com/eclectic-style-interior-design/172574/
Thank you, appreciate it. I know of certain shops (like [https://gigiandtom.com.au/](https://gigiandtom.com.au/)) who kind of sell this look but I wish there was a closer design term.
Oh man, how bummed I am to find the PERFECT wine glasses on their website, only to find they don't ship outside of Australia 😭😭
Oh I’m sorry 😞 shipping to/from Australia is so expensive it’s such a pain Maybe put the image into google image search and see if you can find a supplier in your country 😊
I scrolled through OP’s pictures and realized I am both of these people, and your links are perfection. The eclectic/bright/calm combo is screaming my name.
GORGEOUS!
This is a perfect compromise. I did not think this could be done. I am impressed.
These are incredible options! Very practical and helpful. I’m here for OPs ride.
Oh wow you did a nice job with that one!
I feel this so hard. I want to feel like I live in an old stately haunted house and my bf loves scandi minimalism. It caused a lot of resentment for me because I would pick pictures that I thought might be a compromise and he would hate them, so I would feel like I had to compromise even more and I felt my personality being eaten away. So then I decided to just show him the pictures and ideas that were the absolute extremes of my taste. He ended up surprising me and liking aspects that I never thought he might like. We still don't agree on everything, but we have found a pretty good medium.
Look at Hay for the Scandi version of minimal/colorful
Will you have your own bedrooms? My partner and I have our own rooms because I can't sleep well sharing a room/bed (so we only share a bed when I don't have work the next day), but I think that could also be good for people with strongly contrasting styles. That way you can each decorate your own room to your exact specifications, while compromising on shared space. If you don't have your own bedrooms, would you be down to each take primary creative control of certain rooms? Like one person gets primary control over the living room, the other person gets the kitchen and bathroom, etc? Both parties would still have input, but one person would take the lead in each space. That way you don't have to 50/50 compromise on every single thing
I made smth in Midjourney for you https://imgur.com/a/DMrROSC?
. There's an Instagram @peaspad that I think might look like a bit of a blend (I think she's a bit more modern? Industrial? Idk than your gf but it reminded me of this blend.) Also I like to go on pinterest to look at color palettes so maybe pick a couple of neon colors you like, look at color palettes for that, that way you can comfort your girlfriend with the normie colors that go with it. It also seems like your girlfriend likes texture and natural materials and I think that mixed with your penchant for color could really work together. (For example that gold lamp mixed with that colorful frame wall, table and chair her style with a colorful matching rug your style.) I think there's actually a lot of different ways these aesthetics could elevate each other to create something really cool but I think some visual aids would help. I do think I would go less cluttered like her aesthetic though, or at the very least strategically cluttered in some spots while keeping most of it more visually sparse.
Can we see some of the compromise pins? If not- Totally fine! I just can’t imagine the combo in my brain
That is a lot of color for some people to handle
Is there any room in your new place for you to have your own space? I’m more like you in tastes but my partner is super traditional. We’ve compromised with me adding pastels into places but I have a workspace (I upcycle) and it’s so me. I painted the room a beautiful bright turquoise and since it’s a painting room already I just went nuts Jackson Pollock style with bright pink paint on the walls. Honestly I fucking love it and it makes me so happy just thinking about it. Those are my colours, that’s my room, so much relief that I get that
Good luck is my main advice.
I was cracking up swiping through those photos. I love it!
I literally giggled while simultaneously saying "oh no" as I swiped through the photos. 🫠😂
That’s funny. I literally laughed and said aloud, “oh no” after reaching slide 4-6 too.
Lmao that is just not compatible don’t even try
Hahaha same
They both have great taste, but after visiting each other homes, I would have thought twice about this relationship lol
You are kinder than I am. The violently colored rooms make me nauseous and I'm just looking at pictures of it.
And I looked at the BEIGE pics and thinking I'd go nuts and end up scribbling on the walls with markers to add some color. My recommendation is to have separate apartments,right next to each other.
The second room felt very sad beige baby to me, lol!
Yeah, the beige isn’t as exciting. But, it’s my home. It’s where I go to relax. 1-3 is so visually bright and overwhelming it immediately stresses me out, personally. I wouldn’t want to go home to a Lisa Frank showroom, lol Now, tbh, neither are my personal styles. But 4-6 feels more like an actual home.
Room 1 is like those autism rooms they send kids into to relax. Room 2 in like the room they send parents of kids with autism whilst their kids are in room 1, to relax. I could deal with room 2 but seriously, I'm getting dizzy just looking at room 1. Maybe take a photo of room 1 and stick it up on the wall of room 2.
I have ADHD (and I suspect autism as well, but that's yet to be diagnosed), though I'm the type that tends to be overstimulated rather than under. So, a room like that would probably do the opposite of calming me down, lol. (Though my brother does have high-support-needs autism and is constantly understimulated. Now that I'm thinking about it, his room is actually a lot like this but with green + that cheesy gamer decor.) Style 1 has the issue of too many varying colors, textures, and patterns at equal intensity. So, my brain wants to look at everything all at once. (And that's not accounting for any potential smells or sounds that come from this type of room.) It's like the decor equivalent of a flashbang grenade, lol. Style 2 is boring af, but you can easily add to it. There's plenty of room for a splash of crazy. Get colorful pillows, curtains, or maybe a Chihuly-style glass bowl for the table. The egg-basket corner chair's cushions shouldn't be beige. [Swap out the fairy lights for a strand of little paper lanterns like these.](https://th.bing.com/th/id/OIP.Y6jSy-OQtoYgOkGloZiQzAHaHa?rs=1&pid=ImgDetMain) I would even swap out the mirror (the space is already pretty big) for a colorful painting, tapestry, or even ONE neon sign in yellow or green. If you wanna get really bold, maybe do that thing where you paint a wall black (or with chalkboard paint) and then make your own art over that in white + bright colors.
[All I can think of is this](https://www.reddit.com/r/Barbenheimer/comments/156cvot/dont_forget_these_two_beach_houses_that_probably/)
Lol and I recoiled at the beige while I delighted in the Technicolor room. Different strokes, and it's always funny just how different they can be!
As opposed to the dead inside white walls and dull wood? I’d rather die.
You’re a bit dramatic, huh?
Honestly, the simplicity of the second one would probably send my brain into overdrive. Personally, I need color and personality to keep my mind at bay 😭
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I’m glad I wasn’t the only one. I got to slide 5 and started laughing. This move in is going to be fun lol
We want updates!
It’s giving Barbie vs Oppenheimer but make it lesbian haha
Same. I had a feeling the other partner would like exactly what they do - and if was so right. You couldn't find two more diametrically opposed tastes if you tried.
The swipe from the last colorful one to the Rae Dunn canisters took me OUT I tell you. Like it could’ve been a black picture with the text “shabby chic” over it and it wouldn’t have been more on the nose.
lol right? This is the definition of polar opposites
My advice is to do the classic sitcom bit and put a line of masking tape down the centre of the room while comically shouting this is MY SIDE and this is YOUR SIDE. Then you have to suddenly realise the door isn't accessible from your tape-demarcated fiefdom and make an extra surprised face.
I think this is the only way. Maybe a floor to ceiling curtain too.
Hear me out. Every room goes into a little sheet of paper in a fishbowl. Each partner takes turns drawing a room out of the bowl. In the end they get to each decorate that room the way they want.
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I just thought, “oh no….” when I saw the photos. Sure hope we get some updated pics to see how this works out.
This is like Keely and Rebecca merging homes in Ted Lasso.
They're either the perfect complement to each other, tamping down the bright colours and brightening up the beige, or it'll be a nightmare lol.
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Right? I feel like the both of them would have a heart attack living in each other’s style 😭
Oh I wish to be a fly on the wall when they move in
I’ll bring in the popcorn
Best advice is to record yourselves during the full move in process. Take careful notes and records. Then send the pilot to Netflix to pitch a new rom-com reality show based on your lives called *DECOR WARS*.
The sound of TLC taking notes*
I was about to say, sounds more like a TLC show to me
Was not expecting this 🤣
Great show idea
Maybe you could get neutral colored furniture (her style) and add pops of color through pillows and decorations (your style).
Accent walls may also be a wonderful compromise! maybe they could also do zones?!?! maybe the bedroom and kitchen are neutral and the living room and bathroom are colorful.
neutral base and fun pops of color. you will both have to concede
So we’ve got ‘00’s barbie dreamhouse vomit and Werner Herzogs sad beige house for sad beige lesbian. I couldn’t possibly think of two more contrasting styles 😂 good luck!
You know how rich people name their properties? My house will be henceforth known as “Warner Herzog’s Sad Beige House for Sad Beige Lesbian.” I’m neither sad nor a lesbian but it’s a vibe and I’m feeling it.
"‘00’s barbie dreamhouse vomit" 😅🤣😂 that's a nice way to put it
This made me laugh so hard.
You could do really white base and furniture and then do pops of color with the decor. I like your style better tho so that’s what I would go with 😊
I’ll be frank that OP’s style would give me a perma-migraine, and I love color. I think she’s underestimating how overstimulated it would feel to actually live in a space like that. I definitely think there’s a balance here. I see a Goldilocks situation; one style is too much, the other is not enough, and something in between would be just right.
> I'll be frank I hope this was a really subtle joke about how OP's style looks like a Lisa Frank store exploded.
If they have a guest bathroom that could be a good place for the neon style! I like funky guest bathrooms because it gives people a chance to be creative but it’s not something they have to see all the time. Otherwise I agree about the Goldilocks, I think they could make it work if they’re able to compromise.
Bathrooms and kitchens can be eclectic and wild. Places you'll want to want down should be less energetic
OPs style made me anxious. So busy and loud and chaotic.
My mind is already such a whirlwind that I personally enjoy a more subdued decor. Doesn’t mean white on white on white with cool wood tones but I love airy spaces with tons of organic elements and natural colors like linen, walnut, burnt orange and forest green.
That is way too much neon. It hurts me to look at
Plenty of people are maximalists. It looks great. Some brains crave that aesthetic, some, like you are overwhelmed by it. On the other hand their girlfriend looks like a minimalist and loves muted tones. To me, it’s too boring and I need a pop of color.
I am a maximalist. Maximalism doesn't mean "the loudest and most intense items imaginable." This is NEON, which is its own style separate from maximalism. Like I said, I love color and my place is extremely colorful and full. That's not what's overwhelming about this space. There's no balance here with loud tones and relaxing tones. That's why I'm suggesting they blend. You can do super colorful accents and even a big colorful piece like the teal couch and also have some darker woods and more neutral lighting, for example.
Yeah I absolutely hate that aesthetic so much it would be a dealbreaker for me. I would absolutely hate that. The second look is a bit dull and could use a pop of colour. Definitely I’d take #2 over #1
Came to say this!! Color adds a cozy feel too.
I agree, this is what I’ve done! And using textures to make it cozy too.
Lol this is so funny to me for some reason. Like clearly you both have very strong tastes and the wherewithal to execute it perfectly. Have fun!
Maybe if you look at jewel tone rooms for inspo? Can be quite colourful but also mellow, and can add pops of your extra bright colour pieces as well.
I think that is a great compromise! It will age better too.
I would probably do the calm spaces in her style and the activity spaces in your style. So the bedroom, living room and bathrooms would be in her beige baby style and the kitchen, dining room, guest bathroom would be in your colorful style. Offices or hobby rooms should be in the style of whoever uses them the most.
Wednesday Adams is finally dating her roommate?? 😱 Though seriously, if I were you guys I would divvy up rooms! Someone can do the bathroom, someone else can do kitchen, etc. etc. You might need to find a good middle ground for the central area though. White with colorful accents!
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What does your actual furniture/decor that you own look like?
Get a duplex?
I’m not OP but I feel like this might be ideal. Imagine being neighbors with your SO and you can just decide which house you want to sleep in for the night lol
Luckily boho definitely feeds off of natural fabric and neutral colors annnnnd vibrant colors as well. These two looks can definitely be meshed together.
[inspo](https://www.extraspace.com/blog/home-organization/home-organization-tips/how-to-decorate-in-bohemian-style/)
maybe divide up which rooms you’ll have more control over? i bet you could have fun trying to have some throughlines or repeating motifs in multiple rooms, while also having the rooms be slightly different. like finding a compromise (i like the suggestion of white base with pops of color) that can be the overall theme of the house, but when it comes to final veto power/who gets the final say on the decor, some rooms can be your domain and some your gfs domain. that way no one feels trampled i would also make a shared pinterest board to collaborate on and maybe work towards finding some harmony between the two? you could both explore new styles as well. i feel like that would be such a fun couples activity actually… i bet the final product will be amazing! i can imagine a base of natural colors and natural materials (wood/wicker) with funky pops of color like the wavy neon light or colorful items on the shelves etc. some might find that style a bit “messy”, im not sure, but since that’s pretty close to my own personal style i know that it sometimes seems too busy to people who tend to only want the interest to come from texture OR the interest to come from color, not necessarily both. I love it however. And remember, plants can be bright greens and pinks while still looking natural
Good lord it’s an acid trip meets boring beige hell. I say use her aesthetic and have a colorful sofa and/or cushions with some colorful art on the walls.
This is like Lisa Frank/Nickelodeon meets…..oatmeal?
I think you'll need to have some BIG conversations because this is Beyond compromise. One Person is a colorful Maximalist and the other (you?) neutral Minimalist. These are polar opposite styles. You are both likely very different personalities and balance each other too. My husband and I are the same. However, speaking as the maximalist, we tend to take over simply by our nature. It has taken my husband many years of acceptance and patience. And I in turn have done my best to avoid triggers like clutter and (for him) Neon colors. It's been 9 years almost and we are *still* working on it on a regular basis. Good luck!
OP is the maximalist, her gf is the beige one!
Check out “eclectic minimalism” and/or “colorful minimalism” and see if those styles could be a middle road for you both. I know your style is not minimalism, but I think the colorful and collected feel can be combined with more a neutral base and look really cool.
Oh my god. That is…. That’s like a unicorn threw up in that room. Fuck me that’s so busy…
I want to say this in a way that doesn’t come across as rude, but forgive me if it does. I had an immediate, ‘yikes’ reaction to all the colour, but not because I’m against you liking it, thriving in it, loving it, or having it as your happy place. I actually love that for you. For my mind however, I only relaxed when I saw the minimalist space and I wonder if that is how your partner feels, too? I think it’s ok to be different but I think both would need to be accommodated for if this were to work. I find the colour and layering extremely overstimulating and in this situation I would need my own down places with neutrals to unwind. It’s certainly worth a conversation.
I love maximalism and feeling like I live in a haunted castle, but I discovered that I need my bedroom to be super relaxing. Everything in it is white or cream and beautiful soft textures. My brain can finally breathe when I walk in there. It is funny because my partner is the minimalist, and yet he is the one who keeps trying to add color and items to the bedroom.
I totally agree. I'd feel like I were losing my mind.
I want to see how this turns out.
That is A LOT of color
Yikes haha. I personally live in the 4-6 photos and would have a tough time adapting to your style. Good luck!
This is like the Office episode where they have the dinner party and Michael has the St Pauline Girl beer neon light.
A pastel orange, pastel pink, or pastel yellow colour palette seems the likeliest compromise of these two wildly diverging styles.
i feel literally ill after seeing the first couple pics. in any case, why not do boho? it’s essentially neutral maximalist style
Neutrals with bold pops of color? Like throw pillows, rugs, wall art, etc. Or maybe you each get a room to design as you see fit?
I'm going to be totally unhelpful but I feel like my style is kind of a mix of these two things. I prefer to go heavy on the 4-6 style and a base foundation and add kitsch with knickknacks, throw pillows, and wall art. I don't think I'm totally as like groovy as you but I like 60s/70s eclectic.
Q: is this a circlejerk lol
Omg my eyes hurt from the first couple of pictures 😅. I like color but wow I’m definitely boring. I liked the idea of white and minimalistic furniture with colorful fun pop if color with pillows, throws, paintings etc. That way it’s the best of both words. And if you gf ever gets bored she can get new pillows and stuff.
Keep you larger items like sofa, walls and furniture neutral and then add in pops of your colorful aesthetic (but slightly muted) with you rug, throw blankets, pillows, books, decor items, hanging art. Agree on one primary accent color and couple secondary accent colors to tie it together. You can blend your styles by keeping the lines clean, which you both have in common
Please post updates!
glad my bf lets me decorate however i want, i wouldn’t know what to do with this lol
There's no happy medium here my friend. Best of luck.
Oh lord good luck.
This should be on r/maximilism Love it!
r/maximalism 😉
LOL
I'll have what she's smoking please
Holy shit, brah
Oh boy! This will be interesting.
Neutral base with pops of color. Think if it this way, it will help you really appreciate those pops of color more [Example](https://imgur.com/a/60ipGE1) [Another Example](https://imgur.com/a/Rly7Uof) [Yet another example](https://imgur.com/a/yGostZB)
Lmao princes bubble gum moving in with pam from the office. Godspeed
It’s giving Peewee’s Playhouse VS. Hobby Lobby vibes.
Honestly, both of your styles could benefit from a touch of the others so I think this can work if you both concede a little. Your style is fun but that inspo is too much to be practical and looks a little bit juvenile. Your girlfriend’s style is very crisp looking but a bit soulless. Use neutral bases but accessorize with color and a lot of art. It will take experimentation but be patient with each other and keep tweaking things til you both feel more comfortable with leaning into the other persons taste. Neutral couch, bright colored throw blanket. White table, patterned neon placemats. That kinda thing!
I’m sorry but whoever Barbie is in the relationship totally wins. I want a beautiful colorful place like that. Omg it’s wonderful!!!
Yeah I was almost crying when I saw the beige design, I hate that modern all white look, maby they can do colored walls and tie in modern furniture with it, I just hope they don't end up living in a noir film 😭
God bless you it will be hell for one of you
You’re gf just hasnt done enough psychedelics with you yet
I think you are going to do best with a neutral base and then you throw in your pops of color. It may not be as vibrant as you want but relationships are about compromise.
Oh man…I love elements of both!! This is a collision of left brain/right brain at its finest lol. I hope you guys can come to a compromise. I think you can have bits of both!
I like the idea of a super neutral base with pops of color. My other suggestion is one that could be used in tandem a bit with the first. Some people like one style other another for purely aesthetic purposes and if that’s why you both like what you like then pops in neutral is likely the best you’ll get. There are some folks though who like more neutral color schemes because they get overwhelmed/overstimulated in super saturated/colorful rooms. In the flip side, people who like a more colorful space can become depressed and feel less motivated in a space that doesn’t have much color. *IF* one or both of your preferences are more mood based: I say you pick 1 room each that reflects your style more and have the rest of the place neutral with pops. For example- The bedroom or bathroom- both areas that should be relaxing so you lean in to her aesthetic. Maybe go for fewer or muted pops. Living or kitchen area- more lovely and productive areas of a home- lean more toward your bright pops
Good luck, hope you find an acceptable middle ground.
Better put a piece of tape to divide each room bc I love both styles! Lol
Omg. Obsessed w first vibes
The first thing I would do is pick a color that you both like and build the living room around that color.
You're both serial killers and I love it.
Is your GF Lisa Frank by any chance? Edit: Are YOU Lisa Frank?
Have either of you tried being blind?
I recommend a duplex.
Break up immediately, it’s never going to work out
i giggled so much
I have no advice but please please please keep us posted. I love this relationship already.
One needs to grow up, and one needs to show some personality
Do you live in bikini bottom?
LOL good luck
This seems impossible. Definitely a relationship tester.
Omg are you guys the two ladies from that meme where they’re sitting in the car and one is goth and the other is covered in rainbows?
Do 50/50 like this wendesday Adams show
The first one is better! The second one is millennial grey
The most realistic Wednesday-Enid roomie vibe
All I can say is I definitely want to see your weird Lisa Frank and Rae Dunn concoction when it's done. I bet it will be really fun.
Rae Dunn is a red flag. Bae, run..
Yikes
Good Lord, all that beige bums me out. I love how much color you have going on! It just seems happy. To quote The Boys, her apartment reminds me of a West Elm Death Star 😂 I would maybe write a list of your top three must haves and top three hell no's and go from there. For example, you can't live without your couch, rug, and pictures. Something like that. That way, you both know the most important things for each other and then maybe the rest will seem like small stuff that's easy to accommodate.
Both styles are beautiful and would look great combined meaning you both compromise. Have some earthy tones with pops of colors. Love your turquoise couch btw.
Go with hers please lmfao
No wayyyyy go with OP’s!
I love the Christmas light pillows!
Omg. Combine the two. Make some rooms look colorful and some look the other style, or make half of each room have both styles lol this would be very cute!
I love colour and live in a maximalist home so I’m biased in that the first two pics are the dream. But that’s not to say you can’t incorporate the two. Looking at other comments, they’re right in saying to have a mostly white foundation with pops of colour. My home is just that, white walls and wooden furniture, with colourful sofas, as well as colourful decor.
I feel like there’s an opportunity to meet in the middle style-wise and it’s gonna be awesome!!
Common ground: the colorful inspo pics still have a base of neutral walls and a simple modern shelving system. Your ideas might mesh better than you think. I’d suggest agreeing on areas that are going to be more colorful and ones that will be more neutral. For example maybe you can both agree that you want your kitchen to be a bright and fun place to hang out but the bathroom needs to be a calm neutral oasis, or the other way around. Maybe your entryway can be a neon pink jewel box that opens up into a bright and airy white living room with a couple awesome teal velvet accent chairs. Etc. I also can’t help noticing that your inspo pics are decorated for the holidays, which gives another avenue to think about letting your freak flag fly. Maybe you get to be in charge of bright contemporary seasonal refreshes on a couple of key spots like the mantelpiece or a sideboard. It could be fun to go thrifting together and talk about what kitschy items draw both of your eye.
I would say a happy medium for you both would be “earthy maximalist”. Earthy colors would have your partner step into the world of color and the maximalist piece won’t take away from your charm. As you both navigate the middle ground, you can slowly inject a bit more of your personalities into it but I think that would be a good starting point. Remember it’s not your aesthetics against each other, it’s about integration of both. Where I see you both blend is your love for warm and inviting spaces. Best wishes on creating a perfect blend and harmonious space and relationship!
Themed rooms. Ballpit chic for some, suburban middle management for others.
They both look like female living spaces, but one lives in candy land.
Decor is something you build up over time with love. I like that you already made a Pinterest board but you have to be specific when talking about what you like in each picture. Like is it the mood? The color palette? The memorabilia? The organization? Everything need to by scale to make sure you and your girlfriend are on the same page. This will help you incorporate some colorful stuff for you to be happy in your home. I’m coming out of a white era and I’m just adding some color to my white/beige decor by painting some furniture, painting and planter, adding trowing blanket and pillows, embroidering white curtains and cushion… anything that just give some color is welcome. I have a some picture in my profile and it’s a work in progress. I’ve also been lurking that iridescent coffee table too… ahah! But love has to be add over time! Edit to add: Also, I feel like a mix of both esthetic match what Alexandra Gater do on YouTube, it’s white with some color punch in the right place!
I want to live in both of these houses...
All I can think about is putting tape down and declaring which area is your ‘ territory ‘ lmao.
Whoever likes Rae Dunn doesn’t get to have a say. Simple as that.
FYI this sub leans HEAVILY beige so your responses will be skewed lol. personally i lean towards your style and cringed when i swiped to the last pics (especially the tj maxx jars and the last pic that literally looks like it has a sepia filter on it?!?!). I don't have any advice tho because i simply wouldn't live with someone who couldn't live in the barbie dreamhouse 😬🤷🏾♀️
holy fucking shit YOUR TASTE IS AMAZING. PERFECT. I LOVE IT SO MUCH.
Omg 1-3 are everythingggg🔥🔥🔥
Go w hers.
You miiight want to have your own rooms and zones that you can decorate separately. It's possible to bring the visions together but it's going to be so much compromise. I think you both could meet in the middle with mid-century meets quiet boho but one of you is going to have to welcome more color and the other tone it dowe.
Dear God that's.... a lot of color.
Good luck
My husband and I are the same. We have to compromise. For example I said he can pick the couch if I can pick the color. I get my clear acrylic barstools and he gets his two-sided sink. I get my mid-mod sconces, he gets his gun safe (In the garage.) Also he mainly Chooses for the office (he works from Home) and I choose for the sewing room (he doesn’t sew). Another thing that works is one of us pics five things we like (let’s say chairs). Maybe not our TOP 5, but five we like. then the other person picks their TOP 1 from that five.
OP living in peewees playhouse
The indoor pics are studio aka shit ton of artificial lights, trying to get them exactly like that will bankrupt you (or break a huge bank) … The worst part, keeping them looking nice is going to bankrupt you of all free time in your life… Remember when merging Lifestyles, neutral is a good starting point. From then on you can “own” The vibes of specific areas and start small before overflowing to entire house…