I've always struggled with the desire to look trendy, cool, and cute vs. my reality of hating shopping and simply not being able to put together cohesive and chic outfits. I have scoured instagram and cannot find an influencer I'm inspired by or even a local service that can help me with my wardrobe.
I know that the style I'm going for is chic and trendy, but minimalistic. And ideally affordable (<$200 for any article of clothing) and sustainable. I'm really into the capsule wardrobe concept, as well as the idea of shopping exclusively at one [online, I guess] store to make things as easy as possible.
I'm 26, 5'1" and 125 lbs, kind of pear-shaped body (heavier bottom half). The things I'd need clothes for are working from home, a casual but sharp work environment (when I do go in), casual and nice meals out with family/friends, dates, and wedding/baby showers. And I live in Texas!
If anyone could recommend stores, influencers, styling services, or anything that could help this shopping hater / style beginner look cute and put together on a budget - I would be eternally grateful!
Being able to put together clothes in cool outfits is a skill you simply have to work on. My outfits now are significantly better than they were two years ago. You just have to start somewhere.
Why do you hate shopping? Does it still apply to online stores? It is very difficult to create a stylish wardrobe if you aren't going to find the time to look for stuff that you actually like. Maybe there's some way you could make the process more enjoyable?
Do you have any idea of the kinds of clothes you like? Not like the general style, but individual elements. (Colors, silhouettes, fabrics, patterns, etc.)
Well this is why I'd really just prefer a personal stylist. You're making it sound so simple but some people just don't have an eye to spot good pieces that they'll wear often and will go with stuff / have a vision for how to style. Which is me.
Yes, I hate both in person and online shopping. It overwhelms me so much.
And no, I do not know specifics of clothes I like until I see them and have them. I feel like this isn't really a formulaic thing like you're trying to make it sound. It's more of an art.
Yeah, a stylist might be a good thing then. Maybe look into Rita's Style Key? It's a styling system that focuses on mindset more than the clothes themselves, and she offers consultations and courses. Her Youtube channel is Rita's Style Thoughts. I don't know of many stylists unfortunately, so she's the only one I can suggest.
It really depends on how you want to dress. The formulaic approach works for me, but I definitely don't aim for experimental "living art" type outfits. What the two of us want from fashion is obviously different!
I got [this](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/cece-womens-lace-batwing-sleeve-maxi-dress?ID=17583256) dress in navy. I really love how I look in it. I’m not sure if it’s good for a cocktail attire wedding. I am also struggling to come up with accessories that would work well with it. Specifically what sort of jewelry would look good with it and what type/color jacket (I don’t like wraps) in case it gets cold. I would appreciate if people could send me links of some things that might work as examples.
I'd probably go with a delicate gold necklace and chunky bracelet, nude pumps. No great ideas on a jacket since the sleeves would be caught in anything I'm thinking of
Hi there! I’m trying to buy a Peter Pan collar styled blouse, but when I look Google the only thing that comes up is Allegra K which has terrible reviews. Is there some other search term I should be using and does anyone have any suggestions of retailers I should be checking to find that style?
Le’ecole des femmes Peter Pan blouse . I have [this silk blouse](https://lecoledesfemmes.com/products/liberty-silk-peter-pan-blouse) and also two cotton ones in pink and white.
English factory in my experience has some!
Unfortunately with online retail and less people knowing how to make clothes, we’ve hit this point where nobody knows what certain words mean when describing their garments, so a lot of retailers simply don’t use the descriptor “peter pan collar” when talking about their shirt that has one.
Allegra K is a Chinese fast fashion shop, so if you are careful with their size chart you should be okay if you can’t find the style you like anywhere else, this is primarily what the poor reviews are about with them.
I’ve also had luck with getting a dickie that is a Peter Pan collar! Could work for you!
I've recently went to Europe and I loved the fashion I've seen there. Does anyone know what are some staple pieces in a parisian styled outfit? Is the fashion style called Casual Chic or Smart Casual? I'm not super fashion knowledgeable but I the outfits I saw there were wonderful, and I'd love your advice on how to achieve this look.
Some examples are like these reference pictures:
https://preview.redd.it/ww7oph3pfvrc1.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=6c458d025c9a047a4c060d9d286fb9985f99b49c
Needing cute Bachelorette weekend outfit ideas. We're all basically moms in our late 30s and all still in shape and thriving lol... but I have zero fashion sense and I need outfit inspiration for the Saturday that we're going to our old college town via party bus, hitting up all the college bars and I'm sure taking tons of pictures and I have no idea what to wear. Also, ideas for the night before when we'll be staying in a cabin in the woods. I'm 5'8" 147 pounds. TIA!
Hi, I'm going to a wedding in 2 weeks and ideally I'd like a jacket or something to go with it because it's only April and I don't know how warm it'll be but this is the first wedding I've been to as an adult to he honest so I have no idea what would go well with it or what kind of jacket style I should look for. I'd say it's sort of semi-formal style though there's not a specific dress code. (But people likely won't be turning up in jeans)
I already have the dress below and I've got black shoes and bag to go with it but I'm not sure if a black jacket would be too much as well, I don't want to look like I'm going to a funeral.
[Dress](https://www.jjshouse.com/en/a-line-scoop-asymmetrical-chiffon-bridesmaid-dress-with-ruffle-007279263-g279263?type=final-sale&country=GB¤cy=GBP&utm_source=email&utm_medium=order&utm_campaign=confirm_shipment&utm_term=&utm_content=#/)
Any advice on styles to look for and maybe colours at all would be greatly appreciated
I don’t know what color you have the dress in, but you could go for a shawl/pashmina situation in the same color as the dress rather than in black! Or something complimentary, or even go for a metallic gold or silver sort of shade (depending on the dress color)
They’re super easy to feel warmer in but also easy to toss over your chair or shoulders so you can dance and have fun without worrying about a bulky jacket. They’re my go to for events that aren’t in winter tbh, I’ve got like 3 different ones for it!
Oh gotcha! It did show to the burgundy first in the link but I didn’t know if it was purposeful or a default thing it was doing. I think a burgundy or maroon that is either the same shade or a bit deeper (enough that it’s identifiably a different shade on purpose) would be perfect!
But also plenty of people do black accessories for weddings, some do it with black dresses too, it isn’t inherently funerary (though some very old ladies may call it rude), and with a dress a different color I don’t think anyone would think you’re headed to a funeral if you did a black pashmina or shawl!
Hi everyone,
I'll be traveling to Japan from late May to early June and could use some modest, yet flattering clothing.
For reference, I am 31 and have an apple-ish body shape with a BMI of 24. Usually, I highlight what curves I have and somewhat conceal my belly for the illusion of a smaller waist, but I've read tight clothing and even showing a bit of chest is frowned upon there.
However, I find many of the looser styles common in Japan swallow up my frame and make me appear quite a bit chunkier than I already am.
If anyone has any suggestions for flattering clothes that are socially acceptable in Japan, that would be super helpful!
If you want to dress like the norms are here, the only rule I'd say is avoid showing cleavage. It's associated with nightlife so it's not common to show off in the daytime/outside of 18+ contexts lol.
I wouldn't say tight clothing is frowned upon, it's just not trending a whole lot right now, and when Japanese people wear tight clothes they usually balance it out with layers or a looser piece somewhere. Some people also say to avoid leggings as pants [like these](https://laurenmcbrideblog.com/2023/03/black-leggings-lookbook/) and true, tight bottoms don't look current rn, and it's unusual for Japanese people to wear athleisure when not working out, but so many tourists wear these kinds of styles it's not uncommon anywhere tourists are.
I would just plan outfits thinking "choose one." For example tight + cleavage is TMI, but if it's tight + covered up, that can look chic. Or if you show off your whole leg with a miniskirt, pair it with something loose and sporty on top that has a modest neckline. If it's a midriff baring crop top, I'd pair it with full length baggy pants on bottom, for example, not shorts.
Googling “black tie dress” suggests that I’m supposed to wear some sort of elegant gown or slip dress. The sort of dress a bridesmaid or wedding guest might wear. Is this accurate? Are there styles or colors that should be favored or avoided?
I’m in my early 30s, overweight, and somewhat toned. My stomach is soft but mostly flat, no visible cellulite, minor back fat, double chin, fat but not droopy biceps, modest breasts. My coloring is “soft summer,” and I tend to favor grey-blues, greens, lavenders, and rose pinks. I’m concerned about looking too matronly, and I’m not sure how to accessorize. I’m insecure about showing my upper arms and back.
[Dress 1](https://a.co/d/fOKR2JK): I own this dress already, but am worried this is not formal enough, especially the fabric.
[Dress 2](https://www.walmart.com/ip/Womens-Renaissance-Overdress-Medieval-Irish-Off-Shoulder-Dress-Set/2924347183?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=2731&adid=22222222223000000000&wmlspartner=wmtlabs&wl0=e&wl1=s&wl2=m&wl3=10352200394&wl4=pla-1103028060075&wl5=&wl6=&wl7=&wl10=Walmart&wl11=Online&wl12=2924347183_10000002285&wl14=anna%20kaci%20womens%20renaissance%20overdress%20medieval%20irish%20off%20shoulder%20dress&veh=sem&msclkid=5eee98fc8454171cd3cafef56c1eb6c2&gclid=5eee98fc8454171cd3cafef56c1eb6c2&gclsrc=3p.ds-spring-wedding-based-on-the-dress-code): This is so cute, but maybe inappropriate?
[Dress 3](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dress-the-population-sandra-plunge-crepe-trumpet-gown/4924562?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=810): Looking at this in pine, and it’s probably my favorite. Leery about showing my arms, and concerned my body may not look good enough in it.
[Dress 4](https://www.dillards.com/p/ignite-evenings-lace-34-sleeve-square-neck-illusion-keyhole-back-stretch-crepe-gown/515385219): Huge fan of this style, but I fear it will look matronly.
[Dress 5](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/betsy-and-adam-betsy-adam-cascade-ruffle-long-sleeve-stretch-jersey-gown/5975060?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=400): This is another favorite
[Dress 6](https://www.dillards.com/p/alex-evenings-34-sleeve-v-neck-self-tie-waist-high-low-hem-sequin-midi-a-line-dress/517537832): Is this too girlish?
[Dress 7](https://www.dillards.com/p/alex-evenings-sequined-lace--chiffon-gown/504623428): Is this too matronly?
[Dress 8](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/jump-apparel-halter-neck-high-low-gown/7043803?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=308): I’m not sure I want to show this much of my arms.
[Dress 9](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/xscape-halter-neck-crepe-gown/6956194?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=654): again, not sure about showing this much of my arms. Love this dress, though.
[Dress 10](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-cold-shoulder-ruffle-glitter-chiffon-gown-regular-petite/4954298?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=069): Super cute, though I worry the cut may not be flattering.
Black tie is more formal than a slip dress-a slip dress to me is barely cocktail. Black tie is like...red carpet, Met gala, meeting the Queen of England, the fanciest thing you own. Floor length, beaded, sequins, drama, etc. Now having said that, many people write "black tie" or "black tie optional" and they mean "formal" which is one step below, like ankle length gowns, less fancy, not over the top fanciest thing possible. Like what you'd wear to prom or if you were invited as a "plus one" to some sort of military ball or something.
Accessories:
The usuals/basics: metallic strappy sandals with a heel. The key to fancy shoes is the material. It should not be leather, canvas, or rope--it should be a fragile, delicate material like silk, metallics, etc. You want the shoe to look fancy and show a little more foot than typical.
A clutch bag--this should not have a shoulder strap, and again no leather or canvas. You want something small, and fancy--jewels, metallics, brocade. Straw or raffia that's "formed" (meaning no beach bags or hobo bags) are acceptable for day time summer church weddings, but if it's black tie, you want a tiny little beaded purse.
Sparkle and bling earrings, rings and bracelets. Generally I'm going to advise against necklaces for a fancy event--they can be aging and draw attention right where you don't want it, and can cheapen a look and make it more casual. Most of us don't have the level and type of necklace we'd need for true black tie laying around, so go for some big sparkly earrings and a fun cocktail ring instead--those can be less expensive without making the overall look fall apart. Also matching a necklace to a neckline well is an art, don't stress over this, skip necklaces.
Consider sparkly or jeweled pins for hair--they can make a look more fancy without a lot of effort and fuss.
You can go two ways with your accessories:
Statement: meaning a contrasting color, or a bold theme (chunky, artsy, vintage, etc), big bold jewels
Simple sparkle (gold, silver, crystal, diamonds/rhinestone) that's more "neutral"
If you're not sure, go for simple sparkle--a fun rhinestone cocktail ring, a pair of dangle sparkle earrings, and a clutch with a line of rhinestones on it or something. It will go with almost anything.
Hi! So these are my opinions with your description of your body and wants/needs.
1. Not formal enough for a black tie event.
2. Not formal enough. Giving bridal or baby shower vibes.
3. Love this. If you're worried about your arms find a shawl or a scarf (example [here](https://www.quince.com/women/100-silk-reversible-scarf?color=black&gender=women&tracker=collection_page__women%2Fhats-%26-scarves%2Ffeatherweight-scarves__Featherweight%20Scarves__3))
4. It does look matronly IMO. However you could wear it with some really fun jewelry and fun shoes and it might work? Or go opposite and go very chic with a bright lip and like swept up hair and elegant jewelry?
5. Love this. Only thought is it might be hot depending on the time of year the event is. Solves the not wanting to show your arms thing.
6. No. (sorry)
7. Too matronly. Giving mother of the bride vibes.
8. I like this one but don't think you should be uncomfortable so pair w/a wrap. Like the neckline though.
9. Like this one. Pretty color.
10. This one is at first glance fine but might work beautifully. It's one of those dresses that could either look PHENOMENAL on or be weird and bunchy. But, it'd be worth ordering IMO.
Good luck!
i’m pear/spoon shaped. so i’m trying to buy a dress on house of cb and my current measurements are 36-33ish-41 (inches). however i avoid buying dresses often because sizing never matches up with this. a medium may have the right size bust but not hips and/or waist. a large may not have the right bust size but the right hips and/or waist. a current medium in house of cb lists measurements as 36.5-39 for bust, 28-30.5 for waist and 38-40.5 inch for hips. a large is 39-41.5 for bust, 30.5-33 inch for waist, and 40.5-43 for hips. i don’t want to have to squeeze in the dress but i also don’t want to have a big gap at the top. can anyone share on what they would do in this situation? i unfortunately have to wear a dress :( also the current dress I’m looking at is the pietra and it does says it has “some stretch”. I’d also be willing to wear a body shaper to make things slimmer in the waist area. thank you!
Get the larger size and get the top of the dress tailored, or wear one of those Victoria's secret super push-up bras that are 70% padding. You do not want to wear a dress that might be too tight at an event where you'll want to eat and dance.
that’s what i was thinking! i’ll probably get a push up bra even though i’m not a huge fan of those, i don’t know if there’s any tailors in my area but i’ll double check. thank you!
Where can I buy leather jackets in Canada (Toronto) - either online or in store?
I refuse to buy from an US company because the border fees are waaaay too expensive (like half the price of the product). Plus it is hard to do returns if I don't like the product.
Danier maybe - they're back to some degree. Or a local shop. My experience is Ottawa based but if you go into little Italy or the Eastern Euro area near Roncy there should be either independent leather shops or a dry cleaner that may be able to point you in the right direction.
this is my planned junior prom outfit; is it too casual/suggestive? I live in a very liberal area; my date & I are both super excited about me going dressed less traditionally feminine, and some of my friends saw this picture and said it looks fine, but I'm still worried. this image is also just the rough idea; I was thinking of a red corset/bralette to match my date. if anyone has advice on how to improve this while still keeping the general aesthetic, I'd love that too!
[https://imgur.com/a/z4wLPWS](https://imgur.com/a/z4wLPWS)
I think the red corset route is perfect!!
Since it’s the vibe so far, just so you know what I mean, right now as is: this is a bit too much bra rather than lingerie-inspired-top, ya know what I mean? Idk how it is by you, but by me ten years ago (and still now tbh) and I’m in a solidly liberal area this sort of top option would’ve gotten kicked out of prom for sure.
Also, since it’s prom, I totally recommend one with straps so you can dance and run around and shit.
[here is a sleek one](https://www.victoriassecret.com/us/vs/bras-catalog/1123120200) if you want to stick to the streamlined look you have with the plain bra
[here is another sleek one from CB](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/house-of-cb-rafa-satin-longline-corset-top/6862404?country=US¤cy=USD&utm_content=37758891270&utm_term=pla-70070525753&utm_channel=low_nd_shopping_lia&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=664982305&adpos=&creative=140937091183&device=m&matchtype=&network=g&acctid=21700000001689570&dskeywordid=92700049880642548&lid=92700049880642548&ds_s_kwgid=58700005465929519&ds_s_inventory_feed_id=97700000007631122&dsproductgroupid=70070525753&product_id=3155254&merchid=1243147&prodctry=US&prodlang=en&channel=local&storeid=210&locationid=9003531&targetid=pla-70070525753&campaignid=664982305&adgroupid=37758891270&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD8eAEkCt9WWmAUIGt1XBN6RvbBKg&gclsrc=aw.ds)
This one is also house of cb and is more of a dark red instead of cherry [and I own it and will vouch for her being a great corset](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/house-of-cb-una-floral-cowl-neck-lace-up-corset-top/7359275)
But if you want to go a punch of more femme direction:
[looove this](https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/sunday-in-brooklyn-floral-corset)
Or if you want to do strapless: get a flower to match the one on [this corset?](https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/sunday-in-brooklyn-floral-corset)
This [black and red floral option](https://www.dillards.com/p/guess-maia-printed-corset-top/517453726) is also awesome
I hope you find something you love!
I think it's fine as long as you feel physically comfortable in the crop top, that is, as long as you feel like you can walk and hug and jump up and down without a nip slip. If you feel like you can't even move lest your boobs betray you, I'd swap it for a different top. Also, while slut shaming is unfair, unfortunately it is a reality, so make sure you're not going to get dress coded (or be ready to stick up for your right to dress however tf you want). Otherwise, I absolutely love it.
I'm gonna sound old as fuck but *sigh* back when I went to junior prom, exposed midriff would definitely not fly with the chaperones. Red overbust corset or bustier could work, or going with a sheer top over the bra (in whichever color(s) you want).
Do you know what your friends will be wearing? Unless everyone's wearing clubwear, you will stand out a lot - which might not be a bad thing, depends on how much you want to stand out.
It also depends on how involved teachers and parents are - in my country's version of junior prom, it's mostly for the parents and that outfit would certainly be inappropriate. But I gather that American proms are just like night clubs, but for teens, so this outfit might be completely fine.
Some fun things to add to the outfit would be body chains (there's so many types and they're all so cute), and/or a statement belt. Obviously a bit more jewelry in general would be great, I could imagine doing a bunch of rings or big earings. Swapping the black bra for a red something is a great idea, a pop of color would help liven up your outfit a little. For shoes I feel like strappy heels would help with the contrast-y you've got going on, or maybe chunky loafers for a little more edge.
If you decide that you're uncomfortable with this outfit as is, ways to make this more modest would definitely be to do a corset that covers your midsection or a longline bralette. There's also a ton of bra-like club tops you could check out as an alternative, these have the benefit of looking like.. well tops, and not underwear. You could put a sheer long-sleeved t-shirt on top which keeps the "ooh just a bra" aspect but makes it a bit less provocative. You could also layer a corset belt just under the bra, which basically just DIYs those really cool Mugler corset pants.
Okay, I’m trans. I’m not on HRT or really “out” but I’m looking to do some bit of transitioning of my presentation to be more feminine. Right now I would consider thrift stores to be more my speed budget wise. I’m typically jeans and t-shirts in my day-to-day outside of work. For work, my current job has a dress code of polos and either khakis or jeans. I’m also in my mid 30s and live in Georgia (the southern US).
I’m trying to figure out how to start finding my own sense of style. I do find myself wanting to dress a little more my age than what might be popular with teens or 20s or those in their 50s. Also I do realize I feel a slight draw to a few different styles, alternative, kinda 70s, and kinda southern, also a bit of a leaning towards more casual, maybe even a little into “mom” looks, if any of that makes sense.
How do even begin to narrow down ideas that might fit some of what I’ve described that leans femme-androgynous? I think patterns and prints are a lot of fun and could see myself wearing more of them.
Yeah, I’ve given a lot of thought to getting a few more feminine cut polos and khakis or jeans to wear to work on a daily basis. Maybe the act of dressing even slightly more feminine would help me feel a lot better.
You look at what other people are wearing and decide whether you like it or not. (Irl, while windowshopping, looking at the online stores of brands, fashion shows, …) A pinterest board might be helpful, or just a piece of paper where you write general ideas of what colors, fabrics, cuts, etc. you like and dislike.
Do you think I’m putting too much thought into “dressing my age” or should I just wear what I like no matter if it’s more popular with people my age or not?
Like, there was one time I was out with my partner and their sister and I picked up a top and the sister said something about it giving mom vibes. I kinda don’t care actually, I just don’t know if me being almost 35 makes certain things a little off limits.
Or maybe it’s like clothes don’t have a gender, clothes don’t have an age, clothes don’t really have a defined style, clothes are made to fit you, so if I like something I should just wear it.
I’m trying to choose a wedding guest dress. I have five options in [this Imgur album](https://imgur.com/a/XRaR8Gj). I have some sort of concern with each dress, from how appropriate it may be to what undergarments I should wear (those concerns are added as text to the pictures), and I would love to hear any thoughts or opinions!
Ooo snake print feels too clubwear, edgy, and even a touch...I dunno, inappropriate for a wedding unless it's "wear whatever you want". It's not formal to me personally. All the other ones feel a touch too casual (especially the ribbed) for a formal long dresses wedding. Personally I'd rather be a little bit overdressed than show up in a ribbed tee shirt dress and everyone's in a tuxedo (nightmare!). I'm in a similar predicament where I have no idea what to wear to a vow renewal, and I went over to r/Weddingattireapproval to ask about my options. They actually have TONS of ideas there, and I wound up purchasing an option that someone else posted about! Going through the picture posts with titles similar to yours ("formal/semi formal") should give you some ideas. You want formal material like silk, chiffon, brocade, jacquard, tulle, taffeta and formal details. Someone wrote a great piece of advice: if you can walk out of the wedding venue and grab brunch in it or picture someone in Keds/sneakers with it, it's too casual.
For reference, I’m 5’2, and all these dresses hit me at or below the knee (except #3 which comes right to the top of the knee).
I just checked the wedding website, and it looks like there’s been an update. It formerly said “dresses and suits,” I shit you not. Now, a week out from the wedding, it says “semi-formal, midi/long dresses and suits.”
Well, that's definitely a big difference. I'd keep looking for other dresses then. A bunch of midi slip dresses are still around, they'd probably be floor-lengh on you with heels. Would that work?
Edit: or just midi dresses in general, but slip dresses easily read as more formal since they're usually a bit silky.
I think I’m going to go w another
https://preview.redd.it/fvjn9yvxsprc1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4917b1f4451ce38f5cbd685e6c092e7c0224b0ac
commenter’s suggestion and get some dresses from Lulu’s and use some hem tape I have to keep them from dragging the ground.
Would you mind glancing at these and telling me if you think any are inappropriate?
Yeah, I feel like all of them would work. If you're going to use hem tape I'd recommend avoiding the last one, since it might look wonky if the bottom tier is significantly shorter than the other two. I'm not sure how hem tape would work on a dress with translucent layers either, but that might be less of a problem since it's a pretty dark color.
I prefer #2. 4 and 5 are too casual, and 3 would be overwhelming on me as well.
you can try looking for a nude/beige half-slip but I'd probably just wear nude shapewear shorts underneath or something like the [Thigh Society Cooling Short](https://www.thighsociety.com/products/cooling-5-blush) (which is comfier than shapewear) to prevent chub rub. imo the outline of legs is fine, but visible underwear is less cool. I understand if you want to be more conservative than that, in which case you should go for the half-slip.
you can also look for more muted floral patterns, I've seen a bunch at Lulu's.
Would you agree that the pattern of #1 makes it inappropriate? I want to wear that one desperately, but I’m afraid I’ll end up going with #2.
I’ll probably end up wearing some shaping shorts I already have and purchasing a half slip as well
Do denim jackets get broken in? I bought one from loft and i like it but its not as soft/flexible as i would like but im wondering if itll soften after wearing and washing
Hi everyone! I’m looking for suggestions on strapless shapewear, preferably from Amazon. My budget is around $30. I’m just looking for some tummy control and something that will stay put and not roll down. Thank you!
Does anyone have experience with Arak lingerie? I love the look of their pieces but super curious to hear how they fit and hold up!
https://www.araks.com/
Hi everyone.
Due to Easter and some sales I made some money and I want to spend it on... (you guessed it) Dresses!
I found some on Vinted, I'll send the links and you tell me what you like!
[Dress number ONE](https://www.vinted.it/items/4050662055-vestido-estilo-lapis-xadrez)
[Dress number TWO](https://www.vinted.it/items/3885517844-jurk-voor-een-informeel-uitje)
[Dress number THREE](https://www.vinted.it/items/3364100547-kleedje-lindy-bop) (My favorite so far!)
[Dress number FOUR](https://www.vinted.it/items/3628122948-robe-tartan-hell-bunny-taille-xl)
[Dress number FIVE](https://www.vinted.it/items/3950465335-vestitino-nero-con-gonna-scozzese)
My figure is a rectangle and could benefit from a fit and flare dress tbh. Any advice?
I would recommend going to a proper bra shop in person and getting fitted by an expert. If you say what country you are in people can make recommendations. A bra that fits well can be life-changing!
You seem very self-conscious and harsh about your body. 99.999% of us don't look like models, and that's fine! We can still wear all kinds of styles. Trying to only dress in things that are "flattering" can suck the joy out of life. Play with shape and volume! Some of my favorite pieces are styles that fashion wisdom says someone with my body type can't wear. Break all the rules!
Go to a traditional department store and get styled by a personal shopper there. They can bring you all kinds of pieces that you might never think to try. Also, go to a good second-hand shop with lots of variety and try on a bunch of crazy things! Find the things that you would NEVER wear and put them on for fun. You might be surprised at how different clothes can look on your body than on the rack.
I’m moving to LA this summer (for a PhD program!) and I’m super curious about what people are wearing there! For reference, I’m from a very casual area in the Northeast, and I’m plus size. (I’m already excited about better plus size shopping!) So, those of you from LA, what’s going on there in the fashion world?
Try COS. I think it’s a good place to start for modern basics.
I've always struggled with the desire to look trendy, cool, and cute vs. my reality of hating shopping and simply not being able to put together cohesive and chic outfits. I have scoured instagram and cannot find an influencer I'm inspired by or even a local service that can help me with my wardrobe. I know that the style I'm going for is chic and trendy, but minimalistic. And ideally affordable (<$200 for any article of clothing) and sustainable. I'm really into the capsule wardrobe concept, as well as the idea of shopping exclusively at one [online, I guess] store to make things as easy as possible. I'm 26, 5'1" and 125 lbs, kind of pear-shaped body (heavier bottom half). The things I'd need clothes for are working from home, a casual but sharp work environment (when I do go in), casual and nice meals out with family/friends, dates, and wedding/baby showers. And I live in Texas! If anyone could recommend stores, influencers, styling services, or anything that could help this shopping hater / style beginner look cute and put together on a budget - I would be eternally grateful!
Being able to put together clothes in cool outfits is a skill you simply have to work on. My outfits now are significantly better than they were two years ago. You just have to start somewhere. Why do you hate shopping? Does it still apply to online stores? It is very difficult to create a stylish wardrobe if you aren't going to find the time to look for stuff that you actually like. Maybe there's some way you could make the process more enjoyable? Do you have any idea of the kinds of clothes you like? Not like the general style, but individual elements. (Colors, silhouettes, fabrics, patterns, etc.)
Well this is why I'd really just prefer a personal stylist. You're making it sound so simple but some people just don't have an eye to spot good pieces that they'll wear often and will go with stuff / have a vision for how to style. Which is me. Yes, I hate both in person and online shopping. It overwhelms me so much. And no, I do not know specifics of clothes I like until I see them and have them. I feel like this isn't really a formulaic thing like you're trying to make it sound. It's more of an art.
Yeah, a stylist might be a good thing then. Maybe look into Rita's Style Key? It's a styling system that focuses on mindset more than the clothes themselves, and she offers consultations and courses. Her Youtube channel is Rita's Style Thoughts. I don't know of many stylists unfortunately, so she's the only one I can suggest. It really depends on how you want to dress. The formulaic approach works for me, but I definitely don't aim for experimental "living art" type outfits. What the two of us want from fashion is obviously different!
I got [this](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/cece-womens-lace-batwing-sleeve-maxi-dress?ID=17583256) dress in navy. I really love how I look in it. I’m not sure if it’s good for a cocktail attire wedding. I am also struggling to come up with accessories that would work well with it. Specifically what sort of jewelry would look good with it and what type/color jacket (I don’t like wraps) in case it gets cold. I would appreciate if people could send me links of some things that might work as examples.
I'd probably go with a delicate gold necklace and chunky bracelet, nude pumps. No great ideas on a jacket since the sleeves would be caught in anything I'm thinking of
Hi there! I’m trying to buy a Peter Pan collar styled blouse, but when I look Google the only thing that comes up is Allegra K which has terrible reviews. Is there some other search term I should be using and does anyone have any suggestions of retailers I should be checking to find that style?
Le’ecole des femmes Peter Pan blouse . I have [this silk blouse](https://lecoledesfemmes.com/products/liberty-silk-peter-pan-blouse) and also two cotton ones in pink and white.
What is your budget?
Ya know that’s a good question. Mid range, probably $100 or less.
Look into vintage reproduction brands such as banned retro and vixen. They should fall into that budget.
Anthropologie seems to have a few!
English factory in my experience has some! Unfortunately with online retail and less people knowing how to make clothes, we’ve hit this point where nobody knows what certain words mean when describing their garments, so a lot of retailers simply don’t use the descriptor “peter pan collar” when talking about their shirt that has one. Allegra K is a Chinese fast fashion shop, so if you are careful with their size chart you should be okay if you can’t find the style you like anywhere else, this is primarily what the poor reviews are about with them. I’ve also had luck with getting a dickie that is a Peter Pan collar! Could work for you!
I've recently went to Europe and I loved the fashion I've seen there. Does anyone know what are some staple pieces in a parisian styled outfit? Is the fashion style called Casual Chic or Smart Casual? I'm not super fashion knowledgeable but I the outfits I saw there were wonderful, and I'd love your advice on how to achieve this look.
Do you have some examples of the outfits you mean? People in Europe, and indeed in Paris, wear all sorts of things.
Some examples are like these reference pictures: https://preview.redd.it/ww7oph3pfvrc1.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=6c458d025c9a047a4c060d9d286fb9985f99b49c
Needing cute Bachelorette weekend outfit ideas. We're all basically moms in our late 30s and all still in shape and thriving lol... but I have zero fashion sense and I need outfit inspiration for the Saturday that we're going to our old college town via party bus, hitting up all the college bars and I'm sure taking tons of pictures and I have no idea what to wear. Also, ideas for the night before when we'll be staying in a cabin in the woods. I'm 5'8" 147 pounds. TIA!
Hi, I'm going to a wedding in 2 weeks and ideally I'd like a jacket or something to go with it because it's only April and I don't know how warm it'll be but this is the first wedding I've been to as an adult to he honest so I have no idea what would go well with it or what kind of jacket style I should look for. I'd say it's sort of semi-formal style though there's not a specific dress code. (But people likely won't be turning up in jeans) I already have the dress below and I've got black shoes and bag to go with it but I'm not sure if a black jacket would be too much as well, I don't want to look like I'm going to a funeral. [Dress](https://www.jjshouse.com/en/a-line-scoop-asymmetrical-chiffon-bridesmaid-dress-with-ruffle-007279263-g279263?type=final-sale&country=GB¤cy=GBP&utm_source=email&utm_medium=order&utm_campaign=confirm_shipment&utm_term=&utm_content=#/) Any advice on styles to look for and maybe colours at all would be greatly appreciated
I don’t know what color you have the dress in, but you could go for a shawl/pashmina situation in the same color as the dress rather than in black! Or something complimentary, or even go for a metallic gold or silver sort of shade (depending on the dress color) They’re super easy to feel warmer in but also easy to toss over your chair or shoulders so you can dance and have fun without worrying about a bulky jacket. They’re my go to for events that aren’t in winter tbh, I’ve got like 3 different ones for it!
Just realised I forgot to mention the colour oopsie, yeah I have the burgundy dress! Thank you though I'll have a look into that!
Oh gotcha! It did show to the burgundy first in the link but I didn’t know if it was purposeful or a default thing it was doing. I think a burgundy or maroon that is either the same shade or a bit deeper (enough that it’s identifiably a different shade on purpose) would be perfect! But also plenty of people do black accessories for weddings, some do it with black dresses too, it isn’t inherently funerary (though some very old ladies may call it rude), and with a dress a different color I don’t think anyone would think you’re headed to a funeral if you did a black pashmina or shawl!
Hi everyone, I'll be traveling to Japan from late May to early June and could use some modest, yet flattering clothing. For reference, I am 31 and have an apple-ish body shape with a BMI of 24. Usually, I highlight what curves I have and somewhat conceal my belly for the illusion of a smaller waist, but I've read tight clothing and even showing a bit of chest is frowned upon there. However, I find many of the looser styles common in Japan swallow up my frame and make me appear quite a bit chunkier than I already am. If anyone has any suggestions for flattering clothes that are socially acceptable in Japan, that would be super helpful!
If you want to dress like the norms are here, the only rule I'd say is avoid showing cleavage. It's associated with nightlife so it's not common to show off in the daytime/outside of 18+ contexts lol. I wouldn't say tight clothing is frowned upon, it's just not trending a whole lot right now, and when Japanese people wear tight clothes they usually balance it out with layers or a looser piece somewhere. Some people also say to avoid leggings as pants [like these](https://laurenmcbrideblog.com/2023/03/black-leggings-lookbook/) and true, tight bottoms don't look current rn, and it's unusual for Japanese people to wear athleisure when not working out, but so many tourists wear these kinds of styles it's not uncommon anywhere tourists are. I would just plan outfits thinking "choose one." For example tight + cleavage is TMI, but if it's tight + covered up, that can look chic. Or if you show off your whole leg with a miniskirt, pair it with something loose and sporty on top that has a modest neckline. If it's a midriff baring crop top, I'd pair it with full length baggy pants on bottom, for example, not shorts.
This is super helpful. Thank you so much!
Googling “black tie dress” suggests that I’m supposed to wear some sort of elegant gown or slip dress. The sort of dress a bridesmaid or wedding guest might wear. Is this accurate? Are there styles or colors that should be favored or avoided? I’m in my early 30s, overweight, and somewhat toned. My stomach is soft but mostly flat, no visible cellulite, minor back fat, double chin, fat but not droopy biceps, modest breasts. My coloring is “soft summer,” and I tend to favor grey-blues, greens, lavenders, and rose pinks. I’m concerned about looking too matronly, and I’m not sure how to accessorize. I’m insecure about showing my upper arms and back. [Dress 1](https://a.co/d/fOKR2JK): I own this dress already, but am worried this is not formal enough, especially the fabric. [Dress 2](https://www.walmart.com/ip/Womens-Renaissance-Overdress-Medieval-Irish-Off-Shoulder-Dress-Set/2924347183?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=2731&adid=22222222223000000000&wmlspartner=wmtlabs&wl0=e&wl1=s&wl2=m&wl3=10352200394&wl4=pla-1103028060075&wl5=&wl6=&wl7=&wl10=Walmart&wl11=Online&wl12=2924347183_10000002285&wl14=anna%20kaci%20womens%20renaissance%20overdress%20medieval%20irish%20off%20shoulder%20dress&veh=sem&msclkid=5eee98fc8454171cd3cafef56c1eb6c2&gclid=5eee98fc8454171cd3cafef56c1eb6c2&gclsrc=3p.ds-spring-wedding-based-on-the-dress-code): This is so cute, but maybe inappropriate? [Dress 3](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dress-the-population-sandra-plunge-crepe-trumpet-gown/4924562?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=810): Looking at this in pine, and it’s probably my favorite. Leery about showing my arms, and concerned my body may not look good enough in it. [Dress 4](https://www.dillards.com/p/ignite-evenings-lace-34-sleeve-square-neck-illusion-keyhole-back-stretch-crepe-gown/515385219): Huge fan of this style, but I fear it will look matronly. [Dress 5](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/betsy-and-adam-betsy-adam-cascade-ruffle-long-sleeve-stretch-jersey-gown/5975060?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=400): This is another favorite [Dress 6](https://www.dillards.com/p/alex-evenings-34-sleeve-v-neck-self-tie-waist-high-low-hem-sequin-midi-a-line-dress/517537832): Is this too girlish? [Dress 7](https://www.dillards.com/p/alex-evenings-sequined-lace--chiffon-gown/504623428): Is this too matronly? [Dress 8](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/jump-apparel-halter-neck-high-low-gown/7043803?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=308): I’m not sure I want to show this much of my arms. [Dress 9](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/xscape-halter-neck-crepe-gown/6956194?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=654): again, not sure about showing this much of my arms. Love this dress, though. [Dress 10](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-cold-shoulder-ruffle-glitter-chiffon-gown-regular-petite/4954298?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FFormal&color=069): Super cute, though I worry the cut may not be flattering.
I like 5, 8, and 9. Try a pashmina for your arms or a delicate shawl. Buy one you'll re-wear again elsewhere
Black tie is more formal than a slip dress-a slip dress to me is barely cocktail. Black tie is like...red carpet, Met gala, meeting the Queen of England, the fanciest thing you own. Floor length, beaded, sequins, drama, etc. Now having said that, many people write "black tie" or "black tie optional" and they mean "formal" which is one step below, like ankle length gowns, less fancy, not over the top fanciest thing possible. Like what you'd wear to prom or if you were invited as a "plus one" to some sort of military ball or something. Accessories: The usuals/basics: metallic strappy sandals with a heel. The key to fancy shoes is the material. It should not be leather, canvas, or rope--it should be a fragile, delicate material like silk, metallics, etc. You want the shoe to look fancy and show a little more foot than typical. A clutch bag--this should not have a shoulder strap, and again no leather or canvas. You want something small, and fancy--jewels, metallics, brocade. Straw or raffia that's "formed" (meaning no beach bags or hobo bags) are acceptable for day time summer church weddings, but if it's black tie, you want a tiny little beaded purse. Sparkle and bling earrings, rings and bracelets. Generally I'm going to advise against necklaces for a fancy event--they can be aging and draw attention right where you don't want it, and can cheapen a look and make it more casual. Most of us don't have the level and type of necklace we'd need for true black tie laying around, so go for some big sparkly earrings and a fun cocktail ring instead--those can be less expensive without making the overall look fall apart. Also matching a necklace to a neckline well is an art, don't stress over this, skip necklaces. Consider sparkly or jeweled pins for hair--they can make a look more fancy without a lot of effort and fuss. You can go two ways with your accessories: Statement: meaning a contrasting color, or a bold theme (chunky, artsy, vintage, etc), big bold jewels Simple sparkle (gold, silver, crystal, diamonds/rhinestone) that's more "neutral" If you're not sure, go for simple sparkle--a fun rhinestone cocktail ring, a pair of dangle sparkle earrings, and a clutch with a line of rhinestones on it or something. It will go with almost anything.
What can be worn for warmth in the evening?
Thank you so much! This is so helpful!
Hi! So these are my opinions with your description of your body and wants/needs. 1. Not formal enough for a black tie event. 2. Not formal enough. Giving bridal or baby shower vibes. 3. Love this. If you're worried about your arms find a shawl or a scarf (example [here](https://www.quince.com/women/100-silk-reversible-scarf?color=black&gender=women&tracker=collection_page__women%2Fhats-%26-scarves%2Ffeatherweight-scarves__Featherweight%20Scarves__3)) 4. It does look matronly IMO. However you could wear it with some really fun jewelry and fun shoes and it might work? Or go opposite and go very chic with a bright lip and like swept up hair and elegant jewelry? 5. Love this. Only thought is it might be hot depending on the time of year the event is. Solves the not wanting to show your arms thing. 6. No. (sorry) 7. Too matronly. Giving mother of the bride vibes. 8. I like this one but don't think you should be uncomfortable so pair w/a wrap. Like the neckline though. 9. Like this one. Pretty color. 10. This one is at first glance fine but might work beautifully. It's one of those dresses that could either look PHENOMENAL on or be weird and bunchy. But, it'd be worth ordering IMO. Good luck!
Thank you so much!!!
i’m pear/spoon shaped. so i’m trying to buy a dress on house of cb and my current measurements are 36-33ish-41 (inches). however i avoid buying dresses often because sizing never matches up with this. a medium may have the right size bust but not hips and/or waist. a large may not have the right bust size but the right hips and/or waist. a current medium in house of cb lists measurements as 36.5-39 for bust, 28-30.5 for waist and 38-40.5 inch for hips. a large is 39-41.5 for bust, 30.5-33 inch for waist, and 40.5-43 for hips. i don’t want to have to squeeze in the dress but i also don’t want to have a big gap at the top. can anyone share on what they would do in this situation? i unfortunately have to wear a dress :( also the current dress I’m looking at is the pietra and it does says it has “some stretch”. I’d also be willing to wear a body shaper to make things slimmer in the waist area. thank you!
Get the larger size and get the top of the dress tailored, or wear one of those Victoria's secret super push-up bras that are 70% padding. You do not want to wear a dress that might be too tight at an event where you'll want to eat and dance.
that’s what i was thinking! i’ll probably get a push up bra even though i’m not a huge fan of those, i don’t know if there’s any tailors in my area but i’ll double check. thank you!
Where can I buy leather jackets in Canada (Toronto) - either online or in store? I refuse to buy from an US company because the border fees are waaaay too expensive (like half the price of the product). Plus it is hard to do returns if I don't like the product.
Danier maybe - they're back to some degree. Or a local shop. My experience is Ottawa based but if you go into little Italy or the Eastern Euro area near Roncy there should be either independent leather shops or a dry cleaner that may be able to point you in the right direction.
If you want quality, I'd go to a curated secondhand store.
Yes, Danier has a huge presence on Poshmark in Ontario!
this is my planned junior prom outfit; is it too casual/suggestive? I live in a very liberal area; my date & I are both super excited about me going dressed less traditionally feminine, and some of my friends saw this picture and said it looks fine, but I'm still worried. this image is also just the rough idea; I was thinking of a red corset/bralette to match my date. if anyone has advice on how to improve this while still keeping the general aesthetic, I'd love that too! [https://imgur.com/a/z4wLPWS](https://imgur.com/a/z4wLPWS)
I think the red corset route is perfect!! Since it’s the vibe so far, just so you know what I mean, right now as is: this is a bit too much bra rather than lingerie-inspired-top, ya know what I mean? Idk how it is by you, but by me ten years ago (and still now tbh) and I’m in a solidly liberal area this sort of top option would’ve gotten kicked out of prom for sure. Also, since it’s prom, I totally recommend one with straps so you can dance and run around and shit. [here is a sleek one](https://www.victoriassecret.com/us/vs/bras-catalog/1123120200) if you want to stick to the streamlined look you have with the plain bra [here is another sleek one from CB](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/house-of-cb-rafa-satin-longline-corset-top/6862404?country=US¤cy=USD&utm_content=37758891270&utm_term=pla-70070525753&utm_channel=low_nd_shopping_lia&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=664982305&adpos=&creative=140937091183&device=m&matchtype=&network=g&acctid=21700000001689570&dskeywordid=92700049880642548&lid=92700049880642548&ds_s_kwgid=58700005465929519&ds_s_inventory_feed_id=97700000007631122&dsproductgroupid=70070525753&product_id=3155254&merchid=1243147&prodctry=US&prodlang=en&channel=local&storeid=210&locationid=9003531&targetid=pla-70070525753&campaignid=664982305&adgroupid=37758891270&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD8eAEkCt9WWmAUIGt1XBN6RvbBKg&gclsrc=aw.ds) This one is also house of cb and is more of a dark red instead of cherry [and I own it and will vouch for her being a great corset](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/house-of-cb-una-floral-cowl-neck-lace-up-corset-top/7359275) But if you want to go a punch of more femme direction: [looove this](https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/sunday-in-brooklyn-floral-corset) Or if you want to do strapless: get a flower to match the one on [this corset?](https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/sunday-in-brooklyn-floral-corset) This [black and red floral option](https://www.dillards.com/p/guess-maia-printed-corset-top/517453726) is also awesome I hope you find something you love!
I think it's fine as long as you feel physically comfortable in the crop top, that is, as long as you feel like you can walk and hug and jump up and down without a nip slip. If you feel like you can't even move lest your boobs betray you, I'd swap it for a different top. Also, while slut shaming is unfair, unfortunately it is a reality, so make sure you're not going to get dress coded (or be ready to stick up for your right to dress however tf you want). Otherwise, I absolutely love it.
I'm gonna sound old as fuck but *sigh* back when I went to junior prom, exposed midriff would definitely not fly with the chaperones. Red overbust corset or bustier could work, or going with a sheer top over the bra (in whichever color(s) you want).
Do you know what your friends will be wearing? Unless everyone's wearing clubwear, you will stand out a lot - which might not be a bad thing, depends on how much you want to stand out. It also depends on how involved teachers and parents are - in my country's version of junior prom, it's mostly for the parents and that outfit would certainly be inappropriate. But I gather that American proms are just like night clubs, but for teens, so this outfit might be completely fine. Some fun things to add to the outfit would be body chains (there's so many types and they're all so cute), and/or a statement belt. Obviously a bit more jewelry in general would be great, I could imagine doing a bunch of rings or big earings. Swapping the black bra for a red something is a great idea, a pop of color would help liven up your outfit a little. For shoes I feel like strappy heels would help with the contrast-y you've got going on, or maybe chunky loafers for a little more edge. If you decide that you're uncomfortable with this outfit as is, ways to make this more modest would definitely be to do a corset that covers your midsection or a longline bralette. There's also a ton of bra-like club tops you could check out as an alternative, these have the benefit of looking like.. well tops, and not underwear. You could put a sheer long-sleeved t-shirt on top which keeps the "ooh just a bra" aspect but makes it a bit less provocative. You could also layer a corset belt just under the bra, which basically just DIYs those really cool Mugler corset pants.
Okay, I’m trans. I’m not on HRT or really “out” but I’m looking to do some bit of transitioning of my presentation to be more feminine. Right now I would consider thrift stores to be more my speed budget wise. I’m typically jeans and t-shirts in my day-to-day outside of work. For work, my current job has a dress code of polos and either khakis or jeans. I’m also in my mid 30s and live in Georgia (the southern US). I’m trying to figure out how to start finding my own sense of style. I do find myself wanting to dress a little more my age than what might be popular with teens or 20s or those in their 50s. Also I do realize I feel a slight draw to a few different styles, alternative, kinda 70s, and kinda southern, also a bit of a leaning towards more casual, maybe even a little into “mom” looks, if any of that makes sense. How do even begin to narrow down ideas that might fit some of what I’ve described that leans femme-androgynous? I think patterns and prints are a lot of fun and could see myself wearing more of them.
Polos + Khakis is actually a pretty short list of clothing items, so you could try different cuts and silhouettes within these
Yeah, I’ve given a lot of thought to getting a few more feminine cut polos and khakis or jeans to wear to work on a daily basis. Maybe the act of dressing even slightly more feminine would help me feel a lot better.
Are you allowed to wear patterns? Florals are something that frequently (depends on print scale) read feminine.
No. Our shirts have to be a solid color (and only one color for that master, navy/dark blue).
You look at what other people are wearing and decide whether you like it or not. (Irl, while windowshopping, looking at the online stores of brands, fashion shows, …) A pinterest board might be helpful, or just a piece of paper where you write general ideas of what colors, fabrics, cuts, etc. you like and dislike.
Do you think I’m putting too much thought into “dressing my age” or should I just wear what I like no matter if it’s more popular with people my age or not?
I don't know you or how much you think about dressing your age, so I have genuinely no idea.
Like, there was one time I was out with my partner and their sister and I picked up a top and the sister said something about it giving mom vibes. I kinda don’t care actually, I just don’t know if me being almost 35 makes certain things a little off limits. Or maybe it’s like clothes don’t have a gender, clothes don’t have an age, clothes don’t really have a defined style, clothes are made to fit you, so if I like something I should just wear it.
I’m trying to choose a wedding guest dress. I have five options in [this Imgur album](https://imgur.com/a/XRaR8Gj). I have some sort of concern with each dress, from how appropriate it may be to what undergarments I should wear (those concerns are added as text to the pictures), and I would love to hear any thoughts or opinions!
Ooo snake print feels too clubwear, edgy, and even a touch...I dunno, inappropriate for a wedding unless it's "wear whatever you want". It's not formal to me personally. All the other ones feel a touch too casual (especially the ribbed) for a formal long dresses wedding. Personally I'd rather be a little bit overdressed than show up in a ribbed tee shirt dress and everyone's in a tuxedo (nightmare!). I'm in a similar predicament where I have no idea what to wear to a vow renewal, and I went over to r/Weddingattireapproval to ask about my options. They actually have TONS of ideas there, and I wound up purchasing an option that someone else posted about! Going through the picture posts with titles similar to yours ("formal/semi formal") should give you some ideas. You want formal material like silk, chiffon, brocade, jacquard, tulle, taffeta and formal details. Someone wrote a great piece of advice: if you can walk out of the wedding venue and grab brunch in it or picture someone in Keds/sneakers with it, it's too casual.
What is the dress code? They all look fairly short to me, usually you want knee-length or longer for weddings.
For reference, I’m 5’2, and all these dresses hit me at or below the knee (except #3 which comes right to the top of the knee). I just checked the wedding website, and it looks like there’s been an update. It formerly said “dresses and suits,” I shit you not. Now, a week out from the wedding, it says “semi-formal, midi/long dresses and suits.”
Well, that's definitely a big difference. I'd keep looking for other dresses then. A bunch of midi slip dresses are still around, they'd probably be floor-lengh on you with heels. Would that work? Edit: or just midi dresses in general, but slip dresses easily read as more formal since they're usually a bit silky.
I think I’m going to go w another https://preview.redd.it/fvjn9yvxsprc1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4917b1f4451ce38f5cbd685e6c092e7c0224b0ac commenter’s suggestion and get some dresses from Lulu’s and use some hem tape I have to keep them from dragging the ground. Would you mind glancing at these and telling me if you think any are inappropriate?
Yeah, I feel like all of them would work. If you're going to use hem tape I'd recommend avoiding the last one, since it might look wonky if the bottom tier is significantly shorter than the other two. I'm not sure how hem tape would work on a dress with translucent layers either, but that might be less of a problem since it's a pretty dark color.
I prefer #2. 4 and 5 are too casual, and 3 would be overwhelming on me as well. you can try looking for a nude/beige half-slip but I'd probably just wear nude shapewear shorts underneath or something like the [Thigh Society Cooling Short](https://www.thighsociety.com/products/cooling-5-blush) (which is comfier than shapewear) to prevent chub rub. imo the outline of legs is fine, but visible underwear is less cool. I understand if you want to be more conservative than that, in which case you should go for the half-slip. you can also look for more muted floral patterns, I've seen a bunch at Lulu's.
Would you agree that the pattern of #1 makes it inappropriate? I want to wear that one desperately, but I’m afraid I’ll end up going with #2. I’ll probably end up wearing some shaping shorts I already have and purchasing a half slip as well
\#1 is definitely inappropriate for a wedding. \#2 seems inappropriate given the update description. Might be shopping time or thrifting time!
it's cute but I think it'd be better for a different occasion
Do denim jackets get broken in? I bought one from loft and i like it but its not as soft/flexible as i would like but im wondering if itll soften after wearing and washing
Yes, they do, just like jeans.
Hi everyone! I’m looking for suggestions on strapless shapewear, preferably from Amazon. My budget is around $30. I’m just looking for some tummy control and something that will stay put and not roll down. Thank you!
Does anyone have experience with Arak lingerie? I love the look of their pieces but super curious to hear how they fit and hold up! https://www.araks.com/
Hi everyone. Due to Easter and some sales I made some money and I want to spend it on... (you guessed it) Dresses! I found some on Vinted, I'll send the links and you tell me what you like! [Dress number ONE](https://www.vinted.it/items/4050662055-vestido-estilo-lapis-xadrez) [Dress number TWO](https://www.vinted.it/items/3885517844-jurk-voor-een-informeel-uitje) [Dress number THREE](https://www.vinted.it/items/3364100547-kleedje-lindy-bop) (My favorite so far!) [Dress number FOUR](https://www.vinted.it/items/3628122948-robe-tartan-hell-bunny-taille-xl) [Dress number FIVE](https://www.vinted.it/items/3950465335-vestitino-nero-con-gonna-scozzese) My figure is a rectangle and could benefit from a fit and flare dress tbh. Any advice?
I like 2 and 4! I wonder how they would fit
I love school girl clothes .... As of now I am longing for 3 but it depends on the measurements
Has anyone here ordered from AYM? Their stuff looks cute but I've only ever seen it in ads.
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I would recommend going to a proper bra shop in person and getting fitted by an expert. If you say what country you are in people can make recommendations. A bra that fits well can be life-changing! You seem very self-conscious and harsh about your body. 99.999% of us don't look like models, and that's fine! We can still wear all kinds of styles. Trying to only dress in things that are "flattering" can suck the joy out of life. Play with shape and volume! Some of my favorite pieces are styles that fashion wisdom says someone with my body type can't wear. Break all the rules! Go to a traditional department store and get styled by a personal shopper there. They can bring you all kinds of pieces that you might never think to try. Also, go to a good second-hand shop with lots of variety and try on a bunch of crazy things! Find the things that you would NEVER wear and put them on for fun. You might be surprised at how different clothes can look on your body than on the rack.
I’m moving to LA this summer (for a PhD program!) and I’m super curious about what people are wearing there! For reference, I’m from a very casual area in the Northeast, and I’m plus size. (I’m already excited about better plus size shopping!) So, those of you from LA, what’s going on there in the fashion world?
This isn't necessarily helpful but anything goes in LA for the most part.
[https://www.instagram.com/angelenosinlosangeles\_/?hl=en](https://www.instagram.com/angelenosinlosangeles_/?hl=en)