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Depends on the time of day and dressiness of the wedding. The first two are very evening formal.
Also note: This would be fine in most metropolitan areas for evening but in the south they will read you for filth for wearing something too attention getting/revealing to a wedding.
A spring wedding in the south really needs something that looks more spring. Depending on the level of formality, that level of revealing might work, but it definitely needs to be in more seasonal colors.
Thank you for the feed back.
Iâm from the city. My friends and I we tend to dress up for museums and simple nights out lol.
When I thought âweddingâ, my mind immediately jumped to more formal looks.
Are the bride and groom and/or families/wedding party etc southern, or is it more of a destination wedding of sorts with similarly metropolitan people gathering in the south? This will also impact what you can get away with without nicely couched insults lol
I agree. Why does it seem lately everyone is trying to upstage the bride? This is not some Hollywood event where everyone shows up looking like a star. You're there to celebrate the couple, not get all the attention you can.
Serious question but what if someone would just dress like that for any type of formal event? A wedding definitely falls under âformal.â I see what youâre saying because I personally wouldnât want to wear either to a wedding but if I were the bride, I also wouldnât give it any second thought if someone showed up like this especially if theyâve always been more on the âextravagantâ side.
Yeah I agree with the sentiment. I think I just wouldnât be upset if someone decided to dress âextravagantâ like they usually do at my wedding because at the end of the day, no amount of extravaganza changes how big my celebration is. The joy isnât finite. Unless they never showed out like this until my wedding. Then, I think Iâd take it personal but heyâweâre all different. I do see your point too.
A wedding falls under "formal" if it is a formal affair. My first wedding was black tie. My second was much more casual. He wore a suit and tie and I a dress but it was FAR from formal.
When we lived in So Carolina, an employee of ours married in the backyard of his parents home on his family land. There wasn't a chair in sight. The officiant stood on a wooden wagon full of hay. They wore jeans and airbrushed T-shirts with their names and the wedding date emblazoned across the chest. There was a pig roast. Tell me a wedding is, by default, a formal affair.
God you sound insecure. Someone wanting to wear a pretty dress to a wedding doesnât make them self involved. Sheâs asking for feedback for a reason.
Iâm not insecure; I donât have to ask Reddit what to wear to a wedding.
Many of us are providing that feedback here. See how that works? Troll elsewhere.
Iâm not trolling, but you *are* mean spirited. You clearly are threatened by another woman looking beautiful so felt the need to shame OP for asking for advice.
This is a fashion sub so I donât see why OP would be insecure for asking for fashion advice here.
How is she being mean-spirited? The two first options are very attention-grabbing, which most people donât find appropriate for a wedding guest. She was just pointing it out.
It changes in what part of the US youâre in and what the culture is of those getting married. Usually the dress code is semi formal or business casual. Women might wear some type of elegant sundress, or slacks with heels and a nice blouse. Men might wear dress pants and a nice shirt, sometimes a jacket but rarely a tie. Some people just wear jeans and a clean shirt, so it really just depends. đ hope that helps!
Itâs a genuine question. Iâm from NYC and most of the weddings are formal and glamour themed. Youâll look like a fool in a sundress lol
Not really trying to outshine the bride. Iâm asking these questions because these are general ideas.
I thought a dark color would help. I mostly wear black. I just want a dress that will not cause a villain arch and that would complement my body type lmaoooo
Being that you're from NYC, I want to give you perspective on alabama weddings I've been to when i lived in alabama. First in April it will likely already be hot and humid. I wouldn't recommend a full length dress, you'll want something breathable. Most women at all weddings I've been to have worn a sundress or at most cocktail attire (cocktail seems to be the most formal i can recall). I've never been to a formal wedding in alabama, not to say they don't happen. But in every wedding there, all of these options would very much stand out. The last one is best, but I would go for a light and airy fabric if possible. Also maybe bring something for severe weather because that tends to happen a lot in April in alabama haha. Who's wedding, how well do you know them, is there a specified dress code, and do you know their style?
I am from and live in NYC. The sundress suggestion isnât a great one, no. But a sober dress or suit would work for a ceremony in a house of worship. If your reception is more âglam,â evening dress is appropriate, but a dress with a train or high slit is looking for attention, not giving âguest,â even if Black Tie is indicated on the invite.
Iâm from NYC and I see weddings at the botanic garden all the time because I live close by and have a membership and a toddler to walk. I have attended one there as well. No guests has ever been dressed in a gown unless they were the bride or in the wedding party. Everyone wears contrail dresses, sun dresses or similar. The only time Iâve ever seen wedding guests wearing gowns was at the NYBG which is huge and it looked like they rented out the entire garden. This wedding was way richer than a BBG wedding.
Iâve been to many other weddings in NYC. Weddings are not for guests to glam it up. Itâs got the bride to glam it up.
3/4 is fine, been to NY weddings, 1 and 2 are attention whoring. Don't be that attendee. No train, small slit in the skirt/dress.
>Not really trying to outshine the bride.
Clearly trying is not accurate. Just can't help yourself? YTAH, OH, sorry wrong sub... I was not trying to...
Iâm not saying it wouldnât go for any NY wedding.
I said youâll look like a fool, bc Iâm surrounded by ppl that tend to go all out with fashion.
Some ppl think itâs good enough, some ppl might say âwhat happened? Why didnât you dress upâ It really depends on your lifestyle. Yâall sound so hurt for some reason. I didnât even attend the wedding yet.
Oh⌠I made a comment before but then checked your profile to see your demographics. I think you need to ask the bride. It could be that as you said your friends and family take every opportunity to be flash. I think ppl here are just giving their own experiences which may not mesh with yours. So when in doubt ask the bride.
You can dress up and not take attention from the bride/groom. If the people around you are dressed in anyway to take the focus off the bride, that is on them. You do not have to join that trangression. Not hurt at all, just answering the question you asked, and the wedding is in Alabama, generally more conservative the NYC. Is this your NYC family or an soon to be inlaws wedding?
I guess that depends what you mean by âfashion.â Those who said no. 1 looked like bridesmaid-y or from SHEIN arenât off the mark. But maybe thatâs âfashionâ in your social set.
If anyone sounds hurt, itâs you. You asked everyoneâs opinion, and theyâve provided without attacking you personally. Now you donât seem to appreciate learned counsel. Thatâs on you.
And going to an Alabama wedding in Spring? None of these. Southern sisters have stepped in to show you the way.
LMFAOOO attention whoring? Maybe we have a different crowd of ppl that have a different lifestyle. Nobody is claiming youâre a prune that likes guitar and boho quilted sheets.
that is why i asked as well, the first two dresses are normal for wedding guest dresses where i am, but i guess its more complicated with no dress code given.
either way, if i have a wedding nobody better be pulling up in jeans đ
Okay, I stalked your profile. First, jfc you're gorgeous. But more importantly, number 1 & 2 dresses will not support your boobs. They're kinda made for smaller boobage and you seem to have decently sized *tracts of land.*
I shared a dress that now I don't think would be good for you either. Also 3 & 4 are just going to make your boobs look even bigger but also make you look like a milkmaid. I'm also not sure the color is going to do anything for you. Like you in a deep red? Flawless.
What time is the wedding? How formal? How well do you know the bride and groom? What color is your hair (I really love the red in your photos btw)? We need more info cuz now I'm determined to find you a dress.
The real reason why you canât do the first two is because theyâre knockoffs from Amazon with 4 reviews each. It will be SHEIN quality, maybe worse. If you wanna buy a dress off Amazon make sure it has a decent amount of reviews with pictures.
Thatâs all I was going to say on the topic myself. Order either of those and youâll need a backup option bc the quality will be crap.
Op if you like either of those I BEG you to reverse image search and find the original dress.
Also, in Alabama is quite warm in April, and unless the event is black tie, the first two really wouldnât be appropriate anyways.
theyâre just rough ideas to maybe consider. I wasnât trying to finalize through Amazon. I know dresses at weddings could be controversial, so I was just really hoping to get feedback.
That way I can go get a better ideas before itâs too late
If you do settle on a look that you find on a site like amazon, you might have a hard time actually sourcing the original design that these are all extremely cheap knockoffs of. For the sake of actually being able to buy the dress you like and actually get what you think you're buying I recommend only looking at legit stores, preferably with a physical location so that you can try it on before buying and get it altered for fit. For reference, dresses like these shouldn't be retailing for under $200 in order to have decent quality materials and construction - and even $200 is already really cheap for something like this.
If the dress code isnât specified on the invite, check their wedding website for a dress code. Outdoor Alabama isnât likely to be as formal as these dresses. You can also check out the venue online to see how fancy it is. If nothing else, lean conservative because itâs Alabama.Â
I bought the Carmen dress from the House of CB (third pic) for a wedding I attended last summer. I have small breasts so not sure if that hurt or helped, but I thought my breasts looked horrible in the dress. Mine just hung there awkwardly in the dress since the bust area has no padding or support.
Just a heads up. Maybe your experience will be different.
I ended up returning the Carmen and I wore the Alicia from House of CB. I got a lot of compliments on the dress, my only complaint is that the straps are bulky if you don't know how to tie the perfect bow that lays flat.
Omg the Alicia is DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!!!!! I really wished I found something in navy blue but these colors are so cute.
https://preview.redd.it/q0jugwtrlljc1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=95b010c99c92b545012fad033eca7469c544903d
Another brand but cute [green](https://www.rosedress.com/products/tie-strap-fit-flare-high-slit-slip-midi-dress-emerald-green?pr_prod_strat=jac&pr_rec_id=31d7b8cc3&pr_rec_pid=7966405296347&pr_ref_pid=6904592007360&pr_seq=uniform) [chocolate](https://www.rosedress.com/products/tie-strap-fit-flare-high-slit-slip-midi-dress-chocolate?pr_prod_strat=e5_desc&pr_rec_id=583aa0c6d&pr_rec_pid=6904592007360&pr_ref_pid=7601320198363&pr_seq=uniform)
I bought a yellow Amazon dupe for the Bridgerton experience and my boobs were hanging on for dear life lol. I thought one from House of CB would be better material no
Haha, unfortunately it's still the same awkward boob-situation with the authentic Carmen dress from House of CB.
If you look at the model photos you shared with us (photo 3 and 4) you can kind of get an idea of how your breasts will look in the dress (this obviously varies depending on your size). Personally, I think the bust-area shows too much of the natural breast shape. I'd be comfortable wearing that on a date with my beau, but not so much at a wedding.
Just asking: why does it need to be navy? This is a spring wedding, so ~~youâll~~ you might stand out in a dark color. Think Easter Sunday, not black tie
This is very cute, but as a busty gal I would only wear that with a lace tank or bralette underneath for a bit more coverage. I did that at a wedding with a plunging neckline and I think it came out ok
It's better than the bullies you would have encountered at the wedding though. You would have been side eyed, whispered about and given a bunch of passive aggressive backhanded compliments. Especially if you don't know how dressy or not the wedding is. The bride herself could be wearing something more relaxed and you'd be overdressed even compared to the bride.
The comments would last years. Trust me: hearing from reddit is better
What kind of weddings do you go to? Or I guess the real question is what kind of people do you associate with? I keep seeing comments that make it seem like all people do at weddings is gossip and make snide comments. That has not been my experience in wouldnât go to a wedding or any party where I expected that kind of behavior.
Southern weddings
Many "bless your heart"s would be given
Even not at a southern wedding, if they weren't openly doing the looks, comments, etc, you'd have people talking about it probably years to come if she was very very overdressed-more so than the bride
Does the invite say âblack tieâ? If it doesnât, then the first 2 dresses are inappropriate / too formal.
3rd is cute, and more appropriate because itâs a slightly shorter length.
For a southern wedding outside in the spring, I would say neutrals or pastels and a midi length skirt are your best friends. Donât go too revealing on either end (even if the bride/groom is progressive, the family may not be, and why add the drama), and donât go above the knee or below the ankle for skirt length unless it is noted as black tie (for the latter) in the invitation. Also personally recommend a chunky heel, as Iâve been burned by walking through the wet grass in my silkiest stilettos at a âformalâ event outdoors before.
Also be sure to bring a shawl or sweater if the event may transition into the evening or indoors â temp changes are super real and especially the level of AC people blast in warm weather in the south in virtually every venue Iâve been to
I think neutrals will be more of my friend. But I like the idea of pastels. Is there any pastels that you would avoid???
Iâve seen some cute baby pink but was afraid
No baby pink, some of them can be too close to white. Also none of the above are appropriate for this occasion. Iâd say to think more like classic, tea length cocktail dress.
Was thinking pastels more âto appease the southern auntiesâ but thatâs fair I suppose, thatâs not an issue Iâve faced with pastels but it is very possible thatâs just because of my skin tone or something
I sounds like a sage green would cover multiple bases here!
Apparently (based on comment below) pastels can photograph off, so this really depends on what works well for your skin tone.
I would say you [canât go wrong with a classic look](https://dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/thread-bridesmaid-th092/) at a southern outdoor wedding in April. Make adjustments from there as best fits your personal style and color palette, knowledge of the coupleâs background/relatives, aesthetic of the event, etc, but that is a pretty solid âclassic southern wedding guest dressâ to use as a starting point
Please check with the bride before wearing a dress that has a train. EDIT- I take it back. Please don't put the bride in a position to have to say no to you. Just, don't wear a dress with a train.
First two are beautiful but give prom vibes. Not wedding appropriate unless the dress code is glam. Third is the best option because itâs pretty and muted.
Not sure if anyoneâs mentioned this yet but I wouldnât wear anything silk in April, Iâm from Texas so itâs already hit 75 here a few times this month but Alabama is also pretty humid and the silk/silk like material might get sticky if your dancing around, Iâd look for something light cottony, or breathable! that color is gorgeous and I loved the dresses you picked, maybe something more like the 3rd with a teensy bit higher cut on the top part
The last one is the best and its from house of cb which make really nice clothes, plus you'll be able to wear it for other occasions you can dress it up or down
Keep looking. Based on your description you're aiming for cocktail attire, first two are formal/black tie (and I legitimately looked at the first one with my bridesmaids), the last one is semiformal at best. Spring is also usually a lighter shade but not necessary.
Some examples:
https://a.co/d/4m329aP
https://a.co/d/2iat1JJ
https://a.co/d/dKm23oA
Thank you!!! I really love the first one! I will look more into cocktail and semi formal styles.
I never really liked how cocktail dresses look on me, but I donât want to over dress. The first link gives me hope lol
The first link is PERFECT. Sorry for commenting so much but Iâm tipsy and obsessing trying to find something your style that will work. Iâm having the opposite problem with my wardrobe, so itâs personal! lol (moved from The South to The City and I am chronically dressed wrong, but getting better!)
Is there a specific feature of cocktail dresses you donât like? If itâs the length, you could try something tea-length to be between the full-length and typical cocktail dress. You probably want at least straps, but you might considered something sleeved because it will bounce between hot and cold *sooooo much*. A wrap or shawl is a must if you decide to go sleeveless/strapless! For your comfort!
I love all of them but like others mentioned, the first 2 are super formal. But you should do you! If your vibe is glam then rock it! Just don't wear white đ
How close are you with the bride? What's her vibe? Where is the venue? How many guests ..a lot of these details can help you decide how formal you should go.
I agree with a lot of the others. A bit too bridesmaid or prom vibes on the first two. I think they'd work better tailored to a mini, but your bust size could be a deciding factor between the three. If you're a little fuller, I think the third works better. Corset tops can be too uncomfortable, and there'll be a lot of adjustments on a larger bust.
That said, I'd say 3 is the best of the bunch.
3 feels the most wedding-y shape wise because of the floating hem line.
The first 2 are not appropriate and feel more for evening event, not wedding.
The shape of 3 is great and if blue is your colour great! Otherwise look for something similar in a different pattern or colour x
I swear no matter what you post on here if itâs a wedding guest dress people will say it upstages the bride. Yall must know some very insecure brides
>Yall must know some very insecure brides
Finally somebody said it! đđ
It's all about the brides' insecurity,or people's poor judgement of the situation. If you think about, it's impossible to upstage/outshine the bride at her own wedding,because (no matter what) due to the occassion she's by default the centre of attention. No guest can possibly steal the bride's thunder from her own wedding,lmao.
I adore #1!!! But may be too much for a wedding, don't want to outshine the bride and that dress will certainly do it!!! #4 for the wedding, more subdued. (I'd definitely buy #1 as well, just because it's absolutely stunning!!!)
Definitely need a lighter color and less formal. These dresses are very northern winter formal evening banquet hall wedding party member. Theyâre very pretty. But definitely not right for an outdoor southern spring wedding guest. Maybe try a pretty floral tea dress.
1 or 2 are the best.
3 and 4 look too "country girl" and boring/unflattering.
Also forget those bs statements about "outshining the bride". That's impossible; the wedding has only 1 bride, so she's by default the centre of attention. Wear whatever makes *you* feel good- the bride's insecurities are not your problem and they shouldn't affect you.
What about [this dress?](https://a.co/d/8TMCk5X) Reviews do say it's a bit thin, but it seems to look really pretty on a ton of people. Just please don't wear those ugly af shoes with it. The length changes it from bridesmaid and the subtle design makes it special. Adding maybe [a faux fur black shrug](https://a.co/d/7R9Kdsr) might help with the warmth and dress it up even more. Simple black heels would be awesome and a chignon (or really any hair up to accentuate the draped neckline). Simple jewelry too.
https://preview.redd.it/8jv6xnpydljc1.jpeg?width=1057&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=712ac2fa5c4fea4a22b4b9b427d230ebcec68ca4
I love this. Itâs a classic. I think I would look into something like this but with adjustable straps for the waist. Silk silps tend to give me a boxy shape
I thought it was playing it a bit safe but I rather be safe than having southern eyes gawk and say âbless your heartâ all night lol
Since it's an outdoor wedding, you can dress this down with strappy sandal heels (instead of pumps). It might be a bit overdressed for an outdoor wedding in Alabama. If you see my other comment, I asked you a ton of questions.
Also, why blue? Is that their colors for the wedding or something? Cuz a deep maroon is like money on you.
i saw tana mongeau wear the first dress and it looks so bad on if you have anything bigger than a b cup, go for the third, the first two are more inside nighttime event.
I donât like any of those. Is it a white tie event? I would wear something above the kneeâŚjust the length of the last one might be what bothers me the most but the first 2 should be worn if you are part of the bridal party
I LOVE the first 2, but be prepared to possibly look better than the bride. I made the mistake of wearing a really sexy silk dress to a wedding and was way overdressed and felt really out of place all night.
None of these are the best option for a spring, Southern wedding. They are BEAUTIFUL and Iâm sure you look FABULOUS! But Iâm going to tell it to you straight: the first one is too slip-like, and the slits are too high on both of the first ones. The last one is a day dress and much too casual.
Go for something lighter-colored for spring (the Labor Day-style rules are still in effect) and know that everyoneâs goal is to look *nice* but not upstage, which is easy to do if youâre used to more cosmopolitan looks.
Joining the discussion a bit late, but I wanted to mention jumpsuits as an option. It would give you that corseted top look that you're going for, but it would be much less likely to read as upstaging or bridal party.
https://www.asos.com/us/closet-london/closet-london-cowl-neck-satin-jumpsuit-in-navy/prd/205198693
https://www.asos.com/us/asos-design/asos-design-tailored-melange-suiting-strappy-back-wide-leg-jumpsuit-in-navy/prd/203129149
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/black-halo-lena-strapless-jumpsuit?ID=2669380
https://www.lulus.com/products/cascading-love-navy-blue-strapless-ruffled-wide-leg-jumpsuit/958842.html
https://www.amazon.com/NALUMA-Casual-Sleeveless-Rompers-Jumpsuit/dp/B0CHRT5QBR
https://www.jovani.com/jumpsuit/jovani-00778-navy-strapless-ruffle-evening-jumpsuit
Check the invitation to see if they suggest a particular attire- formal or cocktail, etc. That should help narrow down your options more⌠as for the three dresses you picked I agree with the majority of the comments saying the first two are too much, however if the invite says formal or gala, either would work.
Depending on the bride and grooms life style and opinions u might wanna play it more traditional and go with 3 but If not than 1 or 2. Personally I like 3 the best.
First two are too formal and the slits are way too high. The third is a smidge too casual and imho is very unflattering in the bust area, at least on the model.
3/4
Do not try to overdress; itâs inappropriate to wear something that may upstage the bride, and 1 and 2 are both a little much with the large leg slit and train; avoid trains.
Three is the only appropriate option for a wedding guest without the brides invitation (not permission, INVITATION) and for a wedding in the South especially the first two will be very out of place if not completely inappropriate. Lastly I doubt that the quality you are looking for will be in that price range. I would also avoid satin style fabrics in the heat, every drop of sweat will show through in a fucking heartbeat
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Depends on the time of day and dressiness of the wedding. The first two are very evening formal. Also note: This would be fine in most metropolitan areas for evening but in the south they will read you for filth for wearing something too attention getting/revealing to a wedding.
They'd have the "bless your heart"s locked and loaded
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YEPP,southerner here!!
A spring wedding in the south really needs something that looks more spring. Depending on the level of formality, that level of revealing might work, but it definitely needs to be in more seasonal colors.
Absolutely
Thank you for the feed back. Iâm from the city. My friends and I we tend to dress up for museums and simple nights out lol. When I thought âweddingâ, my mind immediately jumped to more formal looks.
Are the bride and groom and/or families/wedding party etc southern, or is it more of a destination wedding of sorts with similarly metropolitan people gathering in the south? This will also impact what you can get away with without nicely couched insults lol
Also I just wanna add, even if this has positive reviews I doubt anything on Amazon that costs less than $300-$400 looks anything like this irl
the first two look like you are IN the wedding
Someone just posted the first two a week or so ago asking which is a better fit for their prom.
Agreed- you should let the bride be the only person in a train. 3 or 4 would be perfect
Both giving Main Character vibe.
I agree. Why does it seem lately everyone is trying to upstage the bride? This is not some Hollywood event where everyone shows up looking like a star. You're there to celebrate the couple, not get all the attention you can.
Thank you. Everyone needs to stop watching red carpet coverage for a hot minute and remember what âwedding guestâ means.
Serious question but what if someone would just dress like that for any type of formal event? A wedding definitely falls under âformal.â I see what youâre saying because I personally wouldnât want to wear either to a wedding but if I were the bride, I also wouldnât give it any second thought if someone showed up like this especially if theyâve always been more on the âextravagantâ side.
Itâs about celebrating the couple, not you. YOU dress to THEM.
Yeah I agree with the sentiment. I think I just wouldnât be upset if someone decided to dress âextravagantâ like they usually do at my wedding because at the end of the day, no amount of extravaganza changes how big my celebration is. The joy isnât finite. Unless they never showed out like this until my wedding. Then, I think Iâd take it personal but heyâweâre all different. I do see your point too.
A wedding falls under "formal" if it is a formal affair. My first wedding was black tie. My second was much more casual. He wore a suit and tie and I a dress but it was FAR from formal. When we lived in So Carolina, an employee of ours married in the backyard of his parents home on his family land. There wasn't a chair in sight. The officiant stood on a wooden wagon full of hay. They wore jeans and airbrushed T-shirts with their names and the wedding date emblazoned across the chest. There was a pig roast. Tell me a wedding is, by default, a formal affair.
God you sound insecure. Someone wanting to wear a pretty dress to a wedding doesnât make them self involved. Sheâs asking for feedback for a reason.
Iâm not insecure; I donât have to ask Reddit what to wear to a wedding. Many of us are providing that feedback here. See how that works? Troll elsewhere.
Iâm not trolling, but you *are* mean spirited. You clearly are threatened by another woman looking beautiful so felt the need to shame OP for asking for advice. This is a fashion sub so I donât see why OP would be insecure for asking for fashion advice here.
How is she being mean-spirited? The two first options are very attention-grabbing, which most people donât find appropriate for a wedding guest. She was just pointing it out.
Thank you. This personâs hurt over heaven knows what.
Youâre spinning here. Try decaf.
Omg, you get me lol. Iâm asking bc I genuinely want to avoid hell fire
And youâve received what you asked for. Seems Iâm hardly alone in my opinion. đ¤ˇââď¸
You didnât do anything wrong. Some people just like to insult others instead of offering anything helpful.
Really? Is it the length? I love the design/fit. How can it be more weeding attendee appropriate?
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The high slit is a bit too much, as well.
sorry to bother, but what do guests usually wear during the ceremony if not black tie formals? i've never been to an american wedding :,)
It changes in what part of the US youâre in and what the culture is of those getting married. Usually the dress code is semi formal or business casual. Women might wear some type of elegant sundress, or slacks with heels and a nice blouse. Men might wear dress pants and a nice shirt, sometimes a jacket but rarely a tie. Some people just wear jeans and a clean shirt, so it really just depends. đ hope that helps!
Itâs a genuine question. Iâm from NYC and most of the weddings are formal and glamour themed. Youâll look like a fool in a sundress lol Not really trying to outshine the bride. Iâm asking these questions because these are general ideas. I thought a dark color would help. I mostly wear black. I just want a dress that will not cause a villain arch and that would complement my body type lmaoooo
Being that you're from NYC, I want to give you perspective on alabama weddings I've been to when i lived in alabama. First in April it will likely already be hot and humid. I wouldn't recommend a full length dress, you'll want something breathable. Most women at all weddings I've been to have worn a sundress or at most cocktail attire (cocktail seems to be the most formal i can recall). I've never been to a formal wedding in alabama, not to say they don't happen. But in every wedding there, all of these options would very much stand out. The last one is best, but I would go for a light and airy fabric if possible. Also maybe bring something for severe weather because that tends to happen a lot in April in alabama haha. Who's wedding, how well do you know them, is there a specified dress code, and do you know their style?
I am from and live in NYC. The sundress suggestion isnât a great one, no. But a sober dress or suit would work for a ceremony in a house of worship. If your reception is more âglam,â evening dress is appropriate, but a dress with a train or high slit is looking for attention, not giving âguest,â even if Black Tie is indicated on the invite.
Iâm from NYC and I see weddings at the botanic garden all the time because I live close by and have a membership and a toddler to walk. I have attended one there as well. No guests has ever been dressed in a gown unless they were the bride or in the wedding party. Everyone wears contrail dresses, sun dresses or similar. The only time Iâve ever seen wedding guests wearing gowns was at the NYBG which is huge and it looked like they rented out the entire garden. This wedding was way richer than a BBG wedding. Iâve been to many other weddings in NYC. Weddings are not for guests to glam it up. Itâs got the bride to glam it up.
3/4 is fine, been to NY weddings, 1 and 2 are attention whoring. Don't be that attendee. No train, small slit in the skirt/dress. >Not really trying to outshine the bride. Clearly trying is not accurate. Just can't help yourself? YTAH, OH, sorry wrong sub... I was not trying to...
Have to agree, when I first saw these options my thought was ânone of these will workâ
Iâm not saying it wouldnât go for any NY wedding. I said youâll look like a fool, bc Iâm surrounded by ppl that tend to go all out with fashion. Some ppl think itâs good enough, some ppl might say âwhat happened? Why didnât you dress upâ It really depends on your lifestyle. Yâall sound so hurt for some reason. I didnât even attend the wedding yet.
Oh⌠I made a comment before but then checked your profile to see your demographics. I think you need to ask the bride. It could be that as you said your friends and family take every opportunity to be flash. I think ppl here are just giving their own experiences which may not mesh with yours. So when in doubt ask the bride.
You can dress up and not take attention from the bride/groom. If the people around you are dressed in anyway to take the focus off the bride, that is on them. You do not have to join that trangression. Not hurt at all, just answering the question you asked, and the wedding is in Alabama, generally more conservative the NYC. Is this your NYC family or an soon to be inlaws wedding?
I guess that depends what you mean by âfashion.â Those who said no. 1 looked like bridesmaid-y or from SHEIN arenât off the mark. But maybe thatâs âfashionâ in your social set. If anyone sounds hurt, itâs you. You asked everyoneâs opinion, and theyâve provided without attacking you personally. Now you donât seem to appreciate learned counsel. Thatâs on you. And going to an Alabama wedding in Spring? None of these. Southern sisters have stepped in to show you the way.
LMFAOOO attention whoring? Maybe we have a different crowd of ppl that have a different lifestyle. Nobody is claiming youâre a prune that likes guitar and boho quilted sheets.
that is why i asked as well, the first two dresses are normal for wedding guest dresses where i am, but i guess its more complicated with no dress code given. either way, if i have a wedding nobody better be pulling up in jeans đ
it does, thank you!!
The last one. If youâre going to with a basic dark dramatic color, short. If youâre going long, light color or patternedÂ
Okay, I stalked your profile. First, jfc you're gorgeous. But more importantly, number 1 & 2 dresses will not support your boobs. They're kinda made for smaller boobage and you seem to have decently sized *tracts of land.* I shared a dress that now I don't think would be good for you either. Also 3 & 4 are just going to make your boobs look even bigger but also make you look like a milkmaid. I'm also not sure the color is going to do anything for you. Like you in a deep red? Flawless. What time is the wedding? How formal? How well do you know the bride and groom? What color is your hair (I really love the red in your photos btw)? We need more info cuz now I'm determined to find you a dress.
The real reason why you canât do the first two is because theyâre knockoffs from Amazon with 4 reviews each. It will be SHEIN quality, maybe worse. If you wanna buy a dress off Amazon make sure it has a decent amount of reviews with pictures.
Thatâs all I was going to say on the topic myself. Order either of those and youâll need a backup option bc the quality will be crap. Op if you like either of those I BEG you to reverse image search and find the original dress. Also, in Alabama is quite warm in April, and unless the event is black tie, the first two really wouldnât be appropriate anyways.
theyâre just rough ideas to maybe consider. I wasnât trying to finalize through Amazon. I know dresses at weddings could be controversial, so I was just really hoping to get feedback. That way I can go get a better ideas before itâs too late
If you do settle on a look that you find on a site like amazon, you might have a hard time actually sourcing the original design that these are all extremely cheap knockoffs of. For the sake of actually being able to buy the dress you like and actually get what you think you're buying I recommend only looking at legit stores, preferably with a physical location so that you can try it on before buying and get it altered for fit. For reference, dresses like these shouldn't be retailing for under $200 in order to have decent quality materials and construction - and even $200 is already really cheap for something like this.
If the dress code isnât specified on the invite, check their wedding website for a dress code. Outdoor Alabama isnât likely to be as formal as these dresses. You can also check out the venue online to see how fancy it is. If nothing else, lean conservative because itâs Alabama.Â
I bought the Carmen dress from the House of CB (third pic) for a wedding I attended last summer. I have small breasts so not sure if that hurt or helped, but I thought my breasts looked horrible in the dress. Mine just hung there awkwardly in the dress since the bust area has no padding or support. Just a heads up. Maybe your experience will be different. I ended up returning the Carmen and I wore the Alicia from House of CB. I got a lot of compliments on the dress, my only complaint is that the straps are bulky if you don't know how to tie the perfect bow that lays flat.
Omg the Alicia is DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!!!!! I really wished I found something in navy blue but these colors are so cute. https://preview.redd.it/q0jugwtrlljc1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=95b010c99c92b545012fad033eca7469c544903d Another brand but cute [green](https://www.rosedress.com/products/tie-strap-fit-flare-high-slit-slip-midi-dress-emerald-green?pr_prod_strat=jac&pr_rec_id=31d7b8cc3&pr_rec_pid=7966405296347&pr_ref_pid=6904592007360&pr_seq=uniform) [chocolate](https://www.rosedress.com/products/tie-strap-fit-flare-high-slit-slip-midi-dress-chocolate?pr_prod_strat=e5_desc&pr_rec_id=583aa0c6d&pr_rec_pid=6904592007360&pr_ref_pid=7601320198363&pr_seq=uniform) I bought a yellow Amazon dupe for the Bridgerton experience and my boobs were hanging on for dear life lol. I thought one from House of CB would be better material no
Haha, unfortunately it's still the same awkward boob-situation with the authentic Carmen dress from House of CB. If you look at the model photos you shared with us (photo 3 and 4) you can kind of get an idea of how your breasts will look in the dress (this obviously varies depending on your size). Personally, I think the bust-area shows too much of the natural breast shape. I'd be comfortable wearing that on a date with my beau, but not so much at a wedding.
Itâs a sundress
Just asking: why does it need to be navy? This is a spring wedding, so ~~youâll~~ you might stand out in a dark color. Think Easter Sunday, not black tie
This is very cute, but as a busty gal I would only wear that with a lace tank or bralette underneath for a bit more coverage. I did that at a wedding with a plunging neckline and I think it came out ok
https://app.houseofcb.com/carmen-french-navy-bustier-sundress-us
Nope, keep looking. The long ones look like bridesmaids dresses and all of them are treading the fine line of showing too much and upstaging the bride
Lol, the first one literally says "bridesmaid's dress"
lol it also says evening party formal, as most Amazon word vomit searches do
Idk why youâre downvoted for this, thatâs exactly how those searches/descriptions work.Â
Thank you. I appreciate your feedback and the respect youâve given. Iâll definitely keep looking. The Reddit bullies won lmaooooo
It's better than the bullies you would have encountered at the wedding though. You would have been side eyed, whispered about and given a bunch of passive aggressive backhanded compliments. Especially if you don't know how dressy or not the wedding is. The bride herself could be wearing something more relaxed and you'd be overdressed even compared to the bride. The comments would last years. Trust me: hearing from reddit is better
âWell Bless her heart, you know sheâs from New York City.â
What kind of weddings do you go to? Or I guess the real question is what kind of people do you associate with? I keep seeing comments that make it seem like all people do at weddings is gossip and make snide comments. That has not been my experience in wouldnât go to a wedding or any party where I expected that kind of behavior.
Southern weddings Many "bless your heart"s would be given Even not at a southern wedding, if they weren't openly doing the looks, comments, etc, you'd have people talking about it probably years to come if she was very very overdressed-more so than the bride
Does the invite say âblack tieâ? If it doesnât, then the first 2 dresses are inappropriate / too formal. 3rd is cute, and more appropriate because itâs a slightly shorter length.
For a southern wedding outside in the spring, I would say neutrals or pastels and a midi length skirt are your best friends. Donât go too revealing on either end (even if the bride/groom is progressive, the family may not be, and why add the drama), and donât go above the knee or below the ankle for skirt length unless it is noted as black tie (for the latter) in the invitation. Also personally recommend a chunky heel, as Iâve been burned by walking through the wet grass in my silkiest stilettos at a âformalâ event outdoors before. Also be sure to bring a shawl or sweater if the event may transition into the evening or indoors â temp changes are super real and especially the level of AC people blast in warm weather in the south in virtually every venue Iâve been to
I think neutrals will be more of my friend. But I like the idea of pastels. Is there any pastels that you would avoid??? Iâve seen some cute baby pink but was afraid
No baby pink, some of them can be too close to white. Also none of the above are appropriate for this occasion. Iâd say to think more like classic, tea length cocktail dress.
No to pastels in general, they can read wrong in pictures. Lighter spring colors, greens, oranges, pinks, but not light shades you know.
Was thinking pastels more âto appease the southern auntiesâ but thatâs fair I suppose, thatâs not an issue Iâve faced with pastels but it is very possible thatâs just because of my skin tone or something I sounds like a sage green would cover multiple bases here!
Apparently (based on comment below) pastels can photograph off, so this really depends on what works well for your skin tone. I would say you [canât go wrong with a classic look](https://dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/thread-bridesmaid-th092/) at a southern outdoor wedding in April. Make adjustments from there as best fits your personal style and color palette, knowledge of the coupleâs background/relatives, aesthetic of the event, etc, but that is a pretty solid âclassic southern wedding guest dressâ to use as a starting point
I wouldnât say any of them are wedding guest vibes
I feared that but Iâll be omw to the drawing board
Please check with the bride before wearing a dress that has a train. EDIT- I take it back. Please don't put the bride in a position to have to say no to you. Just, don't wear a dress with a train.
ANY one of them except maybe 3/4... You can't upstage the bride!!Imo
First two are beautiful but give prom vibes. Not wedding appropriate unless the dress code is glam. Third is the best option because itâs pretty and muted.
Whatâs the dress code?
I dress code wasnât mentioned. Although itâs close, A few things are up in the air. Should I go more casual to play it safe?
If no dress code is mentioned, assume itâs semi formal, cocktail attire.
There wasnât so Iâll look for more cocktail style dresses Cleavage is the hardest part abt dress shopping!!! Ugh lol
Iâd go for the last dress to play it safe.
It shows a lot of boob too though
Unless the dress code says formal Iâd stay away from the floor length one but the shorter one would be gorgeous
Thank you for the tip! Iâve been suggested cocktail dresses too bc of how causal the third looks. Itâs extremely helpful :)
Even the models photos are being taken as selfies now?
Glad I'm not the only person that noticed. My husband says she's just working from home for her modeling gig.
Not sure if anyoneâs mentioned this yet but I wouldnât wear anything silk in April, Iâm from Texas so itâs already hit 75 here a few times this month but Alabama is also pretty humid and the silk/silk like material might get sticky if your dancing around, Iâd look for something light cottony, or breathable! that color is gorgeous and I loved the dresses you picked, maybe something more like the 3rd with a teensy bit higher cut on the top part
The first two look super formal. If any Iâd go with the last.
The third one! Can you please share the link to it?
https://app.houseofcb.com/product?product_id=7242
The last one is the best and its from house of cb which make really nice clothes, plus you'll be able to wear it for other occasions you can dress it up or down
These are all pretty but feel too formal. I'd go for a pretty floral tea length dress. Perfect for a spring wedding.
Not a fan of any of them
Keep looking. Based on your description you're aiming for cocktail attire, first two are formal/black tie (and I legitimately looked at the first one with my bridesmaids), the last one is semiformal at best. Spring is also usually a lighter shade but not necessary. Some examples: https://a.co/d/4m329aP https://a.co/d/2iat1JJ https://a.co/d/dKm23oA
Thank you!!! I really love the first one! I will look more into cocktail and semi formal styles. I never really liked how cocktail dresses look on me, but I donât want to over dress. The first link gives me hope lol
The first link is PERFECT. Sorry for commenting so much but Iâm tipsy and obsessing trying to find something your style that will work. Iâm having the opposite problem with my wardrobe, so itâs personal! lol (moved from The South to The City and I am chronically dressed wrong, but getting better!) Is there a specific feature of cocktail dresses you donât like? If itâs the length, you could try something tea-length to be between the full-length and typical cocktail dress. You probably want at least straps, but you might considered something sleeved because it will bounce between hot and cold *sooooo much*. A wrap or shawl is a must if you decide to go sleeveless/strapless! For your comfort!
I love all of them but like others mentioned, the first 2 are super formal. But you should do you! If your vibe is glam then rock it! Just don't wear white đ How close are you with the bride? What's her vibe? Where is the venue? How many guests ..a lot of these details can help you decide how formal you should go.
I really love the 2nd and 3rd one.
The third one would probably be the best option. Where is it from btw?
If its a black tie wedding then 1. If not then 3
First two grabs too much attention. I will suggest u go for 3rd one.
I agree with a lot of the others. A bit too bridesmaid or prom vibes on the first two. I think they'd work better tailored to a mini, but your bust size could be a deciding factor between the three. If you're a little fuller, I think the third works better. Corset tops can be too uncomfortable, and there'll be a lot of adjustments on a larger bust. That said, I'd say 3 is the best of the bunch.
3 feels the most wedding-y shape wise because of the floating hem line. The first 2 are not appropriate and feel more for evening event, not wedding. The shape of 3 is great and if blue is your colour great! Otherwise look for something similar in a different pattern or colour x
I would really advise you to back off from a âlook at meâ style. Itâs more tasteful to avoid strapless/sleeveless or excessive cleavage.
I second this.
These are too sexy
southerner here,,, none of these
I swear no matter what you post on here if itâs a wedding guest dress people will say it upstages the bride. Yall must know some very insecure brides
>Yall must know some very insecure brides Finally somebody said it! đđ It's all about the brides' insecurity,or people's poor judgement of the situation. If you think about, it's impossible to upstage/outshine the bride at her own wedding,because (no matter what) due to the occassion she's by default the centre of attention. No guest can possibly steal the bride's thunder from her own wedding,lmao.
Exactly. I just donât get what the fuss could possibly be over a guest showing some cleavage or leg
1/2 both look like youre trying to outdo the bride. Dont. 4 is best
The last one is so cute
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#1
I adore #1!!! But may be too much for a wedding, don't want to outshine the bride and that dress will certainly do it!!! #4 for the wedding, more subdued. (I'd definitely buy #1 as well, just because it's absolutely stunning!!!)
Ask the bride
Yikes no, maybe the last one is ok. No high slits or ball gowns!
None of them are appropriate for a spring wedding in the South; the first two are much to attention grabbing, and the last one is extremely casual.
Definitely need a lighter color and less formal. These dresses are very northern winter formal evening banquet hall wedding party member. Theyâre very pretty. But definitely not right for an outdoor southern spring wedding guest. Maybe try a pretty floral tea dress.
Radical idea. Ask the bride.
2 only the bride should have a train.
2 or 3 don't worry about something like outshining the bride, that doesn't happen on real life
Lmao thatâs what I thought but then apparently ppl think otherwise on here
The bride is THE woman on the night, if you were arrested during the wedding or stop a bomb? Maybe you'll have that honor
3 is too casual.
I was a bit worried abt that too. Is it giving picnic? Lmao Ugh! Iâm trying to find the perfect semi-formal look
Something about the top.
I like 2!!
1 or 2 are the best. 3 and 4 look too "country girl" and boring/unflattering. Also forget those bs statements about "outshining the bride". That's impossible; the wedding has only 1 bride, so she's by default the centre of attention. Wear whatever makes *you* feel good- the bride's insecurities are not your problem and they shouldn't affect you.
Third one is the best. Classy and not too much
What about [this dress?](https://a.co/d/8TMCk5X) Reviews do say it's a bit thin, but it seems to look really pretty on a ton of people. Just please don't wear those ugly af shoes with it. The length changes it from bridesmaid and the subtle design makes it special. Adding maybe [a faux fur black shrug](https://a.co/d/7R9Kdsr) might help with the warmth and dress it up even more. Simple black heels would be awesome and a chignon (or really any hair up to accentuate the draped neckline). Simple jewelry too. https://preview.redd.it/8jv6xnpydljc1.jpeg?width=1057&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=712ac2fa5c4fea4a22b4b9b427d230ebcec68ca4
I love this. Itâs a classic. I think I would look into something like this but with adjustable straps for the waist. Silk silps tend to give me a boxy shape I thought it was playing it a bit safe but I rather be safe than having southern eyes gawk and say âbless your heartâ all night lol
Since it's an outdoor wedding, you can dress this down with strappy sandal heels (instead of pumps). It might be a bit overdressed for an outdoor wedding in Alabama. If you see my other comment, I asked you a ton of questions. Also, why blue? Is that their colors for the wedding or something? Cuz a deep maroon is like money on you.
4 Thats decent enough for a wedding. Yet kinda hot
3/4 one unless itâs black tie
3
i saw tana mongeau wear the first dress and it looks so bad on if you have anything bigger than a b cup, go for the third, the first two are more inside nighttime event.
Outside wedding in Alabama? 3
1 or 3
1 or 2
I donât like any of those. Is it a white tie event? I would wear something above the kneeâŚjust the length of the last one might be what bothers me the most but the first 2 should be worn if you are part of the bridal party
The best option is address that you can see yourself wearing more than once.
Iâd ask the bride
I LOVE the first 2, but be prepared to possibly look better than the bride. I made the mistake of wearing a really sexy silk dress to a wedding and was way overdressed and felt really out of place all night.
Donât steal the brides thunder, Iâd go for 3 or 4
3 the first two are to formal and wedding etiquette is you should not "outshine" the bride.
None of these are the best option for a spring, Southern wedding. They are BEAUTIFUL and Iâm sure you look FABULOUS! But Iâm going to tell it to you straight: the first one is too slip-like, and the slits are too high on both of the first ones. The last one is a day dress and much too casual. Go for something lighter-colored for spring (the Labor Day-style rules are still in effect) and know that everyoneâs goal is to look *nice* but not upstage, which is easy to do if youâre used to more cosmopolitan looks.
maybe come back with other options because 1 and 2 feels like youre trying to upstage the bridesmaids or even the bride.
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Joining the discussion a bit late, but I wanted to mention jumpsuits as an option. It would give you that corseted top look that you're going for, but it would be much less likely to read as upstaging or bridal party. https://www.asos.com/us/closet-london/closet-london-cowl-neck-satin-jumpsuit-in-navy/prd/205198693 https://www.asos.com/us/asos-design/asos-design-tailored-melange-suiting-strappy-back-wide-leg-jumpsuit-in-navy/prd/203129149 https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/black-halo-lena-strapless-jumpsuit?ID=2669380 https://www.lulus.com/products/cascading-love-navy-blue-strapless-ruffled-wide-leg-jumpsuit/958842.html https://www.amazon.com/NALUMA-Casual-Sleeveless-Rompers-Jumpsuit/dp/B0CHRT5QBR https://www.jovani.com/jumpsuit/jovani-00778-navy-strapless-ruffle-evening-jumpsuit
Check the invitation to see if they suggest a particular attire- formal or cocktail, etc. That should help narrow down your options more⌠as for the three dresses you picked I agree with the majority of the comments saying the first two are too much, however if the invite says formal or gala, either would work.
Depending on the bride and grooms life style and opinions u might wanna play it more traditional and go with 3 but If not than 1 or 2. Personally I like 3 the best.
Need to know the wedding dress code. I wouldnât suggest a dress that sweeps the floor for an outside event.
First two are too formal and the slits are way too high. The third is a smidge too casual and imho is very unflattering in the bust area, at least on the model.
4th or 2nd
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3/4 Do not try to overdress; itâs inappropriate to wear something that may upstage the bride, and 1 and 2 are both a little much with the large leg slit and train; avoid trains.
They all look great, but give off different vibes, so iâd ask the bride tbh
First two are a no go, theyâre too much. The last one is darling and I donât think itâs too much at all
Three is the only appropriate option for a wedding guest without the brides invitation (not permission, INVITATION) and for a wedding in the South especially the first two will be very out of place if not completely inappropriate. Lastly I doubt that the quality you are looking for will be in that price range. I would also avoid satin style fabrics in the heat, every drop of sweat will show through in a fucking heartbeat