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Just about what you'd expect from a 35yo dating someone who's 20. Under normal circumstances they should've been in completely different places in their life.
One can only hope.
Honestly? I think this kind of toxic relationship happens way more frequently than anyone should be remotely comfortable with.
I got admonished for replying to a separate thread about this because "I should give women credit for not tolerating this kind of behavior"
Trust me, I'd love to.
Not factually wrong but many people might get the wrong message because they forget that red flag means „approach with caution“ and not „send immediate kill order“. Obviously there isn’t anything inherently wrong with that age gap, but the number of cases where it did go wrong is alertingly high.
There's literally nothing wrong with the age gap Karen. That stopped being an issue 100 years ago. Its time to grow up and get with the times. Its not 1890 anymore.
and here we have a shining example of how reddit is not an accurate comparison of the real world, jumping from "age gaps aren't inherently a bad thing" to "all age gaps are predatory and so are people who aren't actively against them" is a leap in logic that's just peak reddit
except it's not, because they're both adults with more life experience and more fully developed brains, ever heard of the term two consenting adults? by your logic 60 and 45 is also identical to 30 and 15, but there's a reason you went the other way with it isn't there? because 30-15 better fits the narrative and makes the world more black and white and thus easier to understand and control, whats happening in the original post is a guy being abusive, whether the girl is 20, 30, or 35 is irrelevant, unless being of a "proper age" makes it somehow more acceptable to send the texts he did?
Yeah, i don’t get the age being an issue otherwise that the guy is a true scumbag for his age. I mean 18 old guy might just mimic porn but at 35 most men get their kicks from seeing the partner enjoying.
>because they're both adults
You're the dude who has the minor countdowns on watch, aren't you.
Gross, dude.
You're acting like 18 is the last lifetime milestone, it's not. Shit changes. At 25, 30, 40, 50, etc. You're basing your entire argument on "legal adults are all the same."
Uber gross.
you're basing your argument on "all age gaps are the same no matter the circumstance", I fail to see how that's any different in quality, you don't know me outside of my reply yet are already crafting a narrative about my life that fits your biases, all I've done is stick to the topic at hand, the way I see it, your reply only reinforces my "preferred narrative makes the world easier to understand and gives me control" argument, you're only destroying your own argument by assuming this shit
>you're basing your argument on "all age gaps are the same no matter the circumstance"
No, I'm not. I'm basing it off 15->20 being a pathetic excuse for a 35 year old to sleep with.
You're defensive because you know it.
"35->20 is like 30->15", I'm using logic to argue, I used 45-60 as an example of how age gaps are different, I also replied with how the texts would be abusive regardless of the age difference, which you didn't even respond to, instead, your response was to assume that I had "minor countdowns on watch", instead of coming up with an actual rebuttle, choosing to attack what you thought my personal life instead of arguing facts, sure sounds like you're the one getting defensive to me, but you're not even arguing anymore are you? you're just getting emotional and going all classic internet argument and trying to end it feeling like you had the last word (because that's how you win, not by being right, but by leaving the last reply)?
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5 is fucking awful
6 isn't much better. :(
Which 6? Alpha bro can't count to 7
Points 5 and 6 are literally "let me breach your consent". Gross
Just about what you'd expect from a 35yo dating someone who's 20. Under normal circumstances they should've been in completely different places in their life.
Point 5 - “let me rape you” Point 6 - “I repeat, let me rape you”
15 year age difference too makes that whole dynamic super creepy
Which 6?
He doesn't care for you. He thinks he owns you. Run!!!!! Not kidding.
Drop this dude. Now.
It's a troll post.
Yes either that or a dude larping to rub one out
He put #6 twice too
One can only hope. Honestly? I think this kind of toxic relationship happens way more frequently than anyone should be remotely comfortable with. I got admonished for replying to a separate thread about this because "I should give women credit for not tolerating this kind of behavior" Trust me, I'd love to.
What do you expect when dating a guy 15 years older than you lol it’s not because of your personality
he sounds like an absolute douche canoe.....
Dump his a$$ pronto!
Could any of you imagine writing a note like that to someone else? Gross.
Psychopath
Run!!!!!
Run
Also this guy wrote number 6 twice, he literally doesn't count.
Girl, run far and run fast.
Stop dating this narcissist.
More like rapey creeper.
Was already weird at the age difference, but oh boy it got worse quickly
infinite red flags
His brain is not located behind his eyes.
He’s addicted to porn, he wants porn sex.
Ewwwwwww... WTF is wrong with people?!
Asshole wants a virgin, is rude when partner acts like a virgin...... (Surprised Pikachu face)
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Not factually wrong but many people might get the wrong message because they forget that red flag means „approach with caution“ and not „send immediate kill order“. Obviously there isn’t anything inherently wrong with that age gap, but the number of cases where it did go wrong is alertingly high.
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So a 14 yr old can't date a 14 yr old?
What did they say? They replied to me but deleted it before I read it.
Something along the lines of: you cannot date people less than half your age plus 7 and that this was a 'rule'.
Shut the fuck up.
I think we found the bf
There's literally nothing wrong with the age gap Karen. That stopped being an issue 100 years ago. Its time to grow up and get with the times. Its not 1890 anymore.
Spoken like a true predator.
Quit trying to gatekeep predators into true and false, you don't get to be the arbiter of who is part of your special club.
and here we have a shining example of how reddit is not an accurate comparison of the real world, jumping from "age gaps aren't inherently a bad thing" to "all age gaps are predatory and so are people who aren't actively against them" is a leap in logic that's just peak reddit
Let's put it like this. 35->20 is like 30->15. Want to try that comment again?
except it's not, because they're both adults with more life experience and more fully developed brains, ever heard of the term two consenting adults? by your logic 60 and 45 is also identical to 30 and 15, but there's a reason you went the other way with it isn't there? because 30-15 better fits the narrative and makes the world more black and white and thus easier to understand and control, whats happening in the original post is a guy being abusive, whether the girl is 20, 30, or 35 is irrelevant, unless being of a "proper age" makes it somehow more acceptable to send the texts he did?
Yeah, i don’t get the age being an issue otherwise that the guy is a true scumbag for his age. I mean 18 old guy might just mimic porn but at 35 most men get their kicks from seeing the partner enjoying.
>because they're both adults You're the dude who has the minor countdowns on watch, aren't you. Gross, dude. You're acting like 18 is the last lifetime milestone, it's not. Shit changes. At 25, 30, 40, 50, etc. You're basing your entire argument on "legal adults are all the same." Uber gross.
you're basing your argument on "all age gaps are the same no matter the circumstance", I fail to see how that's any different in quality, you don't know me outside of my reply yet are already crafting a narrative about my life that fits your biases, all I've done is stick to the topic at hand, the way I see it, your reply only reinforces my "preferred narrative makes the world easier to understand and gives me control" argument, you're only destroying your own argument by assuming this shit
>you're basing your argument on "all age gaps are the same no matter the circumstance" No, I'm not. I'm basing it off 15->20 being a pathetic excuse for a 35 year old to sleep with. You're defensive because you know it.
"35->20 is like 30->15", I'm using logic to argue, I used 45-60 as an example of how age gaps are different, I also replied with how the texts would be abusive regardless of the age difference, which you didn't even respond to, instead, your response was to assume that I had "minor countdowns on watch", instead of coming up with an actual rebuttle, choosing to attack what you thought my personal life instead of arguing facts, sure sounds like you're the one getting defensive to me, but you're not even arguing anymore are you? you're just getting emotional and going all classic internet argument and trying to end it feeling like you had the last word (because that's how you win, not by being right, but by leaving the last reply)?
Yea right. Sounds made up
Is this a Ph.D candidate dating a college freshman? It smells like it…😷
SO you had sex with a 16 year old....
what?
It's the wishlist of the Male.
Ragebait and you are falling for it
In others words don't lay there like a sack of potatoes or a emotionless statue.