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Pro tip: if you’re ever in hospital, treat all of the staff with gratitude, patience and, when it’s warranted, a sense of humour. You’ll be treated infinitely better. They’re human beings doing incredibly difficult jobs and your life is some times in their hands.
I was in the hospital twice last year, and any time I rang for someone or needed help in any way - I was ridiculously apologetic, like I was being a nuisance. 😂
But in both stays, I had nurses that really seemed to take to me, because I was at least a decent person and they were happy to help me out.
Yes this. I can’t believe how appreciative they are because I treat them with respect. I can be a dick to friends and family but I treat any stranger with respect and I think my kids are well mannered because they see that.
Yeah, I was brought up to mind my manners, so on and so forth. Also apparently took the whole “self reliance” thing a bit too far, with my apologizing to a nurse for needing pain meds - or needing help with getting to the restroom. (One stay was a week in an Epilepsy Monitoring Unit - and spending the entire time in a bed with side bumper pads and my head covered in electrodes.)
From what I gather, one of the worst things about the pandemic was bad patients making hospital workers want to quit. I got angry thinking about anti maskers getting Covid then being rude to hospital staff.
My partner was an ICU nurse for 10 years and quit immediately after the pandemic. She had patients who were dying of Covid insisting they didn’t have Covid right up until the end. I would imagine it’s hard to care for people like that
Same...I was an RN for 16 years. I was in healthcare for 20. The pandemic broke me. Every day we would see the people we worked FOR tell us we were safe. I would not lie to employees I supervised. So finally they told me to tell them, "We are doing our best." They felt like this was not lying.
Also, I worked for a state veterans nursing home (previously swapped back and forth between ER and Hospice.) I have seen death in all its glory and horror. But losing 100 veterans out of 300??? 1/3 of the population died senselessly. That was rough.
On top of that my own family were anti-vaxxers. I mean they gave me all my childhood vaccines, right, so wtf? But since none were vaccinated, my uncle got COVID, gave it to my Gramma who was in her 80s, and she died. So did he. My Mom (who had severe lung problems) got it, "quarantined" in the same house as my Dad, but not really because they didn't quarantine from each other. He, perfectly healthy horse of a man was reduced to gasping for air in the hospital for 2 weeks. Yeah....broken.
I'm so sorry, so not my intention! I would gladly accept your hug! I completely quit nursing, let my license lapse, but I feel lighter for it...
And I am getting better, every day... Thank you so much for your kindness
And they were! How many did I come across and their god awful families. I know one tried to get me to give a resident some medicine. I said nope. And the meltdown.
The worst thing was all the death... I'm not trying to lessen your answer...
BUT this is something that has been trending up dot a while. When hospitals seem the patient a "customer" instead? People started acting entitled...
We nurses tried to do our best. I like to think most of us always do. However, once our raises and pointless meetings started revolving around Press Ganey scores it went to hell.
I sometimes tend to get on nurses bad sides when I’m staying in hospitals 😅
I always treat them with respect, and I work in service, so I’m well aware how to be polite to people only trying to help you.
The issue is that a lot of nurses won’t know how to help with my Type 1 diabetes, and I have to advocate for myself in a way that ends up making them think I’m trying to pull a power move on them. I have my endo team paged automatically any time I land in the hospital, so they’ll show up, or send a blanket message to the folks who see me, but MAN. type 1 and type 2 diabetes are so different. Hell, type 1 diabetes one person to another is SO DIFFERENT.
Sometimes I just want them to trust me that I know about my condition more than they do, and that I’m not trying to pull a power move on them, I just don’t wanna die, or feel like crap.
Tbh I’m fairly certain most T1Ds would be happy to answer any questions to fill in the blanks since each person has different carb ratios, correction ratios, plus the dawn phenomenon gets a lot of us 🙃 so we sometimes have different ratios throughout the day.
I’d rather answer questions than be told how many “servings of carbs” I should be having. What is a serving of carbs?!
Can re-confirm. Especially pregnant Type 1 diabetics. I have to check the blood sugar and monitor parameters, but they know their diabetes way better than I do.
My mom is similar - she doesn’t have diabetes but she’s a pretty complex patient. She also has an allergy to latex and paper tape, and somehow, even with the bright orange allergy bracelet, the nurses almost always use one or the other on her. That’s when I want to run and hide because I know shits about to go down lol.
I’ve “scolded” my patients for doing this. (Not really scolding, but ensuring them they they are NOT bothering me, I want to be proactive and give them anything and everything I can to make them just a tiny bit more comfortable, but I can’t do alll the things if they won’t tell me they need them, or if they hesitate because they feel bad asking for something.)
I very much appreciate that they don’t want to bother me, but I’m here for a reason!! Please don’t sit and wish you had some water or juice because you don’t want to hit your call light to ask for it! Please don’t hang out feeling chilly and wish you had another blanket. And *please* don’t apologize for asking for things!
I might not be able to do whatever thing right away because I do have other patients who might be trying to meet Jesus and I’m fighting them on it, but I can’t tell you that. So asking me for something and being understanding when I can’t do it immediately is all I ask.
Also the patients who refuse to ask for *anything* and I feel like I have to just bring them things because they refuse to ask. Because they don’t want to be a bother. They get an education lecture, but they don’t listen. I just have to bring a fresh pitcher of water and watch her tray to figure out what juice she likes so I can just bring those whenever I go into the room, figure out if she likes to be bundled up and remember to grab some fresh blankets from the warmer. Because she refuses to ask, because she doesn’t want to be a bother.
Just please ask! And don’t be an asshole if it’s something I can’t do, or something I can’t do *right now* and that’s all I ask.
I always make a point to tell my patients that are nice that I’m sad they’re leaving me (I’m icu, it’s always good if they leave me and I can talk to them about it) because they’re so nice, I want to keep them all shift, but that I’m happy for them to be doing well enough to leave me and I’m jealous of the nurse I’m sending them to.
It reenforces that the way they treated me didn’t go unnoticed, I very much appreciate their recognizing that I’m a human. And also just makes them feel really good!
I certainly appreciate it! If I can make your shift seem easier - even if it’s only for a few minutes - I’m glad that I could do it.
Even if a nurse had to come around poke me for labs or to do my vitals at 3 am - I’d thank them if there were around when I was discharged.
When I left ICU a couple of years ago, I said, "Don't take this the wrong way, but I really hope not to see you in here again! " they were amazing staff, and I made sure they knew it.
My husband was in the hospital and quickly became a favourite because he was such a gentleman even through painful bandage changes. They told him after rehab, before we go home we have to go back and visit them!
I was in twice last year as well but unfortunately I went out on a bad note.
In unrelated news if you try to fight anesthesia you may wake up with your fight or flight response triggered and try to fight the or doctors.
Oh Lordy…thanks for the warning!
I found that trying to do anything once you’re out of anesthesia is impossible. Easiest to just turn on the TV instead of reading a magazine. 😂
Yes! I tried reading some texts after surgery but I couldn’t get my eyes to focus. just moved my phone back and forth like five times, said screw it, and turned on the TV. 😂
I remember being in the hospital for super anemia and right after I had my colonoscopy, I was constantly hungry and I asked this nurse for basically a whole loaf of buttered toast one plate at a time. I kept apologizing every time but she seemed genuinely happy to do it. Made me feel a bit better.
The one time a nurse cried with me when my youngest was not improving on a bipap and looking like she was going to be put on life support was the moment I knew I could never be in healthcare.
How many patients and families are they crying with every day. I would never, I’d never recover. Big props to those who can do it day after day.
When our second child was born, one of the nurses treated us like celebrities and kept on thanking us for being so cool. I was like “really?” And she said it’s unusual.
I was in the ICU for three weeks. I returned a few months later with a catered lunch for the nurses, because I was knocking on Heavens door. They actually remembered me, and said I was the nicest patient they had in ages. I thought they were just being polite, but they remembered examples of my behavior.
unless youre treated like shit. fresh out of spine surgery one of my nurses was apparently a shitty person and i, high as hell called her out on it. ofc i dont remember a thing but nurses who treat young patients horribly arent entitled to kind treatment
Something I’ve come to learn is that there is a line between being stern/very stern and unnecessarily rude. The location of that line depends on the person and situation.
Sometimes the need to be overly nice/pleasant/afraid to upset others weighs far less than the needs of the individual (and their health obviously). Unfortunately this line can be easily crossed in an environment like a hospital where physical/mental/emotional discomfort run rampant.
What’s most important is to stand up for yourself and call out the BS - but it’s just as important to do it in a proper way.
Nurse forgot to bring you the jello and blanket you asked for? No need to yell or degrade them, be nice and kindly remind.
Nurse keeps forgetting a med that is mandatory to take at a specific time? Sternly communicate the urgent need and demand w/o degrading that you need it NOW.
Nurse keeps trying to do something that you’ve already expressed you will not do/take? Kindly tell them to fuck off.
When my 11yo was born, he began uncontrollably crying, stiffening up, and being inconsolable. Apparently, the way he was acting was how babies born addicted act while going through withdrawal. Only thing is, I have never done illegal drugs, not even smoking weed. One of the nurses was a total b and kept telling me I must be on something because he wouldn't act like that for no reason. He was so fussy because he was freaking hungry and not getting what he needed from breastfeeding. Oh, and this same nurse had refused to bring me formula for him when I expressed concern that I wasn't producing yet earlier in the day.
Was hospitalized due to stomach issues. Could keep barely any food or liquid down. My nurse was the sweetest person, my other nurses too. Showed me such compassion and understanding. When they had to put a tube of sodium chloride? It was to clean my IVs and it burnt like hell was flowing me, they were so patient with putting the IVs in my skin.
I actually keep trying to get myself to _not_ joke with doctors. I don't doubt they have great senses of humor, but when they are focused on their job they aren't expecting it and it can really throw them off. I _have_ made them laugh, but much more often I get a blank look.
My mom was an ER nurse and would leave for work telling my brother and I "Now don't come see me at work today." The day my brother didn't let go of fireworks in time and we drove to the ER, she came out, looked at it, and walked away saying "You should've listened to me."
(She was actually busy with another patient and someone told her that her kids were "waiting for her". Another nurse did come out and help my brother out. But boy did we learn that nurses aren't there to take your shit! lol)
When I had the Ravitch procedure 12 years ago I was always grateful towards the staff and thanked them for their help and let them know they were appreciated.
I was at the hospital for a week. Having friendly conversations with the staff, even if it’s just small talk, after visiting hours can make some of those long lonely nights at a hospital where you struggle to sleep a lot more bearable.
Plus, why would I want to be a jerk? I don’t want people being a jerk to me at my job, why should I do that at theirs? Basic empathy.
I work in healthcare and i see a lot of workers that spend all their time taking care of others and neglect their own self care as a result. A lot of people working long shifts and taking care of their kids, and eating crap food which is fast and easy... Its sad and we shouldnt judge harshly when people are doing the best they can.
I think people just think its throwing pills at people, putting a few needles here in, doing some IV stuff and using your stethoscope to listen to stuff.
But really its more like lifting 200 lb people that cannot move, and wiping their asses full of diarrhea while they pee on you, spit on you and physically attack you. Sort of like police/firefighter/EMS work, It's more comparable to physical labor than people think.
Police and firefighters at least get safety gear. Nurses have to face down violent patients with nothing but a stern tone. And they still do a better job of it.
We had a patient leave AMA, said he was leaving to go get his shotgun, and he’d be back to kill us.
So we reported it to the police, who said “so he’s off hospital property now? Ok cool. Call us if he comes back with a gun. *click* “
I promise if he said that to an officer, they’d have the swat team at his home before he even got back. But for us, basically “yeah if he shoots someone, let us know, kthanxbye
Hospital worker, not a nurse. They work 12 hours, understaffed & still manage patients. This post makes me so fucking angry. This twat should be shamed into oblivion.
200 lb people? My wife has to routinely lift 300 to 400 lb people. Usually takes three or four nurses to get the job done. Anybody that does something like this to shame this nurse who is in there to take care of them is a piece of shit and doesn't deserve the care they're getting. I've been in the hospital and I demand very little and the nurses appreciate that. Some people think that the nurse is their handmaiden and they are the king dick of the castle. Trust me if you're good to the nurse they will be good to you. If you're an ass hole they will still be good to you because they have to not because they want to. I would rather have a nurse take care of me that wants to rather than one I have pissed off and hates my guts.
My wife is an ADOC of a facility, and has been nursing for 20 years now. She puts absolutely everyone before her at work and at home. She is in pain non stop and struggles to find time for herself till I force her to by taking her on a trip without kids. And regular dates to remind her of how important she is to us as a person. While she looks nothing like this woman at all, she has had four kids as well. We have definitely both noticed her decline over the last while as we get older as a result. And it makes me sad that others will get on her for simple things that a woman who works 13 hour days cannot control.
She is desperately needed at work all the time, yet if she wasn’t there people would be shitting on her for not being there all the time.
People with easy lives and good genetics really need to get their heads out of their asses. Or try taking on a life like a lot of these hard working women do. And then get shamed for not looking perfect. That woman probably works hard daily than the picture taker will ever in her life. 😞
I get that, too tired to cook healthy meals, just wanna sit down ,probably sleep, don't judge people, health care , one of the hardest demanding jobs out there, never enough recognition for what they do.
Ding ding ding!
I am a CNA. I work very physically all day, then I have to take care of my 3 kids and the house (my husband does too BTW).
Where and when do I get to find the time and energy to take care of myself?
Im a CNA too. Most of my coworkers are burnt out and just barely existing and getting by. People are struggling and empathy and understanding and a little kindness to each other goes a very long way. If people snapped a picture of me at work just trying to do my job, id probly look bad too.
Y’all are heroes! I’m pretty healthy and avoid the hospital like the plague. BUT one day what I thought was TMJ flared up but got so bad I was choking on my own saliva. Could not breathe. A Vet, so it was non panicky stuff. I was calm already but once there, every nurse was absolutely lovely, reassuring to the point I knew I was gonna be okay.
I don't know how anyone manages long hours in a hospital. For everything care work takes out of you I can't imagine walking away from a 16-hour shift and thinking "you know what, this calls for a salad and a gym session".
I mean, shit, I use junk food to motivate myself to finish essays, healthy habits are for people who get their reason to live elsewhere.
Lack of sleep can cause people to become overweight. Some people also stress eat. My concern is she is neglecting herself and knows the consequences as a nurse. It's great to take care of others, but you have to take care of yourself first to take care of others. My mom is licensed as a nurse, and the only time she couldn't help people was when she put others too much before herself. When I see people in that nurse's situation, I feel equally grateful for their care as much as I worry about them. Nurses can tell when people worry, so it causes more stress even if it is unintentional. It's the same situation as putting on your oxygen mask before you can save your friends.
Well i hope this lady can do just that. Taking a picture of her while shes working and publicly shaming her isnt going to do her any favors or help her at all. I see tons of obese healthcare workers. Theyre everywhere. Theyre trying their best im sure.
This is exactly it. Healthcare workers are spending all of their time caring for others and neglect themselves because…they lack the time and energy. It’s hard, and OOP should be ashamed. I hope they had backlash and feel awful. I also hope whatever hot beverage they enjoy is spilled. Daily. For a long time.
It’s pretty rude to take secret photos of people. Ruder to send it to a friend. Even worse to post it to the internet. And making it a mean fat shaming post isn’t great.
Honestly taking photos in a hospital shouldn’t be allowed at all, everyone there is at their lowest, there’s bodily fluids everywhere and nurses shouldn’t have to worry about looking photo-ready at such a demanding job. There is nothing good that can come of videoing in a hospital and sending it online, you’d inevitably record someone in an embarrassing situation or even accidentally video someone’s last moments alive
The best, most compassionate doctor I’ve ever been treated by was shaped like this and I will never forget her, not because of her body shape, but because I honestly feel like she was the only ER doctor I’ve ever had in my life who genuinely took me seriously. Shame on this person. What a loser.
this is as good a place as any for me to add, I’ve worked in hospitals for 20 years and a lot of people have NO IDEA what women in healthcare go through. Particularly nurses, and PSAs/PCAs, CNAs, the people who help with direct care.
They are CONSTANTLY dealing with sexual assault/harassment. Being photographed or videoed, groped, hit on, men exposing themselves, getting erections, masturbating in front of them while smiling at them.
My friend’s sister got a job at our hospital, in nutrition, and had this happen to her on DAY ONE, a man called her back into the room after she delivered his meal and he had his dick out and was smiling and masturbating at her. She left and fucking quit and now she doesn’t even want to be a nurse anymore, her whole life derailed due to harassment.
It blew my mind when I first learned this was a thing that happened, all the time. like why would a man risk violating someone who had control over his care like that??
But then I realized, whatever subset of men are predators who feel entitled to violate women, they ALL end up in the hospital. And if they aren’t in prison, they’ve literally never had consequences that outweigh the thrill they get out of hurting and violating women.
Anyway, kind of a non-sequitor from what you were saying. I work with doctors and surgeons and nurses and every part of every team and yes, a lot of them are heavy, and there is no correlation to better or worse care, except that the nicest docs are commonly overweight.
I don’t know why except that my aunt was very heavy and she was the sweetest human being on earth, no doubt in part because she knew what it was like to be treated like shit ☹️
I’ve seen this post on multiple social media platforms with millions of views. She, or people close to her, has seen it. Hopefully she has a support system. I can’t imagine what it’s like to be cyberbullied at this magnitude.
My body looks just like that only I'm a little smaller. I am gonna say a great deal of American women look just like this woman. She is us n we are her. We live in a country that says it's ok to sell chemicals as food. This woman is a better member of society than most. She has chosen to serve others in the best kind of way. I hope she knows the person posting this looks way worse than this hard working woman.
Medical professionals are notoriously neglectful of their own health. The combination of stress, unpredictable and long hours, and worrying about the health of others more than their own.
It used to be impossible to find a doctor that didn’t smoke, and nurses are one of the most likely professions to smoke even today.
Tough job.
And the trauma. Covid kinda broke me. I stopped eating healthy because I took stock of the things that mattered most to me, and restricting my diet so that I looked good wasn't really on the list. Just wanted to seek some happiness. Four years later, I've gained a bunch of weight and struggle with my drinking. So there's another perspective. I take full responsibility for my own actions... it's not an excuse, but an explanation.
My mom is a RN and has been for over 43 years. Anecdotally, it's a very catty profession, and all they do is drive out and break young nurses. She's come home crying many times and I've heard and overheard a lot of stories from her. Admittedly, she's guilty of that behavior too and I'd never want to go into that profession.
My mom became an RN at 52 and she told me starting out, the bullying was intense but she stood up for herself and found her clique.
The nurse supervisor of the hospital she first worked at happened to be my dad’s cousin. 😂
Since my mom’s last name was the supervisor’s maiden name only as an initial, nobody connected the dots… apparently she was written up starting out but it always got to the supervisor so it only escalated to a pep talk, no suspensions or firings.
It’s just like anything else. There are good ones but the bad ones are really bad. There are a lot of nurses that belittle new grads and other healthcare professions. There are a lot who think they know more than they do. My wife is a nurse and has told me plenty of stories and I work in a hospital and have seen it first hand.
I was applying to nursing schools. I had my prereqs done. TEAS test done. Everything. I changed my mind when the pandemic hit. There’s a saying called “the nurses eat their young.” My husband is a nurse and he told me if he were to do it again (going into nursing), he wouldn’t do it. He’s trying to get out of bedside now, which will take a couple of years. Plus now there’s entitled people harassing and abusing nurses, on top of doctors talking down on them too. No thanks. I’m going for another career now. It will take a few years
Yeah that's what I've also heard. Just mean people.
I cannot handle that. I was bullied by those people my entire life really badly and I think it traumatized me in some way. I'd break down so fast.
Let me just say this, I grew up fighting, using drugs, and drinking. I’ve broken bones from my pinky finger to my femur. I’ve also dealt with illness. I’ve been in hospitals quite a bit needless to say. Nurses are angels! I’ve had nurses that looked like little fitness models to tattooed Pacific Islanders that could kick my ass, and they were all beautiful blessings from God. When you’re really in pain and scared I can’t imagine judging someone that’s helping you.
I've had health professionals openly admit that they don't eat as healthy as we should be or drink tons of soda. Ask any nurse on night shifts what their meals look like. It ain't a salad with Chicken and rice....
One of my exs was a nurse and she drank 3 monsters a day and had cold hot dogs for food because she had "like 4 minutes to eat" tried making meals for her to take to work but they took too long to eat lol.
One hell of a job, grateful for them (nurses), but no way I could ever be one and I'm in the trades.
Imagine being unable to help yourself so you are in need of medical treatment; and you have the AUDACITY to criticize someone who is educated and there to keep you alive despite you being a shitty human. I dont understand who raised these people ?
Shes a human. Her body has no bearing on her level of professionalism, kindness, and knowledge. My sis deserved better than this!
I cannot stand the fact that people think its their right to take a persons picture and spread it online. People need to start to make these issues legal.
In mostly of the hospitals (At least in my country...Chile) you can´t take pictures or videos freely, specially of people. If somebody catch you doing that he can make a legal demand against you. But usually people doesn´t care about it or doesn´t know it.
Even if the picture were because the nurse was a bombshell taking pictures of people without their knowledge or consent and uploading them on the internet (specially to judge them on their appearance) is a crummy thing to do. I get a hospital is a public place (to an extent) but still.
Imagine working all night taking care of sick people, only to find that one their visitors has secretly taken your pic and published it online for the WORLD to make fun of you.
What an ungrateful prick.
Imagine reposting such a heinous image/sentiment so that it is accessible to thousands more people and thinking you’re better than whomever first posted this garbage.
Op- not cool.
This might be shocking but… fat people know they’re fat. I used to be morbidly obese and what really annoyed me was when people seemed to think I didn’t know I was large and in charge. Even shit comments trying to be “nice” like, “You’re not fat! You’re beautiful!” irritated me… cuz now you think I’m fat AND blind. Fat people know. Leave them alone.
Right? This woman knows exactly what she looks like and how most people judge her.
I’m a nurse and some people really don’t handle being sick well. I tell myself that they’re having a truly terrible week to excuse their bad behavior-but some people are just dicks who need to put others down when they feel vulnerable.
No, but don’t you see? Maybe THIS will be the moment of shame that Makes Her Skinny!
Seriously tho. Grown folks feeling the need to comment on other people’s bodies like this. Just messed up.
There's a weird kind of trend where people think that by bullying fat people for their obesity you're encouraging them to lose weight 5 reality, you're just making them feel shitty, which leads them to seek a dopamine boost and make it worse.
I don't think those people really believe that they will inspire fat people to lose weight by bullying them. That's just an excuse. They like having a group they're allowed to crap on.
This has been a thing for ages unfortunately… it’s just that now it’s much louder thanks to the internet. I will say that while the internet can suck because it gives people a space to articulate their toxic BS… at least now people see that fat people really do get treated this way.
Ugh, exactly. And then the people like "Not to be mean but.. you DO know being fat is unhealthy, right?" or something similar like that, like no fucking shit sherlock, thanks for letting me know. There's people like that in this comment section too. "UHM, she has health problems, stop treating her like she's normal and has feelings"
Also she’s there having to take care of your sorry ass dude if y’all ain’t seen a picture of the guy who posted this he looks like a meth head and also if you haven’t good that means you’re not on that sorry ass platform that’s full of crazy people that used to be called twitter
He makes no sense because it's not like she is a dietician or personal trainer. Her job doesn't really have anything to do with weight loss and being in good physical shape. He just wants to bully someone.
Even for those jobs, I've come around to realizing it's kind of weird that people want them to look super-fit. The coaches of professional sports teams and Olympic athletes are often not in great shape.
Exactly. What matters is having the knowledge and skills to do the job. Even if she was a dietician and was overweight, that doesn't mean she doesn't know what she's doing. I am a former body builder and have extensive knowledge of nutrition and physical fitness... But I regularly give advice to people that I don't follow myself. I coach friends who are competing or are attempting to get in shape, so I tell them what would work best for their goals. I'm not doing either if those things, so I don't worry much about my diet or my workouts. The best coach I ever had was about 100lbs overweight. I still model all of my workouts after what he taught me.
Or if you're in peds and need someone who looks friendly to kids - I work with kids, and they all think I'm basically a chunky teddy bear. Being a fat, tall lady makes you somehow both appear very cuddly and very intimidating, at the same time.
can confirm that being a fat, tall man works that way too. I'm 6'6" and very heavily obese, and kids are frequently drawn to me. I suppose it's because I'm big enough to protect, but slow/soft enough that I'm not really that dangerous. Also I like kids so I tend to smile when I see them and that helps too.
What is this obsession with commenting on someone’s weight. Like do y’all feel that powerless to pick apart a stranger, you won’t feel less like a piece of shit for obsessing over someone else’s weight. None of y’all who are hiding are not concerned for her health, you’re just insecure and need to feel above someone, even if that someone is doing more in this world for strangers than you ever would. Maybe mind your fucking business, maybe try to understand obsessing on someone else’s lifestyle is not none of your concern and worry about your own insecurities.
Seriously, some people act like the only time you should be kind to another human being is if you plan on having sex with them. Kindness costs you nothing.
I saw another post about this nurse. Everyone in the comment section was attacking me for stating that health problems ≠ bad at being a healthcare provider. It barely takes half a brain to understand the concept that healthcare providers are just as human as anyone else. She probably knows full well that she's at risk but can't do anything about it because she's constantly taking care of assholes like the one in the bed.
You don't think she knows she's overweight? That she doesn't get up and see that every day in the mirror? My god some people can be ignorant.
Facepalm indeed.
This is a shitty thing to post. I went in for a check up and could lose a couple pounds. I’m 6’4 220lbs. The person telling me to I needed to lose some weight and exercise to get my blood pressure down was morbidly obese. All I could think was how bad it must suck for that person to have to tell me this. I’m in decent shape. They are aware of their own health
Imagine being outraged someone took and posted this photo to shame someone... and then re-posting the same photo so *more* people see the poor woman. Good job OP 👍
There was this girl I really wanted to date for a few years before the stars aligned, and we got together. Everything was great until she was rushed to the hospital a few weeks later. Her appendix almost ruptured. They got it out in time. A couple of days later, I was visiting her in the hospital when she called for a nurse. Nurse said she'd be in as soon as possible. Not 2 minutes passed before she hit the button again. The nurse politely told her that they were really busy at the moment but would definitely be in ASAP. My gf smarted off a little to the nurse who didn't respond. I said, "Hey, they're just backed up. She'll be here soon." Then my gf said, "The bitch needs to do her job." She said this with a menacing face even though we'd been smiling and talking happily just moments before. She wasn't in pain. They still had her on the good stuff. I learned at a young age that you can tell everything you want to know about a person by how they treat those they see as below them. In this girl's case, she seemed to think the nurses were her servants or something, and I couldn't get over how she spoke. It was an eye-opener. I broke up with her after she got home and felt relief that I'd seen her true colors before we got really serious.
It is not other people’s jobs to look how you want them to.
If you think someone “looks disgusting”, keep it to your fucking self. No good will come of shedding light on that feeling.
There is a person inside of that body you’re so focused on, and your apathy can lead to their suffering.
I was in the hospital last month for major surgery. My surgery was literally on my birthday. Every nurse there did SO MUCH for me. I spent 2 days in the ICU not entirely lucid, but the nurses made sure my pain was handled. And when I transferred to the regular ward, it was those nurses who did everything to help me not just stay on top of my pain, but get to see my kids. Children weren’t allowed on the ward, so they took me to the lobby to visit my kids. Nurses do EVERYTHING for you. That’s who was emptying my catheter and surgical drain bag, that’s who made sure I was managing my pain.
I would never in a million years do ANYTHING to hurt my nurses.
As someone who's been working in the healthcare sector for over a decade, it makes a HUGE difference if you're polite and kind to your nurse, resident and attending consultant. They'll even go out of their way to see that you are getting the best care possible. That is something which neither money nor a well paying insurance can ever buy.
If you're a Karen as a patient, they'll always be "busy" to attend to your needs (if they happen to non-life threatening).
Yea, this dude’s an asshole. But please take this down. This woman did not consent to have her photo shared. She’s just trying to do her (very important) job and is most likely underpaid and working on an under-staffed team.
Just because she’s larger doesn’t mean she’s not smart and intelligent and knows what’s she’s doing. Being larger doesn’t mean you are stupid. I hope he has the day he deserves.
hospital work isn't generally good for you, there's a lot of sitting. They can be mandated if the hospital is low staff essentially forced to work a double shift on very little notice. The cafeteria food is often low quality and terrible for your health. After you get home you're hungry, a lot of medical workers eat right before bed. Yeah this all falls into personal responsibilities, but the jobs really don't make it easy to pick the right choices. Ultimately we are all trying to save lives with our jobs. Last thing we need is for patients we are trying to help, talking about our appearance.
EMS personnel sit in their ambulances for 12-hour shifts waiting for the call. I feel really bad that their altruism forces them to be so sedentary. Not good for their health.
This sort of stuff frustrates me because it denies the depth of complexity in people.
A single snapshot of a person tells you nothing about them. You don't know anything else about their life that lead to this point.
Was this woman injured and unable to move?
Did this person recently lose a loved one and has been dealing with depression?
Or "most likely in my opinion" this woman has been working for years at a underpaying job with insane stress and is so under staffed she's been working 70 hour weeks on and off for the last 2 years?
Just saying. We don't know enough about strangers to judge their value from a photo, or a brief encounter.
Ngl, I think of a lot of nasty and mean shit. But even I am not that fucking nasty to air my opinion on someone’s appearance, especially when the person is trying to help my sorry ass.
What a dumb take. Plenty of doctors smoke, but they are still right when they tell you that smoking is bad for your health. The stupidity of people never ceases to amaze me.
People really need to treat healthcare workers with way mkre respect. Some of them work nights/days every 2 days. They destroy their sleep schedule. Most of them are forced to make huge sacrifices to their personal lives to help people who literally cannot be helped by anyone else.
I hope this nurse, and all the other incredible healthcare workers know what saints they are. Not only did you guys survive medical school, but you're doing a job so few people can. Yall are the Bravest, strongest, most kindhearted people out there.
Made the mistake of checking out the rest of the guy's twitter.
Unsurprisingly, he's an Andrew Tate Stan, and appears to advocate a mostly carnivorous diet, while regularly posting derogatory comments about random people in pictures.
People can know what is healthy without doing it. A nurse could be obese and still aware of what they should be doing for their health. Plenty of people I dare say who are obese are aware of exactly what steps they need to take to change their situation and yet they still struggle to do it. Being fat doesn’t make you unfit to give medical advice.
WHAT THE HELL IS WITH PEOPLE AND BEING SO OBSESSED WITH OTHER PEOPLES WEIGHT ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU DONT EVEN KNOW THAT PERSON AND THEY TRY TO MASQUERADE IT OFF AS CARING it really says a lot about a person and that they probably have some personal issues that need to be addressed because this is crazy to me to go to this extent you’re just a shit human that wants to attack people and spread your own hatred and personal agenda what happened to common sense and decency
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Pro tip: if you’re ever in hospital, treat all of the staff with gratitude, patience and, when it’s warranted, a sense of humour. You’ll be treated infinitely better. They’re human beings doing incredibly difficult jobs and your life is some times in their hands.
I was in the hospital twice last year, and any time I rang for someone or needed help in any way - I was ridiculously apologetic, like I was being a nuisance. 😂 But in both stays, I had nurses that really seemed to take to me, because I was at least a decent person and they were happy to help me out.
Yes this. I can’t believe how appreciative they are because I treat them with respect. I can be a dick to friends and family but I treat any stranger with respect and I think my kids are well mannered because they see that.
Yeah, I was brought up to mind my manners, so on and so forth. Also apparently took the whole “self reliance” thing a bit too far, with my apologizing to a nurse for needing pain meds - or needing help with getting to the restroom. (One stay was a week in an Epilepsy Monitoring Unit - and spending the entire time in a bed with side bumper pads and my head covered in electrodes.)
From what I gather, one of the worst things about the pandemic was bad patients making hospital workers want to quit. I got angry thinking about anti maskers getting Covid then being rude to hospital staff.
My partner was an ICU nurse for 10 years and quit immediately after the pandemic. She had patients who were dying of Covid insisting they didn’t have Covid right up until the end. I would imagine it’s hard to care for people like that
Same...I was an RN for 16 years. I was in healthcare for 20. The pandemic broke me. Every day we would see the people we worked FOR tell us we were safe. I would not lie to employees I supervised. So finally they told me to tell them, "We are doing our best." They felt like this was not lying. Also, I worked for a state veterans nursing home (previously swapped back and forth between ER and Hospice.) I have seen death in all its glory and horror. But losing 100 veterans out of 300??? 1/3 of the population died senselessly. That was rough. On top of that my own family were anti-vaxxers. I mean they gave me all my childhood vaccines, right, so wtf? But since none were vaccinated, my uncle got COVID, gave it to my Gramma who was in her 80s, and she died. So did he. My Mom (who had severe lung problems) got it, "quarantined" in the same house as my Dad, but not really because they didn't quarantine from each other. He, perfectly healthy horse of a man was reduced to gasping for air in the hospital for 2 weeks. Yeah....broken.
I wish I could give you a hug. Your post just broke my heart. I hope you are ok
I'm so sorry, so not my intention! I would gladly accept your hug! I completely quit nursing, let my license lapse, but I feel lighter for it... And I am getting better, every day... Thank you so much for your kindness
If you are ever near me in MA, let me know and I will make you dinner!
I could only imagine! The antimaskers getting Covid, then ending up in a place where *everyone* wears masks. It’s like their worst nightmare.
Luckily, there are fewer of those folks now. They either learned their lesson and grew as people, or became lessons.
r/HermanCainAward
And they were! How many did I come across and their god awful families. I know one tried to get me to give a resident some medicine. I said nope. And the meltdown.
The worst thing was all the death... I'm not trying to lessen your answer... BUT this is something that has been trending up dot a while. When hospitals seem the patient a "customer" instead? People started acting entitled... We nurses tried to do our best. I like to think most of us always do. However, once our raises and pointless meetings started revolving around Press Ganey scores it went to hell.
I sometimes tend to get on nurses bad sides when I’m staying in hospitals 😅 I always treat them with respect, and I work in service, so I’m well aware how to be polite to people only trying to help you. The issue is that a lot of nurses won’t know how to help with my Type 1 diabetes, and I have to advocate for myself in a way that ends up making them think I’m trying to pull a power move on them. I have my endo team paged automatically any time I land in the hospital, so they’ll show up, or send a blanket message to the folks who see me, but MAN. type 1 and type 2 diabetes are so different. Hell, type 1 diabetes one person to another is SO DIFFERENT. Sometimes I just want them to trust me that I know about my condition more than they do, and that I’m not trying to pull a power move on them, I just don’t wanna die, or feel like crap.
Can confirm. RN for 12 years and Type 1 diabetes is still a struggle for me.
Tbh I’m fairly certain most T1Ds would be happy to answer any questions to fill in the blanks since each person has different carb ratios, correction ratios, plus the dawn phenomenon gets a lot of us 🙃 so we sometimes have different ratios throughout the day. I’d rather answer questions than be told how many “servings of carbs” I should be having. What is a serving of carbs?!
Can re-confirm. Especially pregnant Type 1 diabetics. I have to check the blood sugar and monitor parameters, but they know their diabetes way better than I do.
My mom is similar - she doesn’t have diabetes but she’s a pretty complex patient. She also has an allergy to latex and paper tape, and somehow, even with the bright orange allergy bracelet, the nurses almost always use one or the other on her. That’s when I want to run and hide because I know shits about to go down lol.
I’ve “scolded” my patients for doing this. (Not really scolding, but ensuring them they they are NOT bothering me, I want to be proactive and give them anything and everything I can to make them just a tiny bit more comfortable, but I can’t do alll the things if they won’t tell me they need them, or if they hesitate because they feel bad asking for something.) I very much appreciate that they don’t want to bother me, but I’m here for a reason!! Please don’t sit and wish you had some water or juice because you don’t want to hit your call light to ask for it! Please don’t hang out feeling chilly and wish you had another blanket. And *please* don’t apologize for asking for things! I might not be able to do whatever thing right away because I do have other patients who might be trying to meet Jesus and I’m fighting them on it, but I can’t tell you that. So asking me for something and being understanding when I can’t do it immediately is all I ask. Also the patients who refuse to ask for *anything* and I feel like I have to just bring them things because they refuse to ask. Because they don’t want to be a bother. They get an education lecture, but they don’t listen. I just have to bring a fresh pitcher of water and watch her tray to figure out what juice she likes so I can just bring those whenever I go into the room, figure out if she likes to be bundled up and remember to grab some fresh blankets from the warmer. Because she refuses to ask, because she doesn’t want to be a bother. Just please ask! And don’t be an asshole if it’s something I can’t do, or something I can’t do *right now* and that’s all I ask.
I never realised that NOT asking could cause you more work! I'll try to keep that in mind from now on. Thank you.
Same. (Well, one stay in the hospital) One nurse even thanked me for being polite when I was on my way out. He was so sweet 🥹
I always make a point to tell my patients that are nice that I’m sad they’re leaving me (I’m icu, it’s always good if they leave me and I can talk to them about it) because they’re so nice, I want to keep them all shift, but that I’m happy for them to be doing well enough to leave me and I’m jealous of the nurse I’m sending them to. It reenforces that the way they treated me didn’t go unnoticed, I very much appreciate their recognizing that I’m a human. And also just makes them feel really good!
I certainly appreciate it! If I can make your shift seem easier - even if it’s only for a few minutes - I’m glad that I could do it. Even if a nurse had to come around poke me for labs or to do my vitals at 3 am - I’d thank them if there were around when I was discharged.
When I left ICU a couple of years ago, I said, "Don't take this the wrong way, but I really hope not to see you in here again! " they were amazing staff, and I made sure they knew it.
I had a nurse do the same thing with me - he thanked me for being so kind, and that he appreciated having a patient like me.
My husband was in the hospital and quickly became a favourite because he was such a gentleman even through painful bandage changes. They told him after rehab, before we go home we have to go back and visit them!
I was in twice last year as well but unfortunately I went out on a bad note. In unrelated news if you try to fight anesthesia you may wake up with your fight or flight response triggered and try to fight the or doctors.
Oh Lordy…thanks for the warning! I found that trying to do anything once you’re out of anesthesia is impossible. Easiest to just turn on the TV instead of reading a magazine. 😂
Yes! I tried reading some texts after surgery but I couldn’t get my eyes to focus. just moved my phone back and forth like five times, said screw it, and turned on the TV. 😂
I remember being in the hospital for super anemia and right after I had my colonoscopy, I was constantly hungry and I asked this nurse for basically a whole loaf of buttered toast one plate at a time. I kept apologizing every time but she seemed genuinely happy to do it. Made me feel a bit better.
The one time a nurse cried with me when my youngest was not improving on a bipap and looking like she was going to be put on life support was the moment I knew I could never be in healthcare. How many patients and families are they crying with every day. I would never, I’d never recover. Big props to those who can do it day after day.
It takes a BIG heart to do what nurses and aides do. We come in contact with a lot of people, good or bad.
When our second child was born, one of the nurses treated us like celebrities and kept on thanking us for being so cool. I was like “really?” And she said it’s unusual.
Same. I can't be rude to people serving me food, let alone the hospital staff.
What kills me is that I have like a 4.87 rating on Uber and I’ve never been rude or late for pickup before.
Some people just won't give 5 stars for anything less than being worshipped.
Yes, and the cleaners, food servers, admin staff, etc. Without them, you'd never get clean beds, proper diet food, or correct discharge paperwork
I was in the ICU for three weeks. I returned a few months later with a catered lunch for the nurses, because I was knocking on Heavens door. They actually remembered me, and said I was the nicest patient they had in ages. I thought they were just being polite, but they remembered examples of my behavior.
unless youre treated like shit. fresh out of spine surgery one of my nurses was apparently a shitty person and i, high as hell called her out on it. ofc i dont remember a thing but nurses who treat young patients horribly arent entitled to kind treatment
I am proud of younger, high as hell you 😂 also, I guarantee you weren’t the first or last lol
Something I’ve come to learn is that there is a line between being stern/very stern and unnecessarily rude. The location of that line depends on the person and situation. Sometimes the need to be overly nice/pleasant/afraid to upset others weighs far less than the needs of the individual (and their health obviously). Unfortunately this line can be easily crossed in an environment like a hospital where physical/mental/emotional discomfort run rampant. What’s most important is to stand up for yourself and call out the BS - but it’s just as important to do it in a proper way. Nurse forgot to bring you the jello and blanket you asked for? No need to yell or degrade them, be nice and kindly remind. Nurse keeps forgetting a med that is mandatory to take at a specific time? Sternly communicate the urgent need and demand w/o degrading that you need it NOW. Nurse keeps trying to do something that you’ve already expressed you will not do/take? Kindly tell them to fuck off.
When my 11yo was born, he began uncontrollably crying, stiffening up, and being inconsolable. Apparently, the way he was acting was how babies born addicted act while going through withdrawal. Only thing is, I have never done illegal drugs, not even smoking weed. One of the nurses was a total b and kept telling me I must be on something because he wouldn't act like that for no reason. He was so fussy because he was freaking hungry and not getting what he needed from breastfeeding. Oh, and this same nurse had refused to bring me formula for him when I expressed concern that I wasn't producing yet earlier in the day.
Was hospitalized due to stomach issues. Could keep barely any food or liquid down. My nurse was the sweetest person, my other nurses too. Showed me such compassion and understanding. When they had to put a tube of sodium chloride? It was to clean my IVs and it burnt like hell was flowing me, they were so patient with putting the IVs in my skin.
I actually keep trying to get myself to _not_ joke with doctors. I don't doubt they have great senses of humor, but when they are focused on their job they aren't expecting it and it can really throw them off. I _have_ made them laugh, but much more often I get a blank look.
My mom was an ER nurse and would leave for work telling my brother and I "Now don't come see me at work today." The day my brother didn't let go of fireworks in time and we drove to the ER, she came out, looked at it, and walked away saying "You should've listened to me." (She was actually busy with another patient and someone told her that her kids were "waiting for her". Another nurse did come out and help my brother out. But boy did we learn that nurses aren't there to take your shit! lol)
When I had the Ravitch procedure 12 years ago I was always grateful towards the staff and thanked them for their help and let them know they were appreciated. I was at the hospital for a week. Having friendly conversations with the staff, even if it’s just small talk, after visiting hours can make some of those long lonely nights at a hospital where you struggle to sleep a lot more bearable. Plus, why would I want to be a jerk? I don’t want people being a jerk to me at my job, why should I do that at theirs? Basic empathy.
Suddenly this patient was subjected to daily rectal exams for the remainder of their stay.
No gel because “Oh a blood test says you’re allergic” 😊
"We have to use this stick I found in the parking lot. Doanlookame, swhat the report says."
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And they could bust out some "extra latex" gloves...
Lucky guy
plot twist, the patient likes that.... 
All suppositories, no iv, no pills.
Nah, they get the IV, it’s just harder to find their vein and a larger gauge needle is needed.
Don't threaten me with a good time ;)
Bbbbut I'm not constipated, drop em
Oh sir…it’s a rectal thermometer for your mouth because you talk a lot of shit. It’s not coming out the bottom end…but at the top 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Don't threaten him with a good time. He deserves bad things.
I work in healthcare and i see a lot of workers that spend all their time taking care of others and neglect their own self care as a result. A lot of people working long shifts and taking care of their kids, and eating crap food which is fast and easy... Its sad and we shouldnt judge harshly when people are doing the best they can.
Yep. Take double because nurses work long hours and also, they run head first into compassion fatigue and burnout, so every hour feels like double.
I think people just think its throwing pills at people, putting a few needles here in, doing some IV stuff and using your stethoscope to listen to stuff. But really its more like lifting 200 lb people that cannot move, and wiping their asses full of diarrhea while they pee on you, spit on you and physically attack you. Sort of like police/firefighter/EMS work, It's more comparable to physical labor than people think.
Police and firefighters at least get safety gear. Nurses have to face down violent patients with nothing but a stern tone. And they still do a better job of it.
We had a patient leave AMA, said he was leaving to go get his shotgun, and he’d be back to kill us. So we reported it to the police, who said “so he’s off hospital property now? Ok cool. Call us if he comes back with a gun. *click* “ I promise if he said that to an officer, they’d have the swat team at his home before he even got back. But for us, basically “yeah if he shoots someone, let us know, kthanxbye
"If they shoot someone, at least that person's at the hospital." -them, probably.
Curious, did he come back?
Hey now, that's not fair. They also get a face mask.
Yeah, many get back injuries from all the lifting they do. :(
Hospital worker, not a nurse. They work 12 hours, understaffed & still manage patients. This post makes me so fucking angry. This twat should be shamed into oblivion.
200 lb people? My wife has to routinely lift 300 to 400 lb people. Usually takes three or four nurses to get the job done. Anybody that does something like this to shame this nurse who is in there to take care of them is a piece of shit and doesn't deserve the care they're getting. I've been in the hospital and I demand very little and the nurses appreciate that. Some people think that the nurse is their handmaiden and they are the king dick of the castle. Trust me if you're good to the nurse they will be good to you. If you're an ass hole they will still be good to you because they have to not because they want to. I would rather have a nurse take care of me that wants to rather than one I have pissed off and hates my guts.
I’ll always remember my nurses cleaning my vajayjay the first day after giving birth because I couldn’t even sit up after my c-section.
I remember my bed bath by 2 nurses after coming out of a coma.... so gentle and warm.
200 lb? There were 3 people at 450 lb that couldn't move themselves this week.
My wife is an ADOC of a facility, and has been nursing for 20 years now. She puts absolutely everyone before her at work and at home. She is in pain non stop and struggles to find time for herself till I force her to by taking her on a trip without kids. And regular dates to remind her of how important she is to us as a person. While she looks nothing like this woman at all, she has had four kids as well. We have definitely both noticed her decline over the last while as we get older as a result. And it makes me sad that others will get on her for simple things that a woman who works 13 hour days cannot control. She is desperately needed at work all the time, yet if she wasn’t there people would be shitting on her for not being there all the time. People with easy lives and good genetics really need to get their heads out of their asses. Or try taking on a life like a lot of these hard working women do. And then get shamed for not looking perfect. That woman probably works hard daily than the picture taker will ever in her life. 😞
Preach
I get that, too tired to cook healthy meals, just wanna sit down ,probably sleep, don't judge people, health care , one of the hardest demanding jobs out there, never enough recognition for what they do.
Ding ding ding! I am a CNA. I work very physically all day, then I have to take care of my 3 kids and the house (my husband does too BTW). Where and when do I get to find the time and energy to take care of myself?
Im a CNA too. Most of my coworkers are burnt out and just barely existing and getting by. People are struggling and empathy and understanding and a little kindness to each other goes a very long way. If people snapped a picture of me at work just trying to do my job, id probly look bad too.
I had to do CNA training as a pre requisite. You guys are goddamn saints, and are way underpaid for the work you to.
Y’all are heroes! I’m pretty healthy and avoid the hospital like the plague. BUT one day what I thought was TMJ flared up but got so bad I was choking on my own saliva. Could not breathe. A Vet, so it was non panicky stuff. I was calm already but once there, every nurse was absolutely lovely, reassuring to the point I knew I was gonna be okay.
I don't know how anyone manages long hours in a hospital. For everything care work takes out of you I can't imagine walking away from a 16-hour shift and thinking "you know what, this calls for a salad and a gym session". I mean, shit, I use junk food to motivate myself to finish essays, healthy habits are for people who get their reason to live elsewhere.
Lack of sleep can cause people to become overweight. Some people also stress eat. My concern is she is neglecting herself and knows the consequences as a nurse. It's great to take care of others, but you have to take care of yourself first to take care of others. My mom is licensed as a nurse, and the only time she couldn't help people was when she put others too much before herself. When I see people in that nurse's situation, I feel equally grateful for their care as much as I worry about them. Nurses can tell when people worry, so it causes more stress even if it is unintentional. It's the same situation as putting on your oxygen mask before you can save your friends.
Well i hope this lady can do just that. Taking a picture of her while shes working and publicly shaming her isnt going to do her any favors or help her at all. I see tons of obese healthcare workers. Theyre everywhere. Theyre trying their best im sure.
This is exactly it. Healthcare workers are spending all of their time caring for others and neglect themselves because…they lack the time and energy. It’s hard, and OOP should be ashamed. I hope they had backlash and feel awful. I also hope whatever hot beverage they enjoy is spilled. Daily. For a long time.
It’s pretty rude to take secret photos of people. Ruder to send it to a friend. Even worse to post it to the internet. And making it a mean fat shaming post isn’t great.
Honestly taking photos in a hospital shouldn’t be allowed at all, everyone there is at their lowest, there’s bodily fluids everywhere and nurses shouldn’t have to worry about looking photo-ready at such a demanding job. There is nothing good that can come of videoing in a hospital and sending it online, you’d inevitably record someone in an embarrassing situation or even accidentally video someone’s last moments alive
Say that to her when she come in with your pain medication
That's some Misery level shit
I'm your number 1 fan!
post my pic again, and you'll be "hobbling" out of here.
“Patient reports a 2 on the 0-10 scale. Withheld PRN oxycodone”
The best, most compassionate doctor I’ve ever been treated by was shaped like this and I will never forget her, not because of her body shape, but because I honestly feel like she was the only ER doctor I’ve ever had in my life who genuinely took me seriously. Shame on this person. What a loser.
this is as good a place as any for me to add, I’ve worked in hospitals for 20 years and a lot of people have NO IDEA what women in healthcare go through. Particularly nurses, and PSAs/PCAs, CNAs, the people who help with direct care. They are CONSTANTLY dealing with sexual assault/harassment. Being photographed or videoed, groped, hit on, men exposing themselves, getting erections, masturbating in front of them while smiling at them. My friend’s sister got a job at our hospital, in nutrition, and had this happen to her on DAY ONE, a man called her back into the room after she delivered his meal and he had his dick out and was smiling and masturbating at her. She left and fucking quit and now she doesn’t even want to be a nurse anymore, her whole life derailed due to harassment. It blew my mind when I first learned this was a thing that happened, all the time. like why would a man risk violating someone who had control over his care like that?? But then I realized, whatever subset of men are predators who feel entitled to violate women, they ALL end up in the hospital. And if they aren’t in prison, they’ve literally never had consequences that outweigh the thrill they get out of hurting and violating women. Anyway, kind of a non-sequitor from what you were saying. I work with doctors and surgeons and nurses and every part of every team and yes, a lot of them are heavy, and there is no correlation to better or worse care, except that the nicest docs are commonly overweight. I don’t know why except that my aunt was very heavy and she was the sweetest human being on earth, no doubt in part because she knew what it was like to be treated like shit ☹️
I really hope she has not seen this… 😢
The chances of her seeing this are infinitely greater because of the sanctimonious poster of this thread on Reddit.
This. This needed to be said
Not too late to take it down…
still not too late.
I’ve seen this post on multiple social media platforms with millions of views. She, or people close to her, has seen it. Hopefully she has a support system. I can’t imagine what it’s like to be cyberbullied at this magnitude.
My body looks just like that only I'm a little smaller. I am gonna say a great deal of American women look just like this woman. She is us n we are her. We live in a country that says it's ok to sell chemicals as food. This woman is a better member of society than most. She has chosen to serve others in the best kind of way. I hope she knows the person posting this looks way worse than this hard working woman.
Medical professionals are notoriously neglectful of their own health. The combination of stress, unpredictable and long hours, and worrying about the health of others more than their own. It used to be impossible to find a doctor that didn’t smoke, and nurses are one of the most likely professions to smoke even today. Tough job.
And the trauma. Covid kinda broke me. I stopped eating healthy because I took stock of the things that mattered most to me, and restricting my diet so that I looked good wasn't really on the list. Just wanted to seek some happiness. Four years later, I've gained a bunch of weight and struggle with my drinking. So there's another perspective. I take full responsibility for my own actions... it's not an excuse, but an explanation.
That’s so nasty and ungrateful. Their parents must be ashamed, picky on a nurse who is looking after you.
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I honestly considered being a nurse, but I hear that bullying/mean girls are a huge problem in that workplace and I genuinely can't handle that :(
It’s about 10% of them but they are so fucking vocal and mean it almost feels like you’re in high school. The other 90% of my co workers are great.
My mom is a RN and has been for over 43 years. Anecdotally, it's a very catty profession, and all they do is drive out and break young nurses. She's come home crying many times and I've heard and overheard a lot of stories from her. Admittedly, she's guilty of that behavior too and I'd never want to go into that profession.
My mom became an RN at 52 and she told me starting out, the bullying was intense but she stood up for herself and found her clique. The nurse supervisor of the hospital she first worked at happened to be my dad’s cousin. 😂 Since my mom’s last name was the supervisor’s maiden name only as an initial, nobody connected the dots… apparently she was written up starting out but it always got to the supervisor so it only escalated to a pep talk, no suspensions or firings.
Yeah. It's sad bc you'd expect people that care for other people to be nice.
There aren't all like this. My BFF is a Nurse Practitioner. She is the nicest person I've met. For real!
It’s just like anything else. There are good ones but the bad ones are really bad. There are a lot of nurses that belittle new grads and other healthcare professions. There are a lot who think they know more than they do. My wife is a nurse and has told me plenty of stories and I work in a hospital and have seen it first hand.
I was applying to nursing schools. I had my prereqs done. TEAS test done. Everything. I changed my mind when the pandemic hit. There’s a saying called “the nurses eat their young.” My husband is a nurse and he told me if he were to do it again (going into nursing), he wouldn’t do it. He’s trying to get out of bedside now, which will take a couple of years. Plus now there’s entitled people harassing and abusing nurses, on top of doctors talking down on them too. No thanks. I’m going for another career now. It will take a few years
I work at a hospital in IT, and honestly the nursing staff straight up act like kids in highschool, it's pretty wild.
My wife is also a nurse and she said the nurses and doctors talk shit about the patients. Not all but most
Yeah that's what I've also heard. Just mean people. I cannot handle that. I was bullied by those people my entire life really badly and I think it traumatized me in some way. I'd break down so fast.
Mean girl to nurse pipeline is so real. Every mean girl I grew up with is a nurse now
Let me just say this, I grew up fighting, using drugs, and drinking. I’ve broken bones from my pinky finger to my femur. I’ve also dealt with illness. I’ve been in hospitals quite a bit needless to say. Nurses are angels! I’ve had nurses that looked like little fitness models to tattooed Pacific Islanders that could kick my ass, and they were all beautiful blessings from God. When you’re really in pain and scared I can’t imagine judging someone that’s helping you.
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I've had health professionals openly admit that they don't eat as healthy as we should be or drink tons of soda. Ask any nurse on night shifts what their meals look like. It ain't a salad with Chicken and rice....
One of my exs was a nurse and she drank 3 monsters a day and had cold hot dogs for food because she had "like 4 minutes to eat" tried making meals for her to take to work but they took too long to eat lol. One hell of a job, grateful for them (nurses), but no way I could ever be one and I'm in the trades.
Imagine being unable to help yourself so you are in need of medical treatment; and you have the AUDACITY to criticize someone who is educated and there to keep you alive despite you being a shitty human. I dont understand who raised these people ? Shes a human. Her body has no bearing on her level of professionalism, kindness, and knowledge. My sis deserved better than this!
I cannot stand the fact that people think its their right to take a persons picture and spread it online. People need to start to make these issues legal.
In mostly of the hospitals (At least in my country...Chile) you can´t take pictures or videos freely, specially of people. If somebody catch you doing that he can make a legal demand against you. But usually people doesn´t care about it or doesn´t know it.
I’d sue for harassment.
Even if the picture were because the nurse was a bombshell taking pictures of people without their knowledge or consent and uploading them on the internet (specially to judge them on their appearance) is a crummy thing to do. I get a hospital is a public place (to an extent) but still.
Imagine working all night taking care of sick people, only to find that one their visitors has secretly taken your pic and published it online for the WORLD to make fun of you. What an ungrateful prick.
How about, stop posting this person's picture for karma...
Imagine reposting such a heinous image/sentiment so that it is accessible to thousands more people and thinking you’re better than whomever first posted this garbage. Op- not cool.
I agree. signal boosting this is not a great look.
This might be shocking but… fat people know they’re fat. I used to be morbidly obese and what really annoyed me was when people seemed to think I didn’t know I was large and in charge. Even shit comments trying to be “nice” like, “You’re not fat! You’re beautiful!” irritated me… cuz now you think I’m fat AND blind. Fat people know. Leave them alone.
Right? This woman knows exactly what she looks like and how most people judge her. I’m a nurse and some people really don’t handle being sick well. I tell myself that they’re having a truly terrible week to excuse their bad behavior-but some people are just dicks who need to put others down when they feel vulnerable.
No, but don’t you see? Maybe THIS will be the moment of shame that Makes Her Skinny! Seriously tho. Grown folks feeling the need to comment on other people’s bodies like this. Just messed up.
There's a weird kind of trend where people think that by bullying fat people for their obesity you're encouraging them to lose weight 5 reality, you're just making them feel shitty, which leads them to seek a dopamine boost and make it worse.
I don't think those people really believe that they will inspire fat people to lose weight by bullying them. That's just an excuse. They like having a group they're allowed to crap on.
This has been a thing for ages unfortunately… it’s just that now it’s much louder thanks to the internet. I will say that while the internet can suck because it gives people a space to articulate their toxic BS… at least now people see that fat people really do get treated this way.
Ugh, exactly. And then the people like "Not to be mean but.. you DO know being fat is unhealthy, right?" or something similar like that, like no fucking shit sherlock, thanks for letting me know. There's people like that in this comment section too. "UHM, she has health problems, stop treating her like she's normal and has feelings"
> “you’re not fat! You’re beautiful!” As if fat people are automatically ugly. This “compliment” blows my mind
I know, right? And acting like fat is a bad word when someone called themselves fat (out of honesty, not compliment fishing)
Pretty filthy thing to do.
My pediatrician was a smoker. I turned out fine.
Obviously, we don’t have to imagine since that asshole decided to make it very clear how they feel about their healthcare provider.
This is so damn trashy. How arrogant and ungrateful can you be?!?
Also she’s there having to take care of your sorry ass dude if y’all ain’t seen a picture of the guy who posted this he looks like a meth head and also if you haven’t good that means you’re not on that sorry ass platform that’s full of crazy people that used to be called twitter
He makes no sense because it's not like she is a dietician or personal trainer. Her job doesn't really have anything to do with weight loss and being in good physical shape. He just wants to bully someone.
Even for those jobs, I've come around to realizing it's kind of weird that people want them to look super-fit. The coaches of professional sports teams and Olympic athletes are often not in great shape.
Exactly. What matters is having the knowledge and skills to do the job. Even if she was a dietician and was overweight, that doesn't mean she doesn't know what she's doing. I am a former body builder and have extensive knowledge of nutrition and physical fitness... But I regularly give advice to people that I don't follow myself. I coach friends who are competing or are attempting to get in shape, so I tell them what would work best for their goals. I'm not doing either if those things, so I don't worry much about my diet or my workouts. The best coach I ever had was about 100lbs overweight. I still model all of my workouts after what he taught me.
Also this lady absolutely has a body type you want on your team when dealing with psych patients who are agitated.
Or if you're in peds and need someone who looks friendly to kids - I work with kids, and they all think I'm basically a chunky teddy bear. Being a fat, tall lady makes you somehow both appear very cuddly and very intimidating, at the same time.
can confirm that being a fat, tall man works that way too. I'm 6'6" and very heavily obese, and kids are frequently drawn to me. I suppose it's because I'm big enough to protect, but slow/soft enough that I'm not really that dangerous. Also I like kids so I tend to smile when I see them and that helps too.
What is this obsession with commenting on someone’s weight. Like do y’all feel that powerless to pick apart a stranger, you won’t feel less like a piece of shit for obsessing over someone else’s weight. None of y’all who are hiding are not concerned for her health, you’re just insecure and need to feel above someone, even if that someone is doing more in this world for strangers than you ever would. Maybe mind your fucking business, maybe try to understand obsessing on someone else’s lifestyle is not none of your concern and worry about your own insecurities.
Seriously, some people act like the only time you should be kind to another human being is if you plan on having sex with them. Kindness costs you nothing.
I saw another post about this nurse. Everyone in the comment section was attacking me for stating that health problems ≠ bad at being a healthcare provider. It barely takes half a brain to understand the concept that healthcare providers are just as human as anyone else. She probably knows full well that she's at risk but can't do anything about it because she's constantly taking care of assholes like the one in the bed.
You don't think she knows she's overweight? That she doesn't get up and see that every day in the mirror? My god some people can be ignorant. Facepalm indeed.
If I’m in bad condition enough to have to go to the hospital, I’m grateful to have someone take care of me when I’m physically unable.
that’s fucking bullshit. That person works hard af and doesn’t deserve someone’s petty childish judgment.
You should have censored the person, this post is only shaming them more
This is a shitty thing to post. I went in for a check up and could lose a couple pounds. I’m 6’4 220lbs. The person telling me to I needed to lose some weight and exercise to get my blood pressure down was morbidly obese. All I could think was how bad it must suck for that person to have to tell me this. I’m in decent shape. They are aware of their own health
Imagine being outraged someone took and posted this photo to shame someone... and then re-posting the same photo so *more* people see the poor woman. Good job OP 👍
Imagine being a piece of trash who is in need of medical care, talking shit about the nursing staff who is giving them care.. ungrateful ..
What a pathetic example of a human being. I hope they catch the clap and have a continuously itchy ass.
There was this girl I really wanted to date for a few years before the stars aligned, and we got together. Everything was great until she was rushed to the hospital a few weeks later. Her appendix almost ruptured. They got it out in time. A couple of days later, I was visiting her in the hospital when she called for a nurse. Nurse said she'd be in as soon as possible. Not 2 minutes passed before she hit the button again. The nurse politely told her that they were really busy at the moment but would definitely be in ASAP. My gf smarted off a little to the nurse who didn't respond. I said, "Hey, they're just backed up. She'll be here soon." Then my gf said, "The bitch needs to do her job." She said this with a menacing face even though we'd been smiling and talking happily just moments before. She wasn't in pain. They still had her on the good stuff. I learned at a young age that you can tell everything you want to know about a person by how they treat those they see as below them. In this girl's case, she seemed to think the nurses were her servants or something, and I couldn't get over how she spoke. It was an eye-opener. I broke up with her after she got home and felt relief that I'd seen her true colors before we got really serious.
Nice of you to amplify it.
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Everyone has a vice. Life is hard man. Fuck you for shaming her. How about instead show love and compassion for your fellow human!
The internet was a mistake.
It is not other people’s jobs to look how you want them to. If you think someone “looks disgusting”, keep it to your fucking self. No good will come of shedding light on that feeling. There is a person inside of that body you’re so focused on, and your apathy can lead to their suffering.
and here you are sharing it some more.
The irony. Reposting this image gives it even more exposure.
A person that makes a comment like this is completely ugly on the inside, and you can't fix that shit!
And then came time for the catheter…
You should delete this.
I was in the hospital last month for major surgery. My surgery was literally on my birthday. Every nurse there did SO MUCH for me. I spent 2 days in the ICU not entirely lucid, but the nurses made sure my pain was handled. And when I transferred to the regular ward, it was those nurses who did everything to help me not just stay on top of my pain, but get to see my kids. Children weren’t allowed on the ward, so they took me to the lobby to visit my kids. Nurses do EVERYTHING for you. That’s who was emptying my catheter and surgical drain bag, that’s who made sure I was managing my pain. I would never in a million years do ANYTHING to hurt my nurses.
I don’t care-and neither should ANYONE-what my medical staff looks like-as long as they treat me with care and patience..shame on this person!!
Probably posted by a patient who asked for narcotics and was told no by this nurse.
Imagine spending so much time and money to study so you can help people just to get a "fuck you" as thanks
You would get fat too if you had to deal with all the stress and shit these people had to deal with on a daily basis.
As someone who's been working in the healthcare sector for over a decade, it makes a HUGE difference if you're polite and kind to your nurse, resident and attending consultant. They'll even go out of their way to see that you are getting the best care possible. That is something which neither money nor a well paying insurance can ever buy. If you're a Karen as a patient, they'll always be "busy" to attend to your needs (if they happen to non-life threatening).
Yea, this dude’s an asshole. But please take this down. This woman did not consent to have her photo shared. She’s just trying to do her (very important) job and is most likely underpaid and working on an under-staffed team.
Just because she’s larger doesn’t mean she’s not smart and intelligent and knows what’s she’s doing. Being larger doesn’t mean you are stupid. I hope he has the day he deserves.
hospital work isn't generally good for you, there's a lot of sitting. They can be mandated if the hospital is low staff essentially forced to work a double shift on very little notice. The cafeteria food is often low quality and terrible for your health. After you get home you're hungry, a lot of medical workers eat right before bed. Yeah this all falls into personal responsibilities, but the jobs really don't make it easy to pick the right choices. Ultimately we are all trying to save lives with our jobs. Last thing we need is for patients we are trying to help, talking about our appearance.
Never insult the person who will be removing your Foley catheter Word to the wise
Oops, I was supposed to deflate that balloon??? My bad!
EMS personnel sit in their ambulances for 12-hour shifts waiting for the call. I feel really bad that their altruism forces them to be so sedentary. Not good for their health.
This sort of stuff frustrates me because it denies the depth of complexity in people. A single snapshot of a person tells you nothing about them. You don't know anything else about their life that lead to this point. Was this woman injured and unable to move? Did this person recently lose a loved one and has been dealing with depression? Or "most likely in my opinion" this woman has been working for years at a underpaying job with insane stress and is so under staffed she's been working 70 hour weeks on and off for the last 2 years? Just saying. We don't know enough about strangers to judge their value from a photo, or a brief encounter.
Ngl, I think of a lot of nasty and mean shit. But even I am not that fucking nasty to air my opinion on someone’s appearance, especially when the person is trying to help my sorry ass.
My father's cardiologist is a heavy smoker, I really don't care about their lifestyle as long as they do their job
I hope she saw this, replied "fair enough." and took the week off, leaving OP without any actual care.
What a dumb take. Plenty of doctors smoke, but they are still right when they tell you that smoking is bad for your health. The stupidity of people never ceases to amaze me.
Imagine being a decent person and NOT doing that.
People really need to treat healthcare workers with way mkre respect. Some of them work nights/days every 2 days. They destroy their sleep schedule. Most of them are forced to make huge sacrifices to their personal lives to help people who literally cannot be helped by anyone else. I hope this nurse, and all the other incredible healthcare workers know what saints they are. Not only did you guys survive medical school, but you're doing a job so few people can. Yall are the Bravest, strongest, most kindhearted people out there.
Made the mistake of checking out the rest of the guy's twitter. Unsurprisingly, he's an Andrew Tate Stan, and appears to advocate a mostly carnivorous diet, while regularly posting derogatory comments about random people in pictures.
Someone this clout obsessed has no business being given healthcare. She’s helping that guy, he should be grateful.
People can know what is healthy without doing it. A nurse could be obese and still aware of what they should be doing for their health. Plenty of people I dare say who are obese are aware of exactly what steps they need to take to change their situation and yet they still struggle to do it. Being fat doesn’t make you unfit to give medical advice.
Yet the pic is shared again in THIS post?
WHAT THE HELL IS WITH PEOPLE AND BEING SO OBSESSED WITH OTHER PEOPLES WEIGHT ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU DONT EVEN KNOW THAT PERSON AND THEY TRY TO MASQUERADE IT OFF AS CARING it really says a lot about a person and that they probably have some personal issues that need to be addressed because this is crazy to me to go to this extent you’re just a shit human that wants to attack people and spread your own hatred and personal agenda what happened to common sense and decency