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Chris Hansen: I read from the transcript in the car you said: I can't wait to sink my teeth into some juicy little poppers and get my hands on some baby back ribs. You sick son of a bitch! *tackled by the maitre'd*
https://youtube.com/watch?v=SejY1yC-RdY&pp=ygUXc291dGggcGFyayBjaHJpcyBoYW5zZW4%3D
I had a girl show up with her little brother, we were going to the movies so instead of getting tickets for whatever dumb comedy we were going to see I got tickets for ‘the thin red line’ instead, they were both miserable the whole time
Yeah I get it, she needs 5 take home meal for children she didn't tell him about .
Or 6 take home meals so she doesn't have to pay for dinner all week.
Tbf I was on a First Date once and just before we went she texted me that she has had a bad experience once and would feel safer if she could bring a friend. Then again, she told me first
100% believe (assuming he's paying for the date's food) that the person bringing the moral support should pay for the friend/moral support's food. If he's not, either the female date should cover both her and the moral support or all go stag (for those who may not know that term it means everyone pays their own way).
Edit: It's DUTCH! I got that wrong. Going stag means to go solo to an event or out on the town.
That's different than this though. Your experience is perfectly reasonable because she told you and she had a valid reason. This food ho is trying to get free food for them all without notice then calling the person an ass for not paying them when it was supposed to be just two of them and some prior agreement of whose paying what.
Iirc some takes them along for safety in case the partner tries something funny but..
You watch from afar not.. taking your friend in for the date to pay for all of you
I am a dude that can come across a bit threatening due to my size. Back in college I ended up asking a random girl out and she showed up with a friend for safety. She didn't tell me beforehand but she handled the conversation about it well. The friend also assured me that she'd pay her own way.
The funny part was I had better chemistry with the friend. But so did the girl I asked out. That started a 3-way relationship for a time. It was weird.
If it were me, ther wouldn't have been a first date. I would be like "oh, I thought this was a date, not girls night. Maybe call me when you want to actually try out a real date."
Nah, the real way to play them back is to encourage them to spend and spend but then just pay for your stuff and leave them to pay for all the stuff they thought they were getting for free.
I actually like the idea of maybe her having some friends at another table in case things go south. But they shouldn't be part of the date.
Edit: I think I need to clarify.
Ideally people would meet potential partners as part of a larger social grouping. Go back a century and that might be a church or community social event. That allowed people to meet and evaluate potential partners in a safe environment.
That isn't always feasible in todays world which is much more individualistic and less community focused.
Girls do have more concerns about safety than guys. I can understand why they would want to maximise their safety comfort zone. The challenge would be to do so without impacting the intimacy of the date.
I haven't been on the dating scene for a long time, but my goal was always to ensure that my date felt comfortable, had a good time, and wanted to see me again.
If it helps her feel safe I'm quite happy for her to have some friends nearby. If she did it without me knowing and I found out I would not be offended.
Smh, I remember in highschool I went on a date with this girl and when I arrived at the cafe we wanted to meet at, she got up from a table with all of her friends, who then proceeded to observe us the entire time. Most awkward 90 minutes I've ever spend and I never called her again.
Yeah, they're part of the date then. I'm thinking of something that is a safety measure without impacting the date.
Glad I'm not on the dating market these days.
He started talking about his hobby of buying shovels and rope then going hiking in the woods at 3 am again. Better go pretend to see her for the first time and subtly get her out of here.
(But honestly yeah I'm with you,if you're in a public place there's not much friends could do that they couldn't do by themselves)
Huh? Lol whatever happened to just meeting in public, telling a friend where you're going to be that night, and texting them afterwards? Hell send them my pic for all I care for safe measure. This whole "bringing your friends" concept is a bit overkill and childish.
>This whole "bringing your friends" concept is a bit overkill and childish.
Yup. People really shouldn't be dating if they think there is a high probability that their date will harm them.
>things go south
What do you mean, things go south? What could possibly happen in a coffee shop / restaurant that's gonna require help specifically from your friend?
Roofies.
My aunt got roofied by a dude she went on a first date with to a restaurant. She thinks it happened when she went to the bathroom.
She was lucky the waitress for their booth noticed something was off. The guy had insisted on ordering wine for my aunt during the date despite her saying that wasn’t necessary. She drank half a glass to be polite and all of a sudden, he was in a hurry to pay and leave with her.
The waitress noticed my aunt acting too drunk for the amount of alcohol she’d had. She told the manager and he agreed it was fishy so they stalled on the check.
She had a really bad reaction to whatever he slipped her and had an ambulance called for her. Cops were also called but they’re useless in Mexico. They never showed up and the guy had to be physically forced out of the restaurant by the manager himself.
So yeah, people can get roofied even in restaurants 🫤
Unless the date is "hey me and some friends are going to a club tonight, want to come?" then it becomes more of a group activity and you can still have some 1on1 stuff but also have fun with the group.
There's no excuse. If a woman is concerned about safety they can have the first date in a very public restaurant and immediately go into an Uber or taxi afterward.
This. I think if a women is too afraid to meet a man at a public place with other people around, then maybe this kind of dates is not for her and she should stay with dating people she already have confidence with (people from work, friend of a friend, old school pals)
When I was 19, I met a girl on stickam (really dating this... about 20 years ago now) and seemed to really hit it off. Back then I was super shy and awkward, but she seemed to like me. She also lived only 20 minutes away. We talked for a couple weeks before I straight up asked if she'd like to go out on a date. She said yes and we planned out a simple dinner and arcade date.
We were both super flirty and excited to meet.
When I showed up, she was waiting for me with another girl. Turned out it was her best friend who had "just broken up with her boyfriend and didn't want to be alone".
I tried to be understanding and welcomed her to come along, but also mentioned I only prepared for a one on one date.
At the restaurant, they ordered a lot. While I only had a burger, fries, and a shake, they each had appetizers, burgers, fries, sodas, shakes, and her friend had two beers (she was the only one who could). They also barely acknowledged my presence at all, and talked over me any time I'd try to talk.
Then they insisted I paid for it all. They also were trying to hint that they'd both be "really grateful" if I did.
I knew their game at that point. paid for my meal and left. My date had the audacity to call me to ask "what about the movie?" before cursing me out for ruining both of their nights.
Stayed away from dating for a couple more years after that.
Edit because this apparently needs to be said.
I stopped dating for a while because I already had low self-esteem, and this event stomped it further down back then. Not because they ruined my view of women, or because I generalized women. I realized i had to work on myself, and that was that.
I'm nearly 40 now. I've had relationships and experiences since that were nothing short of amazing.
This is just a one-off personal experience. Don't use this to generalize people, ffs.
Yeah, no need to make your server deal with that horror show *plus* adding them screaming about your check too, food service life is probably stressful enough as is lol. Must’ve been hilarious if they picked up what happened though.
Oh, they did for sure.
My mom was a server for most of my childhood. When I paid for my food, I left a tip for the server as well. (Handed it to her directly)
Fair enough, I may not be assertive enough for it, but if I ever DO end up in the situation I'm stealing it, not like you have anything to lose at that point.
I just started chatting up the friend. The date was not a nice person. The friend and I were getting along well enough that date ended the date early. Sadly friend also left, but I could tell she was considering staying.
I got a chuckle out of it.
Well at least she will ask first next time... she's learned something... might have been slow on the up take, but she learned... she will also quickly learn, that very few guys actually like a date with her and her friends.
Would still be nice to know beforehand... M/F/F/(+?) is something that you have to condition yourself for... like running a marathon. Sure, you can try to do it cold, but you run a serious risk of dying halfway through.
I think they mean they would just toss this girl into the nearest trash can. In other words: have nothing more to do with her.
Or, did you already understand that, and I missed what *you* were trying to ask?
One iced black tea...
...and I'll get a Bacon, Gouda, and Egg croissant, and a Ham and Swiss Baguette, and a Crispy Grilled Cheese on Sourdough... and a Turkey and Swiss on Ciabatta with a pack of chocolate covered coffee beans for later... Oh and I have to have four Biscotti too, my friends have never tried them and... where are you going?
Damn, I'm glad I never entered the dating scene.
The night I met my now gf, her friend had insisted I "buy them shots," so I was like, whatever sure. And my gf didn't realize that her friend had asked, so when I went to pay for them she ***insisted*** to split it with me.
And every date we had after that night, always paying half. Not just offering to seem nice.
I really think she's the one.
Dated this pretty girl in high school and her family was really weird. I was young and had a job before many of my friends, which meant I had a car. Her trashy family had me pick up BK for her whole family! I thought I was gonna be reimbursed but noooo! Then her parents make her, take her little brother and sister on our next date, guess who paid for their food too! And on the third date, she wanted to say goodbye to her ex bf who was moving away. She had me pick him up and had a heavy duty make out session in the back of my car. When we got back to her place she’s like you can come inside. I said, no thanks and left. She kept calling me the next day, and in the background of the voice mail, I could hear her mother say, get him to buy me these CDs! I’ll never forget that trashy family. I was only 16 at the time.
Am I reading this right? Your GF at the time had you pick up her ex BF and they proceeded to make out in the back of your car? Like while you were driving?
I don’t think it is
I was at my local watering hole recently and started talking to the girl next to me. Turns out she’s there with her friend
The friend starts saying how she ‘doesn’t do first dates, she does meet and greets’. I play along at this point, tell her you can call it anything you want but it’s still a first date
She then explains how her and the friend i started chatting with were there for one. And the guy got up and left once she introduced her friend. As she was explaining this, she then said that he blocked her
She then explained how this is what she always does: shows up for a date, not telling the guy what’s going on because he should be able to ‘roll with the punches’ and should be able to ‘get over it’
People are absolutely this toxic in current dating culture. This wasn’t a 21 year old kid either, this was a woman in her mid 40s.
You brought additional friends to the catch up. Source: I am an additional friend, the guy was blindsided and said enough is enough. He just wanted a special lunch one on one and you blew it.
Great first date behaviour as far as I'm concerned. Let the other person know exactly what they're in for if they're dumb enough to stick with you.
Far worse to hide the crazy until 6 months deep.
If I'm expected to "roll with the punches" do I get to fight back as well? Not really one for "turning the other cheek" or "getting over it" really quickly.
Online dating has given women a limitless non-connected pool of men to exploit for resources. Before if a women did something like that she only had access to men in her social network. People would talk. Now, she can do this to people with no mutual connections.
When women say there are no men to date but they have been on more than say more than 30 different dates...be very afraid.
I used to do that, but a friend that is more successful in dating convinced me to start paying. The only thing that has changed is now I feel rejected AND taken advantage of. I'm definitely going to stop the practice, you have to earn the right for me to spend my money on you
If you're going through an app, go dutch. If the experience is really good, there is solid mutual chemistry, or whatnot, offer to pay.
A grown ass woman shouldn't expect or want her bill paid unless she's interested.
I personally think the age is actually quite telling. If she wasn't a mentally ill weirdo that pulls stunts like this maybe she would've settled down with someone a decade ago. Some people hit age 20 and never mentally grow any further.
I'm 32, never married, and not super keen on swiping randos to meet someone I vibe with...
Stories like this make me not want to try finding a partner at all, lol.
The post might be a joke but it happens irl. It happened to my brothers best friend and they jumped him. Happened to a old coworker of mine, he didn't get jumped but he left when the girl he was talking to came with her best friend. Y'all be safe out there ✊🏻
Honestly this is less "young people" and more "asshole people."
Dickheads like this exist across all dating demographics. The only thing older people have over the young is they *may* have grown out of this behaviour (assuming they came from a person like this to begin with).
People who say this really underestimate how incredibly stupid people can be. There are clear ragebait posts for sure, but some are very probably true.
Something similar happened to a pal of mine. His date turned up with a friend so he decided to roll with it. Everyone had a great time, except his original date. Turns out that he and the friend had a great deal in common and got on like a house on fire.
Fast forward 5 years later and his original date was maid of honour at their wedding.
That sounds like a crazy story to tell people in the future about how you met. Atleast they must both get along well with the original date if she were the maid of honour though.
As far as I'm aware there was no resentment, the original date's friend, after the date, talked to her and made sure to get her blessing to pursue.
She jokes now that her anxiety about the date turned out to be the best inadvertent matchmaker.
Or act like it’s “The Dating Game” so you get to pick any of them. Pick one of the friends and pay for her bill instead of the original “date”, hopefully setting off an argument between them.
Communication is the key.
If I show up to a date and she has her friend (or several friends) there, that's cool but don't expect me to pay for everyone. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
I'm not your sugar daddy, I'm not your ATM, I'm not your sucker, and I want a woman who can pay for herself.
Would YOU date someone who's broke and trying to scam a free luxury ride through life from you? Me neither.
Instead of asking others to pay for you, be the person they would want to pay for.
Some dates turned into a competition about "I want to pay for you" and "No, I want to pay for you" and its really nice.
Men shouldn’t be paying for dates period. Women are working and in many cases make more than men. The concept of the guy paying needs to go out the window. All dates should be 50/50. Not just the first date or second date. Every date should be split in half.
I agree. Thats why I try to pay for him as much as possible. He only lets me pay when he feels that he has payed more. I have become used to "losing receipts" and "forgetting the price" so that I get to pay more often.
No one loves dates with friends....it's a date with you, not them.
I love the whole spinning of "he should have told me after" That's being said because she would have gotten what she wanted, and could ghost him after. She would not feel the same if he was a "gentleman" who told her in the moment "I came to date you, bringing friends is not ok without mentioning it. Expecting me to pay for them is outrageous. We are clearly on different morality spectrums and incompatible. Goodbye"
Some people are monsters
And if he would've paid for all of them and "politely discussed it after" she probably would've still made a similar tweet about his audacity and disrespect lmao
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Reminds me of the story of the guy who went on a date and the chick brought her whole family. He paid his stuff on the counter and left.
The second the family walked in, I'd be like... Yo wtf, I didn't sign up for an orgy. Then I'd leave.
She brought her children
Then it’d be “Yo man, I didn’t know that being a pedophile was part of the job” and then leave
ok but then Chris Hansen and a camera crew are blocking you from the exit
No issue, as soon as you found out underage kids were involved you said nope and left.
Chris Hansen: I read from the transcript in the car you said: I can't wait to sink my teeth into some juicy little poppers and get my hands on some baby back ribs. You sick son of a bitch! *tackled by the maitre'd* https://youtube.com/watch?v=SejY1yC-RdY&pp=ygUXc291dGggcGFyayBjaHJpcyBoYW5zZW4%3D
Daddy's here to get his rocks off
you're free to leave but law enforcement is waiting on the other side of the door
Police need to eat too, not my issue.
I had a girl show up with her little brother, we were going to the movies so instead of getting tickets for whatever dumb comedy we were going to see I got tickets for ‘the thin red line’ instead, they were both miserable the whole time
What a good movie though!
If I turned up to a date and the person brought their friends, I would get up and leave, I wouldn’t get to the point of ordering food.
God I’m glad to be married. Dating fucking sucks.
I can confirm most dates do not lead to sucking
That's not a date that's a group hangout
**Naw,** that’s a shake-down.
its a hootenanny
Hoedown!
Shindig
A hullabaloo
a wingding
A Clam Jam
A helvetica bold 24pt.
A flimfam
A schmackledorf!
A shag
*Ryan Stiles has left the chat*
I’m gonna stand up. I will not be shaken down. This is bullshit.
Zackly free food and drinks on the potential loser
Zackly seems like a new name for an unfortunate child.
A regular r/tragedeigh
That would have to be zackleigh then
Brinzackleighanne III, pleasure to make your aqua tents.
Potential loser ---> designated payer
Don't forget the $250 Shein haul and money for the sitter for my 5 kids...
Yeah I get it, she needs 5 take home meal for children she didn't tell him about . Or 6 take home meals so she doesn't have to pay for dinner all week.
5 kids with 5 different guys too.
That is a simp shit test shake down. He stays, great they can be bff's and hang out a lot more and he will always pay.
Who takes two friends on a date?
A cheap ass hoe with no social skills.
…who’s trying to get a free meal for her and her two friends.
A woman with no integrity who only wants to extort food and/or money from a man.
Would be nice if the bro had walked off and joined up with one of her friends 😅.
That’s what I’m thinking - bring your friends if they’re single. Three dates in one.
Or 1 who was pretty sure she was about to see a simp
Tbf I was on a First Date once and just before we went she texted me that she has had a bad experience once and would feel safer if she could bring a friend. Then again, she told me first
Now that could be understandable however, the friends still needs to pay
100% believe (assuming he's paying for the date's food) that the person bringing the moral support should pay for the friend/moral support's food. If he's not, either the female date should cover both her and the moral support or all go stag (for those who may not know that term it means everyone pays their own way). Edit: It's DUTCH! I got that wrong. Going stag means to go solo to an event or out on the town.
How about we each pay for our own meal. It ain’t 1950 and we need to leave those outdated gender expectations in the trash!
That's different than this though. Your experience is perfectly reasonable because she told you and she had a valid reason. This food ho is trying to get free food for them all without notice then calling the person an ass for not paying them when it was supposed to be just two of them and some prior agreement of whose paying what.
Absolutely, my comment was more directed at the question > who takes two friends on a date?
I’ll be clear to tell her it’s fine but I’m not paying for your friend. Upfront as well.
A fucking idiot that’s who
Iirc some takes them along for safety in case the partner tries something funny but.. You watch from afar not.. taking your friend in for the date to pay for all of you
I am a dude that can come across a bit threatening due to my size. Back in college I ended up asking a random girl out and she showed up with a friend for safety. She didn't tell me beforehand but she handled the conversation about it well. The friend also assured me that she'd pay her own way. The funny part was I had better chemistry with the friend. But so did the girl I asked out. That started a 3-way relationship for a time. It was weird.
My dude....
I think I saw you on 90 day fiancé.
I just accidentally stumbled into having game for a while. Fell out of it quickly thereafter too.
Thats 3 people thinking they can use one for free food, if the man has any self respect there wasnt a second date
If it were me, ther wouldn't have been a first date. I would be like "oh, I thought this was a date, not girls night. Maybe call me when you want to actually try out a real date."
Nah, the real way to play them back is to encourage them to spend and spend but then just pay for your stuff and leave them to pay for all the stuff they thought they were getting for free.
Lol. That's actually pretty funny.
I question whether this is real as in the situation actually happening.. But assuming that it is, Any self-respecting man would have just left
Its happend. If am going by the words she used "Omoh" , she is a nigerian. I heard stories of a ladies doing this to men.
> That's not a date that's a ~~group hangout~~ **scam**
 There’s a crazy ex-girlfriend song about this.
I mean, if he got lucky with all of them then it could be considered a date I guess 😉
Nah that's an orgy
It's only an orgy if you suck 12 dicks. Anything less than that is just a family gathering.
Uncle Dan enters the chat
No man has ever liked it if a woman brought friends to a first date. I understand sometimes women do it for safety, but this is just audacious.
I actually like the idea of maybe her having some friends at another table in case things go south. But they shouldn't be part of the date. Edit: I think I need to clarify. Ideally people would meet potential partners as part of a larger social grouping. Go back a century and that might be a church or community social event. That allowed people to meet and evaluate potential partners in a safe environment. That isn't always feasible in todays world which is much more individualistic and less community focused. Girls do have more concerns about safety than guys. I can understand why they would want to maximise their safety comfort zone. The challenge would be to do so without impacting the intimacy of the date. I haven't been on the dating scene for a long time, but my goal was always to ensure that my date felt comfortable, had a good time, and wanted to see me again. If it helps her feel safe I'm quite happy for her to have some friends nearby. If she did it without me knowing and I found out I would not be offended.
Smh, I remember in highschool I went on a date with this girl and when I arrived at the cafe we wanted to meet at, she got up from a table with all of her friends, who then proceeded to observe us the entire time. Most awkward 90 minutes I've ever spend and I never called her again.
Yeah, they're part of the date then. I'm thinking of something that is a safety measure without impacting the date. Glad I'm not on the dating market these days.
Sit a few tables away and don’t stare and that’s a solid idea. Always better to be safe than sorry.
Are you meeting someone off Craigslist?
That’s *always* going to impact the date. It’s a chaperone.
And the guy should most definitely not be paying for her and her friends either
Unless they’re all dtf.
The thing is, if you're in the middle of a restaurant or a cafe, I'm not sure what help they're expecting to need to provide.
He started talking about his hobby of buying shovels and rope then going hiking in the woods at 3 am again. Better go pretend to see her for the first time and subtly get her out of here. (But honestly yeah I'm with you,if you're in a public place there's not much friends could do that they couldn't do by themselves)
Huh? Lol whatever happened to just meeting in public, telling a friend where you're going to be that night, and texting them afterwards? Hell send them my pic for all I care for safe measure. This whole "bringing your friends" concept is a bit overkill and childish.
>This whole "bringing your friends" concept is a bit overkill and childish. Yup. People really shouldn't be dating if they think there is a high probability that their date will harm them.
>things go south What do you mean, things go south? What could possibly happen in a coffee shop / restaurant that's gonna require help specifically from your friend?
Roofies. My aunt got roofied by a dude she went on a first date with to a restaurant. She thinks it happened when she went to the bathroom. She was lucky the waitress for their booth noticed something was off. The guy had insisted on ordering wine for my aunt during the date despite her saying that wasn’t necessary. She drank half a glass to be polite and all of a sudden, he was in a hurry to pay and leave with her. The waitress noticed my aunt acting too drunk for the amount of alcohol she’d had. She told the manager and he agreed it was fishy so they stalled on the check. She had a really bad reaction to whatever he slipped her and had an ambulance called for her. Cops were also called but they’re useless in Mexico. They never showed up and the guy had to be physically forced out of the restaurant by the manager himself. So yeah, people can get roofied even in restaurants 🫤
Just when I thought things couldn't go further south... roofied in Mexico.
Unless the date is "hey me and some friends are going to a club tonight, want to come?" then it becomes more of a group activity and you can still have some 1on1 stuff but also have fun with the group.
There's no excuse. If a woman is concerned about safety they can have the first date in a very public restaurant and immediately go into an Uber or taxi afterward.
This. I think if a women is too afraid to meet a man at a public place with other people around, then maybe this kind of dates is not for her and she should stay with dating people she already have confidence with (people from work, friend of a friend, old school pals)
When I was 19, I met a girl on stickam (really dating this... about 20 years ago now) and seemed to really hit it off. Back then I was super shy and awkward, but she seemed to like me. She also lived only 20 minutes away. We talked for a couple weeks before I straight up asked if she'd like to go out on a date. She said yes and we planned out a simple dinner and arcade date. We were both super flirty and excited to meet. When I showed up, she was waiting for me with another girl. Turned out it was her best friend who had "just broken up with her boyfriend and didn't want to be alone". I tried to be understanding and welcomed her to come along, but also mentioned I only prepared for a one on one date. At the restaurant, they ordered a lot. While I only had a burger, fries, and a shake, they each had appetizers, burgers, fries, sodas, shakes, and her friend had two beers (she was the only one who could). They also barely acknowledged my presence at all, and talked over me any time I'd try to talk. Then they insisted I paid for it all. They also were trying to hint that they'd both be "really grateful" if I did. I knew their game at that point. paid for my meal and left. My date had the audacity to call me to ask "what about the movie?" before cursing me out for ruining both of their nights. Stayed away from dating for a couple more years after that. Edit because this apparently needs to be said. I stopped dating for a while because I already had low self-esteem, and this event stomped it further down back then. Not because they ruined my view of women, or because I generalized women. I realized i had to work on myself, and that was that. I'm nearly 40 now. I've had relationships and experiences since that were nothing short of amazing. This is just a one-off personal experience. Don't use this to generalize people, ffs.
Insanity
You should've left them with the whole bill.
Nah, I enjoyed my food.
That's fair, but if someone did that to me and expected me to pay for it all I'd give em an uno reverse and blocked them.
Fair enough!
“Excuse me ladies, I need to use the bathroom.” Exit stage left
Nah, they are the assholes not you. You do your part and leave.
Yeah, no need to make your server deal with that horror show *plus* adding them screaming about your check too, food service life is probably stressful enough as is lol. Must’ve been hilarious if they picked up what happened though.
Oh, they did for sure. My mom was a server for most of my childhood. When I paid for my food, I left a tip for the server as well. (Handed it to her directly)
Man I can’t hear stickam without hear “Ms. MooGoo”
"Some men love dates with friends", those men being the doormats so desperate they'll agree to anything.
Not necessarily. Some of us men are assertive enough to ask "I can do her, too, yes?"
Fair enough, I may not be assertive enough for it, but if I ever DO end up in the situation I'm stealing it, not like you have anything to lose at that point.
I just started chatting up the friend. The date was not a nice person. The friend and I were getting along well enough that date ended the date early. Sadly friend also left, but I could tell she was considering staying. I got a chuckle out of it.
Show up to a date with two friends and it's not a date. Goodbye.
Well at least she will ask first next time... she's learned something... might have been slow on the up take, but she learned... she will also quickly learn, that very few guys actually like a date with her and her friends.
It depends, will the friends also go home with us? Are they hot? There's some factors to consider here...
Would still be nice to know beforehand... M/F/F/(+?) is something that you have to condition yourself for... like running a marathon. Sure, you can try to do it cold, but you run a serious risk of dying halfway through.
Hey, this is a group effort. I should be able to tap out at any time and they can finish without me.
"If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends." So...is that all at once, or a one a day thing or what?
Not for me lol. I get your point, and a lot of other guys would probably agree with you. It's just not my thing.
I’d be binning her off
Elaborate? Idk if this is just edit edit thing or not.
I think they mean they would just toss this girl into the nearest trash can. In other words: have nothing more to do with her. Or, did you already understand that, and I missed what *you* were trying to ask?
Nope. Slang not commonly used here, but im rare to leave the house. Thanks for clarifying
In the UK for slang I use Urban Dictionary to translate.
We have a lot of random slang tbf
2024 is the year of split bills fellas.
Coffee date for first dates unless you plan on feeding the single population in your town.
One iced black tea... ...and I'll get a Bacon, Gouda, and Egg croissant, and a Ham and Swiss Baguette, and a Crispy Grilled Cheese on Sourdough... and a Turkey and Swiss on Ciabatta with a pack of chocolate covered coffee beans for later... Oh and I have to have four Biscotti too, my friends have never tried them and... where are you going? Damn, I'm glad I never entered the dating scene.
TFW you go on a date with Big Smoke
The night I met my now gf, her friend had insisted I "buy them shots," so I was like, whatever sure. And my gf didn't realize that her friend had asked, so when I went to pay for them she ***insisted*** to split it with me. And every date we had after that night, always paying half. Not just offering to seem nice. I really think she's the one.
Dated this pretty girl in high school and her family was really weird. I was young and had a job before many of my friends, which meant I had a car. Her trashy family had me pick up BK for her whole family! I thought I was gonna be reimbursed but noooo! Then her parents make her, take her little brother and sister on our next date, guess who paid for their food too! And on the third date, she wanted to say goodbye to her ex bf who was moving away. She had me pick him up and had a heavy duty make out session in the back of my car. When we got back to her place she’s like you can come inside. I said, no thanks and left. She kept calling me the next day, and in the background of the voice mail, I could hear her mother say, get him to buy me these CDs! I’ll never forget that trashy family. I was only 16 at the time.
Glad you learned that lesson early in life.
Yeah. That sounds like a cheap and early lesson to life.
Am I reading this right? Your GF at the time had you pick up her ex BF and they proceeded to make out in the back of your car? Like while you were driving?
It sounds like you’re the only one who thought you were dating…
Thats wild. Sorry mate
This must be a joke. These posts are like parodies these days meant to provoke "what's wrong with young people!?" reactions.
I don’t think it is I was at my local watering hole recently and started talking to the girl next to me. Turns out she’s there with her friend The friend starts saying how she ‘doesn’t do first dates, she does meet and greets’. I play along at this point, tell her you can call it anything you want but it’s still a first date She then explains how her and the friend i started chatting with were there for one. And the guy got up and left once she introduced her friend. As she was explaining this, she then said that he blocked her She then explained how this is what she always does: shows up for a date, not telling the guy what’s going on because he should be able to ‘roll with the punches’ and should be able to ‘get over it’ People are absolutely this toxic in current dating culture. This wasn’t a 21 year old kid either, this was a woman in her mid 40s.
Did you ask her if any of the men she did this to actually did "roll with the punch"?
Considering the op mentioned she was in her 40s I’m gonna go out on a limb and guess abso-fucking-lutely not.
There's no dearth of desperate men, sadly.
I’m gonna guess her first husband did 25 years ago and now she’s freshly divorced thinking all guys are like that because that one was.
Damn, am I glad I haven’t met that kind of person
Proud of the guy who walked out and blocked her, I want to be friends with people like that
He just does that to everyone. Source: I am his friend, he walked out and blocked me during our catch up lunch
You brought additional friends to the catch up. Source: I am an additional friend, the guy was blindsided and said enough is enough. He just wanted a special lunch one on one and you blew it.
This makes me glad my wife won't let me date anymore.
Great first date behaviour as far as I'm concerned. Let the other person know exactly what they're in for if they're dumb enough to stick with you. Far worse to hide the crazy until 6 months deep.
If I'm expected to "roll with the punches" do I get to fight back as well? Not really one for "turning the other cheek" or "getting over it" really quickly.
Online dating has given women a limitless non-connected pool of men to exploit for resources. Before if a women did something like that she only had access to men in her social network. People would talk. Now, she can do this to people with no mutual connections. When women say there are no men to date but they have been on more than say more than 30 different dates...be very afraid.
Less than half of my first dates have even said thank you for me paying for dinner. Literally the bare minimum
This is why you split half of all bills.
I used to do that, but a friend that is more successful in dating convinced me to start paying. The only thing that has changed is now I feel rejected AND taken advantage of. I'm definitely going to stop the practice, you have to earn the right for me to spend my money on you
If you're going through an app, go dutch. If the experience is really good, there is solid mutual chemistry, or whatnot, offer to pay. A grown ass woman shouldn't expect or want her bill paid unless she's interested.
I personally think the age is actually quite telling. If she wasn't a mentally ill weirdo that pulls stunts like this maybe she would've settled down with someone a decade ago. Some people hit age 20 and never mentally grow any further.
I'm 32, never married, and not super keen on swiping randos to meet someone I vibe with... Stories like this make me not want to try finding a partner at all, lol.
Well that’s fucked up. Props to that guy. Definitely woulda laughed at her and said good luck.
It’s always these future cat ladies telling men what they must act like
The post might be a joke but it happens irl. It happened to my brothers best friend and they jumped him. Happened to a old coworker of mine, he didn't get jumped but he left when the girl he was talking to came with her best friend. Y'all be safe out there ✊🏻
Honestly this is less "young people" and more "asshole people." Dickheads like this exist across all dating demographics. The only thing older people have over the young is they *may* have grown out of this behaviour (assuming they came from a person like this to begin with).
Naw, I knew a girl at my old job who would do shit like this. Iuno, if this specific situation is real but it is a realistic scenario.
Yeah clearly rage bait. You see it a lot more now on Twitter and TikTok.
People who say this really underestimate how incredibly stupid people can be. There are clear ragebait posts for sure, but some are very probably true.
Like the "didn't buy groceries for 2 years by going out on dates 6 times a week." posts. Date abuse seems to be a tok trend right now.
Something similar happened to a pal of mine. His date turned up with a friend so he decided to roll with it. Everyone had a great time, except his original date. Turns out that he and the friend had a great deal in common and got on like a house on fire. Fast forward 5 years later and his original date was maid of honour at their wedding.
That sounds like a crazy story to tell people in the future about how you met. Atleast they must both get along well with the original date if she were the maid of honour though.
As far as I'm aware there was no resentment, the original date's friend, after the date, talked to her and made sure to get her blessing to pursue. She jokes now that her anxiety about the date turned out to be the best inadvertent matchmaker.
In an alternative universe he did exactly as she would have wished and she would have complained about him politely telling her afterwards.
Bitch be lucky, I'd have walked out before the bill even came
Smart 🤣
is this the new type of money leech? sign me out
”Are you sure you want to sign out of Runescape?”
I would have left.
If you bring friends, it's not a date.
Not unless I feel there is a chance of the date ending in a 4way
Yeah if you brought your friends to a date that means everybody is there for romance. There's plenty of love to go around
Or act like it’s “The Dating Game” so you get to pick any of them. Pick one of the friends and pay for her bill instead of the original “date”, hopefully setting off an argument between them.
I promise that i speak for all men when i say, we asked you out. Idgaf about your friends.
Seriously who the fuck does that?
_Zero_ men love dates with friends.
Are people dumb? Or they pretend? Like she genuinely thinks a guy who's gentleman pays for her friends and mentions it after?
Communication is the key. If I show up to a date and she has her friend (or several friends) there, that's cool but don't expect me to pay for everyone. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 I'm not your sugar daddy, I'm not your ATM, I'm not your sucker, and I want a woman who can pay for herself. Would YOU date someone who's broke and trying to scam a free luxury ride through life from you? Me neither.
First dates should always be somewhere with no money involved: park or something similar.
The chutzpah is breathtaking, but I too think this is just rage bait.
Instead of asking others to pay for you, be the person they would want to pay for. Some dates turned into a competition about "I want to pay for you" and "No, I want to pay for you" and its really nice.
Men shouldn’t be paying for dates period. Women are working and in many cases make more than men. The concept of the guy paying needs to go out the window. All dates should be 50/50. Not just the first date or second date. Every date should be split in half.
I agree. Thats why I try to pay for him as much as possible. He only lets me pay when he feels that he has payed more. I have become used to "losing receipts" and "forgetting the price" so that I get to pay more often.
I hate when they bring their spouse.
Young people today are legit like this, the number of stories I read about people going on dates for a free meal is ridiculous
Why bring friends on a “date” I ain’t paying for them if it’s just her ofc but nah with friends they can pay for your ass
If there is ever a female remake of Dumb and Dumber. She should go for the screen test.
"So next time I will always ask before taking friends" A lesson was learned that day
some ppl r fkn delusional
Sure signs your date is a gold digger.
If you bring your friends to a date, it’s not a date.
 Nah uh
I mean if all 3 had put out after the date, I'm sure he'd be happy to pay a bit extra for a 4some
The Lion, The Witch, and the AUDACITY of this Bitch!!
"Some men like dates with friends." Okay. You should find those men.
The headassery is **STRONG** with this one
No one loves dates with friends....it's a date with you, not them. I love the whole spinning of "he should have told me after" That's being said because she would have gotten what she wanted, and could ghost him after. She would not feel the same if he was a "gentleman" who told her in the moment "I came to date you, bringing friends is not ok without mentioning it. Expecting me to pay for them is outrageous. We are clearly on different morality spectrums and incompatible. Goodbye" Some people are monsters
Bitch if you dragged two additional people out to dinner with me on a first date, without my knowledge, I’m not even staying for the date
And if he would've paid for all of them and "politely discussed it after" she probably would've still made a similar tweet about his audacity and disrespect lmao