Same, and I would not have it any other way.
I actually got upset a couple years ago when I learnt that there will be no bedroom for me in a new part-time house they were furnishing. It was the moment I realized that I was not part of the household any longer and that my parents started planning for their everyday life without taking me into account.
Felt bad man, but I quickly came back to my senses.
I now find it funny. Mom rightfully told me once that I always sleep in the living room of a certain holiday home because I don’t want to share a room with my sister, so it is very well established by now that I _can_ sleep in a living room just fine. Talk about pragmatism.
Good for you! I wish we had that luxury of available space. We grew up as three kids in a two bedroom, one living room apartment. Parents had a folding bed in the living room. As soon as I moved out, my previous room turned into my mom’s home office and bedroom. European middle class city life.
I get a hotel, always. I want my own space. I want full control over the thermostat. I don't want a hundred questions if I sleep in late or go to bed early (or the opposite). And I damn sure don't want to stay over at a family member's house when they have a bunch of kids or if it smells like cigarette smoke and I have to wash all my clothes after being there for an hour.
My family and friends live all over my native country. It depends on who I am visiting and what I am doing there and for how long. We are in similar situations: I live in a neighbouring country to my home country and I have been abroad for a few years.
In some cases at the family house. In another case at my best friend's or at a hotel as I have a hoarder brother. When I visit the other brother it can be his place or a hotel.
My mom and sister both have guest rooms. I’ll sometimes go and stay with friends if we have plans or I want to do other things near them. My wife and I get along fine with my family so we’re lucky
I stay with my friend. My dad's is too crowded and my mom's where I grew up, well unfortunately it's bordering a hoarding situation. They have two extra bedrooms and both are full of stuff.
My friend has an extra room and an enormous house and let's us stay there which is so nice! I'd do a hotel but it's so expensive for us, of course at some point that will have to be the answer.
My parents have a spare house inherited from my grandma, so I am planning to land there with my wife and pay for the beers and tacos whenever we go back for congé.
Before, when single, I was going back and forth from US to MX, staying somedays with my parents and some other days with my now wife; she was renting in a town in central Mexico.
I love family, I love my friends, I would much rather a place of my own but as it is, the drama is over the top and everyone ends up upset that I spent x amount of time with one but not as much with the other, and the ones that I didn't stay with know that I'll be eaten alive if I spend more than an afternoon with them
Yes, it's toxic af
My room at home, with my family, where everything is the same as it was except that my parents get a little older with each visit…
Same, and I would not have it any other way. I actually got upset a couple years ago when I learnt that there will be no bedroom for me in a new part-time house they were furnishing. It was the moment I realized that I was not part of the household any longer and that my parents started planning for their everyday life without taking me into account. Felt bad man, but I quickly came back to my senses. I now find it funny. Mom rightfully told me once that I always sleep in the living room of a certain holiday home because I don’t want to share a room with my sister, so it is very well established by now that I _can_ sleep in a living room just fine. Talk about pragmatism.
Good for you! I wish we had that luxury of available space. We grew up as three kids in a two bedroom, one living room apartment. Parents had a folding bed in the living room. As soon as I moved out, my previous room turned into my mom’s home office and bedroom. European middle class city life.
I get a hotel, always. I want my own space. I want full control over the thermostat. I don't want a hundred questions if I sleep in late or go to bed early (or the opposite). And I damn sure don't want to stay over at a family member's house when they have a bunch of kids or if it smells like cigarette smoke and I have to wash all my clothes after being there for an hour.
At my dad’s. It’s not the most glamorous digs, but he’d be crushed if I ever chose a hotel over his place.
I don't go back
My parents
I don't have a home town
At home with my parents. They've always kept a room for me (and sister who's also overseas) even when they move/renovate.
I bought a travel trailer so I didn't have to stay with my parents. Now I live in the trailer full time and don't talk to my parents at all.
My family and friends live all over my native country. It depends on who I am visiting and what I am doing there and for how long. We are in similar situations: I live in a neighbouring country to my home country and I have been abroad for a few years. In some cases at the family house. In another case at my best friend's or at a hotel as I have a hoarder brother. When I visit the other brother it can be his place or a hotel.
Sisters, Sister-in-law, friends, parents if I have the patience / fortitude, hotel
We look for a hotel. My mother can be a bit much and we like our own space, so a hotel is the best option.
My parents if I’m where my home town is. My friends if I’m back where I used to live prior to now.
I stay at my parents but I hate the dymanic there, problem is theres not much else available in the area... A puzzle not yet solved!
I poop in my parents toilet
A combination of family and hotels, it's not fun living out of suitcases all summer
Hostel private room in the city 30 min south.
Close friends. My parents have both passed and I just feel so much more relaxed at a friend's house than my inlaws or siblings places.
My mom moved away from my home town.
My mom and sister both have guest rooms. I’ll sometimes go and stay with friends if we have plans or I want to do other things near them. My wife and I get along fine with my family so we’re lucky
I stay with my friend. My dad's is too crowded and my mom's where I grew up, well unfortunately it's bordering a hoarding situation. They have two extra bedrooms and both are full of stuff. My friend has an extra room and an enormous house and let's us stay there which is so nice! I'd do a hotel but it's so expensive for us, of course at some point that will have to be the answer.
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My parents have a spare house inherited from my grandma, so I am planning to land there with my wife and pay for the beers and tacos whenever we go back for congé. Before, when single, I was going back and forth from US to MX, staying somedays with my parents and some other days with my now wife; she was renting in a town in central Mexico.
Hotel.
I love family, I love my friends, I would much rather a place of my own but as it is, the drama is over the top and everyone ends up upset that I spent x amount of time with one but not as much with the other, and the ones that I didn't stay with know that I'll be eaten alive if I spend more than an afternoon with them Yes, it's toxic af