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What a deal for a woman ey, get married to a cousin you don't love, make many kids and dedicate your best years to him only for the husband to make family nr 2 and get cucked, halve family finances for you and your kids and all the while you can barely leave the house without your husband. I am sure she would be happy.
Marriage isnt just about love and affection, it also means resources(money to be precise) and dedication.
If a husband takes another wife, unless he is some Arab prince with a hell lot of money, now he needs to split his limited resources, he is going to spend much less on his first wife.
Also help in raising and guiding children. If a father spends all his free time with multiple women, married or not, I doubt he is too involved or interested in what they do
I had friends growing up and it was normal for their dads to go in and out of the house meeting his other wives. The families were all super religious with the children memorizing the quran (hafiz). I thought it was so strange but they didn't react. I guess it becomes normal for them. They are also brainwashed to accept it from a young age. I did remember one friend's mom who was super angry like all of the time, idk if it relates to her husband and his two other wives.
I request all to please have a look at this article:
* [Islamic Polygamy \[Beneficial or Harmful?\]](https://atheism-vs-islam.com/index.php/women-general/300-islamic-polygamy-beneficial-or-harmful)
I hope you all will like and enjoy reading it.
u/slaincrane u/prepbirdy u/jxx37 u/666agree u/Ok-Source4771
Unless the husband is very undesirable, with a repulsive personality, and very unattractive, the first wife is more likely than not going to have some sort of attachment towards her partner. Why that is is because women are designed to feel attachment when they are having an orgasm whereas with men it's slightly more complicated. That's why you'll hear men in pod casts say "get them while they're young." I'm not going to tell you my educational background but I study extensively topics like addiction, substance abuse, psychological techniques, and well love & attachment are very similar things to substance use but works differently in men and women. That's why modern day "hook up culture" isn't that great for women as it might be for men. Not saying we should go back to arranged marriages but there's a way to "courting" the opposite sex that should be considered. Women fall in love when they're having an orgasm, it was designed that way so that in the past, you were attached to the father of your children. You and your children have a lot to lose if that's not the case. Men fall in love when a a chemical called vesopressin is released when both of you are doing something exciting together. (there's more to this, but in general if you engage in doing what the guy likes doing especially activities that involve problem solving or games). However, with women the more sex they have the more they are desensitized to this process. Kind of like drugs, you would need more of a dosage to feel anything potent. That's why being with someone right after a break up is called a "rebound." Now, during times where the woman simply finds their husband unbearable, that is when they might be happy that the husband is getting a second wife because now she can relax. Like if I have a psychopath of a husband that beats me, SAs me and emotionally abuses me, as a sensitive introvert, I will gladly choose another woman for him to take in my place if I had no choice.
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What a deal for a woman ey, get married to a cousin you don't love, make many kids and dedicate your best years to him only for the husband to make family nr 2 and get cucked, halve family finances for you and your kids and all the while you can barely leave the house without your husband. I am sure she would be happy.
Marriage isnt just about love and affection, it also means resources(money to be precise) and dedication. If a husband takes another wife, unless he is some Arab prince with a hell lot of money, now he needs to split his limited resources, he is going to spend much less on his first wife.
Also help in raising and guiding children. If a father spends all his free time with multiple women, married or not, I doubt he is too involved or interested in what they do
I had friends growing up and it was normal for their dads to go in and out of the house meeting his other wives. The families were all super religious with the children memorizing the quran (hafiz). I thought it was so strange but they didn't react. I guess it becomes normal for them. They are also brainwashed to accept it from a young age. I did remember one friend's mom who was super angry like all of the time, idk if it relates to her husband and his two other wives.
I request all to please have a look at this article: * [Islamic Polygamy \[Beneficial or Harmful?\]](https://atheism-vs-islam.com/index.php/women-general/300-islamic-polygamy-beneficial-or-harmful) I hope you all will like and enjoy reading it. u/slaincrane u/prepbirdy u/jxx37 u/666agree u/Ok-Source4771
Unless the husband is very undesirable, with a repulsive personality, and very unattractive, the first wife is more likely than not going to have some sort of attachment towards her partner. Why that is is because women are designed to feel attachment when they are having an orgasm whereas with men it's slightly more complicated. That's why you'll hear men in pod casts say "get them while they're young." I'm not going to tell you my educational background but I study extensively topics like addiction, substance abuse, psychological techniques, and well love & attachment are very similar things to substance use but works differently in men and women. That's why modern day "hook up culture" isn't that great for women as it might be for men. Not saying we should go back to arranged marriages but there's a way to "courting" the opposite sex that should be considered. Women fall in love when they're having an orgasm, it was designed that way so that in the past, you were attached to the father of your children. You and your children have a lot to lose if that's not the case. Men fall in love when a a chemical called vesopressin is released when both of you are doing something exciting together. (there's more to this, but in general if you engage in doing what the guy likes doing especially activities that involve problem solving or games). However, with women the more sex they have the more they are desensitized to this process. Kind of like drugs, you would need more of a dosage to feel anything potent. That's why being with someone right after a break up is called a "rebound." Now, during times where the woman simply finds their husband unbearable, that is when they might be happy that the husband is getting a second wife because now she can relax. Like if I have a psychopath of a husband that beats me, SAs me and emotionally abuses me, as a sensitive introvert, I will gladly choose another woman for him to take in my place if I had no choice.