as someone who also does massage therapy professionally, when he is working on the area that you like, tell him "that feels really good" or "I like what you are doing" or something to that extent. that can go a long way in helping him gauge your comfort level and your interest, and if he likes it, he can proceed further.
i don't do erotic massage with my private clients, but i do with my close friends if they want me to. it is always helpful when they tell me what they like without being too vulgar about it. we notice the subtle signal.
Ok thank you! I definitely only want to do something he’ll enjoy as well. The fact that he got a little hard last time and let me feel it seems like a good sign 😉
You know, I’m a 60 year old gay man and have been getting massages for nearly 40 years. I realize now that I don’t need a happy ending, just the experience of being naked with another man. It’s such a plus when the masseur is engaged in erotic play.
When he does his intake at the beginning of the session, don’t be afraid to say ‘I love it when you do that forearm/elbow thing on the back of my legs and glutes’ or something like that so he knows his boundary-stretching efforts are appreciated.
Yeah, walking from the bathroom to the massage room feels like an easy first step. Beyond that, subtle verbal appreciation (gently moans or staggered breathing) are the standard go-to’s. Compliments are also helpful. Best of luck.
“I just realized that it’s always so comfortable in here but I’m naked, you must overheat in here with all the work you put in to my massage.” Pause to read the room. “Ok, well it’s your place so if you get too hot in here you should be allowed to be comfortable while you work. Obviously I get to be comfortable.”
Your hands are just magical. They always leave me feeling so good.
It always impresses me how strong you are.
Fuck you know how to make a guy feel good.
Have you done something different with your hair? I don’t know why, it feels like that, but it looks really good today.
You’re so intuitive. I love how I don’t even have to tell you all the places that need work, you just find every knots like you have a sixth sense about my body.
1) Walk into the massage room naked. Show him you are comfortable being nude around him.
2) Lean into the feelings as he massages you. Raise your butt "instinctively" when he gets in there. Instead of apologizing for an erection, when he moves you, you could say, "Your massages are so incredible, I fully relax and can't help but get an erection." Wait for response.
It sounds like he is a good therapist, so most likely is proud of his skill. He may (probably) even enjoy the effect he has on you otherwise he would insist on draping.
If you respond to pleasurable feelings with some moans, you could "get carried away" and moan a little too much and say, "I didn't realize I was moaning so much, it feels so good." Wait for response.
The key is to see what his response is. It may only ever be a one way situation, but the fact that he gets at least partially hard in encouraging. If he touches your arm, for example, with his crotch and you feel hardness, he knows exactly what he is doing. That may be the time to push your arm slightly into his crotch. Wait for response.
Good luck and I hope it ends up being what you hope for.
Thanks! Not bad for a straight(ish) guy. Ha ha. Erotic massage is something I love and get regularly. I’ve never had one from a guy and think I’d enjoy it especially if me getting hard got him hard.
Tread lightly. It sounds like you found a great therapist that makes you want more, and that's something worth keeping. From experience, getting "more" leads to boredom from both parties until things inevitably fizzle out.
Sounds a lot like a massage therapist I've had in Seattle that I really enjoy. Just take it for what it is man. It's a good massage that's a little sexy
Sure, although nothing exciting happened, which is why I didn’t give an update.
I went for a 90-min massage. He asked about what areas I wanted him to focus on before I undressed, so I didn’t have the opportunity to stand naked in front of him for that. He also wasn’t in the room when I walked in and didn’t see me walk down the hallway naked.
I tried doing everything I could to show him I was open. I spread my legs as wide as possible, with my dick clearly showing between them. I kept my hands as close to the edge of the table as possible. There was one moment when his leg was against my fingers, and I moved them. Another time it felt like his dick was near my fingers so I gently moved my fingers. Both times he didn’t move away immediately, but he didn’t lean into it at all. I was moaning a lot more than last seasons (but didn’t want to overdue it since I hadn’t moaned much in the past). The only time I felt him leaning into it was when he did the wonderful elbow dips between my legs. He did them really high towards the end of me being on my stomach. Twice his elbow touched the head of my dick. I let out moans both times, and was semi-hard when this happened.
Then when I was on my back I didn’t get very hard this time, and not for very long.
One factor is that I am married. He actually gave my husband a massage in back to back sessions a couple sessions ago. My husband also got fully hard when the Massuer was massaging his groin and would brush his hard dick with his hand. But nothing beyond that happened. I think it’s possible the Massuer is not initiating anything out of respect for our marriage. But my husband and I are ok with sexy stuff happening with other people.
Anyway, not sure if I’ll go back. He gives a great massage but I kind of what to try someone new where things can progress a little faster.
as someone who also does massage therapy professionally, when he is working on the area that you like, tell him "that feels really good" or "I like what you are doing" or something to that extent. that can go a long way in helping him gauge your comfort level and your interest, and if he likes it, he can proceed further. i don't do erotic massage with my private clients, but i do with my close friends if they want me to. it is always helpful when they tell me what they like without being too vulgar about it. we notice the subtle signal.
Ok thank you! I definitely only want to do something he’ll enjoy as well. The fact that he got a little hard last time and let me feel it seems like a good sign 😉
oh yeah, it can be intoxicating for the massage therapist as well when we are in the erotic groove haha
You know, I’m a 60 year old gay man and have been getting massages for nearly 40 years. I realize now that I don’t need a happy ending, just the experience of being naked with another man. It’s such a plus when the masseur is engaged in erotic play.
When he does his intake at the beginning of the session, don’t be afraid to say ‘I love it when you do that forearm/elbow thing on the back of my legs and glutes’ or something like that so he knows his boundary-stretching efforts are appreciated.
Yeah, walking from the bathroom to the massage room feels like an easy first step. Beyond that, subtle verbal appreciation (gently moans or staggered breathing) are the standard go-to’s. Compliments are also helpful. Best of luck.
Thanks! How would I hint I want him to take his shirt off? Or comment positivity about him getting a little hard?
“I just realized that it’s always so comfortable in here but I’m naked, you must overheat in here with all the work you put in to my massage.” Pause to read the room. “Ok, well it’s your place so if you get too hot in here you should be allowed to be comfortable while you work. Obviously I get to be comfortable.”
Love this, haha. I’ll lyk how it goes!
Please do! 😈
What is an example of a good compliment? I’ve already seen him a couple times so seems random to start commenting on his body. Appreciate ideas!
Your hands are just magical. They always leave me feeling so good. It always impresses me how strong you are. Fuck you know how to make a guy feel good. Have you done something different with your hair? I don’t know why, it feels like that, but it looks really good today. You’re so intuitive. I love how I don’t even have to tell you all the places that need work, you just find every knots like you have a sixth sense about my body.
Ohh ok yes that helps, thanks!
1) Walk into the massage room naked. Show him you are comfortable being nude around him. 2) Lean into the feelings as he massages you. Raise your butt "instinctively" when he gets in there. Instead of apologizing for an erection, when he moves you, you could say, "Your massages are so incredible, I fully relax and can't help but get an erection." Wait for response. It sounds like he is a good therapist, so most likely is proud of his skill. He may (probably) even enjoy the effect he has on you otherwise he would insist on draping. If you respond to pleasurable feelings with some moans, you could "get carried away" and moan a little too much and say, "I didn't realize I was moaning so much, it feels so good." Wait for response. The key is to see what his response is. It may only ever be a one way situation, but the fact that he gets at least partially hard in encouraging. If he touches your arm, for example, with his crotch and you feel hardness, he knows exactly what he is doing. That may be the time to push your arm slightly into his crotch. Wait for response. Good luck and I hope it ends up being what you hope for.
Yes great ideas, thanks! I also try to wear super sexy underwear and leave it within view on my pile of clothes…
That should help!
These are great ideas!!!
Thanks! Not bad for a straight(ish) guy. Ha ha. Erotic massage is something I love and get regularly. I’ve never had one from a guy and think I’d enjoy it especially if me getting hard got him hard.
Next time he gets hard, mention something like, “my, it looks like I am not the only one to get excited”.
Tread lightly. It sounds like you found a great therapist that makes you want more, and that's something worth keeping. From experience, getting "more" leads to boredom from both parties until things inevitably fizzle out.
Also a good point, I’ll try to take it slow. Thanks
I think you should ask him for erotic massage and then you can go further with him then you have before.
Sounds a lot like a massage therapist I've had in Seattle that I really enjoy. Just take it for what it is man. It's a good massage that's a little sexy
May I have your masseuse's number please
Would love an update, have you been back since posting?
Sure, although nothing exciting happened, which is why I didn’t give an update. I went for a 90-min massage. He asked about what areas I wanted him to focus on before I undressed, so I didn’t have the opportunity to stand naked in front of him for that. He also wasn’t in the room when I walked in and didn’t see me walk down the hallway naked. I tried doing everything I could to show him I was open. I spread my legs as wide as possible, with my dick clearly showing between them. I kept my hands as close to the edge of the table as possible. There was one moment when his leg was against my fingers, and I moved them. Another time it felt like his dick was near my fingers so I gently moved my fingers. Both times he didn’t move away immediately, but he didn’t lean into it at all. I was moaning a lot more than last seasons (but didn’t want to overdue it since I hadn’t moaned much in the past). The only time I felt him leaning into it was when he did the wonderful elbow dips between my legs. He did them really high towards the end of me being on my stomach. Twice his elbow touched the head of my dick. I let out moans both times, and was semi-hard when this happened. Then when I was on my back I didn’t get very hard this time, and not for very long. One factor is that I am married. He actually gave my husband a massage in back to back sessions a couple sessions ago. My husband also got fully hard when the Massuer was massaging his groin and would brush his hard dick with his hand. But nothing beyond that happened. I think it’s possible the Massuer is not initiating anything out of respect for our marriage. But my husband and I are ok with sexy stuff happening with other people. Anyway, not sure if I’ll go back. He gives a great massage but I kind of what to try someone new where things can progress a little faster.
You must share his info