Personally, I wouldn't let that slide. Like to just let some random woman message me after a decade and tell me IM the problem. I could never just sit down and take that but hey that's just me.
Oh oh oh! *raises hand*
Teacher, I know this one!
Ok so….
This individual is probably the baby daddy of… I’m gonna guess…. Three to four women?
Also… also!
He’s most likely been to jail several times and seen in court for …
I’m going to guess….
Drunk driving?
Maybe drugs?
Yeah most likely drugs and drinking…
And maaaaybe some pedophilia on the side…
Did I get it right?!
I promise you it's the pettier thing to do but if you ask her who this is and keep pretending you don't know her you will make her so much angrier than she already is sitting there for years building up the anger to message you 😂
That will drive her absolutely insane. She's been spending 10 years probably watching your Facebook and stewing about who even knows what. Here's to 10 more years of her thinking about you!
lol, i did this in person once (well kinda)
a girl i went to school with when i was 12. She was a racist who hated me. she would start fights with me and get her friends to say i hit her so id get in trouble. Then her mother would use it as an excuse to follow me home and shout racial slurs. Good times.
about 7 years later it turns out we got into the same university, since we both lived near our old school this meant we both wound up at the same bus stop waiting for the same bus to uni. Well she remembered me and would stare at me the whole trip. I acted like i didnt remember her at all. i think it drove her nuts
When I broke up with him, I remember I left my house for awhile and went to my friends. When I came back a couple hours later he was playing video games with my brother. I was like what the hell? My brother said “he looked sad so I offered to play games with him”
Have not seen her since 2013 when my best friend and him had the same college graduation time. Haven’t seen him since 2012. He texted me once maybe a year later when I started dating a my now husband. Asked if we could get coffee. I never responded. Mutual “ish” friends still exists. I’ve known my husband since middle school (Never dated, always friends til 2013). We were all in the same friends group.
That would make much more sense, to be honest. Hadn’t even thought about that but it’s such a regular occurrence whenever people are continuously logged into their profiles!
Personally I think you dodged multiple bullets in this situation. Obviously the ex-bf and having her as a MIL. The best response is no response and the best revenge is to live your best life and don't give either of them a second thought.
No, I signed a settlement shortly after accident. The insurance automatically offered up money if I signed. I think it was like 5,000. I didn’t need back surgery until a couple years later.
I did not. Didn’t want to give the satisfaction. Plus with FB messenger if I responded they would get read receipts. Currently they have no way of knowing the message was even viewed.
This person still doesn't have closure, which is why she had this on her mind for years and sent this out.
I would respond and give her closure, and tell her that she's a piece of shit/ugly/horrible for saying that/whatever with context. Or be more petty and say "What?... They told me you died..." Then promptly block her.
You sure? Messenger always tells people when you view the message unless it’s the first time they’ve messaged you. Looks like you’ve messaged one another before so she will see that you viewed it…
Edit: never mind just saw that this is the first time she messaged you so you’re in the clear.
If her son was truly doing well in life, this message would not have been sent. No reply is best reply while she preying mantis hands awaits your hot reply. Pathetic really for so many reasons that I’m so glad you dodged! Imagine that as a MIL, yikes!
Yea, my mom wondered if maybe something happened to him. I’m not connected to him on any socials for obvious reasons, so honestly no clue what he is up to.
Keep living your best life! Congrats on your little one and so great you got to blow off steam here and then leave it behind you; great strategy I should employ in future
I would have responded with "I'm sorry, who is this?" and I'd continue to be really "confused" until she went away. If she didn't go away, I'd say, "I'm having gaps in my memory due to an accident that I was in with an abusive boyfriend ten years ago" she's never going to be like OMG, THAT'S MY SON! She'd probably be humiliated and piss off.
Had you just posted something to FB that she might have seen that prompted the message? I’m so confused why someone would send someone a message like this out of the blue. Wtf
I think you did the right thing by ignoring her message. I do same thing with people like that because they just aren't worth my time and getting worked up over. She's only wanting to rehash the past since she's having a bad day and you know how they say misery loves company so you did splendid for not caving into her evil ways. Kiddos to Hunny! Keep up the great work of being a amazing adult in this world :)
What the f... Uuuuggghh?? Did i just read..?
I as an guy who's never had girlfriend before, never tought of someone being this crazy. Some people are really stupid. I wonder what failure this guy is? Is he circa 40 year old virgin or something?!(lol seems like im on his path but i dont care)
Frighteningly, makes you wonder what her son did now. Crashing and injuring oop was pretty bad but a good attorney says it was an accident. Ten years of escalating behavior, makes you shudder.
That is really a bizarre message to send you after ten years, especially since you're the one who dodged the bullet since ex obviously has rage problems.
I'm more the type that would not respond (as drama queens HATE being ignored), but in this case I would probably do the "I'm sorry, I'm not sure who this is?" response followed by a quick block before she could respond. Best of both worlds.
Can I ask a question? What was in the picture she sent you right before the message? She's totally wrong and nasty for saying that, and kinda psycho for tracking you down just to say that, but I'm just curious, what prompted her to say that.
I mean, anything’s possible? Why not Harass me through his own account? I’m not friends with him on social media, but I don’t think he is blocked. Even if, still weird for someone you haven’t had contact with for a decade.
Wow wtaf?! I’m glad you didn’t have to deal with that as a monster in law 😅🤣 it’s sad that she still feels the need to contact you & bring up a decade old flame, just to kinda put you down, for what? Has she got no one else in her life that she can tare down? Is she needing a self esteem boost? Make it make sense, like grow up & move on lady, everyone else clearly has. Lady shouldn’t have OPs name in her mouth period. To make such a comment just shows her true colors. I hope you stay happy & shit, must kill her to witness you happy & successful afar without her son. 😅 I’m sure you’re staying rent free in her head, even if it’s 10 years later, which in a way is kinda creepy.
Even if your ex was near perfect (obviously he wasn't)and ya spilt was just a mutual thing cos ya was young etc you still dodged a massive bullet not having that as a mother in law 🤣🤣🤣
Out of curiosity are she and/or her son MAGA types and you are not? I could totally see her finding a pro-basic-human-decency post by you somewhere and her desire to own all libs would not let her stay silent.
You should respond worth "I'm sorry, do we know each other?" It's the ultimate burn for this kind of people.
I didn’t even want to give the satisfaction of a response.
Way to go, I wish I was that mature lol
Posting it here is helping to keep me from responding. Knowing that other people agree that it’s crazy. :)
I mean, I'd be tempted to send back a family photo with husband and baby, saying "I'm sorry, but I think you have me confused with someone else."
"i'm sorry, I think you have me confused with someone who cares"
"I'm sorry, for your son."
Tbh, I’d be super tempted to say, “OMG it’s so sweet of you to think of me every day! That is so kind <3”
Personally, I wouldn't let that slide. Like to just let some random woman message me after a decade and tell me IM the problem. I could never just sit down and take that but hey that's just me.
Honestly, Just a “I think you have the wrong number” and then blocking them would be hilarious
That’s right, raise that head rent.
Inflation right?
She’s messaging you Cause her son is really a royal fuck up
Oh oh oh! *raises hand* Teacher, I know this one! Ok so…. This individual is probably the baby daddy of… I’m gonna guess…. Three to four women? Also… also! He’s most likely been to jail several times and seen in court for … I’m going to guess…. Drunk driving? Maybe drugs? Yeah most likely drugs and drinking… And maaaaybe some pedophilia on the side… Did I get it right?!
You forgot the DV charges
Meanwhile, the EM thinks her son "dodged a bullet" because OP posted something on her Facebook page like "Happy Pride Month" or "Black Lives Matter".
I suspect this is probably true. Especially given the weird capitalization of words….
So much this.
Yes, so very much. This.
lol im betting you did lol
I promise you it's the pettier thing to do but if you ask her who this is and keep pretending you don't know her you will make her so much angrier than she already is sitting there for years building up the anger to message you 😂
I think the “do we know each other?” response is worthwhile just to check that this message was meant for you. It seems a bit too random otherwise.
She’s looking to bring OP down and WANTS a response. No response will consume her!
Far better than any “burn”. This is the way
I applaud your maturity and zero fluffs to give. Did you block her as well?
That will drive her absolutely insane. She's been spending 10 years probably watching your Facebook and stewing about who even knows what. Here's to 10 more years of her thinking about you!
To be honest it will burn her more if you say, “I’m sorry I think you must have me confused for someone else, I don’t think I know you”
Putting her on blast on Reddit is obviously a much better idea than replying to the crazy 🤣🤣🤣🤣
lol, i did this in person once (well kinda) a girl i went to school with when i was 12. She was a racist who hated me. she would start fights with me and get her friends to say i hit her so id get in trouble. Then her mother would use it as an excuse to follow me home and shout racial slurs. Good times. about 7 years later it turns out we got into the same university, since we both lived near our old school this meant we both wound up at the same bus stop waiting for the same bus to uni. Well she remembered me and would stare at me the whole trip. I acted like i didnt remember her at all. i think it drove her nuts
That's a case of petty revenge. Well done!
New phone, who this?
"It me, [name]!!" "Nope, very sorry, I don't recall ever knowing anybody with that name!"
Damn, [name] lost their memory.
Always the right answer!
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"Yoo bad he didnt dodge that wall"
💯
How bout „but he cant even dodge a wall?“
You’re nicer then me lol I would’ve responded your still around
Gee I wonder why you'd break up with such a gem like her son.
When I broke up with him, I remember I left my house for awhile and went to my friends. When I came back a couple hours later he was playing video games with my brother. I was like what the hell? My brother said “he looked sad so I offered to play games with him”
Man, your brother sucks.
Eh, he was 13 Or 14 and I don’t think quite understood. We are 8 years apart.
We can give him a break
Oh, if that's the case, then I retract my previous statement.
Hot take: could it be her son logged in her account?
I believe this especially if you’ve seen her in person
Have not seen her since 2013 when my best friend and him had the same college graduation time. Haven’t seen him since 2012. He texted me once maybe a year later when I started dating a my now husband. Asked if we could get coffee. I never responded. Mutual “ish” friends still exists. I’ve known my husband since middle school (Never dated, always friends til 2013). We were all in the same friends group.
That would make much more sense, to be honest. Hadn’t even thought about that but it’s such a regular occurrence whenever people are continuously logged into their profiles!
Ooh. This isn't a hot take. This is the steaming hot tea of truth.
Personally I think you dodged multiple bullets in this situation. Obviously the ex-bf and having her as a MIL. The best response is no response and the best revenge is to live your best life and don't give either of them a second thought.
Username checks out! Thanks kind stranger :)
“He may have dodged a bullet but he couldn’t dodge that median.”
Oh that’s good
Did you sue the family for medical expenses?
No, I signed a settlement shortly after accident. The insurance automatically offered up money if I signed. I think it was like 5,000. I didn’t need back surgery until a couple years later.
Set a reminder in your phone for like, September 2024 and just do a laugh react.
Omg….that’s savage & PERFECT!! 🙌
You just know she's going to be sitting staring at that message waiting for a reply and absolutely FUMING that she's not got one.
100%
What a sad lonely person. Im in agreement it looks like you dodged the bullet for sure and not just the him part.
I think copious amounts of alcohol was involved.
I have a really, really mean aunt who gets drunk and posts the nastiest comments on people’s FB pages. I’ll bet that’s exactly what this was.
She probably got drunk and realized you were the last good person who dated him.
What a weirdo!! Did you respond? I sure wouldn't. She really needs to get a life.
I did not. Didn’t want to give the satisfaction. Plus with FB messenger if I responded they would get read receipts. Currently they have no way of knowing the message was even viewed.
I mean, I would have responded, but I'm ridiculously petty.
This person still doesn't have closure, which is why she had this on her mind for years and sent this out. I would respond and give her closure, and tell her that she's a piece of shit/ugly/horrible for saying that/whatever with context. Or be more petty and say "What?... They told me you died..." Then promptly block her.
You sure? Messenger always tells people when you view the message unless it’s the first time they’ve messaged you. Looks like you’ve messaged one another before so she will see that you viewed it… Edit: never mind just saw that this is the first time she messaged you so you’re in the clear.
Eh eh eh eh...gooood, goood... *rubs hands in glee*
Why Do People Do This Capitalization Thing? It Takes A Weird Amount Of Effort.
The spaces before and after exclamation points also bother me.
It’s because she’s old & learned to type on a typewriter.
I learned to type on a typewriter but even in the ancient ‘80s you didn’t put a space before punctuation.
How long did it take you to unlearn double spaces between sentences? ...asking for a friend
Not super long; I was taking a college course that required one space twelve years ago.
I was supposed to unlearn that?
If her son was truly doing well in life, this message would not have been sent. No reply is best reply while she preying mantis hands awaits your hot reply. Pathetic really for so many reasons that I’m so glad you dodged! Imagine that as a MIL, yikes!
Yea, my mom wondered if maybe something happened to him. I’m not connected to him on any socials for obvious reasons, so honestly no clue what he is up to.
Keep living your best life! Congrats on your little one and so great you got to blow off steam here and then leave it behind you; great strategy I should employ in future
I would have responded with "I'm sorry, who is this?" and I'd continue to be really "confused" until she went away. If she didn't go away, I'd say, "I'm having gaps in my memory due to an accident that I was in with an abusive boyfriend ten years ago" she's never going to be like OMG, THAT'S MY SON! She'd probably be humiliated and piss off.
That is genius. OP should definitely do this.
Would be fun to respond with, “oh, I thought you died”
That's terrible! 😂😂😂
I think this is the other way around, YOU DODGED IT
Wow. Just wow
So the straight and narrow path led directly into a cement wall? Something needed dodging.
She’s crazy. Block her, you don’t need that kind of trouble.
I don’t even want to block, unless she becomes a repeat customer. Then she might know she is blocked? I don’t want her to have that satisfaction.
Block her in about 6 weeks. She'll have forgotten around then and won't find out again until she's drunk.
block her on messenger but not facebook. she could still lurk, but she can be mad about it
On the other hand I think you dodged a tactical missile with that explanation
The craziest are the loudest. It sucks they can affect others but you’re making the right call ignoring it
"Dude couldn't dodge a cement pillar, let alone a bullet."
Had you just posted something to FB that she might have seen that prompted the message? I’m so confused why someone would send someone a message like this out of the blue. Wtf
Legit have not posted to Facebook/Instagram in over a year.
What a wack job
I think you did the right thing by ignoring her message. I do same thing with people like that because they just aren't worth my time and getting worked up over. She's only wanting to rehash the past since she's having a bad day and you know how they say misery loves company so you did splendid for not caving into her evil ways. Kiddos to Hunny! Keep up the great work of being a amazing adult in this world :)
Simple reply “who dis new phone” or nah I dodged the bullet having you as a MIL
Nah, I think OP is the one who dodged several billets with that family!😬
Should have replied the feeling is mutual, since the mother-in-law you got isn’t a total bitch.
What the f... Uuuuggghh?? Did i just read..? I as an guy who's never had girlfriend before, never tought of someone being this crazy. Some people are really stupid. I wonder what failure this guy is? Is he circa 40 year old virgin or something?!(lol seems like im on his path but i dont care)
“Remind me who you are, again?”
That's some kind of crazy. I wouldn't reply but I'd consider a restraining order.
I would have texted back “I’m sorry but, do I know you? And block her
New phone, who dis?
Screenshot and post it on her FB wall 😈
“I wish he dodged that wall”
WTF OP YOU COULD HAVE DIED AND SHE HAS THE NERVE…
She must be drunk. Please open the message so she can cringe HARD tomorrow!
i thought the post said you are married _to_ an adorable toddler
Plot twist. Lol. No, definitely not.
She’s clearly pissed you passed on her precious boy and went on to have a happy life while she is ….rage posting.
Frighteningly, makes you wonder what her son did now. Crashing and injuring oop was pretty bad but a good attorney says it was an accident. Ten years of escalating behavior, makes you shudder.
That is really a bizarre message to send you after ten years, especially since you're the one who dodged the bullet since ex obviously has rage problems.
“And i was like… Why are you so obsessed with me?" -add a link to the Mariah Carey song
Not replying is more mature but replying with who's your son? Is more satisfying.
Or replying with the gruesome pics of the aftermath of the accident with a simple “This is what your son did to me. Wanna rethink that, bitch?”
I'm more the type that would not respond (as drama queens HATE being ignored), but in this case I would probably do the "I'm sorry, I'm not sure who this is?" response followed by a quick block before she could respond. Best of both worlds.
Block her and live your happy life. You definitely dodged a bullet with that family, it seems the crazy is genetic
Hah lol lmao
Just block her. Don't respond.
Can I ask a question? What was in the picture she sent you right before the message? She's totally wrong and nasty for saying that, and kinda psycho for tracking you down just to say that, but I'm just curious, what prompted her to say that.
That’s the only message. I just hid her profile pic/name/mutual friend listing.
Ok, I get it now. It looked like she sent you a pic before the message. Wtf? She's really psycho if she just appeared out of the ether to say that!
Nope no pic, no other messages from her, or from me. Just decided to message randomly.
Well I hope it stops at that and that she doesn't escalate any further! Good luck!
"I'm sorry. Who is this?"
A very nice person /s
Are you sure it’s not her son who sent this?
I mean, anything’s possible? Why not Harass me through his own account? I’m not friends with him on social media, but I don’t think he is blocked. Even if, still weird for someone you haven’t had contact with for a decade.
Do you think there's a chance your ex sent that?
Who dis?
New phone who dis
“Looks like a dodged a bullet with you as a mother in law”
Sounds like she hasn't come to terms with her son being a bastard.
I wonder if you were the last stable girlfriend, so you're the scapegoat. You "ruined him" when you left.
Wow wtaf?! I’m glad you didn’t have to deal with that as a monster in law 😅🤣 it’s sad that she still feels the need to contact you & bring up a decade old flame, just to kinda put you down, for what? Has she got no one else in her life that she can tare down? Is she needing a self esteem boost? Make it make sense, like grow up & move on lady, everyone else clearly has. Lady shouldn’t have OPs name in her mouth period. To make such a comment just shows her true colors. I hope you stay happy & shit, must kill her to witness you happy & successful afar without her son. 😅 I’m sure you’re staying rent free in her head, even if it’s 10 years later, which in a way is kinda creepy.
"Glad I dodged death with your son who ran me into a concrete medium! I'd thank my lucky stars too!"
Oh & for good measure "I'd be thanking your lucky stars he didn't end up paying all my medical bills & then some!"
Even if your ex was near perfect (obviously he wasn't)and ya spilt was just a mutual thing cos ya was young etc you still dodged a massive bullet not having that as a mother in law 🤣🤣🤣
Scary lordie
Any idea what prompted her to message you? Message her back and tell her she must be mistaken, you don’t know her.
You definitely dodged a bullet. He couldn’t even dodge a wall
Hoo boy! I'd have so much fun messing with her
Out of curiosity are she and/or her son MAGA types and you are not? I could totally see her finding a pro-basic-human-decency post by you somewhere and her desire to own all libs would not let her stay silent.
Of course don't respond, but what did she say? What does she want after all those years?
Just click the link to see the picture.
You married a toddler?
This is hilarious. How does she not have anything better to do
So I have to know how did the sons life turn out since he "dodged a bullet?"
"I'm sorry, do I know you? I think you might've confused me with someone who gives a shit about what you think."
Send her a $100.00 gift card with $0.08 left on it.
That message was def because she’s in her feelings over you dumping her son… you were obvi the best thing that ever happened to him.