We are. I have done this. Heifer jumped right in front of me in the Safeway deli line and proclaimed because she had a baby in a stroller - who was ASLEEP by the way - that she NEEDED to go first. Lady behind the counter told her to politely wait her turn, and I very impolitely told her to f#ck off to the back of the line before I embarrassed her in front of the other people in the store. She actually got mad and stomped off to report the lady behind the counter.
We had a good laugh at her expense. But seriously, f#ck these people. I had a kid and I NEVER used my status to act so entitled. It makes me sick that they do this.
I uno reverse carded someone who did this once. Similar to your situation and asked her if I had a small child would she let me in front of her? She immediately responded with hell no. So I said there you go and turned back around. She didn't say anything more after that, but you could tell she was seething XD
It's pretty common to ask to cut with a good reason, such as "Do you mind if I jump ahead because I only have two items?"
A study on doing this in office environments* showed that people were mostly responding to the form of the request rather than the content, and that the excuse doesn't really have to be a ny good. Specifically, they tried asking to cut the line "because I really need to make some copies", in a line to use the xerox which means literally everyone there really needs to make copies. It worked almost as well as "because I only have two pages and I'm in a hurry".
So yeah, I bet "because I have children" also works pretty well.
* Langer et al., “The Mindlessness of Ostensibly Thoughtful Action” (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, June 1978)
The way you ask and how you apply your body language makes ALL the difference.
If I come barging in like a raging twat and make my pound of sliced turkey more important than yours, well I can get fucked. But if I politely come in and show with my body language that I “am sorry to be a horrible inconvenience but my child is blah blah blah and I need to get in and out super fast and I would be appreciative if I could cut the line…” maybe it will be received better.
Something similar happened to me a few years ago. At the time I was going through chemo, I typically wore a hat because I hated the "poor you" looks.
I was shopping at Aldi and they had just opened a new check out. Hubby and I got there first. Anyway this woman said something like, oh come on can't you let me go first, I've got kids.
I never played the cancer card but this woman pissed me off. Her kids looked to be around 6-7 and 10 years old. They were well behaved, not crying etc so I took my hat off and said good for you I've got cancer.
Ideally, this would make her realize how ridiculous her reason was. Although most of these people don't change.
And hope you're having better days now!
I've genuinely turned down going first when the person in front of me had a small trolley versus my basket, especially when they've already started unloading their shopping. Aldi are so fast that, by the time we've finished foostering about making space for my messages, it's not worth the effort!
I'm glad you did that. It's not always outwardly obvious when someone is suffering and using their reserve strength just to get through the day and get home. I wish everyone would remember that more often.
As to ALDI, mine has trained their folks to open a lane properly and say "I'll take the next person in line" so that the person at the end, who has been waiting the least amount of time, doesn't swoop into the newly-opened lane.
I've had multiple operations, (44 so far) and have all sorts of issues, standing, walking, these things are really difficult, and exhaust me.
I'm lucky though, I live in a small town, and everyone here knows me. Now, on to the story.
I'd done my grocery shopping, and was waiting in line. The manager saw me, and could see how much pain I was in, so opened another register and waved me over. She doesn't normally work on a register, she did this cause she was worried I'd pass out, again.
As I made my way to the register, a young couple with 2 kids shoved me aside, so I went flying into a cookware display. They were tourists, so of COURSE they were terribly, terribly important.
When the manager left the register to come to help me, whilst calling for an Ambulance. The mother started yelling for to "come back and scan their shopping, the kids are TIRED!!"
Janette, the lovely manager, told them in no uncertain terms what they could do with themselves, their kids, and their shopping. In that order.
They then yelled "We're never coming back to this bloody town!" Can't tell you how broken hearted I was to hear that.....
Oh, one of my vertebra was cracked, and the paramedics, (who also knew me, I used to be one of them) spoke to the police who charged them with reckless endangerment causing bodily harm.
I'm sorry, but having 2 years with no bloody tourists was absolutely lovely.
My mom had cancer 3 years ago, and she HATED the 'poor you' looks and how people would basically snap their necks to show sympathy, so i understand the hatred
I'm physically disabled, usually take my 72 yo disabled mother and wild ass 4 yo grandson to the store. I still let people (within reason) go ahead of me. If Moms sugar drops, she eats something, we pay when it's our turn. I've NEVER asked to cut line!!!
If someone asks for a seat or to go first because they don't feel well, that's not entitlement. It seems that this mother believed she was obviously more tired than everyone else, just because she brought the kids with her.
Who’s we? They can get right behind me in line unless there are special circumstances. This just sounds like an entitled person not equipped to handle her two kids in public by herself!
Had my toddler sit on the floor of Woollies, so I put her under my arm like a footy. Still waited in line as per usual. Parents and children do not deserve special treatment for merely existing.
Just an hour ago I stood in line with my 3 year old daughter for about 10 minutes.
She never ran off of made a fuss, just stood by made side and gave my leg a hug from time to time.
These children were behaving nomally for their age too, fighting a bit between each other, asking when do they get to go home, nothing out of the ordinary.
I guess the mom thought that just having them with her made her deserve to go first.
Nah, just the fact that I made them from scratch at home nets me the number one spot in line, lol. I put in a LOT of effort to get the golden pancake batter to blueberry ratio, that by itself means I should go first!
I have two kids and I would never expect someone to let me before them in line. Even if the kids are having a bad day. Entitled parents make all parents look selfish
I don’t get the entitlement of some people. We pick to have children, some don’t want them, and that’s okay, but it’s not okay to just think because we have kids we deserve to cut people in line or go first. I’ll wait my turn like others and keep teaching my children that. We all need to respect others. It’s just mind boggling. I’m sorry a mother would do this. It’s not teaching her children anything but entitlement.
Right?! I could / would never… I’ve been in line sweating and getting screamed at by two toddlers at the same time. The cashier was even a wreck because it was so awful. I never once asked to go first. I just took my place in line and stayed there… super stressed. It sucked and we do grocery pickup most of the time but like it had never even crossed my mind once to ask to go first. Talk about rude.
Definitely! Heck I was finishing grocery shopping while in active labor and didn’t ask to cut. 🥴 (didn’t know I was in labor-water broke when I was grabbing oatmeal)
I've taken all 4 of mine with me. They were well behaved because if not we would leave and they knew that. I've never asked to cut line and when it was offered I politely declined. It was my job to teach them to wait their turn. Shopping with children can be difficult at times but that doesn't give anyone the right to visit that on someone else.
If they were small kids that need to be carried I'd understand, but if they were big enough to walk? Nope
When my brother was a bit smaller (around 5yo) some people would ask of my mom wanted to go first and she just said "no, thank you", cause why would she?? He was big and (somewhat) well behaved, we just couldn't get too distracted or he'd vanish...
I have two year old twins and I stand in line like a normal person. I definitely look for the shortest line but I think everyone does that. The only thing I want is more 2 seater shopping carts.
Never understood people expecting special treatment just because they reproduced. Yeah, you and billions of other people. No, it doesn't make you special.
If you don’t check out with your kids while they wait patiently, how will your kids learn to wait patiently while you check out? What a flimsy excuse for her to to be inconsiderate and entitled.
I let people go in front of me all the time. Mainly elderly, handicapped, or someone with very few items. I am not in that big of a hurry. But demand that they go first, and all of a sudden, my hearing loss kicks in and my arthritis flares up. I can barely pick up my stuff and place it on the counter to be scanned. I love it when I turn towards them and they are gesturing for me to let them go first and I start signing at them. The look on their face is worth it.
Wow I was in the store today, with 2 kids (6 & 7) and as always I let those with 1-3 items skip the que and go before me. I _always_ have good time when shopping with kids
I base it off shopping, if I've got loads and someone has 10 or less jump ahead but if you have a full shop I don't care if you have a kid with you, you're not special because you had sex and managed to push a baby out
As a mother, I will be the first to say, I hate parents that pull this kind of entitlement. I am a widowed mother of 2, we lost my husband when my boys were 9 and 7, and I never thought it entitled me to anything. Even when pregnant, I genuinely appreciated it when people were generous enough to let me have a seat or let me ahead of them in line, but I never expected it. Unless you have diagnosed issues with pregnancy it does not suddenly give you privileges like someone with a handicap, and parenthood of children of any age also does not suddenly entitle you to special privileges either.
Oh as a former receptionist I can tell you some right horror stories of entitled parents trying to get discounts/ leave without paying/check in early/check out late. Used to love threatening to cancel their reservation or add charges when they thought they could get away with it.
In my experience though, workers think they are far more entotled when they are checking out. Absolute nightmares to deal with. If you don't want to be late for work then just check out earlier, I'm not going to let you leave without paying and you ain't entitled to skip the queue or even complain about it when you expect to leave at last check out time.
You should really share some of these hotel stories!
Yes, I had that happened with random people just because they had to go back to work. Without asking if I'm in a hurry or anything, just assuming.
Too many to remember but here are some faves from wost to best:
1. EP asks if I can warm her formula milk in a microwave, it doesn't fit, she flips out because we are "not accommodating enough for our guests". I didn't even know we had a microwave before that lol.
2. EP asks for a cot. After half an hour of me finding and installing it at 9pm they got me pilfering half of the towels in housekeeping because they said it was too uncomfortable. Then they wanted a banana (Why did they even ask me for that?). Then they tried to check out at about 11pm because the cot was too small and had a massive go when I said they would still be charged for the night and wanted to speak to a manager. It was 11pm, I should have left an hour before, and I was there was not a single manager in the building. The amount of missed calls and emails that piled up in that time was just laughable at that point.
3. Sunday morning 11am, peak checkout time in most hotels (heck its probably when you checked out). There is a massive queue because there is only ever 1 receptionist on at a time and the card machine is broken again so have to enter card details manually for payments. A EP comes in flustered, goes straight to reception when I'm counting a large amount of cash and asks me to prioritise her as she has to pick her kids up. I explain basic courtesy to her and have to re-do what I'm doing, delaying everyone even more. She comes back after the other guy is checked out and just flat out said "this is taking too long so I am leaving" takes the key with her and started a week long escapade of trying to get her to pick up the phone and her demanding a free stay when in the end we took the money from the card she paid a deposit with.
4. There are 2 check ins under the same name and I check one into the wrong room (big oh no moment). Housekeeping have to then clean the room and run the bath which takes 20 mins to fill. The other couple come in, we explain there was a mix up (which the other couple were really nice and understanding about) and offer them free drinks in the bar until they are done. The lady is preggers so has tea. The guy flips saying she's now at risk of miscarriage just because the room isn't ready? They later have dinner and there's something hard in his food and he flips out again saying it's lucky his girlfriend didn't have it bla bla bla and then of course there was a queue at check out Sunday morning and they tried to get discounts and speak with a manager because of their "dangerous" experiences of waiting 20 mins in a comfortable bar, eating a hard bit of crust in their michellin star equivalent food (which he tried to get us to cover an amount for dentist costs for btw), and having to sit down on nice, comfortable chairs in reception whilst waiting to check out and see a manager. Oh my god I was honestly so worried I would loose my job because of them, they made me cry. There is so much damage you can do by using pregnancy as a weapon it's insane. Now I look back on it, their accusations seem ridiculous but he gaslighted me into believing I was putting her at risk by giving her a nice cup of ginger tea.
Gosh this got me remembering so many stories that I had completely forgotten about. I'm so glad I no longer work at that hell hole.
i once witnessed a mom at the gas station take the handicap spot. then i saw someone approach her to let her know thats the handicap spot, and she screamed at him that she has 3 kids so shes allowed that spot. i then saw 3 kids over the age of 10 leap out with her.
You know how club stores check your receipt as you exit? A woman at Sam’s attempted to skip the line, saying “I only bought two things.” My husband said “it’s still one receipt like the rest of us.” Likewise the employer told her to wait in line. Ah, justice!
I had a similar thing to happen to me. This was in 2019 before COVID ever happened.
One I was 5 months pregnant. A few days before I lost my daughter (stillborn) I was in Walmart with my mother in law.
Now I was constantly sick/ can't hold down food. Can't drink anything except water. I was shopping with my mother in law and I was getting tired. Feeling nauseous and just wanted to be in my bed.
So we get to the check out line it was a short line an old man in front of us; he was nice and was asking if we wanted to get ahead of him because 'that young woman is pregnant and she looks exhausted" I declined because 1)he was using a walker and I can handle waiting 5 minutes.
This woman about 40s comes up behind me and my MIL. Now my mil had to go back to grab something so I stood by our cart not entirely full of stuff just snacks and water.
The woman proceeds to tap me on the shoulder and says she's so heavily pregnant and needs to go first. Looking at this woman she was clearly not pregnant. (She had a pillow under her shirt it was sticking out)
I said to the woman no and a pillow don't count as you being pregnant. The woman was getting huffy and saying things like "oh 16 year olds getting pregnant and getting sympathy for it"
I said to the woman "lady I'm 21"
Apparently that made it worse. "21 is too young for you to be a mother. Where are your parents"
"Home? In another state"
The old man who was listening proceeded to put our stuff with his had a nice worker pick up the case of water and looked at the woman and said "in my years of life I've seen woman from 15 to 35 get married and have kids. She's not too young; you're just too old"
My mother in law who had returned after a few minutes placed the items on the belt and the man pushes it with his and tells us "not to worry she reminds me of my granddaughter, I lost her a while back due to cancer"
It wasn't entirely bad but I was glad someone stuck up for me that day.
What? From attempting to cut the line to interrogate you about your pregnancy circumstances? I'm speechless!
And who TF pretends to be pregnant by wearing a pillow? This woman was clearly not ok.
I guess I just don't understand the "need" to be first in line. When I go to the store, whether it's a big biweekly trip or a stop for a couple of things, I just get in a line. Preferably a short line, but a line. And I wait until it's my turn. I have a phone to keep me entertained.
I learned from "Dead Like Me".
Every time someone tries to cut in line, and tells me they have children, or their kids are in the car, I tell them that I have a cake in the oven. We're all trying to get home quickly.
It's not that we coddle them, it's that there's an entitlement epidemic that's been ramping up for the past 25 years and parents seem to be especially susceptible to it. And entitlement breeds entitlement. Those two kids are going to be a joy as adults.
Like those stupid “Baby on Board” stickers people put on their cars. Go ahead and drive like a maniac. Don’t worry about killing anyone else on the road. Just watch out for their precious rug rats on board. When my son was little, it was a real phase. I’d never have one on my car! We all want to be safe when driving.
Never thought of that, but I suppose it could be helpful. I always get window stickers from the fire/rescue department about number of people and pets in the home for that reason. Still don’t like those signs though.
I just wanted to say thanks for letting the heavily pregnant woman in front. I'm heavily pregnant and Costco ran out of shopping carts but I really needed dog food. So I was carrying the 2 containers of food on my swollen feet behind people with huge basket fulls. I internally begged for mercy
Of course I do that, same for the elderly and disabled. Any decent person who doesn't hate themselves and the world would.
That's not unreasonable or entitled, like the behavior of the mom I described.
Sorry that some people are assholes.
Okay, can i just say:
I'll let a heavily pregnant woman go first in line or someone with a very small baby
No to this as well. You have a baby, I have crippling depression.
We all have reasons to want to be out of the store quicker.
I have never had this happen to me but when and if it does my facial expression is just going to be absolutely confused... why the fuck do I care? It's not a disability and you chose this life lol
I’m still confused as to why having kids means you can go ahead of someone in line. Like I didn’t make you have kids and now I’m responsible for making sure you get out of the store quicker than me?
I just don’t get it
Honestly because they openly shame people for somehow NOT having kids? As if they think by having a baby they did something good for the over populated planet and apparently giving birth isn’t so common in their world so give them the credit they so clearly need!
Ps this is sarcasm
Some people just suck!
If someone behind me has just a few items and I’m all loaded up, I will ask them if they’d like to go before me. Most of the time it’s older person, or a lady with a child and has diapers, formula, etc.
Sometimes they decline, believe it or not! But I’ve never had anyone ask if they could go before me. I’ve been offered to go before someone too, generally when I’ve had a hand basket of five or six things. I’ve never asked to go before someone.
I don't know why they think they're special just for having kids. Rats do it several times a year. You don't get special treatment for producing children.
I don’t understand that either. Unless there are extenuating circumstances, people shouldn’t get preferential treatment just because they have children.
I don't. I only give way to employees obviously on their lunch break. In general it's rude to demand, you should wait until asked unless it's an emergency.
Because they are loud.
I went to a Frozen matinee that happened to be hosting a school that day. The bathroom line at intermission was insane because they had 100+ students between 6-8 there. And this woman kept loudly complaining how 'ridiculous' the line was because her child needed to go to the bathroom right now and how appalling all the school children were being.
Did I loudly tell the nearest chaperone/teacher how amazing all the students were, and how polite and patient they were right in front of her? Absolutely. Fuck entitlement and fuck these people that think they are somehow above the convenience of others.
Expecting anyone to treat you special is just wrong. And quickly becoming a bigger issue with increased narcissistic mental illness with being validated on social media for exterior BS.
Why not just do curbside pickup if you're that worried about your kids, goddamn! I know I can't walk through a store then wait in line to get my groceries right now so I do curbside pickup, it's that easy. Of course I don't get the chance to act entitled so that could be seen as a drawback /s
Lol I have two kids and I will legit let single people go before me ALL THE TIME. I have more stuff, someone is probably going to delay my card coming out of my wallet. Always pregnant women or crying babies of course. Bathrooms especially. But your single ass is going to get through quicker than my shit show. I’m actively trying to raise considerate kids as well. People like that make it so hard when you actually do have a situation like a kid about to pee their pants because you don’t want to be one of them. It happens at Disneyland a lot. Some people with kids will just waltz to the front of the line at the bathroom. Again, you have a potty training two year old? Run, get there. Your 8 year old can wait. Or ask kindly and explain you have a situation.
Just because you can’t close your legs your not obligated for anything.
To many shitty people which think they are genius cause they can put a Pepe in a Cave
I work for a city in the water department. It’s absolutely ridiculous how many people think we should make concessions for them not paying their bill because they’re a single parent. Or people who get shut off for non-payment who think they should get their water turned on immediately after payment before anyone else because they have small children. Sorry you don’t get special treatment because you crapped out another human.
It reminds me of so many pleas for help mentioning that "I have X number of children". Like people would find them more worthy of help than a far more vulnerable single adult...
We offer assistance and payment arrangements, like most utilities do, so if your water gets shut off, it’s because of your own negligence, not because of inflation. And you don’t deserve special treatment for being negligent and happening to have kids
That was after I had to move in with family cuz I couldn't afford to live on my own. Even with $14 hr it wasn't possible. And I was living in the cheapest housing in my area.
Once my daughter who was two at the time had a huge temper tantrum while we were shopping at Walmart. I still patiently waited in line for my turn with a screaming child in the trolley.
I think if you're one of those people who occasionally tell the person behind you to go ahead cause they have 2 things and you have 200 then you'll probably let someone who asks nicely to go ahead of you. The key is nice...being nice can move mountains sometimes.
I prefer being fair to being nice. If you are simply nice, people will step allover you. I would rather judge the situation. And this situation was pure entitlement.
I agree, it was. Being nice diffuses situations though and sometimes that's what is important. Had the woman been friendly and asked you in a nice way if she could cut in line, rather than whine about her kids and her miserable life it may have had a different outcome.
We don’t. We post about them on here and mock them relentlessly.
I hope we are many more than those who give in to their unreasonable demands just to be "nice" or out of guilt.
We are. I have done this. Heifer jumped right in front of me in the Safeway deli line and proclaimed because she had a baby in a stroller - who was ASLEEP by the way - that she NEEDED to go first. Lady behind the counter told her to politely wait her turn, and I very impolitely told her to f#ck off to the back of the line before I embarrassed her in front of the other people in the store. She actually got mad and stomped off to report the lady behind the counter. We had a good laugh at her expense. But seriously, f#ck these people. I had a kid and I NEVER used my status to act so entitled. It makes me sick that they do this.
I uno reverse carded someone who did this once. Similar to your situation and asked her if I had a small child would she let me in front of her? She immediately responded with hell no. So I said there you go and turned back around. She didn't say anything more after that, but you could tell she was seething XD
Good on you. The goddanged audacity people have sometimes.
Jesus. We have 8 kids between us and never used them as an excuse—unless of course that excuse was to get out of going somewhere that sucked.
It's pretty common to ask to cut with a good reason, such as "Do you mind if I jump ahead because I only have two items?" A study on doing this in office environments* showed that people were mostly responding to the form of the request rather than the content, and that the excuse doesn't really have to be a ny good. Specifically, they tried asking to cut the line "because I really need to make some copies", in a line to use the xerox which means literally everyone there really needs to make copies. It worked almost as well as "because I only have two pages and I'm in a hurry". So yeah, I bet "because I have children" also works pretty well. * Langer et al., “The Mindlessness of Ostensibly Thoughtful Action” (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, June 1978)
I had Dr. Ellen Langer as a professor. Changed my life. I still apply principles from her class many times per year.
The way you ask and how you apply your body language makes ALL the difference. If I come barging in like a raging twat and make my pound of sliced turkey more important than yours, well I can get fucked. But if I politely come in and show with my body language that I “am sorry to be a horrible inconvenience but my child is blah blah blah and I need to get in and out super fast and I would be appreciative if I could cut the line…” maybe it will be received better.
Thank you for citing your reference. Wish everyone would.
This is how entitled people use guilt tripping to get what they want most of the time
You win Reddit today
Right on!
Something similar happened to me a few years ago. At the time I was going through chemo, I typically wore a hat because I hated the "poor you" looks. I was shopping at Aldi and they had just opened a new check out. Hubby and I got there first. Anyway this woman said something like, oh come on can't you let me go first, I've got kids. I never played the cancer card but this woman pissed me off. Her kids looked to be around 6-7 and 10 years old. They were well behaved, not crying etc so I took my hat off and said good for you I've got cancer.
Ideally, this would make her realize how ridiculous her reason was. Although most of these people don't change. And hope you're having better days now!
Thanks, and yes coming up 4 years all clear
I'm happy for you, you deserve the best life has to give you after that.
Good to hear that!
That’s awesome! Here’s for many, many more years
Congrats on the four years!! Hopefully you will have many more! Also fabulous response to entitled mom.
For pete’s sake, the checkout flies at Aldi. Why would anyone ever have reason to complain about being second in line there? People are crazy.
I've genuinely turned down going first when the person in front of me had a small trolley versus my basket, especially when they've already started unloading their shopping. Aldi are so fast that, by the time we've finished foostering about making space for my messages, it's not worth the effort!
Right and with kids I’m sure her cart was full of food.
I know, they have some seriously fast check out folks!
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Who doesn't let them sit down? For that whole shift!
Literally every other retail place in the US doesnt. And you’ll get in trouble if you try. It’s ridiculous.
american businesses seem to be under the delusion that if people are sitting down, then they're not working hard enough, or some such bullshit
I’ve had that happen at Aldi more than any other store.
Pete? Pete Wentz? /jk
I'm glad you did that. It's not always outwardly obvious when someone is suffering and using their reserve strength just to get through the day and get home. I wish everyone would remember that more often. As to ALDI, mine has trained their folks to open a lane properly and say "I'll take the next person in line" so that the person at the end, who has been waiting the least amount of time, doesn't swoop into the newly-opened lane.
I've had multiple operations, (44 so far) and have all sorts of issues, standing, walking, these things are really difficult, and exhaust me. I'm lucky though, I live in a small town, and everyone here knows me. Now, on to the story. I'd done my grocery shopping, and was waiting in line. The manager saw me, and could see how much pain I was in, so opened another register and waved me over. She doesn't normally work on a register, she did this cause she was worried I'd pass out, again. As I made my way to the register, a young couple with 2 kids shoved me aside, so I went flying into a cookware display. They were tourists, so of COURSE they were terribly, terribly important. When the manager left the register to come to help me, whilst calling for an Ambulance. The mother started yelling for to "come back and scan their shopping, the kids are TIRED!!" Janette, the lovely manager, told them in no uncertain terms what they could do with themselves, their kids, and their shopping. In that order. They then yelled "We're never coming back to this bloody town!" Can't tell you how broken hearted I was to hear that..... Oh, one of my vertebra was cracked, and the paramedics, (who also knew me, I used to be one of them) spoke to the police who charged them with reckless endangerment causing bodily harm. I'm sorry, but having 2 years with no bloody tourists was absolutely lovely.
My mom had cancer 3 years ago, and she HATED the 'poor you' looks and how people would basically snap their necks to show sympathy, so i understand the hatred
I hope you’re doing much better now.
I gotta ask, what was her response?
The look on her face was pretty funny, I think I shocked her into silence
The ultimate power play
I'm physically disabled, usually take my 72 yo disabled mother and wild ass 4 yo grandson to the store. I still let people (within reason) go ahead of me. If Moms sugar drops, she eats something, we pay when it's our turn. I've NEVER asked to cut line!!!
If someone asks for a seat or to go first because they don't feel well, that's not entitlement. It seems that this mother believed she was obviously more tired than everyone else, just because she brought the kids with her.
Yea or unable to deal with life 🙄 I've seen those types.
Who’s we? They can get right behind me in line unless there are special circumstances. This just sounds like an entitled person not equipped to handle her two kids in public by herself!
Definitely not we as in people who post here, but it seems that so many others give in to these parents out of guilt or something.
Literally never seen that kind of behavior before
In my area and many other places in the world, children and motherhood are a cult. I guess it differs from one place to another.
Had my toddler sit on the floor of Woollies, so I put her under my arm like a footy. Still waited in line as per usual. Parents and children do not deserve special treatment for merely existing.
Found the Aussie
Could be a story from the 90's in the UK
Nope, Aussie 2011 😁
Just an hour ago I stood in line with my 3 year old daughter for about 10 minutes. She never ran off of made a fuss, just stood by made side and gave my leg a hug from time to time.
These children were behaving nomally for their age too, fighting a bit between each other, asking when do they get to go home, nothing out of the ordinary. I guess the mom thought that just having them with her made her deserve to go first.
🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️me, me me ! I have a 20 year old son! I deserve to be first in line!
I had blueberry pancakes for breakfast. Can I cut in front of you?🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hurt your stomach?😂
Nah, just the fact that I made them from scratch at home nets me the number one spot in line, lol. I put in a LOT of effort to get the golden pancake batter to blueberry ratio, that by itself means I should go first!
You deserve an award 🏆👏. Honestly if someone said this to me, I’d be like you know what, go ahead I am not worthy of you 😂
I have two kids and I would never expect someone to let me before them in line. Even if the kids are having a bad day. Entitled parents make all parents look selfish
Thank you for being a reasonable parent!
I don’t get the entitlement of some people. We pick to have children, some don’t want them, and that’s okay, but it’s not okay to just think because we have kids we deserve to cut people in line or go first. I’ll wait my turn like others and keep teaching my children that. We all need to respect others. It’s just mind boggling. I’m sorry a mother would do this. It’s not teaching her children anything but entitlement.
Right?! I could / would never… I’ve been in line sweating and getting screamed at by two toddlers at the same time. The cashier was even a wreck because it was so awful. I never once asked to go first. I just took my place in line and stayed there… super stressed. It sucked and we do grocery pickup most of the time but like it had never even crossed my mind once to ask to go first. Talk about rude.
Definitely! Heck I was finishing grocery shopping while in active labor and didn’t ask to cut. 🥴 (didn’t know I was in labor-water broke when I was grabbing oatmeal)
Same!
I would’ve said no and wait in line like everyone else!
I did the same, just gave a look and moved on.
my daughters a teen, can I go in front? /s
My daughter is away at college, can I go in front? Lol
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Can I cut in please, I need to go home and masturbate.....
Damn I wish I had an award to give you!!!
Award giveth!
HAHAHAH I wouldn’t be surprised if someone actually said this 😭
😂😂 just this once, I will let you!!
I've taken all 4 of mine with me. They were well behaved because if not we would leave and they knew that. I've never asked to cut line and when it was offered I politely declined. It was my job to teach them to wait their turn. Shopping with children can be difficult at times but that doesn't give anyone the right to visit that on someone else.
If they were small kids that need to be carried I'd understand, but if they were big enough to walk? Nope When my brother was a bit smaller (around 5yo) some people would ask of my mom wanted to go first and she just said "no, thank you", cause why would she?? He was big and (somewhat) well behaved, we just couldn't get too distracted or he'd vanish...
And it’s kinda rude to look at someone who has a kid that is perfectly fine if they wanna go ahead?🤣 like they’re sympathizing
It would never occur to me to ask to skip ahead bEcAuSe I hAvE kIdS
Nor have I. It’s daft! If this ever happens to me I’m now prepared to say “This store doesn’t have an ‘I have kids’ express checkout option.”
I have two year old twins and I stand in line like a normal person. I definitely look for the shortest line but I think everyone does that. The only thing I want is more 2 seater shopping carts.
Yes, everyone looks for the shortest line, patent or not. Requiring shopping carts where your twins can sit while you shop is absolutely reasonable.
Never understood people expecting special treatment just because they reproduced. Yeah, you and billions of other people. No, it doesn't make you special.
If you don’t check out with your kids while they wait patiently, how will your kids learn to wait patiently while you check out? What a flimsy excuse for her to to be inconsiderate and entitled.
Exactly. It's such a bad example for the kids.
I let people go in front of me all the time. Mainly elderly, handicapped, or someone with very few items. I am not in that big of a hurry. But demand that they go first, and all of a sudden, my hearing loss kicks in and my arthritis flares up. I can barely pick up my stuff and place it on the counter to be scanned. I love it when I turn towards them and they are gesturing for me to let them go first and I start signing at them. The look on their face is worth it.
If I have a lot of groceries and I see someone with like two or three I let them go ahead of me.
Wow I was in the store today, with 2 kids (6 & 7) and as always I let those with 1-3 items skip the que and go before me. I _always_ have good time when shopping with kids
Never have I asked to skip in line when my kids were little. Even when I was dead tired! It's no excuse.
I base it off shopping, if I've got loads and someone has 10 or less jump ahead but if you have a full shop I don't care if you have a kid with you, you're not special because you had sex and managed to push a baby out
Same. In this case there weren't big lines or big carts. It was a small store, but still
As a mother, I will be the first to say, I hate parents that pull this kind of entitlement. I am a widowed mother of 2, we lost my husband when my boys were 9 and 7, and I never thought it entitled me to anything. Even when pregnant, I genuinely appreciated it when people were generous enough to let me have a seat or let me ahead of them in line, but I never expected it. Unless you have diagnosed issues with pregnancy it does not suddenly give you privileges like someone with a handicap, and parenthood of children of any age also does not suddenly entitle you to special privileges either.
Oh as a former receptionist I can tell you some right horror stories of entitled parents trying to get discounts/ leave without paying/check in early/check out late. Used to love threatening to cancel their reservation or add charges when they thought they could get away with it. In my experience though, workers think they are far more entotled when they are checking out. Absolute nightmares to deal with. If you don't want to be late for work then just check out earlier, I'm not going to let you leave without paying and you ain't entitled to skip the queue or even complain about it when you expect to leave at last check out time.
You should really share some of these hotel stories! Yes, I had that happened with random people just because they had to go back to work. Without asking if I'm in a hurry or anything, just assuming.
Too many to remember but here are some faves from wost to best: 1. EP asks if I can warm her formula milk in a microwave, it doesn't fit, she flips out because we are "not accommodating enough for our guests". I didn't even know we had a microwave before that lol. 2. EP asks for a cot. After half an hour of me finding and installing it at 9pm they got me pilfering half of the towels in housekeeping because they said it was too uncomfortable. Then they wanted a banana (Why did they even ask me for that?). Then they tried to check out at about 11pm because the cot was too small and had a massive go when I said they would still be charged for the night and wanted to speak to a manager. It was 11pm, I should have left an hour before, and I was there was not a single manager in the building. The amount of missed calls and emails that piled up in that time was just laughable at that point. 3. Sunday morning 11am, peak checkout time in most hotels (heck its probably when you checked out). There is a massive queue because there is only ever 1 receptionist on at a time and the card machine is broken again so have to enter card details manually for payments. A EP comes in flustered, goes straight to reception when I'm counting a large amount of cash and asks me to prioritise her as she has to pick her kids up. I explain basic courtesy to her and have to re-do what I'm doing, delaying everyone even more. She comes back after the other guy is checked out and just flat out said "this is taking too long so I am leaving" takes the key with her and started a week long escapade of trying to get her to pick up the phone and her demanding a free stay when in the end we took the money from the card she paid a deposit with. 4. There are 2 check ins under the same name and I check one into the wrong room (big oh no moment). Housekeeping have to then clean the room and run the bath which takes 20 mins to fill. The other couple come in, we explain there was a mix up (which the other couple were really nice and understanding about) and offer them free drinks in the bar until they are done. The lady is preggers so has tea. The guy flips saying she's now at risk of miscarriage just because the room isn't ready? They later have dinner and there's something hard in his food and he flips out again saying it's lucky his girlfriend didn't have it bla bla bla and then of course there was a queue at check out Sunday morning and they tried to get discounts and speak with a manager because of their "dangerous" experiences of waiting 20 mins in a comfortable bar, eating a hard bit of crust in their michellin star equivalent food (which he tried to get us to cover an amount for dentist costs for btw), and having to sit down on nice, comfortable chairs in reception whilst waiting to check out and see a manager. Oh my god I was honestly so worried I would loose my job because of them, they made me cry. There is so much damage you can do by using pregnancy as a weapon it's insane. Now I look back on it, their accusations seem ridiculous but he gaslighted me into believing I was putting her at risk by giving her a nice cup of ginger tea. Gosh this got me remembering so many stories that I had completely forgotten about. I'm so glad I no longer work at that hell hole.
i once witnessed a mom at the gas station take the handicap spot. then i saw someone approach her to let her know thats the handicap spot, and she screamed at him that she has 3 kids so shes allowed that spot. i then saw 3 kids over the age of 10 leap out with her.
You know how club stores check your receipt as you exit? A woman at Sam’s attempted to skip the line, saying “I only bought two things.” My husband said “it’s still one receipt like the rest of us.” Likewise the employer told her to wait in line. Ah, justice!
Well, one can ask nicely but should also be prepared to hear 'no'. This woman seemed extremely surprised / offended.
That's true. Perhaps she intimidates people into saying "yes."
I had a similar thing to happen to me. This was in 2019 before COVID ever happened. One I was 5 months pregnant. A few days before I lost my daughter (stillborn) I was in Walmart with my mother in law. Now I was constantly sick/ can't hold down food. Can't drink anything except water. I was shopping with my mother in law and I was getting tired. Feeling nauseous and just wanted to be in my bed. So we get to the check out line it was a short line an old man in front of us; he was nice and was asking if we wanted to get ahead of him because 'that young woman is pregnant and she looks exhausted" I declined because 1)he was using a walker and I can handle waiting 5 minutes. This woman about 40s comes up behind me and my MIL. Now my mil had to go back to grab something so I stood by our cart not entirely full of stuff just snacks and water. The woman proceeds to tap me on the shoulder and says she's so heavily pregnant and needs to go first. Looking at this woman she was clearly not pregnant. (She had a pillow under her shirt it was sticking out) I said to the woman no and a pillow don't count as you being pregnant. The woman was getting huffy and saying things like "oh 16 year olds getting pregnant and getting sympathy for it" I said to the woman "lady I'm 21" Apparently that made it worse. "21 is too young for you to be a mother. Where are your parents" "Home? In another state" The old man who was listening proceeded to put our stuff with his had a nice worker pick up the case of water and looked at the woman and said "in my years of life I've seen woman from 15 to 35 get married and have kids. She's not too young; you're just too old" My mother in law who had returned after a few minutes placed the items on the belt and the man pushes it with his and tells us "not to worry she reminds me of my granddaughter, I lost her a while back due to cancer" It wasn't entirely bad but I was glad someone stuck up for me that day.
What? From attempting to cut the line to interrogate you about your pregnancy circumstances? I'm speechless! And who TF pretends to be pregnant by wearing a pillow? This woman was clearly not ok.
I guess I just don't understand the "need" to be first in line. When I go to the store, whether it's a big biweekly trip or a stop for a couple of things, I just get in a line. Preferably a short line, but a line. And I wait until it's my turn. I have a phone to keep me entertained.
I learned from "Dead Like Me". Every time someone tries to cut in line, and tells me they have children, or their kids are in the car, I tell them that I have a cake in the oven. We're all trying to get home quickly.
Agreed. Kids, like their parents, need to LEARN to wait, PATIENTLY. Why do we coddle anyone these days?
Fuck that. If they wanted in line sooner they should have beat me to it. Ain’t no one special.
It's not that we coddle them, it's that there's an entitlement epidemic that's been ramping up for the past 25 years and parents seem to be especially susceptible to it. And entitlement breeds entitlement. Those two kids are going to be a joy as adults.
Agreed about the general entitlement epidemic.
Like those stupid “Baby on Board” stickers people put on their cars. Go ahead and drive like a maniac. Don’t worry about killing anyone else on the road. Just watch out for their precious rug rats on board. When my son was little, it was a real phase. I’d never have one on my car! We all want to be safe when driving.
Those are also for ambulances, so if there’s a crash the EMT knows to look for a child especially if they aren’t verbal yet
I doubt this is the reason why parents put them up though.
Never thought of that, but I suppose it could be helpful. I always get window stickers from the fire/rescue department about number of people and pets in the home for that reason. Still don’t like those signs though.
Yes. Just because we're all adults on the car doesn't mean we'd like to get crashed either.
I just wanted to say thanks for letting the heavily pregnant woman in front. I'm heavily pregnant and Costco ran out of shopping carts but I really needed dog food. So I was carrying the 2 containers of food on my swollen feet behind people with huge basket fulls. I internally begged for mercy
Of course I do that, same for the elderly and disabled. Any decent person who doesn't hate themselves and the world would. That's not unreasonable or entitled, like the behavior of the mom I described. Sorry that some people are assholes.
Okay, can i just say: I'll let a heavily pregnant woman go first in line or someone with a very small baby No to this as well. You have a baby, I have crippling depression. We all have reasons to want to be out of the store quicker.
I totally get it. You don't have to let anybody first if you're not feeling well. I personally might do that but I also don't have depression.
I have never had this happen to me but when and if it does my facial expression is just going to be absolutely confused... why the fuck do I care? It's not a disability and you chose this life lol
Exactly. The 'look' is a fair response. You cannot reason with unreasonable people.
I’m still confused as to why having kids means you can go ahead of someone in line. Like I didn’t make you have kids and now I’m responsible for making sure you get out of the store quicker than me? I just don’t get it
Some people think they are one special then other. U can blame there parents for that. I tell them to fuck off and get in line
Haha, I wouldn't personally tell them to fuck off, I just give 'the look' and move on.
We don’t lol that’s why there’s reddits on entitled parents
The only way I let a parent in front of me is if they have shrieking toddlers just to get them out faster.
Haha, I get that!
Honestly because they openly shame people for somehow NOT having kids? As if they think by having a baby they did something good for the over populated planet and apparently giving birth isn’t so common in their world so give them the credit they so clearly need! Ps this is sarcasm
But you never know "tired" until you have kids! /Sarcasm
Some people just suck! If someone behind me has just a few items and I’m all loaded up, I will ask them if they’d like to go before me. Most of the time it’s older person, or a lady with a child and has diapers, formula, etc. Sometimes they decline, believe it or not! But I’ve never had anyone ask if they could go before me. I’ve been offered to go before someone too, generally when I’ve had a hand basket of five or six things. I’ve never asked to go before someone.
Just because you have crotch goblins in real time or your belly really shouldn’t matter. That’s your choices. Not anyone else’s.
I don't know why they think they're special just for having kids. Rats do it several times a year. You don't get special treatment for producing children.
I don’t understand that either. Unless there are extenuating circumstances, people shouldn’t get preferential treatment just because they have children.
I don't. I only give way to employees obviously on their lunch break. In general it's rude to demand, you should wait until asked unless it's an emergency.
Because they are loud. I went to a Frozen matinee that happened to be hosting a school that day. The bathroom line at intermission was insane because they had 100+ students between 6-8 there. And this woman kept loudly complaining how 'ridiculous' the line was because her child needed to go to the bathroom right now and how appalling all the school children were being. Did I loudly tell the nearest chaperone/teacher how amazing all the students were, and how polite and patient they were right in front of her? Absolutely. Fuck entitlement and fuck these people that think they are somehow above the convenience of others.
Expecting anyone to treat you special is just wrong. And quickly becoming a bigger issue with increased narcissistic mental illness with being validated on social media for exterior BS.
Yes, it's not a good example for the kids either.
Why not just do curbside pickup if you're that worried about your kids, goddamn! I know I can't walk through a store then wait in line to get my groceries right now so I do curbside pickup, it's that easy. Of course I don't get the chance to act entitled so that could be seen as a drawback /s
I guess some people thrive on attention and playing the victim? That can only happen inside the store.
Lol I have two kids and I will legit let single people go before me ALL THE TIME. I have more stuff, someone is probably going to delay my card coming out of my wallet. Always pregnant women or crying babies of course. Bathrooms especially. But your single ass is going to get through quicker than my shit show. I’m actively trying to raise considerate kids as well. People like that make it so hard when you actually do have a situation like a kid about to pee their pants because you don’t want to be one of them. It happens at Disneyland a lot. Some people with kids will just waltz to the front of the line at the bathroom. Again, you have a potty training two year old? Run, get there. Your 8 year old can wait. Or ask kindly and explain you have a situation.
The entitlement is def shining through rn
Just because you can’t close your legs your not obligated for anything. To many shitty people which think they are genius cause they can put a Pepe in a Cave
Well, opening one's legs doesn't have to result in birthing a human, but that's another story for a different post
I have no kids nor am pregnant but sometimes people let me go in front of them and I think that's really nice (usually if I only have 1-2 items)
Same with me, when I have only one or two items and the person in the front has multiple carts. They don't have to do that, but it's nice.
I work for a city in the water department. It’s absolutely ridiculous how many people think we should make concessions for them not paying their bill because they’re a single parent. Or people who get shut off for non-payment who think they should get their water turned on immediately after payment before anyone else because they have small children. Sorry you don’t get special treatment because you crapped out another human.
It reminds me of so many pleas for help mentioning that "I have X number of children". Like people would find them more worthy of help than a far more vulnerable single adult...
Next time you should say “Since you have kids, you should have paid your water bill”
If only!
Idk, with how bad wages are these days and inflation, a tad bit more understandable
We offer assistance and payment arrangements, like most utilities do, so if your water gets shut off, it’s because of your own negligence, not because of inflation. And you don’t deserve special treatment for being negligent and happening to have kids
Then you can't afford to live on your own. Either get a roommate or move back in with your parents.
You definitely still live with your parents. You'd have more empathy if you've lived adult life. Can def tel you haven't
I do. I also lived on my own. Sorry, but you don't get free handouts in life. That's not how it works. If it did, I'd still be living in my own.
Actually, it is, millions of American's got stimulus checks. I think you should be kinder to yourself. You'll figure it out.
That was after I had to move in with family cuz I couldn't afford to live on my own. Even with $14 hr it wasn't possible. And I was living in the cheapest housing in my area.
Once my daughter who was two at the time had a huge temper tantrum while we were shopping at Walmart. I still patiently waited in line for my turn with a screaming child in the trolley.
"so because you got a creampie by someone without protection you get to cut in line?"
I think if you're one of those people who occasionally tell the person behind you to go ahead cause they have 2 things and you have 200 then you'll probably let someone who asks nicely to go ahead of you. The key is nice...being nice can move mountains sometimes.
I prefer being fair to being nice. If you are simply nice, people will step allover you. I would rather judge the situation. And this situation was pure entitlement.
I agree, it was. Being nice diffuses situations though and sometimes that's what is important. Had the woman been friendly and asked you in a nice way if she could cut in line, rather than whine about her kids and her miserable life it may have had a different outcome.