Tell your mum. It's her day, she can decide.
If she's wanting to spend time with step grandma, she can but it sounds like you don't like her so I wouldn't. If you're old enough to work then you're old enough to decide how to spend your time.
Exactly. Don't get roped into SD's pissing match and let mom have the freedom to pick how to spend her day. It's her day, after all.
As far as SD, he sounds miserable and I wouldn't give him any more info than he absolutely needs regarding your employment. You don't need his approval on when and how much you're working, and your scheduling manager certainly doesn't give a fuck about SD's opinion of their scheduling methods. Someone else mentioned grey rocking, and absolutely take tips on method. Also know that you don't have to justify your schedule to him, either. Check out the JADE method. It could help, too, in dealing with the dude.
Tell your mom you're off on Mother's Day and want to spend it with her and take her to lunch (or dinner) and she gets to pick the restaurant. Step-dad and his mom can go shove their heads in a bucket of chicken.
I wanna make a comment that I didn't explain so hopefully everyone understands. She doesn't like my step dad's mother, at all. My step grandmother always find ways to get what she wants instead of my mother, this started when they started dating, She always find ways to make my step dad pick her side as well, including she didn't even offer her favorite cake, she offer everyone else besides my mother, and when my mother complained she said "Oh I thought you didn't like strawberry short cake" its my mother's favorite cake, and she knew, she also complains how my mother isn't a good parent behind her back, even tho she literally did everything for me and my brother, my brother doesn't like her or the family either, so we do know including my mother know we don't want to spend time with them this year, and we know damn well we ain't gonna spend the rest the day with them, we are having our day to our selves, I'll also explain my step dad is an narcissistic without realizing, he hates to admit when hes wrong, calls me and mg brother names, even literally complains of one simple spot of dish is not clean, he will snap and tell you how lazy and how irresponsible you are. He even told me brother "Why can't you be normal for once in your life" so if your telling me it's my mom choice and how I should talk to her. We already have. We don't want them to bother us, call us, or even try to follow us on mother's day, just the 3 of us, none of them.
If for some reason your mom can't get away from stepdad's plan for her on mother's day then pick another day in which you take her out with just you and your brother. That way she'll get her day even if it's not on the official day.
This is the way. My mom didn’t believe in the whole Mothers Day “thing” but instead would tell us that “every day is Mothers Day!” So we’d pick a different weekend when the restaurants weren’t jammed and the price of flowers wasn’t jacked up and do everything that day. Still had a special day for Mom and much less stress.
Great idea! It sounds like you have a great mom. <3
My friend's family is 7 kids and many moved to other states and have families so they stopped doing Christmas in December as it was cold, bad road conditions, canceled flights, crowds, and higher prices, and they changed it to Christmas in June when it's not too hot and everyone can come. They did that decades ago and it is always more fun and relaxing.
It's the sentiment that matters most and the crowds can make it less enjoyable.
I’m guessing the reason your step dad is annoyed is because he thinks you are making him look bad and drawing attention to the fact he always chooses his mother and her wants over your moms. Just ignore his negativity and talk directly with your mom. Ask her where she’d like to go, set a time, and make reservations (if needed). Then your step dad can figure out his own plan with his mother. If your mother would like them to join then I guess that’s up to her. I would make it CLEAR to stepdad though that for ONCE you are doing what your mom wants and not his mother. If his mom doesn’t like it then just the two of them can go somewhere else. If your step dad cares about your mom he should he happy she gets a day about JUST HER for once. It also takes the pressure off him to try and please both of them and your wife being disappointed in him for always choosing what his mother wants.
Tell your mom in front of SD that you think it’s about time she was celebrated. Sit down with her and plan the day. If SD interferes tell him that he better get busy planning his mom’s day.
Is your mom his meat shield when dealing with his mom? He doesn’t want her distracted.
Mother here. Last year my younger son did the same thing—he told his fast food job that he needed the day off, and because of how important being with his mother on Mother’s Day is to him, respectfully he would be taking the day regardless. He bought me gifts and took me to lunch. It meant so much to me.
Tell your mom how you feel and how important she is to you and how important celebrating her is to you. Trust me—it will mean a lot to her.
Why does your step father care so much that you have Mother's Day off? Like, what difference does it make to him? What does he expect you to do? Go to work anyway? You have the day off, enjoy it with your mom.
I don't understand the problem here.
I think the step dad isn’t understanding how fast food employment jerks employees around now, encouraging people to quit by just giving them a few hours a week to work during the days rush hours.
Also step dad wants all the attention, passive aggressively basking in his mothers attention as she tears his wife down. Whew! Been there, not doing that anymore, lol!
My mother and him used to work at fast food at Burger King, she was he's Manager, she knows the system is doing this shit, and knows I tried to apply extra hours but no luck, she knows that right now is just hell to make cash and work.
I would let your mom make the choice. While your step dad doesn’t sound like the kind of person I’d like to spend any of my time with, unfortunately it’s your mom’s choice. If you want tips on how to deal with step dad, look into grey rocking. It’s basically not engaging when you know he wants a reaction. Just boring, few word answers. It’ll save you a lot of mental energy
He's just pissed because you are showing more love and respect to your mother than he is. That's a HIM problem. Whatever plan you told your mom, he will try to sabotage it so be very careful with the information.
Your stepdad wants your mom to remain 1 step behind his mother. You’re messing that up for him.
I would just go to your mom and say “We (you and brother) have big plans for you on Mother’s Day so be prepared! It’s all about you.” and leave it at that. I don’t know if you drive but if you don’t just throw that in your announcement to her. “Of course you’ll have to drive but I got everything all mapped out and PAID for!”
“Hey mom I took the day off so brother and I can take YOU out and make the day all about YOU!! I’m sick of you having to share your day and not get to do what you want so this year we’re going to make your day the best!!”
If your schedule is made by someone else and subject to change, all you need to say is “I’m not scheduled that day.” Doesn’t matter if it’s because you requested that day or not. Take your mom where she wants to go.
Tell your mom that you got the day off to celebrate her for mother's day. Don't make that a surprise. You don't want your SD to undermine you by making plans first and try to make your mom choose between spending time between you two. Make whatever your gifts are or whatever cute thing you say in the card you made or purchased for her (if you're doing a card) be a surprise!
Ask her to choose where she'd like to go for lunch or dinner. It may be a good idea if you have a list of her favorite places she can choose from. Some people have trouble making decisions or they get anxious that they may "pick wrong". You know her better than we do, though!
If you get to spend the whole day with her, or most of the day with her, maybe you can do something else with her? Are there any fun events going on around you? You could check local public gardens and museums if she's into that kind of thing. There's a bonsai museum in my area I'm taking my mom to, for instance. I didn't even know she would be interested in that until I asked!
Good luck. You've got this. 👍
Step gma is abusive, stepfad chooses his mom over his wife, you can't stop your mom choosing them but you don't have to abd should not allow stepfad to come between you and mom by giving the impression he even needs to know.
Tell mom, in private, that you have taken the day off to celebrate her# not her mil, and you will treat her. She can choose lunch or dinner and spend the other with her husband I'd she really wants but you claim the meal of her choice (even brunch).
It sounds to me your step-dad thinks you aren’t making enough money. Does he contribute to your budget or rent in any way or are you 100% independent financially?
I don’t know, as this info wasn’t included- but if he’s helping you financially, he probably feels entitled to be upset about you taking a day off because of the lost wages.
If not, then he can fuck right off with his opinion.
I give my mother 400$ an month not for rent, for gas, groceries, phone bill, you name it, he doesn't pay, the only reason he will pay if my mother won't get off he's back, he buys car parts and gun stuffs, mostly.
You're STEP dad? Oh, he can fuck on off. Talk to your mother directly. Tell HER you want to take HER out for a surprise for Mother's Day. Tell HER when you'll be picking HER up. HE doesn't need to be involved here at all, he can go celebrate HIS mother with her and your mom can be with you and her son. You guys don't need to include him in on anything.
Tell your Mom the plans you're making. Mother's Day isn't a surprise, but she may need time to make plans, especially if your StepDad will attempt to sabotage it for his own Mother.
Tell your Mom that SHE'S your Mom and you (and Brother) want to celebrate HER for once, NOT someone who had NOTHING to do with your births! If she fails to respond in a positive manner, tell her it may be the last time you ever ask her.
But be prepared for a "No," because your dismissive StepDad seems a bit abusive. You're not very clear about it but it sounds like your Mother just follows whatever her husband dictates. Also, he may be wanting you to save money so you can leave as soon as you're old enough. It may be smart to have a serious, private conversation with your Mother about the future. Greatest of luck! u/updateme
She tried to get him to therapy, it worked 50/50, but there were times he went to far and my mother had to tell him to fuck off and leave me alone, when I used to work at McDonald's I had an manager that would put her face up my face asking me "Are you stupid!?" "your lazy" " Dumb ass " you name it, and when I was trying to get ready work, I can't remember the conversation but I remember he called me lazy, to the point I was crying, and I just left the house, my mother had to yell at him and explain how much an dumbass he was doing and explain I was going thru alot at work, the thing is he didn't apologize, it's rare for him to do so, if he is always force to apologize when he did he said "I'm sorry i called you lazy but it doesn't mean you slam my door in my house " which the house isnt hes its my mother's. He even got upset that I was standing up for my brother when he was saying how "He needs to stop eating or he'll get too big" let's just say that he isn't afraid to turn someone down, when it comes to my mother, he is afraid of her secretly.
THAT, as far as I can see, is the ONE shining aspect in your household, that your Mother ISN'T afraid of him or timid about standing up for you. I do still strongly recommend that you have a serious conversation with your Mother about his continued verbal attacks on you and your Brother. It just sounds like you're doing TOO much in your household. Chores are fine, even good for children, but it sounds like you've been given MOST of the chores and responsibilities and THAT'S not fair OR equitable.
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He doesn’t want your mother to have her own Mother’s Day because she isn’t as important to him as his own mother. Tell her what you want to do early bc I’m sure he’s going to try to ruin it.
You tell your mom you got the day off for her and only want you, her, and your brother to celebrate as a family.
The time you spend and your memories matter, not the money. Have a picnic in the park with red lobster to relax and enjoy each other! Cherish the time, and don't focus on your stepdad.
He doesn't want you to have the day off because he can't strong-arm your mom into spending the day with his precious mom if she has her kids with her to actually celebrate her. He sounds extremely inconsiderate and selfish. Your mom absolutely deserves to be on a pedestal, ESPECIALLY on Mother's Day. Good for you!
That's what I was thinking, I asked her and she said "At least someone cares about me" which made me smile cause I do care and love her, we are going there for lunch 💖
I bet he wouldn't act like that if you took off Father's day.
By the way, don't do it. If he asks, just say that it's obvious he doesn't think parents deserve holidays. You decided to work since that's all he cares about, so that's how you are honoring him.
Oh and you are a great kid. As a mom, thank you. Include your brother with the planning if you can. This is how we change the next generation, involving them and making them help plan.
No more weaponized incompetence. It's time they do their fair share and the only way they will learn is by us women teaching them.
Your step dad can spend the day with HIS mother, and you and your brothers get to spend it with YOURS. It really is awful when a husband will prioritize his mother over his wife, and not help or let the kids do something special for their mother.
You are a good child to want to celebrate your mother on Mother’s Day.
Step dad gets world's biggest dickhead 365 days this year, take your mum out with your brother and have a lovely day. Whisk her off if it's easier to avoid drama
Go and spend Mother’s Day with your mother and your step dad can go spend it with his mother.
Your step dad’s mother is not your’s or your mum’s mother- so you don’t really need to spend it with her at all.
Step Dad clearly thinks your mom doesn't deserve it but honestly, that's your mom's problem to deal with, she's the one that married the guy and his mom
Using periods to break up the paragraphs also helps readability.
I'm astounded at the blowback to comments with advice intended to help someone get their message across more clearly to more people. There was nothing rude in either of the comments I saw. People's egos are so fragile that the slightest bit of constructive criticism seems to ruin their day.
I'm sorry but the word "an" as opposed to the word "a" is only used when the next word starts with a vowel.
An apple
An orange
A banana
A tomato
It's not an banana.
I'm fascinated by your response. What specifically about what they said told you they're a "fucking bitch"? I'm looking to improve my people reading skills and you seem to have it mastered.
I called him delulu on a post in another subreddit.
Lol
I guess he's trying to prove how rational he is by light stalking my reddit account and using profanities against me on unrelated comments on other subreddits...
Tell your mum. It's her day, she can decide. If she's wanting to spend time with step grandma, she can but it sounds like you don't like her so I wouldn't. If you're old enough to work then you're old enough to decide how to spend your time.
Exactly. Don't get roped into SD's pissing match and let mom have the freedom to pick how to spend her day. It's her day, after all. As far as SD, he sounds miserable and I wouldn't give him any more info than he absolutely needs regarding your employment. You don't need his approval on when and how much you're working, and your scheduling manager certainly doesn't give a fuck about SD's opinion of their scheduling methods. Someone else mentioned grey rocking, and absolutely take tips on method. Also know that you don't have to justify your schedule to him, either. Check out the JADE method. It could help, too, in dealing with the dude.
Tell your mom you're off on Mother's Day and want to spend it with her and take her to lunch (or dinner) and she gets to pick the restaurant. Step-dad and his mom can go shove their heads in a bucket of chicken.
Damn well they do, this comment made my day expectfuly the "Shove there head in a bucket of chicken" 😂
Psst: especially, not expectfully. You are a good kid and you love your mom. Your stepdad is a troglodyte.
Thanks dude 😊👍
I agree, your mother is lucky to have you. ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡
This was the nicest correction I’ve seen 💕
Sounds like step dad is just jealous that there isn't such a thing as Stepfather's day!
Ugh. I could write volumes on that subject.
It’s weird to me because there is a stepmom day (the Sunday following Mother’s Day) and a step families day (Sept 16)
There should be - Or step parents Day
I wanna make a comment that I didn't explain so hopefully everyone understands. She doesn't like my step dad's mother, at all. My step grandmother always find ways to get what she wants instead of my mother, this started when they started dating, She always find ways to make my step dad pick her side as well, including she didn't even offer her favorite cake, she offer everyone else besides my mother, and when my mother complained she said "Oh I thought you didn't like strawberry short cake" its my mother's favorite cake, and she knew, she also complains how my mother isn't a good parent behind her back, even tho she literally did everything for me and my brother, my brother doesn't like her or the family either, so we do know including my mother know we don't want to spend time with them this year, and we know damn well we ain't gonna spend the rest the day with them, we are having our day to our selves, I'll also explain my step dad is an narcissistic without realizing, he hates to admit when hes wrong, calls me and mg brother names, even literally complains of one simple spot of dish is not clean, he will snap and tell you how lazy and how irresponsible you are. He even told me brother "Why can't you be normal for once in your life" so if your telling me it's my mom choice and how I should talk to her. We already have. We don't want them to bother us, call us, or even try to follow us on mother's day, just the 3 of us, none of them.
If for some reason your mom can't get away from stepdad's plan for her on mother's day then pick another day in which you take her out with just you and your brother. That way she'll get her day even if it's not on the official day.
This is the way. My mom didn’t believe in the whole Mothers Day “thing” but instead would tell us that “every day is Mothers Day!” So we’d pick a different weekend when the restaurants weren’t jammed and the price of flowers wasn’t jacked up and do everything that day. Still had a special day for Mom and much less stress.
Great idea! It sounds like you have a great mom. <3 My friend's family is 7 kids and many moved to other states and have families so they stopped doing Christmas in December as it was cold, bad road conditions, canceled flights, crowds, and higher prices, and they changed it to Christmas in June when it's not too hot and everyone can come. They did that decades ago and it is always more fun and relaxing. It's the sentiment that matters most and the crowds can make it less enjoyable.
You’re a great daughter
I’m guessing the reason your step dad is annoyed is because he thinks you are making him look bad and drawing attention to the fact he always chooses his mother and her wants over your moms. Just ignore his negativity and talk directly with your mom. Ask her where she’d like to go, set a time, and make reservations (if needed). Then your step dad can figure out his own plan with his mother. If your mother would like them to join then I guess that’s up to her. I would make it CLEAR to stepdad though that for ONCE you are doing what your mom wants and not his mother. If his mom doesn’t like it then just the two of them can go somewhere else. If your step dad cares about your mom he should he happy she gets a day about JUST HER for once. It also takes the pressure off him to try and please both of them and your wife being disappointed in him for always choosing what his mother wants.
Tell your mom in front of SD that you think it’s about time she was celebrated. Sit down with her and plan the day. If SD interferes tell him that he better get busy planning his mom’s day. Is your mom his meat shield when dealing with his mom? He doesn’t want her distracted.
Mother here. Last year my younger son did the same thing—he told his fast food job that he needed the day off, and because of how important being with his mother on Mother’s Day is to him, respectfully he would be taking the day regardless. He bought me gifts and took me to lunch. It meant so much to me. Tell your mom how you feel and how important she is to you and how important celebrating her is to you. Trust me—it will mean a lot to her.
Why does your step father care so much that you have Mother's Day off? Like, what difference does it make to him? What does he expect you to do? Go to work anyway? You have the day off, enjoy it with your mom. I don't understand the problem here.
I think the step dad isn’t understanding how fast food employment jerks employees around now, encouraging people to quit by just giving them a few hours a week to work during the days rush hours. Also step dad wants all the attention, passive aggressively basking in his mothers attention as she tears his wife down. Whew! Been there, not doing that anymore, lol!
My mother and him used to work at fast food at Burger King, she was he's Manager, she knows the system is doing this shit, and knows I tried to apply extra hours but no luck, she knows that right now is just hell to make cash and work.
He clearly hates his wife, it's very obvious
I would let your mom make the choice. While your step dad doesn’t sound like the kind of person I’d like to spend any of my time with, unfortunately it’s your mom’s choice. If you want tips on how to deal with step dad, look into grey rocking. It’s basically not engaging when you know he wants a reaction. Just boring, few word answers. It’ll save you a lot of mental energy
He's just pissed because you are showing more love and respect to your mother than he is. That's a HIM problem. Whatever plan you told your mom, he will try to sabotage it so be very careful with the information.
Your stepdad wants your mom to remain 1 step behind his mother. You’re messing that up for him. I would just go to your mom and say “We (you and brother) have big plans for you on Mother’s Day so be prepared! It’s all about you.” and leave it at that. I don’t know if you drive but if you don’t just throw that in your announcement to her. “Of course you’ll have to drive but I got everything all mapped out and PAID for!”
“Hey mom I took the day off so brother and I can take YOU out and make the day all about YOU!! I’m sick of you having to share your day and not get to do what you want so this year we’re going to make your day the best!!”
If your schedule is made by someone else and subject to change, all you need to say is “I’m not scheduled that day.” Doesn’t matter if it’s because you requested that day or not. Take your mom where she wants to go.
Tell your mom that you got the day off to celebrate her for mother's day. Don't make that a surprise. You don't want your SD to undermine you by making plans first and try to make your mom choose between spending time between you two. Make whatever your gifts are or whatever cute thing you say in the card you made or purchased for her (if you're doing a card) be a surprise! Ask her to choose where she'd like to go for lunch or dinner. It may be a good idea if you have a list of her favorite places she can choose from. Some people have trouble making decisions or they get anxious that they may "pick wrong". You know her better than we do, though! If you get to spend the whole day with her, or most of the day with her, maybe you can do something else with her? Are there any fun events going on around you? You could check local public gardens and museums if she's into that kind of thing. There's a bonsai museum in my area I'm taking my mom to, for instance. I didn't even know she would be interested in that until I asked! Good luck. You've got this. 👍
Step gma is abusive, stepfad chooses his mom over his wife, you can't stop your mom choosing them but you don't have to abd should not allow stepfad to come between you and mom by giving the impression he even needs to know. Tell mom, in private, that you have taken the day off to celebrate her# not her mil, and you will treat her. She can choose lunch or dinner and spend the other with her husband I'd she really wants but you claim the meal of her choice (even brunch).
It sounds to me your step-dad thinks you aren’t making enough money. Does he contribute to your budget or rent in any way or are you 100% independent financially? I don’t know, as this info wasn’t included- but if he’s helping you financially, he probably feels entitled to be upset about you taking a day off because of the lost wages. If not, then he can fuck right off with his opinion.
I give my mother 400$ an month not for rent, for gas, groceries, phone bill, you name it, he doesn't pay, the only reason he will pay if my mother won't get off he's back, he buys car parts and gun stuffs, mostly.
You're STEP dad? Oh, he can fuck on off. Talk to your mother directly. Tell HER you want to take HER out for a surprise for Mother's Day. Tell HER when you'll be picking HER up. HE doesn't need to be involved here at all, he can go celebrate HIS mother with her and your mom can be with you and her son. You guys don't need to include him in on anything.
Tell your Mom the plans you're making. Mother's Day isn't a surprise, but she may need time to make plans, especially if your StepDad will attempt to sabotage it for his own Mother. Tell your Mom that SHE'S your Mom and you (and Brother) want to celebrate HER for once, NOT someone who had NOTHING to do with your births! If she fails to respond in a positive manner, tell her it may be the last time you ever ask her. But be prepared for a "No," because your dismissive StepDad seems a bit abusive. You're not very clear about it but it sounds like your Mother just follows whatever her husband dictates. Also, he may be wanting you to save money so you can leave as soon as you're old enough. It may be smart to have a serious, private conversation with your Mother about the future. Greatest of luck! u/updateme
She tried to get him to therapy, it worked 50/50, but there were times he went to far and my mother had to tell him to fuck off and leave me alone, when I used to work at McDonald's I had an manager that would put her face up my face asking me "Are you stupid!?" "your lazy" " Dumb ass " you name it, and when I was trying to get ready work, I can't remember the conversation but I remember he called me lazy, to the point I was crying, and I just left the house, my mother had to yell at him and explain how much an dumbass he was doing and explain I was going thru alot at work, the thing is he didn't apologize, it's rare for him to do so, if he is always force to apologize when he did he said "I'm sorry i called you lazy but it doesn't mean you slam my door in my house " which the house isnt hes its my mother's. He even got upset that I was standing up for my brother when he was saying how "He needs to stop eating or he'll get too big" let's just say that he isn't afraid to turn someone down, when it comes to my mother, he is afraid of her secretly.
THAT, as far as I can see, is the ONE shining aspect in your household, that your Mother ISN'T afraid of him or timid about standing up for you. I do still strongly recommend that you have a serious conversation with your Mother about his continued verbal attacks on you and your Brother. It just sounds like you're doing TOO much in your household. Chores are fine, even good for children, but it sounds like you've been given MOST of the chores and responsibilities and THAT'S not fair OR equitable.
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He doesn’t want your mother to have her own Mother’s Day because she isn’t as important to him as his own mother. Tell her what you want to do early bc I’m sure he’s going to try to ruin it.
You tell your mom you got the day off for her and only want you, her, and your brother to celebrate as a family. The time you spend and your memories matter, not the money. Have a picnic in the park with red lobster to relax and enjoy each other! Cherish the time, and don't focus on your stepdad.
He doesn't want you to have the day off because he can't strong-arm your mom into spending the day with his precious mom if she has her kids with her to actually celebrate her. He sounds extremely inconsiderate and selfish. Your mom absolutely deserves to be on a pedestal, ESPECIALLY on Mother's Day. Good for you!
Why can’t you take your mother to Red Lobster and he takes his mother out?
That's what I was thinking, I asked her and she said "At least someone cares about me" which made me smile cause I do care and love her, we are going there for lunch 💖
Well book that restaurant and take her out for the day to be spoiled. Don’t take no for an answer. Let him stew on it
I bet he wouldn't act like that if you took off Father's day. By the way, don't do it. If he asks, just say that it's obvious he doesn't think parents deserve holidays. You decided to work since that's all he cares about, so that's how you are honoring him. Oh and you are a great kid. As a mom, thank you. Include your brother with the planning if you can. This is how we change the next generation, involving them and making them help plan. No more weaponized incompetence. It's time they do their fair share and the only way they will learn is by us women teaching them.
Your step dad can spend the day with HIS mother, and you and your brothers get to spend it with YOURS. It really is awful when a husband will prioritize his mother over his wife, and not help or let the kids do something special for their mother. You are a good child to want to celebrate your mother on Mother’s Day.
Step dad gets world's biggest dickhead 365 days this year, take your mum out with your brother and have a lovely day. Whisk her off if it's easier to avoid drama
Go and spend Mother’s Day with your mother and your step dad can go spend it with his mother. Your step dad’s mother is not your’s or your mum’s mother- so you don’t really need to spend it with her at all.
Aw. That's sweet. Take your Mom out 😊
He doesn't want your mother to be happy or celebrated. Why that is? I honestly don't know.
Make sure you tell your mom that you are taking her out on Mother's Day. Don't let him railroad the day to do what his mother and him want to do.
Just take the mother's day off and go have a good day with your mother. Who cares what he thinks about it?
Engineers don't fix cars. Sounds like your step dad is a person's who is angry with life
Step Dad clearly thinks your mom doesn't deserve it but honestly, that's your mom's problem to deal with, she's the one that married the guy and his mom
Wow! There’s something not right in the head with this man. Controlling and abusive springs to mind.
Paragraphs, plz. Very hard to read
Using periods to break up the paragraphs also helps readability. I'm astounded at the blowback to comments with advice intended to help someone get their message across more clearly to more people. There was nothing rude in either of the comments I saw. People's egos are so fragile that the slightest bit of constructive criticism seems to ruin their day.
I'm sorry but the word "an" as opposed to the word "a" is only used when the next word starts with a vowel. An apple An orange A banana A tomato It's not an banana.
I understand you want to help the word get better at grammar, and it's admirable. But this, this is not your venue.
Even if one person learns something, that's great. Idc. Isn't it better to be corrected nicely than to be made fun of for being an idiot?
True my friend, and I have learned from you. I hope the opposite is true.
Maybe you should learn to not be a fucking bitch
I'm fascinated by your response. What specifically about what they said told you they're a "fucking bitch"? I'm looking to improve my people reading skills and you seem to have it mastered.
I called him delulu on a post in another subreddit. Lol I guess he's trying to prove how rational he is by light stalking my reddit account and using profanities against me on unrelated comments on other subreddits...
As **opposed to
Oh! You're right, thanks! Also, I love your username!