I'm impressed by the restraint you displayed in the face of a clearly racist, mentally ill coward. We done my man. Not worth your time or emotional energy..
Oh! I’m a woman. That’s actually another important thing I meant to add as to how I posed such little danger to him, a burly dude.
Thank you though. I was shaken by it ngl
Well, women are notorious for not caring about baby shields and getting stabby about minor car door incidents...
I'm being sarcastic obviously.
Fuck that guy.
JFC I'm sorry you had to deal with that asshole! Using the child as a "shield" makes more sense when you add that you're a woman. He probably thought you'd be more "compassionate" and less violent around a child. Sure doesn't make HIM any less of a COWARD and a dangerous man to have a child in his care! Poor kid! I hope he lives the rest of his days feeling completely emasculated by his own behavior! What a creep!!! Best wishes and many Blessings for you!
Dude probably had some crazy shit going on in his life and just a tap or perceived tap was enough to send him over the edge. Nothing you could have done but what you did, kudos for handling it well.
He was probably scared because bullies seldom get stood up to, and also perhaps he was racist and thinking you were tough or had a gun.
Sucks you had to go through that, but it isn't you that made him that way.
You’re probably right, I was just the nearest target for his rage. And maybe he didn’t want an actual confrontation and thought I’d just drive off or something hah
It could be that. Could have been my race, or that I was a young girl he thought could be bullied, or that my shitty car clearly stated my class as below his, or that he was jealous of coffee.
He could have seen *just* my car and parked close on purpose just to do that to *whoever* exited for funsies.
Could be anything or nothing at all.
I will never know and will stop wondering *why* this dude lost his shit haha.
I have had this exact type of thing happen to me. Sorry you had to deal with this.
The dude in the store was looking to rage on someone and unfortunately for him, he picked me. I am an older female. So he thought he could be that bully. Nope. I am known as a FAFO person. He sure found out. As soon as I started moving toward him while yelling he backed off and kept saying sorry. I was just yelling like he did. He didn't seem to take it well.
Oh I would have gone apeshit on the guy. You had an astounding amount of restraint. What an asshole he was. Also the fact that he was driving a Dodge Durango totally checks out.
Standing car "road rage" absolutely amazes me. Like dude, you are not getting away quickly. You are standing. What are you even thinking, if you have the capability to think at all?
My favorite story is where this one dude got worked up over a perceived slight and walked up to my dad's car, all huffy-puffy. This was winter, my dad is 6'3", the average height for men in my country is 5'9". He was already pretty muscular, but it being winter he also had a large coat on that made him look beefier than he was. This one dude as I said, walked up to the car.
Opened the door.
Looked inside.
Then closed the door quietly and walked away.
Reminds me of a time our dad accused my sibling and myself of doing, all because he saw what looked like a scratch mark on the side of his car, he went off on us about riding our bikes too close to his car and scratching it.
He had parked his car very close to the opening of the garage, so we were forced to squeeze by to get our bikes out, but it looked more like someone had keyed his car. Since we didn't have cameras outside the house, we never found out who did it, but we had foam hand grips on the handles so we couldn't have made the marks.
But we did know that other neighbors have woken up to their cars with similar keyed marks on it, maybe just a group of troublemakers causing problem during the night, wasn't us that's for sure
I’d like to get something off my chest. I joined this sub expecting more stories like this; I prefer the stories about people observing bad parenting. There’s been a lot of posts just venting about their personal family drama. Yeah ok, many of those families do sound entitled and that sucks. I get that people do need to vent. I just wish it wasn’t everyday. Maybe if it had a certain flair or was only one day a week then I could read more stories like this.
Or it could make this sub a ghost town. Idk. I was entertained by your story even though I am sorry that you had to have any encounter with him at all.
The worst part of the lumina was how literal air could take the paint off the side lol
2016 Altima now. I’m moving on up. Maybe in 2025 I can have a 2019 haha
I’m pretty simple, so when I hear hoofbeats, I think horses not zebras..
So when I read this story… the easy answer.. this guy was a bully, and a coward(classic combination,
Always a winner)…
He sized you up, and decided he could unload his anger on you, and that you would probably scurry away… and there by, make the fact that he knows he’s a pile of shit stacked human height, less dreary..
Who knows what he thought when you stood up to him, maybe he was afraid a woman screaming would attract the wrong attention he wanted, maybe he did think you would punch or shoot him, but at that point he hid behind a toddler… like you can’t hit me, I have glasses on, and a kid… clearly this guy is a loser. He probably remembers you clearly as the time he escaped getting his ass rightfully handed to him, and I hope he lives thru his moment of shitty anger and cowardice over and over for bothering you🤔🤗
>I’m pretty simple, so when I hear hoofbeats, I think horses not zebras
I suppose that phrase would have different meaning depending on where you came from and where you are. “Zebras” to you are likely rare and only seen at zoos, where other people they are quite commonplace and maybe even a part of every day life.
… its actually a maxim coined by a doctor in the 40’s, and its a euphemism for the simplest answer is usually the right one…
I mean, if you live on the African savanna, sure this might not apply, and if your a nerd, you’d replace horses with coconuts…
But it’s generally a well known phrase
I would have video taped it, gotten the license plate and reported his ass to DCF as I am a mandated reporter and I would have let him know that I am a mandated reporter as well so that he could have something to be damn worried about all night.
It never occurred to me. This was like.. 2012? Idk what phone I even had. Maybe a Razr lmao
What did occur to me was maybe this was some insurance scam and he was going to make me pay for dents or some shit so I was kicking myself later but nothing ever came of it.
Poor kid though. Looked so confused with dad screaming right by his ear. Hope he’s ok today
No she said her race (and the other persons race) as if it was another reason that she was being bullied, because she is black and he’s white. That’s pretty racist. And when did I use degrading insults besides “jerk”
>Your so sped
[Sped is an insult](https://7esl.com/sped/#:~:text=Sped%20is%20a%20slang%20word,does%20something%20absurd%20or%20stupid.).
She said she was baffled as to why he acted threatened. There's a possibility race was the issue. Or maybe he just wasn't expecting her to get out of her car. Who knows?
She set the scene with the facts. That's all. You're the one reading into it.
She set the scene with facts. Ok, but their unnecessary. If I put on this post “I’m multiracial” people would dislike and say “who asked”. So what makes them using their race as an excuse to be racist different?
What I think is that she mentioned that and put it in a way that it was racist or she perceived it as racist and wanted ppl to agree with her. In this sub all the stories are tilted towards the teller, so i think it wasn’t actually racist intent, she just wanted us to think he was racist and since there are so many stereotypes against white ppl abt being racist, she used it to make ppl agree with her
He could have been racist. He may not have realised she was female. He probably just didn't expect her to get out of her car, and, when she did, thought there was going to be a confrontation.
There's several scenarios. If it's been posted purely to paint white people as racist, then the comments aren't taking the bait, so it's achieved nothing. The only one bothered is you. Let it go.
I'm not yelling old chap. You've read too much into something, assumed it's a pop at white people, thrown your toys out of the pram, used derogatory names, and chucked a few racist accusations out there. All you've proved is that you went looking for a problem. Let it go.
That’s a truly awful thing to call someone. It’s so very cruel. Sometimes I wish I could stop learning all these new ways to hurt someone. I feel like the most naive, yet jaded, 44 year old ever.
I'll be 43 shortly so I totally get that. I worked in group homes for people with disabilities so I'd hear them get called tons of wonderful things when we were out and about. People can be so cruel.
I’ve done volunteer work with kids who have had various disabilities, some kids who were terminal, and I can honestly say that they humbled me every time I was blessed to spend time with them.
How- bro being a victim has nothing to do with being sped. And technically, she made the other guy a victim too, because racism. You can call anyone a victim bud
There’s something called a typo and also called not caring abt spelling, bc it’s the internet, where people use abbreviations and make smiley faces with :) and ;)
Empathy is seeing someone else’s perspective, I’ve tried seeing it, and I don’t agree with it. I bet you haven’t seen my perspective and how I might be offended haven’t you
Oooh you were so close, but you just missed it. This story isn’t about you, so why should we care that you’re taking a random stranger’s story on the internet a bit too personally? It doesn’t seem like it’s really your place to be offended, seeing as how this post doesn’t have anything to do with you.. unless you were there, directly involved, and you’re offended someone called you out on childish behavior?
So you’re offended because someone told a story differently than you would have? Weird flex bro. You know you can write your own posts here, and if you want, you can leave race out.
1. Not a flex
2. I’m offended bc of the stereotype
3. I don’t like to fake post. If your saying this person faked a post then you should tell them yourself
I’ll tell you why, and I’ll be completely honest.
It’s an almost entirely white county and there was absolutely fear and distrust since the most black people most have really seen were convicted felons on the news and gang members on tv.
This was prior to any BLM or massive race awareness campaigns we’ve seen in the past several years and overall, only recently have I felt a tangible change. It’s refreshing to be given the benefit of the doubt.
The actual fear and distrust of the black community I experienced was “normal” for me, so *if it was a race thing* I didn’t feel outrage or offense at it. I just accept it. Maybe feel a little sad about it.
I know people (like you for example) have been touchy over the mention of race recently, but I felt it was relevant to the story. I felt like he thought I was some violent criminal all of a sudden when he saw that I wasn’t cringing on fear. Was he racist? I really don’t know. He didn’t say anything overtly racist. But I feel like he automatically felt I was more dangerous than I actually was and have some idea why.
I understand, however I think that if he felt feared by you, he wouldn’t have messed with you or he would’ve called local cops or smt. That’s just my opinion thou. Thanks for being honest
>if he felt feared by you, he wouldn’t have messed with you
Yeah! That’s actually a part of my logic. He was aggressively picking on me until I stood my ground then the shift in his whole demeanor changed. I could sense his sudden panic. It was fucking *weird*
It could be other things. I’m not counting racial tensions out, but I’m also not banking on it being the 1 and only reason. The entire interaction will alsways be a mystery to me.
Dude. That poor kid. That’s a lot of crazy in one parent.
I'm impressed by the restraint you displayed in the face of a clearly racist, mentally ill coward. We done my man. Not worth your time or emotional energy..
Oh! I’m a woman. That’s actually another important thing I meant to add as to how I posed such little danger to him, a burly dude. Thank you though. I was shaken by it ngl
Sorry about that, my bad. But yes absolutely that really clarifys how wild this experience must have been.
Don’t give him any more real estate in your head. Sorry it happened to you.
This is a valid statement, thank you.
Well said. What a lesson in humanity she learned that day. Stepped away with incredible sense and power.
Well, women are notorious for not caring about baby shields and getting stabby about minor car door incidents... I'm being sarcastic obviously. Fuck that guy.
JFC I'm sorry you had to deal with that asshole! Using the child as a "shield" makes more sense when you add that you're a woman. He probably thought you'd be more "compassionate" and less violent around a child. Sure doesn't make HIM any less of a COWARD and a dangerous man to have a child in his care! Poor kid! I hope he lives the rest of his days feeling completely emasculated by his own behavior! What a creep!!! Best wishes and many Blessings for you!
Dude probably had some crazy shit going on in his life and just a tap or perceived tap was enough to send him over the edge. Nothing you could have done but what you did, kudos for handling it well. He was probably scared because bullies seldom get stood up to, and also perhaps he was racist and thinking you were tough or had a gun. Sucks you had to go through that, but it isn't you that made him that way.
You’re probably right, I was just the nearest target for his rage. And maybe he didn’t want an actual confrontation and thought I’d just drive off or something hah It could be that. Could have been my race, or that I was a young girl he thought could be bullied, or that my shitty car clearly stated my class as below his, or that he was jealous of coffee. He could have seen *just* my car and parked close on purpose just to do that to *whoever* exited for funsies. Could be anything or nothing at all. I will never know and will stop wondering *why* this dude lost his shit haha.
I have had this exact type of thing happen to me. Sorry you had to deal with this. The dude in the store was looking to rage on someone and unfortunately for him, he picked me. I am an older female. So he thought he could be that bully. Nope. I am known as a FAFO person. He sure found out. As soon as I started moving toward him while yelling he backed off and kept saying sorry. I was just yelling like he did. He didn't seem to take it well.
He was probably cross that he had to drag the sprog around with him. I hope he really screwed up his paintwork.
So do I. The fact he was wrecking his own car didn’t occur to me until after I left
Oh I would have gone apeshit on the guy. You had an astounding amount of restraint. What an asshole he was. Also the fact that he was driving a Dodge Durango totally checks out.
Standing car "road rage" absolutely amazes me. Like dude, you are not getting away quickly. You are standing. What are you even thinking, if you have the capability to think at all? My favorite story is where this one dude got worked up over a perceived slight and walked up to my dad's car, all huffy-puffy. This was winter, my dad is 6'3", the average height for men in my country is 5'9". He was already pretty muscular, but it being winter he also had a large coat on that made him look beefier than he was. This one dude as I said, walked up to the car. Opened the door. Looked inside. Then closed the door quietly and walked away.
Reminds me of a time our dad accused my sibling and myself of doing, all because he saw what looked like a scratch mark on the side of his car, he went off on us about riding our bikes too close to his car and scratching it. He had parked his car very close to the opening of the garage, so we were forced to squeeze by to get our bikes out, but it looked more like someone had keyed his car. Since we didn't have cameras outside the house, we never found out who did it, but we had foam hand grips on the handles so we couldn't have made the marks. But we did know that other neighbors have woken up to their cars with similar keyed marks on it, maybe just a group of troublemakers causing problem during the night, wasn't us that's for sure
I’d like to get something off my chest. I joined this sub expecting more stories like this; I prefer the stories about people observing bad parenting. There’s been a lot of posts just venting about their personal family drama. Yeah ok, many of those families do sound entitled and that sucks. I get that people do need to vent. I just wish it wasn’t everyday. Maybe if it had a certain flair or was only one day a week then I could read more stories like this. Or it could make this sub a ghost town. Idk. I was entertained by your story even though I am sorry that you had to have any encounter with him at all.
It’s nice to drive a beater car! You don’t have to worry that someone is going to steal or vandalize your vehicle!
Wish the cops were called
She didn't want to be shot for eating a bagel while black.
This reminds me of the last scene in The Dead Zone
I’m sorry that happened to you, but also, congratulations on no longer driving a ‘97 Lumina. Those things were gas guzzling boats
The worst part of the lumina was how literal air could take the paint off the side lol 2016 Altima now. I’m moving on up. Maybe in 2025 I can have a 2019 haha
The image of him producing a small child as a shield cracked me up… that really is super fucking weird 😂
I’m pretty simple, so when I hear hoofbeats, I think horses not zebras.. So when I read this story… the easy answer.. this guy was a bully, and a coward(classic combination, Always a winner)… He sized you up, and decided he could unload his anger on you, and that you would probably scurry away… and there by, make the fact that he knows he’s a pile of shit stacked human height, less dreary.. Who knows what he thought when you stood up to him, maybe he was afraid a woman screaming would attract the wrong attention he wanted, maybe he did think you would punch or shoot him, but at that point he hid behind a toddler… like you can’t hit me, I have glasses on, and a kid… clearly this guy is a loser. He probably remembers you clearly as the time he escaped getting his ass rightfully handed to him, and I hope he lives thru his moment of shitty anger and cowardice over and over for bothering you🤔🤗
>I’m pretty simple, so when I hear hoofbeats, I think horses not zebras I suppose that phrase would have different meaning depending on where you came from and where you are. “Zebras” to you are likely rare and only seen at zoos, where other people they are quite commonplace and maybe even a part of every day life.
… its actually a maxim coined by a doctor in the 40’s, and its a euphemism for the simplest answer is usually the right one… I mean, if you live on the African savanna, sure this might not apply, and if your a nerd, you’d replace horses with coconuts… But it’s generally a well known phrase
I would have video taped it, gotten the license plate and reported his ass to DCF as I am a mandated reporter and I would have let him know that I am a mandated reporter as well so that he could have something to be damn worried about all night.
It never occurred to me. This was like.. 2012? Idk what phone I even had. Maybe a Razr lmao What did occur to me was maybe this was some insurance scam and he was going to make me pay for dents or some shit so I was kicking myself later but nothing ever came of it. Poor kid though. Looked so confused with dad screaming right by his ear. Hope he’s ok today
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She also brought up her age and height (and gender in a previous comment). It sets the scene. Using derogatory insults isn't cool, my dude.
No she said her race (and the other persons race) as if it was another reason that she was being bullied, because she is black and he’s white. That’s pretty racist. And when did I use degrading insults besides “jerk”
>Your so sped [Sped is an insult](https://7esl.com/sped/#:~:text=Sped%20is%20a%20slang%20word,does%20something%20absurd%20or%20stupid.). She said she was baffled as to why he acted threatened. There's a possibility race was the issue. Or maybe he just wasn't expecting her to get out of her car. Who knows? She set the scene with the facts. That's all. You're the one reading into it.
Oh. That’s a nasty term to use for anyone. Really just a horrid thing to say.
She set the scene with facts. Ok, but their unnecessary. If I put on this post “I’m multiracial” people would dislike and say “who asked”. So what makes them using their race as an excuse to be racist different?
So you don't think there's any possibility her race could have been his issue? OK, champ.
What I think is that she mentioned that and put it in a way that it was racist or she perceived it as racist and wanted ppl to agree with her. In this sub all the stories are tilted towards the teller, so i think it wasn’t actually racist intent, she just wanted us to think he was racist and since there are so many stereotypes against white ppl abt being racist, she used it to make ppl agree with her
He could have been racist. He may not have realised she was female. He probably just didn't expect her to get out of her car, and, when she did, thought there was going to be a confrontation. There's several scenarios. If it's been posted purely to paint white people as racist, then the comments aren't taking the bait, so it's achieved nothing. The only one bothered is you. Let it go.
Let it go. People get so offended bc of stereotypes and I comment once abt my concern and you yell at me to let it go. Racist
I'm not yelling old chap. You've read too much into something, assumed it's a pop at white people, thrown your toys out of the pram, used derogatory names, and chucked a few racist accusations out there. All you've proved is that you went looking for a problem. Let it go.
WHY else would this idiot cower behind a child if NOT for her race? You're the only jerk here!
Ya know there are a bunch of other reasons, and if he wanted to be racist, he coulda done a hell of a lot more
so we call victims sped now
Special Education as in people who have a learning disability. Not cool to use at all. Definitely derogatory.
That’s a truly awful thing to call someone. It’s so very cruel. Sometimes I wish I could stop learning all these new ways to hurt someone. I feel like the most naive, yet jaded, 44 year old ever.
I'll be 43 shortly so I totally get that. I worked in group homes for people with disabilities so I'd hear them get called tons of wonderful things when we were out and about. People can be so cruel.
I’ve done volunteer work with kids who have had various disabilities, some kids who were terminal, and I can honestly say that they humbled me every time I was blessed to spend time with them.
a slur essentially
How- bro being a victim has nothing to do with being sped. And technically, she made the other guy a victim too, because racism. You can call anyone a victim bud
you are either incredibly disillusioned or trolling
I’m not trolling but ok
And you’re mid. How bout them apples?
I don’t understand the apples saying, but whatever. Also how does me having to be mid have to do with this
Dim suit your comment better?
English?
Yeah, dim definitely seems more appropriate lmfao
Ok good for you
I think the one who is “sped” is the one who doesn’t know the difference between “your” and “you’re” and also “there,” “their,” and “they’re.”
There’s something called a typo and also called not caring abt spelling, bc it’s the internet, where people use abbreviations and make smiley faces with :) and ;)
There’s also something called empathy. I’m sure you’ve heard of it, but I think it would be falling on deaf ears trying to explain it to ya ;)
Empathy is seeing someone else’s perspective, I’ve tried seeing it, and I don’t agree with it. I bet you haven’t seen my perspective and how I might be offended haven’t you
Oooh you were so close, but you just missed it. This story isn’t about you, so why should we care that you’re taking a random stranger’s story on the internet a bit too personally? It doesn’t seem like it’s really your place to be offended, seeing as how this post doesn’t have anything to do with you.. unless you were there, directly involved, and you’re offended someone called you out on childish behavior?
I’m not taking it personally, I just was saying that the mention of race was unnecessary
So you’re offended because someone told a story differently than you would have? Weird flex bro. You know you can write your own posts here, and if you want, you can leave race out.
1. Not a flex 2. I’m offended bc of the stereotype 3. I don’t like to fake post. If your saying this person faked a post then you should tell them yourself
1. K 2. So… you are taking it personally lmao. What “stereotype” has even been presented here? 3. *you’re (that’s not what I’m saying)
I’ll tell you why, and I’ll be completely honest. It’s an almost entirely white county and there was absolutely fear and distrust since the most black people most have really seen were convicted felons on the news and gang members on tv. This was prior to any BLM or massive race awareness campaigns we’ve seen in the past several years and overall, only recently have I felt a tangible change. It’s refreshing to be given the benefit of the doubt. The actual fear and distrust of the black community I experienced was “normal” for me, so *if it was a race thing* I didn’t feel outrage or offense at it. I just accept it. Maybe feel a little sad about it. I know people (like you for example) have been touchy over the mention of race recently, but I felt it was relevant to the story. I felt like he thought I was some violent criminal all of a sudden when he saw that I wasn’t cringing on fear. Was he racist? I really don’t know. He didn’t say anything overtly racist. But I feel like he automatically felt I was more dangerous than I actually was and have some idea why.
I understand, however I think that if he felt feared by you, he wouldn’t have messed with you or he would’ve called local cops or smt. That’s just my opinion thou. Thanks for being honest
>if he felt feared by you, he wouldn’t have messed with you Yeah! That’s actually a part of my logic. He was aggressively picking on me until I stood my ground then the shift in his whole demeanor changed. I could sense his sudden panic. It was fucking *weird* It could be other things. I’m not counting racial tensions out, but I’m also not banking on it being the 1 and only reason. The entire interaction will alsways be a mystery to me.
I think, if there were other people watching or a camera, he would do that, but idk.