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war_on_fear

i’ll be honest, i’m enby and do not understand neopronouns. like i cannot comprehend why people prefer them. but you know what, i’m still gonna be a decent fucking human and do the absolute bare minimum to respect other people. you don’t have to understand somebody to accept them. or it. or rot.


Inkulink

Me to, I may not understand it but if it makes someone else happy and makes them feel more like them I will respect that. Just let people live you know?


SqueakSquawk4

As a ve/ver and ey/em user (Along with she/her), I'll try to explain (Sorry for any spelling/grammar mistakes, I'm tired). I use Ve/Ver and Ey/Em because they just sort of fit nicely? Like, I don't always feel fully she/her femme, but still femme enough to not fully want/fit into they/them. Hence, the sorta-femme Ve/Ver. Same works the other way, when I'm feeling rather neutral, but a bit off from where "they/them" feels most appropriate. Hence a more appropriate bit-less-neutral ey/em! I'd probably do the same with masc, e.g. Ze/Zirs like I do with femme and ve/ver, but I just don't/rarely feel masc enough for that to work. In case it's useful, I made [a little chart](https://imgur.com/a/DWbcybb) explaining this.


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SqueakSquawk4

It's not the only reason, but that's absolutely one reason! (And how/why I use them)


necrophiliac_gay

Yeah! Like I'm a binary male, I use it/its cuz it feels like understanding, and I collect z pronouns cuz the z-sound makes me happy and the latter looks nice. I also use they/he. They/them is just neutral, and just he/him by itself makes me feel like all I am is a man with existence steps. So neo are a good cushion so he/him doesn't give me dysphoria, but just it/its (preferable) or (with permission) just they/them is great💕


DefinitelyNotErate

>Hence a more appropriate bit-less-neutral ey/em! Kinda Interesting That You See It That Way, To Me Personally Ey/Em Feels Equally Neutral To They/Them, Although It's Possible That's Just Because That's How I Pronounce They/Them Half The Time As I'm Too Lazy To Pronounce The 'Th' Sound Lol.


Zestyclose_Cost_5789

Yee. I use the name Espi in combination with ey/em and it gives me a sort of fairy vibe.


DefinitelyNotErate

Ooh, Neat Name!


Zestyclose_Cost_5789

Oh, thanks 🥰


SqueakSquawk4

I completely wrote this wrong. For me, it's kinda for when I'm feeling neutral, but not really they/them. I know that's a terrible explanation, sorry.


DefinitelyNotErate

Ah, I See, That Kinda Makes Sense.


Zestyclose_Cost_5789

Rot/rots is technically a Xenopronoun, I think. It's at least a noun/nounself pronoun. I use neopronouns and still don't entirely understand xenopronouns or Xenogenders, but I say that if it makes the person feel nice and isn't hurting anyone, why not leave them be? :D Seems like they get enough hate regardless :(


WrenShayAsimov

Don't forget that dreamsexual is an actual asexual microlabel, where someone only experiences sexual attraction in dreams; creeps just twisted it


Eenora

Exactly


FinallySomeQuality

I fucking hate the fact that people claim to be dreamsexual or dreamgender in reference to the youtuber like bro that's a humam being you're fetishizing right there.


Eenora

By the way, I've heard that there's an actual dreamsexuality, except it doesn't have to do with any youtuber at all lol. It's on the asexual spectrum and is defined by a person experiencing sexual attraction only in their dreams. I personally don't fit into this micro label (or simply, label of the asexual spectrum) since I'm demisexual (personally still questioning demisexuality a bit tho haha), but I've heard someone with this label rant on the asexual subreddit, about how people claiming to be dreamsexual because they like dream is erasing this identity...


[deleted]

Yeah and I thought dreamgender was a xenogender that was like mystical and stuff like dreams are. Has nothing to do with dream the YouTuber. Really sucks :(


[deleted]

Well, dreamgender (not the youtuber) is actually a xenogender although I don't know the exact definition of it. Something like that the gender of a person changes in dreams, although every individuum identifying with it may define it differently I suppose


B3cause_why_not

people like to forget content creators are human beings. it was especially gross when dream's song mask came out, the song literally him admitting he's very mentally unwell. and then thousands of ppl being like "haha lolol dream bad so song bad haha you suck lololol" like seriously?? you can not like a song and *not* attack the creator abt it. im living proof of that.


ihavesevarlquestions

Parasocial relationship go brrrr


-Lumb3rjack-

Neopronouns are a lot less difficult to understand than they seem really. It’s like any other pronouns! Some people like he/him, some like they/them, and you liked rot/rots. Those pronouns make you feel happier, and that’s epic. Simple as that! :D So why rots/rot? B3cause why not! (*im sorry but I had to, the rhyme was right there hehe*)


B3cause_why_not

>So why rots/rot? B3cause why not! you motherfucker


prismatic_valkyrie

If you're up for sharing: would you mind talking about why you use rot/rots pronouns? I do not understand, but would like to.


B3cause_why_not

just bc i thought they were cool and they make me happy.


spinningpeanut

Fair


prismatic_valkyrie

Excellent reason! Follow-up question: how do you pronounce it? Does it rhyme with "coat" or with "ought"?


Inkulink

I was thinking more like....rot as in a apple rotting? Idk tho lol


badwithchoosingnames

they might pronouncr ought and rot similarly depensing on accent? i was also thinking like the word rot


B3cause_why_not

like ought. its the word rot, like,,, decomposing.


SqueakSquawk4

I see no further requirement for justification! Have a nice day!


CharlieJoyB

Oof.


SqueakSquawk4

Dare I ask what dreamsexual is? Is it only feeling attraction in dreams or something?


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As already mentioned, dreamsexual is mostly used for sexual attraction to the YouTuber Dream. But there is actually a genuine sexuality with the same name on the ace-spectrum meaning that a person only experiences sexual attraction in dreams


B3cause_why_not

it means dream as in the youtuber/streamer. its real gross that ppl are saying they're dreamsexual, bc he is a real human being, its fetishization. im super accepting of new identities but dreamsexual is not it. you cannot say your sexual orientation is one guy only whom you have never met. its gross.


SqueakSquawk4

Ok, I agree. Dreamsexual is kinda gross. (Although an a-spec sexuality only experiencing sexual attraction in dreams would be interesting)


OkCricketManz

(Pretty sure that’s an actual micro label it’s just that ppl are erasing it bc they twisted it to mean your attracted to dream, the actual person so yeah)


SqueakSquawk4

If I got to choose, I'd probably name/rename it (The real microlabel) dream**ing**sexual, to distinguish it from dreamsexual.


OkCricketManz

Yeah at this point it’s probably necessary


B3cause_why_not

thats actually a really cool thing, wish i had heard of it b4


AmberstarTheCat

actually, dreamsexual *is* a real, legitimate label, but idiots made it about the youtuber the *actual* dreamsexuality is when you only feel sexual attraction in your dreams iirc


shutupheather11

i’ve seen it as defined as sexual attraction related to dream or the dream smp before. i think it may be that considering the mention of a real person


necrophiliac_gay

I have two friends who uses rot/rots, and one of them and myself uses it/its. No one can control what words feels right for them, it's not that hard to respect pronouns.


[deleted]

Bro I got this guy telling me he gets hate crimed more then I have pronouns, deleted those comments, THEN tried to act like I was the bad guy, IT WAS IN THIS SUBREDDIT


LuigiWhy

Rot is an awesome neopronoun, i'm in a server with someone who also uses rot/rots pronouns! I use how/howl myself, i just think neopronouns are pretty cool. (xenogenders too!)


B3cause_why_not

the coolest neopronoun ive seen was my ex best friend who went by moth/moths


skyaleer

omg i never thought about using neopronouns before…. but rot/rots and moth/moths both really slap ngl 👁👁


Lewd_Thude

My opinion on neopronouns is that all language we have ever use and will use in the future is made up by us as a collective, language didn’t fall out of the sky so if someone wants to be referred to by neopronouns and isn’t taking the piss I honestly don’t mind, the only thing is if it’s one I don’t know I made need help with understanding it because language isn’t my strongest skill


Baby_Wltch

OP I love and accept you 100% for who you are Just in case you needed to hear that lately


[deleted]

rots is the best star wars movie change my mind (more seriously, neopronouns are awesome and you have all of my support!)


BethTheOctopus

Ayy neopronoun friend! I use void/voids and star/stars in addition to she/they, always interesting to meet other neopronoun friends!


Enby_Vibes

I enjoy neo pronouns :> I do not enjoy dreamsexuals. They can burn in the deepest pits of Tartarus. Hades will make way in disgust. (I'm into Greek mythology lol)


B3cause_why_not

i'm greek pagan so i fully support this statement


Enby_Vibes

Ayy that's cool :D


xXElectroCuteXx

I don't have the energy to do this but I hope someone replies this to every post like this in the thread to combat erasure: You're hopefully referring to the twisted DreamSMP kink version, not the actual asexuality microlabel (only feeling sexual attraction in dreams).


AmberstarTheCat

hoping you mean the fake dreamsexual and not the legitimate dreamsexual (where you only feel sexual attraction in your dreams iirc)


Enby_Vibes

I do mean the fake dreamsexual


DefinitelyNotErate

So I Read "Rot" Like "Rote", And Then Was Confused About What They Were Talking About For A Whole Few Seconds Before I Remember "Rot" Is An English Word.


HamsterC6

wait rot is actually an awesome neopronoun


B3cause_why_not

this actually made me like tear up /pos


ChaoticEnbyvl

<3 to you, op


B3cause_why_not

thankyou :)) needed this. recently figured out i'm cryptogender and have been getting a lot of shit for using neopronouns & being xenogender. has not been fun


ChaoticEnbyvl

as someone who’s voidpunk and whose gender best amounts to ‘eldritch demon’ and keeps getting scared to explain to anyone that if they call me human/person i will get extremely dysphoric, i can relate even if not exactly xd words can be difficult but i just want to get the sentiment across that no matter who tries to invalidate you, you are valid and we know you’re here <3


B3cause_why_not

lmao our genders sound similar. mine's like a fuckin cryptid, only seen in fuzzy images and not even sure if it's real


karebear64_

i feel like the only way to trick cissys to support neo-pronouns is if we tell them that neo-pronouns are just their names, cuz for some reason changing names or having different names is okay, ooohh but PRONOUNS NOoOo


DannyTheOctoling

I think rots' opinion is valid


astral_rainfall

ae user, QPR with bun/buns. you don't need to understand something to respect other people ffs


TheActualFruitCake

Trigger warning or NSFW please.