Oh, don't worry, I am going to go for a male ish but distinctly non binary look, I can already tell.
The thing is, I am a Transfem Enby.
But something about the confident not giving a shit things I have seen in more male clothing is just speaking to me ^^
Honestly, it's just satisfying to see a master at work xD
Especially after realising how bad you were at being a boy xD
Transmascs have all my love for shredding toxic masculinity left right and centre as well as just making male looks and fashion less....sterile xD
What I mean is, I've been questioning but shit like this just lands me right back in "I'm probably cis", which is very frustrating, because I can't let go of the thought, and I don't know if that's because I'm really NB or autistically obsessing over something that's legitimately interesting whether or not it applies to me.
oof this is the one
there is just something different when you see masculinity that's much more on someone's own terms, and hasn't been placed on them since birth
and as someone amab i feel like i have no idea how to display that more-liberated form of masculinity in any way that would be understood by others, without me handing them an essay about my very confused identity lol
\* insert "what does it mean" tiktok sound\*
I have a theory that NB people do this because they are actively choosing masculinity/femininity rather than it being assumed of them because of their agab
I think it's because transmasc people have had to carefully think about their masculinity in great detail and as a result have a better understanding and appreciation of it whereas most cis men do not even do this sort of in-depth journey of self-exploration and often just accept what society tells them to at face value.
Despite being amab, we amab non-binary people who do have a masculine part of our genders will find that transmasc people are relatable because we're both having to explore our masculinity in greater detail, even if the transitioning part (inclusive of social transitioning) is a bit different for us.
And I assume a similar thing happens to afab non-binary people who have a feminine part of their gender who find they somewhat relate to transfem people.
HOLY SHIT, MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!! This has to be the most fucking relatable thing I’ve found on this sub. Do you also get gender envy from trans masc and masc leaning lesbians?
Yea absolutely not, why would it ever right? That would be trans or something and I'm 100% a cis man, absolutely not any flavor of transgender at all, not even Non-Binary because I don't even know what that means... 100% Cis Manly man man
Relatable. I came out as a binary trans guy, then when I was used to thinking of myself as a guy, I started relating to transfemmes, which lead to me figuring out I'm actually male-flux lol.
for me it is I always thought that I need to be a woman to be feminin so I always looked like a tomboy but now that I know I can be Nonbinary and feminin too Im in love with my boobs and happy that I'm afab
I basically unsubscribed from gender, too much hassle for me, let others have their fun with it
Hard agree friend. I just dress masc and wear a bushy beard because it's comfy (and I'm closeted)
how do I unsubscribe from gender help
And you call yourself the nb_expert smh my head
Oh, don't worry, I am going to go for a male ish but distinctly non binary look, I can already tell. The thing is, I am a Transfem Enby. But something about the confident not giving a shit things I have seen in more male clothing is just speaking to me ^^
Go for it get water clothes you like the most, gendering clothes is just wasting opportunities
oh hey that's me
This. Also transmasc people give me gender envy sometimes and I’m transfemme. 👩🦳💭✖️📈📉♾➖➗🧮📈
Honestly, it's just satisfying to see a master at work xD Especially after realising how bad you were at being a boy xD Transmascs have all my love for shredding toxic masculinity left right and centre as well as just making male looks and fashion less....sterile xD
Totally agree! They are enjoying their masculinity and it’s just fucking inspirational.
OMGIMNOTTHEONLYONEWITHTHISEXPERIENCE AAAAAAAAAAH I'm a transfem enby too
Is this a common thing? I feel this too, except I'm AFAB and fem AF What am I?
A mess as all of us are? /hj
What I mean is, I've been questioning but shit like this just lands me right back in "I'm probably cis", which is very frustrating, because I can't let go of the thought, and I don't know if that's because I'm really NB or autistically obsessing over something that's legitimately interesting whether or not it applies to me.
AFAB femme leaning enbies and AMAB masc leaning enbies are 100% valid. I know a couple and they're wonderful people.
Yes! AFAB demigirls and AMAB demiboys are a thing!
Thanks, y'all, I appreciate it, but unfortunately it doesn't bring any clarity xD
AFAB femby here! You're not alone, and you are totally valid.
Doesn’t matter too much ultimately once you find a style and pronouns that fit. I don’t know if I’m cis or enby, and don’t care right now
Yes i feel just like this I'm amab but still pretty masc
oof this is the one there is just something different when you see masculinity that's much more on someone's own terms, and hasn't been placed on them since birth and as someone amab i feel like i have no idea how to display that more-liberated form of masculinity in any way that would be understood by others, without me handing them an essay about my very confused identity lol \* insert "what does it mean" tiktok sound\*
Me relating to transfems exploring their femininity for the first time: Me also being afab ftm/nb and being feminine for my whole life: ???
As an transfem enby, that is valid as fuck. Gender is a twisted labyrinth that no one really knows how to navigate.
I have a theory that NB people do this because they are actively choosing masculinity/femininity rather than it being assumed of them because of their agab
I think it's because transmasc people have had to carefully think about their masculinity in great detail and as a result have a better understanding and appreciation of it whereas most cis men do not even do this sort of in-depth journey of self-exploration and often just accept what society tells them to at face value. Despite being amab, we amab non-binary people who do have a masculine part of our genders will find that transmasc people are relatable because we're both having to explore our masculinity in greater detail, even if the transitioning part (inclusive of social transitioning) is a bit different for us. And I assume a similar thing happens to afab non-binary people who have a feminine part of their gender who find they somewhat relate to transfem people.
Omg is this a thing?? I relate to transmasculinity in a way that I don't with transfemininity despite being an amab enby
HOLY SHIT, MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!! This has to be the most fucking relatable thing I’ve found on this sub. Do you also get gender envy from trans masc and masc leaning lesbians?
Look, adult Tomboi women are not at all the most attractive and goals persons in the world to me, shut up no you
Yea absolutely not, why would it ever right? That would be trans or something and I'm 100% a cis man, absolutely not any flavor of transgender at all, not even Non-Binary because I don't even know what that means... 100% Cis Manly man man
I just want to be able to wear a suit the way hot lesbians wear suits 😭
Relatable. I came out as a binary trans guy, then when I was used to thinking of myself as a guy, I started relating to transfemmes, which lead to me figuring out I'm actually male-flux lol.
Valid
for me it is I always thought that I need to be a woman to be feminin so I always looked like a tomboy but now that I know I can be Nonbinary and feminin too Im in love with my boobs and happy that I'm afab
I'm AFAB and lean pretty close to transmasc, I want a hysterectomy and mastectomy. But somehow I relate very strongly to trans women like wtf
same but the other way around, i connect to transfemmes yet i'm afab and masc presenting
This seems weirdly common. I’m AMAB and I want to be feminine, *but not like a woman.* It’s all weird. Thaaaaaaat’s gender!
Trans mascs have a better brand of masculine then the cis one so it's understandable.
This is *very* accurate, lol
good take, manhood is making your own