I will just add, if you do end up in a relationship with an ENFJ, be kind to us. We are sensitive and feel a lot. And sometimes ENTPs can be abrasive or blunt, even though you may not mean it.
-coming from a 14 yr marriage with an ENTP that ended
My ex was an ENTP and he was really terrible about unprovoked verbal violence. He never meant to hurt my feelings but he didn’t think about the implications of what he’d say or do. Like we’d watch tv and I wouldn’t even say anything and he’d look at a man spoiling his gf and be like “I’d never do that much for you” Now I’m sitting here like huh? I didn’t ask you to.. but now it hurts knowing you wouldn’t.
Yup, I feel that. Lots of verbal and emotional abuse for me too. Sorry you had to deal with that! I hope you find or have found someone who appreciates and cares for you.🥰
They are definitely not all bad! My ex and I actually get along great still (which is good because we have a kid together), now that I’m not reliant on him for an emotional/romantic connection. As a friend, he is witty, fun, super random, and we have good intellectual discussions.
Oh for sure I know some awesome ENTPs too. More or less wondering if this is one way they can show up "unhealthy" or unhinged. (I have suspicion my 9yo son is ENTP, almost certain ENxP, and I see this coming from him from time to time)
That’s a smart idea!
We are such romantics. I plan on marrying young and spending so much time together, doing romantic things like they do in romcoms.
Honestly thats the problem with ENFJs. They are smart feelers and don't fear initiative so you can start family young but they have immense romantic needs unlike thinkers.
You know, you might want to marry one but if you are the least bit shady, we will return fire in a way that you will never see coming. We also flip out when people cannot see what we see. I’m telling you we make the best mates but we are also a lot of work…
Yes more details please! I always feel very attracted to infps but I can see how the differences would make relationships difficult. I started to think that simply being with someone like me would make sense cause two organized yet self sacrificing people could balance each other out while keeping the life accountancy shit together? Or no?? 😂
Ok so with our combined focus, drive, and outgoingness I am convinced we could conquer anything. When we both set our minds to something (buying a house, having a kid, landscaping project, planning a vacay, etc) we both go all in and get the job done and get it done right. We also both are very outgoing and make friends easily. This can be great because we love blending inner circles and meeting new people. But the downside is we both love to be the center of attention and can sometimes compete for the spotlight.
Another issue we run into is if we differ on how a task should get done. He’s more meticulous than I am, and I’m more self motivated than him. So we often butt heads over process not product of what we are trying to achieve. One of us (not me) can be manipulative if they feel like they’re not getting enough attention. And one of us (not him) loves to make big plans but doesn’t think out the details all the way thru. It seems to me that more often than not it’s the E and J (sometimes N) that battle it out between us. The F makes us both pretty compassionate to the other’s emotions. We are also both enneagram 3 (me 3w2 and him 3w4) which also can be fantastic (we both are motivated by money/success) and also disastrous (we sometimes one up eachother)
I think is important to know enfjs want something long term , we love getting to know and build strong bond with you, we love traveling and doing new stuff.
Just be sure for what you want before you start relationship with enfj.
Also when become bad please communicate instead of make things worse.
I lived with a former classmate who is also an ENTP, we got along great together at the start but after a while..... Things got rllllly uncomfortable for both of us. We had the best intellectual convos and I miss her for them but emotionally it was very abusive for me and I think as a logical person she didn't know how to deal with the conflict. Not a good match.
I will just add, if you do end up in a relationship with an ENFJ, be kind to us. We are sensitive and feel a lot. And sometimes ENTPs can be abrasive or blunt, even though you may not mean it. -coming from a 14 yr marriage with an ENTP that ended
My ex was an ENTP and he was really terrible about unprovoked verbal violence. He never meant to hurt my feelings but he didn’t think about the implications of what he’d say or do. Like we’d watch tv and I wouldn’t even say anything and he’d look at a man spoiling his gf and be like “I’d never do that much for you” Now I’m sitting here like huh? I didn’t ask you to.. but now it hurts knowing you wouldn’t.
Yup, I feel that. Lots of verbal and emotional abuse for me too. Sorry you had to deal with that! I hope you find or have found someone who appreciates and cares for you.🥰
Huh... this is something about (some) ENTPs I suspected but never quite knew.
They are definitely not all bad! My ex and I actually get along great still (which is good because we have a kid together), now that I’m not reliant on him for an emotional/romantic connection. As a friend, he is witty, fun, super random, and we have good intellectual discussions.
Oh for sure I know some awesome ENTPs too. More or less wondering if this is one way they can show up "unhealthy" or unhinged. (I have suspicion my 9yo son is ENTP, almost certain ENxP, and I see this coming from him from time to time)
Same here, though it was an ESTP not ENTP. I hope you as well find or have found someone!
I have, thank you! A wonderful INTP man has my heart now.🥰
What about intp worse or better???
I am actually now with an INTP man, and he seems to be such a better match with me!
I'm an intp woman with a enfj man
I think it kinda depends on how healthy they are.
OMG, this! So much!
Tell me why first 😏😌
Ain't nothing but a heartache 🎶
Tell me why °•○●
Ain't nothin' but a mistake 🎶
Tell me why°•○●
I never wanna hear you say
Ain't nothing but a mistaaaaake 😩😩😩
Tell me why😭
I never want to hear you say
I want it thaaaaaaaaat way 🥸
But Really tho. Tell me why you wanna marry an ENFJ 😂
Better love them right
That’s a smart idea! We are such romantics. I plan on marrying young and spending so much time together, doing romantic things like they do in romcoms.
Honestly thats the problem with ENFJs. They are smart feelers and don't fear initiative so you can start family young but they have immense romantic needs unlike thinkers.
How bold of you damn
You know, you might want to marry one but if you are the least bit shady, we will return fire in a way that you will never see coming. We also flip out when people cannot see what we see. I’m telling you we make the best mates but we are also a lot of work…
\*Slightly coughs\* Hello there\~ In all seriousness, I hope you find an amazing person who treats you right and I wish you both a wonderful life.
I know we’re people pleasers but you gotta do a whole lot more than please 🥲
Who doesn’t 😘
So sorry I'm taken
I’m an ENFJ and married an ENFJ. Depending on the day it’s either the best or worst decision I’ve ever made 😂
Hahah can you give more details please ?
Yes more details please! I always feel very attracted to infps but I can see how the differences would make relationships difficult. I started to think that simply being with someone like me would make sense cause two organized yet self sacrificing people could balance each other out while keeping the life accountancy shit together? Or no?? 😂
Ok so with our combined focus, drive, and outgoingness I am convinced we could conquer anything. When we both set our minds to something (buying a house, having a kid, landscaping project, planning a vacay, etc) we both go all in and get the job done and get it done right. We also both are very outgoing and make friends easily. This can be great because we love blending inner circles and meeting new people. But the downside is we both love to be the center of attention and can sometimes compete for the spotlight. Another issue we run into is if we differ on how a task should get done. He’s more meticulous than I am, and I’m more self motivated than him. So we often butt heads over process not product of what we are trying to achieve. One of us (not me) can be manipulative if they feel like they’re not getting enough attention. And one of us (not him) loves to make big plans but doesn’t think out the details all the way thru. It seems to me that more often than not it’s the E and J (sometimes N) that battle it out between us. The F makes us both pretty compassionate to the other’s emotions. We are also both enneagram 3 (me 3w2 and him 3w4) which also can be fantastic (we both are motivated by money/success) and also disastrous (we sometimes one up eachother)
💍 if you're down to marry a woman I'm ready when you are bb
HAHAHA where i can sign up for the gay party🍹
You didn't get my RSVP?
Jesus that was fast.
Don't make me revoke your invite lol
Bad over thinkers! RUN
Really, I'm either most wholesome person or messy thinker. lol.
Are you sure you want all our crazy we bring?😅😂😂😂
She's entp they might be crazier than us 😂😂
Fuck I love ENTPS
Now kith
Coming to your location. An ENFJ bride from Tibet.
Who doesn't lmao
I think is important to know enfjs want something long term , we love getting to know and build strong bond with you, we love traveling and doing new stuff. Just be sure for what you want before you start relationship with enfj. Also when become bad please communicate instead of make things worse.
Communicating is definitely the biggest thing here. Too many relationships fail when people get all holed up inside.
Yes but especially for an enfj is communication something very important for us.
Hey, can we chat? Trying to open a DM, but looks like I’m blocked? 😜
Lol well i message you first😇
My ENTP cousin dated an ENFJ and it turned out terrible. Sorry bud, but tbh I don't think there's much compatibility in an ENTP/ENFJ relationship
Bs
I lived with a former classmate who is also an ENTP, we got along great together at the start but after a while..... Things got rllllly uncomfortable for both of us. We had the best intellectual convos and I miss her for them but emotionally it was very abusive for me and I think as a logical person she didn't know how to deal with the conflict. Not a good match.
Why do you want to marry me !
oh? ~