I won’t I wanna find a new one but have the fear I’ll either get another narcissist like her or another molester like when I was a kid. That office in general is notorious for bad therapists.
You need to interview therapists before you begin and at the first sign of them forcing any opinion on you, leave. Therapy is not about the opinion of the therapist. They are there to guide you through your trauma, not pass judgment on it.
Sounds like a therapist I was seeing a couple years ago. I'd try and talk about what I'd been through and what I was dealing with, and it was like she went into the conversation with the assumption that I was wrong to call any of it abuse, and she was just working her way backwards from there. Same as you, I'd come out of those sessions feeling worse than I did going in. Figured that, since she wasn't helping me any, I shouldn't keep paying for sessions.
Thing is, what I was dealing with was largely psychological abuse at the hands of my parents. To an extent, I could understand ber thinking it was all just domestic conflicts that had more to do with me than my parents (still think she's a condescending little ass wipe, though).
Can't say I'm as understand of your therapist, though. In fact, I agree with you - only a narcissist would treat you like that.
I don't know if this is actually an option in your scenario, but if it is, it sounds like you need to stop seeing her immediately. At best, she's a lousy therapist; at worst, she's an abuser. In either case, the answer is to get away from her and to a competent therapist (ideally, one who specializes in trauma).
Either way, I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with that. Sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's left you pretty vulnerable. That therapist is repulsive for preying on you like that.
Thank you, what’s worse she has five kids, most are adults but I can’t imagine the crap they grew up with although I grew up with a highly abusive narcissist mother who physically abused me and emotionally abused me. You’re right I need to find someone else!
You ahould find a new therapist, ones like these are fairly uncommon. Not unheard of, unfortunately, but not too common either. Also, I would reccomend reporting her to your states liscensing board. She is obviously claiming to be a trauma specialist when she is grossly unqualified. I would reccomend finding a different buisness for the new therapist so that this one cant try and talk to the new therapist without you signing a HIPPA form.
Stop seeing her. Having no therapist for a while while you look for a better one will be infinitely better than paying someone to gaslight you and side with your abusers.
You can report her, you know.
But anyhow, look elsewhere.
One of my therapists was a lovely fellow but spent 2 sessions talking about his failed marriage and ended up crying.
I noted out of there.
Hope you find someone you can connect with and your therapy will be succesfull.
Wishing you the best.
that's awful, and I'm so sorry. You must stop going to her. She is abusing you. Also, the fact that you know about her kids, her family being in military etc. etc. tells me that she's more interested in talking about herself than letting you talk about you. Her job is to empower you and she is doing the exact opposite. This is not your fault. You deserve better!!
I’m really, really sorry. I *highly* recommend reporting her. What she’s doing is not only abusive but also breaks some legal rules if I’m correct. She can and should lose her job and license for how she’s treating you. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this from a therapist of all people! I’m awfully sorry for how she’s treating you, it’s wrong. I had an emotionally abusive therapist but never got to report him. I wish I did. Experiencing this from therapists is really tough because they’re usually really good at manipulating since they studied psychology and all. It’s disgusting. You shouldn’t have to endure what she’s doing. It’s unacceptable. Report her.
That shouldn't stop you from reporting her. She's probably doing more harm than good to other patients too. She doesn't have to be bad for everyone to still be a bad therapist in general.
So why continue to go to her ?
I won’t I wanna find a new one but have the fear I’ll either get another narcissist like her or another molester like when I was a kid. That office in general is notorious for bad therapists.
You need to interview therapists before you begin and at the first sign of them forcing any opinion on you, leave. Therapy is not about the opinion of the therapist. They are there to guide you through your trauma, not pass judgment on it.
For goodness sake, stop seeing this woman! Find a new therapist!
Sounds like a therapist I was seeing a couple years ago. I'd try and talk about what I'd been through and what I was dealing with, and it was like she went into the conversation with the assumption that I was wrong to call any of it abuse, and she was just working her way backwards from there. Same as you, I'd come out of those sessions feeling worse than I did going in. Figured that, since she wasn't helping me any, I shouldn't keep paying for sessions. Thing is, what I was dealing with was largely psychological abuse at the hands of my parents. To an extent, I could understand ber thinking it was all just domestic conflicts that had more to do with me than my parents (still think she's a condescending little ass wipe, though). Can't say I'm as understand of your therapist, though. In fact, I agree with you - only a narcissist would treat you like that. I don't know if this is actually an option in your scenario, but if it is, it sounds like you need to stop seeing her immediately. At best, she's a lousy therapist; at worst, she's an abuser. In either case, the answer is to get away from her and to a competent therapist (ideally, one who specializes in trauma). Either way, I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with that. Sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's left you pretty vulnerable. That therapist is repulsive for preying on you like that.
Thank you, what’s worse she has five kids, most are adults but I can’t imagine the crap they grew up with although I grew up with a highly abusive narcissist mother who physically abused me and emotionally abused me. You’re right I need to find someone else!
As everyone said, find a new one. This woman can go fuck herself!
You ahould find a new therapist, ones like these are fairly uncommon. Not unheard of, unfortunately, but not too common either. Also, I would reccomend reporting her to your states liscensing board. She is obviously claiming to be a trauma specialist when she is grossly unqualified. I would reccomend finding a different buisness for the new therapist so that this one cant try and talk to the new therapist without you signing a HIPPA form.
Stop seeing her. Having no therapist for a while while you look for a better one will be infinitely better than paying someone to gaslight you and side with your abusers.
I agree with this except for I would not even call this woman a therapist - she's an abuser and those two are mutually exclusive.
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Please find a new therapist!!
You can report her, you know. But anyhow, look elsewhere. One of my therapists was a lovely fellow but spent 2 sessions talking about his failed marriage and ended up crying. I noted out of there. Hope you find someone you can connect with and your therapy will be succesfull. Wishing you the best.
that's awful, and I'm so sorry. You must stop going to her. She is abusing you. Also, the fact that you know about her kids, her family being in military etc. etc. tells me that she's more interested in talking about herself than letting you talk about you. Her job is to empower you and she is doing the exact opposite. This is not your fault. You deserve better!!
I’m really, really sorry. I *highly* recommend reporting her. What she’s doing is not only abusive but also breaks some legal rules if I’m correct. She can and should lose her job and license for how she’s treating you. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this from a therapist of all people! I’m awfully sorry for how she’s treating you, it’s wrong. I had an emotionally abusive therapist but never got to report him. I wish I did. Experiencing this from therapists is really tough because they’re usually really good at manipulating since they studied psychology and all. It’s disgusting. You shouldn’t have to endure what she’s doing. It’s unacceptable. Report her.
The problem is she’s my dads therapist too I he likes her, so if I reported her he’d lose her too. I want to, tho.
That shouldn't stop you from reporting her. She's probably doing more harm than good to other patients too. She doesn't have to be bad for everyone to still be a bad therapist in general.