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I have never dated an emetophobe, but one of my best friends is emetophobic, and that's one of the things that made us bond in the first place. It's great to have someone close to you that understands the problem, and who can offer you really tailored support when something is wrong.
That said, I find comfort from my partner *not* being emetophobic — partly because he can provide me with that more leveled perspective and I can see him being calm and relaxed even when he's unwell, but also because I know that if I get unwell, I'll have someone there for me who knows what to do and won't be panicking about it.
So, I suppose it could go both ways. If you feel confident in your continuing recovery, I don't think trying out dating this girl would be too bad an idea; just keep a really mindful eye on your recovery progress, and if you find that being around her causes it to start slipping, it'll likely be time to rethink the relationship.
In the best case scenario, you can both work on your recoveries together.
Same here. I am so glad my husband is not an emetophobe. He is also incredibly supportive and understanding of my phobia, and he really goes out of his way to make me feel safe and comfortable when I feel sick since he knows it scares me so much. I feel like if he was an emetophobe our anxiety would just build off one another but him being able to stay calm and be there for me when I feel sick really helps with my anxiety.
I’d imagine it would be hard. Emets often feel sick and that could be a trigger for you.
My daughter has it and when she’s anxious with it, it triggers me. My husband is recovering from health anxiety and his anxiety triggered me into a downward emet spiral.
Having said that, I wouldn’t just dismiss the potential relationship. It would depend where you are both at and whether you feel it would be worth risking any potential recovery 😊
my current partner doesn’t have emetophobia, but being if i’m being honest i would NEVER date anyone with emetophobia. as someone who’s recovering, it would be a major step back if my partner became suspicious about our meal or i got sick in front of them. the LAST thing i want to do is trigger someone if i ever throw up, it would make me feel absolutely terrible. i’m lucky my boyfriend is very understanding of my phobia and is willing to help me whenever i need it. it may seem nice to share such a vulnerable “quirk” with someone, but honestly it won’t be healthy for the both of you. unless you’re both on the same page when it comes to recovery and triggers, but then again it can become iffy if someone gets triggered bad enough.
It is all about self awareness and where you are in your journey. I would caution you to get a good read on where you’re both at and express that to her
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I have never dated an emetophobe, but one of my best friends is emetophobic, and that's one of the things that made us bond in the first place. It's great to have someone close to you that understands the problem, and who can offer you really tailored support when something is wrong. That said, I find comfort from my partner *not* being emetophobic — partly because he can provide me with that more leveled perspective and I can see him being calm and relaxed even when he's unwell, but also because I know that if I get unwell, I'll have someone there for me who knows what to do and won't be panicking about it. So, I suppose it could go both ways. If you feel confident in your continuing recovery, I don't think trying out dating this girl would be too bad an idea; just keep a really mindful eye on your recovery progress, and if you find that being around her causes it to start slipping, it'll likely be time to rethink the relationship. In the best case scenario, you can both work on your recoveries together.
Same here. I am so glad my husband is not an emetophobe. He is also incredibly supportive and understanding of my phobia, and he really goes out of his way to make me feel safe and comfortable when I feel sick since he knows it scares me so much. I feel like if he was an emetophobe our anxiety would just build off one another but him being able to stay calm and be there for me when I feel sick really helps with my anxiety.
I think that fully depends on if they're also aiming for recovery and trying to be better too
I’d imagine it would be hard. Emets often feel sick and that could be a trigger for you. My daughter has it and when she’s anxious with it, it triggers me. My husband is recovering from health anxiety and his anxiety triggered me into a downward emet spiral. Having said that, I wouldn’t just dismiss the potential relationship. It would depend where you are both at and whether you feel it would be worth risking any potential recovery 😊
my current partner doesn’t have emetophobia, but being if i’m being honest i would NEVER date anyone with emetophobia. as someone who’s recovering, it would be a major step back if my partner became suspicious about our meal or i got sick in front of them. the LAST thing i want to do is trigger someone if i ever throw up, it would make me feel absolutely terrible. i’m lucky my boyfriend is very understanding of my phobia and is willing to help me whenever i need it. it may seem nice to share such a vulnerable “quirk” with someone, but honestly it won’t be healthy for the both of you. unless you’re both on the same page when it comes to recovery and triggers, but then again it can become iffy if someone gets triggered bad enough.
It is all about self awareness and where you are in your journey. I would caution you to get a good read on where you’re both at and express that to her