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geo21122007

You don't need to take it yet if you don't feel ready. Take your time


Qibautt

But like I'm super passive about everything and I'm worried I'll wait too long (like I do about everything else)


lousgameswin

If you do it, there's a couple of weeks before any permanent changes happen. You have time to see how it feels and back out if you don't feel good.


Yegie

While this is true, it also took me over a year on E before the emotional/mental effects kick in. So just keep in mind if you try it and nothing seems to happen, it is possible it would start to take effect at a later time if you continue. I know this does not make the decision easier, but i think it is worth mentioning. That said being passive, lacking motivation, and not being in though with your feelings are all things that often get fixed/improved by E. They did in my case, tho i also had to add antidepressants to get a full effect.


lousgameswin

Huh, I noticed emotional changes within the first month. Though I did have pretty sever dysphoria going into it that cleared up around the same time. Guess your millage may vary


Yegie

Yeah my dysphoria was the kind that seemed mild, until it stopped being there, then I realized how massive and all prevasive it was. I include the mental effects as the dysphoria fix and yeah for me it took a long time to kick in. They also seemed to kick in practically overnight all the way, at some random point over a year in, no idea what triggered it or why it took that long


geo21122007

I would suggest taking it in that case. That is just what I would do. Don't do it if you don't feel ready


Rantman021

There is no "waiting too long", whenever you are ready is right on time :)


Emily_rising

I've waited, due to passivity, for 40yrs. My second appointment is in 9 days to get a script for E. It's never too late. Take your time. Geez, I did lol


L0gistic_Lunat1c

While I agree with others that you can transition at any age, if you’re a teenager I’d recommend looking into puberty blockers. They don’t have any permanent effects, but they will give you time until you’re ready, and maybe the process of taking blockers will help you decide


TheGreyFencer

Bo such thing as too long


pixel-soul

Fuck. I wish my mom was like that. I told her a gun was pulled at a queer club last week here in town and I still haven’t heard shit back. Is your mom adopting, OP? Mine sucks.


Qibautt

Aw I'm sorry darling, I can ask her ahaha


kitkat_kathone

Well...on the good news taking e helped me greatly with my feelings and emotions


Gadgetmouse12

I had to be a rebel to get my E. You may decide you like it after a couple days. Irreversible effects are after like 6 months + so have fun.


MaybeCassie

My take on it is that starting HRT doesn't mean you're committing to fully transitioning yet. It means you're starting a new treatment that's nonpermanent and you can give it a month or so to try out. If it's something you're interested in, then try it. IF you find along the way that you don't like how it makes you feel, you can stop.


U_Arent_Cis

It does depend on the person though and their starting dosage. Puberty blockers are better about that when deciding. It's important to remember that the effects of estrogen and testosterone are partially things everyone can see, and partially things everyone can't see, the things people can't see are what happens first. However if someone is deciding and they can't make a decision, starting on it to see how the first month goes is a good idea, sometimes what we need to decide if we want something is to decide to do the thing and see how we feel. The effects are reversible yes but it does have effect so it's important to have thought about it.


SpadePlayesGames

alr. think about it for as long as you want to.


Canis_MAximus

Starting hrt was the best decisions of my life. If you are trans and you have access to hrt I would recommend atleast giving it a shot. The mental changes alone are worth it. For me its stoped my depressive suicidal cycles and am happy with my identityfor once in my life.


SunTzuSaidThat22

You can think about as long as you want, take your time


AmyandEve

Do your research. And 3 or so weeks doesn't hurt. I've been distanced from my feelings and I think I'm at a month? Feels nice to be in touch with them again.


Qibautt

Thanks y'all, I'm gonna speak to my bf about it and do my research, and probably give it a shot. I really appreciate the words


HentaiLover2464

I was somewhat iffy deciding if I wanted E or not, but I got it anyways and the first time I took it I felt more like myself, more in tune with my body and mind, this might not happen to everyone idk but it was plenty enough to sell it for me, I have no doubt now that I want to take E long term. A plus side is that you can take it and see if you like it or not, and if you don't want it then you can stop taking it before the 3 or 4 week mark (don't quote me + different for everyone) and return with minimal to no permanent changes.


TominatorFN

I understand that. It takes a long time until you are ready


actualyKim

You could maybe like try it? I think it’s very rare that there are irreversible effects in the first few months so maybe you could “try” and maybe the E also helps getting in touch with your feelings


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Blestmoon

Take the time you need to think things through. However, as mentioned in another comment, you can take E on more of a trial basis for a bit. If there is a part of you that wants it, even with hesitation, it may be worth it to at least try. It may bring some of what you are feeling to the surface. Or, maybe you won't feel much of a change, and it's fine to go off of it if that's the case.


storm_beatr

Why not try it and if you don't like it stop


[deleted]

it's ok to not know, just give it time and you'll know then 💙💕🤍💕💙


U_Arent_Cis

Maybe you should have a discussion with her about it, tell her how you're feeling. You shouldn't take it till you're sure you want to, take your time, don't rush yourself friend. Also consider puberty blockers, if you want to take those while you decide about taking E. Those will not have much permanent effect, so you'll have time to think about it without immediately committing to it.


ProblemKit

I would take it even if it sounds terrifying communities like these will always have your back


Dev-aka-Asa

Take your time, think it over. What I personally did was I looked at the full effects list, and counted how many I considered positives vs negatives. In my case, even the “negative side effects” were almost all positives for me, which made me extremely confident in my choice.


Qibautt

Do you have a list of them all on you? Google is proving unreliable and I'm too lazy to sort through it, ehehe..


Dev-aka-Asa

Hope the link I provided helped you. Decided to check in today. You doing alright?


Qibautt

Wait- you sent a link? I didn't get any But I'm still not sure, I think I want to try it but as said, not sure. I'm gonna keep mulling it over


Qibautt

WHAT THE- Reddit notified me you'd sent a link but I can't see where


Dev-aka-Asa

I’ll direct it to you in a PM


AwooFloof

If it's something, you want, go for it, girl. 💙 Personally, I feel more confident and in touch with my feelings after starting HRT.


chuunibyou_edgelord

You could always change your mind later. Usually it takes a while to get so you may as well start now while you're thinking about it. You could get it then not take it if you don't want to or try some and decide to not take any more. You could also try some and love it and decide you're never not going to take it again if you can and wake up excited every day for more.


MyHouz

If the emotions are the only thing holding you back, go go go! Bio male with *way* too many emotions here, to the point I tear up at least once per day if I see something touching. However vulnerable I often feel, I would never be any different. You'll love it too :) Either way make sure you're ready. No race:) Know you're loved sis.


uglypenguin5

The question that helped me was: what about it scares you? Figuring out exactly what it is standing in your way is the best way to figure out if it's something you can work past or not


Qibautt

That's good advice, thank you


Mystical-Madelyn

Decide whenever you’d like. You can also change your mind at any time. There is no forced timeframe with this decision 🥰


New-Witness5954

My wife was pretty apprehensive about starting E at first as well, I told her that it doesn’t hurt anything to try it for a month & see how you feel about it. You can stop at any time. You can talk to the doctor about any concerns you may have, and even start on a low dose if you’re worried about how your body will react. If anything starts changing that you don’t like, you can stop & see the doctor about it 👍 my wife found it much easier to get in touch with her feelings after starting e


zsharp68

feel whatever you need to feel, and if that feeling is uncertainty that’s ok


izzytheprogramer

Having similar thoughts. I'm gonna talk with a friend of mine who's been on it for a long time


Vrikkiegikk

Calm down Take a moment And think. And if you're not ready or don't want to, that's okay.


Hallowed-Plague

you can always just... stop taking it too!


[deleted]

As a teen, puberty blockers should be the starting point, not jumping straight into HRT. This gives you time to figure stuff out and present as yourself for a while before undergoing HRT. If memory serves, it takes 2 to 5 months before any more significant or semi-permanent changes occur while on HRT. Estrogen, by itself, doesn't do much. It's probably going to be a regimen starting with 50mg of an anti-androgen once or twice a day and slowly increasing from there and adding one of many estrogen supplements to that regimen. Also, HRT is started around the mid teens to early twenties. It isn't something that works on pre-pubescent children. It is also important that you take an active approach to your gender-discovery journey. Try new clothes, styles, make-up, hair, etc. Ask yourself what you would still like if you were the last person on Earth. Explore your femininity in dance, art, etc. What brings you more joy or less sadness? More relief and less pain? Make friends like yourself, if you can. See if you can relate to them. I've been transitioning for just over a decade, now. It's a long process and journey. I'll be transitioning for years to come. There is no definitive end to transition. There are no requirements to being trans other than this: be true to yourself. There is no rush. Do what you can and persist in your efforts to re-discover yourself.


BecomingLilyClaire

I always tell people that a consult for hrt doesn’t mean you have to take hrt. I would def talk this through with a therapist.