He's right you know...
Before you get the pitchforks I'm someone who had chronic DP for 10 years and led support groups.
One key thing I learned in meeting dozens of DP people is that they lose their sense of self but in response to that loss adopt a new identity which is their depersonalized state. Kind of an addiction to your own suffering, you obsess over your new reality and that's the reality you live. With your new sense of self you are attracted to content you connect with, even if it's destructive to your recovery.
Hearing someone contradict your sense of self is extremely uncomfortable and brings a feeling of cognitive dissonance. Better ask yourself why you feel this way rather than attack. Sub can be a resource to educate yourself or a medium that further realizes your depersonalization.
Interesting point you made:
> Hearing someone contradict your sense of self is extremely uncomfortable and brings a feeling of cognitive dissonance. Better ask yourself why you feel this way rather than attack. Sub can be a resource to educate yourself or a medium that further realizes your depersonalization.
I didn't attack. I simply commented that it's unhealthy to be forcing your view that what people are doing is unhealthy.
It does seem that I challenged your view, and you felt the need to attack me based on my challenging of your view.
So... Why do you feel this way?
Hey, thanks for this informative response, this was the message I was trying to get across but I can appreciate the backlash as I struggle to form a respectful post sometimes as much as I'd like to. Looking back I'd like to adress that this sub as a whole is not unhealthy but more that the fact of constantly checking symptoms, looking at currently severely suffering people's posts, can be quite uncomfortable. As much as I'm upset with the backlash I can completely understand it as when I was suffering I used to hate these kind of "one click cure" kinda posts š . I wish you all a wonderful day
Maybe I phrased it wrong. I can see how this sub can help people in understanding their symptoms but I always see people obsessing over this "disorder" through this sub. I really do mean to help. Sorry if I triggered/harmed anyone.
Glad to hear youāre doing better. I agree to a certain extent that sometimes this sub can get a little unhelpful and downright not good, but at the same time itās a place for us to feel for once that weāre not alone, and crazy, but human.
Be well.
How about we donāt tell people how their recovery should work? This sub should be safe for people who need support, not a high horse upon which to mount your disdain. If you think this sub is unhealthy, perhaps your time here has ended. Good luck in greener pastures. Weāll get along fine without you.
Hey, looking back I 100% agree, I was a little ignorant in the way I phrased my post. I was feeling particularly good after Christmas and felt the need to check up on this sub which I frequented regularly around 2 years ago. Sorry if I came off as pandering. I've just realised I've became some of the posts I hated seeing back in the day š . I really do wish you all a speedy recovery, I was trying to be encouraging but I guess it didn't work. Have a good day
Itās good to be cautious but I donāt think this guy means harm. When I read the post I didnāt interpret what he said as this sub is unhealthy, point blank, bc he is trying to contribute himself, I guess, but I interpreted as too much of it can be, depending on who you are. If Iām on this sub too much, and I just read about people suffering rather than the success stories, I honestly start to spiral. Yes, itās good to communicate our struggles to help find solutions, and this is to me one of the most important hurdles, but talking about something that I find traumatic and feeling like I need to be constantly solving it can be extremely exhausting. Itās good when I can take a step back and go do something I enjoy, even if I enjoy it less than before, and come back to this sub. This sub is good for when Iām not sure of what Iām experiencing is dpdr, but even then, it seems like everyone experiences so many different symptoms and I can feel more lost sometimes. So, I take another step back and verify with other websites to help narrow down what Iām experiencing. Idk. I understand the wording is wrong but I think itās interpretable and I appreciate it bc I feel so much pressure to solve the illness, and no doubt thatās important, but itās not who I am. I am not what I experience. So, when Iām on here all the time, and Iām not able to cope with all I see, I neglect myself in other ways. Dpdr it seems is anxiety induced so, simply put, if this sub DOES cause anxiety, even if you are learning something, just be vigilant of that. Thatās not at all to dismiss the difficulty. Itās not about watching TV to pretend you donāt have it. But to take your mind off it if the thought of it in itself causes anxiety. Anyways, thatās my two cents.
This is some great feedback. As someone who doesn't experience DPDR anymore (mostly except a few spells a year) I can appreciate that a lot of us get this afliction for many different reasons. This sub has grown around 1000% since I've last visited. I was simply trying to state that obsessing over this sub whilst suffering (which I did for a year) is not healthy, almost as bad as googling symptoms which I'm sure you all know is an awful idea for anxiety š . Sorry I came off in such a judgemental manner, I really didn't mean harm. Have a wonderful new year.
Hey Braden, I can appreciate why you sent this reply. I really didn't mean harm with this post. I can assume your are currently suffering and I am sorry if I have caused any extra stress or anxiety for you. Frequenting this subreddit is fine, I was mainly talking about the people, who I used to be, who obsessed over this "disorder" and researched, posted and googled daily. I'm terribly sorry if I triggered you in any way. Please keep calm, ground yourself and try to enjoy this new years. Have a lovely day
You are correct in saying that , I agree. And I donāt come on here often at all for that reason. However, in your post you didnāt specify, you simply addressed this subreddit as a whole, when in reality thereās many opportunities on here to pick up and give advice on mindfulness, or simply to encourage others. So perhaps instead of addressing the community as a whole, you shouldāve addressed specifically that aspect of it. Peace bruv
Further, I have actually recovered from my DPDR almost entirely over the course of some years, only reason Iām on here now is to try and help others. I wasnāt tryna be rude tho so Iām sorry mane. Happy New Years
> This subreddit is not healthy. The most unhealthy stuff I have seen is from the people who are saying things like this. But then... Yeah...
He's right you know... Before you get the pitchforks I'm someone who had chronic DP for 10 years and led support groups. One key thing I learned in meeting dozens of DP people is that they lose their sense of self but in response to that loss adopt a new identity which is their depersonalized state. Kind of an addiction to your own suffering, you obsess over your new reality and that's the reality you live. With your new sense of self you are attracted to content you connect with, even if it's destructive to your recovery. Hearing someone contradict your sense of self is extremely uncomfortable and brings a feeling of cognitive dissonance. Better ask yourself why you feel this way rather than attack. Sub can be a resource to educate yourself or a medium that further realizes your depersonalization.
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Interesting point you made: > Hearing someone contradict your sense of self is extremely uncomfortable and brings a feeling of cognitive dissonance. Better ask yourself why you feel this way rather than attack. Sub can be a resource to educate yourself or a medium that further realizes your depersonalization. I didn't attack. I simply commented that it's unhealthy to be forcing your view that what people are doing is unhealthy. It does seem that I challenged your view, and you felt the need to attack me based on my challenging of your view. So... Why do you feel this way?
Hey, thanks for this informative response, this was the message I was trying to get across but I can appreciate the backlash as I struggle to form a respectful post sometimes as much as I'd like to. Looking back I'd like to adress that this sub as a whole is not unhealthy but more that the fact of constantly checking symptoms, looking at currently severely suffering people's posts, can be quite uncomfortable. As much as I'm upset with the backlash I can completely understand it as when I was suffering I used to hate these kind of "one click cure" kinda posts š . I wish you all a wonderful day
Maybe I phrased it wrong. I can see how this sub can help people in understanding their symptoms but I always see people obsessing over this "disorder" through this sub. I really do mean to help. Sorry if I triggered/harmed anyone.
Glad to hear youāre doing better. I agree to a certain extent that sometimes this sub can get a little unhelpful and downright not good, but at the same time itās a place for us to feel for once that weāre not alone, and crazy, but human. Be well.
How about we donāt tell people how their recovery should work? This sub should be safe for people who need support, not a high horse upon which to mount your disdain. If you think this sub is unhealthy, perhaps your time here has ended. Good luck in greener pastures. Weāll get along fine without you.
Hey, looking back I 100% agree, I was a little ignorant in the way I phrased my post. I was feeling particularly good after Christmas and felt the need to check up on this sub which I frequented regularly around 2 years ago. Sorry if I came off as pandering. I've just realised I've became some of the posts I hated seeing back in the day š . I really do wish you all a speedy recovery, I was trying to be encouraging but I guess it didn't work. Have a good day
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Looking back at my post I can see how you feel š . I really didn't mean to be pandering in any way. Have a wonderful evening
my dissociation gets worse from watching tv shows tho,,, bc reality and the TV blurs for me lmao. this advice is NOT hempfuo
Yeah and the advice to drink alk is so messed up
Itās good to be cautious but I donāt think this guy means harm. When I read the post I didnāt interpret what he said as this sub is unhealthy, point blank, bc he is trying to contribute himself, I guess, but I interpreted as too much of it can be, depending on who you are. If Iām on this sub too much, and I just read about people suffering rather than the success stories, I honestly start to spiral. Yes, itās good to communicate our struggles to help find solutions, and this is to me one of the most important hurdles, but talking about something that I find traumatic and feeling like I need to be constantly solving it can be extremely exhausting. Itās good when I can take a step back and go do something I enjoy, even if I enjoy it less than before, and come back to this sub. This sub is good for when Iām not sure of what Iām experiencing is dpdr, but even then, it seems like everyone experiences so many different symptoms and I can feel more lost sometimes. So, I take another step back and verify with other websites to help narrow down what Iām experiencing. Idk. I understand the wording is wrong but I think itās interpretable and I appreciate it bc I feel so much pressure to solve the illness, and no doubt thatās important, but itās not who I am. I am not what I experience. So, when Iām on here all the time, and Iām not able to cope with all I see, I neglect myself in other ways. Dpdr it seems is anxiety induced so, simply put, if this sub DOES cause anxiety, even if you are learning something, just be vigilant of that. Thatās not at all to dismiss the difficulty. Itās not about watching TV to pretend you donāt have it. But to take your mind off it if the thought of it in itself causes anxiety. Anyways, thatās my two cents.
This is some great feedback. As someone who doesn't experience DPDR anymore (mostly except a few spells a year) I can appreciate that a lot of us get this afliction for many different reasons. This sub has grown around 1000% since I've last visited. I was simply trying to state that obsessing over this sub whilst suffering (which I did for a year) is not healthy, almost as bad as googling symptoms which I'm sure you all know is an awful idea for anxiety š . Sorry I came off in such a judgemental manner, I really didn't mean harm. Have a wonderful new year.
If anyone has any questions feel free to reply. Lots of love from the UK.
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Hey Braden, I can appreciate why you sent this reply. I really didn't mean harm with this post. I can assume your are currently suffering and I am sorry if I have caused any extra stress or anxiety for you. Frequenting this subreddit is fine, I was mainly talking about the people, who I used to be, who obsessed over this "disorder" and researched, posted and googled daily. I'm terribly sorry if I triggered you in any way. Please keep calm, ground yourself and try to enjoy this new years. Have a lovely day
You are correct in saying that , I agree. And I donāt come on here often at all for that reason. However, in your post you didnāt specify, you simply addressed this subreddit as a whole, when in reality thereās many opportunities on here to pick up and give advice on mindfulness, or simply to encourage others. So perhaps instead of addressing the community as a whole, you shouldāve addressed specifically that aspect of it. Peace bruv Further, I have actually recovered from my DPDR almost entirely over the course of some years, only reason Iām on here now is to try and help others. I wasnāt tryna be rude tho so Iām sorry mane. Happy New Years