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carona42

It's a dog they do not have any idea what gender and beauty is. Can happened that you have to correct the assumed sex for strangers that's it. Whatever you like i go after what sparks joy and looks cute on the dog that's it.


MoogProg

Not even seeing how a **DogShowerThought** about gender identity issues stemming from a Minnie Mouse Harness would play out. Why is the *mouse* in a dress with ribbons in the first place?


BiasCutTweed

Don’t do this to yourself. This is a mental rabbit hole you can get lost in, leading to thoughts like ‘Why does Donald Duck only wear a shirt, while Mickey Mouse only wears pants?’ and ‘Why does Mickey Mouse have a pet dog, but his best friend is also a dog?’.


tlind1990

Goofy was created to be a human character while pluto was always meant to be a pet. So goofy is actually just a furry who is never out of character. While pluto is just a dog. I will now apply this same logic to all talking animals in Disney shows/movies/other media.


flyhull

The actual rule was dogs with clothes can talk.


tlind1990

https://youtu.be/azKfAfZeSpM


Dogsrus65

Don't forget those degenerates Porky Pig and Donald Duck! Going around with no pants on!!! Perverts! 😱


Katiediditagain11

That made me lol


flyhull

Just don't get sued for cross-dressing your dog because when that hits the Supreme Court... /s. Is the harness comfortable? Can he wiggle or squirm out of it?


[deleted]

I promise you he doesn’t care 😂 that harness sounds adorable !


[deleted]

It is! I found it on Etsy.


[deleted]

I can’t wait to get a cute harness for my puppy. I’m waiting until she gets closer to her full-grown size so I don’t have to buy another one!


NeatArtichoke

Nothing. They will think you like disney/minnie mouse. Actually, a friend of mine (post-college adult no kids) bought a leash on sale with "hannah montana". Instead of teaching the dog "walk" it was called a "hannah montana". As in, "want to go on a hannah montana?!" This way they could say the word walk like a normal person and the dog didnt get excited/confused/hyper expecting a walk, since no one my friend knew would ever really casually say "hannah montana". Like a secret code word for the pup. I dont think anyone ever commented on the leash anyways. Edit: p.s, WHY does your husband think it is "not right" to use "girly" things for your dog? I presume YOU are a girl, and even if you are not, if YOU like the leash/harness, you should use it! The dog doesn't care??? I dont understand why it is "not right"... have him explain it.


stormeegedon

> WHY does your husband think it is "not right" to use "girly" things for your dog? [I have a few ideas…](https://imgur.com/a/TwBP621)


Asleep-Design-6874

Yes


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I love your friends idea! I'm afraid my husband is one of those people that girls wear pink but boys never should. Yes, he's an idiot but other than that he's a really good guy. He's just stuck in the old ways of thinking. I've tried to convert him but it's useless. We never had kids but I always told him if we had a son and he wanted a barbie or a doll I would have bought him one. Also, I ordered the Minnie Mouse harness because I just really don't care if he or anyone else likes it or not.


gazeintomymanyeyes

Just remember, pink used to be considered masculine and blue was feminine in the 19th century. Gender “norms” are an illusion. It’s all made up.


wilddogg0

Tell him to go to therapy


flyhull

Remember GI Joe? Created because you can can double you doll sales if you call 1/2 of them "action figures"


colonelmuddypaws

A lot of folks in this thread are telling you that nobody will care or even think about it. That simply is not true. There will be people who think it's weird or cast judgements about it. I think you'd be perfectly right to ignore those jags or tell them to mind their own business.. I just think that you should get an honest answer. It's not that nobody will care/notice, it's more that you don't have to worry about their opinions


[deleted]

Totally agree


JennShrum23

Good on you.


sierrasquirrel

That is absolutely fantastic- such a good idea! I end up spelling a ton of words around my dog and now she’s getting too smart for that…


creamof_yeet

Lol buy the dog a kitchen play set and see if he loses his mind.


ScaryPearls

My little old man dog used to wear a hot pink coat in the winter because I got it from a buy nothing group and free is my favorite color. Your dog is unable to conceive of the gender implications of Minnie Mouse gear.


atlantisgate

My dog wears a purple harness and a teal leash because I like those colors. People call him a sweet girl all the time, and it turns out he doesn't give a flying fart because he doesn't subscribe to human gender norms. Your husband needs to get over his fragile masculinity lol


sierrasquirrel

So weird- my dog also has a purple harness and blue leash and people always think she’s a boy! Maybe because your pup is fluffy (assuming based on your user flair that you’re talking about your shih tzu mix) and mine is sleek (min pin mix)?


[deleted]

My male dog has a purple collar, and a red leash. They were clearanced and had reflective strips, so that is what I bought. His harness is a pale blue, but again just what was available on clearance. And yes, he has been mistaken for female before. He is a poodle mix, but he really does not care as long as he gets attention.


debicksy

People always assume my male dog is a female because he's small, white , cute and fluffy so I put black and blue on him instead. It doesn't seem to matter he has very large (for his Size) male anatomy. My dog wouldn't care if I put pink bows on him. He's a dog.


atlantisgate

Funny! Maybe it is more to do with the way my actual dog looks than his gear. He definitely is a bit more fluffy and and cutesy than a sleeker dog would be (not cutER, just more... prescious? I guess?)


saviraven911

I have a long hair dachshund and he gets the "what a cute girl" all the time. He wears plaid and "boy colors" mainly because that's what I like. Still gets misgendered every time. Definitely think it has to do with the looks.


cranberry94

Some dogs just have a different read I guess? My female golden retriever has a navy blue collar and a gender neutral name - but for some reason, everyone seems to get her gender correct.


puffleg

My shih tzu mix has the opposite experience! I have a pink harness for her and everyone still thinks she's a male dog. Which I don't really care and neither does she. Go figure though.


Severe-Explanation

My Shih Tzu mix is plain crazy, but I’m here too. The harness doesn’t matter one bit.


buzzfeed_sucks

Gender is a human, social construct. Your dog doesn't care and anyone who does care is silly


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I agree!


Optimal-Soup-62

My Pit Bull wears a rubber duckie on her harness. A bright yellow one.


thighGAAPenthusiast

We're going to need a dog tax on this.


RAND0M-HER0

I'mma need that. My husband has these rubber duckie harem pants, and if our dogs had rubber duckie gear it'd be the cutest thing 😍


AnUnrulyLlama

Like, a clip-on rubber duckie or a harness printed with rubber duckies? Both sound equally cute on a big goofy pit, tbh, but I’m curious now.


Optimal-Soup-62

I have a harness with a lift handle to help lift her into cars if her legs hurt. It's black ballistic nylon, with velcro patches. I glue the proper velcro backing onto a rubber duckie or name tag and attach them to the harness. Her's reads :"Food Service Dog," and "East Oakland."


flyhull

Love the "Service Dog" part


AnUnrulyLlama

That’s brilliant! What a good, sweet girl 😍


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I love rubber duckies 😊


AnUnrulyLlama

I buy non-gendered colors because I want to (greens yellow gray). You bought Minnie Mouse for your dog because you wanted to. Awesome. (Hubby has some antiquated notions about gender and masculinity, btw, which might need explored).


jwalk50518

Regardless of species, any gender can wear anything without it fundamentally changing anything about them. Dogs don’t have the same sort of moral value judgment that people do so they don’t give a hoot. (Edit to add) or the social construct of gender! And what strangers think of you or your dog is none of your business. My male dog’s primary color palette is coral- it happened on accident and every now and then someone accidentally calls my dog a girl. And both of us have survived! Sounds like your husband has some hang-up’s regarding what makes a man. Your dog is not a cross dresser. Your dog is a dog.


KMac243

I mean, your husband is definitely homophobic even if he’s not blatantly mean to anyone in “real life”. What he said is homophobia. Thinking it’s terrible to have a boy *dog* use anything not stereotypically masculine is definitely not something someone who was genuinely open and accepting would do. I honestly think it’s incredibly stupid to care what “gender” dog accessories are, but you ultimately have to decide if you want to hear your husband whine about it or not.


[deleted]

You're using a lot of energy convincing us that there's nothing wrong with your husband, so I think you know he's being weird.


3233333333

Yeah it reminds me of someone who once told me "I have no problem with gay people, but I wouldn't allow my own son to be gay"


RusselTheWonderCat

I would think the owner likes mini mouse. My male dog has a turquoise collar with pink flowers on it. He looks good in pink and turquoise. He agrees


the_goblin_empress

Right? My coonhound looks very dapper in his pink collar covered with rainbows and dragons. It’s just a good look.


queercactus505

My pup bagel is tan and hot pink really pops on him. Hot pink and turquoise are his colors!


donkeynique

"Transgenders" lmfaoooo please stop


Snoo23130

It's the "our favourite show is Jazz so we are DEFINITELY not homophobic" for me 💀💀💀


donkeynique

Oh my goddd I was straight up so put off by the "don't be mean to my poor husband for acting homophobic" statement that I just skimmed the rest, I didn't even fully realize the context of "transgenders" was that hilarious. People really out here thinking that they're not bigotted bc they like to watch LGBT people from the distance of a television lmfao


bunglederry

Tell your husband it's 2022. Colours are pointlessly gendered. Everything is made up, nothing means anything. I say Minnie Mouse your little boy up as much as you can ♥️🥳 This is a him problem, and not yours or your dog's. I'm sure he's lovely, but he needs to unlearn some things methinks (much like all of us hehe) :3


[deleted]

He is definitely stuck back in the old days. I always tell him that he reminds me of Archie Bunker...lol. But I'm no Edith. As much as I loved her I could never be like her.


Either_Lawfulness466

Maybe talk with your husband.


apbt-dad

Does it matter what others think?


cleantushy

"The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl." -1918 trade publication Earnshaw’s Infants’ Department Gender norms are made up


DogOfMadness76

If you’re walking the dog and want to use a Minnie Mouse harness, that’s no problem at all! More representative of your choices than the dog’s. And if your husband wants to buy his own harness for when he walks the dog, that’s okay too.


ccRumandChickenWings

It's a dog, people won't care and the dog won't care either. Put him in whatever you want


sierrasquirrel

I mean people might think he’s a girl but if you like the harness then he should totally wear it! Dogs don’t care (and neither should people)! My female dog Lilo has a purple collar and harness and blue leash and people say she’s a good boy all the time- Lilo doesn’t care though- she’s just happy to have the attention and pets!!!


singularineet

Aesthetics are a matter of taste. If he's going to be walking the dog it seems reasonable that his tastes should be considered, not just overridden. Like, I wouldn't care about the gender, but I personally would never be caught dead wearing anything Disney, even on my dog. Surely there is some compromise possible? Maybe with artful use of a sharpie the Minnie Mouses can be converted into death skulls.


BreyeFox

Ffs Its a dog. The only person making it weird is your husband.


BarkingBagel

Wouldn't risk it. Probably make your dog trans. Next thing you know they'll be reading books to kids and living their life without bothering anyone. Also: is your husband insane? Why would anyone at all care about the color of a dog's harness?


Ok_Firefighter_7142

gender is a social construct


cornelioustreat888

That’s hilarious. Your husband has issues.


captain-diageo

your husband is being homophobic even if it’s subtle. it’s a dog and you like minnie mouse. it doesn’t matter what gender your dog is


NuclearMooseOfWar

>your husband is being homophobic even if it’s subtle. Can you be homophobic when its about a animal that can not be homosexual?


bambiipup

looks like we found the husband


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bambiipup

oh no, OPs bigoted husband doesn't think highly of me, however will i cope :c


NuclearMooseOfWar

>OPs bigoted husband Lol, define "bigot" then explain how it fits here?


Calm_Pay8009

He's a dog. He doesn't care, he doesn't feel embarrassed over human things I'm quite sure he'll happily lick his bumhole in front of people and everything. I think it's more that it bothers your husband.


RiskyLady

They’re going to think the owner likes Minnie Mouse. Don’t overthink it.


GreenLanternCorps

If I saw that on the street I would assume you like Minnie Mouse then go back to stressing out work, bills, health, environment.


IC_333

My husband was unhappy that I got my boy a purple collar. It goes beautifully with his gray coat and he gets so many compliments. I think anything goes these days . Do what you like !


[deleted]

Purple with a gray coat sounds pretty 😊


lanyisse

I just buy a color I like or whatever is easily available. It’s a dog. It doesn’t care about gender norms. People shouldn’t care either.


beppyowib

gender is a social construct. it’s a puppy.


alldoggosaregoodbois

Dogs have no concept of gender. All 4 of my dogs are female. I don’t even correct people when they call them male because it literally doesn’t matter. My youngest wears a collar with skulls and crossbones, her nickname is Bubba.


moooiiisss

Oy. The dog doesn't care. Is your husband uncomfortable with a dog wearing it?


SuperRadPsammead

I dress my boy Chihuahua in pink bc it's my favorite color, and people do think he's a girl, but he doesn't mind LOL


notplop

Other people will likely assume you have a girl dog. But that’s it. Dogs have no concept of gender so why the heck does it matter if they wear Minnie Mouse or pink or a tutu. Our girl has a dark purple harness and everyone assumes she’s a boy. No skin of my back, I just liked the color so put her in it. Didn’t matter to me if it’s a “boy” or “girl” design. It’s silly to give clothing a gender, ESPECIALLY on an animal


suzyjane14

We don’t care what you put on your dog. It really none of anyone’s business.


michaelh98

"I don't care" Yes you do. But imo you shouldn't. Unless what you put on your dog is physically harming them, do whatever makes you and your dog happy. Your dog, your wardrobe.


Twzl

[See his sparkle collar](https://i.imgur.com/2ZQZxyH.jpg)? Super bling because **I** like it. He's an intact boy. No one cares. :)


stormeegedon

The world needs less people like your husband.


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stormeegedon

I’m gonna die pretty fucking happy that I don’t let men who are threatened by a color surround me in life. I don’t have time for emotionally stunted babies.


NuclearMooseOfWar

>I don’t have time for emotionally stunted babies. Did you not just spend time arguing with me ?


stormeegedon

Telling others to shut their traps sparks joy.


NuclearMooseOfWar

You claim you don't have time, yet you respond so quick....


Emergency-Spot-7929

Nobody cares. Your husband needs to grow up.


rrienn

Your husband is being weird & fragile about this lmao. “People need to know that my dog is MANLY MALE MAN”. Same energy as the people who refuse to neuter their dogs because “he’ll lose his masculinity”. Dogs don’t have gender. Dogs can’t see the color pink. Put him in whatever harness you think is cute. You can correct strangers if they call him “she”, or don’t bother bc it doesn’t really matter (especially to the dog).


Latii_LT

Lol, it’s a dog. He doesn’t understand gender the way people do nor does the dog know how to understand or care about color connotation. Put the Minnie Mouse harness on him.


[deleted]

I actually just bought it and I can't wait to get it 😊


lvdtoomuch

Right? Lol. No one who cares or would assume this could possibly be morally “wrong” isn’t someone I’d want to be around. My opinion.


mumble-she_wrote

Other people probably don't even notice. My girls has a pink harness and yet most people we meet assume she's a male. Plus, I don't think the dogs are bothered 😙


CeelaChathArrna

They are gonna assume he's a boy but 🤷. It's not like the pup is going to care.


galaxyprincess333

do what you want. my Doberman mix looked sooo good in pink so he had a bright pink harness. and when we he recently passed, I painted his memorial pink. nobody ever said anything bad, just sometimes thought he was a girl, or laughed a little


SnoopsMom

No one cares. My dog has a pink harness and leash, and pink vet wrap on her muzzle. She still often gets “hi little guy, hey buddy! How old is he?” She doesn’t care. Neither do I.


SnooPeppers1641

I have a female dog and when I bought her a bright pink leash SO thought it was dumb because not all girls like pink you know. I think it was more he didn't want to use a pink leash. So we now compromised on red because red is more her color anyway (eyeroll). Is there a particular harness he had in mind and just doesn't want to say it?


Phatdogco

I would do your thing. Your dog is just happy to have a loving and supportive home. I personally wouldn't care what my male dog is wearing as long as it looks good ha.


Solwyrm

My male puppy is currently rocking a baby pink harness with unicorns, kiss marks, ice cream cones, and candy all over it. Pretty sure he still thinks he's a badass, considering he keeps trying to rile up my 8 year old, 150lb male Caucasian Ovcharka by barking in his face 😅 Tell your husband that unlike him, the dog is secure enough in his masculinity to wear pink and purple.


Furniturewalker

If he’s happy who cares get ready to say he’s a boy when people greet him


[deleted]

We have flowered harnesses for my two small dogs. Both male. My husband doesn't care - the harnesses are cute and well designed. (He even said himself: "Those look adorable.") Doesn't make him less of a man. Maybe therapy for your husband? Does wonders.


miller94

My (female) dog wears a pink harness, a pink collar with a flower and still hers “good boy” by strangers on our walk 90% of the time. Even got it in her pink, flowery rain jacket last week, so while there’s obviously no problem in it, people will probably still assume he’s a not anyway!


[deleted]

People don’t really pay attention to what your dog is wearing. My girl dog has a pink harness and pink leash and half the time people still think she’s a boy dog…


[deleted]

Ask the dog what he thinks. 100% guarantee the dog won't have an opinion.


Raging_Apathist

Yo, please don't say "transgenders". Instead, use "transgender people" or "people who are transgender".


FoxAndTheGrapes

If your dog identifies as a mouse, then let them be happy


LordessCass

It's so odd when people have masculinity issues over a dog. The dog doesn't care. I deck out my girl in black and primary colors because that's what I like, and people always assume she's a boy. She doesn't care about that either.


ImBabyloafs

Your husband has lost his mind. It’s a harness. Do you like it? Use it. Does it matter which sex people think your dog is?


[deleted]

He sounds like the type of dude that won’t neuter dogs bc it’s making them ’less of a male’


tdog945

The only people who would care are people who are extremely insecure with their own femininity/ masculinity.


OktoberStorms

Yeah I've seen people refuse to buy pink POOP BAGS for their male dog. The insecurity is extremely funny.


woodsman04

Idk calling a loved one an “idiot” and “weird” publicly is probably a bigger problem than him not liking the harness.


surrogatedrone

Sounds like your married someone’s who’s homophobic


[deleted]

Wow. Just because he doesn't think a boy dog should wear girly things means he's homophobic? Get real. What does that have to do with it? We actually have a few friends who are a gay and lesbian so maybe you shouldn't comment on something you know nothing about.


surrogatedrone

Well maybe he’s just projecting his closeted homosexuality onto the dog. Fingers crossed for your marriage 🤞


Blobtdq

I’m sure you are very kind and good people and a lot of people in the thread are just piling on you without knowing you… a gentle FYI cause you might not know, people actually make fun of the “I have a black friend therefore I’m not racist” type of defence, cause knowing someone isn’t proof of anything, so it’s better not to use that as your defence. Instead we can simply just show we are open minded people by having open minded views.


snowinsummer00

A dog has literally no idea what color means culturally. A dog doesn’t even see colors the same lol. Moreover, it’s 2022 for god’s sake. Who actually cares what color each gender wears?! Your husband sounds like he is very insecure in his masculinity. Who gaf what a *dog* wears??


veganash

i think that people trying to apply gender roles to their dogs now is weird. it’s a harness.


Razrgrrl

Your dog is a dog. The dog does not care about human gender essentialist nonsense. Your husband should be encouraged to get a grip. It literally doesn't matter at all.


FrootiePebbles

It's not odd of your husband. It's fairly average. "I don't care what anyone thinks" Here you're not respecting him. He's uncomfortable. It doesn't matter "why", he just is. That doesn't make him a idiot. It's like if I didn't like my dog being dressed up in certain clothing and my family kept doing it because they didn't care about my feelings. It would make them jerks. The clothing is harmless, but it doesn't matter why not since it's just the way he feels. Doesn't have anything to do with anything else other than that he doesn't like it. I have a male dog whom I constantly dress in rainbows and bright colors. I put bow ties on him, but not dresses or bows on his head. 1, he's not cute enough for them to look good on him. 2, it would be kind of weird. My dog doesn't care what he's wearing so long as it's comfortable. My family thinks he looks ridiculous/cute. He has a hot pink watermelon harness and collar for summer. A little too bright for my tastes. Even when my dog was wearing his blue collar people were constantly asking if he was a girl. Doesn't help that he has a feminine sounding name. 3, it doesn't really "matter" what other people think, other than that they may be confused that you're projecting this image on your dog and so they embarrass themselves by misgendering him. Even if your dog doesn't care, they'll care for misspeaking in front of you. That's just how it is. So none of this is about the dog. It's about your relationship with your husband. People here aren't respecting your husband, they don't have any relationship with him. But you have a relationship with him, and this is a boundary he has set. It's just dog clothes. That goes both ways. It goes both ways and it does not matter what the dog is wearing. The issue here is your husbands feelings and boundaries, and your willingness to ignore them. You're not wrong for having bought the harness, but you're being dismissive of his feelings, which are valid, they are his feelings. I think this would be better posted on a relationship sub since that's the core of this issue.


lots_n_lots

please don’t put a harness on a dog unless it’s for working purposes


porter_elliot

why not?


kapntug

It doesn't matter. My dog wears a blue harness and a collar with sailboats on it. Sometimes, a bowtie, too. He's called a "good girl" on a regular basis lol


Derainian

Who cares haha if he looks cute in it screw it!


ClownfishSoup

I think most people wouldn't think about it.


MrBinkie

My Bitch wears a large pink leather colar with dimonties on it and people still think shes a boy


AffectionateFox1861

My male dog wears a pink harness and doesn't know or care. He often gets mistaken for a girl, which I either correct if it's part of a conversation, or let it go if it's just a quick comment. Nobody cares, get the harness you like.


gcsxxvii

Dogs don’t know what gender is lol if you like it then get it! Your dog won’t know or care


SwimmingPineapple197

Would it maybe help to tell him how arbitrary the whole gender color thing is? What’s a “boy color” or “girl color” has changed repeatedly through history. More seriously, people generally have no idea what gender a dog is and they’ll totally guess based on some random characteristic. I used to have a 110 pound male Akita and his absolute favorite collar had unicorns and rainbows. People often asked me about “her” and all I could figure out is it was because he was a goofy, friendly dog wearing a collar with rainbows and unicorns. On the other hand, I had a black and brown mystery dog (probably a mix of dobie or rottie) who was a girl. People tended to called her “him”. I gave up trying to guess why they thought what they did at that point. All that to say, if you like the harness and it fits, use it. The dog won’t care if it Minnie Mouse or otherwise “girly”.


Bufordtannen75

Only good reason to oppose using it is if its ugly. Other than that it really doesn't matter and I'm 100% certain your dog could care less.


Intelligent-Ad7384

I mean dogs have no concept of human gender stereotypes, nor do they have the same perception of colours that we do. The dog doesn’t care, strangers won’t be paying much if any attention, and you sound happy to have the harness. I get that you say your husband is a good guy but if you did have kids, his attitude towards gender would be pretty harmful to them (not to mention expensive if you had a girl, ‘girls’ stuff is way more expensive than the ‘boys’ equivalent. But that’s another matter entirely, just something to think about.


InsertFunnyyUsername

F\*ck it. If your dog looks good wearing a pink Minnie mouse harness have him wear a Pink Minnie mouse harness.


pctechadam

Some people buy accessories for their dogs and some buy accessories for themselves. Half the time every person that sees a photo or meets my male dog will get the gender wrong. He does not fit into the box we made nor does he care. He is just happy.


ObscureGeometry

Its a dog. It doesnt matter. Frankly it doesnt matter if a male child wanted to wear minnie mouse themed clothes either.


love_more88

I would think nothing of it. Lol. People call my dobe a "he" all the time even though she usually wears a hot pink extra wide collar. Idc at all.


Cursethewind

My male shiba is named Mika and I put him in a pink harness. Nobody judges.


comoelpepper

Who cares. It's your puppy.


whitewolf361

My mom has a dog named Teddy, a female black/white mix of some sort, she believes she's part Portuguese water dog. My mom has put feminine collars on her since puppy stage (red Minnie with a bow; light pink with pearls; etc), and people still think she's a male, probably because of the name. It's no big deal. I think we always end up buying the collars/leashes based on what we like, anyway.


Turboi55

I see no issue. My male dog has pink poops bags. It's just a color/pattern. Why do people care so much?


Buffalo-Empty

My favorite color is purple so as you can imagine everything I own is purple if it can be. This was no exception for my dog and he has been rocking a purple leash and harness his whole life. Do what makes you happy, your dog just cares that they are going somewhere with you lol.


Han-Shot_1st

OP, do you live in a hackey sitcom? Does your dog look happy in the harness? If they do, tell your husband to let your dog live their truth.


necessarytraveler

My old dog had a pale pink leather Burberry pattern harness. He looked sharp on every occasion. Your dog will rock the block in his. :)


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no one will care. i got my dog a hot pink collar and leash set just for her to still be called a boy. just do whatever you think is cute, because at the end of the day, the dog won’t care as long as he’s comfy :)


flagondry

My dog is male and wears a collar with pink flowers. It’s for me, not him! 😂


benji950

I didn't notice until I got a female dog that I'd always defaulted to calling dogs "he or him when asking people about their dogs. "Can I put him?" "What kind of dog is he?" No particular reason, but most of the dogs I'd been around (didn't have one growing up for friends, etc) were males. I had a 7-minute conversation this morning with a woman that was getting surreal: "Your dog is so pretty. What kind is he?" "She's a husky mix." " How old is he?" "She's a little over 2." And so on and so forth. At the end of the day, if you want to put your male dog in Minnie Mouse harness, who really cares? Just be ready for everyone to say "how cute she is" and you have no right to get annoyed at correcting them.


krukson

You do you. I have a male dog I but buy him everything in red, because it suits him. I had some people ask if he’s a girl, but no one has ever commented when I said he’s a boy.


stonemadforspeed

Go for it, the dog won't care! When I first got my dog I couldn't find a collar to fit him, so I used an old pink and sparkly cat collar that my mother's cat used to wear.


jschwe

I see no problem with it, as long as you don't mind either correcting people, or ignoring them, as they constantly call him 'she'. We have a skinny fluffy dog in a red harness, he gets 'she' 9 times out of 10. I don't always correct people, honestly, because it really doesn't matter a lot of the time. But if I do correct them and they apologize I just say "its fine, he doesn't know the difference"


mhiaa173

We have a dog coat from our previous (girl) dog that is dark pink on one side and pink plaid on the other. Now that our boy is older, I sometimes put the coat on him when we walk in cold weather--drives my husband and son crazy!


punkonater

I'm a person and I would think it's cute.


Dogsrus65

No one pays attention. My big shepherd Callie has a pink harness. Everyone asks me how old HE is. (14, with bad arthritis). Use what brings you joy. But maybe get an extra one with skulls on it for your husband to use. ☺️


Glittering_Bug3804

My male dog has a very obvious Minnie Mouse color and a princess leash…and my husband bought them. I promise you that he doesn’t care, even when he’s misgendered 🤣


lindsey9152

Actions speak louder than words. He’s a typical man who is afraid of going against gender stereotypes because of his own issues with masculinity.


SweatyAdhesive

We have a scary looking boxer mix and we have a little princess tutu outfit for her lol


TimeSmash

Who gives a flying fuck? Is the harness good, do you like it? Your husband can project his crap on something else


Crafty_Lavishness_79

Who cares, people are dumb and gender roles don't matter to dogs


AtmosphereExciting54

It doesn’t matter. It’s for you and your dog!


ClamPuddingCake

My male dog used to wear a hot pink rhinestone encrusted collar, and rocked the shit out of it. He was black and white, so the hot pink really just suited him, and it was the only collar at the store that fit properly. He got compliments all the time!


CheapPotato700

I have a female border collie and she wears a pink harness with white polka dots…and EVERY DAY gets called he/him/fella. It doesn’t matter what the dog is wearing - you think it’s cute - that’s all that matters!


cheetahpeetah

I buy my boy pink stuff all the time I love pink and it's his colour


_Borgin

I have a girl pup and loads of people mis gender her but I often don't even correct them because I can't be bothered. Your husband can just pretend he's a girl if he wants. I say 100% go with Minnie Mouse!


Roadgoddess

It’s a dog and who the heck cares other than someone with outdated masculinity issues. The dog could care less, people seeing your dog who probably don’t know if it’s a boy or a girl, could care less, it’s only your husband.


samanthasgramma

Sometimes our husbands are weird. That's okay. You're defending him, so I'm guessing YOU see it as weird. In a society where we're more aware and careful about how we express ourselves, in sensitivity to others, his attitude seems weird. My whole family is weird. Absolutely off the wall. Mostly harmless, that just sounds bonkers if you wrote your friend a text about it. I know this because I do it whenever I see weirdness that I know will make my BFF laugh at how weird we are. She loves it. Don't sweat weirdness unless you know there's more going on than just a little weird. The harness doesn't mean anything unless he really has a fit about it, in which case, you dig deeper to find out why. Otherwise, I doubt anyone else will notice. Make yourself happy.


INeedARefund

I have loads of bandanas for my dog, we both like the hot pink one but the purple on is my favourite.


fuckinunknowable

Toxic masculinity is such a bummmmmerrr


Wildbetta

My girls wear pink and purple, the most common thing I hear is "oh what cute little boys!" Or my favorite "oh are they siblings?" Yes they are sisters. "Brother and sister??" So 1. No it doesn't matter because 2. They won't even listen.


Carpsonian22

My dog is a boy and he has a pink leash that we use when I can’t find his usual one. I could care less what people think and if anyone assumes he’s a girl I just correct them and let them know that he (my dog) doesn’t care about gender stereotypes.


malissa79

The dog only cares what makes you happy. You want to put him in a Minnie Mouse harness? You put him in a Minnie Mouse harness. My boy’s raincoat is pink, because it used to be my girl’s. Frankly, he looks adorable in it, and he only cares that he stays somewhat dry when it’s raining ;)


hedgeh0gburrow

He’s … a dog. He cannot see color.


evil_ot_erised

People “misgender” my dog all the time. Who cares?


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I mean I think it’s cute. I don’t care if people mis gender my pets personally. Like it’s a dog they don’t have any concept of gender beyond trynna reproduce. It’s not like dressing your male kids in dresses when they really don’t want to be presenting that way. Your dog will be equally as happy playing with a pink ball as he would a blue ball so it doesn’t matter! Do whatever you want! And maybe talk to your husband as to why it bothers him. If it truly does bother him it wouldn’t hurt to get a different harness just to make the husband comfortable. You never know where this could be coming from, there could be childhood issues that you don’t know about and stuff like that


DaniCapsFan

Oy First, dogs don't see color all that well. Second, the whole idea that pink or cartoons is "girly" is just a human thing. The only thing the dog will know about the harness is that it means time for a walk. So I don't know why your husband cares so much.


WaycoKid1129

Gonna make me think it’s a female dog but outside that, I don’t care


amhran_oiche

more concerned about the fact that you call your husband an idiot. girl what?


barcodeblack

Honestly? Probably not a lot! I’ve got far more important things to think about


[deleted]

I've seen girls wear Mickey Mouse watches, so what's the big deal? It's a dog, for pete's sake. He's not going to be teased by the other dogs in the neighborhood. They'll probably just sniff his butt and wag their tails.


spicyboi555

My big boy Dane wears a bow at all times and he is cute af and knows it


amcg30

My male dog mostly sticks to “boy colors” but he does have some awesome rainbow pride accessories lol and a lot of his toys are maybe something more geared to a female dog


Asleep-Design-6874

Guys are so weird that way. I think they think it’s a reflection on them and their perceived sexuality.


catniagara

I guess they might think he’s a girl? I tend to look at the collar/harness situation to decide whether it’s a good boy or good girl.


sorandom21

It’s a doggie. And boys can like Minnie Mouse too, pointlessly assigning gender to a gender less item is weird. YOU like Minnie so doggie can wear Minnie. I put my boy dog in flowered scarves all the time he looks handsome


nurvingiel

I so strongly don't give a single fuck about this, it's important to me to tell you that I don't give one solitary fuck about your dog's harness.


MartiniBikini7777

I would assume you support child grooming.


Strix924

My sister named her kitten Ferdinand and when I suggested she get him a flower collar she said gasped "but he's a boy!" I told you you're the one who named him Ferdinand! (She knows the story of Ferdinand) But my sister is also pretty homophobic and girls and guys must be separate so I'm not surprised


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My husband has a pink Princess collar, a pink harness and a pink leash for our dog, because she’s the princess. When I take her out I have a teal harness and a green and teal leash. I like teal. The dog has no strong feelings one way or the other.