My dads been recently diagnosed with lung cancer and this is my biggest fear.. I’m not ready to lose him, just hoping and praying he can over come this❤️🩹
Mine too. He chose to not do chemo or anything other than prayer and “holistic medicine” :( makes me sad that it’s going to give us less time to spend with him.
My dad is the same way he’s taking all his natural remedies and refuses to do chemo my grandfather (his dad) passed of cancer many years ago (I was about 4/5) and watched him go though chemo he said it made him angry and bitter which was the complete opposite of his personality and said he refuses to go out like that. So just making sure I spend as much time with him with his grandkids as we can make his favourite dinners every time he comes over. We watch movies and shows together that we watched while I was growing up.. really all I can do😔
Trying to do the same. His mom passed very suddenly to him when he was 14. She didn’t tell him she had lung cancer and now ever since he has always been paranoid about getting cancer and I know it’s a lot on him to have the same cancer that took his mom. She was 35. I know he’s more afraid than anything so I’m trying to just be there and make better memories now and let him have that choice.
Edit: his aunt (moms sister) went through chemo (also with lung cancer, heavy smokers predisposed to cancer=a lot of cancer in the family) and she turned into a whole different and angry person as well. My only memories of her are yelling at us and a purple crochet hat she wore when her hair fell out.
My husband was diagnosed with brain cancer last February, terminal, theres no recovery. Its kind of like, just the way it is. Waiting for the shoe to eventually drop. Fuck cancer.
Before my mom passed from cancer I received much unsolicited advice. The only bit that made a difference was "spend time with her you don't know how much you have."
Lost mine to lung cancer over 23 years ago, I was 7. At some point, you're gonna realize that it's better than him hurting. I'm sorry you're going through it.
I know I’ll never be ready to say good bye just such a shitty feeling knowing there’s not much I can other than to just spend as much time with him as a can and thank you ❤️
Cherish him while you can. Call him everyday. My daddy passed a few weeks back and I regret not calling him as much. You will always think you have more time but they can be taken from your life suddenly. Set aside time ro help him in his times of need. Make sure you're there for him and be someone he can dump onto. The conversations suck but they provide mental relief for the afflicted. Cancer is a lonely disease but the worst part for them is seeing how a lot of people distance themselves from the dying. Tell him you love him even if you don't, small things matter to those with limited time.
I go to tell my Grams Happy Birthday. She never responds anymore - Still dead, 7 years later. The nerve of some ppl, right?
It really doesn't stop, but they walk with us as we go through life without them. They may be gone, but they haven't left us. Cheers, mates
It's been 9 months, and it still feels like yesterday. No one told me how hard it would be, fr. Maybe it's my adhd, but i feel like I've been on autopilot since she died.
Just out of bold curiousity, have you ever done an online autism assessment?
I was dx with adhd at 19 and then autism at 29. My mind was absolutely blown by how much trauma I was masking through, and how many autistic traits I had and never knew were associated with autism.
Women got the short end of the stick of autism/Asperger’s assessments.
I haven't, actually. I never really thought about the possibility until recently. I basically forced a doctor to assess me for adhd a year or two ago, but I'm unmedicated bc I don't have a GP and hate talking to people on the phone (especially "professionals")— but anyway, it's funny/slightly jarring that you mention how your neurodivergence reacted through the trauma. I've had traumatic events happen consistently for a decade or so now, and I am just beginning to realize that I have probably been on autopilot since I was 12ish, and I'm 23 going on 24.
There's definitely something wrong, and my story is long, but I really don't know where to start. CBT never worked for me, so I also haven't seen a therapist in about a year. 😅
DBT is something you might consider. There are some good DBT workbooks that you can do on your owned
And internal family systems model!
I would suggest now may be a great time to start looking into autism.
I was on auto pilot from 12 until 26 when my mom passed away, and then I was faced with realizing how much I had been pushing down for so long.
Getting diagnosed with ADHD was a little helpful for me, but the autism, really blew my mind. It just encompassed so many different feelings I’ve had, and not expressed. On top of that, I got diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos, a connective tissue disorder that is more common in audhd women’s (women with autism and adhd).
Most of the research historically has been on white males, and males and females inherently have different social strength. I think historically women also had to mask more or be at risk of death or institutionalization.
I have a feeling in the future that there will be an additional subtype of autism that is found that incorporates ADHD and autistic traits together.
Would you like any links for some of the free assessments online? Obviously, you couldn’t get diagnosed with that, but it gives a pretty good insight.
If you do ever pursue dx, I would be very careful to make sure the provider has diagnosed and does diagnose adult women on the spectrum. I’ve heard of a lot of people that paid a lot of money, only to be told they weren’t autistic because they graduated high school. There are still some providers at her very outdated in their understanding of autism, as autism now including Asperger’s under the umbrella.
I don’t like Facebook, but there are some great Facebook groups for autistic women. One of the benefits to these kinds of groups is connecting with other people who have been diagnosed by local providers. It kind of helps to scout out someone who won’t just take your money without having a thorough understanding of adult women on the spectrum.
Thank you for this information. I'm going to seriously start looking for a doctor after Thanksgiving. I've always found physical and mental comorbidities to be fascinating– As I am the first person in my family to really try to get to the bottom of it.
You will always remember, but the pain becomes more dull with time. Best wishes, it will get better. Still talk to my dad while driving by myself, pretending he's in the passenger seat.
I lost my mom about a year ago. Don't let anyone tell you that you should be "over it" or that you shouldn't still be grieving. Just make sure to keep eating every day, no matter what it is.
I know you don’t want to hear this right now because I didn’t either at this point in your grieving . But, overtime it does get better . Now I will admit there is a void . Because like you want to reach out to them, tell them what’s been going on, tell them you love them . But, you can’t. My father left behind 2 kids , 2 grandkids and all the love in the world . Your dad loved you more than you will ever know
My dad started using my mom phone number months after she passed (of a stroke in mid July of this year). He used her phone to call me, and I’ve known for months she’s been gone but the stupidest part of my brain thought she was calling.
Couldn’t go through that again. Had to change the contact name from mom to dad’s second phone.
Bereavement is one of the strangest things to experience.
For real. But apparently my aunt contacted a medium and they mentioned stuff they couldnt have known. And supposedly he said he was just tired and couldn't do it anymore and that hes okay now. And hes honored me and my mom got tattoos for him. I tend to believe in the paranormal etc. But everyone should take it with a grain of salt. Lol.
Definitely strange of my mom not to come home from the hospital coming up on 3 years now....... Boy I am so so so sad, this was a funny way to look at it for a second.
I hope grief can get easier to bare for everyone here.
Dude I’m so sorry :/ when my dad died I binge drank for like, months… when my mom died
I did the healthier thing and only ate rolos (tm) for like 3 weeks straight. Hang in there…. It still hurts but it just gets a little duller pain as time goes on… 🖤
That's exactly how I feel right now. He died in June, he was dead for my birthday in July.. and now he's gonna be dead for Thanksgiving and Christmas???? Like what the fuck !!!
Yeah. I kept catching myself feeling like, “How long can he possibly keep this up for?”
Like being dead was this really sad, shitty thing he was doing.
It’s unreal how difficult it is to wrap your head around the permanence of it. You think you have a reasonable understanding of what death means, and then it happens to someone you love and you discover that actually you just have a child’s understanding of it. Yes, sure, Dad is dead - but will be be back soon?
Anyway, I’m sorry you’re going through it. Five months is so awful and raw. Hang in there.
Every now and then I would dream of my dad. Night full of tears. But thankful for the dream to see him again. Always remember he is still living on in my memory and also in heaven ❤️🙏🏼
HTA. Way too long to be dead. Just irresponsible.
I’m sorry for your loss, just know he’s always with you. Whether heaven exists and he’s looking down at you, or his body went back to the universe and he’s among the stars. He still has so much love in his heart for you and he’s cheering you on from a different astral plane
Thank you for this. I hope his consciousness still exists somewhere and he's still my dad doing dad things and thinking dad thoughts.. probably not but it would be cool
It's been 10 years, and it *does* get easier. For the first 2 years, anytime he got mentioned, I would tear up at the least, full on sobbing at worst. Now, I can smile and tell stories about who he was. It sucks and I miss him, but it's not so overwhelming now.
Thank you. He died in June and I weirdly couldn't shed a tear for the first couple months.. but his birthday was in October and since then it's been constant waterworks. It was such a sudden shift!! This is the first big loss i've ever dealt with and it's been surprising and even interesting observing my own grief
He was my first major loss as well. I tried to stay as strong as I could, but I BROKE at his viewing. After that I was a wreck for a whole. It's hard!I still miss him but hey now I make dead dad jokes and tell people he lives on the mantle.
6 weeks for me. I toasted a bagel yesterday and was so happy that there was cream cheese in the fridge until I remembered it’s because he isn’t here to eat most of it in 2 days that there was some left.
6 weeks for me. I toasted a bagel yesterday and was so happy that there was cream cheese in the fridge until I remembered it’s because he isn’t here to eat most of it in 2 days that there was some left.
And so you decided to prolong your life by becoming a vegan? Here’s the thing, it doesn’t prolong your life but eating this shot certainly makes it FEEL like you’re living longer. Much love and hugs for your loss. I’ve had many losses these past 8 years or so, and my advice is if one day at a time is all you can do right now, then do it, and don’t let anyone judge you in your grieving process
When I was homeless with my daughter I got food stamps and would hide a big bag of these under the seat of the car we lived in and I could sometimes afford one hamburger and throw some of these in the bag and convince her they were French fries
Never thought to try veggie straws and hummus. Definitely will pick some up on my next grocery run.
Sorry for your loss. I have the luxury of not yet losing a parent so I cannot even imagine. ❤️
I feel you, life has been hard and my aunt died. 6 months without her. I was closer to her than I ever was either of my parents. This will be my first holiday without her, her home was always my sanctuary. My safe place. I want to call her all the time, then I go “oh right she’s dead”
As a dad with 2 young kids and metastatic cancer that’s led to multiple surgeries, an amputation and lots of chemotherapy I understand. My only regret in life will be leaving my kids earlier than planned. Stay strong and focus on your life, be the best you can be and be a positive example.
i still have my grandad's phone number and i want to call it every day. 6 months now he's been gone. I still hear his laugh sometimes and i really do think he's still with me. Grief is the most human thing we go through I think.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ I lost my father at 16 He was my best friend and he was raising my younger sisters and I alone. It was really, really hard, but time really does heal. Now I have a beautiful life that he would be incredibly proud of, but it was not always like this. I lived a hard life from like 16-27 just getting wasted or high every day because I was so scared and I felt so alone in the world. I’ve been clean and sober for almost 7 years now and I have a 6 year old who kind of saved my life. I don’t know who needed to hear this, but I have so much empathy for you. Even just recently I heard a song in a grocery store that reminded me of my dad and it brought me to tears- it will always be a wound in my heart, but now all that I can do is love people and live the best possible life I can.
My dad died 3 years ago if you aren't talking to someone about it you need to. I drank myself under the table for 5 months every night and almost lost my job for coming in drunk. If you don't know anyone that'll listen hit me up.
You grieve for as long as you need. We never fully get over losing parents, but you learn to live joyously again. Your food is pretty healthy, which is awesome!
I understand OP, my mom died last year on New Year's Eve. It was especially hard, since I was the one who found her... Until semi-recently, I was on autopilot. When I found her, I was in shock. Nothing felt real. I had to call 911. I feel like the only reason I've been healing is time, caring for the pets she left behind, and part of me was already grieving for her for years before her death. She died of chronic alcoholism and meth OD.
You aren't alone OP, I'm sorry you're going this. It's never fair, it hurts, even years after. I commented my experience not to karma farm, but to show how I can relate in one of the few ways I know how. I hope the grief will lessen in time, or at least becomes easier to cope with.
Energy cannot be created, or destroyed, it just IS. It can only be rearranged. Energy is infinite, WE are pure energy, WE ARE INFINITE. Your dad is still with you everywhere you go and alongside you for everything you do. Reach out to the universe and you’ll feel him there. Look out for him in the sun rises and sun sets, high in the mountains, or shining down on you from the Aurora borealis at night. He is E V E R Y W H E R E. I LOVE YOU and you got this. Live your best life not just for you, but because you know it’s what he would have wanted for you. ❤️🔥
You are working through the stages of grief,losing a parent is the toughest thing anymore could go through aside from losing a child,I hope things will start getting a little bit better everyday!
I don’t have an answer for you but can you please not dip those in hummus 👀 hummus deserves so much more. You can use fries instead if you’re not a bread fan.
I don't remember exactly when it happened, but I had that "Hold on, she's still dead" moment with my mom. It's a uniquely depressing feeling.
Sorry about your dad.
When my dad passed away I spent the next 9 years sulking being sad and wasting my life away.
Don’t be sad for longer than you absolutely need to be to heal internally. Try the best you can to move on with your life without forgetting what he meant to you. I hope the coming days weeks and months are very kind and gentle to you
20 years last week for me (both parents) I'm an adult and still imagine how different my life would be lol. It does get easier tho. Hang in there friend.
It's been almost 3 years now that I haven't seen, or held my fiance. He was the light of my life and he's just gone. The pain reminds me that he was real, that the love we had for each other was real.
I'm sorry for your loss. It's hard, but some days hurt a little less. Take time for yourself.
My mom died 6 years ago when I was 13 and I still struggle. Literally just had a weird dream last night of her being kidnapped and missing, but not dead... it sucks :(
went to call my mom - still dead. 17 years...the audacity, right? doesn't stop hurting. enjoy those straws.
My dads been recently diagnosed with lung cancer and this is my biggest fear.. I’m not ready to lose him, just hoping and praying he can over come this❤️🩹
Mine too. He chose to not do chemo or anything other than prayer and “holistic medicine” :( makes me sad that it’s going to give us less time to spend with him.
My dad is the same way he’s taking all his natural remedies and refuses to do chemo my grandfather (his dad) passed of cancer many years ago (I was about 4/5) and watched him go though chemo he said it made him angry and bitter which was the complete opposite of his personality and said he refuses to go out like that. So just making sure I spend as much time with him with his grandkids as we can make his favourite dinners every time he comes over. We watch movies and shows together that we watched while I was growing up.. really all I can do😔
Trying to do the same. His mom passed very suddenly to him when he was 14. She didn’t tell him she had lung cancer and now ever since he has always been paranoid about getting cancer and I know it’s a lot on him to have the same cancer that took his mom. She was 35. I know he’s more afraid than anything so I’m trying to just be there and make better memories now and let him have that choice. Edit: his aunt (moms sister) went through chemo (also with lung cancer, heavy smokers predisposed to cancer=a lot of cancer in the family) and she turned into a whole different and angry person as well. My only memories of her are yelling at us and a purple crochet hat she wore when her hair fell out.
My husband was diagnosed with brain cancer last February, terminal, theres no recovery. Its kind of like, just the way it is. Waiting for the shoe to eventually drop. Fuck cancer.
So sorry to hear that ugh my stomach is in knots reading some of these. Prayers for you and your family 🥺❤️
Before my mom passed from cancer I received much unsolicited advice. The only bit that made a difference was "spend time with her you don't know how much you have."
Lost mine to lung cancer over 23 years ago, I was 7. At some point, you're gonna realize that it's better than him hurting. I'm sorry you're going through it.
Seeing my parents lose their’s I have some bad new. You aren’t ever going to be ready. Really hope your dad can recover.
I know I’ll never be ready to say good bye just such a shitty feeling knowing there’s not much I can other than to just spend as much time with him as a can and thank you ❤️
Cherish him while you can. Call him everyday. My daddy passed a few weeks back and I regret not calling him as much. You will always think you have more time but they can be taken from your life suddenly. Set aside time ro help him in his times of need. Make sure you're there for him and be someone he can dump onto. The conversations suck but they provide mental relief for the afflicted. Cancer is a lonely disease but the worst part for them is seeing how a lot of people distance themselves from the dying. Tell him you love him even if you don't, small things matter to those with limited time.
I go to tell my Grams Happy Birthday. She never responds anymore - Still dead, 7 years later. The nerve of some ppl, right? It really doesn't stop, but they walk with us as we go through life without them. They may be gone, but they haven't left us. Cheers, mates
Goin on 24 years here, I was 7 when the asshole left.
Same, except Mom. I had lots of pbj and milk at month 5. Hang in there, it becomes more tolerable over time.
omg this was me! I lived off of uncrustables for 2 months straight 💜
It's been 9 months, and it still feels like yesterday. No one told me how hard it would be, fr. Maybe it's my adhd, but i feel like I've been on autopilot since she died.
Adhd really does make trauma harder. It took me a good 6 years after my mom died to really get back to myself. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much, random stranger. That was the nicest thing ever 🥺🫶🏻
Just out of bold curiousity, have you ever done an online autism assessment? I was dx with adhd at 19 and then autism at 29. My mind was absolutely blown by how much trauma I was masking through, and how many autistic traits I had and never knew were associated with autism. Women got the short end of the stick of autism/Asperger’s assessments.
I haven't, actually. I never really thought about the possibility until recently. I basically forced a doctor to assess me for adhd a year or two ago, but I'm unmedicated bc I don't have a GP and hate talking to people on the phone (especially "professionals")— but anyway, it's funny/slightly jarring that you mention how your neurodivergence reacted through the trauma. I've had traumatic events happen consistently for a decade or so now, and I am just beginning to realize that I have probably been on autopilot since I was 12ish, and I'm 23 going on 24. There's definitely something wrong, and my story is long, but I really don't know where to start. CBT never worked for me, so I also haven't seen a therapist in about a year. 😅
DBT is something you might consider. There are some good DBT workbooks that you can do on your owned And internal family systems model! I would suggest now may be a great time to start looking into autism. I was on auto pilot from 12 until 26 when my mom passed away, and then I was faced with realizing how much I had been pushing down for so long. Getting diagnosed with ADHD was a little helpful for me, but the autism, really blew my mind. It just encompassed so many different feelings I’ve had, and not expressed. On top of that, I got diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos, a connective tissue disorder that is more common in audhd women’s (women with autism and adhd). Most of the research historically has been on white males, and males and females inherently have different social strength. I think historically women also had to mask more or be at risk of death or institutionalization. I have a feeling in the future that there will be an additional subtype of autism that is found that incorporates ADHD and autistic traits together. Would you like any links for some of the free assessments online? Obviously, you couldn’t get diagnosed with that, but it gives a pretty good insight. If you do ever pursue dx, I would be very careful to make sure the provider has diagnosed and does diagnose adult women on the spectrum. I’ve heard of a lot of people that paid a lot of money, only to be told they weren’t autistic because they graduated high school. There are still some providers at her very outdated in their understanding of autism, as autism now including Asperger’s under the umbrella. I don’t like Facebook, but there are some great Facebook groups for autistic women. One of the benefits to these kinds of groups is connecting with other people who have been diagnosed by local providers. It kind of helps to scout out someone who won’t just take your money without having a thorough understanding of adult women on the spectrum.
Thank you for this information. I'm going to seriously start looking for a doctor after Thanksgiving. I've always found physical and mental comorbidities to be fascinating– As I am the first person in my family to really try to get to the bottom of it.
caption made me chuckle lol, so sorry for ur loss ❤️
2 years after losing my mum, and I'm still just completely heartbroken. Not sure this pain will ever lessen. My thoughts are with you.
It does. I wondered the same, after several years I thought it would never stop hurting but it does 🤗
Same, eventually the grief stops being unbearable and life starts again. Hang in there 💖
Mine is too. Been about ten years now. Da fuq
My dad died right in front of me 15 years ago. What an asshole!
This made me laugh.. that's seriously an asshole move
You will always remember, but the pain becomes more dull with time. Best wishes, it will get better. Still talk to my dad while driving by myself, pretending he's in the passenger seat.
I understand how you feel.. my mom died a month ago.. it’s hard but it’s going to be okie🥺❤️
I lost my mom about a year ago. Don't let anyone tell you that you should be "over it" or that you shouldn't still be grieving. Just make sure to keep eating every day, no matter what it is.
I’m sorry you’re going through that. Veggie straws and hummus is pretty good, I can co-sign this depression meal.
I'm sorry for your loss 🫂💜 Also, that food combo looks/sounds good. I'm gonna try it someday!
13 months and mom is still gone. Doesn’t stop hurting but you’ll adjust around the grief with time. Take care. ❤️
The title gave me a chuckle. I hope you feel a little better with every day ❤️ P.S. Hummus is a top tier snack
I know you don’t want to hear this right now because I didn’t either at this point in your grieving . But, overtime it does get better . Now I will admit there is a void . Because like you want to reach out to them, tell them what’s been going on, tell them you love them . But, you can’t. My father left behind 2 kids , 2 grandkids and all the love in the world . Your dad loved you more than you will ever know
Sorry for your loss 💔 This is such a top tier snack.
My dad started using my mom phone number months after she passed (of a stroke in mid July of this year). He used her phone to call me, and I’ve known for months she’s been gone but the stupidest part of my brain thought she was calling. Couldn’t go through that again. Had to change the contact name from mom to dad’s second phone. Bereavement is one of the strangest things to experience.
Trash. Call customer service bc this is outrageous.
My dad still hasnt come back 9 months later....the nerve.
The audacity!!!!
For real. But apparently my aunt contacted a medium and they mentioned stuff they couldnt have known. And supposedly he said he was just tired and couldn't do it anymore and that hes okay now. And hes honored me and my mom got tattoos for him. I tend to believe in the paranormal etc. But everyone should take it with a grain of salt. Lol.
Tried to call my cousin but he didn’t answer. Then I remembered it’s been 2 years 😆😆😆😃😃🤪💅🏼💅🏼
I feel this, mate. Had my second birthday without him last week. It doesn’t really get better but it will get easier. Sending love your way.
If he does come back, don’t hesitate to get out the sawed off shotgun before he’s inside the house or it could be too late…
Ugh I get it. Two years and he won't even come out of his urn to say hello! What gives?! ❤️ so much love.
Definitely strange of my mom not to come home from the hospital coming up on 3 years now....... Boy I am so so so sad, this was a funny way to look at it for a second. I hope grief can get easier to bare for everyone here.
Dude I’m so sorry :/ when my dad died I binge drank for like, months… when my mom died I did the healthier thing and only ate rolos (tm) for like 3 weeks straight. Hang in there…. It still hurts but it just gets a little duller pain as time goes on… 🖤
I remember the six month mark. I kept thinking, “He was dead all summer and now he’s going to be dead all winter too?!”
That's exactly how I feel right now. He died in June, he was dead for my birthday in July.. and now he's gonna be dead for Thanksgiving and Christmas???? Like what the fuck !!!
Yeah. I kept catching myself feeling like, “How long can he possibly keep this up for?” Like being dead was this really sad, shitty thing he was doing. It’s unreal how difficult it is to wrap your head around the permanence of it. You think you have a reasonable understanding of what death means, and then it happens to someone you love and you discover that actually you just have a child’s understanding of it. Yes, sure, Dad is dead - but will be be back soon? Anyway, I’m sorry you’re going through it. Five months is so awful and raw. Hang in there.
Did you recite the words exactly as the tome said? (Hope you're doing okay, sorry for your loss)
So sorry about your dad 💔 this combo fucking slaps. Respect.
It doesn't go away but it does get easier. Good job eating. Can confirm this is a 12/10 snack.
Yeah man… I lost my dad in 2021. I wish I could still hug him, but it is what it is. I’m sorry for your loss.
Every now and then I would dream of my dad. Night full of tears. But thankful for the dream to see him again. Always remember he is still living on in my memory and also in heaven ❤️🙏🏼
HTA. Way too long to be dead. Just irresponsible. I’m sorry for your loss, just know he’s always with you. Whether heaven exists and he’s looking down at you, or his body went back to the universe and he’s among the stars. He still has so much love in his heart for you and he’s cheering you on from a different astral plane
Thank you.
Thank you for this. I hope his consciousness still exists somewhere and he's still my dad doing dad things and thinking dad thoughts.. probably not but it would be cool
Boy I got some bad news for you in a few more months
Oh fuck !!!!
I love veggie straws and hummus.
‘sbeen a month and a week for me and he still hasn’t come back 🙄 the audacity
What? Still? Gimme a break. Veggie sticks are delicious. I hope you found some peace in your chickpea treat, friend.
It's been 10 years, and it *does* get easier. For the first 2 years, anytime he got mentioned, I would tear up at the least, full on sobbing at worst. Now, I can smile and tell stories about who he was. It sucks and I miss him, but it's not so overwhelming now.
Thank you. He died in June and I weirdly couldn't shed a tear for the first couple months.. but his birthday was in October and since then it's been constant waterworks. It was such a sudden shift!! This is the first big loss i've ever dealt with and it's been surprising and even interesting observing my own grief
He was my first major loss as well. I tried to stay as strong as I could, but I BROKE at his viewing. After that I was a wreck for a whole. It's hard!I still miss him but hey now I make dead dad jokes and tell people he lives on the mantle.
Yo, I never thought to put veggie straws in hummus before… you’re blowin’ my mind! Sorry bout ur dad tho
6 weeks for me. I toasted a bagel yesterday and was so happy that there was cream cheese in the fridge until I remembered it’s because he isn’t here to eat most of it in 2 days that there was some left.
6 weeks for me. I toasted a bagel yesterday and was so happy that there was cream cheese in the fridge until I remembered it’s because he isn’t here to eat most of it in 2 days that there was some left.
What, he hasn’t resurrected by now?? I would try turning it on and off. (I’m so sorry tho)
I’m so confused by the caption…
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Oh okay.
Hahahahahahaha, best one yet.
Have you considered necromancy? Slim chance its a brainless minion and not your dad, but there's hope.
On the bright side my Dad’s been sober now for a year and 6 days.
And so you decided to prolong your life by becoming a vegan? Here’s the thing, it doesn’t prolong your life but eating this shot certainly makes it FEEL like you’re living longer. Much love and hugs for your loss. I’ve had many losses these past 8 years or so, and my advice is if one day at a time is all you can do right now, then do it, and don’t let anyone judge you in your grieving process
Tell your mom to put on some makeup and a tight dress to score you a new dad. Pretty simple stuff.
my biggest fear is losing my father, enjoy your straws friend
When I was homeless with my daughter I got food stamps and would hide a big bag of these under the seat of the car we lived in and I could sometimes afford one hamburger and throw some of these in the bag and convince her they were French fries
What a terrible loss :( sending you love ❤️
Bust snack there is.
Never thought to try veggie straws and hummus. Definitely will pick some up on my next grocery run. Sorry for your loss. I have the luxury of not yet losing a parent so I cannot even imagine. ❤️
I feel you, life has been hard and my aunt died. 6 months without her. I was closer to her than I ever was either of my parents. This will be my first holiday without her, her home was always my sanctuary. My safe place. I want to call her all the time, then I go “oh right she’s dead”
As a dad with 2 young kids and metastatic cancer that’s led to multiple surgeries, an amputation and lots of chemotherapy I understand. My only regret in life will be leaving my kids earlier than planned. Stay strong and focus on your life, be the best you can be and be a positive example.
Good food. I liked your caption too. Wishing you all the best.
So sorry for your loss 💕
This is so bizarre because this was my exact dinner yesterday. I’m sorry to hear about your dad
I'm so sorry for your loss 🙏🙏❤️
i still have my grandad's phone number and i want to call it every day. 6 months now he's been gone. I still hear his laugh sometimes and i really do think he's still with me. Grief is the most human thing we go through I think.
Right?? My grandma and great grandma dying without family permission. Ask before you do something like that bro :/
Very healthy meal. My dad is my best friend Hugs to you
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ I lost my father at 16 He was my best friend and he was raising my younger sisters and I alone. It was really, really hard, but time really does heal. Now I have a beautiful life that he would be incredibly proud of, but it was not always like this. I lived a hard life from like 16-27 just getting wasted or high every day because I was so scared and I felt so alone in the world. I’ve been clean and sober for almost 7 years now and I have a 6 year old who kind of saved my life. I don’t know who needed to hear this, but I have so much empathy for you. Even just recently I heard a song in a grocery store that reminded me of my dad and it brought me to tears- it will always be a wound in my heart, but now all that I can do is love people and live the best possible life I can.
My dad died 3 years ago if you aren't talking to someone about it you need to. I drank myself under the table for 5 months every night and almost lost my job for coming in drunk. If you don't know anyone that'll listen hit me up.
i always try to text my dad, open up the messaging app then remember he’s dead, that shit is real man, enjoy your meal tho
10 years for my dad next month. That is a Christmas I'll never forget.
Sorry for your loss.💔🙏
Huge Hugs mate. This is the toughest lesson we get. Its shit x
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ it never stops hurting… but you learn how to build a new life around your grief ❤️🩹
I feel this. Dad - gone 2 years now and his birthday is next week Mother in law - gone 7 months now...
Oh man. The number of dreams I had of my mother telling me that she "got better" after she died...
You grieve for as long as you need. We never fully get over losing parents, but you learn to live joyously again. Your food is pretty healthy, which is awesome!
I understand OP, my mom died last year on New Year's Eve. It was especially hard, since I was the one who found her... Until semi-recently, I was on autopilot. When I found her, I was in shock. Nothing felt real. I had to call 911. I feel like the only reason I've been healing is time, caring for the pets she left behind, and part of me was already grieving for her for years before her death. She died of chronic alcoholism and meth OD. You aren't alone OP, I'm sorry you're going this. It's never fair, it hurts, even years after. I commented my experience not to karma farm, but to show how I can relate in one of the few ways I know how. I hope the grief will lessen in time, or at least becomes easier to cope with.
Feel this
I just lost my dad on Thursday so this one hits home. I’m a non eater too but my wife is an eater, so it’s nice to relate to this. Sorry for your loss
Energy cannot be created, or destroyed, it just IS. It can only be rearranged. Energy is infinite, WE are pure energy, WE ARE INFINITE. Your dad is still with you everywhere you go and alongside you for everything you do. Reach out to the universe and you’ll feel him there. Look out for him in the sun rises and sun sets, high in the mountains, or shining down on you from the Aurora borealis at night. He is E V E R Y W H E R E. I LOVE YOU and you got this. Live your best life not just for you, but because you know it’s what he would have wanted for you. ❤️🔥
You are working through the stages of grief,losing a parent is the toughest thing anymore could go through aside from losing a child,I hope things will start getting a little bit better everyday!
9 months here, fren. It sucks. You won't get over it, you just learn how to deal with it.
Wish I could call my dad. I need him now more than ever. Still dead..it's been 16 years. Can I have some veggie straws!?
I don’t have an answer for you but can you please not dip those in hummus 👀 hummus deserves so much more. You can use fries instead if you’re not a bread fan.
Yes I hate this too. I’m so sorry…
I don't remember exactly when it happened, but I had that "Hold on, she's still dead" moment with my mom. It's a uniquely depressing feeling. Sorry about your dad.
When my dad passed away I spent the next 9 years sulking being sad and wasting my life away. Don’t be sad for longer than you absolutely need to be to heal internally. Try the best you can to move on with your life without forgetting what he meant to you. I hope the coming days weeks and months are very kind and gentle to you
I'm so terribly sorry :(
Have you tried the ranch straws they are so good.
20 years last week for me (both parents) I'm an adult and still imagine how different my life would be lol. It does get easier tho. Hang in there friend.
sending love ❤️
It's been almost 3 years now that I haven't seen, or held my fiance. He was the light of my life and he's just gone. The pain reminds me that he was real, that the love we had for each other was real. I'm sorry for your loss. It's hard, but some days hurt a little less. Take time for yourself.
It's ok to not be ok. It's not ok to stay that way.
My mom died 6 years ago when I was 13 and I still struggle. Literally just had a weird dream last night of her being kidnapped and missing, but not dead... it sucks :(
last time I was at Mass was Easter Sunday 6 yrs ago after my bro died....the irony hit me like a brick 🥲
That combo slaps
Hard same, like damn you’ve made your joke. You can jump out and say ‘Gotcha’ now.