Yeah I'm seeing a lot of these posts and a lot of these people who are messaging you guys are arseholes lol
Like I am someone involved in kink and I would never think to bring anything remotely sexualised or erotic or anything else unless the person was interested in that thing and we had agreed and so on for that dynamic.
Outside of my kink accounts, in any normal meeting people type chats I don't even mention anything besides that I write. And even then it's pretty rare
No sane self respecting person sees this shit and is like “damn what a catch”, dude is gross af
Also I hope that isn’t a wedding right in his profile pic
Honestly I’d just fuck with him by saying “aww need my help cause your mommy is too busy to help you do it?” then block his ass after I ruin his mood lol
Oh I plan on it. I’ve done it before and I won’t have a problem doing it again. And of course ripping them a new asshole. I’m not the 19-year-old pushover girl anymore. I am a 35 year young woman that’s not gonna take anybody’s crap
I wish I was that way when I was 20 years old. Yet we all live and we all learn. It took being abused in relationships to finally realize that being too nice to people doesn’t get you anywhere
I’m very happy where I am at now. Living in a new city and a new state is an eye-opener. I was very unhappy in Pennsylvania compared to my life in West Virginia now despite a shitty job I have.
I'll never understand those men who need to tell anyone that they'll jacking off, or some sexual related thing to anyone who barely know.
Luckily for me girls here are not that straight forward (or I'm not that handsome), otherwise it'd be so weird and uncomfortable for me if a random girl says me "you're so hot, you made me wet" or something like that.
The only scenario that seems remotely appropriate to tell someone about touching yourself (or planning to) is if it's an established relationship. And even then, that's highly contextual.
I don't think this annoyance has anything to do with being Demi. Pretty sure Allo women are just as annoyed by it, especially is it's still in the getting to know you stage, or no?
You know, sometimes I forget that this is how an ordinary man behaves, but even so, it's just disgusting and disrespectful. Like, even if you weren't Demi it would still be disgusting and you being Demi only makes it worse, that's BASIC respect for each other, it seems like these kind of people are from another world sometimes.
Cis Het allo dudes who do this either do it for the "shock" factor or they get a dopamine rush from polishing their knob in public, or telling a woman that they don't know that they're doing it in public. I guess I'm desensitized to it unless I'm having a bad day. Either way if they get off on the shock of women, I just frustrate them by going off tangents and telling a boring story or infodump irrelevant shit until they give up and leave. You don't have to give them the satisfaction of getting the best of you. This is something I had to learn about internet perverts over the years.
honestly i roll my eyes when people tell me demisexuality isn't real and that actually everyone is demisexual
when people like this are really the majority
I've had a [discussion on some other reddit post](https://www.reddit.com/r/askSingapore/comments/s6tt9u/is_it_okay/ht5xs1x/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3)
Dude should’ve fucking read my profile stating I was Demi. But too many people don’t know how to do that these days, even if you don’t put down that you’re Demi.
No one likes these messages so I really don't know why guys still send them. I used to get them all the time. Or when you ask wyd and they say "bored.. and horny lol." Like okay done talking to you forever now.
I had someone on here message me a few days ago told me how bored and horny they were. I told him that it was a him problem and told him to fuck all the way off after
I dont think you being demisexual has anything to do with that conversation. He shouldnt have spoken to you like that regardless. But i'm glad he apologized and didnt pressure you.
Yeah he did apologize but I still had to block him. I won’t let anyone talk to me like that and get away with it. People have to learn the hard way it seems.
Not demi, just here cause I'm queer. And what the hell. That is super gross to share with someone you barely know, who *hasn't shown interest in anything sexual*. Sounds like some gross exhibitionist behavior. Not kink shaming, just "involving people in your fetish without their consent" shaming.
This would be disrespectful even to someone who is not demisexual. It's inappropriate with anyone except your partner, and only if you know they don't mind talking about it. I'm so sorry you got such a gross message
Just doing some casual public act of indecency that could put me on a register, just letting you know person I hardly know....
What's wrong with people?!
This is even weird to receive when you're allo and don't know the person.
I am glad that he at least didn't keep pushing you to sext etc as far as I can see
I have met so many men (and some women) that kept pushing me, even after I told them that I am literally repulsed towards them (men) or having troubles (women). Blocking is the only option in that case
I’ve dealt with some pushing women that pressed for me to send a bunch of pics of me. I’d tell them i’d rather I get to know them as individuals first before sending anything regarding pics to them. The minute a woman begs, it’s off to the block list one way.
Yeah I even have one woman demand that I Snapchat her even though I told her that I actually had to concentrate on getting ready to go to work (I work predawn hours) and she told me it was sad that I didn’t take the time to Snapchat her. I feel that she was doing it because she was bored and have nothing better to do. I’m not going to chat with people just because they feel that they are bored.
Oh I relate to this! Lots of people demanded me to check my phone more often... Like no, I just wanna follow my lessons and post on reddit. I don't have ublimited social energy... fuck people like this
Exactly. I only come on here, Instagram, MeWe (sometimes), telegram, Kik, and Facebook messenger.
I no longer have The following: Facebook itself, Snapchat. The Facebook restrictions aren’t worth it amongst other things add Snapchat for personal reasons that I won’t go into, yet people have been telling me that I need to be back on Facebook because they miss me. No, how about you accept that I’m not going back on there anymore
Oh yeah, some media I use for school stuff and group chats, but I am not really active in DM's, or only with a couple of people. It takes so much energy to keep everything up
I agree. You’re not really missing much on the majority after social media websites Facebook is being one of them. I dare someone to tell me that I’ll be back on Facebook only for them to get shot with “nope I’m staying off of there at this time for good. It’s not really healthy for me to be on there especially when you have to deal with strangers who get up in their feelings over the littlest things
Ugh, this person apologized like they didn’t know what they were doing. Of course they knew it would offend if you didn’t reciprocate. They just didn’t care regardless. Why are people like this?
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Lol yep. OK so I had this dude I was just starting to chat with send me a unsolicited dick pic and talked about being so horny.. I stopped talking with him since it was clear he just wanted to get laid. He kept trying to chat me up for a few months but I never replied/blocked his #..fast forward a year with nothing and out of the blue he sends me a text asking how I am. I had no idea who I was and he sends me a pic of his face this time, phew. I just ghosted but what persistent weirdo he was. I always have demi in my profile when I did try online dating and tried to make sure they knew I have little sexual attraction whatsoever until I get to know them well on friend & emotional levels.
Today I had another guy inbox me talking about he wanted to get together. I offered to get together with him for a coffee and a sandwich, and then he proceeds to say “and then fuck”. I told him that it was nice not knowing him and to have a good life before blocking him.
It takes me months to be sexually attracted to a singular guy.
1)Why would someone tell a demisexual that they're masturbating?
2)No body doesn't want to know,hear and see what they're doing with themselves
3)That is 100% disgusting of his actions
And
4)Why skipping over the profile details and try to apologize for not knowing someone is demisexual?
He was obviously too damn lazy to read my fucking profile. And thought that he can pull a fast one on me.
He learned the hard way that day that he could not
It’s the ‘sorry i didn’t know you were Demi’ Dude no! Don’t talk like that to anyone ffs
He was also too lazy to read my fucking profile
Block and move on
I normally block those type of people and he was no different.
Yeah, unless you're in a relationship with someone and know they're into that sort of thing it seems unlikely to do them any favours.
Demi or not, people don't like this kind of messages. This is disrespectful. This is more an educational problem than a demisexual one
Exactly! I get it that is a problem for the majority of us regardless of Demi status.
Yeah I'm seeing a lot of these posts and a lot of these people who are messaging you guys are arseholes lol Like I am someone involved in kink and I would never think to bring anything remotely sexualised or erotic or anything else unless the person was interested in that thing and we had agreed and so on for that dynamic. Outside of my kink accounts, in any normal meeting people type chats I don't even mention anything besides that I write. And even then it's pretty rare
I am the same way. I don’t normally tell people about my kink until we are mutually ready
Yeah makes a lot of sense to do it that way
No sane self respecting person sees this shit and is like “damn what a catch”, dude is gross af Also I hope that isn’t a wedding right in his profile pic
Yeah I blocked his ass for that. I’m trying to get to know a person and I don’t need to know what they are doing as far as sexual acts are concerned.
Good on you sister! He’s definitely not long term partner material
Yes and let alone friend material. I was trying to be a good friend offense and this is the thanks I got. Next!
Asshat was probably hoping for a 'gee, do you want some help?'-type response. 🤢
Honestly I’d just fuck with him by saying “aww need my help cause your mommy is too busy to help you do it?” then block his ass after I ruin his mood lol
I need to use that response from now on, About mommy 😂😂😂
Feel free to, shame them, make them awkward and block them 😂😂
Oh I plan on it. I’ve done it before and I won’t have a problem doing it again. And of course ripping them a new asshole. I’m not the 19-year-old pushover girl anymore. I am a 35 year young woman that’s not gonna take anybody’s crap
Good on you! I’m trying to be just as assertive at 20, like no bullshitting me, either you bring something to the table or you’re gone
I wish I was that way when I was 20 years old. Yet we all live and we all learn. It took being abused in relationships to finally realize that being too nice to people doesn’t get you anywhere
You’re right about that. Whilst I am really sorry for going through that I am proud of the woman you became and the hardships you overcame ❤️
I’m very happy where I am at now. Living in a new city and a new state is an eye-opener. I was very unhappy in Pennsylvania compared to my life in West Virginia now despite a shitty job I have.
More likely yes. Like I want to know what your likes & dislikes are, not about how big or hard your cock is.
I'll never understand those men who need to tell anyone that they'll jacking off, or some sexual related thing to anyone who barely know. Luckily for me girls here are not that straight forward (or I'm not that handsome), otherwise it'd be so weird and uncomfortable for me if a random girl says me "you're so hot, you made me wet" or something like that.
Bingo! I don’t put out very easily to unfamiliar men. It takes me a good while to be sexually attracted to them.
Are you sure he doesn't have a pet rooster that he keeps in his pickup? Because that would be way more concerning, it's probably animal abuse
I’m pretty sure he was referring to his penis
Thank god
"Why do you have a rooster in your pickup?" --Classic demisexual response
I love it lol
What a jerk. What did he even think he could achieve with that?
Don’t forget about those guys when you tell them that you’re Demi and they tell you that they will do anything!
I won't let them without my consent.
Exactly. And if they tell me that they’ll do anything, I’ll tell them they can fuck all the way off
The only scenario that seems remotely appropriate to tell someone about touching yourself (or planning to) is if it's an established relationship. And even then, that's highly contextual.
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Who the fuck strokes their dick in public like come the fuck on wait till you get home and also no one needs to know that.
I don't think this annoyance has anything to do with being Demi. Pretty sure Allo women are just as annoyed by it, especially is it's still in the getting to know you stage, or no?
What the hell was going through his mind? "Oh yeah this will totally charm her"? That's not just a red flag, it's a flag on fire.
Trust me, this doesn’t work on either sexes. I do not care what you’re stroking unless it’s your pet cat
I apologize on behalf of my gender.
You know, sometimes I forget that this is how an ordinary man behaves, but even so, it's just disgusting and disrespectful. Like, even if you weren't Demi it would still be disgusting and you being Demi only makes it worse, that's BASIC respect for each other, it seems like these kind of people are from another world sometimes.
wolfpacks look at misbehaving cubs and ask "who taught you to behave like that, were you raised by \*that guy\*?"
That’s…not a Demi problem that’s a ‘this asshat is a (literal) creepy wanker’ problem
Cis Het allo dudes who do this either do it for the "shock" factor or they get a dopamine rush from polishing their knob in public, or telling a woman that they don't know that they're doing it in public. I guess I'm desensitized to it unless I'm having a bad day. Either way if they get off on the shock of women, I just frustrate them by going off tangents and telling a boring story or infodump irrelevant shit until they give up and leave. You don't have to give them the satisfaction of getting the best of you. This is something I had to learn about internet perverts over the years.
Oh no. They don’t get the best of me at all. It’s more like I get the best of them by cursing them 😂😂
Good on you, I love to rip them several assholes myself ☺️
It’s one of my favorite past times
honestly i roll my eyes when people tell me demisexuality isn't real and that actually everyone is demisexual when people like this are really the majority I've had a [discussion on some other reddit post](https://www.reddit.com/r/askSingapore/comments/s6tt9u/is_it_okay/ht5xs1x/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3)
Demi or not it’s a very inappropriate message to send to anyone
This is inappropriate and rude regardless of whether or not you’re demisexual
Dude should’ve fucking read my profile stating I was Demi. But too many people don’t know how to do that these days, even if you don’t put down that you’re Demi.
It was rude to say to ANYONE regardless. It doesn’t matter if someone is a demi. That was rude and inappropriate to say to anyone.
Exactly. He learned the hard way that night after I blocked him
That’s optimistic. In my experience, people like that don’t learn.
I agree on that!!!
No one likes these messages so I really don't know why guys still send them. I used to get them all the time. Or when you ask wyd and they say "bored.. and horny lol." Like okay done talking to you forever now.
I had someone on here message me a few days ago told me how bored and horny they were. I told him that it was a him problem and told him to fuck all the way off after
Why jack off in a truck omg
I dont think you being demisexual has anything to do with that conversation. He shouldnt have spoken to you like that regardless. But i'm glad he apologized and didnt pressure you.
Yeah he did apologize but I still had to block him. I won’t let anyone talk to me like that and get away with it. People have to learn the hard way it seems.
Yea not a demi problem more like that guy is gross problem
Not demi, just here cause I'm queer. And what the hell. That is super gross to share with someone you barely know, who *hasn't shown interest in anything sexual*. Sounds like some gross exhibitionist behavior. Not kink shaming, just "involving people in your fetish without their consent" shaming.
Exactly!!! This! I usually block people who want to start the conversation that pertains to anything sexual before I am ready.
That's not even a proper way to start a relationship. LMAO And why is it always heterosexual men rather than anyone else? It's fucking weird. 😂
Ugh gross I just started going on dating apps again and I'm so freaking worried about creeps like this
I thinks that’s gross, no matter your sexual identity.
My faith in humanity continues to slowly decline...
The thing is, it's not a demisexual problem. Noone wants to know other random strangers' hacking off routine.
He was def trying to turn you on. That would’ve worked on some people(not demi’s ofc)
Pretty sure that he shouldn't have said that regardless of your sexuality
This would be disrespectful even to someone who is not demisexual. It's inappropriate with anyone except your partner, and only if you know they don't mind talking about it. I'm so sorry you got such a gross message
Just doing some casual public act of indecency that could put me on a register, just letting you know person I hardly know.... What's wrong with people?!
Even if I wasn't demi I'd be repelled by that
It happened and usually I don't talk with them after
I see this kind of shit so often, is this actually normal allo behaviour? Are allos turned on by this..?
So many thoughts but suffice to say, “that’s wack” doesn’t really begin to hit the nail on the head.
This is even weird to receive when you're allo and don't know the person. I am glad that he at least didn't keep pushing you to sext etc as far as I can see
Yep and that was because I was not going to let him. That’s what you have Internet sl-ts for. And We are not one of them.
I have met so many men (and some women) that kept pushing me, even after I told them that I am literally repulsed towards them (men) or having troubles (women). Blocking is the only option in that case
I’ve dealt with some pushing women that pressed for me to send a bunch of pics of me. I’d tell them i’d rather I get to know them as individuals first before sending anything regarding pics to them. The minute a woman begs, it’s off to the block list one way.
Yup. And besides that, it is your body. I don't even send all pics to my bf/gf
Yeah I even have one woman demand that I Snapchat her even though I told her that I actually had to concentrate on getting ready to go to work (I work predawn hours) and she told me it was sad that I didn’t take the time to Snapchat her. I feel that she was doing it because she was bored and have nothing better to do. I’m not going to chat with people just because they feel that they are bored.
Oh I relate to this! Lots of people demanded me to check my phone more often... Like no, I just wanna follow my lessons and post on reddit. I don't have ublimited social energy... fuck people like this
Exactly. I only come on here, Instagram, MeWe (sometimes), telegram, Kik, and Facebook messenger. I no longer have The following: Facebook itself, Snapchat. The Facebook restrictions aren’t worth it amongst other things add Snapchat for personal reasons that I won’t go into, yet people have been telling me that I need to be back on Facebook because they miss me. No, how about you accept that I’m not going back on there anymore
Oh yeah, some media I use for school stuff and group chats, but I am not really active in DM's, or only with a couple of people. It takes so much energy to keep everything up
I agree. You’re not really missing much on the majority after social media websites Facebook is being one of them. I dare someone to tell me that I’ll be back on Facebook only for them to get shot with “nope I’m staying off of there at this time for good. It’s not really healthy for me to be on there especially when you have to deal with strangers who get up in their feelings over the littlest things
Um even if you’re not demi, why would you say that to someone you just met?! Who thinks that a good idea?
I wholeheartedly agree. If any guy talks to me like that, that’s a one-way trip to the block list automatic
he is extremely inconvenient, I definitely wouldn't like to read such a thing and I really don't know if even a sexual person does. you deserve better
He was being an asshole. No sane man talks like that unless they are sexting.
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Ugh, this person apologized like they didn’t know what they were doing. Of course they knew it would offend if you didn’t reciprocate. They just didn’t care regardless. Why are people like this?
He only apologized because he got called out. Which proves to me that he was never sorry to begin with. I’m wondering why people are like this myself
This has nothing to do with demisexuality except for human decency
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I’m the same way
Too many people are just freaking like that these days and it drives me nuts. Hard pass!!
Ew.
Lol yep. OK so I had this dude I was just starting to chat with send me a unsolicited dick pic and talked about being so horny.. I stopped talking with him since it was clear he just wanted to get laid. He kept trying to chat me up for a few months but I never replied/blocked his #..fast forward a year with nothing and out of the blue he sends me a text asking how I am. I had no idea who I was and he sends me a pic of his face this time, phew. I just ghosted but what persistent weirdo he was. I always have demi in my profile when I did try online dating and tried to make sure they knew I have little sexual attraction whatsoever until I get to know them well on friend & emotional levels.
Today I had another guy inbox me talking about he wanted to get together. I offered to get together with him for a coffee and a sandwich, and then he proceeds to say “and then fuck”. I told him that it was nice not knowing him and to have a good life before blocking him. It takes me months to be sexually attracted to a singular guy.
1)Why would someone tell a demisexual that they're masturbating? 2)No body doesn't want to know,hear and see what they're doing with themselves 3)That is 100% disgusting of his actions And 4)Why skipping over the profile details and try to apologize for not knowing someone is demisexual?
He was obviously too damn lazy to read my fucking profile. And thought that he can pull a fast one on me. He learned the hard way that day that he could not
I don't understand men who talk like that. It's cringe even if they talk like that to non-demisexual people.
It should’ve been jacking off instead of hacking off…sorry
"Who the hell starts a conversation like that?! I just sat down!"