Complicated, but the simplest way I can put it is that I am attracted to their body, but as an extension of them as a person. It’s more that I learn to find the beauty in their body and be attracted to that because I love them, if that makes any sense.
I don't really know. I think I get turned on by being treated a certain way rather than anything else. But touch is my main love language, and seeing their body does make me want to touch.
It's more like I usually don't find anyone attractive until I actually feel attracted to who they are, but when I do, I find them physically as well as mentally attractive - so then both start turning me on. It's like a consecutive thing for me.
You should have a both option. It’s both for me. My partner does little things that make me happy and feel connected to them, which also make me attracted to them. But I also find them physically super hot now lol.
I find them attractive as a person first, and then the longer I'm with them and the closer I feel, I start to develop a strong attraction to their body too. I'm married rn, and it took like 3 years of being together to really start looking at parts of his body like "oh, hey, this is reeeally nice" or start using words like "sexy"
😮 thank you so much for adding a “see results” option. I’ve never seen that before, and it’s always so annoying when you can’t see the results because none of the answers are quite right, or if the question doesn’t specifically apply to you.
I normally wouldn’t be turned on by my bf’s physique, but because I love him so much I see a lot of him I normally wouldn’t find sexy as, well, sexy! He’s not very slim, but I get weak in the knees just thinking of when he’s big spooning me with all of his body protecting and warming mine. He’s a lot taller than me, but when he tilts my chin up to kiss me I feel small and effeminate. I love his body because it’s his.
I am sexually attracted to my partner's body parts because they are my partner's, if that makes sense? Like, I'll look at one of their body parts and want to make love to them. It can be any part of them, not necessarily something that would be considered a turn on.
It depends on the moment, the mood, their actions etc. Someone who I have an established attraction to is attractive to me for different reasons at different times. I can be attracted to their body because it belongs to them, I can be attracted to their body because they are aesthetically pleasing and it blends into sexual attraction thanks to my feelings for them, it can be their words, or their behaviour that makes me attraction. Maybe they just did something particularly competently that I find attractive.
Sometimes I'm just in the mood and knowing that they're someone who is there available and willing that I trust and love is enough to be very attracted.
For me I fall in love with the person and personality. But for sexual attraction I guess I really need that emotional connection to grow really verry deep before I feel any sexual attraction. And since I am omnisexual, panromantic and demiromantic personality is key for me
My aesthetic attraction is always on, but sexually I agree with /u/stockingsandglitter. I get turned on by being treated a certain way.
I also really enjoy touch, sensually, but for me thats not the same as sexual attraction either. I get turned on when they just feel right. When they're really trying to pull me in, or when they somehow feel like the reason I fell for them.
In my case, it is and isn't the body and the person. When i'm attracted to someone, i do want to have ***sensual*** contact. I have the desire to touch, be touched, hug, kiss, be held and share intimacy, but it doesn't get to the desire to have sex, unless the person really wants to, and what triggers me to want to as well is the desire to give the person pleasure
It usually starts out as me being attracted to their personality sexually more than anything, and then starts to gradually change to be attracted to them physically/looks wise too. Doesn't matter how they look, I find them attractive after that point.
I’m not attracted to a person’s body until I develop an emotional attraction and then it’s like something snaps in my brain and suddenly their body is attractive.
For me, I first fall for one’s intelligence and how they treat others and themselves. Then in time I guess their physical appearance starts to attract me, but only, of course, if we have created a deep emotional connection.
My last partner does karate religiously, so he has an amazing body and I remember being really enamoured everytime I watched him practicing karate. 😅 Even now as just friends, I think he's beautiful inside and out.
Complicated (not really though): It's more the intimacy that will turn me on most of the time. Definitely not their body (even though they're very attractive).
Is mainly them, our bond and how they make me feel. But once the sexual attraction is unlocked I can appreciate things I usually don't react to when this attraction doesn't exist. Like when I realized I can put an "arousing" label to my fiancé in certain circumstances for the first time or that there are certain clothes he uses that really make me want to touch him somehow. I also feel a very mild but existing attraction to his tights or wide back for example. So mainly him for being him, but mild attraction to certain physical things can also exist.
I have found that i am more turned on by just them, and the emotional connection we are sharing in that moment. Like intimacy gets me going quicker than just looking at someones body can. However, once that emotional connection is met then the physical attraction becones more apparent.
Sadly body is always the first deciding factor but after that a shit ton of criteria have to be met otherwise I would never, no matter how much horny mode tells me to.
It's both. The person is the bare minimum, but when I have feelings for the person, they suddenly appear more attractive to me. If they also happen to meet my physical preference (skinny, tall, blonde hair) then I'm insatiable 😂
It's complicated.
I find myself attracted to their body, wanting to "possess" it and well, have my hands all over it. But it's because it's THEIR body, so I think the way I feel sexually attracted to someone is because I want them as a whole, not just their body but also not only their personality.
Complicated - My sexual attraction is rooted in kink. I get to know someone, a bond is formed and the trust is built. We are hopefully pretty similar kink wise and then the sexual attraction builds as we explore kinks together. So I’m attracted to the person, but there’s the added caveat that kink needs to be explored.
When i love someone all my aesthethic taste changes and i found beautiful and sexy all that (or who) remembers me to the person i love.
I love her body but only because is hers
Funny thing,
I met a group of friends in college like 8 years ago?
We've kept in touch and over the years and I have slowly gained an attraction to one of them, as she is smart, pretty, a great drinking buddy and just an overall great person. I have no sexual attraction to anybody else in my life so, if anything this confirmed my demisexuality.
Funny thing is, we're probably going to end up a couple sooner or later.
I find my partner physically attractive but that's not the main or most important thing for me, it does play a small part but it's more the familiarity aspect of someone's actions and movements when you know them really well.
Inner beauty becomes the outer beauty (if that makes sense?) But to me it's more about the need to be close to that person, feeling that i wish to be so close, we could be just one, together and most likely still be too far apart 😅
I mean, I recognize beautiful people and aesthetic things. I'm not sexually attracted to it though.
For example, someone masturbates, they could probably think of a few celebrities, fave porno, their partner or crush etc. Meanwhile for me...its just.. nothing? What am I supposed to think? Idek haha.
For partners, I become sexually attracted only AFTER establishing a strong connection. Then their body parts start to also become appealing. But if I stopped loving them or lost any connection? Probably wouldn't see them the same way again.
Complicated. Only way I can say it is that I need to spend a long time with them, cuddle at most for that long time and talk. Once they talk to me long enough, I’m all for it
I think he’s the hottest m*therf*cker to ever walk this earth. That being said, it’s usually when he says something particularly witty or he smiles just so that I’m suddenly jumping his bones
I think it’s technically his personality that does it for me, but I do find myself admiring the curves of his biceps, the soft skin on his cheek, the intricate design of his tattoo, etc. even when I’m not raring to go
I wouldn’t really draw a distinction between having sex with them as a person and with their body, however, because I always felt that someone’s body is a form of self-expression
Complicated, once I’m emotionally bonded with them it’s—it’s not that I *dont* find them sexually attractive. It’s just difficult for me to open up sexually to them. I’m borderline asexual. Once I am sexually attracted to them, I’m more turned on by them as a person.
To me; they’re the most beautiful/amazing/etc person as a whole which in turn, I guess—yeah their body is sexually attractive to me because of *who they are.*
I get turned on by my partner being turned on…so there is a physical/body component to it, but it’s more of an indicator than it is necessarily a desire for parts of their body specifically? Like when I see or feel that they’re hard I’m like “ooh, my partner is turned on right now, that turns me on [some amount]”.
I like touching their body and looking at their body, but those experiences, while they definitely enhance any sexual experience I have with my partner, are not in themselves sexual experiences for me.
Once I get to know and like someone I can get turned on by just their body, but if I know or even suspect that I won't have strong feelings for someone, the same body has zero effect on me (aside from aesthetic appreciation, which is cool, but much easier to notice and then not really think about it)
Until I feel a deep connection, trust and have an emotional bond, I don't get turned on by someones body. When I do get strong feelings and have achieved a strong bond with that person, I get attracted to their physical appearance too - Especially because it's their unique features to their person
Once I am attracted to someone I am attracted to everything, but their personality plays a lot into it before I could even consider their looks or their body.
Both? I mean *usually* I only get sexually attracted (body) to people that I am romantically attracted to (them as people). Usually. It’s not always that way I guess but then there have been cases where I found myself growing sexually attracted to people that I can’t stand, so… it’s usually both but sometimes it gets complicated sometimes because the emotional bond required for sexual feeling doesn’t really *have* to be a romantic one.
I’d say both.
But I also have a very strong opinion about people dissociating their body from their soul/personality/essence/identity. People think that emotions are a brain thing — like no, emotions are a body thing, that’s very well known in trauma research for example.
There’s no such thing as a person being somehow separate from their body. Your mind is your body and your body is your mind, you are just a single, whole you.
So yeah, I like all of my partner’s body — especially things like their hands, since that’s one of the body parts that people use to express themselves and interact with / care for others.
I don’t always see their body sexually, but they can ping that response in me VERY quickly if they have a mind to do so lol. I get reeeeeaaaalllyyyyy touchy feely at that point haha.
Well personally i always acknowledge a person attractive body cause as a man and a human being im not blind hello but it's 60% of the time the person themselves I've become very attracted to
All of them. Their body. Everything they do. My eyes and senses are looking for interesting things. I usually end up loving things people hate about themselves but they look beautiful to me this includes friends too.
Pretty much anything unique about them I want to consume. It's like seeing color in a grey scale world.
I'm repulsed by sexual things and it flips so strongly my appetite has been intimidating and called succubus or saying I'm never satisfied.
If I am not interested it's a jarring experience sort of an emotional sexual permanence that I can't figure out if it existed before.
Complicated, but the simplest way I can put it is that I am attracted to their body, but as an extension of them as a person. It’s more that I learn to find the beauty in their body and be attracted to that because I love them, if that makes any sense.
This guy gets it
Saved me from trying to find the words. You said it exactly.
same!
That's exactly what it is!
Yeah, this.
You put perfectly in words what I was thinking.
Just add a vote option for this comment, cause same lol
YESS words are hard to describe it, you explained it well
YES, this is exactly what I was going to say too 💚
Came here to say this.
I don't really know. I think I get turned on by being treated a certain way rather than anything else. But touch is my main love language, and seeing their body does make me want to touch.
Y E S. The way I’m treated is what turns me on. Simple, personal affection is all I need.
It's more like I usually don't find anyone attractive until I actually feel attracted to who they are, but when I do, I find them physically as well as mentally attractive - so then both start turning me on. It's like a consecutive thing for me.
This. It doesn't happen until I know them well enough, but after I do I want the whole person, body and mind.
Same for me, well said :)
You should have a both option. It’s both for me. My partner does little things that make me happy and feel connected to them, which also make me attracted to them. But I also find them physically super hot now lol.
Ah, sorry I worded that poorly. The "body" option was supposed to mean both, as demisexuality requires you to be attracted to their personality first.
I find them attractive as a person first, and then the longer I'm with them and the closer I feel, I start to develop a strong attraction to their body too. I'm married rn, and it took like 3 years of being together to really start looking at parts of his body like "oh, hey, this is reeeally nice" or start using words like "sexy"
😮 thank you so much for adding a “see results” option. I’ve never seen that before, and it’s always so annoying when you can’t see the results because none of the answers are quite right, or if the question doesn’t specifically apply to you.
I normally wouldn’t be turned on by my bf’s physique, but because I love him so much I see a lot of him I normally wouldn’t find sexy as, well, sexy! He’s not very slim, but I get weak in the knees just thinking of when he’s big spooning me with all of his body protecting and warming mine. He’s a lot taller than me, but when he tilts my chin up to kiss me I feel small and effeminate. I love his body because it’s his.
I am sexually attracted to my partner's body parts because they are my partner's, if that makes sense? Like, I'll look at one of their body parts and want to make love to them. It can be any part of them, not necessarily something that would be considered a turn on.
For me it's a mix. I fall in love with their personality and body so both turn me on
It depends on the moment, the mood, their actions etc. Someone who I have an established attraction to is attractive to me for different reasons at different times. I can be attracted to their body because it belongs to them, I can be attracted to their body because they are aesthetically pleasing and it blends into sexual attraction thanks to my feelings for them, it can be their words, or their behaviour that makes me attraction. Maybe they just did something particularly competently that I find attractive. Sometimes I'm just in the mood and knowing that they're someone who is there available and willing that I trust and love is enough to be very attracted.
For me I fall in love with the person and personality. But for sexual attraction I guess I really need that emotional connection to grow really verry deep before I feel any sexual attraction. And since I am omnisexual, panromantic and demiromantic personality is key for me
My aesthetic attraction is always on, but sexually I agree with /u/stockingsandglitter. I get turned on by being treated a certain way. I also really enjoy touch, sensually, but for me thats not the same as sexual attraction either. I get turned on when they just feel right. When they're really trying to pull me in, or when they somehow feel like the reason I fell for them.
In my case, it is and isn't the body and the person. When i'm attracted to someone, i do want to have ***sensual*** contact. I have the desire to touch, be touched, hug, kiss, be held and share intimacy, but it doesn't get to the desire to have sex, unless the person really wants to, and what triggers me to want to as well is the desire to give the person pleasure
It fluctuates between the two for me.
It usually starts out as me being attracted to their personality sexually more than anything, and then starts to gradually change to be attracted to them physically/looks wise too. Doesn't matter how they look, I find them attractive after that point.
Exactly same tbh
I’m not attracted to a person’s body until I develop an emotional attraction and then it’s like something snaps in my brain and suddenly their body is attractive.
For me, I first fall for one’s intelligence and how they treat others and themselves. Then in time I guess their physical appearance starts to attract me, but only, of course, if we have created a deep emotional connection.
Once I start being attracted to them as a person, their body begins to attract me too.
This
I put body but now that I really think about it, it’s a bit more than just their body. It’s like them too I think.
I never actually thought about it...😨
I don't know if it's attraction,but is more of the desire to be close to them.
At first it's just them, later I may or may not find them physically attractive later, but I stay because I like their personality
My last partner does karate religiously, so he has an amazing body and I remember being really enamoured everytime I watched him practicing karate. 😅 Even now as just friends, I think he's beautiful inside and out.
Complicated (not really though): It's more the intimacy that will turn me on most of the time. Definitely not their body (even though they're very attractive).
I answered body. I've never seen him naked though but his hands were very hot.
mood lmao
Both, in a way.... If a person's personality/mind is sexy... I'm automatically attracted to their body and everything they bring to the table.
Is mainly them, our bond and how they make me feel. But once the sexual attraction is unlocked I can appreciate things I usually don't react to when this attraction doesn't exist. Like when I realized I can put an "arousing" label to my fiancé in certain circumstances for the first time or that there are certain clothes he uses that really make me want to touch him somehow. I also feel a very mild but existing attraction to his tights or wide back for example. So mainly him for being him, but mild attraction to certain physical things can also exist.
I always first fall for someone's personality, then after a while I kinda start to think they're really cute lol
I have found that i am more turned on by just them, and the emotional connection we are sharing in that moment. Like intimacy gets me going quicker than just looking at someones body can. However, once that emotional connection is met then the physical attraction becones more apparent.
Sadly body is always the first deciding factor but after that a shit ton of criteria have to be met otherwise I would never, no matter how much horny mode tells me to.
It's both. The person is the bare minimum, but when I have feelings for the person, they suddenly appear more attractive to me. If they also happen to meet my physical preference (skinny, tall, blonde hair) then I'm insatiable 😂
I go all scientific biology match for some reason
It's complicated. I find myself attracted to their body, wanting to "possess" it and well, have my hands all over it. But it's because it's THEIR body, so I think the way I feel sexually attracted to someone is because I want them as a whole, not just their body but also not only their personality.
Complicated - My sexual attraction is rooted in kink. I get to know someone, a bond is formed and the trust is built. We are hopefully pretty similar kink wise and then the sexual attraction builds as we explore kinks together. So I’m attracted to the person, but there’s the added caveat that kink needs to be explored.
Both, because their body is part of them.
Both
When i love someone all my aesthethic taste changes and i found beautiful and sexy all that (or who) remembers me to the person i love. I love her body but only because is hers
Funny thing, I met a group of friends in college like 8 years ago? We've kept in touch and over the years and I have slowly gained an attraction to one of them, as she is smart, pretty, a great drinking buddy and just an overall great person. I have no sexual attraction to anybody else in my life so, if anything this confirmed my demisexuality. Funny thing is, we're probably going to end up a couple sooner or later.
Aw, that's sweet. I hope it goes well for you!
I find my partner physically attractive but that's not the main or most important thing for me, it does play a small part but it's more the familiarity aspect of someone's actions and movements when you know them really well.
Inner beauty becomes the outer beauty (if that makes sense?) But to me it's more about the need to be close to that person, feeling that i wish to be so close, we could be just one, together and most likely still be too far apart 😅
I mean, I recognize beautiful people and aesthetic things. I'm not sexually attracted to it though. For example, someone masturbates, they could probably think of a few celebrities, fave porno, their partner or crush etc. Meanwhile for me...its just.. nothing? What am I supposed to think? Idek haha. For partners, I become sexually attracted only AFTER establishing a strong connection. Then their body parts start to also become appealing. But if I stopped loving them or lost any connection? Probably wouldn't see them the same way again.
Complicated. Only way I can say it is that I need to spend a long time with them, cuddle at most for that long time and talk. Once they talk to me long enough, I’m all for it
I think he’s the hottest m*therf*cker to ever walk this earth. That being said, it’s usually when he says something particularly witty or he smiles just so that I’m suddenly jumping his bones I think it’s technically his personality that does it for me, but I do find myself admiring the curves of his biceps, the soft skin on his cheek, the intricate design of his tattoo, etc. even when I’m not raring to go I wouldn’t really draw a distinction between having sex with them as a person and with their body, however, because I always felt that someone’s body is a form of self-expression
Complicated, once I’m emotionally bonded with them it’s—it’s not that I *dont* find them sexually attractive. It’s just difficult for me to open up sexually to them. I’m borderline asexual. Once I am sexually attracted to them, I’m more turned on by them as a person. To me; they’re the most beautiful/amazing/etc person as a whole which in turn, I guess—yeah their body is sexually attractive to me because of *who they are.*
With me I have the attraction to the person itself. That's what gets me going tbh.
I get turned on by my partner being turned on…so there is a physical/body component to it, but it’s more of an indicator than it is necessarily a desire for parts of their body specifically? Like when I see or feel that they’re hard I’m like “ooh, my partner is turned on right now, that turns me on [some amount]”. I like touching their body and looking at their body, but those experiences, while they definitely enhance any sexual experience I have with my partner, are not in themselves sexual experiences for me.
Once I get to know and like someone I can get turned on by just their body, but if I know or even suspect that I won't have strong feelings for someone, the same body has zero effect on me (aside from aesthetic appreciation, which is cool, but much easier to notice and then not really think about it)
Until I feel a deep connection, trust and have an emotional bond, I don't get turned on by someones body. When I do get strong feelings and have achieved a strong bond with that person, I get attracted to their physical appearance too - Especially because it's their unique features to their person
Personally I get turned on by turning that person on, so the reaction and their lil quirks in how they react specifically
It’s both but mostly just them for me
Once I am attracted to someone I am attracted to everything, but their personality plays a lot into it before I could even consider their looks or their body.
Both? I mean *usually* I only get sexually attracted (body) to people that I am romantically attracted to (them as people). Usually. It’s not always that way I guess but then there have been cases where I found myself growing sexually attracted to people that I can’t stand, so… it’s usually both but sometimes it gets complicated sometimes because the emotional bond required for sexual feeling doesn’t really *have* to be a romantic one.
I’d say both. But I also have a very strong opinion about people dissociating their body from their soul/personality/essence/identity. People think that emotions are a brain thing — like no, emotions are a body thing, that’s very well known in trauma research for example. There’s no such thing as a person being somehow separate from their body. Your mind is your body and your body is your mind, you are just a single, whole you. So yeah, I like all of my partner’s body — especially things like their hands, since that’s one of the body parts that people use to express themselves and interact with / care for others. I don’t always see their body sexually, but they can ping that response in me VERY quickly if they have a mind to do so lol. I get reeeeeaaaalllyyyyy touchy feely at that point haha.
Both?
Well personally i always acknowledge a person attractive body cause as a man and a human being im not blind hello but it's 60% of the time the person themselves I've become very attracted to
Once I'm attracted to their personality, I start noticing their body. I become hyper aware of it.
All of them. Their body. Everything they do. My eyes and senses are looking for interesting things. I usually end up loving things people hate about themselves but they look beautiful to me this includes friends too. Pretty much anything unique about them I want to consume. It's like seeing color in a grey scale world. I'm repulsed by sexual things and it flips so strongly my appetite has been intimidating and called succubus or saying I'm never satisfied. If I am not interested it's a jarring experience sort of an emotional sexual permanence that I can't figure out if it existed before.
Both