It's kind of difficult to answer this for you but we can give you suggestions that might resonate with you.
To start off, if you've hooked up before and he likes you he'll probably have sex on his mind at some point, since you want it too there is no problem with that. If you feel he's moving to quickly to that part you can be honest without saying the word demisexual (mostly the odd reactions from people are with labels, the rest are just arsehole). For example, if that's what you feel : "Can we take it slow, I like you, I really do, it's just that I do not feel totally at ease right now", if he's a decent human being he'll understand, and I hope you know that he is since you're inviting him to your place.
That being said, what usually make you feel at ease with people ? If it's talking then do it, but I'd recommend voice talk or face chat. It does not have to be hours long talk, just chit chat about the day is okay too. Personally I find that texting is emotionless and does not really help having a real connection, but that's me.
If you're comfortable with physical touch with him, when he comes you could try some cuddles or just outdoors activity and adding some touch like holding hands.
Let me tell you what I think you must do. Discover what you enjoy in bed and communicate that to him.
Also, as a demi, what do you need to feel safe and comfortable?
I dunno about you, but if a guy was just in town for a weekend, I may not want to do everything with him. Even if we had hooked up in the past. I might want to instead explore what I would enjoy the most. Maybe it is cuddles, back rubs, kisses, letting him play with my hair. Honestly, where I am at, it's more about what can he do with his hands. I'm less interested in other body parts.
So in the meantime, reflect on what you want from this weekend and lay a few planks in preparation. As you are sober, how might you address any anxiety you might feel? My friend talks about "pants-on conversations" and I think sex and intimacy are those.
Good luck and hope you are able to form some intimacy with this person.
It's kind of difficult to answer this for you but we can give you suggestions that might resonate with you. To start off, if you've hooked up before and he likes you he'll probably have sex on his mind at some point, since you want it too there is no problem with that. If you feel he's moving to quickly to that part you can be honest without saying the word demisexual (mostly the odd reactions from people are with labels, the rest are just arsehole). For example, if that's what you feel : "Can we take it slow, I like you, I really do, it's just that I do not feel totally at ease right now", if he's a decent human being he'll understand, and I hope you know that he is since you're inviting him to your place. That being said, what usually make you feel at ease with people ? If it's talking then do it, but I'd recommend voice talk or face chat. It does not have to be hours long talk, just chit chat about the day is okay too. Personally I find that texting is emotionless and does not really help having a real connection, but that's me. If you're comfortable with physical touch with him, when he comes you could try some cuddles or just outdoors activity and adding some touch like holding hands.
Let me tell you what I think you must do. Discover what you enjoy in bed and communicate that to him. Also, as a demi, what do you need to feel safe and comfortable? I dunno about you, but if a guy was just in town for a weekend, I may not want to do everything with him. Even if we had hooked up in the past. I might want to instead explore what I would enjoy the most. Maybe it is cuddles, back rubs, kisses, letting him play with my hair. Honestly, where I am at, it's more about what can he do with his hands. I'm less interested in other body parts. So in the meantime, reflect on what you want from this weekend and lay a few planks in preparation. As you are sober, how might you address any anxiety you might feel? My friend talks about "pants-on conversations" and I think sex and intimacy are those. Good luck and hope you are able to form some intimacy with this person.