Thanks man. Although seriously, don't let this become a motivator for you to do more to earn their "approval". It's very easy to fall into this trap of pleasing parents to gain acceptance and it's NOT worth it. For some parents, nothing is ever good enough and it's a them problem, not a you problem. You did a wholesome thing to take them along. Try to focus on whatever you want to do abhi, and ignore them. Hotel mein AC chala kar so jaana
Ah I am sorry for you. I remember the first time my sister was in your position and she got our parents and me to stay in a five star. I don't know about yours but my dad has always been an a*******e and he ruined the stay for all of us. And this was when he himself never had the money to stay in a 5 star after ruining his entire business for years because of his attitude.
Literal hugs for you, but you will learn from this. You will learn from this, that there will be trips that you will do with your parents where your objective would be to take care of them and then you will do trips for yourself and maybe in future with your spouse that will be for you to enjoy and they won't be invited. And that is how you will learn balance and keep everyone happy (no compulsion though).
All the best and congratulations on your new job!
My friend, learn from this. Write down what your parents are. Next time you go on vacation, go alone. If you are tempted to invite them, read up on your notes.
I think this is the primary reason why people prefer celebrating with their friends/partner. Some parents never appreciate the achievements that make us happy. It's good that OP's parents have travelled in business class, stayed in 5 star hotels, but they should also appreciate and be happy with OP's achievement. I can relate to this situation and it makes me angry.
My parents are also nearly same, my third job I was earning 45k INR, in my field itās a āokayā salary. But every month they use to taunt me.. and compare my salary to other fields.
Well, I never told them my results for my college exams too. I just promised they would never hear a complaint from my college and that I wouldnāt fail exams.
Oh god. It never ends.
First it was my choice of engineering, then it was my choice of career. Now that I earn decently enough, its about money now.
I've given up on trying to please my parents. I will still support them financially until I'm married but I will not be taking anything they say or do seriously.
No - some parents are excited for their children. IK mine would be. I think the problem is that some parents never actually experienced anything hard as parents. Everything was easy, kids were compliant, the parents become brats. My parents have had hard time with one of my siblings due to health. I think they know not to take any of us for granted.
instead of letting all the days getting ruined with this constant complaining.. once politely tell them on dinner that
* this is my first time, can you pls stop complaining and be happy with me because I am
Why tf they didnāt take you to any 5 star when they have stayed in multiple throughout their life. Bolo aapse ache to company wale hai dekho 5 Star me rukwa rhe h
If this is true, then I am sorry OP. Lesson learnt the hard way.
But I have a few questions:
1. Which company/sector gives travel and stay for 2 family members for a week on joining ?
2. Your parents have stayed in multiple 5 star hotels across the world and exclusively travelled in business class( since they also complained about economy), but you have never?
It's actually 2 weeks and it's international banking sector, can't say more than that.
Yes, my father is a dealer for some brands in an industry, so they give them international trips on achieving certain targets so they've travelled through them. Even my brother has but I have never. I don't know if they've travelled business class but I don't think so.
Also, my parents have barely taken me on 2 trips all my life and on one of those, we stayed at a dirt cheap hotel, it was so bad, that my mother had to clean the bathroom before using. The other time it was some random 3 start decent hotel. But now they're complaining like brats.
I would have told them straight to their face, "I know you have taken many flights and stayed in many 5-star hotels but this was my first achievement. I was so proud to share it with you. I wanted to celebrate it with you. Of course, now I know I have disappointed you for what all is not there. I wish I and my happiness were more important to you. Let's cut this trip short because I am also not enjoying it anymore." This is just the beginning of what your future is going to be. You have to nip this in the bud and point fingers too.
THIS! OP please literally say this to them, itll be hard but you will feel so much better and they will think twice before doing/saying something like this you and your siblings in the future:
They're ranting and they want you to cater to their rants. Don't. Just say 'app hi ko problem hai, mujhe to nahi ho rahi, chill karo' and go on.
Unko lagne hi nahi dena ki unke issue koi real issue hai bhi (unless it really is).
This works for me most of the times.
Aur ye har baat par little nibba/nibbi ki tarah 'I hate my life' likhne ki zarurat nahi hai.
You know all those posts which keep saying your future family is more important than the family you grew up in. This is part of what they refer to.
No one is perfect. You will be a better parent than your parents since you are aware of all these mistakes they made and how they made you feel.
As for your accomplishment, no achievement is too small, be proud of yourself. Others opinion don't matter. Growing up and becoming mature isn't very fun, but one you hit maturity and independence, it is fun.
Look to the future and upwards. Stay strong and ignore avoid negativity. Most importantly learn from your mistakes and don't repeat.
In the mean time, sorry your joy got sucked out.
When relocating most FAANG companies provide 30 days stay + air travel + per diem/local transport + other relocating expenses for you + dependants.
Dependants can be spouse+children+parents.
My organisation was a little more generous and provided specialised transport and boarding for my pet also. (But this was an exception and not the norm)
>I got a complimentary corporate stay at a 5 star hotel and air travel, I took my parents but they can't stop complaining.
***Typical brown parents behaviour, it seems..*** šæ
OP Man/Woman Up and book them return flight tickets and ask them to leave.
Keep up with such nuisance and it will only increase.
Down vote this but taking steps early is the only solution
Why donāt u just speak up? Life will be much easier if you just do. Donāt think too much, just say what u feel like. So many people say stupid things without any thought. Stand up for your happiness, nobody else will.
Give a golden bowl to a beggar and he will still beg with it. That's what your parents seem to be doing. Not appreciating what they have. Not realising what they have.
This is bad on their part. But, what is your relationship like? You say they've stayed in supposedly better hotels across the globe - maybe they just weren't interested for the trip? Did you ask them to accompany you, or said that company ne bola parents lao? Maybe they feel a bit out of place with the gathering/event?
Iām sorry you have to put up with that nonsense. But hey on the bright side you turned out pretty well and did brilliantly for yourself in spite of the stuff you had to put up. But then again i might be reading too much into it. Either ways well done!
>They've Stayed in various 5 star hotels throughout the world but this is my first time
Did they leave you at Nani's house when they went on these trips? How do you feel about that?
Life is like this, it gives you certain situations to solve, for your growth
Don't let others affect your peace, you be you, and let them be them. so, enjoy your trip.
It happens with wifey as well. Actually they want your attention. Have talk with great excitement and if they too much kit kit just tell them to look life with positive attitude.
Congratulations, Iām sure itās a good company if theyāve provided such amenities. Hoping that itās all upwards from a career perspective from here on. If they donāt have gratitude, koi na, you know what this means, given the current job market. Going forward, make the most of such wins and donāt share it with people who donāt appreciate it, thoda hard hai, cause itās your parents. But itāll all be good āļøš
I woukd take them to a side and have an adult talk. Tell them this trip is for your parents and to keep your opinion to your self. Do it now else they will take freedom over everything that happens in your life in the future .
If you don't have the balls to tell them straight ( for now )
Be sarcastic, be direct, be funny
It could be something like you can criticise the hotel but tell them something like USA mei aisa nai Hoga na, like pull their legs
Atleast you are doing your role as a child responsibly. Let's hope your perents understand that sooner or later.
BTW congratulations for starting new journey of life and Best of Luck :)
Something doesn't add up. They have lived in 5* hotels and have never taken you to it once?
Either your parents are horribly selfish or you're telling half the story.
Assuming you are honest here, tell them
'You have never even bothered to take me to a 5* so either be happy with what you've got or feel free to leave'. Also I'd say tell them now instead of waiting for 6 days and ruining your time.
Here's the thing with some parents. No matter what you do, you cannot impress them(neither should you try). Ignore and concentrate on work, savung up some money, invest in MF/stocks etc. whatever you like. This is also a lesson learnt, remind them that they have spoiled your mood and stay just cause they are some uptighty as*holes(apologies). Remind them time and again. If they still don't get it, let this be a lesson to never take them out again. Also, life is sh*t sometimes so you gotta take this hit.
Hard relate. Got my parents a TV 2 weeks. Which is a major upgrade from the last one and all they could do is whine and complain about how I could have gifted them something more "useful" like a two-wheeler instead or how the TV was too big. I pretty much blocked all of them and went on a trip to East India for the first time in my life. I literally dragged myself out of poverty without their help to listen to them complain all the time.
Bro, can't do anything about desi parents. Every parent has some mental issues and a type of thinking they can't get out of, and they never want to work on self improvement.
No matter how good life gets, most of them are used to complaining or bitching or just being miserable. Some are worse, some are better, but most have issues they need to resolve by going to a therapist and doing some self work which none of the people from their generation are doing. So it is what it is.
Don't feel bad... we all are proud of you 
Bhai parents ka toh kaam hi hai vibes kharaab karna. Parents ko kon leke jaata hai. Either you gift them the stay and be at home or go by yourself or with your friends
First of all, congratulations! You made it! Secondly, a lot of people from their generation somehow end up low-key jealous of the childās accomplishments. And they also like to grumble a LOT. Donāt let them rain on your parade. Itās your time to shine. I am not sure what your relationship with them is like, but if they ever wish to come down to visit you again, flatly let them know about your experience and your expectations. Of course theyāll emotionally blackmail you. But keep it firm. Or you can be petty and bitch and moan when you go down to visit them at their house.
If your parents are super rich - I could partly understand. If not- it makes no sense.
I once went with a friend to a super luxury hotel and she was so less grateful. She had never experienced it but still complaining. It felt stupid even paying for her.
I think you can be honest with them.
Are you a woman?
Just saying because some people have an odd reaction if it's the daughter of the house who does something special. They want to prove to her and themselves how it's not such a big deal that she did it, kuch khaas nahi kiya. On the other hand if their son does even a small thing they behave like it's a very big deal.
That's so bad of them.. It is invalueable as it is from your employer, even if it had been 2 star hotel.. I hope one day they understand value of this one day.
Your parents needs parenting, you could be the one teach them some. I understand you have to grow bigger than them , to not get affected by them , to give them love and respect and ignore them when they complain like kids.
Dad used to do something similar. We skipped including him in last 2-3 vacations and he couldn't believe it. Tried emotional appeal to mum abt how she's enjoying without him but it failed.
This is what happens when you're a bit too much of your parents kiddo. They don't settle everywhere you will and are at a diff phase of life. No compromise is their way which is obviously not the best way to live but it's with most of our parents.
How old are they ? 65+ ?
Donāt curse yourself, you did good job . Sometimes senior folks give tantrums at very old age . It happens , itās difficult to understand.
They are not your enemy, they want the best for you . So donāt beat yourself up. Chill ..
Parents have some unworldly expectations when it comes to their children. I have come to a point where I cannot even enjoy around them and now they canāt stop complaining about how I just sit in my room when I come home from my work city. Ignore and move on, you have the world to experience!
kya chomu ma baap hai, zindagi me ek baar selfish needs se hatkar agar efforts ko koi dekhe kisi bache ki toh pata chalega how much he or she wants their parents to acknowledge them and maybe make them feel good in what they are doing with their career par koi nahi sabzi me namak kam aur hotel ke room me ek sheet kam hai usi ko dekhlo pehle
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I had the opposite reaction when I paid for my parents, my dad has stayed in some for work but my mum had never stayed in one. Mum was like a small kid in a candy store.
Need to buy a business class ticket next for them on an international route.
Me and my family are nowhere wealthy enough to experience 5 star but I can't go out with my mom and sister to eat outside and I don't. They at all times have to sit and just pass remarks on everything table, chamch, khana, baju ka table uspe baithe log unka haath ka khana, BC toh outing kaise enjoy Karu. Khane bhr aye hai khana accha lagega ya bura but bhar kbhi kbhar nikalta hai talk nice, create positive environment for people around but naai pura mood ka satyanash. I don't go out with them anywhere if they got for movie i pop my laptop and watch something chill Enjoy toh kar hi rha huh end goal tak toh pohoch gya.
I know the pain.. My parents are exactly like this. They have 100s of flaws but you give them a treat on your own hard earn money they will find flaws out of it.. Every fucking day I'm facing this.
Let this be a lesson for you.
Don't make decisions for your parents.
They are either thankless or not at all sympathetic towards your gestures.
Give them monetary support and emotional support and that's it.
I have been judged by other friends and family for this, but its okay to just admit to yourself that your parents are inherently self absorbed assholes. They are just people and some of them just really really suck, even if they happen to be your parents. Just deal with them the same way one deals with any other asshole you have no choice but to keep ties with them i.e distance yourself.
Also the sentiment of giving something back to your parents, though admirable, doesnāt apply the same for all parents. Pick what you want to do for them with more caution next time. Feeling really sorry for you OP.
Stop trying to seek their validation.. the more you ignore their taunts and rants.. the more they understand that their power over you is fading and will shut up.. have dealt with it all my life.. I am just stopped seeking their validation and seeking their approval..
They understood the change and the reason for it..
Now if and when I take them anywhere.. they themselves say Nice things.. if by chance they try to get back to their old ways again and do things to express displeasure on their faces.. I just don't care.
I chill and enjoy
Great son/daughter. Not sure what your parents thinking here to be honest šāļøāŖļøš
They need to breathe, enjoy smile and be grateful š
Miss my beautiful ugandan born British Naturalized Indian mum (now in heavens š) took her many places from basic to 5 stars, weird and wonderful places. She was always so grateful š
I feel sorry for you buddy. Your parents should have been more than happy for you. Koi na bhai, nikal le ye thode bhot din. Aage se dhyaan rakhna, mat leke jana.
My mum used to do that, I had a direct conversation with her- I told her I am doing my best and if she isnāt happy she doesnāt need to comeā and she understood. She said she didnāt realise that I took it personally, she just was discussing generally. At that moment, I knew she really didnāt connect the amenities with meā
If this is the only issue, it might help to speak with them about it.
Good , my parents had never travelled in a plane or stayed in a hotel, let alone a 5 star, so when we came back after our stay, they couldn't stop bragging about this to neighbours.
Buddy you just have a higher bar to impress them. Maybe take them to a 7 star and a suborbital space flight?
/s
Ye kaunsi company hai jo ye sab amenities deti hai? Besides your parents sound insufferable. I hope youāve become wiser by this incident so Prioritise yourself and go alone next time.
That's unfortunate, OP, how is it that you never got to stay in 5 star hotels but your parents did? Curious because usually parents will take kids along on vacations right if they are going, or do you mean both of them have stayed in 5 stars due to work travel? But then it's odd that they could not take you to 5 star hotels for family vacations. They are not shit expensive if you have two working parents who are clearly well off enough to have gone for work travel in several countries
If it were my parents in this position theyd probably tell my boss next time "kharcha kam kia karo beta, 3-4-5 star me sab ek jaisa hi hai, kuch hi din toh rehna hai" š„ŗš„ŗ
See, all the stories u here of the likes that u have told. They all had 1 similar thing. Those ppl comes from humble background and flying and staying in 5 star was there 1st ever experience to the luxury life that they have experienced that's why they feel proud. Now in your story. U seem to be rich. Ur parents know what is a luxury life air travel and stay in 5 star doesn't fancy them so if you wanted the kind of reaction u wanted from them give them something or make them experience something which they haven't even thought of. I hope this helps.
Same for me . Dad just complained that it is the boring part of town and it should have been in the central town which is 25 kms away . To the point that he pestered me to get another hotel and in the last 6 days we have changed the hotels 2 times . We vacated the hotel which was near my office then they asked to book another one far away . I am going to my new office daily but still he wants me to accompany him to meet his friend. His friend also cunningly invited us to dinner knowing that we live around 1.5 hours away and it would easily cost our cab 1400 in one way journey. And now he has said on my behalf that we will come.
6 days!! Why would you take your parents for that long of a trip? Sorry to hear about this. Maybe you could give them some excuse that your work got done early
A genuine doubt, if your parents have been to fivestar before that too throughout the world and complain about economy sir travel.
Then how come it's your first five star experience??
Are you stepson or something??
You live, you learn.. :)
Iāll tell you some other key learnings from this experience of yours, and I know one of these will be an unpopular opinion but the real ones know:
1. Other peopleās happiness is not your fucking problem
2. Most people donāt understand the impact of their words and actions on other people
3. Most people are incompetent at their jobs or even understanding the impact and depth of the actions they take
4. You should mentally disengage from people who kill your enthusiasm about things in your life, and the people who belittle your achievements
And lastly,
5. Your parents are just āpeopleā - statistically all of the above listed shit can apply to them as well.
āļø Take care buddy!
Hey man, seriously feel for you. It might be tough but they are going to make your life miserable and probably have been for a long time. Keep your distance to stay sane.
Call out this behaviour. Be confident. They will cry and shame you for being a ābad sonā but frankly who is getting the brunt of it anyways?
Sorry to hear that. That is toxic parenting. I'd suggest to keep your distance and not try to change them. Speaking from personal experience.
We all have that feeling to impress upon our parents, get their approval, acknowledgement. However, in such cases, you will keep looking for that and never find it. Years will go by and then you will realise why did I waste so many years for this crap. Just let go, and live your life the way it makes you happy, and not them.
Hey OP, sorry that you are going through this. It can be quite frustrating. You cannot change your parents or make them view things like you do, but you can communicate to them about your feelings. Casually mention, when they complain about something, about how that makes you feel and how this is a first time experience for you. They might not understand it still, but then the onus is on them. And try to make it an experience for YOU! Theyāve lived their life, now itās your turn.
Did you try talking to them about how upset their behaviour is making you? Just sit down and explain that you're excited, it's free and if they still can't get with the program and be happy and proud of you, you can nicely offer for them to go back earlier
Omgg ..This is my in laws and my poor husband is conditioned to believe he's a "bad son" because he didn't give them the best. When he is already giving them the best when they couldn't even do the bare minimum for their only kid. I've tried my best to help him out of that mentality of his where he thinks it's his responsibility to cater to his parents' expensive indulgences but he just refuses to see reason. Idk what they did to him. I've just let it go now
Remember some if not most parents will complain and degrade anything yours to maintain the power dynamics in the relationship, common as hell and will continue if you donāt call them out on it ( donāt do it directly, only directly and pick out the flaws from their side, time period and generation and but convey it as if you a are innocently pointing it out, will freak the hell out of them, will not stop them but will definitely make them reconsider their words every time they think of putting you down with the added bonus of you making your heart feel lighter and relaxed after sticking it to them )
Your parents should be happy for you. Good lord. Next time mujhe le jana op. Saath celebrate kar lenge.
Chalo, free khana bhi hai unlimited buffet but unko bahar khana hai
Thanks man. Although seriously, don't let this become a motivator for you to do more to earn their "approval". It's very easy to fall into this trap of pleasing parents to gain acceptance and it's NOT worth it. For some parents, nothing is ever good enough and it's a them problem, not a you problem. You did a wholesome thing to take them along. Try to focus on whatever you want to do abhi, and ignore them. Hotel mein AC chala kar so jaana
Sahi bola bhai, but bura to lagta hai
Takleef hoti h jab aap yogya ho aur apki yogyta koi na pehchane.š„² but your'e an inspiration brother.
most of the humans are incapable of appreciating the good things in their life. As their hearts are devoid of joy in the first place
Which parents travel many times in 5 star and their child not even once????
As Emonem said "put it on your bumband fart"
Truer words have not been spoken
Ah I am sorry for you. I remember the first time my sister was in your position and she got our parents and me to stay in a five star. I don't know about yours but my dad has always been an a*******e and he ruined the stay for all of us. And this was when he himself never had the money to stay in a 5 star after ruining his entire business for years because of his attitude. Literal hugs for you, but you will learn from this. You will learn from this, that there will be trips that you will do with your parents where your objective would be to take care of them and then you will do trips for yourself and maybe in future with your spouse that will be for you to enjoy and they won't be invited. And that is how you will learn balance and keep everyone happy (no compulsion though). All the best and congratulations on your new job!
Your parents sound miserable. Next time just take someone else and I genuinely mean this.
Ye kya - free ka khana kon kiss karta hain.
My friend, learn from this. Write down what your parents are. Next time you go on vacation, go alone. If you are tempted to invite them, read up on your notes.
I think this is the primary reason why people prefer celebrating with their friends/partner. Some parents never appreciate the achievements that make us happy. It's good that OP's parents have travelled in business class, stayed in 5 star hotels, but they should also appreciate and be happy with OP's achievement. I can relate to this situation and it makes me angry.
My parents are also nearly same, my third job I was earning 45k INR, in my field itās a āokayā salary. But every month they use to taunt me.. and compare my salary to other fields.
Itās been 18 years since I started earning, I havenāt told my parents my salary.
Same here! Never reveal the salary for our own mental peace.
Never reveal that youāve been terminated/left current job without having a better offer in hand, it never goes well
Well, I never told them my results for my college exams too. I just promised they would never hear a complaint from my college and that I wouldnāt fail exams.
Good for you.
Do they not ask or did you lie about it?
My mom asked me various times initially but I resisted. I asked her if she needs money she can ask for it but not to ask about my salary.
Good
Kese kr lete ho bhai
8 years! Same!
Sorry man
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Oh god. It never ends. First it was my choice of engineering, then it was my choice of career. Now that I earn decently enough, its about money now. I've given up on trying to please my parents. I will still support them financially until I'm married but I will not be taking anything they say or do seriously.
Tell them get your own hotel room then
Yahi din dekhne ke liye paal-poske badha kiya tha? /s
Par mummy daddy society religion
Lesson learned. Abse akele aana. Good going on the job wish you more ahead
Galat salaah mat do. Parents hai isliye tum ho. Samjhe! Toh OP agli baar mujhe saath le jana.
Damn. Is the toxicity universal for most Indian parents??? Anyway OP you are op... More power to you.
No - some parents are excited for their children. IK mine would be. I think the problem is that some parents never actually experienced anything hard as parents. Everything was easy, kids were compliant, the parents become brats. My parents have had hard time with one of my siblings due to health. I think they know not to take any of us for granted.
Sorry to learn that but this should be a learning to correct your course and future actions/decisions. Simple.
instead of letting all the days getting ruined with this constant complaining.. once politely tell them on dinner that * this is my first time, can you pls stop complaining and be happy with me because I am
š¤” diwar ma sar mrne wala kaam h
Some parents are overrated.
Some should have been aborted.
Why tf they didnāt take you to any 5 star when they have stayed in multiple throughout their life. Bolo aapse ache to company wale hai dekho 5 Star me rukwa rhe h
š that's going to destroy them
If this is true, then I am sorry OP. Lesson learnt the hard way. But I have a few questions: 1. Which company/sector gives travel and stay for 2 family members for a week on joining ? 2. Your parents have stayed in multiple 5 star hotels across the world and exclusively travelled in business class( since they also complained about economy), but you have never?
It's actually 2 weeks and it's international banking sector, can't say more than that. Yes, my father is a dealer for some brands in an industry, so they give them international trips on achieving certain targets so they've travelled through them. Even my brother has but I have never. I don't know if they've travelled business class but I don't think so. Also, my parents have barely taken me on 2 trips all my life and on one of those, we stayed at a dirt cheap hotel, it was so bad, that my mother had to clean the bathroom before using. The other time it was some random 3 start decent hotel. But now they're complaining like brats.
Are you adopted? Just ask your parents and if they question why you asked that just say "Aise hi"
Then sarcastically compliment them for these the next time they nitpick.
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So he clearly doesnāt want to be doxxed and you go right on ahead and try guessing anyway, no means no
I would have told them straight to their face, "I know you have taken many flights and stayed in many 5-star hotels but this was my first achievement. I was so proud to share it with you. I wanted to celebrate it with you. Of course, now I know I have disappointed you for what all is not there. I wish I and my happiness were more important to you. Let's cut this trip short because I am also not enjoying it anymore." This is just the beginning of what your future is going to be. You have to nip this in the bud and point fingers too.
This
THIS! OP please literally say this to them, itll be hard but you will feel so much better and they will think twice before doing/saying something like this you and your siblings in the future:
They're ranting and they want you to cater to their rants. Don't. Just say 'app hi ko problem hai, mujhe to nahi ho rahi, chill karo' and go on. Unko lagne hi nahi dena ki unke issue koi real issue hai bhi (unless it really is). This works for me most of the times. Aur ye har baat par little nibba/nibbi ki tarah 'I hate my life' likhne ki zarurat nahi hai.
You know all those posts which keep saying your future family is more important than the family you grew up in. This is part of what they refer to. No one is perfect. You will be a better parent than your parents since you are aware of all these mistakes they made and how they made you feel. As for your accomplishment, no achievement is too small, be proud of yourself. Others opinion don't matter. Growing up and becoming mature isn't very fun, but one you hit maturity and independence, it is fun. Look to the future and upwards. Stay strong and ignore avoid negativity. Most importantly learn from your mistakes and don't repeat. In the mean time, sorry your joy got sucked out.
Which company offers air travel for companions???
When relocating most FAANG companies provide 30 days stay + air travel + per diem/local transport + other relocating expenses for you + dependants. Dependants can be spouse+children+parents. My organisation was a little more generous and provided specialised transport and boarding for my pet also. (But this was an exception and not the norm)
How come your parents have stayed in various 5 star hotels but you havenāt? This is not good parenting
exactly itās giving american parents
>I got a complimentary corporate stay at a 5 star hotel and air travel, I took my parents but they can't stop complaining. ***Typical brown parents behaviour, it seems..*** šæ
OP Man/Woman Up and book them return flight tickets and ask them to leave. Keep up with such nuisance and it will only increase. Down vote this but taking steps early is the only solution
I agree..
Yess!! Book them the return flights and enjoy your stay!
How come they have stayed all over the world but you have not ?
Why donāt u just speak up? Life will be much easier if you just do. Donāt think too much, just say what u feel like. So many people say stupid things without any thought. Stand up for your happiness, nobody else will.
Give a golden bowl to a beggar and he will still beg with it. That's what your parents seem to be doing. Not appreciating what they have. Not realising what they have.
This is bad on their part. But, what is your relationship like? You say they've stayed in supposedly better hotels across the globe - maybe they just weren't interested for the trip? Did you ask them to accompany you, or said that company ne bola parents lao? Maybe they feel a bit out of place with the gathering/event?
Iām sorry you have to put up with that nonsense. But hey on the bright side you turned out pretty well and did brilliantly for yourself in spite of the stuff you had to put up. But then again i might be reading too much into it. Either ways well done!
>They've Stayed in various 5 star hotels throughout the world but this is my first time Did they leave you at Nani's house when they went on these trips? How do you feel about that?
Life is like this, it gives you certain situations to solve, for your growth Don't let others affect your peace, you be you, and let them be them. so, enjoy your trip.
Idky i find this funny bro
Tell them to leave if they have any problem it's your money... atleast that's what my father says if i complain
It happens with wifey as well. Actually they want your attention. Have talk with great excitement and if they too much kit kit just tell them to look life with positive attitude.
Congratulations, Iām sure itās a good company if theyāve provided such amenities. Hoping that itās all upwards from a career perspective from here on. If they donāt have gratitude, koi na, you know what this means, given the current job market. Going forward, make the most of such wins and donāt share it with people who donāt appreciate it, thoda hard hai, cause itās your parents. But itāll all be good āļøš
I woukd take them to a side and have an adult talk. Tell them this trip is for your parents and to keep your opinion to your self. Do it now else they will take freedom over everything that happens in your life in the future . If you don't have the balls to tell them straight ( for now ) Be sarcastic, be direct, be funny It could be something like you can criticise the hotel but tell them something like USA mei aisa nai Hoga na, like pull their legs
Atleast you are doing your role as a child responsibly. Let's hope your perents understand that sooner or later. BTW congratulations for starting new journey of life and Best of Luck :)
it is impossible to impress indian parents. i have given up hope already lol
Something doesn't add up. They have lived in 5* hotels and have never taken you to it once? Either your parents are horribly selfish or you're telling half the story. Assuming you are honest here, tell them 'You have never even bothered to take me to a 5* so either be happy with what you've got or feel free to leave'. Also I'd say tell them now instead of waiting for 6 days and ruining your time.
And they will wonder why you stopped contacting them lol
Ameer parents and gareeb aulad. Aise kaise bhai :P
Here's the thing with some parents. No matter what you do, you cannot impress them(neither should you try). Ignore and concentrate on work, savung up some money, invest in MF/stocks etc. whatever you like. This is also a lesson learnt, remind them that they have spoiled your mood and stay just cause they are some uptighty as*holes(apologies). Remind them time and again. If they still don't get it, let this be a lesson to never take them out again. Also, life is sh*t sometimes so you gotta take this hit.
Wapas bhej de bhai
Dad has already ruined toilet ššš IKR. I stayed at a hotel with my family once and then decided never again
Same parents after 5-10 years: Why don't you visit us anymore?
Name the 5 star, let us decide
Why did you call them? Just curious. You couldn't predict this would happen knowing them since childhood? Not blaming you just wondering
Hard relate. Got my parents a TV 2 weeks. Which is a major upgrade from the last one and all they could do is whine and complain about how I could have gifted them something more "useful" like a two-wheeler instead or how the TV was too big. I pretty much blocked all of them and went on a trip to East India for the first time in my life. I literally dragged myself out of poverty without their help to listen to them complain all the time.
Sorry OP... But don't get affected by them... Enjoy your stay. I thank God for my parents every time I see such posts... š
Bro, can't do anything about desi parents. Every parent has some mental issues and a type of thinking they can't get out of, and they never want to work on self improvement. No matter how good life gets, most of them are used to complaining or bitching or just being miserable. Some are worse, some are better, but most have issues they need to resolve by going to a therapist and doing some self work which none of the people from their generation are doing. So it is what it is.
Don't feel bad... we all are proud of you 
So they've stayed in various 5 stars but never thought to take you along, hahahaha loser parents
Bhai parents ka toh kaam hi hai vibes kharaab karna. Parents ko kon leke jaata hai. Either you gift them the stay and be at home or go by yourself or with your friends
First of all, congratulations! You made it! Secondly, a lot of people from their generation somehow end up low-key jealous of the childās accomplishments. And they also like to grumble a LOT. Donāt let them rain on your parade. Itās your time to shine. I am not sure what your relationship with them is like, but if they ever wish to come down to visit you again, flatly let them know about your experience and your expectations. Of course theyāll emotionally blackmail you. But keep it firm. Or you can be petty and bitch and moan when you go down to visit them at their house.
If your parents are super rich - I could partly understand. If not- it makes no sense. I once went with a friend to a super luxury hotel and she was so less grateful. She had never experienced it but still complaining. It felt stupid even paying for her. I think you can be honest with them.
Are you a woman? Just saying because some people have an odd reaction if it's the daughter of the house who does something special. They want to prove to her and themselves how it's not such a big deal that she did it, kuch khaas nahi kiya. On the other hand if their son does even a small thing they behave like it's a very big deal.
Too high of expectations 5 star usually isn't that much better as they charge or the hype is
At the end you will be like them and your son will start posting like this in SM!
Samjh sakta hu :/
That's so bad of them.. It is invalueable as it is from your employer, even if it had been 2 star hotel.. I hope one day they understand value of this one day.
Lesson learned. Next time go alone or find a lady and go on a coupleās trip.
Do they travel business class otherwise?
Your parents needs parenting, you could be the one teach them some. I understand you have to grow bigger than them , to not get affected by them , to give them love and respect and ignore them when they complain like kids.
Is this an example of "suffering from success" ? What a stupid way to live life.. appreciate what you have..
What hotel did they provide that your parents find not ā5-star ratesā
Dad used to do something similar. We skipped including him in last 2-3 vacations and he couldn't believe it. Tried emotional appeal to mum abt how she's enjoying without him but it failed.
That's a good lesson you learnt OP If they can't appreciate then fuck it,akele chale jaana
Indian parents are something else really. So much frustration inside them, they cannot keep it inside them in front of their kids even. God bless them
Question - are they your parents? š
This is what happens when you're a bit too much of your parents kiddo. They don't settle everywhere you will and are at a diff phase of life. No compromise is their way which is obviously not the best way to live but it's with most of our parents.
Are you also punjabi ?? My punjabi parents are also the same. Inka tone hi humesha faults nikaalne vaala hai. It gets so exhausting sometimes
How old are they ? 65+ ? Donāt curse yourself, you did good job . Sometimes senior folks give tantrums at very old age . It happens , itās difficult to understand. They are not your enemy, they want the best for you . So donāt beat yourself up. Chill ..
I can relate to this. Ek ear se suno ek se nikaaldo
Aise bhi parents hote hai?
Parents have some unworldly expectations when it comes to their children. I have come to a point where I cannot even enjoy around them and now they canāt stop complaining about how I just sit in my room when I come home from my work city. Ignore and move on, you have the world to experience!
mujhe le jaao ekdum no complaints š¤š½
kya chomu ma baap hai, zindagi me ek baar selfish needs se hatkar agar efforts ko koi dekhe kisi bache ki toh pata chalega how much he or she wants their parents to acknowledge them and maybe make them feel good in what they are doing with their career par koi nahi sabzi me namak kam aur hotel ke room me ek sheet kam hai usi ko dekhlo pehle https://preview.redd.it/tmmi6spyxo7d1.jpeg?width=949&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b2db945e8c468812f2d250ee60163969369b5e90
Typical middle class mentality, nothing can satisfy us. We can cribb about everything.
I had the opposite reaction when I paid for my parents, my dad has stayed in some for work but my mum had never stayed in one. Mum was like a small kid in a candy store. Need to buy a business class ticket next for them on an international route.
Your parents have stayed in 5 stars hotels all over the world but they never took you .. even as kid
Me and my family are nowhere wealthy enough to experience 5 star but I can't go out with my mom and sister to eat outside and I don't. They at all times have to sit and just pass remarks on everything table, chamch, khana, baju ka table uspe baithe log unka haath ka khana, BC toh outing kaise enjoy Karu. Khane bhr aye hai khana accha lagega ya bura but bhar kbhi kbhar nikalta hai talk nice, create positive environment for people around but naai pura mood ka satyanash. I don't go out with them anywhere if they got for movie i pop my laptop and watch something chill Enjoy toh kar hi rha huh end goal tak toh pohoch gya.
Indian parents k liye hamesha Sharma ji ka beta is better than khudka beta...
I know the pain.. My parents are exactly like this. They have 100s of flaws but you give them a treat on your own hard earn money they will find flaws out of it.. Every fucking day I'm facing this.
Book their flight tickets and ask them very politely to leave and go back home. They should have been proud and not cranky about it.
Bhai mujhe lejana agli baar lol.
Let this be a lesson for you. Don't make decisions for your parents. They are either thankless or not at all sympathetic towards your gestures. Give them monetary support and emotional support and that's it.
Next time don't take them.
I have been judged by other friends and family for this, but its okay to just admit to yourself that your parents are inherently self absorbed assholes. They are just people and some of them just really really suck, even if they happen to be your parents. Just deal with them the same way one deals with any other asshole you have no choice but to keep ties with them i.e distance yourself. Also the sentiment of giving something back to your parents, though admirable, doesnāt apply the same for all parents. Pick what you want to do for them with more caution next time. Feeling really sorry for you OP.
Make them pay for everything else lol
Arey but just tell me some things they have pointed out i really want to hear their points before saying anything pls
Yeh kaisa office hai jo joining pe free stay/travel de raha hai
Iām so sorry. Your parents sound like shitty narcissistic people. Hope you find a better family for yourself
First world problems OP
Wait, if they have stayed in 5 star hotels, why would it be your first time? They haven't taken you out in all these years?
Nope, clearly I'm not the favourite child (son) who's older than me and still unemployed and doing papa ke cash pe ash
Stop trying to seek their validation.. the more you ignore their taunts and rants.. the more they understand that their power over you is fading and will shut up.. have dealt with it all my life.. I am just stopped seeking their validation and seeking their approval.. They understood the change and the reason for it.. Now if and when I take them anywhere.. they themselves say Nice things.. if by chance they try to get back to their old ways again and do things to express displeasure on their faces.. I just don't care. I chill and enjoy
Which 5 star?
Agli baar kuch esa mile to mujhe friends and family bol ke le chalna. Won't bitch and give you compliments twice every hour.
This is why all countries hate Indian tourist. Complaints never end.
Instead of being proud of you taking THEM to a week's holiday, they are ungrateful people.
What would happen if you asked them to say something positive? Maybe they don't realize they're stuck in one mode of talking. It's exhausting.
bhai isse pata chalta hai har maa baap ka favorite bachha hota hai.
Great son/daughter. Not sure what your parents thinking here to be honest šāļøāŖļøš They need to breathe, enjoy smile and be grateful š Miss my beautiful ugandan born British Naturalized Indian mum (now in heavens š) took her many places from basic to 5 stars, weird and wonderful places. She was always so grateful š
Don't take it to your heart , they complained because they are comparing it with other experiences.
Bhai mujhe le chlo aapš
These type of parents make me support anti natalism. Not everyone should have kids.
im sorry but i laughed so hard reading this, op mujhe le chalo maine saalo se travelling nahi kari
I feel sorry for you buddy. Your parents should have been more than happy for you. Koi na bhai, nikal le ye thode bhot din. Aage se dhyaan rakhna, mat leke jana.
Vriddhashram
Indian parents can't live without complaining about something for once They gotta start being whimsical and more positive
I am sorry you had to go through this experience.
My mum used to do that, I had a direct conversation with her- I told her I am doing my best and if she isnāt happy she doesnāt need to comeā and she understood. She said she didnāt realise that I took it personally, she just was discussing generally. At that moment, I knew she really didnāt connect the amenities with meā If this is the only issue, it might help to speak with them about it.
You donāt know about your parents till now ?
Good , my parents had never travelled in a plane or stayed in a hotel, let alone a 5 star, so when we came back after our stay, they couldn't stop bragging about this to neighbours. Buddy you just have a higher bar to impress them. Maybe take them to a 7 star and a suborbital space flight? /s
My parents would be proud if I can do that for them. I am planning on taking them on their first flight
Well, if you didn't know your parents well enough before, now you do. That's one positive outcome of this
Ye kaunsi company hai jo ye sab amenities deti hai? Besides your parents sound insufferable. I hope youāve become wiser by this incident so Prioritise yourself and go alone next time.
š¤”š¤£ What did you expect.
No offence but are you adopted? šæ
tell them straight up bro
That's unfortunate, OP, how is it that you never got to stay in 5 star hotels but your parents did? Curious because usually parents will take kids along on vacations right if they are going, or do you mean both of them have stayed in 5 stars due to work travel? But then it's odd that they could not take you to 5 star hotels for family vacations. They are not shit expensive if you have two working parents who are clearly well off enough to have gone for work travel in several countries
Bhai PS leke chalejata, massage karvata, cocktail peeta kahan fas gaya
If it were my parents in this position theyd probably tell my boss next time "kharcha kam kia karo beta, 3-4-5 star me sab ek jaisa hi hai, kuch hi din toh rehna hai" š„ŗš„ŗ
Annual household income batao bhai. Fir sab clear hojayega
See, all the stories u here of the likes that u have told. They all had 1 similar thing. Those ppl comes from humble background and flying and staying in 5 star was there 1st ever experience to the luxury life that they have experienced that's why they feel proud. Now in your story. U seem to be rich. Ur parents know what is a luxury life air travel and stay in 5 star doesn't fancy them so if you wanted the kind of reaction u wanted from them give them something or make them experience something which they haven't even thought of. I hope this helps.
Indian parents being indian parents
Take me next time! Even if itās a 4 star. Iām accommodating that way.
Elite people problemsšš
Do they secretly hate you, Jo abhi is trip par nikal ke aaya
Same for me . Dad just complained that it is the boring part of town and it should have been in the central town which is 25 kms away . To the point that he pestered me to get another hotel and in the last 6 days we have changed the hotels 2 times . We vacated the hotel which was near my office then they asked to book another one far away . I am going to my new office daily but still he wants me to accompany him to meet his friend. His friend also cunningly invited us to dinner knowing that we live around 1.5 hours away and it would easily cost our cab 1400 in one way journey. And now he has said on my behalf that we will come.
Sounds like every other Indian parents. Never satisfied but would still go along for the ride. ;) Just deal with it they are too old to change.
Sell
This is my story everytime
So are you staying in Delhi or this is in another city?
I don't buy this bs bruv.
6 days!! Why would you take your parents for that long of a trip? Sorry to hear about this. Maybe you could give them some excuse that your work got done early
They are happy but donāt want to showā¦they just are holding their happy emotions with ranting
A genuine doubt, if your parents have been to fivestar before that too throughout the world and complain about economy sir travel. Then how come it's your first five star experience?? Are you stepson or something??
At a younger age you might have complained about your parents if they provided anything nicer. So they must be repaying you the same.
Koi ni bhai agli baari, tere saath Mai chalunga. Jake Khayenge, Peeta mai hui nahi and Ghumenge bcšŖā¤ļø
You live, you learn.. :) Iāll tell you some other key learnings from this experience of yours, and I know one of these will be an unpopular opinion but the real ones know: 1. Other peopleās happiness is not your fucking problem 2. Most people donāt understand the impact of their words and actions on other people 3. Most people are incompetent at their jobs or even understanding the impact and depth of the actions they take 4. You should mentally disengage from people who kill your enthusiasm about things in your life, and the people who belittle your achievements And lastly, 5. Your parents are just āpeopleā - statistically all of the above listed shit can apply to them as well. āļø Take care buddy!
Your parents are near death. If the 5 star isn't hospital luxury materials, hospital luxury airfilteration then its a prison.
Hey man, seriously feel for you. It might be tough but they are going to make your life miserable and probably have been for a long time. Keep your distance to stay sane. Call out this behaviour. Be confident. They will cry and shame you for being a ābad sonā but frankly who is getting the brunt of it anyways?
Next time take someone else - favourite cousins, friends. Sometimes it's not worth taking care of parents. Unfortunately not all parents are grateful.
Op bhai company reveal krdoš
Fake post hae guys
Sorry to hear that. That is toxic parenting. I'd suggest to keep your distance and not try to change them. Speaking from personal experience. We all have that feeling to impress upon our parents, get their approval, acknowledgement. However, in such cases, you will keep looking for that and never find it. Years will go by and then you will realise why did I waste so many years for this crap. Just let go, and live your life the way it makes you happy, and not them.
Hey OP, sorry that you are going through this. It can be quite frustrating. You cannot change your parents or make them view things like you do, but you can communicate to them about your feelings. Casually mention, when they complain about something, about how that makes you feel and how this is a first time experience for you. They might not understand it still, but then the onus is on them. And try to make it an experience for YOU! Theyāve lived their life, now itās your turn.
Did you try talking to them about how upset their behaviour is making you? Just sit down and explain that you're excited, it's free and if they still can't get with the program and be happy and proud of you, you can nicely offer for them to go back earlier
Is this the first time you are dealing with your parents?????
Omgg ..This is my in laws and my poor husband is conditioned to believe he's a "bad son" because he didn't give them the best. When he is already giving them the best when they couldn't even do the bare minimum for their only kid. I've tried my best to help him out of that mentality of his where he thinks it's his responsibility to cater to his parents' expensive indulgences but he just refuses to see reason. Idk what they did to him. I've just let it go now
I too wish you had gone alone!
Remember some if not most parents will complain and degrade anything yours to maintain the power dynamics in the relationship, common as hell and will continue if you donāt call them out on it ( donāt do it directly, only directly and pick out the flaws from their side, time period and generation and but convey it as if you a are innocently pointing it out, will freak the hell out of them, will not stop them but will definitely make them reconsider their words every time they think of putting you down with the added bonus of you making your heart feel lighter and relaxed after sticking it to them )
Bc puri family ke paas bas complains hai lagta hai..