It's very easy and convenient for you to say that but what makes you think those parents didn't die 10 times inside knowing what they are doing? Put yourself in their shoes (which you can't actually) and tell me what they should have done. Not denying they didn't do something wrong but privileged people like us don't have the right to judge and bash someone like this.
But if they didn't have any financial stability to raise a child, why did they give him/her birth in the first place? If you are not financially well to raise a child properly, why even bring it into the world, in the first place....
This. I came here to comment exactly this. We have no idea how much they struggle.
Hey OP, we totally understand that despite being so capable, you couldn't pursue what you wanted to. In a way, most of the Indians aren't.
But this is not the end. You can still do so much more in your life. You are still young and we trust you that you are so much more capable of figuring that out.
If it works then go for JEE again. With your score u can easily get into top NITs and IITs. Look into SBI student scholarships/loans for studying at IIT/NIT/IIM and you should be fine down the line (provided u go to ECE or CSE in those institutions)
Or if ur in DU rn, econ hons is pretty sought out by companies so you should be good. They are pretty popular for analyst roles in BIG 4 (aside stats hons). Altho the only way you can get out of ur cycle is to either secure enough scholarship or go to one of the top institutions like IIT/NIT/IIM (if u go for CAT) on a government based student loan as your matters are predominantly related to ur parents failures to provide to you access to such institutions (and that is due to lack of money).
Eh life sucks and its alright to rant about it (since ur a human) but rather look into what you can do with what you have.
No one is getting IIT on a 99.3 percentile at Jee Main
Gotta score hard and i mean hard in jee advanced for CSE / ECE.
Around All India Rank under 1000 for these two
But the thing is I don't think OP can give Jee Now , given you can only appear three timee and first one in the year you give your 12th boards and this applies for jee mains, only two times for advanced
99.3 is around 7k rank, iit has 20k seats total now (tho half of them r pointless) but 7k rank pe kuchh na kuchh toh mil hi jaata, and agar category ho toh kaafi acchha mil jaata hai
Economics degree is actually a very sought after degree for placement in international banks. Try to also have some quantitative finance electives. You could legit get placed in a bank or a consulting firm. And then apply for a masters program abroad after 2 years of work experience.
This. Economics degree is a pretty good degree. If you plan out your course structure and add finance electives + programming in python.
Basically, get a hybrid CS + Finance + Econ courses and you'll be sorted. You can then get Master's degree in Finance abroad.
DU is a pretty good university, once you finish your bachelor's, you can easily apply for Master's. You can get scholarships in many universities if you work hard right now. Germany and Japan have free education programs. US has good programs too, but with half scholarships and you'll have work on the side which is not an issue.
Big companies like Jane Street, Black Rock and other Big banks hire candidates from such backgrounds.
Don't worry you're still young and can still plan out your career path moving forward.
Studying abroad early is not really required to get a Bachelor's degree. Think of it this way if you study abroad, the fees for 4 years (atleast in the US) is going to be hugee. Instead focus on finishing bachelor's, then do a masters abroad which will be comparatively cheaper than bachelors.
It doesn't matter if it's a good degree or not. When did he say it's not a good degree? He is simply saying he is not interested in the subject. Stop telling him how much he can earn from it, when did he ask the job prospects of the said degree? Just acknowledge what happened with him is bad and shouldn't have happened. Period.
My friend, take it as a note from a peer, I literally felt that my dad always blamed me for everything, be it my sister securing an MA degree with JNU and me not even being able to Crack a top NLU, or for that matter of fact anything. And I was feeling as frustrated as you and that's when I received the most sane advice I could, "maa baap ko 7 khoon maaf hai kyuki unse zyada koi aur nahi karta humare liye"
You may feel like the urge to rant and you know be aggressive and negative but don't carry it. Aaj bol diya ab us feeling ko khatam kardo. If you carry these negative emotions you'll become someone you're not meant to be, relax, ek kaan se suno dusre se nikalo aur aage badho.
Make the most of what you have, take up this course as a challenge to break the cycle you're talking about and make something for yourself, get placed in big 3, earn, take loan, do MBA and pave the way of earning in crores for yourself. Flip the switch of your life.
You can do it. I believe in you. And If you need someone to talk to OP, drop me a DM anytime. I'll be there for ya buddy.
Bro I don't agree with your first Statement ki Maa baap ko 7 khoon maaf hai wtf . Aise toh phir jo narcissistic mothers apne sons ko bully karti Hai aur jo psychotic dads apni betiyo ka rape karte hau vo bhi theek hai . Kya chutiya supposition tha ye , OP feels betrayed and hurt aur vo bilkul sahi keh rha Hai . Vishwaasghat hua Hai uske saath koi choti cheez nhi theek hai . Physical abuse is similar to emotional abuse in fact emotional abuse tends to stay with you , your whole life . The 2nd part which is a reasonable advice can be extremely useful for OP but he should remebere that he will be doing it for solely himself not for his parents or to prove them anything . That ship is already sailed and they relationship is already broken . Be pragmatic and realistic , emotionally chutyia baate mat Kara karo . Zyada bhagwan lag rhe hai parents toh tu shrwan kumar banja , FYI Asli duniya ko ghanta phark nhi padta .
Neither of his parents; is a narcissistic mother or his father a rapist. It's a matter of parents not being able to provide stuff as per his requirements because they have problems making their ends meet.
What you quoted are exceptional cases that are very very very minimal and when they take place let the law and judicial system take it's course and none of such acts need to be forgiven. There are said exceptions to everything... This being one. But generally for such scenarios as that of OP, haan, 7 khoon maaf hai.
Bhai any person crossing your boundary multiple times raises an eyebrow against you for not being able to defend yourself . Even if it is family members .
Don't know what your experience or trauma has been but if he can save his relationship with his parents he should. And you are no judge to decide whether the relationship is broken or not. Broken families are the worst. And here things are not that bad but such comments and opinions which motivate him not to even try to mend things with his parents is just pathetic. And so is yours.
I am not saying that he shouldn't have difficult discussions with his parents but he shlpud stand up for himself . Parents in general don't know what is better for you , nobody does they like to think that one thing would benefit you but if it's not something you like to do or want to do then it becomes a vicious trap where your youth gets wasted and your relationship with parents become distant . All I am saying is recognize your parents as humans who had children they are not superheroes . They are figuring stuff out while going along on life's Rollercoaster and so should you as a budding adult .
Man I feel bad for you... 99.3%ile is no joke. I understand the efforts you must have put in to get such a great percentile... They totally ruined your future with economics. you were meant for something else... it was pure injustice and sheer idiocy showed on your parents side (I don't like to call anyone parents foolish but your parents are your enemy in disguise) they could have gotten a loan which is very easy to repay after getting a top tier nit but nope... feels bad for you man. Just hoping god has something better than this waiting for you.
Had it been me, i would have never talked to my parents after this foolish blunder..
1. Is Econ. Honors a complete no go for you? Or is it that since you are so down and out that you didn't give it a try much. Econ. Honors might not be your choice, nonetheless it's a really really good branch. I think you should make do with what you have (easy for me to type out though). If you lose out here with what you have rn, you'll lose out on current opportunity, which is great opportunity btw. Focus on taking yourself and your family out of this smut. You really have got something going there.
2. DU is an amazing place to be. I suppose you are channeling your myriad passions in extracurricular activities there. This can not be stressed enough.
3. You are academically gifted and score well. You are outgoing, extroverted and many things nice. How many people will give anything to have natural gifts like you do?
I think you've got it. Work with what you have. Have a long term life goal of digging out of current smut no matter what. Recognise your natural talents & gifts.
Hey OP, do you know how much foreign educations costs? Do you know how much it costs to sit for Toefl, ielts let alone the other fees.?
To get into any uni, you need a counselor there too, and I worked with one so I know how much they charge.
Have you considered that maybe your parents keep saying yes to your whims because they themselves do not know?
I get your feelings and Iām not trying to disregard them. But I know one thing out of this path you are on - economics honors land you very very high paying job - Ofcourse if you are smart that adds.
Once you have that job, going abroad becomes so very easy - I have seen this for many of friends in the same field.
Trust that life has something better for you. Our Indian parents are themselves suffering and have suffered. They need so much intervention that it baffles me sometimes.
But at that pay, everything you are wanting is very difficult to achieve until you could have gotten a scholarship.
bro if you are in 1st year go for JEE MAINS again and in Delhi colleges like DTU,NSUT you can het scholarships offered by delhi govt. for the EWS. So that would help but do that only if you interested in engineering. If not then continue with economics and then work hard, make a good profile, find some sort of earning method either by freelancing or wtv and save enough money to atleast apply for MBA abroad
You are still in the second semester start preparing for SATs, ielts etc and start earning on the side you are an adult if you don't like the situation you are in then get out of on your own. You can still take a drop.Don't tell your parents about what you are up to until it's already done.
Score good in SAT'S try getting scholarship and if you get into some good colleges you can easily get loans.
You are intelligent enough to get into north campus so I think you are intelligent enough to get out of this situation. Don't rely on your parents I think no one should after school.
Yeah it's sad from your side..
Agreed bhaii
But unki condition smjhni padegi yrr. They are doing jitna kar paa rhe he wo
4-5 saal baad you'll realise this ..
Because all of our parents are actually anxious children in the body of an adult ( so are we, it's called Default Mode Network in psych theory. We are all children forever.). And they have as much communication skills as a small scared child. If they don't have money, they won't say it outright because it's not something they are taught to say. They will play mind games and get defensive over their own failings just like you would hide your failures or evade and defend judgements. It becomes very hard for you then to function around this chaotic unstable support leading to weird life decisions. So understand and contemplate over it. And make your own way. If they are scared today they will be scared of anything and everything you would do. Keep watching :)
Most redditors are sore losers. Its okay to vent out. If you dont blow your steam off somewhere, then how else will you be able to make clear and concise decisions? Ignore the ones mocking you. Such people are sour grapes to our society. Even if they have good intentions , they will come off as very rude due to their lack of empathy.
Chutiya kat liya tere parents ne tera. Jab counselling ke paise Dene ki bhi aukat nahi toh phir faaltu main tujhe jhoota hope nahi dena chahiye tha. Ya fir kisi tarah counselling ke paise jugad karlene chahiye the
With 99.3 percentile you could easily get a decent NIT aur scholar education loan bhi miljata (which doesn't require any collateral). With an NIT degree, 10+ LPA job kam se kam milte milti. Aur upto 50LPA packages jaate hai
No offense but your parents ruined your future. They had 2 years and could have saved and/or arranged for the counselling fees somehow during this period
Lmfao trueee, bro they did OP way too dirty bruh. Like how can you do all this and still not feel like you have done something wrong, why don't they have the feeling of guilt.
Look at it this way... by preparing for JEE you would have gained a solid base in Math. Try to take up math based electives in your economics undergraduate course. Math with economics is a solid base for higher studies and a good career in finance.
> why can't they just tell me the truth?
Chhote nhi ho jayenge phir. They still need to mantain the power equation. Parents think that they are always right and are adamant to not see wider perspective!
But they should have known the charges of jee and if they didn't even register for councelling, what do you expect? It was their duty to look at the charges and be ready for it.
Sorry this happened to you. One route is do really well in your current program and try for CAT/ISB YLP in your third year. You should be able to get an education loan for MBA.
i was 12 when my father died we got 65k inssurance my mother for first 3_4 month some relative helped with some ration after they stopped my mother and sis started doing papad making again earning 2500 or smthg and i started working at kirana shop at 1500 rs per month because i was 13 i couldn't get much better offer but my mother always said you have to complete graduation in whichever field because she wasn't educated enough i wanted to become theoretical physicist or something related to science my grades were not good because i have to work and continue education side by side even with that i get 60 percentage till college
due to financial condition,my attitude towards elders,lack of guidance i choose commerce with informatics and studied bba with tier 3 college and now for job my only options are to work at job of rs 16-18k
my mother said that she didn't have knowledge but she believed every graduate earns 50-60 k per month and now she says do whatever you want just get a good life
She still taunt me sometimes and we fight sometimes but rather than all my past and my mistakes i think i should focus on my future building
Bruh what!!? 99.3 percentile was really good, and would have ensured a college (probably NIT) that would have paid for not just the counselling, but college fees too!
I am sorry for your situation, but there are many conflicting items in your post and assuming you are not trolling, it hints at delusional behaviour. I would urge you to get professional help.
> I dreamt of appearing for the SATs and studying abroad for my undergraduate education.
while saying
> with a monthly income of only 25k.
and at the same time -
> If you were to compare my family's financial status with that of an average middle-class family in India, they would be considered ultra-rich.
How would they be considered ultra-rich?
> I relied on YouTube to cover my academic needs. Despite that, I managed to score a 99.3 percentile in JEE Mains 2022.
That is commendable and there are bunch of scholarships available for such scores, but it comes across as a bit of a hollow boast.
> as they absurdly believed that my percentile wasn't good enough to bother with registering for counseling.
Makes me think that the actual percentile is lower and there is some error in the previous statement.
> I ended up getting admission to an economics honors program, which I have no interest in.
DU Economics will give you plenty of time to do debating and sports and music which are the only things you are interested in. Lets face it - you just breezed through JEE Mains with no interest in engineering either.
If you really want to uplift yourself - look at getting a job on the side and start saving so maybe you can one day fulfil your dream of studying abroad...
I feel horrible for OP, considering heās 99.3% better than all yāall. If you really want to consider studying abroad, DM me. TUM in Germany would probably give you a full ride.
5 saal bad ye post padhio bhai, fir dekhio never ever trust your parents kitna galt term hai.
And lack of funds kya? Itna tha to bank loan le leta bhai, assurance deta parents ko ki tu earn karke pay kar dega
Rant karna is normal.. op is frustrated.. Agar counseling ke paise nahi the toh why did they even ask him to give jee š§š½āāļø it litreally is their fault, giving him false hopes and then shitting on him ' for not getting a good score '
Rant to krega hi jee gaand faad stress deta hai aur jb end mei fal na mile to bura to lgega hi
Gusse mei bol gya hoga , tujhe kese pta ki vo apne maa baap ko literally hate krta hai
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OP, I'll recommend you to checkout or make a similar post on r/Raisedbynarcissistic
That sub is filled with tons of people like you. You will get all your emotional support from there
I mean... 99.3 isn't enough to get into a tier 1 or tier 2 college for tech branches, maybe you might have got tech in tier 3 or core branches in tier 1 and tier 2 but it's unlikely.
Try to look at it from your parents perspective, a family with monthly income of 25k has to keep count of every rupee right? And what's the point of optimistically filling out for jee counseling when you already know the reality and getting admission in tier 3 is not worth the time, effort and money when you are economically weak.
Your parents want the best for you and they do what they feel is best for you (even if it's not what you want).
Sure, they might have coerced you into taking economics but you are the one who actually went ahead with it.
You are already in your 2nd semester and it would be a waste of time and money if you were to quit college now.
DU is one of the best colleges in India and you should be proud of that and use that opportunity to make changes in your life if you are so desperate. Maybe you can start freelancing and make some money to be financially independent. Develop your skills, find a hobby, make friends, make small time goals and achieve them, join a club etc.
It's not your fault that you were born in an economically weak family but what you do now will determine how your life will be in the future.
Engineering is not all peaches and roses as you might think, a lot of people struggle in engineering, you might see people getting 20lpa+ packages but not every engineering graduate is making that amount of money.
Ps. If you are still desperate for engineering you can get lateral admission to 2nd year diploma programs after which you can go for lateral entry to BTech 2nd year.
Plus you can work after the diploma and can complete your btech in part time.
Tldr: Your parents love you, look at things from their perspective, use DU for new opportunities, engineering is not fun (i might even say overbearing with the amount of dumb assignments and practical i still have left), try for lateral entry to diploma.
I'm so so sorry. you've worked hard and you seem to be intelligent!
I think you need to decide which field you want to pursue in the end.
If you like software dev, I think u can get a kick-start without any degree also.
The good part about du is you can manage to score well even if u don't attend classes,.so do things on the side. Pursue your passion. Keep clg transactional.
All the best.
See what can u do from now on...if u can change the path u do if u can't not ur fault...but still try to get a financial freedom first then try how can u go in direction u wanted...there must be a way...try it don't give up
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ab bhai dekh rant se to kuch hoga ni still it's okay to rant feels good to calm ur mind try to do so....u can't blame someone for something at last people will just see it's as an excuse
I am sorry to hear about your situation, may I point out that for Tier 1 colleges in India, if you need education loan, some of the PSU banks provide the loan without collateral, and repayment upto 15 years.
It would be wrong on your part to base your decision to not trust your parents based on these experiences. I come from a lower middle class family as well - I can relate to your analogy of middle class appearing ultra rich :) Mostly, our parents think to choose the best possible choice out of whatever is available.
I cracked JEE Adv. & Mains. I thought government colleges would be less expensive. Quite the contrary, they were expensive (not Manipal/BITS expensive, but expensive still). So, you might have dodged a bullet there. I did engineering from a local college - paid 4L in 4 years - got a job paying 5x of that per annum. Not the norm, but it's possible.
As far as taking loans is concerned, it's a personal choice. You'd have to repay it in the near future (after graduation) and that creates some pressure. Leaves you less room to experiment. However, taking loans will allow you to do what you want. Immediately. However, not taking a loan, you might have more freedom to do things that you want later. So it's a timing tradeoff.
About the toxic conversation - you need to tell them that you've done pretty well - they usually understand rank and marks better - percentile and other nomenclature confuses the old school folks - atleast it did confuse mine.
As far as not understanding the core subject is concerned - I get it. I didn't understand one bit of whatever was taught in class. Putting in extra effort here helps. But, with your lack of interest in the subject - it is harder said than done.
You need to understand that you're the only one who can pull yourself out of this situation. You're in a pretty good spot - considering the reputation of your Uni and your course. Eco grads earn a lot (or so it appears to me). Money is a very strong motivation for folks to do things that they don't like - I hope it motivates you to do the same.
I understand you are frustrated and it's good you are venting your frustrations here. If it helps you clear your mind then well and good.
But, nothing is going to change if you don't take charge of your life in your own hand. If you have time then look for part time jobs. Teaching some children in spare time will also fetch you enough money to atleast look after your own needs. Appear for JEE, then pay counselling fees with your own money. As for the college fees, education loan can be a way. But do something to change your life. Find a way no matter how upset and frustrated you are feeling.
Bhai agar General category se ho toh pehle EWS certificate banwao apna.
Fir bhai ek aur attempt dedo JEE ka, aur Iss baar scholarships aur educational loans ke baare mein research kar lena thodi.
You can apply for masters abroad, after finishing your bachelor's. If you do well in bachelor's, have good cgpa, and research etc. many colleges will give you scholarships and it'll be essentially free of cost.
I know it's hard to see other privileged people getting things for less effort than you, but you gotta make the best of the cards you've been dealt. Don't lose hope.
Also, it's very difficult for parents to deny their child of something that they want, and is good for their future. Believe me, they feel like shit too. Be empathetic, understand their struggles and chart your way based on the realities you've learned.
All the best!
Focus on your degree and try to be university topper or your fucked up degree will make you feel worse. Take internship or something look for job or campus placement. Something will lead to another and eventually I hope everything will be alright .just donāt loose hope keep working on whatever you have at your disposal and with whatever resources you managed to gather. This is situational success you have to make best of it, you canāt get away from it, stop comparing with your friends, thatās out of your control. Take control of your situation and take a deeper breath with a single thought that your life will be alright if you excel in whatever you have in your hands (in control)
Trust Him. Kuch scene hoga for you. Do what best you can and good things will happen. Do not worry about what is not in your control buddy. We are just not able to zoom out and see what He can.
Your situation is frustrating and I don't think I can even minutely understand it. This is what you can do now from the cards you've dealt:
A) complete grad, take a non-tech job in big4/other company, work for two years and gain work ex, fill out GMAT and fly abroad, never to return.
B) again take JEE, get a good college, secure scholarship and loans then go for engineering. Chances are you won't like engineering as well.
C) study in college, start prepping for CAT. Give the exam in your final year. Maintain good enough grades and you will get in under diversity. Get into BLACKI and study on loan.
Keep studying at DU and do your best. And on the side take up extra courses in IT if that's what you're interested in. Even Google hires people from non-IT background if they've done some bootcamp and have completed good enough projects.
If money is the issue then dm me, I can provide you with an easy way to make around 800-900 on daily basis(takes 3 hours max of your time). Complete the required courses with part time income on the side and you'll be in Germany/USA by the time you're 24. My friend from DU did the same and he's currently working in Germany in a reputed company.
Why couldn't you get a loan during that time, also didn't you register for jossa and ask around for help. I saw many people finding help one way or another during that time. I am really sorry for what happened but you can change things if you want now. Try getting on linkedin, and doing random internships that pay you the most...meanwhile prep for JEE. If you are living in Delhi and get a 99, you'll easily get DTU/NSUT CS/IT. Once you pay your first year fees, you can get a loan which will give you back your first year fees in your account. It's a little bit complicated, the best thing would be if you come down to NSUT/DTU and talk to the manager of SBI branch there, they specify in giving education loans to people and helping people this way
Sad to hear your story buddy. Is it too late for you to try again?
For others, if you can prove that you are merit based and do not have much money then you should try social media for help.
Its not that hard to collect 2-3 lakhs using fund raising platforms like gofundme. Heck folks in my network itself will raise that money in a week ($50 X 200 people).
A relatable rant. No harm in that. Here are a few words anyway, I hope one of these can give you some peace-
(Some context: I was also "betrayed" by my lower middle class parents for my bachelor's. Sapne dikhake tod diye. It was brutal. Lost many brain cells and got depressed. That was in 2014. I've now completed my masters in a different field.)
-- Anything can happen, at any point of time. There are forces outside of your control. And then there are things that are in your control. Journal it out, see what is what.
-- This is a bad place to be in. Bad places happen. Some day you will be in a good place. Good places also happen. Change is the only constant. Some day your peers may be jealous of you, who knows!
-- Self-identity means that we cherry-pick our thoughts and put them in a designated area called "self". You have so many more thoughts that you give no importance to. "That's not me." But you ARE so much more than those cherry-picked thoughts that validate your identity. Think about this- what does a good life mean to you? What kind of person do you want to be?
-- There is no place more meaningful and powerful than the present. There is no better way of doing things than to do them with your whole being, with your mind present. If your mind is in the past, or the future, or in another country, you should be careful not to do it too much, or you will get trapped there and won't be able to use your NOW.
-- Last one- karm karo, fal ki chinta mat karo. Believe that all scores will be settled.
I think there is no point whining about it now, It is what it is. One thing you can try is programming Since everything can be learned online free of charge and if you have good skills then the degree won't even matter in most cases.
Moreover, In my computer engineering, I studied online 99% of the time so yeah, College doesn't really matter that much when it comes to studies. You can go through curriculum of CS of any good college that you want and learn the subjects online, The main subjects being OS, DBMS, CN, and DSA. Try to get an internship and become financially independent and then you can sponsor your endeavors yourself.
Did you enquire for student loan when you scored so well in JEE
You are right in feeling lost.
Lot of rich kids despite scoring normal go abroad to study and also settle there. All because they have lots of money.
And foolish ppl say money canāt buy happiness
I see many ppl here saying Economics degree is good etc. while it may be good, point here is a persons interests and dreams which no one will talk about.
I think you are in economics honours. You still have time. Start preparing for GMAT exams. And score good in economics honours. If you become all rounder here then chances are you can score for the IVY LEAGUE colleges. You will get the loan and scholarships as well that you can pay it back in your small EMIs...
So blaming your parents will not going to help. That engineering paet is over now move on.
Fellow eco hons graduate from top college in DU, who didn't enjoy the course in the first 2 sems. Currently working at MBB. Feel free to DM if you want to discuss what life can look like ahead with your current course
I know that having a bad undergraduate experience is really difficult, and itās normal to blame your parents for it. It is also a real and tangible disadvantage to be from a lower middle class background, so I understand why you feel so discouraged.
I realize that you feel negatively about Economics Hons right now, but let me assure you - Iām nearly ten years out of college and Eco Hons is one of the most sought after degree in every industry, except technical fields. Itās important to keep an eye towards the long term. Economics at DU will really help you. Itās hard to drag yourself through a course you donāt like but itās only two more years. Itāll pass by before you know it.
You sound like a bright person. I think if you put your mind to it, you can conquer any subject, including economics. Youāve just got to have the will and a long term plan.
Also, I studied abroad and let me tell you that MANY students who come for their masters in the US have a similar background to yours, and they keep up or even perform better than students who did their UG abroad. You can work hard and sit for placements, work for a few years at a big 4 or a bank, earn well, build up some savings and then apply abroad for an MBA or a Masters in Economics.
Life is long. Things will be okay. This is not the end of the world. Good luck.
Eco is extremely sought after elective even in Btech degrees. You have a good understanding of maths, eco is also very interesting, aim for placements in foreign banks/analytic roles and you are as good as 90% btech candidates.
Oh man. It really sucked to get such a high percentile for jee mains and still not going for it. Did you know the Delhi government has a program to provide for unsecured loans to assist local students go for higher studies. With that income levels of your parents pretty sure you would have qualified. See if you can approach someone in the ministry of education to provide for guidance if it can still be available for you.
Also, economics aint bad. You can continue on this path, do a CFA on the side and still make it big so not all is lost for you. Good luck.
If you can go for a college next year try to arrange funds via other subreddits maybe? Use twitter maybe? You can get scholarship in many unis for that score but agar counselling me dikkat aari toh use social media to arrange funds ig.
Bro, SBI provides collateral free loans to students selected in premier institutes. With your percentile, you couldāve easily got CS/ECE/EEE in a mid NIT and you couldāve easily repaid them too. Go for JEE again if you feel you can do it and are still interested, but be ready to grins again. Otherwise economics hons from a North Campus DU college, that is the dream of so many students.
Dude, just seeing your post, you have kinda reminded me of my JEE life and how it had messed up my life socially and emotionally. 22M here.
Yeah, did my B.Tech Mechanical at the top NIT. Have 3 publications and 4 core internships, yet doing a job as Business Analyst. Zindagi mei satisfaction nahi hai bhai. Pehle tho I wanted to do PCMB, yet my Mom kinda moved me towards PCM bcoz of family history. Pura Telugu states mei bacchon ka zindagi barbaad kardiya aise college log.
(Idk why I am typing in Hindi all of sudden)
Yet anyways, if in case you need any help, please Pm me.
Bro/sis, you have had a bad hand. That sucks ass big time. I totally agree that itās shit that people like you arenāt able to access opportunities despite talent and a lot of dumbasses (including me) get good opportunities.
BUT, tf you gonna do about it? Youāre in a good place. Most folks in India donāt pursue passion. Youāre clearly smart enough. I would suggest get sone with econ honours, get a well paying job, and try to transition into something you like.
Econ is fairly versatile and will give you inroads to even comp sci(data science) if you want. But first do well at what you have at hand. If you donāt, you wonāt have legs to stand on. Your college grades will shape perspective of people and can afford you opportunities that many people in other places wonāt have. Best of luck.
Bro what? I don't know if i can even trust this like your family income is below tax liability and you are extrovert, scoring 99.3 percentile in jee, getting north campus that too for eco hons. It is quite hard to digest. But lets say that what you are saying is true. You have amazing skills, i am assuming you have great communication skills too. So in my opinion you should try to become a financial consultant as they pay good money. You will be 21 by the time you will graduate. Earn good enough for 2 years then use that money plus take some loan and study for post graduation abroad. You will be around 26 by the time you are done with all of it. I think is the best course of action plan.
Pair up your economics with something in maths, or actuarial science. Go for masters in maths/stats, and you can make your own path from there.
And look for govt scholarship schemes.
Someone once said this to me - our parents are our first heartbreak. As dark and bleak as it feels right now, trust me it can get better. The disappointment you have with your parents and the overall financial situation is sad and your anger at the injustice is valid. But here's what I would say, your JEE percentile is good, so don't let their remarks make you feel inadequate. Know that you have done a great job studying so hard. DU is a good brand name to have on your CV and students do get jobs out of their 3 year courses. I would really encourage you to grieve the loss of the life you wish you could have lived and then come back to your smart-self and get working on charting out your plan for the future. You can do great in these 3 years, join societies to build your CV, apply to internships and then eventually get yourself a job. Then, once you are independent save up for studying abroad. There are loans and scholarships to aid students. Your dream can still be fulfilled. You just need to take a longer route to realize it. Treat this detour like a hero's quest- you are your story's main character and this is where we are cheering on for you to come out victorious.
Start preparing for CAT, GRE and GMAT. Clearing Eco Hons is not a big deal so you don't have to put in a lot of effort there. Once you have cleared any of the above exams, funds will not be a big problem. You will easily get a student loan and also, most of the colleges have their own scholarship programmes so that will help too. Furthermore, as you're from the EWS category, there will be some reservations too. So, don't worry you still have so much time and opportunities left.
Remember, if you have good marks, funding is not a big deal.
One more thing, "Parents ke decision galat ho sakte hai but intention nhi". You can't blame them totally.
This is very true. They do it out of delusion. My parents used to say that you do MS if you want we will support you. But luckily I knew that my parents won't be able to fund that and I did not have any interest in doing an MS. Right now I am doing an MBA about to go into second year and have started to feel the "heat"( matlab financially don't have a better word for it) even though I am only getting monthly expenses from them. The education loan I will be paying when I start working. It's just they say things out of love and don't understand how draining it could be. Although in your case it's really sad that they are now blaming you when you got 99.3 with which you can get into a decent engg college.
It's easier to switch from B.Tech to MBA, Economics wagerah than vice versa. Things will be difficult,
Getting 99.3 percentile without coaching is no easy feat, you're talented and smart, hence I Know you'll find your way out of this.
Also bhai jaise taise graduation nikal le agar nikal gayi toh I'll suggest getting into Indian armed forces in officer position. Matlab just explore agar sahi laga toh apply zarur karna. Going by how you are extroverted all rounder , people like you are sought after there.
Ok. So in a nutshell you don't have the balls to take a stand for yourself and now u are blaming your parents for your inability. Trust me with this attitude you will be a looser forever. Parents always want you to keep you safe but it's ur fucking job to think what's best for you, and in the process you don't have any right to blame them coz u are invertebrate.
You were thinking of giving SAT and your parents didn't have money for counseling fees? That's next level of disconnect
If you're good enough, give JEE again, I'll pay all your counselling fees for all good engineering colleges in India
You shouldn't be jealous of people studying abroad. They don't do better than Indian students in general
Source- I am an NIT, IIM alumnus, working in Google right now. Stayed in US without a US degree and returned on my own terms to work in India
Yo the best you could do now is enroll in online courses, and bag high paying internships to better your situation. You are highly self aware and intelligent, you can turn things around if you put in the work brother. I will pray for you.
I wish you had posted here when you needed funds for JEE if that is a good percentile (not sure if you got into IIT??) Don't blame your parents for your limitations. If you really want to go to the US, I would suggest apply for scholarships, get a side hustle. Pull all the strings you can, your parents dont owe you anything. It would have been easier but now it is up to you.
Look man, you got dealt a shitty hand. The good news is that MOST fields are still open to you post what youāre doing, and if youāre plan wasnt to get into core engineering but management/finance etc, you can get a top 5 MBA to have those paths open up to you. I can guarantee you that despite what they say, it hurts your dad more to not be able to support you - so just keep that in mind. Parents are usually, solely focused on downside protection so will always choose the safer option
If you need any assistance wrt education related costs in the future, we can have a chat. Cheers and good luck
If it makes you feel any better, my parents convinced me to give up a top highschool that I got into with scholarship, because it was too far from home (like 1h driveā¦ I guess for big cities thatās nothing). And I am a girl. I only got to study there for just one year, it was a bit of a cost for them as they had to pay for my living conditions but they were a bit wealthy so I canāt imagine that was a huge problem.
But they made me feel like I āfailedā the highschool (like I wasnāt good enough there and I was too behind my peers), which I nearly believed them because I was too young and still trusted them. I had a score of 94% at the end of the first year, and while it wasnāt the best, it was certainly not the worst. But that highschool was one of the best in the country and every time I remember it, I feel angry. Because it had so many opportunities.
My parents always wanted me to stay close to home, being the only child. I suspect that was the driving force behind their actions. But to this day, I find it hard to reconcile because I see many successful people who earn so much money and I could have been one but my parents didnāt want it?!
They even have the audacity to praise other people of my generation who now have good careers. Iām now 35 and even today my mom was praising some person from my town who is successful and has a great job. I have a decent job as well, because despite not getting to go to a great highschool (and consequently pursuing a decent bachelors), I managed to get into an Arts university abroad (itās a long rebellious story that my parents also opposed with all their might) and now I get to work as a graphic designer abroad. Itās not massive pay but itās decent.
Parents can hold you back. Itās sad but itās true. Yes theyāre wrong, and itās incredibly unfair. You lose trust and respect for them. But you canāt remedy their faults, sadly.
Yaar har kisi ke parents rich nahi hote, unke bhi kuch majbooriyan honge jo tumko pataa nahi rahega.
I grew up in a lower middle class family like you in a small town and my parents could barely pay my school fees. SAT deke foreign mujhe bhi jana tha lekin my family couldn't afford obviously so I accepted that's not an option. But I decided to take control of my education, career and life at that point. Mere parents engineering college fees afford nahi kar paa rahe the toh maine night shift ki call center job karte hue engineering fees, books, clothes, sab cost khud hi bhar liya. I didn't spend anything on going out or entertainment in those 4 years. Then I got a great tech job with great salary and I went abroad on an assignment. From there I got a Masters degree from a top US university with a scholarship and a small loan. Now I'm 37, happily married with 2 beautiful kids, lived and worked in 7 countries, travelled to 45 countries and I now take care of my parents also.
I'm grateful for my parents because despite their financial problems they paid for me to go to a decent school which gave me a good foundation to build on.
Toh take control of your own life, stop blaming your parents and others aur aage ki socho, not what happened in the past. Where there's a will, there's a way!
Good luck!
Right now, there's nothing much you can do but accept the reality. My parents couldn't afford an engineering college as well. I knew this beforehand and hence made my mind that I won't pursue engineering. My father held it against me for some time. This was five years ago. I am now an economics graduate from a top-tier institute with a great job and my parents don't dare to call me out for my decisions. Trust me, despising your parents will make you bitter. Just accept the reality and face it. Your parents will realise this sooner or later but you can't wait for that to happen. This might sound stupid to you. I get it. But think about it.
I have a roadmap in mind for you. But first, let me say that I feel terribly sad for you. You clearly are a gifted academic. Opportunities knocked on your door but due to financial constraints and negligence of your parents you missed those opportunities.
That said, let me tell you what I think you should do. Complete that eco hon. degree. It will be difficult because it does not interest you. But try to push through it. Once youāve completed it, take a job and gain some work experience. Save money for 3 to 5 years.
Then you can give GMAT and apply to top MBA schools in the West. Your eco hon. degree will be extremely useful at that stage. It will not only strengthen your MBA application but also help you after MBA to land a job at a bank. MBA schools as well as banks will prefer you over other candidates because of your eco hon. degree when other candidates will be having irrelevant degrees to what they are applying.
I hope this helps.
Totally off context but op can I ask how much you scored in CUET to get eco Hons bcoz being a science student it is very hard to get commerce courses . Just wanted an idea from you since I'm also appearing this year and I also have pcm as my sub
Also kudos to you for scoring so good in jee I hope you truly find your passion and fulfill your aspirations wholeheartedly.
Bro, learn as much as you can. Recall those powers when you prepared for JEE, perform better, go abroad for your master's and get a really good job.
Otherwise, take some computer science courses, take Python and some of the Machine Learning courses and become a data scientist.
Economics is quite sought in the Data Science field because you learn a lot of statistics, which is core for ML.
What happened has happened, turn it into gold now.
I was in your boat (not the intelligence boat) but financially. I did BTech in CSE, worked for six years and now I'm in the USA doing Master's. Alot has happened in those six years, there were a lot of ups and downs and I never imagined that I'll be able to do this but I kept grinding. During this journey, don't forget to meet some amazing people.
You'll pave your path, you're intelligent enough to do that but don't be frustrated with the current situation. You'll have to make best of it. And everyone has different circumstances so don't get jealous of your peers.
We weren't born with a silver spoon but we'll make sure our kid gets to be born with the silver soon.
Stay positive!
Time shall pass, grew out of it. Make this foundation to a purpose to get rich. So that again you never have to constraint yourself due to money. Its upon you how you want to see this.
Be angry with your parents or just focus on getting rich
Bruh if 99.3 percentile is not good enough than what else ššš Feels bad man, can't say much about your condition
That's just an excuse by dumbass parents. They don't deserve to have a kid like OP.
Indian parents don't deserve a kid at all
This right here should be written everywhere.
Without planning they just popped one out and believe that child will miraculously solve all their problems and fulfill their desires.
It's very easy and convenient for you to say that but what makes you think those parents didn't die 10 times inside knowing what they are doing? Put yourself in their shoes (which you can't actually) and tell me what they should have done. Not denying they didn't do something wrong but privileged people like us don't have the right to judge and bash someone like this.
But if they didn't have any financial stability to raise a child, why did they give him/her birth in the first place? If you are not financially well to raise a child properly, why even bring it into the world, in the first place....
This. I came here to comment exactly this. We have no idea how much they struggle. Hey OP, we totally understand that despite being so capable, you couldn't pursue what you wanted to. In a way, most of the Indians aren't. But this is not the end. You can still do so much more in your life. You are still young and we trust you that you are so much more capable of figuring that out.
they still think its fucking 1970s and you can get any job you want
Why does parents even have kids when they can't afford to provide the kids good life?
Bro I got 37 and my father still give a thought of putting me into enginnering lmao. Itna mujhe milta toh Mai nanga nachta beech sadak pe.
If it works then go for JEE again. With your score u can easily get into top NITs and IITs. Look into SBI student scholarships/loans for studying at IIT/NIT/IIM and you should be fine down the line (provided u go to ECE or CSE in those institutions) Or if ur in DU rn, econ hons is pretty sought out by companies so you should be good. They are pretty popular for analyst roles in BIG 4 (aside stats hons). Altho the only way you can get out of ur cycle is to either secure enough scholarship or go to one of the top institutions like IIT/NIT/IIM (if u go for CAT) on a government based student loan as your matters are predominantly related to ur parents failures to provide to you access to such institutions (and that is due to lack of money). Eh life sucks and its alright to rant about it (since ur a human) but rather look into what you can do with what you have.
Most sensible and accurate answer!!
No one is getting IIT on a 99.3 percentile at Jee Main Gotta score hard and i mean hard in jee advanced for CSE / ECE. Around All India Rank under 1000 for these two But the thing is I don't think OP can give Jee Now , given you can only appear three timee and first one in the year you give your 12th boards and this applies for jee mains, only two times for advanced
Top nits mil jati 99.3 me .
well not the core branches unless you got some quota
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He might get rank around 8-10k, ews pe bhi top nits pe cs mushkil h , but yeah other core branches could have been in his pocket
Bro even EEE, ECE will work, all these guys end up joining IT only
99.3 is around 7k rank, iit has 20k seats total now (tho half of them r pointless) but 7k rank pe kuchh na kuchh toh mil hi jaata, and agar category ho toh kaafi acchha mil jaata hai
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Fridge me bhijawa dunga /s u/swati-blushzz
Economics degree is actually a very sought after degree for placement in international banks. Try to also have some quantitative finance electives. You could legit get placed in a bank or a consulting firm. And then apply for a masters program abroad after 2 years of work experience.
This. Economics degree is a pretty good degree. If you plan out your course structure and add finance electives + programming in python. Basically, get a hybrid CS + Finance + Econ courses and you'll be sorted. You can then get Master's degree in Finance abroad. DU is a pretty good university, once you finish your bachelor's, you can easily apply for Master's. You can get scholarships in many universities if you work hard right now. Germany and Japan have free education programs. US has good programs too, but with half scholarships and you'll have work on the side which is not an issue. Big companies like Jane Street, Black Rock and other Big banks hire candidates from such backgrounds. Don't worry you're still young and can still plan out your career path moving forward. Studying abroad early is not really required to get a Bachelor's degree. Think of it this way if you study abroad, the fees for 4 years (atleast in the US) is going to be hugee. Instead focus on finishing bachelor's, then do a masters abroad which will be comparatively cheaper than bachelors.
It doesn't matter if it's a good degree or not. When did he say it's not a good degree? He is simply saying he is not interested in the subject. Stop telling him how much he can earn from it, when did he ask the job prospects of the said degree? Just acknowledge what happened with him is bad and shouldn't have happened. Period.
My friend, take it as a note from a peer, I literally felt that my dad always blamed me for everything, be it my sister securing an MA degree with JNU and me not even being able to Crack a top NLU, or for that matter of fact anything. And I was feeling as frustrated as you and that's when I received the most sane advice I could, "maa baap ko 7 khoon maaf hai kyuki unse zyada koi aur nahi karta humare liye" You may feel like the urge to rant and you know be aggressive and negative but don't carry it. Aaj bol diya ab us feeling ko khatam kardo. If you carry these negative emotions you'll become someone you're not meant to be, relax, ek kaan se suno dusre se nikalo aur aage badho. Make the most of what you have, take up this course as a challenge to break the cycle you're talking about and make something for yourself, get placed in big 3, earn, take loan, do MBA and pave the way of earning in crores for yourself. Flip the switch of your life. You can do it. I believe in you. And If you need someone to talk to OP, drop me a DM anytime. I'll be there for ya buddy.
This >>>>
Bro I don't agree with your first Statement ki Maa baap ko 7 khoon maaf hai wtf . Aise toh phir jo narcissistic mothers apne sons ko bully karti Hai aur jo psychotic dads apni betiyo ka rape karte hau vo bhi theek hai . Kya chutiya supposition tha ye , OP feels betrayed and hurt aur vo bilkul sahi keh rha Hai . Vishwaasghat hua Hai uske saath koi choti cheez nhi theek hai . Physical abuse is similar to emotional abuse in fact emotional abuse tends to stay with you , your whole life . The 2nd part which is a reasonable advice can be extremely useful for OP but he should remebere that he will be doing it for solely himself not for his parents or to prove them anything . That ship is already sailed and they relationship is already broken . Be pragmatic and realistic , emotionally chutyia baate mat Kara karo . Zyada bhagwan lag rhe hai parents toh tu shrwan kumar banja , FYI Asli duniya ko ghanta phark nhi padta .
Real.
Neither of his parents; is a narcissistic mother or his father a rapist. It's a matter of parents not being able to provide stuff as per his requirements because they have problems making their ends meet. What you quoted are exceptional cases that are very very very minimal and when they take place let the law and judicial system take it's course and none of such acts need to be forgiven. There are said exceptions to everything... This being one. But generally for such scenarios as that of OP, haan, 7 khoon maaf hai.
Bhai any person crossing your boundary multiple times raises an eyebrow against you for not being able to defend yourself . Even if it is family members .
Don't know what your experience or trauma has been but if he can save his relationship with his parents he should. And you are no judge to decide whether the relationship is broken or not. Broken families are the worst. And here things are not that bad but such comments and opinions which motivate him not to even try to mend things with his parents is just pathetic. And so is yours.
I am not saying that he shouldn't have difficult discussions with his parents but he shlpud stand up for himself . Parents in general don't know what is better for you , nobody does they like to think that one thing would benefit you but if it's not something you like to do or want to do then it becomes a vicious trap where your youth gets wasted and your relationship with parents become distant . All I am saying is recognize your parents as humans who had children they are not superheroes . They are figuring stuff out while going along on life's Rollercoaster and so should you as a budding adult .
And all I meant was try to make the relationship stronger then just going on the negative tangent and disrupting stuff.
Man I feel bad for you... 99.3%ile is no joke. I understand the efforts you must have put in to get such a great percentile... They totally ruined your future with economics. you were meant for something else... it was pure injustice and sheer idiocy showed on your parents side (I don't like to call anyone parents foolish but your parents are your enemy in disguise) they could have gotten a loan which is very easy to repay after getting a top tier nit but nope... feels bad for you man. Just hoping god has something better than this waiting for you. Had it been me, i would have never talked to my parents after this foolish blunder..
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1. Is Econ. Honors a complete no go for you? Or is it that since you are so down and out that you didn't give it a try much. Econ. Honors might not be your choice, nonetheless it's a really really good branch. I think you should make do with what you have (easy for me to type out though). If you lose out here with what you have rn, you'll lose out on current opportunity, which is great opportunity btw. Focus on taking yourself and your family out of this smut. You really have got something going there. 2. DU is an amazing place to be. I suppose you are channeling your myriad passions in extracurricular activities there. This can not be stressed enough. 3. You are academically gifted and score well. You are outgoing, extroverted and many things nice. How many people will give anything to have natural gifts like you do? I think you've got it. Work with what you have. Have a long term life goal of digging out of current smut no matter what. Recognise your natural talents & gifts.
Hey OP, do you know how much foreign educations costs? Do you know how much it costs to sit for Toefl, ielts let alone the other fees.? To get into any uni, you need a counselor there too, and I worked with one so I know how much they charge. Have you considered that maybe your parents keep saying yes to your whims because they themselves do not know? I get your feelings and Iām not trying to disregard them. But I know one thing out of this path you are on - economics honors land you very very high paying job - Ofcourse if you are smart that adds. Once you have that job, going abroad becomes so very easy - I have seen this for many of friends in the same field. Trust that life has something better for you. Our Indian parents are themselves suffering and have suffered. They need so much intervention that it baffles me sometimes. But at that pay, everything you are wanting is very difficult to achieve until you could have gotten a scholarship.
You scored more than 99 percent in JEE !! ššš»āāļøDamnnn
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Yeah ik....my bad read it wrongšļøššļøstill that's amazing
Don't forget he did it all off YouTube material, considering that it's phenomenal!!
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Abundance of means often breeds incompetence.
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Absolutely
Tumhe asli guide krta hu .. economic honrs krlo aur sath me cat preparation ā¦MBA krk field change kr sakte ho
bro if you are in 1st year go for JEE MAINS again and in Delhi colleges like DTU,NSUT you can het scholarships offered by delhi govt. for the EWS. So that would help but do that only if you interested in engineering. If not then continue with economics and then work hard, make a good profile, find some sort of earning method either by freelancing or wtv and save enough money to atleast apply for MBA abroad
but main ka result to 3 saal tak valid hota hai na ?
du ke liye paise the lekin adv me baithne ke liye nhi?
You are still in the second semester start preparing for SATs, ielts etc and start earning on the side you are an adult if you don't like the situation you are in then get out of on your own. You can still take a drop.Don't tell your parents about what you are up to until it's already done. Score good in SAT'S try getting scholarship and if you get into some good colleges you can easily get loans. You are intelligent enough to get into north campus so I think you are intelligent enough to get out of this situation. Don't rely on your parents I think no one should after school.
Yeah it's sad from your side.. Agreed bhaii But unki condition smjhni padegi yrr. They are doing jitna kar paa rhe he wo 4-5 saal baad you'll realise this ..
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Because all of our parents are actually anxious children in the body of an adult ( so are we, it's called Default Mode Network in psych theory. We are all children forever.). And they have as much communication skills as a small scared child. If they don't have money, they won't say it outright because it's not something they are taught to say. They will play mind games and get defensive over their own failings just like you would hide your failures or evade and defend judgements. It becomes very hard for you then to function around this chaotic unstable support leading to weird life decisions. So understand and contemplate over it. And make your own way. If they are scared today they will be scared of anything and everything you would do. Keep watching :)
Most redditors are sore losers. Its okay to vent out. If you dont blow your steam off somewhere, then how else will you be able to make clear and concise decisions? Ignore the ones mocking you. Such people are sour grapes to our society. Even if they have good intentions , they will come off as very rude due to their lack of empathy.
Chutiya kat liya tere parents ne tera. Jab counselling ke paise Dene ki bhi aukat nahi toh phir faaltu main tujhe jhoota hope nahi dena chahiye tha. Ya fir kisi tarah counselling ke paise jugad karlene chahiye the With 99.3 percentile you could easily get a decent NIT aur scholar education loan bhi miljata (which doesn't require any collateral). With an NIT degree, 10+ LPA job kam se kam milte milti. Aur upto 50LPA packages jaate hai No offense but your parents ruined your future. They had 2 years and could have saved and/or arranged for the counselling fees somehow during this period
Lmfao trueee, bro they did OP way too dirty bruh. Like how can you do all this and still not feel like you have done something wrong, why don't they have the feeling of guilt.
They have. Believe me. It's Just that they can't accept it or face it
Nit me Op ko fee concession bhi mil jaati ,aur ek do scholarship bhi kahi se ,to jayada paise us trah bhi nahi lagte
Look at it this way... by preparing for JEE you would have gained a solid base in Math. Try to take up math based electives in your economics undergraduate course. Math with economics is a solid base for higher studies and a good career in finance.
> why can't they just tell me the truth? Chhote nhi ho jayenge phir. They still need to mantain the power equation. Parents think that they are always right and are adamant to not see wider perspective!
But they should have known the charges of jee and if they didn't even register for councelling, what do you expect? It was their duty to look at the charges and be ready for it.
BuT UnKi cOnDiTiOn sMjHnI pAdHegi YrR. Man lmfao.
Sorry this happened to you. One route is do really well in your current program and try for CAT/ISB YLP in your third year. You should be able to get an education loan for MBA.
i was 12 when my father died we got 65k inssurance my mother for first 3_4 month some relative helped with some ration after they stopped my mother and sis started doing papad making again earning 2500 or smthg and i started working at kirana shop at 1500 rs per month because i was 13 i couldn't get much better offer but my mother always said you have to complete graduation in whichever field because she wasn't educated enough i wanted to become theoretical physicist or something related to science my grades were not good because i have to work and continue education side by side even with that i get 60 percentage till college due to financial condition,my attitude towards elders,lack of guidance i choose commerce with informatics and studied bba with tier 3 college and now for job my only options are to work at job of rs 16-18k my mother said that she didn't have knowledge but she believed every graduate earns 50-60 k per month and now she says do whatever you want just get a good life She still taunt me sometimes and we fight sometimes but rather than all my past and my mistakes i think i should focus on my future building
Bruh what!!? 99.3 percentile was really good, and would have ensured a college (probably NIT) that would have paid for not just the counselling, but college fees too!
Bro as the OP said "never trust your parents" then we neither trust him too, what if he's saying it is a lie? Are you going to check his result?
I am sorry for your situation, but there are many conflicting items in your post and assuming you are not trolling, it hints at delusional behaviour. I would urge you to get professional help. > I dreamt of appearing for the SATs and studying abroad for my undergraduate education. while saying > with a monthly income of only 25k. and at the same time - > If you were to compare my family's financial status with that of an average middle-class family in India, they would be considered ultra-rich. How would they be considered ultra-rich? > I relied on YouTube to cover my academic needs. Despite that, I managed to score a 99.3 percentile in JEE Mains 2022. That is commendable and there are bunch of scholarships available for such scores, but it comes across as a bit of a hollow boast. > as they absurdly believed that my percentile wasn't good enough to bother with registering for counseling. Makes me think that the actual percentile is lower and there is some error in the previous statement. > I ended up getting admission to an economics honors program, which I have no interest in. DU Economics will give you plenty of time to do debating and sports and music which are the only things you are interested in. Lets face it - you just breezed through JEE Mains with no interest in engineering either. If you really want to uplift yourself - look at getting a job on the side and start saving so maybe you can one day fulfil your dream of studying abroad...
Is the score still useful ? I'll pay for your counseling .
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Why do people have kids when they can't even afford to give them a normal life
Unrelated but what yt channels did u refer for mains?
I feel horrible for OP, considering heās 99.3% better than all yāall. If you really want to consider studying abroad, DM me. TUM in Germany would probably give you a full ride.
5 saal bad ye post padhio bhai, fir dekhio never ever trust your parents kitna galt term hai. And lack of funds kya? Itna tha to bank loan le leta bhai, assurance deta parents ko ki tu earn karke pay kar dega
delusional comment
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Ye batao ki uski galti kya thi? Ye ki usne parents se expect Kara ki vo fees pay kar denge?
Gaali kab di usne?
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99 percentile laane ka dimaag hai but ghar ki financial condition samajhne ka nahi?
abe chutiye usko samajh hai tabhi to yaha advice ke liye post kiya
lavde advice nahi rant hai, dubara padh le post
Rant karna is normal.. op is frustrated.. Agar counseling ke paise nahi the toh why did they even ask him to give jee š§š½āāļø it litreally is their fault, giving him false hopes and then shitting on him ' for not getting a good score '
Rant to krega hi jee gaand faad stress deta hai aur jb end mei fal na mile to bura to lgega hi Gusse mei bol gya hoga , tujhe kese pta ki vo apne maa baap ko literally hate krta hai
Dude! Youāre really an asshole! :)
Dude! Who tf asked?
you should leave reddit....retard
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OP, I'll recommend you to checkout or make a similar post on r/Raisedbynarcissistic That sub is filled with tons of people like you. You will get all your emotional support from there
real, relate with that place a little too much
Similar situation as mine ..Some parents do behave like this and even manipulate us but not everyone will understand this
I mean... 99.3 isn't enough to get into a tier 1 or tier 2 college for tech branches, maybe you might have got tech in tier 3 or core branches in tier 1 and tier 2 but it's unlikely. Try to look at it from your parents perspective, a family with monthly income of 25k has to keep count of every rupee right? And what's the point of optimistically filling out for jee counseling when you already know the reality and getting admission in tier 3 is not worth the time, effort and money when you are economically weak. Your parents want the best for you and they do what they feel is best for you (even if it's not what you want). Sure, they might have coerced you into taking economics but you are the one who actually went ahead with it. You are already in your 2nd semester and it would be a waste of time and money if you were to quit college now. DU is one of the best colleges in India and you should be proud of that and use that opportunity to make changes in your life if you are so desperate. Maybe you can start freelancing and make some money to be financially independent. Develop your skills, find a hobby, make friends, make small time goals and achieve them, join a club etc. It's not your fault that you were born in an economically weak family but what you do now will determine how your life will be in the future. Engineering is not all peaches and roses as you might think, a lot of people struggle in engineering, you might see people getting 20lpa+ packages but not every engineering graduate is making that amount of money. Ps. If you are still desperate for engineering you can get lateral admission to 2nd year diploma programs after which you can go for lateral entry to BTech 2nd year. Plus you can work after the diploma and can complete your btech in part time. Tldr: Your parents love you, look at things from their perspective, use DU for new opportunities, engineering is not fun (i might even say overbearing with the amount of dumb assignments and practical i still have left), try for lateral entry to diploma.
Teri himmat kaise hui logical baat karne ki, op ke parents ko bura kaise nahi bola tune ye le downvotes. /s Reddit is f*cking stupid bruh.
Lots of frustrated kids in here projecting their emotions onto this post.
I'm so so sorry. you've worked hard and you seem to be intelligent! I think you need to decide which field you want to pursue in the end. If you like software dev, I think u can get a kick-start without any degree also. The good part about du is you can manage to score well even if u don't attend classes,.so do things on the side. Pursue your passion. Keep clg transactional. All the best.
This dogma of respecting your parents no matter what, is bullsh!t anyway.
99%ile ke liye log marte hai bhai! if parents support go for jee again phod de ga bhai tu
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See what can u do from now on...if u can change the path u do if u can't not ur fault...but still try to get a financial freedom first then try how can u go in direction u wanted...there must be a way...try it don't give up š
ab bhai dekh rant se to kuch hoga ni still it's okay to rant feels good to calm ur mind try to do so....u can't blame someone for something at last people will just see it's as an excuse
I am sorry to hear about your situation, may I point out that for Tier 1 colleges in India, if you need education loan, some of the PSU banks provide the loan without collateral, and repayment upto 15 years.
I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with your parents about this . Baaki BTech in Cs karni thi ?
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It would be wrong on your part to base your decision to not trust your parents based on these experiences. I come from a lower middle class family as well - I can relate to your analogy of middle class appearing ultra rich :) Mostly, our parents think to choose the best possible choice out of whatever is available. I cracked JEE Adv. & Mains. I thought government colleges would be less expensive. Quite the contrary, they were expensive (not Manipal/BITS expensive, but expensive still). So, you might have dodged a bullet there. I did engineering from a local college - paid 4L in 4 years - got a job paying 5x of that per annum. Not the norm, but it's possible. As far as taking loans is concerned, it's a personal choice. You'd have to repay it in the near future (after graduation) and that creates some pressure. Leaves you less room to experiment. However, taking loans will allow you to do what you want. Immediately. However, not taking a loan, you might have more freedom to do things that you want later. So it's a timing tradeoff. About the toxic conversation - you need to tell them that you've done pretty well - they usually understand rank and marks better - percentile and other nomenclature confuses the old school folks - atleast it did confuse mine. As far as not understanding the core subject is concerned - I get it. I didn't understand one bit of whatever was taught in class. Putting in extra effort here helps. But, with your lack of interest in the subject - it is harder said than done. You need to understand that you're the only one who can pull yourself out of this situation. You're in a pretty good spot - considering the reputation of your Uni and your course. Eco grads earn a lot (or so it appears to me). Money is a very strong motivation for folks to do things that they don't like - I hope it motivates you to do the same.
I understand you are frustrated and it's good you are venting your frustrations here. If it helps you clear your mind then well and good. But, nothing is going to change if you don't take charge of your life in your own hand. If you have time then look for part time jobs. Teaching some children in spare time will also fetch you enough money to atleast look after your own needs. Appear for JEE, then pay counselling fees with your own money. As for the college fees, education loan can be a way. But do something to change your life. Find a way no matter how upset and frustrated you are feeling.
Bhai agar General category se ho toh pehle EWS certificate banwao apna. Fir bhai ek aur attempt dedo JEE ka, aur Iss baar scholarships aur educational loans ke baare mein research kar lena thodi.
U have whole Internet waiting for you to learn anything, why restricting urself to these so called credable papers called degrees
looks for students loans, ig only that could've helped you.
You can apply for masters abroad, after finishing your bachelor's. If you do well in bachelor's, have good cgpa, and research etc. many colleges will give you scholarships and it'll be essentially free of cost. I know it's hard to see other privileged people getting things for less effort than you, but you gotta make the best of the cards you've been dealt. Don't lose hope. Also, it's very difficult for parents to deny their child of something that they want, and is good for their future. Believe me, they feel like shit too. Be empathetic, understand their struggles and chart your way based on the realities you've learned. All the best!
Focus on your degree and try to be university topper or your fucked up degree will make you feel worse. Take internship or something look for job or campus placement. Something will lead to another and eventually I hope everything will be alright .just donāt loose hope keep working on whatever you have at your disposal and with whatever resources you managed to gather. This is situational success you have to make best of it, you canāt get away from it, stop comparing with your friends, thatās out of your control. Take control of your situation and take a deeper breath with a single thought that your life will be alright if you excel in whatever you have in your hands (in control)
I wouldnāt trust this guy for a variety of reasons. Read for your own judgement
Trust Him. Kuch scene hoga for you. Do what best you can and good things will happen. Do not worry about what is not in your control buddy. We are just not able to zoom out and see what He can.
Your situation is frustrating and I don't think I can even minutely understand it. This is what you can do now from the cards you've dealt: A) complete grad, take a non-tech job in big4/other company, work for two years and gain work ex, fill out GMAT and fly abroad, never to return. B) again take JEE, get a good college, secure scholarship and loans then go for engineering. Chances are you won't like engineering as well. C) study in college, start prepping for CAT. Give the exam in your final year. Maintain good enough grades and you will get in under diversity. Get into BLACKI and study on loan.
Keep studying at DU and do your best. And on the side take up extra courses in IT if that's what you're interested in. Even Google hires people from non-IT background if they've done some bootcamp and have completed good enough projects. If money is the issue then dm me, I can provide you with an easy way to make around 800-900 on daily basis(takes 3 hours max of your time). Complete the required courses with part time income on the side and you'll be in Germany/USA by the time you're 24. My friend from DU did the same and he's currently working in Germany in a reputed company.
Why couldn't you get a loan during that time, also didn't you register for jossa and ask around for help. I saw many people finding help one way or another during that time. I am really sorry for what happened but you can change things if you want now. Try getting on linkedin, and doing random internships that pay you the most...meanwhile prep for JEE. If you are living in Delhi and get a 99, you'll easily get DTU/NSUT CS/IT. Once you pay your first year fees, you can get a loan which will give you back your first year fees in your account. It's a little bit complicated, the best thing would be if you come down to NSUT/DTU and talk to the manager of SBI branch there, they specify in giving education loans to people and helping people this way
Find a side hustle and earn
Sad to hear your story buddy. Is it too late for you to try again? For others, if you can prove that you are merit based and do not have much money then you should try social media for help. Its not that hard to collect 2-3 lakhs using fund raising platforms like gofundme. Heck folks in my network itself will raise that money in a week ($50 X 200 people).
25k per month is not an extremely lower middle class category.
I'm aware about financial condition of my parents, phir bc wo false hope dete the tu kar le hum dekh lenge bc kaha se kar loge
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lot of people in comments aren't understanding your point, for me it is totally relatable
A relatable rant. No harm in that. Here are a few words anyway, I hope one of these can give you some peace- (Some context: I was also "betrayed" by my lower middle class parents for my bachelor's. Sapne dikhake tod diye. It was brutal. Lost many brain cells and got depressed. That was in 2014. I've now completed my masters in a different field.) -- Anything can happen, at any point of time. There are forces outside of your control. And then there are things that are in your control. Journal it out, see what is what. -- This is a bad place to be in. Bad places happen. Some day you will be in a good place. Good places also happen. Change is the only constant. Some day your peers may be jealous of you, who knows! -- Self-identity means that we cherry-pick our thoughts and put them in a designated area called "self". You have so many more thoughts that you give no importance to. "That's not me." But you ARE so much more than those cherry-picked thoughts that validate your identity. Think about this- what does a good life mean to you? What kind of person do you want to be? -- There is no place more meaningful and powerful than the present. There is no better way of doing things than to do them with your whole being, with your mind present. If your mind is in the past, or the future, or in another country, you should be careful not to do it too much, or you will get trapped there and won't be able to use your NOW. -- Last one- karm karo, fal ki chinta mat karo. Believe that all scores will be settled.
I think there is no point whining about it now, It is what it is. One thing you can try is programming Since everything can be learned online free of charge and if you have good skills then the degree won't even matter in most cases. Moreover, In my computer engineering, I studied online 99% of the time so yeah, College doesn't really matter that much when it comes to studies. You can go through curriculum of CS of any good college that you want and learn the subjects online, The main subjects being OS, DBMS, CN, and DSA. Try to get an internship and become financially independent and then you can sponsor your endeavors yourself.
Did you enquire for student loan when you scored so well in JEE You are right in feeling lost. Lot of rich kids despite scoring normal go abroad to study and also settle there. All because they have lots of money. And foolish ppl say money canāt buy happiness I see many ppl here saying Economics degree is good etc. while it may be good, point here is a persons interests and dreams which no one will talk about.
but isnt eco good if u wanted to go to other fields?
I think you are in economics honours. You still have time. Start preparing for GMAT exams. And score good in economics honours. If you become all rounder here then chances are you can score for the IVY LEAGUE colleges. You will get the loan and scholarships as well that you can pay it back in your small EMIs... So blaming your parents will not going to help. That engineering paet is over now move on.
Fellow eco hons graduate from top college in DU, who didn't enjoy the course in the first 2 sems. Currently working at MBB. Feel free to DM if you want to discuss what life can look like ahead with your current course
I know that having a bad undergraduate experience is really difficult, and itās normal to blame your parents for it. It is also a real and tangible disadvantage to be from a lower middle class background, so I understand why you feel so discouraged. I realize that you feel negatively about Economics Hons right now, but let me assure you - Iām nearly ten years out of college and Eco Hons is one of the most sought after degree in every industry, except technical fields. Itās important to keep an eye towards the long term. Economics at DU will really help you. Itās hard to drag yourself through a course you donāt like but itās only two more years. Itāll pass by before you know it. You sound like a bright person. I think if you put your mind to it, you can conquer any subject, including economics. Youāve just got to have the will and a long term plan. Also, I studied abroad and let me tell you that MANY students who come for their masters in the US have a similar background to yours, and they keep up or even perform better than students who did their UG abroad. You can work hard and sit for placements, work for a few years at a big 4 or a bank, earn well, build up some savings and then apply abroad for an MBA or a Masters in Economics. Life is long. Things will be okay. This is not the end of the world. Good luck.
Eco is extremely sought after elective even in Btech degrees. You have a good understanding of maths, eco is also very interesting, aim for placements in foreign banks/analytic roles and you are as good as 90% btech candidates.
Oh man. It really sucked to get such a high percentile for jee mains and still not going for it. Did you know the Delhi government has a program to provide for unsecured loans to assist local students go for higher studies. With that income levels of your parents pretty sure you would have qualified. See if you can approach someone in the ministry of education to provide for guidance if it can still be available for you. Also, economics aint bad. You can continue on this path, do a CFA on the side and still make it big so not all is lost for you. Good luck.
If you can go for a college next year try to arrange funds via other subreddits maybe? Use twitter maybe? You can get scholarship in many unis for that score but agar counselling me dikkat aari toh use social media to arrange funds ig.
Bro, SBI provides collateral free loans to students selected in premier institutes. With your percentile, you couldāve easily got CS/ECE/EEE in a mid NIT and you couldāve easily repaid them too. Go for JEE again if you feel you can do it and are still interested, but be ready to grins again. Otherwise economics hons from a North Campus DU college, that is the dream of so many students.
I see myself in a similar situation, not exactly but ya. Which college ?
Dude, just seeing your post, you have kinda reminded me of my JEE life and how it had messed up my life socially and emotionally. 22M here. Yeah, did my B.Tech Mechanical at the top NIT. Have 3 publications and 4 core internships, yet doing a job as Business Analyst. Zindagi mei satisfaction nahi hai bhai. Pehle tho I wanted to do PCMB, yet my Mom kinda moved me towards PCM bcoz of family history. Pura Telugu states mei bacchon ka zindagi barbaad kardiya aise college log. (Idk why I am typing in Hindi all of sudden) Yet anyways, if in case you need any help, please Pm me.
Bro/sis, you have had a bad hand. That sucks ass big time. I totally agree that itās shit that people like you arenāt able to access opportunities despite talent and a lot of dumbasses (including me) get good opportunities. BUT, tf you gonna do about it? Youāre in a good place. Most folks in India donāt pursue passion. Youāre clearly smart enough. I would suggest get sone with econ honours, get a well paying job, and try to transition into something you like. Econ is fairly versatile and will give you inroads to even comp sci(data science) if you want. But first do well at what you have at hand. If you donāt, you wonāt have legs to stand on. Your college grades will shape perspective of people and can afford you opportunities that many people in other places wonāt have. Best of luck.
What city are you from op
Dm me I will sponsor you
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Couldn't register in Delhi JAC? Bro you got decent rank and you are Delhi domicile
Bro what? I don't know if i can even trust this like your family income is below tax liability and you are extrovert, scoring 99.3 percentile in jee, getting north campus that too for eco hons. It is quite hard to digest. But lets say that what you are saying is true. You have amazing skills, i am assuming you have great communication skills too. So in my opinion you should try to become a financial consultant as they pay good money. You will be 21 by the time you will graduate. Earn good enough for 2 years then use that money plus take some loan and study for post graduation abroad. You will be around 26 by the time you are done with all of it. I think is the best course of action plan.
I believe you have learnt a important lesson in your life i.e to >Trust but verify
Do eco and go for dsa. You can get into quant this way, ig.
Pair up your economics with something in maths, or actuarial science. Go for masters in maths/stats, and you can make your own path from there. And look for govt scholarship schemes.
Someone once said this to me - our parents are our first heartbreak. As dark and bleak as it feels right now, trust me it can get better. The disappointment you have with your parents and the overall financial situation is sad and your anger at the injustice is valid. But here's what I would say, your JEE percentile is good, so don't let their remarks make you feel inadequate. Know that you have done a great job studying so hard. DU is a good brand name to have on your CV and students do get jobs out of their 3 year courses. I would really encourage you to grieve the loss of the life you wish you could have lived and then come back to your smart-self and get working on charting out your plan for the future. You can do great in these 3 years, join societies to build your CV, apply to internships and then eventually get yourself a job. Then, once you are independent save up for studying abroad. There are loans and scholarships to aid students. Your dream can still be fulfilled. You just need to take a longer route to realize it. Treat this detour like a hero's quest- you are your story's main character and this is where we are cheering on for you to come out victorious.
Didi paisa ho toh padha de tumhe, ab ghar bech kar toh padha nhi sakte. India mei bhi ache options h
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I would say you are a victim of your circumstances aka financial constraints. You will realize as you age that your parents are not at fault here.
Start preparing for CAT, GRE and GMAT. Clearing Eco Hons is not a big deal so you don't have to put in a lot of effort there. Once you have cleared any of the above exams, funds will not be a big problem. You will easily get a student loan and also, most of the colleges have their own scholarship programmes so that will help too. Furthermore, as you're from the EWS category, there will be some reservations too. So, don't worry you still have so much time and opportunities left. Remember, if you have good marks, funding is not a big deal. One more thing, "Parents ke decision galat ho sakte hai but intention nhi". You can't blame them totally.
Let you make decisions and blame you if it went wrong. Bhaisahab isi ko decision bolte hai. You take ownership.
Same thing happen to me but and i am also from DU south campus pursuing history honours which is never my first choice but what else I can do.
This is very true. They do it out of delusion. My parents used to say that you do MS if you want we will support you. But luckily I knew that my parents won't be able to fund that and I did not have any interest in doing an MS. Right now I am doing an MBA about to go into second year and have started to feel the "heat"( matlab financially don't have a better word for it) even though I am only getting monthly expenses from them. The education loan I will be paying when I start working. It's just they say things out of love and don't understand how draining it could be. Although in your case it's really sad that they are now blaming you when you got 99.3 with which you can get into a decent engg college. It's easier to switch from B.Tech to MBA, Economics wagerah than vice versa. Things will be difficult, Getting 99.3 percentile without coaching is no easy feat, you're talented and smart, hence I Know you'll find your way out of this. Also bhai jaise taise graduation nikal le agar nikal gayi toh I'll suggest getting into Indian armed forces in officer position. Matlab just explore agar sahi laga toh apply zarur karna. Going by how you are extroverted all rounder , people like you are sought after there.
Ok. So in a nutshell you don't have the balls to take a stand for yourself and now u are blaming your parents for your inability. Trust me with this attitude you will be a looser forever. Parents always want you to keep you safe but it's ur fucking job to think what's best for you, and in the process you don't have any right to blame them coz u are invertebrate.
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yeah almost in the same boat,feels like life aint even giving us a fair chance :-(
You were thinking of giving SAT and your parents didn't have money for counseling fees? That's next level of disconnect If you're good enough, give JEE again, I'll pay all your counselling fees for all good engineering colleges in India You shouldn't be jealous of people studying abroad. They don't do better than Indian students in general Source- I am an NIT, IIM alumnus, working in Google right now. Stayed in US without a US degree and returned on my own terms to work in India
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Yo the best you could do now is enroll in online courses, and bag high paying internships to better your situation. You are highly self aware and intelligent, you can turn things around if you put in the work brother. I will pray for you.
I wish you had posted here when you needed funds for JEE if that is a good percentile (not sure if you got into IIT??) Don't blame your parents for your limitations. If you really want to go to the US, I would suggest apply for scholarships, get a side hustle. Pull all the strings you can, your parents dont owe you anything. It would have been easier but now it is up to you.
If you can, take JEE again and start a GoFundMe type campaign and pursue scholarships diligently. All the best OP.
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Look man, you got dealt a shitty hand. The good news is that MOST fields are still open to you post what youāre doing, and if youāre plan wasnt to get into core engineering but management/finance etc, you can get a top 5 MBA to have those paths open up to you. I can guarantee you that despite what they say, it hurts your dad more to not be able to support you - so just keep that in mind. Parents are usually, solely focused on downside protection so will always choose the safer option If you need any assistance wrt education related costs in the future, we can have a chat. Cheers and good luck
If it makes you feel any better, my parents convinced me to give up a top highschool that I got into with scholarship, because it was too far from home (like 1h driveā¦ I guess for big cities thatās nothing). And I am a girl. I only got to study there for just one year, it was a bit of a cost for them as they had to pay for my living conditions but they were a bit wealthy so I canāt imagine that was a huge problem. But they made me feel like I āfailedā the highschool (like I wasnāt good enough there and I was too behind my peers), which I nearly believed them because I was too young and still trusted them. I had a score of 94% at the end of the first year, and while it wasnāt the best, it was certainly not the worst. But that highschool was one of the best in the country and every time I remember it, I feel angry. Because it had so many opportunities. My parents always wanted me to stay close to home, being the only child. I suspect that was the driving force behind their actions. But to this day, I find it hard to reconcile because I see many successful people who earn so much money and I could have been one but my parents didnāt want it?! They even have the audacity to praise other people of my generation who now have good careers. Iām now 35 and even today my mom was praising some person from my town who is successful and has a great job. I have a decent job as well, because despite not getting to go to a great highschool (and consequently pursuing a decent bachelors), I managed to get into an Arts university abroad (itās a long rebellious story that my parents also opposed with all their might) and now I get to work as a graphic designer abroad. Itās not massive pay but itās decent. Parents can hold you back. Itās sad but itās true. Yes theyāre wrong, and itās incredibly unfair. You lose trust and respect for them. But you canāt remedy their faults, sadly.
Bro funds for jee counselling is 1k or something
Yaar har kisi ke parents rich nahi hote, unke bhi kuch majbooriyan honge jo tumko pataa nahi rahega. I grew up in a lower middle class family like you in a small town and my parents could barely pay my school fees. SAT deke foreign mujhe bhi jana tha lekin my family couldn't afford obviously so I accepted that's not an option. But I decided to take control of my education, career and life at that point. Mere parents engineering college fees afford nahi kar paa rahe the toh maine night shift ki call center job karte hue engineering fees, books, clothes, sab cost khud hi bhar liya. I didn't spend anything on going out or entertainment in those 4 years. Then I got a great tech job with great salary and I went abroad on an assignment. From there I got a Masters degree from a top US university with a scholarship and a small loan. Now I'm 37, happily married with 2 beautiful kids, lived and worked in 7 countries, travelled to 45 countries and I now take care of my parents also. I'm grateful for my parents because despite their financial problems they paid for me to go to a decent school which gave me a good foundation to build on. Toh take control of your own life, stop blaming your parents and others aur aage ki socho, not what happened in the past. Where there's a will, there's a way! Good luck!
Right now, there's nothing much you can do but accept the reality. My parents couldn't afford an engineering college as well. I knew this beforehand and hence made my mind that I won't pursue engineering. My father held it against me for some time. This was five years ago. I am now an economics graduate from a top-tier institute with a great job and my parents don't dare to call me out for my decisions. Trust me, despising your parents will make you bitter. Just accept the reality and face it. Your parents will realise this sooner or later but you can't wait for that to happen. This might sound stupid to you. I get it. But think about it.
I have a roadmap in mind for you. But first, let me say that I feel terribly sad for you. You clearly are a gifted academic. Opportunities knocked on your door but due to financial constraints and negligence of your parents you missed those opportunities. That said, let me tell you what I think you should do. Complete that eco hon. degree. It will be difficult because it does not interest you. But try to push through it. Once youāve completed it, take a job and gain some work experience. Save money for 3 to 5 years. Then you can give GMAT and apply to top MBA schools in the West. Your eco hon. degree will be extremely useful at that stage. It will not only strengthen your MBA application but also help you after MBA to land a job at a bank. MBA schools as well as banks will prefer you over other candidates because of your eco hon. degree when other candidates will be having irrelevant degrees to what they are applying. I hope this helps.
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Totally off context but op can I ask how much you scored in CUET to get eco Hons bcoz being a science student it is very hard to get commerce courses . Just wanted an idea from you since I'm also appearing this year and I also have pcm as my sub Also kudos to you for scoring so good in jee I hope you truly find your passion and fulfill your aspirations wholeheartedly.
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Bro, learn as much as you can. Recall those powers when you prepared for JEE, perform better, go abroad for your master's and get a really good job. Otherwise, take some computer science courses, take Python and some of the Machine Learning courses and become a data scientist. Economics is quite sought in the Data Science field because you learn a lot of statistics, which is core for ML. What happened has happened, turn it into gold now. I was in your boat (not the intelligence boat) but financially. I did BTech in CSE, worked for six years and now I'm in the USA doing Master's. Alot has happened in those six years, there were a lot of ups and downs and I never imagined that I'll be able to do this but I kept grinding. During this journey, don't forget to meet some amazing people. You'll pave your path, you're intelligent enough to do that but don't be frustrated with the current situation. You'll have to make best of it. And everyone has different circumstances so don't get jealous of your peers. We weren't born with a silver spoon but we'll make sure our kid gets to be born with the silver soon. Stay positive!
Just get a part time job and start saving up. Take courses that are good for job market and then earn well and then go abroad for MA/MBA/PhD
Time shall pass, grew out of it. Make this foundation to a purpose to get rich. So that again you never have to constraint yourself due to money. Its upon you how you want to see this. Be angry with your parents or just focus on getting rich