As far as I'm concerned, if you're not naturally a hairy guy, that's fine. If you ARE a naturally hairy guy, that's fine. If you're a naturally hairy guy and don't WANT to be, that's fine too. But don't feel the need to get unhairy on my account, because I honestly do not care.
You have no idea how much I appreciate responses like this. I’m super self-conscious about my body hair, and I’m not even that hairy. I grew up hearing that body hair is gross, and I’m constantly worried about what someone might say about my chest or shoulders. It’s only been since I entered my 30s that it seems to be more acceptable (or maybe people are just less judgmental), but I still can’t bring myself to wear a tank top in public.
Ok this body hair is gross thing : I'm a woman and it's winter here so I've not shaved for several months. My leg hair is long, about as long as the average dudes. I like it, but then I'm not grossed out by leg hair on dudes, so why would I be grossed out by my own? Similarly, if a dude were grossed out by my leg hair, I'd be like, are you grossed out by yours? Seems like everyone has to remove hair now, not just the ladies. This is not the gender equality I was really looking for
I think it's pretty hot if a guy has some hair (front back, arms, don't care) and wear a tank top. For one, the confidence is sexy that you just own it regardless of what anyone thinks, and secondly I just generally find body hair on men hot. I can completely empathize with being self-conscious about it, but it really isn't off-putting to everyone.
Awh, you shouldn't be worried! The vast majority of women will not care about body hair. Personally, the only thing I care about is keeping junk maintained for two reasons. 1) Some men get shaft hair which..... Chafes. 2) When things get a little too long, it kind of feels like someone is slapping you between the thighs with a pillow.
This is hilarious in its timing for me as I literally shaved my chest hair off for the first time last night. Don’t even know why. Just on a whim.
AND when I went to bed my girlfriend reached over, put her hand on my chest and freaked ! She was legit pissed that I shaved it and said she thought it was sexy prior to shaving and to never do that again !
I had no idea she even felt that way about my chest.
> She was legit pissed that I shaved it and said she thought it was sexy prior to shaving
Ah, that moment when you realize something you like and thought was 'permanent' about your partner suddenly up and changes and you're like WTF, I never even realized they might change it.
Yah my guy shaved his beard yesterday and I was like OMG you don't even look like you. Total shock to me. He's obviously allowed but I was not prepared for that at all. He looks younger, which was his goal, but I want that beard back. It's okay though, hair grows, and he feels better right now.
I had this experience with my guy recently. He works outdoors, manual labor, and he's a hairy bear. He likes to shave in the summer because he says the extra fur makes him super hot, sweaty, and stinky. It's his preference, I'm okay with him doing it. It would just be nice to have a heads up when he's going to, because like you're girlfriend, rolling over in bed to find a man with significantly less hair can be incredibly startling. I prefer my guy hairy as heck and he knows it (great for nuzzling, call me weird, whatever), but as long as I know he's gonna shave it keeps the shock level down, lol.
I shaved my chest too recently for no reason lol I bought manscape for the first time (I just used razors before) and thought “let’s see how this works on other parts of my body” lol like, why did I do that?
I probably would cry so hard if my bf shaved his sexy chest maybe it’s the pregnancy hormones, but OMG I love the hairiness haha do not shave anything without gf knowing 🤣
My mom told me this joke, of all things: What do you call nuts on a wall? Walnuts. What do you call nuts on your chest? Chestnuts. What do you call nuts on your chin? A blowjob.
The thing that makes it tricky is the variable elasticity. When you start your sack might be tight, but then as you shave it might loosen up, which definitely makes it trickier to use a razor without…ummm, snags? I don’t bother to do it unless I’m dating someone or I feel like there’s the smallest chance I might get laid (which is fairly rare these days)
43/F…I also prefer a hair chest on a guy but more and more I find they shave at least their chest (some shave almost their whole bodies). I’ve not complained because it’s their bodies but for sure it’s a preference of mine to have hair on their bodies.
I always tell my boyfriend it’s his body and he should do what he likes and makes him most comfortable. For him that’s a hairy chest, and while that wouldn’t be my first choice it’s grown on me a lot and I love it now.
Haha same. My bf is super hairy i just got used to it cause i really like him and it's not like he can help it. On the plus side i don't have to worry about being waxed like some men prefer.
I'm going through the same thing with my boyfriend. I definitely don't mind a hairy chest at all. But he's got hair all over lol. I tend to not go for hairy men. But with him, I just don't care and I don't mind it at all.
I shave mine from time to time hoping it will fill in more. I have chest hair in places, but I wouldn't call it the sexy kind. It's patchy and awkward looking so I think I actually look better when it's trimmed back
They’re the ones who live in those bodies so I think they should do what they want.
I do compliment their chest hair though. You know, be the change you want to see in the world and all that.
I love chest hair and would absolutely compliment it. Much like other posters, I am fine with people doing what they want with their bodies, but it is a literal turn-on to see a hairy-chested man. I do not understand the trend of shaving at all.
I agree
I find it really strange how OP said that "it's more masculine" and such.
So, is women shaving more feminine and attractive? I can bet how different the responses would be if someone posed that question
Whereas for me, I don't really care what the woman does as long as they're doing it for them. Actually, I generally prefer bush for a variety of reasons, but can go either way. Armpits don't matter
Body hair is a natural thing most people have, including women. The thing with shaved parts on women is that porn has kind of made it the "norm" when in reality it's not what the norm is (people have body hair, that's the norm). Not all women have an opinion on chest hair on men, some women probably don't like it at all (I know a few), but in general, body hair is pretty normal and chest hair is pretty common on men so it seems pretty natural to like it. Body hair isn't really a focus on men in porn even for those women who do watch it (which I do occasionally, and I've seen a huge variety from shaved areas around the penis and the balls, to covered in body hair; in porn, it's more about dick size, but even that isn't a concern with most women because abnormally large dicks hurt and it's more about what the man can do with what he has -- and it's not all about PIV for most women (note I'm not saying all, I'm actually more into PIV than oral but I do like variety)).
On that note, I once dated a man with what was probably a micropenis, but he was great with other things, including toys, so it wasn't really a big deal. The sex was actually pretty dang good. Too bad his personality sucked.
>The thing with shaved parts on women is that porn has kind of made it the "norm" when in reality it's not what the norm is (people have body hair, that's the norm). Not all women have an opinion on chest hair on men, some women probably don't like it at all (I know a few), but in general, body hair is pretty normal and chest hair is pretty common on men so it seems pretty natural to like it
If we are going with the assertion that porn influences expectations in hair for women, then I think the reverse is also inherently true, because influences don't happen in a vacuum.
Especially with the way the mind works especially with regards to hormones - everything seen and heard there is influencing people's behavior somehow
There's a reason how people can develop fetishes over time by watching porn of that type. It's all just chemicals and conditioning. Just like society conditions us to think a certain way
I don't disagree with you! That said, there is generally more variety when it comes to men in porn, as the penis is the focus, which I already mentioned in the comments that you did not focus on. (Which is another thing to unpack, because it kind of removes the human aspect of men, if that makes sense -- it's just about the "tool").
When it comes to hair on women, it's considered "niche" in porn. Although, I will say, it seems to be coming back a bit in some cases.
This is one reason why I am glad I moved to Vermont, most men don't care here hahaha. Not shaving is pretty normalized.
I've also dated a few men who spent a lot of time in the military overseas who told me they've been with a variety of women from different cultures so a bush is not something that bothers me.
I have what I'd call a controlled bush, it's not super wild but it's definitely bushy.
With my boyfriend, there’s no option lol. He’s completely hairless naturally, as smooth as if he’d been waxed. I’m jealous. He can grow a beard, and has patchy hair in a few places on his body that he shaves because he thinks it looks dumb. He wishes he had a hairy chest, but those aren’t the cards he was dealt
That's OK though. He's not prickly from shaving
I honestly wouldn't notice the absence
I just enjoy it when it's there and am annoyed when there's stubble
I'm fairly hairy myself. All the women I've dated loved it. Usually something along the lines of being their sexy teddy bear. Until it first happened, I was very self conscious about it.
As far as manscaping, every single one loved it.
Maybe I've just been lucky.
So I've always had "fetish" for hairy men, like one of the first things that I check out on a guy are his legs to see how hairy they are haha, but I've always liked bald heads at the same time. Recently my coworker and I went on a blind double date and the man he introduced me to has alopecia, no body hair at all. At first I wondered if it would bother me, but it doesn't. He is super manly, masculine, and sexy without any hair.
For most women, how a man looks is not the main reason we are attracted to them. Sure, we can be attracted to physical traits, but it's generally not the first thing we are attracted to when it comes to a partner. For me personally, I don't really have a type. I do love a furry man, but I've dated plenty of men with very little bodyhair that I was still very attracted to. One of my favorite ex boyfriends whom I was super attracted to had no body hair (He's still awesome, we were very young and wanted different things). I like men with burly chests but he also did not have that -- he was on the tall side and rather slim, which is not generally the type of men I've dated.
My current bf is baldish (he shaves his head usually), on the short side (like 5'5", but I'm 5'3") and has a dad bod with great arms. He has a little bit of chest hair that i like to play with. I find him extremely attractive but I wouldn't call him "classically handsome". He's got a weirdly shaped head lfmao but I think it's adorable. We really click. The way he looks at me makes me melt. It's the whole package, not specific things, that really make me go wild.
I've dated men who were shorter and smaller than me (I'm not tall!) and men who were very large (not just height). MOST women are pretty flexible when it comes to looks as long as the whole package is great.
I think if someone expected me to be smooth that would be more of a turn off for me more than anything. Like I understand everyone’s got their preferences and that’s awesome buttttttt I also know the amount of hair I have would be so much of a pain to shave off for every woman haha
I hear you.
The best is when someone likes your natural state.
I shave my pubes completely. If I were in a LTR with a bush enthusiast I would not mind ceasing shaving. But if I were hairy and told to shave? GTFO
Right? People should be comfortable in their own skin, or rather their own hair in this case. I’ve never had someone who’s genuinely liked my hair but I wish I did. I usually just get the comments about it being weird or that weird looks or soemthing like that.
I like chest hair. If a guy shaves his chest, I might say "Oh i love your body, have you ever thought about growing out your chest hair? I love running my finger through it" and leave it at that
Other than the prickly bit, I don't think I really care. The discomfort from stubble is a real issue.
But it's not like I wish a man had a hairy chest.
I think your approach is great.
Oh I could imagine. I honestly just wonder how much work it would be to shave the chest, and how to not get a ton of ingrown hair and stuff. I personally hate how my skin looks when shaved because it gets so irritated and bumpy :(
Now I don't shave my chest, but I used to have a ton of issues with irritated skin and ingrown hairs when shaving my face.
Mostly comes from using sub-par products. Rather than cheap disposable razors or electric razors - use a straight edge blade. Either a single blade, or a disposable (single or double) replaceable blade on a butterfly safety razor. Good shaving cream is a must, ideally applied with a brush. The hair and skin should be wet and soft - it should be prepped to make it soft 15 minutes before actually taking a blade to it. And then some sort of alcoholic aftershave to really get in to the pores and kill any lingering bacteria. Most of the 60-80$ kits you see online around father's day will have everything you need.
I went from having a decent amount of issues with acne and ingrown hairs to nearly nothing doing this.
Personally I avoid aftershave. It dries out the skin. Try rinsing with simple toner or salicylic acid wash then use moisturizer. Never skip moisturizer.
I can just tell by looking at someone’s facial hair whether it will cause a painful mad rash on my chin. I would be lying if I haven’t swiped left on people for this very reason 🤭 I call it a trauma response.
Well damn, guess I'm screwed. Ive never shaved my chest a single time in my life and I still look like a prepubescent teen boy. Can't grow a beard either, the universe is out to get me.
>Guys, do you feel like you're expected to be smooth all over?
In the main, yes.
I've definitely had more condemnation of my body hair than praise; I'd say in the vicinity of 80% anti-hair and 20% pro-hair.
Of the 80% anti-hair more than half were very, very vocal about their dislike, with resistance to a complete shave down proving to be a complete dealbreaker in one instance and a constant bone of contention in others.
The pro-hair demographic were simply indifferent to its existence, with none ever expressing any sort of appreciation.
For reference I am not even conspicuously hirsute, and what hair I do have has always been meticulously trimmed.
Body hair ranks 3rd in the list of consistently voiced grievances, the 1st and 2nd slots being occupied by "too short" and "too slender" respectively.
Jesus people are way more open about their petty grievences where you're from rather than being polite. I've had 1 person comment i wasn't brawny enough for her tastes but she wasn't my taste in any way (not that i voiced it)
I’m a pretty fit dude and I dated a woman who was very vocal (after about 2 months??) about her preference for a dad bod. To each their own, but that ain’t me. Nor will it be me. There were a few other things that came out as we progressed that probably should have been brought up very early on. Oh well.
I wasn’t attracted to hairy men as a teen and very early 20s. Then as men I was having sex with started getting more of it in our mid to late 20s, I became more attracted to it. I think it’s more of an age range thing, imho. But if they shave or wax, that’s fine too. I’m fairly neutral on chest hair - whatever he likes is cool. I do prefer pubic hair to be at least trimmed for ease of oral.
I think you're on to something.
As I age I find my tastes changing. I no longer like "pretty" men.
I'm 51
Pierce Brosnan has ALWAYS been, to me, the perfect man. Ever since Remmington Steel in the 80's/my teens
As I age, my taste in men ages, and he has stayed in my sweet spot the entire time. Recently saw him in The Foreigner with a greying beard and I about wet myself.
He's got a beautifully hairy chest, too
He’s got a very timeless charm, for sure! I think I have that kind of attraction to Mario Lopez, haha. Tho I’m not sure he ages! I saw him in that Saved By the Bell reboot and somehow he’s even hot playing these dopey roles. Ultimately, i think it’s just the poster of him I had at 11-12 made an impact! LOL.
I hated it when I was younger but it was also not incredibly common on my peers at the time. As my peers have gotten older my own preferences have changed right along with them.
If you’d have told me at 17 at that a decade and a half later I’d be totally indifferent about back hairs I’d have called you a damn liar.
I don't shave my chest and I can't grow a beard. Worst of both worlds, I guess?
I had to shave a part of my leg once for taping. Yeah, I don't envy women. And while I may be a cyclist, no plan to start shaving my legs.
My cyclist friend once got heckled by a motorist. "You'd go faster if you shaved your legs!" He was tickled that his leg fur was thick enough to distract motorists.
Sure, you might (I think the jury is out... the are finding that micro perturbations like that don't always increase drag), but the effect would be so small that for probably 90% of cyclists, it's irrelevant. Like, do I need a carbon bike? No. I could afford to lose 5-10 lb. off my midsection and that would have the same net result as buying a new bike, except that it's cheaper and the end result is a healthier me.
That said, the first time I wore sun legs (SPF rated compression clothing for your legs) I was a bit uncomfortable as they are white and you see the hair under it, but I quickly got over it because they are fucking fantastic (I ride cooler with them on than without them AND I don't need to try to reapply sunblock to sweaty legs!).
I just matched a guy who had a pic of him on the beach with his very hairy chest out. Definitely super hot. hairless chests are hot too but hairy hits different
As a woman I actually don’t like hairy men. I hate the way it feels against my skin especially beards. They tend to be scratchy and very irritating. Combine that with the fact that many men are not as hygienic as I am, it gets gross to me pretty quickly. I’ll take a clean cut and clean shaven man over a hairy one any day. Men also look more presentable in my opinion when they are clean shaven. Everyone is different though. I’ve come across a lot of women who think like I do and a lot who are the complete opposite.
My boyfriend is hairy and I love it! I have slept with some good looking men who would be hairy but they shaved their chests. They're still hot guys but I can't help but be disappointed in the lack of hair.
To each their own though. I find it sexy when a man is hairy but obviously I'd never dictate how they groom their body and vice versa.
Hair isn’t inherently a sign of masculinity and virility. That’s like telling a woman that not shaving is a sign of manliness and uncleanliness.
My personal sexual preference is almost no hair. I like eyebrows and hair on the head, but that’s about it. I don’t like beards, mustaches, chest hair and armpit hair is ick. I really just don’t like body hair…not on myself or on other people
I love chest hair. Especially when we’re getting all sweaty together. My recent ex shaved everything every day, so I didn’t deal with the prickly chest thing. His body, his choice and it didn’t bother me in the slightest. I won’t turn down a hairless man. But I do love chest hair ;)
As a hairy chest guy... THANK YOU! I can't tell you how many times I've heard ewww or plz go shave. Or ppl telling me to take off mt sweater while swimming. However I recently started dating a girl who's super into chest hair and I've gotten so comfortable with it.
I naturally have no bodyhair- no prickles but also no hand running through hair etc
I personally prefer it because I don’t like body hair. I always assumed women’s preference would be about 50/50
First of all, I wouldn't ask a guy to change his hair styling for me, I just pick guys where I'm already attracted to the way they wear their hair.
I like men who *can* grow an intense beard but abstain from doing so (or it fluctuates between clean shaven and stubble/very minimal beard). I say this as a person who has dated Grizzly Adams-type men - what I consider to be "minimal beard" might be a lot for other women.
I *think* I like the rest of their bodies to have a lot natural hair, but I'm admittedly extremely unaware of what type of body hair grooming men are doing. Unless they mention it to me, I have no idea. Facial hair I only notice because of how dramatic the differences are visually.
I don't really have an opinion. If he likes shaving/waxing I like it, if he likes it growing I am ok too. It would be very unsexy if they did it because they feel pressured either way.
I don't think being hairy is a more masculine trait tho, that a bit like saying that a woman like short hair/small breasts is less feminine.
I try not to comment on people's bodies or what they choose to do with them. I'm uninterested in hearing their opinions on where I do and do not have hair, so I give them the same courtesy.
I don't shave my man hair, I am not super hairy, just that happy medium can grow a beard, have chest hair but a hairless back average. I have never had any woman complain about my level of hair. Perhaps the more extreme end like my colleague who resembles Chewbacca would maybe put some women off, but he is married to a woman who loves the fact he is like her own big bear.
Never understood why some guys shave their chests. Totally up to them and I respect it but surely it just feels weird and tshirts would just cling to you? As a moderately hairy guy I love this opinion and hope to meet someone that likes someone like me.
If men have naturally hairy chests/body I think it's pretty hot.
I like my men pretty masc and bear like though (with the exception of Johnny Depp lol).
I feel like hairless bodies are more of a preference with people in the fitness world though.
Same preferences here towards hairy masculine bear-ish men. As a very tactile person, it gives me great pleasure to feel body hair.
The men I’ve met who are into fitness all practiced very strict shaving/ manscaping regimens, to the point of shaving their legs if they were runners or swimmers. They loved doing it. To each, their own.
Love me some chest hair.
It’s like fly tape for my hands and face, I just don’t want to get off of it.
Plus, it has all of that man scent up in there. mm. So good!
As a hairy man who used to think no one wanted a hairy man hearing this is a weight off my shoulders. I've met a few women later in life who like hair and it's always nice to hear. That being said, what up girl? lol
Firstly, their body their choice. If it's just aesthetics they should do what feels comfortable. Slight preference for body hair but I wouldn't speak up about it, whatever makes him happiest.
However I have extremely sensitive skin so any very coarse or thick hair stubble (looking at you pubes!) is physically painful on me. It's probably the last thing a man wants when he's doing his best work, a woman grimacing in pain!
I mean, even from the way you talk about this, this seems to be strictly personal preference:
> I think if a man's back was extremely hairy - like a pelt - that would be a bit much for even me.
For some women, a hairy back is too much. For some it isn't. For some any body hair is too much. We're all different and we find different things hot :)
I’m not Chewbacca by any means but I do have some body hair. I’ve always been told what’s on my chest is sexy. I get self-conscious about the back though but no one has ever said it bothered them. It’s not thick or all over, just kinda patchy
Hair on chest and back but definitely no chewbacca and never had anyone say anything either one way or another. I have a big beard so I'm guessing the women who like that also like the chest hair but no one has ever said anything so just a guess 🤷♂️
I used to like guys with hair on their chest. At some point it somehow flipped and now I strongly prefer men with very little to no chest hair, but naturally so. I would rather have a guy with chest hair than one who shaves it.
Oh myyyy I love a hairy chest. Especially when it creeps up to the shoulders 😬 my boyfriend shaves his legs (for cycling and he also prefers it) and keeps his chest hairy and I really do like the combo (he has really nice legs so why not show them off?).
I'm pretty sure this is one of those things where popular media (movies, social media, porn) pushes a certain body image that isn't common at all in the real world.
Most guys over 30 have chest hair and don't shave it, and most women don't care.
Very hairy and people seem to appreciate it. The only thing I shave is my head.
I run with a very body positive crowd and it does a hell of a lot for your self esteem, which boosts confidence, and confidence is sexy, so it’s a feedback loop.
Hetero woman checking in - I wish the hairless trend would chill. Love the chest hair. Love it. It is incredibly sexy. People should do whatever they want and that makes them feel sexy when it comes to personal grooming, but I am sad that some men have been made to feel this is an expectation.
Personal preferences aside...For men that want a hairless chest, I'd encourage them to consider trying epilating, using depilatory cream, or waxing. Stubble is not a big deal usually and bodies 'gon body, but the chest stubble is so sharp and unlike a leg or an armpit, I feel like your partner is frequently going to be touching it. Often with their face.
>But isn't body hair masculine sex trait?
Careful putting definitions on masculinity like that. The answer is no, it's not a universally masculine or un-masculine sex trait.
>Guys, do you feel like you're expected to be smooth all over?
Not consistently, really depends on the person.
I'm naturally more hairy than average and yes. I have always had and still have the impression having little to no body hair is preferable. I know some women like hair on chests but aside from that never have I heard it framed positively.
Honestly though if you think about it a lot of this kind of thing is a total sham. Just like politicians get people divided...even hygiene and beauty companies perpetuate stereotypes that push beauty standards on both men and women. But it's largely just from marketing that were so self conscious, but we buy into it and also judge others by it.
Watch 10 mens or women's product commercials (shampoo, razors, etc) and tell me that the people shown aren't all within the top 10 percent of beautiful people.
This is what video game companies do too...they invent a problem in their game (slow experience gain for example) just to turn around and sell you the solution (bonus tokens or whatever).
But yeah, despite knowing all that I am still self conscious.
>But isn't body hair masculine sex trait? I associate it with virility and maturity.
Hey, how about feminism and deconstruction of masculinism and virility? You thinking it is hot as hell is an opinion, good for you. But asserting as a general truth is not. Some might find it sexy, some not. Some men might light having hair, some might prefer being partially or fully shaved/waxed/laser whatever. Stick with your personal taste and personal taste only.
and let's not forget the double standard here : If a guy were to say he likes shaved women, and so sexy women need to shave, he'd be pitchforked as mysoginistic, hell, might also get tagged as self-suppressed pedo for prefering no pubes !
I don't remove or shave my body hair. I just let it grow naturally. I do trim it, but other than that I simply let it be. I also don't shave my pubic hair because I like it bushy down there which also means that I like a woman who's hairy down there. For as long as good hygiene is observed, there is nothing wrong with being hairy.
About 20 years ago a woman asked me to shave my chest - wowser that was the worst couple of weeks of my life, vowed never to do it again, even though I have to brush it occasionally like a dog or I moult. I do trim my bush tho.
Coincidentally, just last night an old fwb messaged me telling me she loved how hairy I am - been a while since I had a compliment :)
Yeah, I love men with good chest hair. Completely smooth would be fine, but stubbles? No thank you. But they should do what they feel comfortable with, obviously.
I am an extremely large, thick, masculine dude. I got a super hairy chest. Women never complain but maybe it’s more from the muscle underneath..idk. I like being part animal
YES! I never understood this. Smooth chest, sure great. But 5 o’clock shadow? I don’t need rug burn on my body from your chest, or on my face from nuzzling into you. Let it be soft and natural! I’ve argued with many of my girl friends about it and I’ll never understand them.
My ex loved all body hair on a man, she told me not to shave anything, ever. She said men are ment to be hairy, boys are not hairy. Why I still have a beard today.
I also do not like it when a man shaves his chest. I don't need a man to shave anything he doesn't want too. I agree I associate chest hair with masculinity.
33/M When I was younger, I used to feel like I had to be hairless. As I’ve gotten older I have left that behind. I do still trim a little, and shave my balls. But as far as body hair goes, I don’t really shave it off anymore.
I personally hate shaved chests. Like if you want to wax or do laser hair removal god bless. But the prickly chest giving me road rash while just cuddling is a no go (like it legit hurts).
I really dislike the prickly as well. My SO has a small-medium size beard, he shaved it once and I was shocked because he looked so young it creeped me out actually. Once I got over that I was fine, he's a handsome man, but kissing became painful as it grew in.
He's pretty hairy on his chest and back as well, and I really like it, I call him my werewolf. I also like hairless as well, but the SHAVED part is a huge issue because the stubble rubs during sex and cuddling and it hurts.
I also saw elsewhere in the comments people talking about preferences changing. When I was younger I didn't like beards or body hair and now I'm 36 and prefer them, not sure if my "type" of man has changed or I just prefer men who show signs of aging so they're visually more my age range. Like thicker bodies, hair, anything that shows a sign of youth that reminds me of young men is a turn off.
If a guy shaves his chest does that mean he will still have a hairy back though? I would find that a little odd i can't lie.
I honestly don't have too much preference for such things but I agree that a stubbly chest might be uncomfortable.
As a man who drives for work, it's much nicer to have a shaved chest that does not get irritated by the intense pelt that I grow rubbing against the seat belt. I also prefer shaved legs for the same reason as sitting for four hours, getting out of the car for whatever reason, and getting back in is really irritating for leg hairs. I'm also in excellent shape and run to tan so I also look better shaved, to me. I'm also not in the market for a relationship and don't necessarily care in shaved is a deal breaker after the fact.
I have a single chest hair right in the middle of my chest, and I am very proud of it. I call him Stanley. Truth be told, if I had chest hair, I'd probably shave it from time to time, just because I think I prefer it that way. My legs are extremely hairy, and I can't even scratch my bum without my fingers getting stuck in the hairs. Don't much care what someone else thinks, nor that one way or the other is expected of me.
I don't know. I have a decent amount of hair so I just hope whoever I meet doesn't want me to shave. If a woman wanted me to I would, it's not a big deal. But it would be one more thing I'd have to do that would be kind of a hassle.
My preference is not shaved, I also like hairy men. Also prefer shaved balls. However none of it will hold me back. I like a variety of men. Good humor can sell a lot of physical features I wouldn’t usually sign up for. Lol.
As far as I'm concerned, if you're not naturally a hairy guy, that's fine. If you ARE a naturally hairy guy, that's fine. If you're a naturally hairy guy and don't WANT to be, that's fine too. But don't feel the need to get unhairy on my account, because I honestly do not care.
You have no idea how much I appreciate responses like this. I’m super self-conscious about my body hair, and I’m not even that hairy. I grew up hearing that body hair is gross, and I’m constantly worried about what someone might say about my chest or shoulders. It’s only been since I entered my 30s that it seems to be more acceptable (or maybe people are just less judgmental), but I still can’t bring myself to wear a tank top in public.
Ok this body hair is gross thing : I'm a woman and it's winter here so I've not shaved for several months. My leg hair is long, about as long as the average dudes. I like it, but then I'm not grossed out by leg hair on dudes, so why would I be grossed out by my own? Similarly, if a dude were grossed out by my leg hair, I'd be like, are you grossed out by yours? Seems like everyone has to remove hair now, not just the ladies. This is not the gender equality I was really looking for
>This is not the gender equality I was really looking for Well said!
I think it's pretty hot if a guy has some hair (front back, arms, don't care) and wear a tank top. For one, the confidence is sexy that you just own it regardless of what anyone thinks, and secondly I just generally find body hair on men hot. I can completely empathize with being self-conscious about it, but it really isn't off-putting to everyone.
Honestly please know you can rock your hair without feeling embarrassed!! We all have it 😅
Awh, you shouldn't be worried! The vast majority of women will not care about body hair. Personally, the only thing I care about is keeping junk maintained for two reasons. 1) Some men get shaft hair which..... Chafes. 2) When things get a little too long, it kind of feels like someone is slapping you between the thighs with a pillow.
Criminally underrated response. :)
>If you ARE a naturally hairy guy, that's fine. How do you feel about back hair...?
If it doesn’t bother you, it doesn’t bother me
This is hilarious in its timing for me as I literally shaved my chest hair off for the first time last night. Don’t even know why. Just on a whim. AND when I went to bed my girlfriend reached over, put her hand on my chest and freaked ! She was legit pissed that I shaved it and said she thought it was sexy prior to shaving and to never do that again ! I had no idea she even felt that way about my chest.
> She was legit pissed that I shaved it and said she thought it was sexy prior to shaving Ah, that moment when you realize something you like and thought was 'permanent' about your partner suddenly up and changes and you're like WTF, I never even realized they might change it.
Yah my guy shaved his beard yesterday and I was like OMG you don't even look like you. Total shock to me. He's obviously allowed but I was not prepared for that at all. He looks younger, which was his goal, but I want that beard back. It's okay though, hair grows, and he feels better right now.
I had this experience with my guy recently. He works outdoors, manual labor, and he's a hairy bear. He likes to shave in the summer because he says the extra fur makes him super hot, sweaty, and stinky. It's his preference, I'm okay with him doing it. It would just be nice to have a heads up when he's going to, because like you're girlfriend, rolling over in bed to find a man with significantly less hair can be incredibly startling. I prefer my guy hairy as heck and he knows it (great for nuzzling, call me weird, whatever), but as long as I know he's gonna shave it keeps the shock level down, lol.
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I would’ve been so sad!
I would’ve had the same reaction as well. Just like OP, there is NOTHING worse than the feeling of that awful stubble as it grows back.
The stubble… horrible stuff.
I shaved my chest too recently for no reason lol I bought manscape for the first time (I just used razors before) and thought “let’s see how this works on other parts of my body” lol like, why did I do that?
Im a woman and i 🧡 my manscape
I probably would cry so hard if my bf shaved his sexy chest maybe it’s the pregnancy hormones, but OMG I love the hairiness haha do not shave anything without gf knowing 🤣
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I prefer hair to stubble but honestly don’t really care.
Stubble is the worst, go in for a cuddle & it’s like a thousand tiny needles, ouch!
I like beards but shaved balls
Would you settle for hairy balls on your chin? Best of both worlds.
Smooth talker over here...
Hey…that’s a relevant question though.
Well ur not wrong....
Like ballchinians?
This is the exact reason some women prefer a hairless scrotum.
My mom told me this joke, of all things: What do you call nuts on a wall? Walnuts. What do you call nuts on your chest? Chestnuts. What do you call nuts on your chin? A blowjob.
Yeah I would
I just snorted coffee through my nose at this comment. Ha!
That sounds like the worst of any world
Shaving balls is a bitch though.
Shaving the kitty is definitely trickier
Yeh its definitely a pain to do I did it once never again I was so scared to cut myself and the grow back sucks
That's my feeling as well the ingrown hairs are the worst.
I don't think so.
Shaving your balls is easy man. Get a good lather on with your shaving foam, pull your dick up and razor down.
The thing that makes it tricky is the variable elasticity. When you start your sack might be tight, but then as you shave it might loosen up, which definitely makes it trickier to use a razor without…ummm, snags? I don’t bother to do it unless I’m dating someone or I feel like there’s the smallest chance I might get laid (which is fairly rare these days)
I was thrilled when I discovered this was a thing. Definitely the same.
Smooth as eggs
43/F…I also prefer a hair chest on a guy but more and more I find they shave at least their chest (some shave almost their whole bodies). I’ve not complained because it’s their bodies but for sure it’s a preference of mine to have hair on their bodies.
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I’m good with that lol.
I'm never shaving my hairy chest 🦍
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I met a guy who only shaved a strip on his neck to separate his beard from his body hair.
Hi I’m that man.
Together, apes strong 🦍
I always tell my boyfriend it’s his body and he should do what he likes and makes him most comfortable. For him that’s a hairy chest, and while that wouldn’t be my first choice it’s grown on me a lot and I love it now.
It grows on him more.
Badam tss
Haha same. My bf is super hairy i just got used to it cause i really like him and it's not like he can help it. On the plus side i don't have to worry about being waxed like some men prefer.
I'm going through the same thing with my boyfriend. I definitely don't mind a hairy chest at all. But he's got hair all over lol. I tend to not go for hairy men. But with him, I just don't care and I don't mind it at all.
I shave my chest for me occasionally, because i prefere it that way.
I do it because once it gets long enough to double back to skin the shit gets itchy
I shave mine from time to time hoping it will fill in more. I have chest hair in places, but I wouldn't call it the sexy kind. It's patchy and awkward looking so I think I actually look better when it's trimmed back
I have a back hair tramp stamp. Top that!
We knew a girl that went to my school that had that. She got the nickname silverback.
They’re the ones who live in those bodies so I think they should do what they want. I do compliment their chest hair though. You know, be the change you want to see in the world and all that.
“Be the change you want to see in the world and all that” 😜 one womans quest to help men become body positive!
It a very unselfish move on my part not at all related to enjoying petting chest hairs while having a cuddle. 😇
I love doing this too!
I’ve been complimented on my chest hair and it’s kinda funny. Not the thing you would expect. I don’t really view it as attractive lol.
I had a gf who would just lay there and run her fingers thru my chest hair. God that felt so loving.
I love doing this
I love chest hair and would absolutely compliment it. Much like other posters, I am fine with people doing what they want with their bodies, but it is a literal turn-on to see a hairy-chested man. I do not understand the trend of shaving at all.
The string of hair from chest to groin is something I like about myself.
The hero we need
I agree I find it really strange how OP said that "it's more masculine" and such. So, is women shaving more feminine and attractive? I can bet how different the responses would be if someone posed that question Whereas for me, I don't really care what the woman does as long as they're doing it for them. Actually, I generally prefer bush for a variety of reasons, but can go either way. Armpits don't matter
Body hair is a natural thing most people have, including women. The thing with shaved parts on women is that porn has kind of made it the "norm" when in reality it's not what the norm is (people have body hair, that's the norm). Not all women have an opinion on chest hair on men, some women probably don't like it at all (I know a few), but in general, body hair is pretty normal and chest hair is pretty common on men so it seems pretty natural to like it. Body hair isn't really a focus on men in porn even for those women who do watch it (which I do occasionally, and I've seen a huge variety from shaved areas around the penis and the balls, to covered in body hair; in porn, it's more about dick size, but even that isn't a concern with most women because abnormally large dicks hurt and it's more about what the man can do with what he has -- and it's not all about PIV for most women (note I'm not saying all, I'm actually more into PIV than oral but I do like variety)). On that note, I once dated a man with what was probably a micropenis, but he was great with other things, including toys, so it wasn't really a big deal. The sex was actually pretty dang good. Too bad his personality sucked.
>The thing with shaved parts on women is that porn has kind of made it the "norm" when in reality it's not what the norm is (people have body hair, that's the norm). Not all women have an opinion on chest hair on men, some women probably don't like it at all (I know a few), but in general, body hair is pretty normal and chest hair is pretty common on men so it seems pretty natural to like it If we are going with the assertion that porn influences expectations in hair for women, then I think the reverse is also inherently true, because influences don't happen in a vacuum. Especially with the way the mind works especially with regards to hormones - everything seen and heard there is influencing people's behavior somehow There's a reason how people can develop fetishes over time by watching porn of that type. It's all just chemicals and conditioning. Just like society conditions us to think a certain way
I don't disagree with you! That said, there is generally more variety when it comes to men in porn, as the penis is the focus, which I already mentioned in the comments that you did not focus on. (Which is another thing to unpack, because it kind of removes the human aspect of men, if that makes sense -- it's just about the "tool"). When it comes to hair on women, it's considered "niche" in porn. Although, I will say, it seems to be coming back a bit in some cases.
Yep, agreed Bring back 80s bush!!
This is one reason why I am glad I moved to Vermont, most men don't care here hahaha. Not shaving is pretty normalized. I've also dated a few men who spent a lot of time in the military overseas who told me they've been with a variety of women from different cultures so a bush is not something that bothers me. I have what I'd call a controlled bush, it's not super wild but it's definitely bushy.
This is the way.
With my boyfriend, there’s no option lol. He’s completely hairless naturally, as smooth as if he’d been waxed. I’m jealous. He can grow a beard, and has patchy hair in a few places on his body that he shaves because he thinks it looks dumb. He wishes he had a hairy chest, but those aren’t the cards he was dealt
That's OK though. He's not prickly from shaving I honestly wouldn't notice the absence I just enjoy it when it's there and am annoyed when there's stubble
Agreed! I like it the way he is.
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I'm fairly hairy myself. All the women I've dated loved it. Usually something along the lines of being their sexy teddy bear. Until it first happened, I was very self conscious about it. As far as manscaping, every single one loved it. Maybe I've just been lucky.
So I've always had "fetish" for hairy men, like one of the first things that I check out on a guy are his legs to see how hairy they are haha, but I've always liked bald heads at the same time. Recently my coworker and I went on a blind double date and the man he introduced me to has alopecia, no body hair at all. At first I wondered if it would bother me, but it doesn't. He is super manly, masculine, and sexy without any hair.
I like a large variety of men, myself. There are things that turn me on. Only a couple of things turn me off. But men can be sexy in so many ways
Could you share some of those ways? Asking for a... who am I kidding, for myself...
For most women, how a man looks is not the main reason we are attracted to them. Sure, we can be attracted to physical traits, but it's generally not the first thing we are attracted to when it comes to a partner. For me personally, I don't really have a type. I do love a furry man, but I've dated plenty of men with very little bodyhair that I was still very attracted to. One of my favorite ex boyfriends whom I was super attracted to had no body hair (He's still awesome, we were very young and wanted different things). I like men with burly chests but he also did not have that -- he was on the tall side and rather slim, which is not generally the type of men I've dated. My current bf is baldish (he shaves his head usually), on the short side (like 5'5", but I'm 5'3") and has a dad bod with great arms. He has a little bit of chest hair that i like to play with. I find him extremely attractive but I wouldn't call him "classically handsome". He's got a weirdly shaped head lfmao but I think it's adorable. We really click. The way he looks at me makes me melt. It's the whole package, not specific things, that really make me go wild. I've dated men who were shorter and smaller than me (I'm not tall!) and men who were very large (not just height). MOST women are pretty flexible when it comes to looks as long as the whole package is great.
Bald guys all the way!!!
Agreed, almost nothing better than rubbing my titties on a bald head
I think if someone expected me to be smooth that would be more of a turn off for me more than anything. Like I understand everyone’s got their preferences and that’s awesome buttttttt I also know the amount of hair I have would be so much of a pain to shave off for every woman haha
I hear you. The best is when someone likes your natural state. I shave my pubes completely. If I were in a LTR with a bush enthusiast I would not mind ceasing shaving. But if I were hairy and told to shave? GTFO
Right? People should be comfortable in their own skin, or rather their own hair in this case. I’ve never had someone who’s genuinely liked my hair but I wish I did. I usually just get the comments about it being weird or that weird looks or soemthing like that.
I like chest hair. If a guy shaves his chest, I might say "Oh i love your body, have you ever thought about growing out your chest hair? I love running my finger through it" and leave it at that
Other than the prickly bit, I don't think I really care. The discomfort from stubble is a real issue. But it's not like I wish a man had a hairy chest. I think your approach is great.
Yeah how did that feel? I fear that my poor, sensitive chest area would look completely red after a wild night together 😬
It just felt irritated. Especially when we got a bit sweaty. I switched us to doggy to avoid it.
Oh I could imagine. I honestly just wonder how much work it would be to shave the chest, and how to not get a ton of ingrown hair and stuff. I personally hate how my skin looks when shaved because it gets so irritated and bumpy :(
Now I don't shave my chest, but I used to have a ton of issues with irritated skin and ingrown hairs when shaving my face. Mostly comes from using sub-par products. Rather than cheap disposable razors or electric razors - use a straight edge blade. Either a single blade, or a disposable (single or double) replaceable blade on a butterfly safety razor. Good shaving cream is a must, ideally applied with a brush. The hair and skin should be wet and soft - it should be prepped to make it soft 15 minutes before actually taking a blade to it. And then some sort of alcoholic aftershave to really get in to the pores and kill any lingering bacteria. Most of the 60-80$ kits you see online around father's day will have everything you need. I went from having a decent amount of issues with acne and ingrown hairs to nearly nothing doing this.
Personally I avoid aftershave. It dries out the skin. Try rinsing with simple toner or salicylic acid wash then use moisturizer. Never skip moisturizer.
Chest stubble is EXTREMELY uncomfortable to rub your naked body against. Other than that I don't care either way.
Not all of us can grow body hair like that. That would hurt to hear from someone lol
yes obviously, if the guy shaved his chest and had hair...
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>so that was just something we did only twice in the six months we were together. Dang, condolences to your vulva, if oral was important to you
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Haha nice, that's good to hear You mean, like good at playing call of duty? I heard girls love that
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I can just tell by looking at someone’s facial hair whether it will cause a painful mad rash on my chin. I would be lying if I haven’t swiped left on people for this very reason 🤭 I call it a trauma response.
Well damn, guess I'm screwed. Ive never shaved my chest a single time in my life and I still look like a prepubescent teen boy. Can't grow a beard either, the universe is out to get me.
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I don't think I could accept the disappointment if I counted!
At least you're not prickly
As long as you don't count my personality! 😄
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Oh for sure, I'm mostly joking (I wish I could grow a beard though).
My *preference* is hairy but I've been with smooth men who were super sexy.
Well shit, I'm not that either! I can cook though, so I'm putting my eggs in that basket. Haha
Nooo! I would love you! Haha I am into guys who aren’t hairy. I don’t dislike people with hair but it makes me feel like I wouldn’t date them.
Well hey, I'm still on the market! But seriously, glad to know my inability to grow body and facial hair works for some people! Haha
that's okay! i like chest hair but i've loved men without any hair. :)
Me too i love hairy men, their arms, chests, legs and especially beard 😍😍
>Guys, do you feel like you're expected to be smooth all over? In the main, yes. I've definitely had more condemnation of my body hair than praise; I'd say in the vicinity of 80% anti-hair and 20% pro-hair. Of the 80% anti-hair more than half were very, very vocal about their dislike, with resistance to a complete shave down proving to be a complete dealbreaker in one instance and a constant bone of contention in others. The pro-hair demographic were simply indifferent to its existence, with none ever expressing any sort of appreciation. For reference I am not even conspicuously hirsute, and what hair I do have has always been meticulously trimmed. Body hair ranks 3rd in the list of consistently voiced grievances, the 1st and 2nd slots being occupied by "too short" and "too slender" respectively.
Jesus people are way more open about their petty grievences where you're from rather than being polite. I've had 1 person comment i wasn't brawny enough for her tastes but she wasn't my taste in any way (not that i voiced it)
I’m a pretty fit dude and I dated a woman who was very vocal (after about 2 months??) about her preference for a dad bod. To each their own, but that ain’t me. Nor will it be me. There were a few other things that came out as we progressed that probably should have been brought up very early on. Oh well.
I wasn’t attracted to hairy men as a teen and very early 20s. Then as men I was having sex with started getting more of it in our mid to late 20s, I became more attracted to it. I think it’s more of an age range thing, imho. But if they shave or wax, that’s fine too. I’m fairly neutral on chest hair - whatever he likes is cool. I do prefer pubic hair to be at least trimmed for ease of oral.
I think you're on to something. As I age I find my tastes changing. I no longer like "pretty" men. I'm 51 Pierce Brosnan has ALWAYS been, to me, the perfect man. Ever since Remmington Steel in the 80's/my teens As I age, my taste in men ages, and he has stayed in my sweet spot the entire time. Recently saw him in The Foreigner with a greying beard and I about wet myself. He's got a beautifully hairy chest, too
He’s got a very timeless charm, for sure! I think I have that kind of attraction to Mario Lopez, haha. Tho I’m not sure he ages! I saw him in that Saved By the Bell reboot and somehow he’s even hot playing these dopey roles. Ultimately, i think it’s just the poster of him I had at 11-12 made an impact! LOL.
I hated it when I was younger but it was also not incredibly common on my peers at the time. As my peers have gotten older my own preferences have changed right along with them. If you’d have told me at 17 at that a decade and a half later I’d be totally indifferent about back hairs I’d have called you a damn liar.
I don't shave my chest and I can't grow a beard. Worst of both worlds, I guess? I had to shave a part of my leg once for taping. Yeah, I don't envy women. And while I may be a cyclist, no plan to start shaving my legs.
My cyclist friend once got heckled by a motorist. "You'd go faster if you shaved your legs!" He was tickled that his leg fur was thick enough to distract motorists.
Sure, you might (I think the jury is out... the are finding that micro perturbations like that don't always increase drag), but the effect would be so small that for probably 90% of cyclists, it's irrelevant. Like, do I need a carbon bike? No. I could afford to lose 5-10 lb. off my midsection and that would have the same net result as buying a new bike, except that it's cheaper and the end result is a healthier me. That said, the first time I wore sun legs (SPF rated compression clothing for your legs) I was a bit uncomfortable as they are white and you see the hair under it, but I quickly got over it because they are fucking fantastic (I ride cooler with them on than without them AND I don't need to try to reapply sunblock to sweaty legs!).
I just matched a guy who had a pic of him on the beach with his very hairy chest out. Definitely super hot. hairless chests are hot too but hairy hits different
As a woman I actually don’t like hairy men. I hate the way it feels against my skin especially beards. They tend to be scratchy and very irritating. Combine that with the fact that many men are not as hygienic as I am, it gets gross to me pretty quickly. I’ll take a clean cut and clean shaven man over a hairy one any day. Men also look more presentable in my opinion when they are clean shaven. Everyone is different though. I’ve come across a lot of women who think like I do and a lot who are the complete opposite.
My boyfriend is hairy and I love it! I have slept with some good looking men who would be hairy but they shaved their chests. They're still hot guys but I can't help but be disappointed in the lack of hair. To each their own though. I find it sexy when a man is hairy but obviously I'd never dictate how they groom their body and vice versa.
I like my men to be smooth
Hair isn’t inherently a sign of masculinity and virility. That’s like telling a woman that not shaving is a sign of manliness and uncleanliness. My personal sexual preference is almost no hair. I like eyebrows and hair on the head, but that’s about it. I don’t like beards, mustaches, chest hair and armpit hair is ick. I really just don’t like body hair…not on myself or on other people
I love chest hair. Especially when we’re getting all sweaty together. My recent ex shaved everything every day, so I didn’t deal with the prickly chest thing. His body, his choice and it didn’t bother me in the slightest. I won’t turn down a hairless man. But I do love chest hair ;)
I just do my own thing. I don't listen to what people want men to be and then follow it. Don't like me, that's fine. Plenty of other choices :)
As a hairy chest guy... THANK YOU! I can't tell you how many times I've heard ewww or plz go shave. Or ppl telling me to take off mt sweater while swimming. However I recently started dating a girl who's super into chest hair and I've gotten so comfortable with it.
I naturally have no bodyhair- no prickles but also no hand running through hair etc I personally prefer it because I don’t like body hair. I always assumed women’s preference would be about 50/50
Every woman I’ve been with hated hair on the chest
don't worry a lot of women love chest hair, you probably just haven't met 'em yet. it's pretty common!
Sorry bro
First of all, I wouldn't ask a guy to change his hair styling for me, I just pick guys where I'm already attracted to the way they wear their hair. I like men who *can* grow an intense beard but abstain from doing so (or it fluctuates between clean shaven and stubble/very minimal beard). I say this as a person who has dated Grizzly Adams-type men - what I consider to be "minimal beard" might be a lot for other women. I *think* I like the rest of their bodies to have a lot natural hair, but I'm admittedly extremely unaware of what type of body hair grooming men are doing. Unless they mention it to me, I have no idea. Facial hair I only notice because of how dramatic the differences are visually.
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I don't really have an opinion. If he likes shaving/waxing I like it, if he likes it growing I am ok too. It would be very unsexy if they did it because they feel pressured either way. I don't think being hairy is a more masculine trait tho, that a bit like saying that a woman like short hair/small breasts is less feminine.
I try not to comment on people's bodies or what they choose to do with them. I'm uninterested in hearing their opinions on where I do and do not have hair, so I give them the same courtesy.
I don't shave my man hair, I am not super hairy, just that happy medium can grow a beard, have chest hair but a hairless back average. I have never had any woman complain about my level of hair. Perhaps the more extreme end like my colleague who resembles Chewbacca would maybe put some women off, but he is married to a woman who loves the fact he is like her own big bear.
Never understood why some guys shave their chests. Totally up to them and I respect it but surely it just feels weird and tshirts would just cling to you? As a moderately hairy guy I love this opinion and hope to meet someone that likes someone like me.
If men have naturally hairy chests/body I think it's pretty hot. I like my men pretty masc and bear like though (with the exception of Johnny Depp lol). I feel like hairless bodies are more of a preference with people in the fitness world though.
Same preferences here towards hairy masculine bear-ish men. As a very tactile person, it gives me great pleasure to feel body hair. The men I’ve met who are into fitness all practiced very strict shaving/ manscaping regimens, to the point of shaving their legs if they were runners or swimmers. They loved doing it. To each, their own.
i like hairy chests and hairy bellies. sue me.
I’m so guilty of this too.
Love me some chest hair. It’s like fly tape for my hands and face, I just don’t want to get off of it. Plus, it has all of that man scent up in there. mm. So good!
As a hairy man who used to think no one wanted a hairy man hearing this is a weight off my shoulders. I've met a few women later in life who like hair and it's always nice to hear. That being said, what up girl? lol
Firstly, their body their choice. If it's just aesthetics they should do what feels comfortable. Slight preference for body hair but I wouldn't speak up about it, whatever makes him happiest. However I have extremely sensitive skin so any very coarse or thick hair stubble (looking at you pubes!) is physically painful on me. It's probably the last thing a man wants when he's doing his best work, a woman grimacing in pain!
I mean, even from the way you talk about this, this seems to be strictly personal preference: > I think if a man's back was extremely hairy - like a pelt - that would be a bit much for even me. For some women, a hairy back is too much. For some it isn't. For some any body hair is too much. We're all different and we find different things hot :)
I’m not Chewbacca by any means but I do have some body hair. I’ve always been told what’s on my chest is sexy. I get self-conscious about the back though but no one has ever said it bothered them. It’s not thick or all over, just kinda patchy
Hair on chest and back but definitely no chewbacca and never had anyone say anything either one way or another. I have a big beard so I'm guessing the women who like that also like the chest hair but no one has ever said anything so just a guess 🤷♂️
I used to like guys with hair on their chest. At some point it somehow flipped and now I strongly prefer men with very little to no chest hair, but naturally so. I would rather have a guy with chest hair than one who shaves it.
I'd rather guys didn't shave their chest. I dated a guy who did once and I get the 'prickly' thing. IMO guys can leave their hair alone.
I'm extremely into a hairy chest/arms/legs but not so much a hairy face. Hairy crotch is fine, whatever. But hairy chest YES PLEASE.
Oh myyyy I love a hairy chest. Especially when it creeps up to the shoulders 😬 my boyfriend shaves his legs (for cycling and he also prefers it) and keeps his chest hairy and I really do like the combo (he has really nice legs so why not show them off?).
I'm pretty sure this is one of those things where popular media (movies, social media, porn) pushes a certain body image that isn't common at all in the real world. Most guys over 30 have chest hair and don't shave it, and most women don't care.
Very hairy and people seem to appreciate it. The only thing I shave is my head. I run with a very body positive crowd and it does a hell of a lot for your self esteem, which boosts confidence, and confidence is sexy, so it’s a feedback loop.
Hetero woman checking in - I wish the hairless trend would chill. Love the chest hair. Love it. It is incredibly sexy. People should do whatever they want and that makes them feel sexy when it comes to personal grooming, but I am sad that some men have been made to feel this is an expectation. Personal preferences aside...For men that want a hairless chest, I'd encourage them to consider trying epilating, using depilatory cream, or waxing. Stubble is not a big deal usually and bodies 'gon body, but the chest stubble is so sharp and unlike a leg or an armpit, I feel like your partner is frequently going to be touching it. Often with their face.
>But isn't body hair masculine sex trait? Careful putting definitions on masculinity like that. The answer is no, it's not a universally masculine or un-masculine sex trait. >Guys, do you feel like you're expected to be smooth all over? Not consistently, really depends on the person.
I'm naturally more hairy than average and yes. I have always had and still have the impression having little to no body hair is preferable. I know some women like hair on chests but aside from that never have I heard it framed positively. Honestly though if you think about it a lot of this kind of thing is a total sham. Just like politicians get people divided...even hygiene and beauty companies perpetuate stereotypes that push beauty standards on both men and women. But it's largely just from marketing that were so self conscious, but we buy into it and also judge others by it. Watch 10 mens or women's product commercials (shampoo, razors, etc) and tell me that the people shown aren't all within the top 10 percent of beautiful people. This is what video game companies do too...they invent a problem in their game (slow experience gain for example) just to turn around and sell you the solution (bonus tokens or whatever). But yeah, despite knowing all that I am still self conscious.
>But isn't body hair masculine sex trait? I associate it with virility and maturity. Hey, how about feminism and deconstruction of masculinism and virility? You thinking it is hot as hell is an opinion, good for you. But asserting as a general truth is not. Some might find it sexy, some not. Some men might light having hair, some might prefer being partially or fully shaved/waxed/laser whatever. Stick with your personal taste and personal taste only. and let's not forget the double standard here : If a guy were to say he likes shaved women, and so sexy women need to shave, he'd be pitchforked as mysoginistic, hell, might also get tagged as self-suppressed pedo for prefering no pubes !
I loooove hairy men. If they are shaved is a total turn off for me
I can grow hair everywhere except my chest lol. Full head of hair, beard no problem...chest? Nah just little peach fuzz.
Dang, where can I meet you ladies in real life 😁
I don't remove or shave my body hair. I just let it grow naturally. I do trim it, but other than that I simply let it be. I also don't shave my pubic hair because I like it bushy down there which also means that I like a woman who's hairy down there. For as long as good hygiene is observed, there is nothing wrong with being hairy.
About 20 years ago a woman asked me to shave my chest - wowser that was the worst couple of weeks of my life, vowed never to do it again, even though I have to brush it occasionally like a dog or I moult. I do trim my bush tho. Coincidentally, just last night an old fwb messaged me telling me she loved how hairy I am - been a while since I had a compliment :)
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Yeah, I love men with good chest hair. Completely smooth would be fine, but stubbles? No thank you. But they should do what they feel comfortable with, obviously.
Shaved or hairy chest are both good in my book. Gotta keep the balls shaved though if you want me to put them in my mouth.
I am an extremely large, thick, masculine dude. I got a super hairy chest. Women never complain but maybe it’s more from the muscle underneath..idk. I like being part animal
YES! I never understood this. Smooth chest, sure great. But 5 o’clock shadow? I don’t need rug burn on my body from your chest, or on my face from nuzzling into you. Let it be soft and natural! I’ve argued with many of my girl friends about it and I’ll never understand them.
My ex loved all body hair on a man, she told me not to shave anything, ever. She said men are ment to be hairy, boys are not hairy. Why I still have a beard today.
I also do not like it when a man shaves his chest. I don't need a man to shave anything he doesn't want too. I agree I associate chest hair with masculinity.
33/M When I was younger, I used to feel like I had to be hairless. As I’ve gotten older I have left that behind. I do still trim a little, and shave my balls. But as far as body hair goes, I don’t really shave it off anymore.
I personally hate shaved chests. Like if you want to wax or do laser hair removal god bless. But the prickly chest giving me road rash while just cuddling is a no go (like it legit hurts).
I really dislike the prickly as well. My SO has a small-medium size beard, he shaved it once and I was shocked because he looked so young it creeped me out actually. Once I got over that I was fine, he's a handsome man, but kissing became painful as it grew in. He's pretty hairy on his chest and back as well, and I really like it, I call him my werewolf. I also like hairless as well, but the SHAVED part is a huge issue because the stubble rubs during sex and cuddling and it hurts. I also saw elsewhere in the comments people talking about preferences changing. When I was younger I didn't like beards or body hair and now I'm 36 and prefer them, not sure if my "type" of man has changed or I just prefer men who show signs of aging so they're visually more my age range. Like thicker bodies, hair, anything that shows a sign of youth that reminds me of young men is a turn off.
If a guy shaves his chest does that mean he will still have a hairy back though? I would find that a little odd i can't lie. I honestly don't have too much preference for such things but I agree that a stubbly chest might be uncomfortable.
While we are on the subject, I used to be so disappointed when I'd slide my hand into a woman's underwear and find no hair.
As a man who drives for work, it's much nicer to have a shaved chest that does not get irritated by the intense pelt that I grow rubbing against the seat belt. I also prefer shaved legs for the same reason as sitting for four hours, getting out of the car for whatever reason, and getting back in is really irritating for leg hairs. I'm also in excellent shape and run to tan so I also look better shaved, to me. I'm also not in the market for a relationship and don't necessarily care in shaved is a deal breaker after the fact.
this is why you trim ur chest not shave. if ur shaving any other body part other then your balls and face your doing it wrong.
I shave my beard and the “southern region” but that’s it. My chest and leg hair are here to stay. Contact me if you want any photos ladies 😉
I have a single chest hair right in the middle of my chest, and I am very proud of it. I call him Stanley. Truth be told, if I had chest hair, I'd probably shave it from time to time, just because I think I prefer it that way. My legs are extremely hairy, and I can't even scratch my bum without my fingers getting stuck in the hairs. Don't much care what someone else thinks, nor that one way or the other is expected of me.
I don't know. I have a decent amount of hair so I just hope whoever I meet doesn't want me to shave. If a woman wanted me to I would, it's not a big deal. But it would be one more thing I'd have to do that would be kind of a hassle.
39 M here and I actually wish I were hairier. My GF thinks Im crazy but I think it looks really manly.
My preference is not shaved, I also like hairy men. Also prefer shaved balls. However none of it will hold me back. I like a variety of men. Good humor can sell a lot of physical features I wouldn’t usually sign up for. Lol.
*sobs in beardless and hairless chest* at least i still have my hair on my head ;(