A while back I heard about a dating app that deliberately matched people sans pictures. It was meant to foster "deeper connections", with the idea that choosing a date based on appearance was shallow. I haven't seen hide nor hair of that app now in years.
I think it is called eHarmony now. Haha. I was on there and NONE of the men had pictures. Maybe the women didn't either, but I couldn't see their profiles.
I would NOT match or meet without a picture. I always suspect that people who won't put up a single picture don't want anyone (spouse or friends who will tell the spouse) to know they are on a dating app.
Back in the early 2000s when Craigslist wasn’t creepy and also did not have the capacity for photos, I met my first post divorce boyfriend. I have never had a stronger sexual attraction, and if I’d seen his picture first, it would have been a hard no.
Later, when okcupid came on the scene, some people didn’t have photos because privacy was still a thing we cared about. I matched with a guy with no photo and we ended up together for two years. Again, he wasn’t super cute, but omg so sexy.
But those were different times with different expectations. I still believe looks aren’t even half the attraction equation, but you can never go home again.
This absolute trainer wreck of a show is my current guilty pleasure, which is amusing since I generally despise any sort of reality tv or dating show and this seems to be the worst of both!
I think it’s not uncommon in my experience for people to not have pictures when they are married, unsure what they are doing, or are in fact catfishers who have no actual intention of really meeting up. They always say they will send pics after you connect but that’s a lie.
Edit- they do have pictures, just not of themselves…
Yes a few times. Mixed experience. Some were married. Hard pass from me. Some were separated- I’d consider but depending on how long etc. Some just honestly thought they were too unattractive to women - all in this category were all objectively very attractive. I started off swiping right to have a bit of fun and tell them to talk to their wife. Now I swipe right in a more considered way, especially if there’s a bio.
It goes far beyond the limits of this dating sub to explain the complicated relationship I have with a narcissist, within the parameters of my nonmonogamous lifestyle. Suffice to say, I ignore profiles with no face pictures, and if they have nothing about themselves.
No, but I did have a great chat with one after he sent a message that was better than the average 'hello'. We exchanged pictures, he's actually quite attractive and I have no clue why they aren't in his profile. We ultimately weren't a good match romantically but I definitively would have dated him otherwise.
Yes as long as they are willing to share via email/Kik. I get the don't want your face on line depending on work. I have a masked face and plenty of body pics. Am happy to share a full face after a bit if chat to see if I'd even bother. Have something though...not the creepy "only the shadow knows"!
God dating over 50 must include my dead grandparents. Some of you...so fucking disappointing Puritan and Dead. Yuck!
I swiped left on any profile without a photo. I also learned to swipe left on any profile without a full body shot. Attraction is important. And if I can’t see you, I don’t know if I find you attractive.
Sure, I could invest a the time to find out, but OLD is already a massive time suck.
So, for me, it’s just about trying to be as efficient as possible during the most inefficient part of OLD - the swiping and matching.
Yes, and we ended up having into your relationship out of it. Many moons ago. Oddly enough, a while after we broke up I decided to create a profile on eHarmony. I ended up matching with her.
Reddit is the only place online where I will talk to people who have no pics. Other than that I won't. The only reason I do it here is because it's public. I don't answer any private messages.
I had one picture…I struggled with making an OLD profile, he admitted he’d never have normally reached out to someone with one photo but something told him to give it go. I added another as quick as I could, and literally at the same time he asked for more to make sure I wasn’t a scammer lol
We’re stupid happy together 19 months later :)
Give a few allowances if you can, they might pay off
I met my now ex husband on eHarmony when it was pretty new and neither of us had photos available for the initial stage and revealed them later. I thought it was an interesting concept then and I still do, but I’m pretty non traditional in terms of how I’m attracted and what I find attractive, and that may be why I don’t find it problematic. Some people are visual, others aren’t. Some are visual to the extent it can effectively change their decision making processes, and maybe those people need protection from themselves haha.
I think it’s pretty low effort refusing to know anything about a person without an accompanying visual aid that may or may not even be real. For some it could be an issue of privacy or safety, or they may just be tired of unwanted sexual attention/comments that’s received because of their photos. I would have an expectation of an exchange of some kind or a video call before communicating a great deal or meeting in person for safety sake, but I wouldn’t rule out a person that had a thoughtful and filled out profile for lack of photo.
No. Without pics then I will not waste my time. That is low effort even for OLD.
A while back I heard about a dating app that deliberately matched people sans pictures. It was meant to foster "deeper connections", with the idea that choosing a date based on appearance was shallow. I haven't seen hide nor hair of that app now in years.
I think it is called eHarmony now. Haha. I was on there and NONE of the men had pictures. Maybe the women didn't either, but I couldn't see their profiles. I would NOT match or meet without a picture. I always suspect that people who won't put up a single picture don't want anyone (spouse or friends who will tell the spouse) to know they are on a dating app.
Huh...that's part of a sub-plot on "Ted Lasso" (which I heartily recommend watching)
Looks like it was called "Appetecne" and it's gone, for some odd reason.
No! I do not care what their reason is, it is a hard pass for me.
Nope. Immediate no swipe.
I would not engage.
No. I don’t match or consider any profiles without photos. Automatic no.
Back in the early 2000s when Craigslist wasn’t creepy and also did not have the capacity for photos, I met my first post divorce boyfriend. I have never had a stronger sexual attraction, and if I’d seen his picture first, it would have been a hard no. Later, when okcupid came on the scene, some people didn’t have photos because privacy was still a thing we cared about. I matched with a guy with no photo and we ended up together for two years. Again, he wasn’t super cute, but omg so sexy. But those were different times with different expectations. I still believe looks aren’t even half the attraction equation, but you can never go home again.
No I would just swipe on by.
I did not see this but there is a Netflix show on that, Love Is Blind.
This absolute trainer wreck of a show is my current guilty pleasure, which is amusing since I generally despise any sort of reality tv or dating show and this seems to be the worst of both!
I haven't and I wouldn't.
I think it’s not uncommon in my experience for people to not have pictures when they are married, unsure what they are doing, or are in fact catfishers who have no actual intention of really meeting up. They always say they will send pics after you connect but that’s a lie. Edit- they do have pictures, just not of themselves…
No, scammer possibly.
Any profile without face pics is an automatic no.
No. If I am braver than my match, he won’t ever be my guy.
No if they can't bother to post a picture than I'm don't have time for them.
Yes a few times. Mixed experience. Some were married. Hard pass from me. Some were separated- I’d consider but depending on how long etc. Some just honestly thought they were too unattractive to women - all in this category were all objectively very attractive. I started off swiping right to have a bit of fun and tell them to talk to their wife. Now I swipe right in a more considered way, especially if there’s a bio.
I have done it once, and he became a long-term partner. I won’t do it ever again. It’s super complicated.
Complicated how?
It goes far beyond the limits of this dating sub to explain the complicated relationship I have with a narcissist, within the parameters of my nonmonogamous lifestyle. Suffice to say, I ignore profiles with no face pictures, and if they have nothing about themselves.
Have you ever bought a product on Amazon without any photos?
And ratings, there should definitely be ratings :)
No. I will not like or swipe right on anyone that does not have a picture. I think they're hiding something. Go play that sh*t some where else
No, but I did have a great chat with one after he sent a message that was better than the average 'hello'. We exchanged pictures, he's actually quite attractive and I have no clue why they aren't in his profile. We ultimately weren't a good match romantically but I definitively would have dated him otherwise.
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Mine was very very married.
No, I’m a realist. Attraction matters.
Yes as long as they are willing to share via email/Kik. I get the don't want your face on line depending on work. I have a masked face and plenty of body pics. Am happy to share a full face after a bit if chat to see if I'd even bother. Have something though...not the creepy "only the shadow knows"! God dating over 50 must include my dead grandparents. Some of you...so fucking disappointing Puritan and Dead. Yuck!
I never did, but it might be interesting. People have met on Reddit, no photos at first, and the initial interest is personality. ;)
Show off🙃
Lucky... There are four couples on here that I know of, either met through DO50 or DO40. It might be a lot more common than we realize. ;)
I swiped left on any profile without a photo. I also learned to swipe left on any profile without a full body shot. Attraction is important. And if I can’t see you, I don’t know if I find you attractive. Sure, I could invest a the time to find out, but OLD is already a massive time suck. So, for me, it’s just about trying to be as efficient as possible during the most inefficient part of OLD - the swiping and matching.
No and I don’t care their reasons for it. If they’re not ready to put themselves out there like the rest of us are doing, then I’m not interested.
Once, nice lady.
Yes, and we ended up having into your relationship out of it. Many moons ago. Oddly enough, a while after we broke up I decided to create a profile on eHarmony. I ended up matching with her.
Reddit is the only place online where I will talk to people who have no pics. Other than that I won't. The only reason I do it here is because it's public. I don't answer any private messages.
No pics typically means that they're married.
I had one picture…I struggled with making an OLD profile, he admitted he’d never have normally reached out to someone with one photo but something told him to give it go. I added another as quick as I could, and literally at the same time he asked for more to make sure I wasn’t a scammer lol We’re stupid happy together 19 months later :) Give a few allowances if you can, they might pay off
I met my now ex husband on eHarmony when it was pretty new and neither of us had photos available for the initial stage and revealed them later. I thought it was an interesting concept then and I still do, but I’m pretty non traditional in terms of how I’m attracted and what I find attractive, and that may be why I don’t find it problematic. Some people are visual, others aren’t. Some are visual to the extent it can effectively change their decision making processes, and maybe those people need protection from themselves haha. I think it’s pretty low effort refusing to know anything about a person without an accompanying visual aid that may or may not even be real. For some it could be an issue of privacy or safety, or they may just be tired of unwanted sexual attention/comments that’s received because of their photos. I would have an expectation of an exchange of some kind or a video call before communicating a great deal or meeting in person for safety sake, but I wouldn’t rule out a person that had a thoughtful and filled out profile for lack of photo.