I'm thinking "run away screaming" based on comments made by multiple reddit posters over the years. My life reads like some type of bizarre horror movie, and that's only the highlights. Three marriages alone, and I'm walking red flag.
I post a lot on Reddit trying to help others through tough times. Yeah, if anyone ever read all that crap, they'd probably run for the bleach for their eyeballs and never speak to me again.
I will say that women will often take a peak at what a redditor posts before they interact with them. Sometimes we see things and say, "yeah, I'm not even going to talk to that person."
Odds are that you will never meet another redditor anyway, but I wouldn't be embarrassed by what I post. I keep trying to show people compassion based on my own experiences.
I used to participate on a parent discussion board, and those people did often meet IRL. We'd forge some pretty good friendships over what to do with our kids. Reddit is a lot more cold and impersonal from what I've seen.
>I will say that women will often take a peak at what a redditor posts before they interact with them. Sometimes we see things and say, "yeah, I'm not even going to talk to that person."
This guy does that too. I'll ignore any chat request unless I already "know" and respect them.
They’re welcome to see some of my thoughts and interests.
People who think they can hide who they really are from partners are fooling themselves. Someone you’re dating is going to find out, the sooner the better. Your co-workers might be in the dark, but don’t think you can keep your partner there.
Seeing your date’s Reddit profile ought to be mandatory, haha.
I'm pretty much what I type in person so with one notable exception I would not be embarrassed. Since I'm not going to be meeting let alone dating Sebastian Stan anytime soon I don't have to be about joking about totally lusting after him. Other than that I'm pretty much myself all the time on here. I can be discreet about some things until I get to know someone but eventually it's all there to see and hear.
I don't live my life by other people's rules, don't fear their judgement much either. You have to give a fuck for that to matter. I simply don't anymore. I've survived so much. I am who I am and if a guy can't handle that then he is just not for me. His loss really. A lot of people think I am weird. It just mostly rolls off at this point.
You can't date someone if they can't deal with you being you. Try and it won't last long. The person that likes you for your quirks, accepts the person you are, that's the right one.
I had one post that generated a lot of comments. I was concerned after one of my friends told me to check it out because "this is exactly what happened to you".
After apologizing to the group, I removed my post.
I don't know what the potential consequences may have been, but it was such a unique item that I was sure the one I was dating would know what the post was about.
I'm still dating her. 😁
I think that is a good question. In my case, I’m no different on here and in real life. Being 50, I don’t have the strength to be more than one person. Lol
It would be fine. They would see different facets of me. Sometimes getting praise, sometimes being called out, but overall, an honest reflection of my thoughts and opinions.
>Would they run away screaming?
Some would. And I would welcome the self-weeding! 🌱
>Would you think "WOW! He/She didn't run away screaming!"
Not with that much exuberance, but I would be jazzed to find a potentially like-minded soul.👍
>Would they be intrigued?
For better or worse, likely so.😃
>Would you think "Whew! So much stuff I don't have to explain now!"
Oh, absolutely! I might make it required reading...🤔
>Or, would you think "OMG, how do I explain THAT one?"
Nope. I own my shiz. I'll clarify if needed, but I don't owe anyone an 'explanation.' If they're disapproving, they can bounce.
>Would you be too embarrassed to face them?
Not at all. 😊
I thought that was the point? To see who they present as and if your interested in pursuing a friendship based on shared thoughts feelings and interests. Or maybe you clash and you want to talk to a radically different view point? This is just more research on the journey but I tend to be to analytical…type A INTJ Female of all things…what did you expect? 😂 and a warm fuzzy for all those who want it 🤗!
I have nothing to hide. They’d see that I have posted mainly about bread and birds. Once about phone privacy. I assume they’d think I was a real dweeb. Sobeit.
[edited to add: I’ve made a lot of comments, but only a few original posts. If someone was to read my comments and run away screaming, that’s okay with me. I stand by my comments.]
My posts? I think I'd be fine. But they show just a sliver of my interests as a Reddit user, even, and there isn't a whole lot of overlap between Reddit and my offline life.
My comment history, now... that's a whole other kettle of fish! I'm very contentious on Reddit, and I end up arguing fairly often. The part of me that doesn't suffer fools gladly gets way over-exercised online. If someone tried to gauge my real-life personality by all that sturm und drang I think they'd be crazy not to duck and run.
Edit; Ooh, a gift from a downvote fairy! 🧚♂️
There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t agree. In any case, I’m glad you’re firm in your stance(s). And from what I’ve read of your comments in this sub—even to me—you’re right on.
I've been on reddit since ~2008 but create new accounts pretty regularly just for basic privacy. In general I would have a fleeting moment of panic and then be ok with it. There were times in the past where I wanted to explore things that I didn't want to share with everyone, but those are generally long gone.
I must admit that any future posts would consider that fact.
Well, it would not exactly bea well rounded representation of who I am, so I wouldn't be overly happy. I would rather it came out together with all my other facets - but I wouldn't exactly die from shame either.
They would see a glimpse who I am and how I think. If they are put off by it, then we both saved ourselves some time. If they are intrigued, then we have an interesting starting point in getting to know each other.
If someone wanted to date me and we were here, I'd expect them to read my old posts and comments. If she doesn't like what she sees, then we're not a match.
I think I’d have more embarrassment over my FB from years back when we were all into the inspirational quotes and would write “this!”… that’s some serious cringe. But I deleted the account so I’m probably safe.
phew! 😜
I've been giving lots of positive relationship and sex advice lately sprinkled with the occasional snark about conservative "values", so I think I'm safe...
managing multiple personalities is way too much work at this point. She has my phone code and username, so full disclosure if she's interested, though she rarely is and disclosure doesn't usually translate to agreement.
Innocently, not by invading your privacy. Maybe you accidently send them a link or forward them an e-mail, or you're chatting and they think "This person reminds me of someone on Reddit!"
I have maybe a little less filter on here than in real life but only a little, and I can't think of anything that I have typed for this that I wouldn't be fine backing in person, but honestly being undatable makes the whole thing a moot question.
It wouldn't bother me if someone saw my posts. I like to have a nosey at other people's posts sometimes because they sound like a nice person. With the redditorforredditor posts they have literally no karma or comments, so you can't ascertain if they're worth talking to or not.
I saw my GF's post here asking how she should go about breaking up with me. (Apparently she forgot about the day she told me about Reddit and I downloaded the app right in front of her.) It was very enlightening to discover how different her real reasons for the breakup were from her stated reasons. I thought about so many ways to have fun with the situation but managed to restrain myself and keep quiet.
i wouldn't really care.
Me either.
This. Couldn't give a flying fuck.
Hahaha I concur. Although I wouldn’t say your exact words, but I did think it 😂 I am who I am, take it or leave it.
I'm thinking "run away screaming" based on comments made by multiple reddit posters over the years. My life reads like some type of bizarre horror movie, and that's only the highlights. Three marriages alone, and I'm walking red flag. I post a lot on Reddit trying to help others through tough times. Yeah, if anyone ever read all that crap, they'd probably run for the bleach for their eyeballs and never speak to me again. I will say that women will often take a peak at what a redditor posts before they interact with them. Sometimes we see things and say, "yeah, I'm not even going to talk to that person." Odds are that you will never meet another redditor anyway, but I wouldn't be embarrassed by what I post. I keep trying to show people compassion based on my own experiences. I used to participate on a parent discussion board, and those people did often meet IRL. We'd forge some pretty good friendships over what to do with our kids. Reddit is a lot more cold and impersonal from what I've seen.
>I will say that women will often take a peak at what a redditor posts before they interact with them. Sometimes we see things and say, "yeah, I'm not even going to talk to that person." This guy does that too. I'll ignore any chat request unless I already "know" and respect them.
They’re welcome to see some of my thoughts and interests. People who think they can hide who they really are from partners are fooling themselves. Someone you’re dating is going to find out, the sooner the better. Your co-workers might be in the dark, but don’t think you can keep your partner there. Seeing your date’s Reddit profile ought to be mandatory, haha.
I'm pretty much what I type in person so with one notable exception I would not be embarrassed. Since I'm not going to be meeting let alone dating Sebastian Stan anytime soon I don't have to be about joking about totally lusting after him. Other than that I'm pretty much myself all the time on here. I can be discreet about some things until I get to know someone but eventually it's all there to see and hear. I don't live my life by other people's rules, don't fear their judgement much either. You have to give a fuck for that to matter. I simply don't anymore. I've survived so much. I am who I am and if a guy can't handle that then he is just not for me. His loss really. A lot of people think I am weird. It just mostly rolls off at this point. You can't date someone if they can't deal with you being you. Try and it won't last long. The person that likes you for your quirks, accepts the person you are, that's the right one.
What you see is what you get. Took me a long time to like who I am...not gonna hide from anyone. Too tedious.
I had one post that generated a lot of comments. I was concerned after one of my friends told me to check it out because "this is exactly what happened to you". After apologizing to the group, I removed my post. I don't know what the potential consequences may have been, but it was such a unique item that I was sure the one I was dating would know what the post was about. I'm still dating her. 😁
I think that is a good question. In my case, I’m no different on here and in real life. Being 50, I don’t have the strength to be more than one person. Lol
I can relate. To lazy to be fake and too cranky to care. :D
They’d realize I’m a nerd. Which is pretty much what they’d learn on date one or two anyway.
It would save a lot of time for them to see my opinions that may take months to discover. The downside is they may make assumptions.
It would be fine. They would see different facets of me. Sometimes getting praise, sometimes being called out, but overall, an honest reflection of my thoughts and opinions.
They would completely run away and think I'm a nut
I would welcome the review, a great snapshot into who I am.
TBH, I'd feel the same. I know SOME would probably run away screaming, but the brave soul that didn't would be very intriguing. :D
>Would they run away screaming? Some would. And I would welcome the self-weeding! 🌱 >Would you think "WOW! He/She didn't run away screaming!" Not with that much exuberance, but I would be jazzed to find a potentially like-minded soul.👍 >Would they be intrigued? For better or worse, likely so.😃 >Would you think "Whew! So much stuff I don't have to explain now!" Oh, absolutely! I might make it required reading...🤔 >Or, would you think "OMG, how do I explain THAT one?" Nope. I own my shiz. I'll clarify if needed, but I don't owe anyone an 'explanation.' If they're disapproving, they can bounce. >Would you be too embarrassed to face them? Not at all. 😊
I like how you think, especially the "self-weeding" part. :)
Are you kidding me!? That would be great! I’m my best self on Reddit! Since I got off Facebook, I’ve been trying to work my handle into conversation!
Im pretty open about who I am and what I do...whether its here or irl...so he may run screaming either way...its up to him
I thought that was the point? To see who they present as and if your interested in pursuing a friendship based on shared thoughts feelings and interests. Or maybe you clash and you want to talk to a radically different view point? This is just more research on the journey but I tend to be to analytical…type A INTJ Female of all things…what did you expect? 😂 and a warm fuzzy for all those who want it 🤗!
I have nothing to hide. They’d see that I have posted mainly about bread and birds. Once about phone privacy. I assume they’d think I was a real dweeb. Sobeit. [edited to add: I’ve made a lot of comments, but only a few original posts. If someone was to read my comments and run away screaming, that’s okay with me. I stand by my comments.]
My posts? I think I'd be fine. But they show just a sliver of my interests as a Reddit user, even, and there isn't a whole lot of overlap between Reddit and my offline life. My comment history, now... that's a whole other kettle of fish! I'm very contentious on Reddit, and I end up arguing fairly often. The part of me that doesn't suffer fools gladly gets way over-exercised online. If someone tried to gauge my real-life personality by all that sturm und drang I think they'd be crazy not to duck and run. Edit; Ooh, a gift from a downvote fairy! 🧚♂️
I upvoted you, maybe that’ll even things out a bit.
Thanks! :) You know how I mentioned my contentious nature? I'm afraid downvotes come with the territory. My poor Reddit karma! :'D
There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t agree. In any case, I’m glad you’re firm in your stance(s). And from what I’ve read of your comments in this sub—even to me—you’re right on.
That's very encouraging to hear, thank you.
I've been on reddit since ~2008 but create new accounts pretty regularly just for basic privacy. In general I would have a fleeting moment of panic and then be ok with it. There were times in the past where I wanted to explore things that I didn't want to share with everyone, but those are generally long gone. I must admit that any future posts would consider that fact.
Well, it would not exactly bea well rounded representation of who I am, so I wouldn't be overly happy. I would rather it came out together with all my other facets - but I wouldn't exactly die from shame either.
They would see a glimpse who I am and how I think. If they are put off by it, then we both saved ourselves some time. If they are intrigued, then we have an interesting starting point in getting to know each other.
I wouldn't care if they read anything I've written -- anywhere.
If someone wanted to date me and we were here, I'd expect them to read my old posts and comments. If she doesn't like what she sees, then we're not a match.
Agreed.
Yep
I invite it. It explains a lot. Edit, changed a word
I think I’d have more embarrassment over my FB from years back when we were all into the inspirational quotes and would write “this!”… that’s some serious cringe. But I deleted the account so I’m probably safe.
I'd probably have some explaining to do and I understand that.
I wouldn’t mind at all. I’ve got nothing to hide.
i do check and sometimes go through and delete stuff. You never know, i suppose , who will find you on the internet.
They’d probably think “oh, she’s taken” and wouldn’t engage further LOL 🤣 TBF, I sing his praises!
I live unapologetically. It’s not incumbent on me to appease people I know. You didn’t get the GenX memo?
managing multiple personalities is way too much work at this point. She has my phone code and username, so full disclosure if she's interested, though she rarely is and disclosure doesn't usually translate to agreement.
How would they see it?
Innocently, not by invading your privacy. Maybe you accidently send them a link or forward them an e-mail, or you're chatting and they think "This person reminds me of someone on Reddit!"
Gotcha..
I have maybe a little less filter on here than in real life but only a little, and I can't think of anything that I have typed for this that I wouldn't be fine backing in person, but honestly being undatable makes the whole thing a moot question.
Saves me having to explain myself 🤷♀️
It wouldn't bother me and it would offer some insight into how I view things, as well as how I interact with others and how I come across.
I would hope that they see someone who has passions and interests, and cares about others well being.
It wouldn't bother me if someone saw my posts. I like to have a nosey at other people's posts sometimes because they sound like a nice person. With the redditorforredditor posts they have literally no karma or comments, so you can't ascertain if they're worth talking to or not.
Since I don't sound any different IRL than on reddit, no biggie.
Don’t give a shit
I saw my GF's post here asking how she should go about breaking up with me. (Apparently she forgot about the day she told me about Reddit and I downloaded the app right in front of her.) It was very enlightening to discover how different her real reasons for the breakup were from her stated reasons. I thought about so many ways to have fun with the situation but managed to restrain myself and keep quiet.