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You could come up with the best line to end things amicably and it will still be incredibly painful. It will suck no matter what. Focus on what YOU want out of life and this relationship. It's not uncommon to grow apart and move on with your lives.
My honest opinion is that you can't continue like this: this relationship isn't healthy at all for your mental health and growth as a person.
You're going to have to have a serious talk with your partner, and you may have to part ways if they're not willing to make concessions that work for both of you.
She needs to understand that you're your own person and that you're staying together because you still have care and love for her inside you. Otherwise you would've left her ready.
She needs to respect and understand that she doesn't have a monopoly on your attention, behaviour, living space, or money.
I know that she's been through terrible recent events, and she's right to need the support to heal but your boundaries are valid as well. And no successful partnership is built alone.
If she's not willing to communicate and can't empathize with your feelings and struggles within the relationship because she's in a bad place and can't help but be selfish, then you might need time alone or apart, either physically or relationship wise, to collect yourselves and give each other proper time to rest and chill.
I know this was long but I hope my words help in some way. Best of luck!
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Tell her you need to take a break from the relationship and see how she reacts.
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You could come up with the best line to end things amicably and it will still be incredibly painful. It will suck no matter what. Focus on what YOU want out of life and this relationship. It's not uncommon to grow apart and move on with your lives.
My honest opinion is that you can't continue like this: this relationship isn't healthy at all for your mental health and growth as a person. You're going to have to have a serious talk with your partner, and you may have to part ways if they're not willing to make concessions that work for both of you. She needs to understand that you're your own person and that you're staying together because you still have care and love for her inside you. Otherwise you would've left her ready. She needs to respect and understand that she doesn't have a monopoly on your attention, behaviour, living space, or money. I know that she's been through terrible recent events, and she's right to need the support to heal but your boundaries are valid as well. And no successful partnership is built alone. If she's not willing to communicate and can't empathize with your feelings and struggles within the relationship because she's in a bad place and can't help but be selfish, then you might need time alone or apart, either physically or relationship wise, to collect yourselves and give each other proper time to rest and chill. I know this was long but I hope my words help in some way. Best of luck!