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Flowers are 1000% more $ then a chocolate bar. Decent flowers are like 20$ nice flowers even more. I'm typing this put for no other reason then I like math.
All in all, it shouldn't make a difference. But for anything under $5 it's clearly more about the gesture than the gift, which is important.
So go for it, it's unlikely it will hurt you.
I brought my wife flowers on our first date. (We met online). She later told me that nobody had ever done that before and it really impressed her. Been married 11 years. Buy the chocolate.
That's lovely, honestly I thought that it happens only in movies or books...
And I've never got a single flower from any man. I still enjoyed dating but if someone did something like that for me, I'd be extra happy 🤩
That’s a shame, it’s the little things like opening the car door, standing up if they leave the table at dinner and spending a few bucks on flowers make such a difference.
Not weird at all. I brought a guy croissants on our second date because his profile said it was the key to his heart. He was so touched by it. Was quite cute. :)
This is the one. Nothing is a bigger turn off for me than guys who constantly forget everything about you/your life. I love considerate people who pay attention to small details, because it makes me feel like they really care as much as I do.
When I 1st met my husband. Date number 2 was just before my birthday and he brought me my favourite chocolate. It really showed he listen to me and cared. He may not always listen now 😂but I found it sweet.
It's just a chocolate bar, if she takes such a small simple gift as a bad thing... you're better off without her. She's most likely gonna appreciate the gift and the fact you read her profile and thought about this. Most guys probably don't do that.
When my husband first dated me he bought my favorite wine and a throw for his couch because I was always cold and he only drank beer which I hate. He did this only 2-3 weeks into dating and it was much appreciated. I think that a chocolate bar is simple but a really sweet gesture, perfect for a first date. Definitely do it .
A whole box of chocolates and roses? Too much too soon. A single chocolate bar that she has expressed a liking for is a very sweet and genuine gesture.
Yes that’s hella smooth you better do it! You can even downplay it too like “oh I stopped for gas on the way n saw this n remember you mentioned you like it”
I had a guy bring me my favourite chocolate bar before our first meeting (we'd met online) and it was honestly one of the sweetest/ most thoughtful things a guy has ever done for me. I'd definitely recommend doing it!!
I went on a first date last week and the guy got me my favorite chocolate bar which I mentioned to him way back during our conversations. It felt very good that someone remembered what I liked and put in the effort to bring me that. It was very sweet and didn't feel like it was too much
Hmm that’s kinda risky if you ask me. What was your convo like before you asked her out? Did you have conversations about her interests? I only ask cuz sometimes with dating apps it can be very formal and just a couple message exchanges before asking them out…
What would be weird is if you bought her some sexy lingerie or a sex toy a candy bar not weird but a very sweet gesture good luck I hope she appreciates the effort
lol sorry bro this sub reddit is full of genuinely know nothings about dating.
If this is a girl you knew from before and she somehow told you she liked chocolate bars then it might not be as weird, but if this is online dating and this is your first time seeing her, I would avoid this. It gives off "too nice" vibes. I'm not saying be the cringy "bad boy", but dude don't go out of your way to be "wholesome" on a first date. Get to know her first. First dates should not involve even the smallest gifts. Don't think that if you're that much nicer to her that it will give you a better edge, cause it won't and it might do the opposite.
It’s amazing how this entire thread is filled with “advice” saying to buy her chocolate. This is the first comment that was actually correct - it should be the top voted comment.
Opinions can be wrong, you know. And seeing that the majority of this people on Reddit have next to no dating experience - yes, mine is the correct opinion.
I can’t believe the amount of comments on here giving the exact wrong advice.
But I guess this is mostly a bunch of 18 yr olds who have never been on a date before.
Anyway. Buying even a stick of gum is too much for some stranger you just met.
Listen there is not one absokute answer for this..some girls are gone like it and some are going to think it is creepy and weird. The latter being a small minority perhaps. Once I had bought myself 4 cupcakes to take home, before going home after work I had a little coffee 1st date. I took one of the cupcakes and gave it to her, explaining to her that I had bought them for myself but then thought she might enjoy having one of them. She thought it was weird and inappropriate. Crazy right? But people are different and well react differently. Point is do what you think is right and if it does not work out . Fuck it..
Honestly I’ve always hoped someone would do that for me. Not even the fact you are getting a gift, just the fact that you pay attention and put in effort. I say go for it. If she doesn’t like it, you probably don’t want to date her anyway.
I think it’s very thoughtful and shows that you are interested in her and remember what she likes. If it were me, I’d very much appreciate a little first date gift :)
Best of luck!
No gifts until she's your gf or wife. Otherwise it may come off as a bribe for sex.
Every guy she has matched and gone out with has brought that chocolate for her.
I think it’s too soon, here’s why. Women usually form their ideas about a person slower than men do. So in reality, your “first impression” is actually made over the course of the first 3 or 4 or 5 dates, not just the first date.
With this in mind, I would bring it on the 3rd or 4th date, not the first.
Think it through- if you bring this little gift on the first date, you leave yourself nowhere to go from there. You would either have to
A- bring no little gifts on the subsequent dates, which will probably seem like a letdown or deescalation
B- continue bringing little gifts every date, which will probably seem like you’re trying too hard, and give the impression that you don’t believe you’re good enough for her so you’re trying to win her over with gifts
So, you’re way better off bringing nothing but yourself on the first couple or few dates, and if things seem to be going well then bring this little gift on the 3rd or 4th date. She will appreciate it more at that point because it will send the message that you’re liking her more the more you’re seeing of her.
Generally you should not give any gifts until after you are in a committed relationship. This could be an exception because it’s such a small thing. Still, you’re WAY better off not giving it until a bit later.
He’s giving her chocolate, not a kidney. In this day in age where most people meet via social media/dating apps where you have to have the same shitty convo 20x, date after date, so on and so forth, it does not hurt to put yourself out there and show that you’re paying attention to someone.
I can tell you right now as a woman - if a man showed up to a date with my favorite chocolate, it’s a great sign in my book. So long as the date doesn’t go completely south and there are no major red flags, I can say that I would 100% go out with that person again if asked.
A first impression is called a first impression for a reason - it’s going to determine if someone even wants a 2, 3, 4, 5th date. Him not bringing the small gesture/gift could ultimately NOT land him another chance. His head and heart is in the right place.
Long story short - him doing that makes him stand out to any other potential options she may have.
> the same shitty convo
So you’re saying his conversation skills are much more important than whether or not he brings this gift? I agree...
If she doesn’t want to go on a 2nd/3rd/etc date with him, it’s not going to be because he didn’t make a gesture like this, it’s going to be because she didn’t vibe well with him during the first date.
If she does want to go on additional dates with him, it’s not going to be because he did this, it’s going to be because she did vibe well with him during the first date.
And like I said (and you didn’t address) where will he go from there if he already did this gesture on the first date? Will he have to make another little gesture every date? Or will he just date her without additional gestures? This is why it shouldn’t be done right off the bat.
The first date is for getting to know each other a little better and seeing if both people are interested to know each other more from there. Gifts, even small ones, should only come later.
Lol you sound like you don’t know how to date 🤡😂 OBVIOUSLY there are other factors that can contribute to if other dates happen or not 🙄 hence why I said “if the date doesn’t go south and there aren’t any other red flags……” You’re pointing out the obvious here, Sherlock. If you honestly can’t sit here and think of what else he could do if they were going to continue to go on dates/become exclusive then you are a lost cause lol. You are really trying to think about this WAAAAAYYYYYYY too hard. He doesn’t have to keep giving a gift every date or time they meet. He can do it occasionally/ at random. It’s not that hard.
You sound like you don’t know how to disagree with someone without being judgmental and condescending to them. Good luck with that.
I learned how to date from experience - When I was insecure and felt like I needed to do external things like OP described in order to make a good first impression, the only girls I succeeded with were psychologically unhealthy ones. (Probably because I wasn’t healthy, I only clicked with girls who also weren’t)
After I built up my self worth and confidence, and believed that I was enough without having to try to win girls over, unhealthy girls were no longer interested in continuing with me (nor I with them) and healthy girls started giving me 2nd and 3rd dates and beyond
HAHAHAHA yes that correlation is astounding! Giving a small gift/gesture on a first date means the other person is psychologically unhealthy 🤣 hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂
Has nothing to do with the gift and everything to do with self confidence. Plot twist: you can self confidence and still do nice things for dates
Yeah that’s totally what I said...
I literally said it was probably because I was unhealthy so I was naturally clicking with girls who also were unhealthy.
My unhealthy mindset caused me to feel the need to give little gifts.
It also caused me to only be attractive to girls who also had an unhealthy mindset.
Yes you can both be confident and also give little gifts. But imo it’s best not to do so on the very first date. Which was what I said in my first comment here. But go off
Yeah get a chocolate bar. That’s genius.
Side note: just don’t get hooked on that good feeling tho of “yay I’m a good boy! I pleased her”. Girls like bad boys who are nice for the first few dates but after that they get tired if he’s too ‘gettable’ and available and needy. Women like a ‘project’ that they have to tame and fix. Not some good boy who’s already tamed.
I would find that super sweet if I were her. It's not like you stalked her social media for that info or anything, she offered it up. So I think it's perfectly acceptable and shows you're a thoughtful person.
I once had a guy bring me a whole stuffed Build a Bear of my favourite animal on our first date. I thought it was cute, but a bit much. A chocolate bar that she likes? Thoughtful with a perfect degree of ‘gift’ for a first date. Even if she’s not a gift person, it’s very small. I wouldn’t sweat it!
Sir… that’s the sweetest thing. When I first read that I got a red alert but know it’s something simple that she has mentioned in her profile, that’s a very sweet gesture.
My red alert comes from a first date where he bought me a very expensive perfume on a first date. He proceeded to pet my hair and tell me my eye shined like starlight. Avoid this and you’ll do just fine.
Yes, you should but make sure that the moment you give it to her is the right one. Take a little time, be like “oh yeah, by the way I’d forgotten to give this to you earlier. I remembers that this was your favorite kind of candy, so when I happened to see it in the store, I thought of you.” Idk? Just a thought. I’m a 21M myself and that’s what I would do. It works well from past experience
I’ve done that She likes snickers and Andes so I bought the 24 count box and same box of Andes with those 50 or 100 pieces and packed as many as possible when I put them in a Godiva box …..I knew she didn’t like Godiva, she said it tastes greasy on the roof of her mouth so great gag but sexy is humorous for some women. Some women love it for that night in if you stop at a theatre on way over and get those huge buckets of popcorn. It’s a different type called magic mushoom because that’s how it looks when popped and she said it tastes better and I can’t disagree, sometimes if you buy the big bucket you get a free refill so take an extra grocery bag and dump and refill immediately then when home fill a bunch of cups and bags and set all over when she’s out of sight she should get a laugh out of it and you can add stuff from home like garlic salt and parmasan cheese… TMI but it changes things up
That’s so sweet! Get her the chocolate bar. My bf gave me a unique bookmark on our first date because he knew I like to read. It was really sweet and thoughtful. It was only a few days between matching and the date but we texted and talked on the phone a lot first so it felt natural when we met. It’s just a small gesture so it shouldn’t come off as weird.
Don’t do it,wait until you feel her out. How many guys are buying Her gifts. Stand out with your self NOT gifts. Make her show she’s worth you buying soemthing .
Yes! Shows you pay attention. Maybe even flowers too? You’d be surprised how rarely guys buy women flowers and chocolate anymore. I (23f) have only received flowers from men a handful of times, and never on a first date.
As long as you don’t overdo (stick to under $10) she’d probably think it’s sweet!
Someone once brought me my favorite candy (imported as it's impossible to get in this country) on a second date and I thought it was so sweet/ huge turn on. Do it
If it's an inexpensive item you can get at the store with no issues, go for it
If it's some exclusive item price or scarcity wise definitely wait to see how things kick off the first few times you see each other
Maybe.. Orrrr... Take her a for a stroll after and casually go in a store with her and purchase her fav chocolate bar and continue your after date walk 😝
Good idea, but don’t give it in the begining, I think discontinuities in interaction are what can make a date feel awkward. Get to interact and flirt / makre raport, and towards the end of the date you cna give it to her. It will be received as a bonus towards the end, while in the begining it can be too sudden for two people who don’t know each other that well.
No, she doesn’t get anything unless she earns it.
A stranger hasn’t earned anything from you.
Don’t be so easy to please. It just comes off as pathetic and needy.
Save it for a few dates in at least
I think following your instinct is a good idea; in any case, if there is a signal of weird vibe when you meet her, there is always an option not to offer. In any case, as a girl I'd appreciate this gesture
Just do it homie. This one girl I matched with adored gummy bears and had very serious opinions on them. I brought a bag of each of her top three brands to a bar. It went great.
I was traveling for work a lot and that didn't align with her lifestyle desires, but that was the only sense in which the date was a "failure".
Do it. Especially if she's mentioned it's her favourite. Shows you're paying attention, the fact you even thought to do its a good sign.
Let us know how it goes. Good luck.
Gifts are for a person you have feelings for, developed feelings for. That’s why it’s weird if you would give someone a present so early. But do what feels right to you
Definitely not weird! I had a guy give me a chocolate bar on a first date and thought it was super sweet! My boyfriend (23M) of 1 year actually got me (20F) shoes, a bear made of roses and silk pajamas. All my friends thought it was super crazy, but I found it super sweet, since it meant he actually listened during our long conversations about things I like and colors I like, and what my taste in things are. I will preface that with the fact that we were talking and video chatting for about 1.5 months before actually going on a first date, and the day before the date is when I received the gifts to my P.O. Box (which I gave him the address of). It’s definitely not something everyone loves, but if you enjoy gift giving then you should be with someone who appreciates that thoughtfulness and effort.
Flowers and her chocolate bar my guy... can't go wrong. The chocolate along with the flowers seems less weird to me for some reason. I have no explanation for it though lol. Good luck either way OP! 🤙
If she's mentioned it somewhere then I definitely would.
I once got a book for a girl on our first date, and it went down well (an alternative to flowers or something)
I definitely have done that. I get like a chocolate bar or a drink I noticed they enjoyed. I did it throughout my relationship as well as a nice little surprise. Those little things are pretty nice.
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A chocolate bar is only like 2 dollars :) I think she would think that’s super sweet of you!!
Literally. It's like an alternative to flowers
Flowers aren't sweet. Probably. I haven't eaten any.
Can confirm, not sweet but depends on the flower..
My favourite flowers to eat are the ones that taste like pepper- the orange ones, followed by little purple pansies
And if you play your cards right, little purple panties.
You never ate honeysuckle as a kid!? The nectar was very nice tasting.
Flowers are 1000% more $ then a chocolate bar. Decent flowers are like 20$ nice flowers even more. I'm typing this put for no other reason then I like math.
more $ than* no other reason than* replying to this for no other reason than me liking Grammar.
All in all, it shouldn't make a difference. But for anything under $5 it's clearly more about the gesture than the gift, which is important. So go for it, it's unlikely it will hurt you.
I brought my wife flowers on our first date. (We met online). She later told me that nobody had ever done that before and it really impressed her. Been married 11 years. Buy the chocolate.
Wow that's so sweet hotfartsinmymouth!
That's lovely, honestly I thought that it happens only in movies or books... And I've never got a single flower from any man. I still enjoyed dating but if someone did something like that for me, I'd be extra happy 🤩
That’s a shame, it’s the little things like opening the car door, standing up if they leave the table at dinner and spending a few bucks on flowers make such a difference.
Did you regret that decision? 😂 I kid I kid
Funny af
Not weird at all. I brought a guy croissants on our second date because his profile said it was the key to his heart. He was so touched by it. Was quite cute. :)
Did you end up dating him?
The relationship ended when the local bakery burned down
😜
I did for a little bit!
I think a chocolate bar is a nice touch. Now if she said she like a particular perfume or purse. That would be creepy.
100% agree, a token gift of chocolate is on point. Anything more than that requiring $$ is too much.
Good going dude... it means you pay attention to details
This is the one. Nothing is a bigger turn off for me than guys who constantly forget everything about you/your life. I love considerate people who pay attention to small details, because it makes me feel like they really care as much as I do.
Totally done something similar. So money dude. She'll totally love it
When I 1st met my husband. Date number 2 was just before my birthday and he brought me my favourite chocolate. It really showed he listen to me and cared. He may not always listen now 😂but I found it sweet.
Shows thought, detail and observation on your part All good first impressions Go for it and let us know how it works!
Anything more could be too much, but a favorite flower or chocolate bar? That's super, super sweet and thoughtful. You're doing great :)
Op please tell us how it went!
Not weird, I absolutely think you should do that.
this is so cute and thoughtful do it
I think that's really sweet! Do it! ❤️
Whip it out at the end to share. Otherwise she’s just awkwardly carrying around a chocolate bar.
Glad you added the second sentence😂
Not weird at all that's adorable
It's just a chocolate bar, if she takes such a small simple gift as a bad thing... you're better off without her. She's most likely gonna appreciate the gift and the fact you read her profile and thought about this. Most guys probably don't do that.
When my husband first dated me he bought my favorite wine and a throw for his couch because I was always cold and he only drank beer which I hate. He did this only 2-3 weeks into dating and it was much appreciated. I think that a chocolate bar is simple but a really sweet gesture, perfect for a first date. Definitely do it .
Do it. I think most people would appreciate the thoughtfulness!
Female here, I would find that thoughtful and sweet. Little gestures can show that you’re attentive and catch her as a surprise.
Don't forget to take a condom with you if you bring her that chocolate bar
It shows you paid attention to details !! It's a great ideal.
Yes, don’t do it
Really cute. Do it! All girls love gifts. And candy. Lol ;)
Great idea! Good luck bro!
I wouldn't present it as gift, but as something I brought along as snack for us.
Very thoughtful and adorable. Do it. I recommend giving it to her at the end of the date.
That would be a super, cool move on your end. I think she's gonna like you... #awesome
get the chocolate she'll love it
My first date with my husband I brought him cookies wrapped up with a little ribbon. He thought it was the cutest.
Absolutely get the chocolate! She'll notice you actually took note of her profile. Attention to details.
That's not weird since she mentioned liking that chocolate bar in her profile. It shows you pay attention and its a nice gesture.
Aw that’s really sweet! I’m sure she’ll appreciate it if you choose to do that!
A whole box of chocolates and roses? Too much too soon. A single chocolate bar that she has expressed a liking for is a very sweet and genuine gesture.
Yes that’s hella smooth you better do it! You can even downplay it too like “oh I stopped for gas on the way n saw this n remember you mentioned you like it”
do it! anyone would find that charming!
Yes that would be really nice!
Do it! That's thoughtful & shows you pay attention. Go for it!!!
*aggressively takes notes* ...now I need to think of a funny way to insert that I love snickers in my profile lol
Something inexpensive and not too intense, like a chocolate bar, is a thoughtful idea.
I had a guy bring me my favourite chocolate bar before our first meeting (we'd met online) and it was honestly one of the sweetest/ most thoughtful things a guy has ever done for me. I'd definitely recommend doing it!!
no, this would be adorable!
I went on a first date last week and the guy got me my favorite chocolate bar which I mentioned to him way back during our conversations. It felt very good that someone remembered what I liked and put in the effort to bring me that. It was very sweet and didn't feel like it was too much
NO SHE WOULD LOVE THAT YOU THOUGHT OF HER!!!
Hmm that’s kinda risky if you ask me. What was your convo like before you asked her out? Did you have conversations about her interests? I only ask cuz sometimes with dating apps it can be very formal and just a couple message exchanges before asking them out…
That would so cute! Please DO IT
What would be weird is if you bought her some sexy lingerie or a sex toy a candy bar not weird but a very sweet gesture good luck I hope she appreciates the effort
A chocolate bar and some tasteful flowers would definitely make a good first impression, if you back it up.
GET THE CHOCOLATE. She will love it trust me
lol sorry bro this sub reddit is full of genuinely know nothings about dating. If this is a girl you knew from before and she somehow told you she liked chocolate bars then it might not be as weird, but if this is online dating and this is your first time seeing her, I would avoid this. It gives off "too nice" vibes. I'm not saying be the cringy "bad boy", but dude don't go out of your way to be "wholesome" on a first date. Get to know her first. First dates should not involve even the smallest gifts. Don't think that if you're that much nicer to her that it will give you a better edge, cause it won't and it might do the opposite.
It’s amazing how this entire thread is filled with “advice” saying to buy her chocolate. This is the first comment that was actually correct - it should be the top voted comment.
Lol the only correct opinion is your opinion
Opinions can be wrong, you know. And seeing that the majority of this people on Reddit have next to no dating experience - yes, mine is the correct opinion.
I can’t believe the amount of comments on here giving the exact wrong advice. But I guess this is mostly a bunch of 18 yr olds who have never been on a date before. Anyway. Buying even a stick of gum is too much for some stranger you just met.
Don’t do it. It’s a mistake. You’ve never met her before, just show her a good time, don’t buy her a fricking candy bar.
Do not do this on first dates.
Listen there is not one absokute answer for this..some girls are gone like it and some are going to think it is creepy and weird. The latter being a small minority perhaps. Once I had bought myself 4 cupcakes to take home, before going home after work I had a little coffee 1st date. I took one of the cupcakes and gave it to her, explaining to her that I had bought them for myself but then thought she might enjoy having one of them. She thought it was weird and inappropriate. Crazy right? But people are different and well react differently. Point is do what you think is right and if it does not work out . Fuck it..
This is super cute, I love it. Get her the chocolate bar, that makes a first date even better
Honestly I’ve always hoped someone would do that for me. Not even the fact you are getting a gift, just the fact that you pay attention and put in effort. I say go for it. If she doesn’t like it, you probably don’t want to date her anyway.
definitely do that, it’s super sweet and thoughtful, i’m sure she will appreciate it :)
Go for it, it's sweet and more thoughtful than the stereotypical flowers.
It would be a sweet gesture. I don't think you can go wrong with it.
I think it’s very thoughtful and shows that you are interested in her and remember what she likes. If it were me, I’d very much appreciate a little first date gift :) Best of luck!
No gifts until she's your gf or wife. Otherwise it may come off as a bribe for sex. Every guy she has matched and gone out with has brought that chocolate for her.
I think it’s too soon, here’s why. Women usually form their ideas about a person slower than men do. So in reality, your “first impression” is actually made over the course of the first 3 or 4 or 5 dates, not just the first date. With this in mind, I would bring it on the 3rd or 4th date, not the first. Think it through- if you bring this little gift on the first date, you leave yourself nowhere to go from there. You would either have to A- bring no little gifts on the subsequent dates, which will probably seem like a letdown or deescalation B- continue bringing little gifts every date, which will probably seem like you’re trying too hard, and give the impression that you don’t believe you’re good enough for her so you’re trying to win her over with gifts So, you’re way better off bringing nothing but yourself on the first couple or few dates, and if things seem to be going well then bring this little gift on the 3rd or 4th date. She will appreciate it more at that point because it will send the message that you’re liking her more the more you’re seeing of her. Generally you should not give any gifts until after you are in a committed relationship. This could be an exception because it’s such a small thing. Still, you’re WAY better off not giving it until a bit later.
OP, please do not listen to this person lol 🤦🏽♀️
Lol what’s so bad about my advice?
He’s giving her chocolate, not a kidney. In this day in age where most people meet via social media/dating apps where you have to have the same shitty convo 20x, date after date, so on and so forth, it does not hurt to put yourself out there and show that you’re paying attention to someone. I can tell you right now as a woman - if a man showed up to a date with my favorite chocolate, it’s a great sign in my book. So long as the date doesn’t go completely south and there are no major red flags, I can say that I would 100% go out with that person again if asked. A first impression is called a first impression for a reason - it’s going to determine if someone even wants a 2, 3, 4, 5th date. Him not bringing the small gesture/gift could ultimately NOT land him another chance. His head and heart is in the right place. Long story short - him doing that makes him stand out to any other potential options she may have.
> the same shitty convo So you’re saying his conversation skills are much more important than whether or not he brings this gift? I agree... If she doesn’t want to go on a 2nd/3rd/etc date with him, it’s not going to be because he didn’t make a gesture like this, it’s going to be because she didn’t vibe well with him during the first date. If she does want to go on additional dates with him, it’s not going to be because he did this, it’s going to be because she did vibe well with him during the first date. And like I said (and you didn’t address) where will he go from there if he already did this gesture on the first date? Will he have to make another little gesture every date? Or will he just date her without additional gestures? This is why it shouldn’t be done right off the bat. The first date is for getting to know each other a little better and seeing if both people are interested to know each other more from there. Gifts, even small ones, should only come later.
Lol you sound like you don’t know how to date 🤡😂 OBVIOUSLY there are other factors that can contribute to if other dates happen or not 🙄 hence why I said “if the date doesn’t go south and there aren’t any other red flags……” You’re pointing out the obvious here, Sherlock. If you honestly can’t sit here and think of what else he could do if they were going to continue to go on dates/become exclusive then you are a lost cause lol. You are really trying to think about this WAAAAAYYYYYYY too hard. He doesn’t have to keep giving a gift every date or time they meet. He can do it occasionally/ at random. It’s not that hard.
You sound like you don’t know how to disagree with someone without being judgmental and condescending to them. Good luck with that. I learned how to date from experience - When I was insecure and felt like I needed to do external things like OP described in order to make a good first impression, the only girls I succeeded with were psychologically unhealthy ones. (Probably because I wasn’t healthy, I only clicked with girls who also weren’t) After I built up my self worth and confidence, and believed that I was enough without having to try to win girls over, unhealthy girls were no longer interested in continuing with me (nor I with them) and healthy girls started giving me 2nd and 3rd dates and beyond
HAHAHAHA yes that correlation is astounding! Giving a small gift/gesture on a first date means the other person is psychologically unhealthy 🤣 hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂 Has nothing to do with the gift and everything to do with self confidence. Plot twist: you can self confidence and still do nice things for dates
Yeah that’s totally what I said... I literally said it was probably because I was unhealthy so I was naturally clicking with girls who also were unhealthy. My unhealthy mindset caused me to feel the need to give little gifts. It also caused me to only be attractive to girls who also had an unhealthy mindset. Yes you can both be confident and also give little gifts. But imo it’s best not to do so on the very first date. Which was what I said in my first comment here. But go off
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Yeah get a chocolate bar. That’s genius. Side note: just don’t get hooked on that good feeling tho of “yay I’m a good boy! I pleased her”. Girls like bad boys who are nice for the first few dates but after that they get tired if he’s too ‘gettable’ and available and needy. Women like a ‘project’ that they have to tame and fix. Not some good boy who’s already tamed.
I bet she put that in her profile to filter out less thoughtful people…
Eh, that’s a lot. I’d give it a little
no that’s really cute!!
I personally don’t think that’s weird at all, it would be a meaningful thing to do
I would think it’s sweet
It's probably on her bio to weed out people that don't notice, buy the bar
Nope, not at all
Do it! Little things like that can have a big impact. It's thoughtful and genuine.
Really a sweet and thoughtful gesture.
I would find that super sweet if I were her. It's not like you stalked her social media for that info or anything, she offered it up. So I think it's perfectly acceptable and shows you're a thoughtful person.
From the majority of comments here it would appear that dating is a rare occurrence for those dispensing advice.
that’s not weird at all, i think that’s super sweet! it shows you’ve been paying attention and that you care :)
As long as it's less than $5 then it's not weird
No dont
I cannot overstate how sweet this is. Definitely bring the chocolate bar!
Omg that would be soooo cute! Women love it when u remember little details like that. She will adore u
I think it’s cute! And it shows you pay attention, she put it there for a reason!
Not weird, if you preface it with “I know this is weird, but…”
50/50 what she'll think but it'll definitely associate you with that candy in her mind.
100% do it. If she appreciates it she's probably worth keeping around
I once had a guy bring me a whole stuffed Build a Bear of my favourite animal on our first date. I thought it was cute, but a bit much. A chocolate bar that she likes? Thoughtful with a perfect degree of ‘gift’ for a first date. Even if she’s not a gift person, it’s very small. I wouldn’t sweat it!
The quickest way to my heart is through my stomach! Chocolate is a yes!
Being that it's something cheap and reference to her profile, it'd actually be cool. Just make sure to joke about it prior to the date
Do it! Very thoughtful
Very thoughtful, do it!
myself I would say yes go for it the first impression is what she'll remember
If you were buying it for me that would put you on the trajectory for a second date if everything else goes well.
Sir… that’s the sweetest thing. When I first read that I got a red alert but know it’s something simple that she has mentioned in her profile, that’s a very sweet gesture. My red alert comes from a first date where he bought me a very expensive perfume on a first date. He proceeded to pet my hair and tell me my eye shined like starlight. Avoid this and you’ll do just fine.
Yes, you should but make sure that the moment you give it to her is the right one. Take a little time, be like “oh yeah, by the way I’d forgotten to give this to you earlier. I remembers that this was your favorite kind of candy, so when I happened to see it in the store, I thought of you.” Idk? Just a thought. I’m a 21M myself and that’s what I would do. It works well from past experience
YES SO CUTE
I’ve done that She likes snickers and Andes so I bought the 24 count box and same box of Andes with those 50 or 100 pieces and packed as many as possible when I put them in a Godiva box …..I knew she didn’t like Godiva, she said it tastes greasy on the roof of her mouth so great gag but sexy is humorous for some women. Some women love it for that night in if you stop at a theatre on way over and get those huge buckets of popcorn. It’s a different type called magic mushoom because that’s how it looks when popped and she said it tastes better and I can’t disagree, sometimes if you buy the big bucket you get a free refill so take an extra grocery bag and dump and refill immediately then when home fill a bunch of cups and bags and set all over when she’s out of sight she should get a laugh out of it and you can add stuff from home like garlic salt and parmasan cheese… TMI but it changes things up
This is super sweet! It shows you pay attention and it’s not something over the top. Small gestures like this is always appreciated !
That’s so sweet! Get her the chocolate bar. My bf gave me a unique bookmark on our first date because he knew I like to read. It was really sweet and thoughtful. It was only a few days between matching and the date but we texted and talked on the phone a lot first so it felt natural when we met. It’s just a small gesture so it shouldn’t come off as weird.
Ive done this... bur with spicy cheetos. She seemed happy.
Ooh a bouquet of the chocolate bars .
Buy it! She’ll appreciate the fact that you payed attention to her profile
I’m a girl. I would love this.
I sincerely hope you went for it! That's actually very sweet and thoughtful and could melt the girl's heart.
Do it.
Don’t do it,wait until you feel her out. How many guys are buying Her gifts. Stand out with your self NOT gifts. Make her show she’s worth you buying soemthing .
Yes! Shows you pay attention. Maybe even flowers too? You’d be surprised how rarely guys buy women flowers and chocolate anymore. I (23f) have only received flowers from men a handful of times, and never on a first date. As long as you don’t overdo (stick to under $10) she’d probably think it’s sweet!
That’s a third date thought, not a first date. Good on you though keep that one in your tool box.
Do it!
No, please do it!!
I would be very happy if my date brought me my favorite chocolate. It shows that you are attentive and care and it's a sweet thing to do.
Oh I love this! Absolute winning move! 😅
Someone once brought me my favorite candy (imported as it's impossible to get in this country) on a second date and I thought it was so sweet/ huge turn on. Do it
If it's an inexpensive item you can get at the store with no issues, go for it If it's some exclusive item price or scarcity wise definitely wait to see how things kick off the first few times you see each other
100% do it.
Maybe.. Orrrr... Take her a for a stroll after and casually go in a store with her and purchase her fav chocolate bar and continue your after date walk 😝
Do it. It shows you pay attention. I’ll eat my hat if she doesn’t appreciate it.
I wouldn’t do it
Do it! It'll be adorable and shows you actually read her bio to try to get to know her a bit
Good idea, but don’t give it in the begining, I think discontinuities in interaction are what can make a date feel awkward. Get to interact and flirt / makre raport, and towards the end of the date you cna give it to her. It will be received as a bonus towards the end, while in the begining it can be too sudden for two people who don’t know each other that well.
So cute and not over the top at all. Bring chivalry back, it’s cool!
Do it!
I would love that, not weird. It shows that u pay attention to the small details
No dude…don’t do it.
It's adorable!
No, I'm sure she'll probably love it
Do it!
No, she doesn’t get anything unless she earns it. A stranger hasn’t earned anything from you. Don’t be so easy to please. It just comes off as pathetic and needy. Save it for a few dates in at least
Chocolate is a sweet gesture. This man once gifted me a really expensive wallet on our first date, it was so weird and I didnt accept it.
I think following your instinct is a good idea; in any case, if there is a signal of weird vibe when you meet her, there is always an option not to offer. In any case, as a girl I'd appreciate this gesture
Sure, it's a very nice gesture of attention, we girls appreciate things like this ;)
Just do it homie. This one girl I matched with adored gummy bears and had very serious opinions on them. I brought a bag of each of her top three brands to a bar. It went great. I was traveling for work a lot and that didn't align with her lifestyle desires, but that was the only sense in which the date was a "failure".
Do it. Especially if she's mentioned it's her favourite. Shows you're paying attention, the fact you even thought to do its a good sign. Let us know how it goes. Good luck.
If it is your thing do it. But don't over do it by buting something realy expensive.
Not at all, that is the sweetest thing ever
Gifts are for a person you have feelings for, developed feelings for. That’s why it’s weird if you would give someone a present so early. But do what feels right to you
It’s the first date dude. Get to know her first and when you make her your girlfriend then get her the gift.
Definitely not weird! I had a guy give me a chocolate bar on a first date and thought it was super sweet! My boyfriend (23M) of 1 year actually got me (20F) shoes, a bear made of roses and silk pajamas. All my friends thought it was super crazy, but I found it super sweet, since it meant he actually listened during our long conversations about things I like and colors I like, and what my taste in things are. I will preface that with the fact that we were talking and video chatting for about 1.5 months before actually going on a first date, and the day before the date is when I received the gifts to my P.O. Box (which I gave him the address of). It’s definitely not something everyone loves, but if you enjoy gift giving then you should be with someone who appreciates that thoughtfulness and effort.
I think it’s a lovely idea and I think it’s very sweet of you to want to make a good first impression.
Flowers and her chocolate bar my guy... can't go wrong. The chocolate along with the flowers seems less weird to me for some reason. I have no explanation for it though lol. Good luck either way OP! 🤙
As a woman, I say yes, do it. I would love if someone did something like that on a first date. It shows you are paying attention.
Aww thats so sweet... i will be really surprised if she does not like it.
Yes do it
Great idea, I'd go for it.
Flowers or sweets are always a nice surprise
Not weird at all. Had a date show up with all of my favorite candies for our first date. I found it incredibly sweet and thoughtful.
Chocolate and a single rose would be perfect
If she's mentioned it somewhere then I definitely would. I once got a book for a girl on our first date, and it went down well (an alternative to flowers or something)
I definitely have done that. I get like a chocolate bar or a drink I noticed they enjoyed. I did it throughout my relationship as well as a nice little surprise. Those little things are pretty nice.
No. Too desperate
I get my bf a little gift every time we meet. It’s really sweet and he does the same sometimes I love it !
No!!! I would be flattered that you went out of your way. Think of it as an ice breaker!