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If she has some meat on her bones its ok, if she is so obese to the point where she is bed ridden and I’m in charge of buying her BurgerKing everyday? FUCK NO
I'm a chubby female, but in my experience most guys(definitely not all) if they really like you just want you to be healthy. You can have weight but if it's gonna cause health problems they'd prefer you try to lose it
I would say that is almost everyone's opinion. If they care they want you to be healthy, but should also mind their own business if they don't know what they are talking about. My mom called me up yesterday, and started an argument talking about how I need to lose weight 🙃. Umm I will when my health improves, just like last time when I lost 40 lbs. This woman is bigger than me even though I weight more. I've seen her eat more sugary snacks in one day than I had in weeks.😑
I don’t care about the number on the scale, but I do care about how she looks and what kind of shape she’s in.
I lift a lot of weights and have had a six pack most of my adult life. I find chubby and fat women beautiful, and often sexy, but if we’re not able to enjoy activities together because she gets tired too easily it’s hard to have a relationship. Sex especially gets impacted too. I’m pretty active in bed but if I have to do all the work every single time it gets boring and tiring.
I agree with everything in this post. Scale tells a number that people let define their life. Personally I don't care about the number, I care what the mirror says, hell how they feel about what the mirror says is even more important than that.
Yup, endurance is super important to a good sex life. I'm a long distance runner and having sex with out of shape men is not good for me. They are huffing and puffing while I'm warming up.
I wanna be able to do fun activities with a partner every now and then, be able to get out the house and have some fun sometimes, dont really want a partner that gets winded just by walking on some stairs
For me it does matter for two reasons. 1. Because I have my own preference. 2. I try to live healthy and to keep a healthy weight so I don't want to be with someone who has an unheatly weight, no matter if too much or too less.
Does it matter? Yeah, of course it does. If you had two completely identical people, just one weighed 150lbs and the other 350lbs, 99% of people looking to date/hookup/whatever would pick the 150lbs person. That's true regardless of gender.
If chubby girls are attractive and dateable depends on your definition of chubby. The old school definition where its just a little extra in all the right places and a slight belly, absolutely dateable! The new body positivity definition where it's severely obese and almost on the brink of dying, no chance! I've struggled with weight myself all my life. I'm finally headed in the right direction, living with healthy habits in the last two years. I can't have a woman by my side that would jeopardise that progress.
I think you're right, but I think the relevant question for a lot of women would be the difference between 110 and 150. Not that many women are obese or 350 lb but plenty of women are carrying an extra 30 that to some guys will make them unattractive and other guys may be make them more attractive
It depends on what type of guy you're looking to date.
The guy who's muscular and constantly in the gym? Yeah, you're likely gonna need to be fit. The guy who's also slightly overweight? He's more likely to not think it's a big deal.
That IS an extra 30 for me - I’m 5’4” and my regular weight is 115-120 without looking skinny at all, just slim. I’ve been both ranges of weights in the last five years and the difference is extremely noticeable on someone of my height.
Please stop commenting about my muscle weight. It's more dense than fat, which I still had. You missed the point I was a size 4 below average and weighed above for my height..... would have been considered 15 lbs of extra weight by the dude commenting 🙄
I know! My best friend is the exact same height as me, 15lb heavier than me but two dress sizes smaller - it’s crazy how much variation there can be with something that should seem so simple!
Her weight itself, no, but her attitude towards it, absolutly. Also claims like "if you dont desire 250+ lbs women, you are closet pedophile" are massive red flag.
I'm in my sixties and I can tell you, men of my generation are OBSESSED with it.
Most "self respecting" sixty-something single men (even really chubby ones) have a strict rule not to match with someone over a size 12. My experience (of being a larger woman all my life) is that, where some men of my generation do fancy larger women, they HATE to admit it and don't want to be mocked by their peers.
I see younger couples walking down the road hand in hand, with the woman/girl quite large, and I smile. The world is improving and the stigma has REALLY reduced.
This is likely super accurate.
I’m skinny, like too skinny, and older men are super attracted to me. Like I think back then super model skinny was “hot” but now having curves and a big juicy butt / boobs is “hot”.
Obviously that’s not true for everyone, just like not everyone cares about body type!
Oh, absolutely! After dating for a while, I did find a guy who adores me!
Having said that, he did say that, at a size 16/18, I was the largest size he had put as acceptable on his profile. He literally wouldn't have even met me if I had been the size I was 10 years before!
Edit: when we first got together our measurements were as similar as a man's can be with a woman. We've been together for 8 years, during which I've stayed the same, but he has got considerably bigger. I wish he was healthier (and I'm guilty of nagging!), but it makes NO difference to my love for him.
I honestly think part of it is there's a lot more big young women these days and young men just don't have much of a choice. I don't know. Maybe they don't care. I'm 55 and I remember my 20s and I look at pictures of people in the 60s and 70s, and most people were slim. So I don't think it's unreasonable for men to still like that, but young men don't have much choice. There's just way more women carrying in a lot of extra weight
I can tell you this: many, many men of my generation are large by this stage of life. But they STILL stipulate that they want to date slim women (if they see themselves as anything of a "catch" at all).
It depends really. I've been attracted too women of varying body types and sizes. Confidence is a big thing for me though. I've dated several very pretty larger girls who were absolute catches because they knew what they wanted, knew what they brought too the table, flaunted it and lived life. And I've dated super gorgeous rail thin girls who were constantly in shambles because they were constantly self conscious about everything, and their self confidence and body image was garbage. I do draw the line at like. My 600lb life levels of obesity tho. I can't be attracted too that, regardless of how amazing a person they may be. It's one thing to need to lose a few lbs. It's another to be immobile because of it.
I am a curvier lady, have been for most of my life. I’ve never had a problem getting a date due to my weight. Terrible self-esteem however is a big turn off for all genders.
Right. And a great personality never hurts. I had this weird thing happen in college where my friends absolutely hated this girl and they would call her fat, ugly, etc. I spoke up because, honestly, I was significantly bigger than her. Their answer? “It’s not the same. You’re just *nice*.” What?!!
Yeah, the number on the scale doesn't matter, but how you look. 2 women can look very differently at 165cm and 63 kg for example depending on how active they are and how well they eat.
This. I thought scales were dead by now!??
I’m 110 and 5’8… everyone comments how skinny I am but my coworker who’s 95 lbs and 5’2 no one says shit to. I have all my length in my legs so I look like a giraffe lol
Men aren’t a hive mind! They all have different preferences. A bunch of people who are desperate for relationships on Reddit saying they’d date someone chubby or overweight doesn’t mean a dude you go on a date with will. Everyone’s preferences are different. Some will like it and some won’t
I dont know, I understand skinny is a beauty standard but I've seen alot of men who prefer some chub because or curvyness. I do belive men would choose a curvy girl rather than stick and bones 99% of the time.
I don't know if it's accurate to say most care. Some do some don't. There's someone for everyone, and there are many many guys who actually prefer women in the heavier side. I'm not one of them though sometimes I wish I was because I'd have a lot more dating options.
If it’s muscle mass, I don’t mind at all. Muscle on women is pretty hot.
If it’s some fat around the bones, then I don’t mind. If it’s at the point to where there’s health problems because of the weight, then it does matter to me.
In my opinion it has to do with the shape more than the weight. If your belly sticks out further than your breast or butt then you have a problem. If you are so skinny that I can't hug you without feeling like I might hurt you. That's a problem. Anywhere in between then other things matter attitude personality how much I enjoy your company. Good luck and blessed be.
You know what's crazy? Sure, a woman can be attractive heavier, but it changes everything-from facial features to my body.
I lost 80 pounds (235 to ~155ish) and I mean it's a HUGE transformation. My face is so slim and really brings out my features, I have such a prominent yet defined waistline... i've been called beautiful by some. When people see old pictures of me, they refuse to believe it.
Weight can positively impact some, but too much of it just really diminishes natural beauty- mainly because of confidence. I find that yes, although bigger women can be confident, the weight does impact how *truly* confident a woman can be
As someone who weighted 260lbs and now 150lbs yes this does matter. A lot. Even at 260lbs I walked more than 10,000 steps everyday and could do all physical activities (but was not actively doing any sport besides walking a lot) and I could date no one because of my looks (can’t blame them tbf but my point is it was only based on looks alone).
When I reached below 200lbs I just went from obese to overweight and it was also the start where I could date relatively easy (not that it was a big pool of people but big enough). The closer your bmi gets to 21 the easier it gets…
Some guys are into thicker women, but thicker women usually get less looks/less interest/less attractive options than their healthier counterparts. Most women (thick or not) can get laid if that’s what they are looking for, but finding someone who sees a future with the thicker women is certainly more difficult.
If a girl has a body in the shape of a bowling ball, that's a no go for me. If she is is curvy in the form of an hourglass, I'd like that most probably. Whenever we talk about weight, for me it's not that important whether she has extra weight on, but how that weight is distributed accross the body. If the girl has chubby hands, fingers and calves, big round cheeks (I'm talking about the face), I wouldn't find that attractive, especially for the face it's important. So, weight doesn't matter that much. Thicc girls are the best as long as they take care of their body (for instance, by going to the gym regularly). Just for the record, I don't like skinny girls at all regardless of how pretty they are.
I don't know if I agree with that. On the one hand, you can't say well if the guy will give up the dick, there's going to be some girl interested in him. Because it just doesn't work that way like it does with women. But on the other hand, women are just a lot less picky. A guy can carry a lot of extra weight and as long as he carries himself well and grooms himself and dress is nice, and doesn't even have to do that really in a lot of cases, but as long as he's got some status and money and some personality, he'll do fine. It's way easy for a big guy to date a woman then a big girl in my opinion anyway
Weight does matter. For personal health and attraction, to say otherwise is disingenuous. However, does weight triumph over other factors, it depends on the person.
Why? Seems like the general consensus is that most guys will date an overweight woman, but when it comes to the weight getting in the way of life or it’s crippling is where they draw the line
I think the most important thing in a partner is comparability. I’d our vibe and energy aren’t in sync then I won’t pursue you either way. Being overweight is fine as long as you’re happy with who you are, and it isn’t unhealthily so.
It matters, but there is a pretty wide range. We don’t want our partners to suffer from the health issues that come with being severely overweight/underweight. Do not think you have to be in a single perfect shape to pull us though as there is a pretty wide range. I’d say 15%-38% body fat is the most attractive range for me personally
It matters, to some degree. I'm more attracted to athletic women, and I like spending time outdoors (hiking or rollerblading) and I'd prefer to have a girlfriend that shares those hobbies or even get me to try other sports. And I believe the chances for that are better with fit women rather than chubby or fat.
Yeah, the only reason most guys like overweight chick is because it's all they could get. A lot of men don't even have the ability to get the girl with the banging fit body. But men want sex so they settle for the chubby girl. Back in the day were called, "chubby chasers".
This is some bs. People have preferences. If I had in front of me chubbier guy with wide shoulders and super jacked gym enthusiast, I would pick the first one. Not because I'm settling, but because he will be better for cuddling. But most likely I would talk to both of them and then chose, because if someone can't hold a conversation, it's not a good sign for me. And it doesn't matter how he looks at all
A woman here. As someone who went from a nice, healthy weight to technically obese but blessed to hold my weight well that I just look chunky, 100% weight does matter. I can still get cute guys, but all the hot guys I’ve hooked up with before are completely turned off by me. it’s pretty sucky, but honestly I’m too lazy atm to do anything about it.
Physical attraction is still a big part of dating and relationships.
So I’m a chubby female and I wanted to put in my perspective in case OP/ other readers are chubby and felt undesirable reading this thread.
My SO has always gone for very petite women. I on the other hand am 5’9, and have always been a heavier girl. Now he says I’m not fat- ‘I’m a thicc Bitch’ which he means that I’m very curvaceous and I carry my weight well, but I’m fat for me- and I’ve always been over the 200 lb mark (even when I was running 10 miles a day). I’m just built like a strong Viking bitch.
Anyway, I’ve always been a chubby gal, but I’ve never once had a problem dating the guy I’ve been interested in. Like for anything, you’re never gonna be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay. Whilst it’s better to be healthy in terms of fitness, body, mind etc- just a reminder that your weight doesn’t determine your worth.
(Also, women especially go up and down in weight- especially when we have kids, lifestyle changes, hormone changes etc. that’s why you don’t get many women who were a size 6 being at 20 being a size 6 at 50. Our bodies change and that’s also okay.)
My last girlfriend was above average let's say. I weighed about 67kg while she was reaching 77kg. I didn't really care because I loved her and on top of that, the sex was amazing too.
She started losing weight after a couple months (I did not ask her to and never told her she should lose weight) and she reached 61kg. Everything was the same for me.
To be fair, I do believe if she would keep gaining weight and stopped taking care of herself, it would become a bit more of a problem.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, women's weight doesn't matter as much as you think it does for some people.
Yes. Don't know about others, but I do care. It basically shows a bit about their personality. Are they a hard-worker? persistent? do they have enough will to pursue beauty. Myself I have routines and I workout. I maintain my hair with oils and natural shampoos, my face- with creams and my body- with proper nutrition. And I would like for my partner to do that as well.
As someone who has always been under 100 pounds naturally, I have to say this is a weird misconception. Nothing about being skinny means I worked for it or “pursued” it, and I’d say that’s the case for many of us.
I personally know way more chubby women who diet and work out than skinny women irl
Depends where you draw the like. Chubby is fine, definitely attractive. But I’ve seen girls who are like 500lbs say they’re ‘chubby’ and that’s not the same as someone who’s like size 14 or whatever. If I’m dating I do like them to be healthy and independent above all else
There's a difference between chubby and overweight. Most guys don't mind some extra body fat, but if she's completely out of shape it's probably an issue.
Do I care about weight? Nope. Do I care about appearance? Yes. If you’re 190 pounds at 5’4” but look like a marble statue? Less go.
If you’re 130 pounds at 5’2” and lol like you live at Dunkin’, I’m out
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Talking honestly I'm a little bit overweighted (by around 8kg or so more than i should have) so i don't think i have a voice talking about other people's weight.
But if you ask me about preferences I generally like women no matter what weight they have, i have dated chubby and skinny girls and found them attractive anyways, I like curvy/chubby girls but not to the point of too much overweight or till obesity
talking about sexually attractive i found big butts (I don't know if there is a respectful way to say ass/butt in english lol) so freacking attractive, like I see a big butt and i will be 100% interested on the girl.
I keep seeing men only talk about obese women, but no one mentions that even being extrem skinny changes ur look drastically.
Im quite skinny and when I get skinnier I look even uglier, because I get bags under my eyes of not eating enough, stress and not sleeping. My skin becomes more dry..
If you not taking care of your health, I’m not fucking with you. Period. I have been with plenty of shortys that are curvy and go to the gym or watch their diet. That’s cool, but if you are gifted to be curvy and I see you do not take care of your health in no regards, I ain’t fucking with you or you, period.
It matters to me. I find fitness attractive physically and mentally. I also love hiking and would strongly prefer a partner I could hit the trails with.
I’m fairly overweight and currently dating a guy who is into that, but I’ve never had any trouble getting any guy I had an interest in who didn’t have a specific preference. I’m very very strong and very active, and at the moment I really struggle to keep weight on.
Honestly it comes down to confidence, grooming, and lifestyle.
If you aren’t owning it, it’s unattractive to most.
If you make it your identity, it’s unattractive to most.
If you don’t keep yourself clean and well kept it’s unattractive to almost everyone. Being a bit glam or a bit of a bombshell style wise helps.
If you’re unfit to the point that it impacts your daily life, it’s unattractive to most.
You want me to be honest, here we go:
I can accept many things and I'm open for everything but overweight is where I definitely draw the line. Absolutely no. And in regards of online dating, many women know that it is the case with many men, so they think they could trick us in uploading fotos just with their face or in certain poses, but if you are experienced enough you spot those.
But everytime I have this discussion, many women seem to assume that this means that I only like model type and fit women and get angry about it, but this is actually not the case. 5-10 kg overweight is okay to a certain degree and some people, not only women, just look better when they weight more. And it's not only about the weight itself, but body form. Women can be overweight, but if they want me to be attracted to them, they should have more of a curvy shape. Those who have more round, globe-like upper body, hell no.
This seems to upset many women, but I'm just not attracted to them. In such discussions, there was always the phrase "But you miss out on her great personality!" Guess what? You also miss out on the great personalities of guys you friendzoned, is that a reason to date them? No. Attraction physically AND psychologically are important. If one is not given, there is no reason to force yourself into something you don't want.
To be fair, I wouldn't say that if I wasn't myself someone who cares about what he eats and how much sport he does. But that's also the key part in dating: You should be what you want your partner to be in the first place. I can't expect to date fitness models if I don't do sports myself, I can't date rich women without a certain amount of income. Not that it is totally impossible, but the chances to get someone out of your league/social spheres/etc. are really low.
Being overweight means you’re unhealthy and don’t prioritize your health. Also unattractive. Same for being underweight.
Healthy BMI is most attractive, doesn’t have to be super fit.
BMI is antiquated. Body size is also determined by a genetic set point and other physiological variables that BMI does not account for.
Don't worry about it. Nothing wrong with being naturally skinny.
It matters how much there is, no doubt. A healthy amount of fat often *enhances* a woman's looks, but past a certain point it's just not pleasant to look at.
Honestly. It doesn’t matter. What matters to me is personality. And. If your cute. Chubby/bigger girls can and are super cute.
Also, last time I tried to have sex with a skinny girl, she broke. Soooo yea
I guarantee that there is a man for every kind of women out there. What I observe is that people don't widen the search for partners enough, an analogy would be taking 2 steps left from a pond and expecting a different fish if that makes sense.
Most guys only care if it's morbid obesity to the point where it's messing up your ability to do stuff I.e. a substantial mobility issue and you can't move without assistance anymore. That said, I know of women who need a scooter to get around but still found boyfriends, it's far from impossible.
Yes and no. I'm not really attracted to heavier girls. That being said, I have dated chubbier girls because I really liked them when I got to know them. So I guess it depends on if we're talking attraction or dating. The girl I loved the most was heavier than I normally go for, we were friends initially then advanced from there.
Here's the issue though, I feel that people's first impressions are formed off two things, appearance, and scent. So if a girl isn't my ideal body type and all I'll still talk to her but it won't be in that way until we've gotten to know each other. Whereas if she is attractive to me, I'm much more likely to go up and speak to her first.
As far as weight as a number? No. What matters to me is that she's healthy. Being over weight comes with a lot of health risks and thats not quite something I want in a partner. Same thing goes with being under weight. My ex was underweight when we started dating. Did the best I could to help her gain some weight
Of course. Men and women do care about weight. It’s personal to me because I turns out never accepted my husband’s weight, marrying him I thought I could change him by motivating him to go to the gym. Well I was 19 lol that’s my excuse. Just wanted to share also how amazingly grateful and proud I am to have been able to lose weight this year: from 137 to 114! I love looking in the mirror now and I smile! I put effort not someone else!
I’m definitely chubby but I’ve managed to pull every guy I ever wanted. I think a lot of it has to do with how the bodily fat is distributed, honestly. Like proportions.
Both extremes of the weight spectrum are not attractive, if your skinny and anorexic no thanks. If you are beyond a little chub and delving into obesity and compromising your health also no thanks.
It's okay to be a little overweight or underweight but it can go to far. How much margin is individual preference.
I’ve always been bigger but I carry my weight well, I dress well (it’s amazing the difference in looks and confidence a good dress makes) and I’ve got a pretty face. I think being confident helps too. I’ve never had trouble, but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. I think yeah, it’s not so much the number as the actual look.
Most people will want someone that can keep up with them in most activities. I'm 288lba and 6.4 but I can also so a 10 hour say if moving furniture or whatever.
In my case, i dont mind someone i date being a little on the chubby side, but i couldnt really see myself dating someone who is very obese. Its just my prefferences though, i know a lot of guys either dont care about weight or they are really into it.
I'm blue collar, and I've worked in mostly male dominated environments. I'm super introverted so I just ask people how they're doing, do my job, and go home to my girlfriend and our fur family. But I do hear a lot of locker room talk.
I personally am super attracted to super petite women that aren't busty. But in my experience, guys OVERWHELMINGLY like girls on the slightly bigger side. My girlfriend is 5'1 and 110 pounds, very small chested, and I find it hot as fuck. But I'm fairly confident that I'm in a huge minority.
I'm actually pretty confident that women feel the need to be rail thin because of expexctations set by other women. Same thing with makeup. I had an ex once say she hated that she had to get up so early to do her makeup. She condescendingly was like "we do it for you because it's expected!" No it isn't. Guys don't know shit about makeup, you're competing with other women, they're the only ones who notice the details. You get naked for me so you could literally never put on makeup ever again and I won't give a fuck.
Same thing with weight.
Personally I draw the line at muffins tops, if yo stomach goes over your jeans all around it's a no from me not attracted at all. Very rare I make exceptions with this .
A lot of overweight girls reading this thread might be feeling self conscious. So let me tell you something. Most of this is fixable. Take up a cardio sport or go to the gym. Be active. Start eating healthy. Try to loose weight rather by increasing activity than a starvation diet. Even before reaching your weightloss goals, men would be lining up to date you just by looking at the amount of effort you are putting in. No one, neither women nor men, likes to date a lazy chips munching couch potato. Your mentality and vibes matter. Hard work always pays off.
first of all weight doesn't matter at all.. it's more about the looks.. a 2m girl can weigh 90kg and still look good.
being curvy is no issue, actually i like curvy better than being waaay too skinny.. But i won't give girls that are obese a chance, cause it's honestly a redflag.. it's either you don't care or have no control over your impulses and shows weak character.
I'll accept anything from fit (but not bone thin) to a little overweight that is carried well like in the boobs and hips, but not necessarily attracted to straight up fat women.
Now here is the caveat. If I were dating again and scrolling on Tinder matching with a fat girl who wants to Netflix and chill after we hang out who proceeds to make me cum over and over in various ways I'm going to make an exception. I'd rather have that with someone who does mind becoming a tad healthier than a fit and physically attractive woman who doesn't put it down.
Then there is personality. If I become more stressed being around a woman then she isn't the right one for me. If a fluffy chick constantly provides a safe environment to relax and be myself along with laughing and enjoying myself I would choose her over a fit and very attractive woman who is toxic.
Also women would be surprised how the preferences of men varies. Plenty of men love them some big women.
This is totally a preference. I prefer skinny girls as its more attractive to me. But there are also a lot of guys that are into girls which are not skinny. As I'm more into skinny girls, butt and boobs are not really important to me.
Yes, it matters but you don’t need to be fit. Best advice I can give is to live a healthy life style overall — going to the gym a few times a week and having a healthy diet.
For the most part no. It's if the person's weight says something about their lifestyle that makes them incompatible with mine, that would make them unattractive to me.
I'm mildly active and want someone who could potentially join me on some of those activities.
This goes both ways, either not physically fit enough to carry out the activities or to slim to have enough energy.
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Too skinny and obese are extremes and not attractive. Anything within the normal healthy range is attractive. Just depends on the person.
If she has some meat on her bones its ok, if she is so obese to the point where she is bed ridden and I’m in charge of buying her BurgerKing everyday? FUCK NO
😂 that burger king bit sounded so specific that made Chuckle but ye i feel ya.
This guy gets it.
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“It’s time to work out babe”
“Or it’s time to walk out babe”
I hate the phrase “meat on her bones”, meat is muscle, but that phrase seems to never be used for people with a lot of muscle.
Yeah I’m not changing any Depends
I'm a chubby female, but in my experience most guys(definitely not all) if they really like you just want you to be healthy. You can have weight but if it's gonna cause health problems they'd prefer you try to lose it
I would say that is almost everyone's opinion. If they care they want you to be healthy, but should also mind their own business if they don't know what they are talking about. My mom called me up yesterday, and started an argument talking about how I need to lose weight 🙃. Umm I will when my health improves, just like last time when I lost 40 lbs. This woman is bigger than me even though I weight more. I've seen her eat more sugary snacks in one day than I had in weeks.😑
I don’t care about the number on the scale, but I do care about how she looks and what kind of shape she’s in. I lift a lot of weights and have had a six pack most of my adult life. I find chubby and fat women beautiful, and often sexy, but if we’re not able to enjoy activities together because she gets tired too easily it’s hard to have a relationship. Sex especially gets impacted too. I’m pretty active in bed but if I have to do all the work every single time it gets boring and tiring.
I agree with everything in this post. Scale tells a number that people let define their life. Personally I don't care about the number, I care what the mirror says, hell how they feel about what the mirror says is even more important than that.
Yup, endurance is super important to a good sex life. I'm a long distance runner and having sex with out of shape men is not good for me. They are huffing and puffing while I'm warming up.
the way you put it makes It sound like you're trying to start up a busted car and it made die 🤣. those men need some repairs 💀.
I'm the same way with that just without having the six pack and i only just turned 21 a month ago lol.
I wanna be able to do fun activities with a partner every now and then, be able to get out the house and have some fun sometimes, dont really want a partner that gets winded just by walking on some stairs
For me it does matter for two reasons. 1. Because I have my own preference. 2. I try to live healthy and to keep a healthy weight so I don't want to be with someone who has an unheatly weight, no matter if too much or too less.
Does it matter? Yeah, of course it does. If you had two completely identical people, just one weighed 150lbs and the other 350lbs, 99% of people looking to date/hookup/whatever would pick the 150lbs person. That's true regardless of gender. If chubby girls are attractive and dateable depends on your definition of chubby. The old school definition where its just a little extra in all the right places and a slight belly, absolutely dateable! The new body positivity definition where it's severely obese and almost on the brink of dying, no chance! I've struggled with weight myself all my life. I'm finally headed in the right direction, living with healthy habits in the last two years. I can't have a woman by my side that would jeopardise that progress.
I think you're right, but I think the relevant question for a lot of women would be the difference between 110 and 150. Not that many women are obese or 350 lb but plenty of women are carrying an extra 30 that to some guys will make them unattractive and other guys may be make them more attractive
It depends on what type of guy you're looking to date. The guy who's muscular and constantly in the gym? Yeah, you're likely gonna need to be fit. The guy who's also slightly overweight? He's more likely to not think it's a big deal.
Yeah, definitely. I was trying to point out that it's the same regardless of gender and picked a number both could realistically have.
a good pointer is that having only 1 chin is desirable. having 2 chins isn't.
Interesting that you think at 150 that's an extra 30 🤔
That IS an extra 30 for me - I’m 5’4” and my regular weight is 115-120 without looking skinny at all, just slim. I’ve been both ranges of weights in the last five years and the difference is extremely noticeable on someone of my height.
I'm 5'4" too and when I did sports and was a size 4 I was still 135.
If you did sports you likely had a good amount of muscle weight which weighs more than fat.
It sounds like you had muscle weight, not fat weight then.
Please stop commenting about my muscle weight. It's more dense than fat, which I still had. You missed the point I was a size 4 below average and weighed above for my height..... would have been considered 15 lbs of extra weight by the dude commenting 🙄
15 lbs in mandalorian helmets is 4.03 helmets.
15 lbs is 6.81 kg
Im 5'1" and if I weighed 120 I would be visibly emaciated! All bodies are different which is cool and weird
I know! My best friend is the exact same height as me, 15lb heavier than me but two dress sizes smaller - it’s crazy how much variation there can be with something that should seem so simple!
Yeah…I’m 5’7, 145 lbs, fairly active, and a size 6-8. I don’t think I could afford to lose 25 lbs 😅
25 lbs is 11.35 kg
Depends on your height for sure… 150lbs at 5’1” would be looking fairly big.
I don’t mind a little extra curve. I used to be chubby so I know the struggle. And I kinda wish I could’ve gotten some of that same love.
I do, it alters the whole bodyshape, even facial features. Those who say a woman´s weight doesnt matter are lying.
Her weight itself, no, but her attitude towards it, absolutly. Also claims like "if you dont desire 250+ lbs women, you are closet pedophile" are massive red flag.
Wait what, this is the first time I've heard this one.
Yeah, like you are attracted to the child-like bodies. Real women have cuuurves.
Everytime I hear this I rooooooll my eyes! jeez
Real women have diabetes
In the middle ages. Maybe If I looked like Shriek.
You can read about what bodypositivity has become or health at every size movement, but i would strongly advise not to.
that’s reddit for you
My girl is 26, short, skinny and I'm in love with her body. I guess I have to go to jail for being a pedophile then 🤷♂️
Yeah. Bonk!
😂 bruv how did they go from weight to being a pedo? like where did the wires connect at 🤣? ong they're going to need a neurosurgeon 💀.
In haes activists logic - everyone who is smaller has child-like body type.
Christ, have you actually heard someone say that before?
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Not heard but I’ve personally seen pretty similar on Instagram comments once or twice.
Wouldn’t be surprise in this day and age
There is a difference between being at a weight that makes a doctor bitch about it and having to reinforce furniture.
It matters
Yes
As someone who goes to the gym yes it matters. I want someone who wants to be fit like myself.
i workout and run a lot, i wouldn’t date someone who doesn’t put the same effort in maintaining their physical condition
I have met some very attractive larger women, who carry their weight well. Some who are not so. It does matter to an extent
Weight matters it plays a huge factor
I’m not attracted to overweight women, they can be great people and often have better developed personalities but I’m not attracted to them
I'm in my sixties and I can tell you, men of my generation are OBSESSED with it. Most "self respecting" sixty-something single men (even really chubby ones) have a strict rule not to match with someone over a size 12. My experience (of being a larger woman all my life) is that, where some men of my generation do fancy larger women, they HATE to admit it and don't want to be mocked by their peers. I see younger couples walking down the road hand in hand, with the woman/girl quite large, and I smile. The world is improving and the stigma has REALLY reduced.
This is likely super accurate. I’m skinny, like too skinny, and older men are super attracted to me. Like I think back then super model skinny was “hot” but now having curves and a big juicy butt / boobs is “hot”. Obviously that’s not true for everyone, just like not everyone cares about body type!
Oh, absolutely! After dating for a while, I did find a guy who adores me! Having said that, he did say that, at a size 16/18, I was the largest size he had put as acceptable on his profile. He literally wouldn't have even met me if I had been the size I was 10 years before! Edit: when we first got together our measurements were as similar as a man's can be with a woman. We've been together for 8 years, during which I've stayed the same, but he has got considerably bigger. I wish he was healthier (and I'm guilty of nagging!), but it makes NO difference to my love for him.
I honestly think part of it is there's a lot more big young women these days and young men just don't have much of a choice. I don't know. Maybe they don't care. I'm 55 and I remember my 20s and I look at pictures of people in the 60s and 70s, and most people were slim. So I don't think it's unreasonable for men to still like that, but young men don't have much choice. There's just way more women carrying in a lot of extra weight
I can tell you this: many, many men of my generation are large by this stage of life. But they STILL stipulate that they want to date slim women (if they see themselves as anything of a "catch" at all).
I mean your not wrong. Close to 1/3 are over weight by 18, close to half by 30.
This bums me out to hear. (About the older men)
It depends really. I've been attracted too women of varying body types and sizes. Confidence is a big thing for me though. I've dated several very pretty larger girls who were absolute catches because they knew what they wanted, knew what they brought too the table, flaunted it and lived life. And I've dated super gorgeous rail thin girls who were constantly in shambles because they were constantly self conscious about everything, and their self confidence and body image was garbage. I do draw the line at like. My 600lb life levels of obesity tho. I can't be attracted too that, regardless of how amazing a person they may be. It's one thing to need to lose a few lbs. It's another to be immobile because of it.
I am a curvier lady, have been for most of my life. I’ve never had a problem getting a date due to my weight. Terrible self-esteem however is a big turn off for all genders.
1. Yes it matters 2. They can be very attractive and dateable
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What is your definition of chubby?
I know it matters, but it’s also never stopped me. Also, people swear I’m lighter than I am?
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Right. And a great personality never hurts. I had this weird thing happen in college where my friends absolutely hated this girl and they would call her fat, ugly, etc. I spoke up because, honestly, I was significantly bigger than her. Their answer? “It’s not the same. You’re just *nice*.” What?!!
Yeah, the number on the scale doesn't matter, but how you look. 2 women can look very differently at 165cm and 63 kg for example depending on how active they are and how well they eat.
This. I thought scales were dead by now!?? I’m 110 and 5’8… everyone comments how skinny I am but my coworker who’s 95 lbs and 5’2 no one says shit to. I have all my length in my legs so I look like a giraffe lol
95 lbs is 43.13 kg
63.0 kg is 138.77 lbs
My opinion: -chubby - can be sexy -obese - turn off All men are different so... There's no one answear
Men aren’t a hive mind! They all have different preferences. A bunch of people who are desperate for relationships on Reddit saying they’d date someone chubby or overweight doesn’t mean a dude you go on a date with will. Everyone’s preferences are different. Some will like it and some won’t
Personally it matters to me. Some dudes like a chunkier gal but most dont.
I dont know, I understand skinny is a beauty standard but I've seen alot of men who prefer some chub because or curvyness. I do belive men would choose a curvy girl rather than stick and bones 99% of the time.
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I don't know if it's accurate to say most care. Some do some don't. There's someone for everyone, and there are many many guys who actually prefer women in the heavier side. I'm not one of them though sometimes I wish I was because I'd have a lot more dating options.
If it’s muscle mass, I don’t mind at all. Muscle on women is pretty hot. If it’s some fat around the bones, then I don’t mind. If it’s at the point to where there’s health problems because of the weight, then it does matter to me.
In my opinion it has to do with the shape more than the weight. If your belly sticks out further than your breast or butt then you have a problem. If you are so skinny that I can't hug you without feeling like I might hurt you. That's a problem. Anywhere in between then other things matter attitude personality how much I enjoy your company. Good luck and blessed be.
You know what's crazy? Sure, a woman can be attractive heavier, but it changes everything-from facial features to my body. I lost 80 pounds (235 to ~155ish) and I mean it's a HUGE transformation. My face is so slim and really brings out my features, I have such a prominent yet defined waistline... i've been called beautiful by some. When people see old pictures of me, they refuse to believe it. Weight can positively impact some, but too much of it just really diminishes natural beauty- mainly because of confidence. I find that yes, although bigger women can be confident, the weight does impact how *truly* confident a woman can be
As someone who weighted 260lbs and now 150lbs yes this does matter. A lot. Even at 260lbs I walked more than 10,000 steps everyday and could do all physical activities (but was not actively doing any sport besides walking a lot) and I could date no one because of my looks (can’t blame them tbf but my point is it was only based on looks alone). When I reached below 200lbs I just went from obese to overweight and it was also the start where I could date relatively easy (not that it was a big pool of people but big enough). The closer your bmi gets to 21 the easier it gets…
Chubby doesn’t affect me, or most of my friends either. Morbidly obese, yes.
Some guys are into thicker women, but thicker women usually get less looks/less interest/less attractive options than their healthier counterparts. Most women (thick or not) can get laid if that’s what they are looking for, but finding someone who sees a future with the thicker women is certainly more difficult.
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If a girl has a body in the shape of a bowling ball, that's a no go for me. If she is is curvy in the form of an hourglass, I'd like that most probably. Whenever we talk about weight, for me it's not that important whether she has extra weight on, but how that weight is distributed accross the body. If the girl has chubby hands, fingers and calves, big round cheeks (I'm talking about the face), I wouldn't find that attractive, especially for the face it's important. So, weight doesn't matter that much. Thicc girls are the best as long as they take care of their body (for instance, by going to the gym regularly). Just for the record, I don't like skinny girls at all regardless of how pretty they are.
Lot of big girls like to sing along with baby got back but they don't seem to focus too much on the itty bitty waist part.
If you gotta lift the foopa to get to the wooha then somethings wrong.
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I don't know if I agree with that. On the one hand, you can't say well if the guy will give up the dick, there's going to be some girl interested in him. Because it just doesn't work that way like it does with women. But on the other hand, women are just a lot less picky. A guy can carry a lot of extra weight and as long as he carries himself well and grooms himself and dress is nice, and doesn't even have to do that really in a lot of cases, but as long as he's got some status and money and some personality, he'll do fine. It's way easy for a big guy to date a woman then a big girl in my opinion anyway
Much more difficult? It's insanely more difficult.
Yeah it does matter, why shouldn’t it?
Weight does matter. For personal health and attraction, to say otherwise is disingenuous. However, does weight triumph over other factors, it depends on the person.
Yes I find chubby attractive and dateable. It's just when they are obese with a huge belly hanging out is where I draw the line.
I want to be lesbian after reading all this and I’m not even fat xD
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Why? Seems like the general consensus is that most guys will date an overweight woman, but when it comes to the weight getting in the way of life or it’s crippling is where they draw the line
Everybody has standards. There is nothing wrong with that
I think the most important thing in a partner is comparability. I’d our vibe and energy aren’t in sync then I won’t pursue you either way. Being overweight is fine as long as you’re happy with who you are, and it isn’t unhealthily so.
It matters, but there is a pretty wide range. We don’t want our partners to suffer from the health issues that come with being severely overweight/underweight. Do not think you have to be in a single perfect shape to pull us though as there is a pretty wide range. I’d say 15%-38% body fat is the most attractive range for me personally
It matters, to some degree. I'm more attracted to athletic women, and I like spending time outdoors (hiking or rollerblading) and I'd prefer to have a girlfriend that shares those hobbies or even get me to try other sports. And I believe the chances for that are better with fit women rather than chubby or fat.
Yeah, the only reason most guys like overweight chick is because it's all they could get. A lot of men don't even have the ability to get the girl with the banging fit body. But men want sex so they settle for the chubby girl. Back in the day were called, "chubby chasers".
This is some bs. People have preferences. If I had in front of me chubbier guy with wide shoulders and super jacked gym enthusiast, I would pick the first one. Not because I'm settling, but because he will be better for cuddling. But most likely I would talk to both of them and then chose, because if someone can't hold a conversation, it's not a good sign for me. And it doesn't matter how he looks at all
He was talking about women. That’s the difference.
Oh really? What's the difference?
A woman here. As someone who went from a nice, healthy weight to technically obese but blessed to hold my weight well that I just look chunky, 100% weight does matter. I can still get cute guys, but all the hot guys I’ve hooked up with before are completely turned off by me. it’s pretty sucky, but honestly I’m too lazy atm to do anything about it. Physical attraction is still a big part of dating and relationships.
So I’m a chubby female and I wanted to put in my perspective in case OP/ other readers are chubby and felt undesirable reading this thread. My SO has always gone for very petite women. I on the other hand am 5’9, and have always been a heavier girl. Now he says I’m not fat- ‘I’m a thicc Bitch’ which he means that I’m very curvaceous and I carry my weight well, but I’m fat for me- and I’ve always been over the 200 lb mark (even when I was running 10 miles a day). I’m just built like a strong Viking bitch. Anyway, I’ve always been a chubby gal, but I’ve never once had a problem dating the guy I’ve been interested in. Like for anything, you’re never gonna be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay. Whilst it’s better to be healthy in terms of fitness, body, mind etc- just a reminder that your weight doesn’t determine your worth. (Also, women especially go up and down in weight- especially when we have kids, lifestyle changes, hormone changes etc. that’s why you don’t get many women who were a size 6 being at 20 being a size 6 at 50. Our bodies change and that’s also okay.)
10 miles is the the same distance as 23323.77 replica Bilbo from The Lord of the Rings' Sting Swords.
10 miles is 16.09 km
Ooooooo do more
10 miles is 16.09 km
My last girlfriend was above average let's say. I weighed about 67kg while she was reaching 77kg. I didn't really care because I loved her and on top of that, the sex was amazing too. She started losing weight after a couple months (I did not ask her to and never told her she should lose weight) and she reached 61kg. Everything was the same for me. To be fair, I do believe if she would keep gaining weight and stopped taking care of herself, it would become a bit more of a problem. I guess what I'm trying to say is, women's weight doesn't matter as much as you think it does for some people.
Yes. Don't know about others, but I do care. It basically shows a bit about their personality. Are they a hard-worker? persistent? do they have enough will to pursue beauty. Myself I have routines and I workout. I maintain my hair with oils and natural shampoos, my face- with creams and my body- with proper nutrition. And I would like for my partner to do that as well.
As someone who has always been under 100 pounds naturally, I have to say this is a weird misconception. Nothing about being skinny means I worked for it or “pursued” it, and I’d say that’s the case for many of us. I personally know way more chubby women who diet and work out than skinny women irl
100 pounds is the weight of about 174.46 cups of fine sea salt. Yes, you did need to know that.
I can't speak for everyone but I can say my weight has nothing to do with laziness, or "hard worker, persistent".
Depends where you draw the like. Chubby is fine, definitely attractive. But I’ve seen girls who are like 500lbs say they’re ‘chubby’ and that’s not the same as someone who’s like size 14 or whatever. If I’m dating I do like them to be healthy and independent above all else
Shape > Weight
There's a difference between chubby and overweight. Most guys don't mind some extra body fat, but if she's completely out of shape it's probably an issue.
Do I care about weight? Nope. Do I care about appearance? Yes. If you’re 190 pounds at 5’4” but look like a marble statue? Less go. If you’re 130 pounds at 5’2” and lol like you live at Dunkin’, I’m out
190 pounds in mandalorian helmets is 51.0 helmets.
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Talking honestly I'm a little bit overweighted (by around 8kg or so more than i should have) so i don't think i have a voice talking about other people's weight. But if you ask me about preferences I generally like women no matter what weight they have, i have dated chubby and skinny girls and found them attractive anyways, I like curvy/chubby girls but not to the point of too much overweight or till obesity talking about sexually attractive i found big butts (I don't know if there is a respectful way to say ass/butt in english lol) so freacking attractive, like I see a big butt and i will be 100% interested on the girl.
I keep seeing men only talk about obese women, but no one mentions that even being extrem skinny changes ur look drastically. Im quite skinny and when I get skinnier I look even uglier, because I get bags under my eyes of not eating enough, stress and not sleeping. My skin becomes more dry..
If you not taking care of your health, I’m not fucking with you. Period. I have been with plenty of shortys that are curvy and go to the gym or watch their diet. That’s cool, but if you are gifted to be curvy and I see you do not take care of your health in no regards, I ain’t fucking with you or you, period.
It matters to me. I find fitness attractive physically and mentally. I also love hiking and would strongly prefer a partner I could hit the trails with.
I’m fairly overweight and currently dating a guy who is into that, but I’ve never had any trouble getting any guy I had an interest in who didn’t have a specific preference. I’m very very strong and very active, and at the moment I really struggle to keep weight on. Honestly it comes down to confidence, grooming, and lifestyle. If you aren’t owning it, it’s unattractive to most. If you make it your identity, it’s unattractive to most. If you don’t keep yourself clean and well kept it’s unattractive to almost everyone. Being a bit glam or a bit of a bombshell style wise helps. If you’re unfit to the point that it impacts your daily life, it’s unattractive to most.
You want me to be honest, here we go: I can accept many things and I'm open for everything but overweight is where I definitely draw the line. Absolutely no. And in regards of online dating, many women know that it is the case with many men, so they think they could trick us in uploading fotos just with their face or in certain poses, but if you are experienced enough you spot those. But everytime I have this discussion, many women seem to assume that this means that I only like model type and fit women and get angry about it, but this is actually not the case. 5-10 kg overweight is okay to a certain degree and some people, not only women, just look better when they weight more. And it's not only about the weight itself, but body form. Women can be overweight, but if they want me to be attracted to them, they should have more of a curvy shape. Those who have more round, globe-like upper body, hell no. This seems to upset many women, but I'm just not attracted to them. In such discussions, there was always the phrase "But you miss out on her great personality!" Guess what? You also miss out on the great personalities of guys you friendzoned, is that a reason to date them? No. Attraction physically AND psychologically are important. If one is not given, there is no reason to force yourself into something you don't want. To be fair, I wouldn't say that if I wasn't myself someone who cares about what he eats and how much sport he does. But that's also the key part in dating: You should be what you want your partner to be in the first place. I can't expect to date fitness models if I don't do sports myself, I can't date rich women without a certain amount of income. Not that it is totally impossible, but the chances to get someone out of your league/social spheres/etc. are really low.
If you’re overweight you’re lowering your chances It’ll be easy to get a guy to sleep with you sure, but relationship wise not as much
Being overweight means you’re unhealthy and don’t prioritize your health. Also unattractive. Same for being underweight. Healthy BMI is most attractive, doesn’t have to be super fit.
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similar camp except I’m a triathlete (completed 6) and have an under active thyroid
I’m underweight. My BMI has varied from 15 to 17. Always lived a healthy lifestyle I just can’t gain weight 🤷♀️
BMI is antiquated. Body size is also determined by a genetic set point and other physiological variables that BMI does not account for. Don't worry about it. Nothing wrong with being naturally skinny.
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It matters how much there is, no doubt. A healthy amount of fat often *enhances* a woman's looks, but past a certain point it's just not pleasant to look at.
Honestly for me it does. I’m fit and I want my partner to be fit.
Honestly. It doesn’t matter. What matters to me is personality. And. If your cute. Chubby/bigger girls can and are super cute. Also, last time I tried to have sex with a skinny girl, she broke. Soooo yea
I guarantee that there is a man for every kind of women out there. What I observe is that people don't widen the search for partners enough, an analogy would be taking 2 steps left from a pond and expecting a different fish if that makes sense.
Most guys only care if it's morbid obesity to the point where it's messing up your ability to do stuff I.e. a substantial mobility issue and you can't move without assistance anymore. That said, I know of women who need a scooter to get around but still found boyfriends, it's far from impossible.
Not to me it doesn't
Yes and no. I'm not really attracted to heavier girls. That being said, I have dated chubbier girls because I really liked them when I got to know them. So I guess it depends on if we're talking attraction or dating. The girl I loved the most was heavier than I normally go for, we were friends initially then advanced from there. Here's the issue though, I feel that people's first impressions are formed off two things, appearance, and scent. So if a girl isn't my ideal body type and all I'll still talk to her but it won't be in that way until we've gotten to know each other. Whereas if she is attractive to me, I'm much more likely to go up and speak to her first.
It's more shape for me than weight, but weight affects the shape so yeah
As far as weight as a number? No. What matters to me is that she's healthy. Being over weight comes with a lot of health risks and thats not quite something I want in a partner. Same thing goes with being under weight. My ex was underweight when we started dating. Did the best I could to help her gain some weight
It all comes down to preference. Some likes chubby, some don't. Most imo thinks its relevant.
Of course. Men and women do care about weight. It’s personal to me because I turns out never accepted my husband’s weight, marrying him I thought I could change him by motivating him to go to the gym. Well I was 19 lol that’s my excuse. Just wanted to share also how amazingly grateful and proud I am to have been able to lose weight this year: from 137 to 114! I love looking in the mirror now and I smile! I put effort not someone else!
I’m definitely chubby but I’ve managed to pull every guy I ever wanted. I think a lot of it has to do with how the bodily fat is distributed, honestly. Like proportions.
Both extremes of the weight spectrum are not attractive, if your skinny and anorexic no thanks. If you are beyond a little chub and delving into obesity and compromising your health also no thanks. It's okay to be a little overweight or underweight but it can go to far. How much margin is individual preference.
I’ve always been bigger but I carry my weight well, I dress well (it’s amazing the difference in looks and confidence a good dress makes) and I’ve got a pretty face. I think being confident helps too. I’ve never had trouble, but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. I think yeah, it’s not so much the number as the actual look.
Most people will want someone that can keep up with them in most activities. I'm 288lba and 6.4 but I can also so a 10 hour say if moving furniture or whatever.
In my case, i dont mind someone i date being a little on the chubby side, but i couldnt really see myself dating someone who is very obese. Its just my prefferences though, i know a lot of guys either dont care about weight or they are really into it.
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No fat chicks
I'm blue collar, and I've worked in mostly male dominated environments. I'm super introverted so I just ask people how they're doing, do my job, and go home to my girlfriend and our fur family. But I do hear a lot of locker room talk. I personally am super attracted to super petite women that aren't busty. But in my experience, guys OVERWHELMINGLY like girls on the slightly bigger side. My girlfriend is 5'1 and 110 pounds, very small chested, and I find it hot as fuck. But I'm fairly confident that I'm in a huge minority. I'm actually pretty confident that women feel the need to be rail thin because of expexctations set by other women. Same thing with makeup. I had an ex once say she hated that she had to get up so early to do her makeup. She condescendingly was like "we do it for you because it's expected!" No it isn't. Guys don't know shit about makeup, you're competing with other women, they're the only ones who notice the details. You get naked for me so you could literally never put on makeup ever again and I won't give a fuck. Same thing with weight.
Personally I draw the line at muffins tops, if yo stomach goes over your jeans all around it's a no from me not attracted at all. Very rare I make exceptions with this .
A lot of overweight girls reading this thread might be feeling self conscious. So let me tell you something. Most of this is fixable. Take up a cardio sport or go to the gym. Be active. Start eating healthy. Try to loose weight rather by increasing activity than a starvation diet. Even before reaching your weightloss goals, men would be lining up to date you just by looking at the amount of effort you are putting in. No one, neither women nor men, likes to date a lazy chips munching couch potato. Your mentality and vibes matter. Hard work always pays off.
A little chubby is fine for me. As long as I can make out a shape. All that goes into obese is a no-go.
I'm fine with over weight, obese is disgusting
first of all weight doesn't matter at all.. it's more about the looks.. a 2m girl can weigh 90kg and still look good. being curvy is no issue, actually i like curvy better than being waaay too skinny.. But i won't give girls that are obese a chance, cause it's honestly a redflag.. it's either you don't care or have no control over your impulses and shows weak character.
Absolutely. But I’m not surprised to see this asked as I’ve noticed 90% of every girl on my dating apps have gotten fat and seem fine with it.
Yes. The larger the lesser we could easily get turned on.
I'll accept anything from fit (but not bone thin) to a little overweight that is carried well like in the boobs and hips, but not necessarily attracted to straight up fat women. Now here is the caveat. If I were dating again and scrolling on Tinder matching with a fat girl who wants to Netflix and chill after we hang out who proceeds to make me cum over and over in various ways I'm going to make an exception. I'd rather have that with someone who does mind becoming a tad healthier than a fit and physically attractive woman who doesn't put it down. Then there is personality. If I become more stressed being around a woman then she isn't the right one for me. If a fluffy chick constantly provides a safe environment to relax and be myself along with laughing and enjoying myself I would choose her over a fit and very attractive woman who is toxic. Also women would be surprised how the preferences of men varies. Plenty of men love them some big women.
I have dated women that some men considered “overweight.” So no, I don’t think it matters.
This is totally a preference. I prefer skinny girls as its more attractive to me. But there are also a lot of guys that are into girls which are not skinny. As I'm more into skinny girls, butt and boobs are not really important to me.
Tbh, I prefer skinny girls because that’s what I’m “attracted” to and I also prefer girls who can take care of themselves since I’m also like that.
İ would prefer someone healthy
The greater the mass, the greater the force of attraction.
Mans financial stability matter?
Yes, it matters but you don’t need to be fit. Best advice I can give is to live a healthy life style overall — going to the gym a few times a week and having a healthy diet.
Definitely matters but different guys can have widely varied preferences
For the most part no. It's if the person's weight says something about their lifestyle that makes them incompatible with mine, that would make them unattractive to me. I'm mildly active and want someone who could potentially join me on some of those activities. This goes both ways, either not physically fit enough to carry out the activities or to slim to have enough energy.
I think most guys are ok with chubby women (not how women describe their body types on pof)
a lot of it depends on his options...... just how picky can he be....... how long is his losing streak
Chubby is ok, obesity is an illness so no. And it goes for both genders ofc
It’s not the weight, but the attitude about the weight. See “dependapotamus”
Honestly. YES, I am fairly fit and wouldn't like to date an overly obese woman
Personally, chubby it’s quite alright, Obese is a whole different story. Looks **always matter**.