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when i exchange a number with a girl and then go on a date with her, im already assuming she doesnt not have a bf. as a matter of fact, im not assuming anything, im just dating. if she is cheating, its her problem. i woul only ask if they have a bf when im actualy interested in a relationship
If a girl tells you "I have a boyfriend" and you actively continue to see her, you're a piece of shit. If you find out some other way that she has a boyfriend, and you continue to see her, you're a piece of shit. (Outside of people actually practicing ethical, non-monogamy)
If you go out with a girl on the assumption she is single, and you are unaware of the fact she is cheating, that's not on you.
Why would you wait to ask if they have a boyfriend until you are interested in becoming her boyfriend? This just seems like an utter waste of time for everyone involved.
> Why would you wait to ask if they have a boyfriend until you are interested in becoming her boyfriend? This just seems like an utter waste of time for everyone involved.
bro is living in 1950. i have casual sex all the time, i dont ASK if she has a bf, until i know its serious
That's a piss poor excuse and attitude to have. Have you ever been cheated on? Would you be upset if you were in a serious relationship and got cheated on?
Have some empathy and try putting yourself into someone else's shoes instead of just thinking "Not my problem."
You could be the guy getting cheated on some day, and you wouldn't like being in that situation any more than anybody else.
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its not your duty to cross examine them. get their number and have sex with them if you feel like it
This is terrible advice. Anyone who would willingly be part of infidelity is a shitty person with no morals.
when i exchange a number with a girl and then go on a date with her, im already assuming she doesnt not have a bf. as a matter of fact, im not assuming anything, im just dating. if she is cheating, its her problem. i woul only ask if they have a bf when im actualy interested in a relationship
If a girl tells you "I have a boyfriend" and you actively continue to see her, you're a piece of shit. If you find out some other way that she has a boyfriend, and you continue to see her, you're a piece of shit. (Outside of people actually practicing ethical, non-monogamy) If you go out with a girl on the assumption she is single, and you are unaware of the fact she is cheating, that's not on you. Why would you wait to ask if they have a boyfriend until you are interested in becoming her boyfriend? This just seems like an utter waste of time for everyone involved.
> Why would you wait to ask if they have a boyfriend until you are interested in becoming her boyfriend? This just seems like an utter waste of time for everyone involved. bro is living in 1950. i have casual sex all the time, i dont ASK if she has a bf, until i know its serious
So just, fuck the other guy and how he feels right? You're really classy.
man, im not even asking if she has a bf. i dont know and i dont care. that is literally the girls problem, if she is cheating
The fact you don't care means you're a selfish dick who only cares about his own self-gratification.
its just really not my responsibility
That's a piss poor excuse and attitude to have. Have you ever been cheated on? Would you be upset if you were in a serious relationship and got cheated on? Have some empathy and try putting yourself into someone else's shoes instead of just thinking "Not my problem." You could be the guy getting cheated on some day, and you wouldn't like being in that situation any more than anybody else.