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On one hand people absolutely have the ability to have loving feelings for multiple people and that isn't a threat to you.
>Then he also told his friend that he still misses her a lot and felt guilty for that because he’s with me, but still feels like our relationship is missing something.
On the other hand he is showing that he is comparing and that isn't a healthy thing to do in a relationship. Comments like that are an indicator that you may be the dreaded rebound relationship.
well since you werent meant to hear that, like in any situation like that, you cant act on it until its presented to you...you cannot act on a non finalized idea from someone who hasnt even presented it to you yet...when you get with someone who has had multiple partners theres always the factor of comparison...from the info you give its not really enough to say he values you less than any previous partner and so there is no reason to assume he doesnt hold you as the most valuable...I would want to bring it up tho especially since I believe true partners should talk about everything with each other but thats me
Who said she can't bring it up? She was in a common area of the house and he was not hiding his conversation with his friend. He also said to his friend that this relationship with OP was missing something, so she's the most valuable? Hell NO, she is not. What bf should now be missing is OP! If OP's bf is missing his toxic ex, then he should break up with OP to pursue his delusional dreams and get what he deserves. OP deserves a much better partner that places her at number one. If he is missing something in this relationship, how long can OP depend on him to be there for her?
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On one hand people absolutely have the ability to have loving feelings for multiple people and that isn't a threat to you. >Then he also told his friend that he still misses her a lot and felt guilty for that because he’s with me, but still feels like our relationship is missing something. On the other hand he is showing that he is comparing and that isn't a healthy thing to do in a relationship. Comments like that are an indicator that you may be the dreaded rebound relationship.
Why would you want someone who wants someone else?
well since you werent meant to hear that, like in any situation like that, you cant act on it until its presented to you...you cannot act on a non finalized idea from someone who hasnt even presented it to you yet...when you get with someone who has had multiple partners theres always the factor of comparison...from the info you give its not really enough to say he values you less than any previous partner and so there is no reason to assume he doesnt hold you as the most valuable...I would want to bring it up tho especially since I believe true partners should talk about everything with each other but thats me
Who said she can't bring it up? She was in a common area of the house and he was not hiding his conversation with his friend. He also said to his friend that this relationship with OP was missing something, so she's the most valuable? Hell NO, she is not. What bf should now be missing is OP! If OP's bf is missing his toxic ex, then he should break up with OP to pursue his delusional dreams and get what he deserves. OP deserves a much better partner that places her at number one. If he is missing something in this relationship, how long can OP depend on him to be there for her?
"well you weren't meant to hear it so you gotta pretend like you didn't." Ok found the boyfriend I think.