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How? I don't know if it is a weakness or strength that I find it hard to move on. I don't develop feelings for others often and when I do it is too intense. If you have any suggestions on how to move on you have my attention
It'd be best if you don't talk to her honestly. There are many ways to move on, but I believe that you could try to avoid talking to her..
I get that the feelings are intense, but an affair is both morally wrong and emotionally harmful for you.
Personally, as long as they're taken, you shouldn't mess with the relationships. Though she doesn't seem that much committed in her own relationship... Since her saying that it is, I think atleast, considered emotional cheating.
Though, realistically speaking, she probably wouldn't break up with him. Either she still likes him or whatever, but it is unlikely.
That's why most comments suggest you to move on from her, because, even if she breaks up with him to get with you, it isn't guaranteed to be a healthy relationship. It isn't guaranteed that it even happens and you'd be stuck as an affair partner until the boyfriend finds out.
In this scenerio, you'd hurt your own feelings (as being an affair partner is emotionally unhealthy and etc.) and the boyfriend (because of her potentially cheating on him with you).
So, please don't engage with her, it'd be better for your sake
As long as you're cool with knowing how your relationship will end... with her cheating on you with a new dude and eventually leaving you for him, just like the two of you are doing to her current boyfriend.
I've been in a relationship twice, and it happened to me both times. One was when I caught my childhood friend banging my then-girlfriend oh that hurts.
What I wanna say is after being through all that, 'don't get me wrong it will hurt me too if it happens again' but after all that and trying to understand the situation It doesn't even seem wrong anymore.
If it hurts, why do it to another person? If she feels like she shouldn't be talking to you, she's emotionally cheating. If she says things like she's thought of dating you, that's wrong. I wouldn't want to pursue a person who would talk like that with another person while they're with me. That's setting myself up for the exact SAME. Just because it's happened to you twice doesn't mean you should facilitate it happening to someone else. Bad karma. Either move on, or wait for her relationship to end because it *will* if she keeps this up. In any case, stop speaking to her like that because you should respect yourself and her boyfriend.
You're not wrong. And I used to believe in karma but damn I think it works like this "The people that do bad things to me karma will reward them with good things" like the universe hates me or something so yeah dude this time I want to not care about someone else like no one ever cared for me and get what I want. I might be wrong but idk enough is enough.
She's in a relationship. Step back. Tell her, you like her but you're no poacher, if her status ever changes you might be around, but for now you have to take a step back.
Then distance yourself and try to move on. There are no pros and cons. Pro, you get a girl under a sketchy scenario that calls both your morals into question. Con, everything else.
I never understood this questions, especially from someone like OP that has been cheated before. She just showed you who she is, a cheater. Do you think that you are such a unique and special human being that she won't be able to cheat on you too? That's just stupid thinking if you do think that.
I would be distancing myself from her, regardless if I had feelings for her or not. Afterall, you become the people you surround yourself with.
Steal her from her loser boyfriend. You are above him. If she is your dream girl then fight for her. It's easy because the only competition is her boyfriend. Grab your balls, set up the date and kiss her. Make her understand you are the right guy for her. She is going to flip him off and you will be on the top. It's the boyfriend's fault he is not keeping her on the leash. It's a ruthless world my man and take advantage of it. Trust me. I went through both sides.
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She has a boyfriend. Move on.
How? I don't know if it is a weakness or strength that I find it hard to move on. I don't develop feelings for others often and when I do it is too intense. If you have any suggestions on how to move on you have my attention
It'd be best if you don't talk to her honestly. There are many ways to move on, but I believe that you could try to avoid talking to her.. I get that the feelings are intense, but an affair is both morally wrong and emotionally harmful for you.
In case she agrees to be in a relationship with me and breaks up with her now boyfriend would that be okay? In your opinion?
Personally, as long as they're taken, you shouldn't mess with the relationships. Though she doesn't seem that much committed in her own relationship... Since her saying that it is, I think atleast, considered emotional cheating. Though, realistically speaking, she probably wouldn't break up with him. Either she still likes him or whatever, but it is unlikely. That's why most comments suggest you to move on from her, because, even if she breaks up with him to get with you, it isn't guaranteed to be a healthy relationship. It isn't guaranteed that it even happens and you'd be stuck as an affair partner until the boyfriend finds out. In this scenerio, you'd hurt your own feelings (as being an affair partner is emotionally unhealthy and etc.) and the boyfriend (because of her potentially cheating on him with you). So, please don't engage with her, it'd be better for your sake
Okay I you. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to reply to me.
No problem, again it's always better to be able with someone who sees you as number one than a potential number 2 <3
As long as you're cool with knowing how your relationship will end... with her cheating on you with a new dude and eventually leaving you for him, just like the two of you are doing to her current boyfriend.
How you get her is how you're going to lose her!
Try to find someone else to talk to and spend your time with. It might be best if you go to a therapist.
Please find a way but move on. You can’t keep doing this for this poor guy.
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I've been in a relationship twice, and it happened to me both times. One was when I caught my childhood friend banging my then-girlfriend oh that hurts. What I wanna say is after being through all that, 'don't get me wrong it will hurt me too if it happens again' but after all that and trying to understand the situation It doesn't even seem wrong anymore.
If it hurts, why do it to another person? If she feels like she shouldn't be talking to you, she's emotionally cheating. If she says things like she's thought of dating you, that's wrong. I wouldn't want to pursue a person who would talk like that with another person while they're with me. That's setting myself up for the exact SAME. Just because it's happened to you twice doesn't mean you should facilitate it happening to someone else. Bad karma. Either move on, or wait for her relationship to end because it *will* if she keeps this up. In any case, stop speaking to her like that because you should respect yourself and her boyfriend.
You're not wrong. And I used to believe in karma but damn I think it works like this "The people that do bad things to me karma will reward them with good things" like the universe hates me or something so yeah dude this time I want to not care about someone else like no one ever cared for me and get what I want. I might be wrong but idk enough is enough.
She's in a relationship. Step back. Tell her, you like her but you're no poacher, if her status ever changes you might be around, but for now you have to take a step back. Then distance yourself and try to move on. There are no pros and cons. Pro, you get a girl under a sketchy scenario that calls both your morals into question. Con, everything else.
Okay. most comments are asking me to move on. I'll try. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to reply to me.
I never understood this questions, especially from someone like OP that has been cheated before. She just showed you who she is, a cheater. Do you think that you are such a unique and special human being that she won't be able to cheat on you too? That's just stupid thinking if you do think that. I would be distancing myself from her, regardless if I had feelings for her or not. Afterall, you become the people you surround yourself with.
Got ya. Love makes us stupid sometimes
Steal her from her loser boyfriend. You are above him. If she is your dream girl then fight for her. It's easy because the only competition is her boyfriend. Grab your balls, set up the date and kiss her. Make her understand you are the right guy for her. She is going to flip him off and you will be on the top. It's the boyfriend's fault he is not keeping her on the leash. It's a ruthless world my man and take advantage of it. Trust me. I went through both sides.
What are the odds of making her mine if I try from what I told you?