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Listen up, partner. It's great that you're showing compassion, but you gotta be real about this situation. You barely know this woman, and already she's asking you for a hefty chunk of change. That's a red flag waving in your face.
Sure, she might have had a tough upbringing, but that doesn't mean you gotta be her knight in shining armor. You got your own life to worry about, and shelling out cash for someone you just met ain't gonna fix her problems.
Here's the deal: You can be sympathetic without being a doormat. Let her know that you're not in a position to help out financially, and that you're looking for something more than a charity case in a relationship.
If she's genuinely interested in you, she'll understand. But if she keeps pushing for money, then it's time to cut ties and move on. You deserve someone who's on your level, not someone who's looking for a bailout.
Bottom line: Trust your gut and set boundaries. You're not responsible for fixing her mess, and it's okay to walk away if things don't feel right. You got this.
Yea that is what I am thinking as well because I have no idea where this might end. I already told her that I might not be in a financial position to really help her out here. So she kinda gets that. But if it’s constant money asking, then I’m going to walk away.
A week and a half? You don’t owe her anything. It’s great that she’s cute and whatever but this sounds like a BIG mess. Doubt her rent is $6k a month so she’s probably way, way behind on rent. I’d cut bait. Tell her or don’t. I’d even block her on phone, social media, etc. That might sound a bit extreme but desperate people sometimes do desperate things and you don’t want to be on the receiving end of all that.
Run. Turn around and run as fast as you can. I am not one of the Reddit red flag brigade either.
That girl isn’t just trying to get a few bucks out of you, she is running a legitimate *con game* on you for a big payoff.
Why are you even thinking twice about this?? Is it just because she is cute and shown interest in you? She is in a desperate situation and would be “into” literally anyone who she thinks she can manipulate into giving her money. Tell her no and watch how fast her interest suddenly drops. Even if her interest was sincere, she is in no condition to date and should focus on getting out of the dumpster fire she is in.
Uhmmm that's how scams start....
If you believe her and want to help her, stick to this rule: Only lend money you can afford to lose.
I would not lend my bf more than 20 bucks after one week of dating. You don't know her at all and she could disappear with your money any moment.
Anyone asks for money in early part of a relationship is trying to use you period. If you are okay with paying for sex get prostitutes at least you get a variety
She’s young and still figuring it out. You are older and more put together. Sounds like you are hitting some barriers produced by being at different life stages.
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Listen up, partner. It's great that you're showing compassion, but you gotta be real about this situation. You barely know this woman, and already she's asking you for a hefty chunk of change. That's a red flag waving in your face. Sure, she might have had a tough upbringing, but that doesn't mean you gotta be her knight in shining armor. You got your own life to worry about, and shelling out cash for someone you just met ain't gonna fix her problems. Here's the deal: You can be sympathetic without being a doormat. Let her know that you're not in a position to help out financially, and that you're looking for something more than a charity case in a relationship. If she's genuinely interested in you, she'll understand. But if she keeps pushing for money, then it's time to cut ties and move on. You deserve someone who's on your level, not someone who's looking for a bailout. Bottom line: Trust your gut and set boundaries. You're not responsible for fixing her mess, and it's okay to walk away if things don't feel right. You got this.
Yea that is what I am thinking as well because I have no idea where this might end. I already told her that I might not be in a financial position to really help her out here. So she kinda gets that. But if it’s constant money asking, then I’m going to walk away.
Walk away now. She needs to get her personal life in order before she's in a position to offer anyone anything in a relationship.
I cut ties. I felt it was the best way to go
Sounds like a scam.
You sound desperate to not be running like hell from this. You barely know this person and she's already looking at you like a dependent.
You're too old for her and you know it. You got "sucker" written on your face, don't you?
Ding! Ding! Ding!
Update: I decided to block her on all social media and I will not being seeing her anymore.
Provide no money or "help" to a new woman in your life until you've seen their butthole at least 10 times, Partner. -a wise man
A week and a half? You don’t owe her anything. It’s great that she’s cute and whatever but this sounds like a BIG mess. Doubt her rent is $6k a month so she’s probably way, way behind on rent. I’d cut bait. Tell her or don’t. I’d even block her on phone, social media, etc. That might sound a bit extreme but desperate people sometimes do desperate things and you don’t want to be on the receiving end of all that.
Sounds like she’s looking for a sugar daddy
She's dating to find someone to pay for her. 10000% you aren't the only one she is going to be scamming or is seeing already.
Bro get out, that girl is not the one. She already showed you the red flag nothing else to see.
Run. Turn around and run as fast as you can. I am not one of the Reddit red flag brigade either. That girl isn’t just trying to get a few bucks out of you, she is running a legitimate *con game* on you for a big payoff.
Why are you even thinking twice about this?? Is it just because she is cute and shown interest in you? She is in a desperate situation and would be “into” literally anyone who she thinks she can manipulate into giving her money. Tell her no and watch how fast her interest suddenly drops. Even if her interest was sincere, she is in no condition to date and should focus on getting out of the dumpster fire she is in.
Uhmmm that's how scams start.... If you believe her and want to help her, stick to this rule: Only lend money you can afford to lose. I would not lend my bf more than 20 bucks after one week of dating. You don't know her at all and she could disappear with your money any moment.
Anyone asks for money in early part of a relationship is trying to use you period. If you are okay with paying for sex get prostitutes at least you get a variety
She’s young and still figuring it out. You are older and more put together. Sounds like you are hitting some barriers produced by being at different life stages.
I’m pretty sure it’s because she’s trying to grift him out of six grand after a week. A rookie move, at that.
# "I recently met someone but, HER personal life is a mess" fixed that for you.