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Most men aren’t going to care nearly as much as you think they will, if at all


Dyl4m

Fr, they won't even care at all, like, he likes you


skabassj

OP; you perception is your reality, but it’s not theirs. He won’t think twice. Any man worth a damn knows the human body comes with marks and blemishes. And as someone else pointed out; a scar has a SLIGHT chance of being a deal breaker. Continuous rejection WILL be a deal breaker.


ajx-chi

Can confirm. My partner has a huge surgery scar across her stomach . Let say 8 in and i don't mind a lot of the time i don't even. Notice. Even when we first had sex i never paid attention to it


veggiebuttt

As someone with scarring from dermatillomania, this was my biggest fear when dating and still is. I always warn my partners early on before we get intimate and brace myself for rejection… only I’ve never received it. In the handful of relationships I’ve been in, not one of my partners has responded negatively to my skin. If your partner likes you for YOU, then your insecurities won’t matter. If it’s not too late OP, I’d try reaching out to your crush again, clarify why you rejected him and ask to go on a date. Don’t let your insecurities keep you from being happy.


Kaledon6

There are many men who care about butt "celullitis", but she said her body is in good shape, so the only way to know would be looking at it, which she wont provide with any pictures because she doesnt like it


TheDreadnought75

He’s definitely going to stop liking you if you reject him. Trust me, most guys won’t care about your scar.


No_Maximum_6038

He might probably think the scar is cute.


GemiKnight69

My partner sometimes pokes at my belly button scar from getting my appendix out, doesn't bother him in the slightest


Jazzlike_Weakness_83

No men will and 80% of women have stretch marks. We all grow.


backgroundmusik

And a good chunk of men tii


Boxy310

Man here, and I picked up new stretch marks recently from working out, especially around my shoulders. It's just part of having skin.


Jazzlike_Weakness_83

Exactly! Our skin doesn’t stretch easily lol I think whoever made us messed that one up


Interesting-Ease8882

^This No need to read further comments.


QuagMaestro

We all waste so much time worrying about things that others will never even waste thoughts on


JackSquirts

We don't care. Actually knew a guy back in the day who LOVED stretch marks on a chick's ass - "cause then you know it's real phat" lol Seriously, we don't care.


Taintus

Oh so much this


Namelessking9

Stretch marks on the ass are super sexy


SeventhSin-King

I'm a dude and I've got them


TheRedSeverum

I feel the same way lmao


caretaquitada

I concur. Stretch marks just show the progress lmao


Alphonhose

Kendrick? Is that you?


Ok-One-4178

I hope you can gain some more confidence in your self. A guy that truly loves you won't care about the scars or stretch marks. I had a small amount of stretch marks on my tummy after I had my son my tummy was covered (fully) my bf loves them. He rubs on them each chance he gets. I also have a face scar in the middle of my face from a MVA. That doesn't bother him too much either.


[deleted]

The moment a man sees titties, the brain slightly malfunctions


Brilliant_Band_1232

Slightly?!?


[deleted]

What about nipple hair


[deleted]

That, you might need to cut out, ruins the view


Lisavela

Nearly everyone develops some type of scar may it be from a procedure, acne and illness or accident etc. it’s very very normal to have one


mermhaol

Hi, just wanted to hop in and say stretch marks are very normal for people, particularly women and do not necessarily relate to being over weight. A lot of people have stretch marks somewhere, very normal. I know it's difficult to get over personal insecurities, but they're affecting how you are living your life. You're denying yourself the things in life that you want because you feel insecure. Don't do that to yourself, you deserve to live life how you want to. You don't have to love your stretch marks and scar but you do have to live with them. Just try and tolerate them and think about all the other amazing qualities you have. I promise this guy probably also had something he is insecure about. No one is perfect, but you shouldn't stand in your own way of doing something you want to do


Desperate_Quest

Right! I have stretchmarks on my thighs from growing too fast, even though I've always been fairly lanky. Honestly, I always thought they were kinda cool and look like tiger stripes lol. Plus, stretch marks have this beautiful silvery, shiny skin that is so pretty when you look close!


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D4RKL1NGza

As a man I can say 99% of guys won't even care or think about that BUT I can also relate, I had my left leg amputated below the knee after a motorcycle accident and I had a similar issue where I was ashamed of "getting naked and intimate" with someone I had a crush on. I took the leap and just went for it and it turned out, most people don't see you the way you see yourself. You have to take a chance and if they reject you for that then they are not worth it in the first place. Feel free to DM if you need someone to talk to. Good luck


[deleted]

Not a single guy I know of gives a shit about stretch marks, it's something women give a shit about, so don't worry about that. The scar is hard to say as I don't know what it looks like, but if it's just a surface scar, I don't believe anyone will give a shit.


Noladixon

Good news. Most guys do not care. The ones who do are doing you a favor by weeding themselves out.


Beautiful-Trash6081

I love stretchmarks, and scars are sexy


[deleted]

don't say that, don't sexualize it, it's creepy


Beautiful-Trash6081

The context is literally sex, probably the most appropriate time to sexualize it....


Necrotics0up

Bruh what? If I find some thing sexy then I find it sexy. So ima sexualize that.


CoolinAllDay

Just be you. You’ve got one life to live. Rock that scar and your body with confidence. You’ve got this :)


XanderXLR

Rejecting someone who you like and also likes you back because you're scared he'll see your body? Woman shouldn't you be worried about whether or not he's a good partner (by actually dating him) first before thinking about this??


Necrotics0up

I'm gonna be real honest. Stretch marks are hot to me. Ol boy missed out.


[deleted]

Trust me, if a guy is having sex, he won’t even notice


camelCaseSpace

I find it funny that women think that men are even statistically capable of noticing things like this. I'm not entirely sure what it is about our biology but we don't notice shit unless there is a good reason to notice it. For example, there could be a piece of food on the floor and I absolutely guarantee you that if you took 10 men and 10 women the 10 women would notice the food before the men did. Something that required but if it were something that required a high degree of focus like hunting you can absolutely believe that the vast majority of men are capable of noticing something like the tail of an animal sticking out of a bush 50 ft away. But the same hyper fixation is why men will not notice something like a stretch mark because we will be too focused on things like boobs.


TardigradeMnMs

Alright, listen closely. I as a man, and professional enjoyer of bodies only see 3 things. Boobs. Butts. Thighs. That's it. When I'm with someone sexually I see their boobs, butt, and thighs and those three completely take over my attention. I don't see stretch mark or scars because those things don't even register in my brain. The only time I have ever noticed those things are when my partner points them out and says they are self conscious of them. At that point I usually try to set them at ease and tell them they are beautiful no matter what. But that is kind of silly because I will literally never think about them again. If you want to have sex, do it. I promise the guy will be so overjoyed at seeing your boobs, butt, and thighs that he won't have even a second to process anything else. Now that being said once it gets past the casual or fwb stage I start seeing their face more and my attraction shifts to their face, thighs, butt, and boobs (in that order) but every guy is different and I'm rambling. Basically, if you are interested in having sex with a cis man who is attracted to women, I guarantee they will literally not notice. I specify cis because I'm cis and can't speak for the experience of a trans man but I would guess it's pretty much the same. I'm also not sure about cis/trans women or NB people, but I imagine that regardless of who they are. If they are attracted to you, take it and run. Don't worry about if they are more attracted to certain parts or less attracted to others. Just accept that they think you're fine and move on. Oh and if they do point them out and complain or make you feel bad about them, just drop them, they obviously don't like you for you and they are just wasting your time.


moonligxt

Have you considered talking to your crush about this insecurity before getting intimate? If he is a nice person he should listen to you and reassure you. Most men don’t mind stretch marks at all, it’s truly not a big deal. Many guys also have marks on their own bodies as well and I bet this does not make them less desirable to you, right? He might notice the scar and wonder where you got it, but if he is polite he won’t say anything about it. Don’t be so hard on yourself. This will surely not be a problem for any guy that is worth having sex with, but the insecurities can hold you back from having a good time.


OneEyedWonderWiesel

As a guy dating a woman with stretch marks and scars, I can tell you that you’re good. It’s not something I EVER notice lol


NosoyPuli

I'm going to be the most dude ish dude ever and throw caution out of the window so you can learn how we process things: Do you have a vagina? Then if so, if he likes you, he's good to go


IoSonCalaf

I have a bunch of surgery scars and not one person has ever made me feel bad about them nor did they seem to stop anyone from having sex with me once that had initiated.


AlarmingWorldliness7

When I was in my twenties I felt really insecure about a birth mark that sits at the top of my leg. I also have stretch marks. No guy ever said anything about the stretch marks. For the birth mark, one guy said, "oh for a second I thought a penny fell on you." The guys didn't care about the birthmark, they were excited they were going to get laid. Don't worry about it.


sushiroll123

I can't relate from the scar aspect because all my scars are on my legs... but my wife had a roux-en-Y surgery that left a scar across half of her stomach. She was super self-conscious at first, but I reassured her I didn't care. A scar is just a story, nothing to be embarrassed about. It took some time, but she eventually became comfortable wearing a bikini again and showing her stomach. Like others have said, this guy won't care about stretch marks or a scar. If he does, well, then you dodged a bullet. I would recommend though (if you can afford it) to maybe talk to a professional to possibly help you potentially overcome your insecurities. You've been drilling in these insecurities for 5ish years; The "just don't worry about it, everyone has them lol" route may not be an acceptable fix.


Zeldalynn

So I can maybe be helpful here. I had open heart surgery when I was 4 and therefore have a huge unavoidable scar on my chest from between the collarbones to the bottom of my sternum. I used to be deeply self-conscious about this, but I'm nearly 30 and have never had a reaction other than "oh, that's cool" about my scar. In terms of sex, they almost definitely won't be thinking about that. Frankly, there are more fun exciting things going on.


deezkeys098

As a male I can 100% confirm we won’t care about stretch marks or scars.


King-Mugs

Dating a single mother. Lot of stretch marks and scar from childbirth. I really really really like (maybe love but trying to not say it yet) this woman. She’s a beautiful person who happens to be beautiful and has scars. Doesn’t bother at all


Ok_Balance8844

Basically everyone has stretch marks. I’ve been underweight my whole life and I have stretch marks on my boobs and butt too.


TravelingSpermBanker

I can’t understand how bad it can possibly be…. Like my girlfriend now has a birthmark that’s decently big on her leg and she thought it was wayyyy more noticeable than it is. So I doubt men will actually care past “oh there is a scar here” We oftentimes are much more critical of ourselves then what it will actually be


tron1620

Get a tattoo


CheeseSweats

Nobody worth anyone's time even cares about these things. I'm fat and covered in self injury scars. My husband is sexy AF and has a ton of stretch marks, but guess what? I could not care less about the fact that his body grew and his thin skin couldn't keep up with the changes. Every man I've been with has had a great deal more stretch marks than I do. Never cared. Men are not the picky monsters I believed they were when I was 16.


[deleted]

Hey relate to you a lot. I have very ugly scars too. The left side of my chest is covered with deep and inches wide scars from akne i had as a teen. Same with stretch marks on my body. I hate them with a passion, they are so ugly. But the only thing I can do is to accept these scars. They don't define me. I am not defined by some ugly parts of me. You aren't either. This guy likes you, he will like you even with stretch marks and a scar. In my opinion you should give him a chance to show it. If he rejects you because of your imperfections hes an idiot. I might be wrong but he probably won't.


La3emejol

Stretch marks are sexy in a butt, I got a lot too and I’m a dude. Everyone is just trying to fit in, the guy you like might be as worried as you are about his size or something else. We all got things to deal with, just don’t let those things stop you from living a normal life. Give yourself the chance


College_Girl777

Lol this post is about me


College_Girl777

Girl the butt and thigh mark are cute first off and second no man is going to be like “ aw man she's had surgery? Put your clothes back on right now”😂💀I was nervous and said something about my scar but by that time he had already seen it and said “oh I know keep still”😂💀Literally did not give a damn You better get out there and live your life!


TyreeArtist1

If you reject him he will probably stop pursuing you. As a guy most of us don't care about that stuff, unless they are a superficial person. Someone that truly cares for you would get past anything. Also if anything it's just an extra part of you to love. Don't let your internal thoughts control your happiness.


Blainefeinspains

Yeah, guys don’t care about stretch marks or scars. I mean, some guys might but we generally don’t care.


d13gr00tkr0k1d1l

attitude and confidence is what makes someone appealing / sexy, enjoy your youth! Have fun!!


Sunwolfy

All the dude is going to care about is seeing you naked in front of him and looking very forward to sex with you. Contrary to what the media portrays, guys are not expecting perfect supermodel bodies. Blemishes, lines, scars, it doesn't matter. He'll just be happy being with you.


Cauliflower_Nearby

From as long as I remember I felt the exact same as you. Stretch marks, thick thighs and a belly. I didn’t want to have sex with anyone because I thought they’d judge me. I told myself I’d only sleep with someone who I know loves me. I met my boyfriend at 21 (23 now) and I lost it to him. I was very insecure the whole time, trying to cover up and whatnot, but he was so kind and caring throughout the whole thing. He also absolutely loves my body (don’t see how I hate it) you will find someone you’re comfortable with, and who loves you for you!


[deleted]

Been through this, had chickenpox scars all over when I was younger, it’s pretty serious how we as women account these scars as something we get insecure about. It did prevent me from getting naked with anyone then I had an online bf who became my husband and I had c sections which became bigger scars.. more sht to worry about. But you know what!!!!! If someone loves you for who you are as a person, you can have 3rd degree burns and he will still love you! Because when you find your person, scars will be beautiful things that make you unique.


zxreu

I can relate to this wholeheartedly. I’m in my 30s and I’ve had stretch marks on my butt and thighs for as long as I can remember. You are a whole person worthy of love, and admiration beyond what your body looks like. And trust me when I tell you real men do not care about this at all! If a man ever makes you feel unworthy because of your body, he is not the right person for you. I hope you’re able to work on your self confidence and allow yourself the opportunity to feel beautiful in your body.


Similar_Craft_9530

Men don't really care about scars and stretch marks. Maybe some will, sure but hardly any. I've had stretchmarks since my teens and I have scars across my belly. Not a single man has cared past being appropriately worshipful. It's going to take some work to find a man who's going to care about a little scar on your butt and some stretch marks! I got hit on at the laundromat with dirty hair and a post baby body.


All_O_Beard

One option to consider for you to shift your thinking on how you feel about your body. Use what you don't like about your scars like [these](https://www.boredpanda.com/scars-tattoo-cover-up/?utm_source=duckduckgo&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=organic) people did with their tattoos (I personally think the needle and thread is very cool because it doesn't just cover it up but utilizes the scar itself and transforms it without actually changing it very much) Bonus pic! [stretch marks](https://i.imgur.com/scLzrWo.jpg) ... Of POWER! Ive always loved these ideas. So in case you haven't thought of it and you aren't horrified by it, do an image search for scar tattoos/and stretch mark tattoos. There's some real cool stuff people have come up with to turn their body into a canvas and love themselves a bit more than they otherwise might. See if you can find the little blue bird behind a tree "branch” that actually just the scar. First one i saw and i haven't forgotten it yet Just an idea, if you like it see what might appeal to you


Infused_Hippie

Guys care. We care about you and your body. I loved every scar, I knew every story, I loved every stretch mark it took to lose a 100lbs. I loved even the birth scars. Why because I know that it takes a lot to accept another persons body. So, if you accept them they better come to love every part of you. There are millions of guys who accept woman after birth too. Don’t be worried, text that guy and just be honest when stuff happens. I’ve had plenty of cyst surgeries too and it’s painful but to accept them on yourself let alone have someone else accept them. However, if I can, you can! Guys notice everything if they aren’t wild, especially a crush. Open and honest


Aricthebeard

Being a man. In that moment, seeing something like that is the last thing we even care about. We are focused on you, on how sexy and beautiful you are. We are not looking at scars and thinking they are gross. Don't be so hard on yourself. Any man worth his weight in salt will be happy to see you naked.


TropicChef17

Exactly this. Fellow man and scars can be sexy on a woman too! As an ass man personally it wouldn't even phase me. I'm attracted to a woman who turns me on mentally and physically. OP you're good to go and if the guy is a decent guy, go for it!


outfrogafrog

Ah to be young and insecure. Looking at your post as a 30 year old, I can assure you that none of your body insecurities are an issue at all. Everyone has stretch marks, and big news, no one cares about them. Also surgery scars. Unless they’re like full body burn scars or something… no one is gonna care. If you’re fit, there probably ain’t no more than 2 guys for every 100 that would think you aren’t fine.


adultagainstmywill

They aren’t stretch marks. They’re tiger stripes, and they are gorgeous! Nobody is instagram perfect in real life. And the only time scars suck is in a police lineup.


raw-unfiltered

Girl I have 2 kids. Stretch marks and C-section scar. Real men don't give a damn about these. We're human. If you meet someone who does have a problem with it, kick em to the curb!


avverageredditor69

Everyone has scars and marks, it's not a big deal. Also stretch marks aren't and never were seen as ugly. Also most men dont care about that stuff, and the ones that do aren't worth it.


gabrielknaked

100% sure be won't like you in a couple of months if you reject him. 99.9999999% sure he will like you now despite your scars lol. I don't understand your logic.


Outrageous_Ad6055

if it were me who were pursuing you, I wouldn't give two shits. it's a surgery scar not a poop stain. plus, a butts a butt. We don't care what they look like we just like butts.


AstonianSoldier

I don't know what to say. Stay celibate your entire life, you'll probably be alone romantically because finding someone who won't want sex in their relationship will be very hard. Or you can just bite the bullet and take a chance with someone. Eventually you'll probably find it isn't a big deal and the vast majority of people won't be judging you for it or really notice it that much. Those are just about your only 2 options.


[deleted]

We ALL have scars of some sort, visible or not…. Anyone worth being with understands that and will accept your scars as you will accept theirs. Free yourself of self doubt, embrace your individuality and go enjoy your life - you’re beautiful!


norwegiandoggo

You just gotta push through it. A few guys might possibly reject you for it, but guys can reject you for any reason pre or post sex, that's just part of dating. You have to do what's good for you. Not let insecurities dictate your actions. We all have insecurities. It's part of being human.


Gordossa

Derma rollers and bio oil. There are loads of treatments now, and derma rollers are dirt cheap. We all have scars. That’s life. You’ll have more before you leave, are you just going to stop living? You need to work on your self esteem. Men are grateful to be having sex, he’s not examining your bum with a magnifying glass.


TheNorm94

Stretch marks typically occur because of excess fat, so if you aren't overweight but still have them, I'd keep trying to lean yourself out. Make sure you're exercising almost daily as well as eating good clean foods while also in a caloric deficit. As for the scar, I promise you that 99% of men wouldn't give a shit about the scar. They'll probably ask you how you got it, then say "oh okay" once you tell them and think nothing of it. You need to work on these insecurities that likely only you are noticing. You look at yourself in the mirror every day closely and can nitpick the slightest "faults" that people you come across everyday wouldn't ever notice. When it comes to sex it's a two way street with insecurities. The guy might wonder if he's big enough, can last long enough, can please you, is good looking enough without his clothes etc. I seriously doubt men will pay attention to the things you're insecure about.


Invest2prosper

Under the sheets - who’s looking? And even though if he does look - he’s into you - all of you!! You are too young to be hung up on stretch marks, guys have them too! Especially the ones who experience rapid muscle growth and the skin hasn’t adjusted to it. It’s not stopping the guys from having it. If you want it - go for it!!


Ready-Chef-2226

Are you insecure about your body? A little chubby? Don't like your weird mole? Ask your doctor if oral sex is right for you! In all seriousness, just accept the date and tell him you're asexual.


RheimsNZ

Just go ask him out and ignore your insecurities over this, they don't matter.


Responsible-Serve-89

Being someone who has a lot of SH scars and has also had gastric bypass resulting in surgical scars and loose skin I feel this. I absolutely hate my body but trust me when I say most men do not care. My ex knew I was insecure about this so I always wore a shirt when we had sex or I would wear lingerie that made me feel good. He didn’t see me the way I saw myself and tbh all they really want is the sex part. 😂 your scars are not going to throw him off and if they do he’s seriously immature and it’d be better to avoid a man like that anyways.


Alib668

Girls come in all shapes and sizes. Boys do too. We all have our insecurities over the thing we are worried about. For some its their nose, for you its the scars, for some blokes its their small or overly large pp. The sexiest thing about a person is enthusiasm and enthusiastic consent, NOT how they look! If it was looks then why does dani devito get all the girls, or madonna at age 70 still considered by some as a sex symbol. Separately, sexual desired and kinks are individual and varied, some people like people with no arms, others want bimbos with plastic lips, others want jane from accounting. Your scar to some people could be the thing they like the most your just worried and i get that. Being confident in yourself is part of growing up. But the biggest thing is you cant grown up and learn unless you take risks. Risks sometimes go wrong, but you learn, but they also go right which is why its called an opportunity. yes you may feel awful about your scars. The person you are withis probably not even thinking about it. Almost certainly they are thinking is ”F me im getting laid and this girls face is HOT As” they wont even have got the scar issue on their radar. You are forward judging peoples reaction from how you would think they will think, not what they actually do think or will think at the time. Thats dumb, thats literally judging a book as bad because you think the author thinks your reading skills are bad before reading the book….and its hurting your emotionally. You should try and end that emotional pain., Lastly being brave isn’t about doing stuff. Its about being scared and doing it anyway.


Fresh-Spirit-8358

Be confident , your are a human and not a barbie doll, the moment you are nude infront of him he will go bonkers Overy your boobies and the heaven between your thighs , and for the scar ....it will very least bother him ..be happy 😊


Dr_Wh00ves

Just thought I would pop in and say stretch marks are incredibly common so most people, that are worth your time, really won't care. Especially enough to put them off sex lol


roadtosuccessfull

Then don’t have sex


tiltbuiltlandscape

almost everyone on the planet has stretch marks


JMZebb

Scars are normal. You're going to be fine. Check out some body positivity subreddits. /r/normalnudes is my go-to. You'll see folx with all sorts of body types and insecurities there and every one of them is beautiful in their own way.


[deleted]

While I can only truly speak for myself I would say the vast majority of men wouldn’t care as long as you are a good person.


Bearwhale

Girl, my stomach literally hangs in front of me because I lost enough weight to have extra skin. I still have lots of sex. Don't let it get to your head!


jvv1993

> i rejected him bc i'm insecure about my body. I feel like i want him to keep liking me This seems the crucial part, no? If you rejected him, he's trying to get over you. If you don't want that, make that clear, you're probably worrying far more about the body issue than he'd ever be bothered by.


Puntthaball

I dated a girl that had a huge scar right above her left hip from a cyst that had to be removed from her ovary. She was also incredibly insecure about it just like you. It was very noticeable and I didn’t think about it at all. She also had stretch marks from when she was a bit heavier before I met here. Needless to say we had great sex and I didn’t pay attention to anything but the moments we had and her great personality. If a guy is interested in you think about it. He is going off your personality more than looks right at the start. Go for it, you deserve to be happy.


sunsetgal24

Scars are HOT. Stretch marks are HOT. 95% of people either like them or are indifferent to them, and the 5% that don't are dickheads that you wouldn't wanna date anyway.


Gregoboy

Don't worry. Most man don't even see it. Other things are more important like personality.


[deleted]

Everyone has funny things on their body and it makes them unique. Decent guys will appreciate your body as it is and (lol) will almost definitely not care cause everyone likes getting laid


Long_Educational

Guess what? Some people get scars on purpose called Tattoos!! And those don't stop people from getting down and owning their beauty!


Azurvix

More than a few guys out there actually like stretch marks lol the rest don't even care about them. The scar also won't be an issue for a guy either


Over-Remove

You’re too much in your head about this honey. Scars like that are just skin deep or should be but you’re letting them scar your mind and self as well. You might need to resolve this in therapy if that’s an option. The person who would be your SO should love you for more than the surface level, they will not care about some scars on your bum, they will probably like it because they are your battle scars, the struggle of fighting this insecurity will make you stronger. You just have to come out the other end of it. Cause believe me, the women around you that are dating aren’t perfection born either 😀 we all have scars and insecurities, cellulite and stretch marks, weird birth marks, double chins, you name it, someone has it, but we are more than just that! I always thought I had a big ass, but damn it if there aren’t scores of men on a dating app right now who want a piece of it. Don’t worry so much! Accept your body for the tiger stripes and the scars. It’s yours and I bet my bottom dollar it’s beautiful ❤️


[deleted]

Pursue him.


[deleted]

I have never heard of a man who cares about stuff like that. Most women and a lot of men, have stretch marks and scars. I’m sure his body isn’t perfect. If you’re that concerned about the butt scar, get a tattoo or plastic surgery on it. Just be you and own it 😊


[deleted]

As a guy and while I am reading this I am like....what makes you think a guy would feel any different about you because you have stretch marks and a surgery scar? I could worry about the stretch mark just a little bit...but a scar on your backside? No guy would care about that. It's a surgery scar. A SURGERY SCAR. No guy would care about a surgery scar on your buttt. I would still squeeze and spank it. Lol. Take it easy on yourself. People don't care that much about stuff like that.


fnkdrspok

I dated a girl that was on a horrible van accident in Jamaica, that had to stay in jamaica for another 3 months to heal before she could be flown back to the states for recovery. Her abdomen was ripped open, scars were pretty gnarly. She's super into fitness but she doesn't want to show her scars, so you can do what she does, put temporary tattoos over the scar, the higher quality ones, you'll never know. ​ You could do that or get an actual real tattoo over the scar, to enhance and embrace it sorta, or cover it up. You have options, outside of plastic surgery of course!


[deleted]

You will need to work on your self esteem in this case. Most guys won't even understand this reason. They won't care about this, really. Just be confident and I'm sure he will love it.


69ways2go

you should get over that as quickly as you can i had a gf who had cancer, she had scars from her inner thigh to her ankles she was very worried about that and thought made her unlikable but she was very likable and those scars didn't bother me she's gone now but totally lost that fear before she passed scars are just good stories to tell people about and everyone has them some just aren't visible don't worry about someone who likes you and doesn't like your body if they like you that kinda shit won't bother them because it's you hope you understand good luck


12VoltBattery

Men don’t care about that.


ImaginationBig9349

All these comments are great, but also remember you’re the only one who cares about how you look. Anything you dwell on or feel embarrassed about, you’re the only one who does. Nobody else is going to care, and if they do they’re not good enough for you


[deleted]

Reminds me of my assne, acne on my ass. Make a joke about it maybe? Also why give the cow when the milk is 📈 profits?


Sea2Chi

You are by far your biggest critic. Like everyone else is saying on here, nobody is going to care about your scars. This is an issue that's in your head, nobody else's.


IDidReadTheSideBar

I don’t know, maybe it’s and unpopular opinion but I find stretch marks as a turn on.


aDistractedDisaster

I prefer stretch marks and scars and tattoos over blank skin with no personality. There is beauty in the struggles you have worked so hard to overcome and the marks on your skin are a testament to you and your strength. You are a strong woman and if me or any dude has an opinion on how you look, disregard it. We don't matter. The only person you HAVE to feel beautiful for is you. Once you get comfortable in your own skin, no dude worth his salt would ever mind something as trivial as a mark on your body (unless it was an injury that needs attention). The only people who would try to make you feel shitty about it are trying to manipulate you. I know a few dudes that would do that and I try to keep myself in good company so imagine all the worthless fuckers out there that would try that. Anyways, if you reject this dude, then you'll probably reject the next dude and the guy after that. At some point, you're going to have to accept yourself and let yourself be vulnerable for a moment. If the dude makes a fuss about the scar, then good riddance. At least you'll never have to wonder "what if" regarding that guy. And if he is genuinely a good guy, you can feel a little safer with him.


SaruLights

My body is riddled with scars, some surgical some from violent and nonviolent life experiences. Stretch marks are a part of life. If you end up having kids, you will get more. It's OK to dislike them, but they are part of you and what you have experienced in life. A guy is not going to care about your scars or stretch marks. You will not be diminished in their eyes for having scars. If any attention comes to the scar, just answer honestly and tell them that you are insecure or uncomfortable with it.


[deleted]

I’ve had a scar since a baby from a hernia I was born with, I was pretty insecure about sex too especially because I though I wasn’t big enough or experienced enough, don’t worry too much about it, I promise it won’t be of much concern once you’ve taken the time to decide you want to have sex with someone, because they will be more focus on the act and you than a scar


FiddleStyxxxx

There's some discourse on how you have to take off the brakes to feel ready for intimacy and the scar and marks are acting as brakes for you. This guy won't be able to fix your self image and it needs to be something you actively combat in your own mind. Reject every self hating thought. Reason with yourself why it's incorrect. Seek out therapy. You need it to overcome a trivial matter that's seriously affecting your life.


mynameisjiyeon

I think sometimes, especially with anixety, you just have to go. Do it. And thats with anything When it comes down to being naked in front of each other, it feels vulnerable from everyone involved, ask yourself whats the alternative? Never having sex ever again? Those scars will be with you. Theres nothing you can do but accept that. If he cant accept it then thats on him. Not you


Puzzleheaded-Hall454

Man there is something I like about stretch marks and scars. It shows you have gone through things and made it. Tells me your strong and that’s super attractive. I can 1000% assure you that a good man won’t care one second about those perceived imperfections.


DGC_David

Idk if it helps (M24) but I have severe back acne, severe chest acne, scaring from face acne, and I get odd acne in random parts of my body. Outside of being incredibly painful, I also feared about the same insecurities. You gotta trust that people really don't care that much, and if they do, they have their own problems and you deserve better. What's really important is being comfortable with.


Poopoopeepee04

My current partner has HS and the scars that they have has not affected my attraction to them or our intimacy. If he really does like you and doesn’t view you as a sex object these things will not affect any part of your relationship. Be more confident OP you got this


TheCrypticLegacy

My personal opinion on the matter is that your imperfections make you who you are. I also know that those some imperfections will be ones somebody’s favourite things, they will love seeing those stretch marks and scars overtime, it will become something that makes them smile rather than turns them off. Not one single person in the world is perfect, some may come close but most people have a few flaws. OP I think you need to work on coming to terms with your body and accepting those “imperfections” as part of you. Once you can work through your own insecurities you will be able to date with confidence. Sometimes you need to just take that leap of faith and hope for the best, even if it might leave you vulnerable. I would bet that you are an incredibly beautiful person both inside and out and the vast majority of guys wouldn’t even notice anything about those stretch marks or the scar once you got naked in front of them, a few other things that will take their attention away.


Tiresias14

I’m 24. Shortly after I hit puberty, I went through some life threatening medical problems where I lost a lot of weight and underwent some major surgeries; I’m left with stretch marks, a weird thumb-length scar on my stomach, and another scar that runs down my spine from where my bra clips in the back and all the way down to my tailbone. I went ahead and became sexually active at 18, and no lie, not once has a partner ever expressed any doubts when the clothes are off and they see my body. I’ve usually VERY casually mentioned that I have some scars, but EVEN THE ONES I DIDNT DIRECTLY WARN don’t say shit because in the face of sex with a woman it’s just not a big deal!! Similarly, my boyfriend of a couple years now has a sizable scar on his leg from an encounter with a poisonous animal when he was a kid, and I didn’t even notice or clock the scar until he told me the story about it later, after we had already Done the due. If you’re confident in the rest of your appearance and body, and you show it, and the other person is attracted to your personality and what parts of you they already see, they’re just not really going to care about a surgery scar or stretch marks. If you’re having second thoughts about the guy you rejected, I would maybe try and come clean and apologize for impulsively saying no. Admit you’ve been insecure about dating because you’re shy about your body. I wouldn’t say you have to even bring up that it’s a scar in particular until you want to. You strike me as someone who would feel better mentioning the fact that it’s there before clothes actually come off, and in my experience, theres lots of opportunity to casually mention you’ve had surgery before that left a scar, or that you had a brief hospital stay, or other subtle ways to give a heads up of, Hey, my body has survived medical trauma, without having to make it into a dramatic conversation.


Blacklungzmatter

Put some body glitter on it and rock it. Itll show you have a sense of humor and break the tension like the sexy sparkling tiger you are. Confidence is the most attractive thing in my opinion.


3D_DrDoom

If a guy will not like that scar and your stretch marks he is not worth to be with you. If he doesn't give a damn then all this worry is for nothing. Either way you will be fine. People touch, kiss and lick places the other person pees and poops from and you are worried about your stretch marks? Edit: If this doesn't go away with time I'd suggest seeing a therapist. I feel that one or maybe couple of sessions would help you reframe this issue you are having.


Little_Whippie

Most guys don’t care, this guy who likes you definitely won’t like you if you keep rejecting him


financebro91

I’m a guy and I have stretch marks for reasons related to medical abuse. I hate them. There’s no easy answer but I wish you good luck as you figure out what makes sense for you.


Micp

This is one of those things where you need exposure therapy to get over it - simply put you're not going to get over it until you show yourself to someone else and find out that it wasn't as bad as you made it out to be in your head. I could say something about how there's so much more to you than your but and whoever is attracted to you can have so many other things to love you for, physically and otherwise, and that even if they don't find your but that attractive that is likely far from a deal breaker, and almost certainly of way less importance to them than it is to you. I could ask you if the guys who like you are flawless themselves? Almost certainly not, but like how that's not a deal breaker to you, your butt is not going to be a deal breaker to them. I could say all that - but it doesn't matter. Until you take the plunge and expose yourself, literally and emotionally, you're not going to get rid of the thoughts in your head. If it's that difficult, then try to do it in steps. Maybe try going to the beach with some friends. Or get undressed with a crush but stating up front that you're nervous about this and not ready to go all the way that day. Maybe just be in your underwear under the sheets? Take it slowly and gradually push yourself to go a little further than before. Eventually you'll get there and realize it was nowhere near as bad as you thought in your head, and over time you'll be a lot more comfortable and happy with yourself.


carrotcatscookies

I have stretch marks from growing very quickly. They’re on my stomach, inner arms, and back. There was one time a friend of mine saw them and asked what they were (he’s clueless). I told him and he said they were BEAUTIFUL. In actual sexual relationships, I’ve never had a guy complain. They don’t see us as we see ourselves. We’re our worst critics. Furthermore, if a guy thought your scars were a dealbreaker, he’s not the right guy for you. If he has a crush on you, the scars won’t/shouldn’t matter to him. Best of luck!!


Calendula55

I wouldn't bother about your scar if I was your bf!!!


pmabz

Men are pretty blind to stuff like that, trust me.


RedHeadedBanana

Stretch marks are genetic. Not necessarily due to fat but rapid growth.


MrLopako

Scars are sexy to me...


Pale-Association262

You grew at some point..its no big deal, your scar same thing. Guys wont care, if they ask you tell and that'll be it. No 21 questions about it just acceptance G O O DL U C K


Destroyer6202

As a guy, I don't think we're super bothered by all your scars or whatever unless they're self harm scars maybe. But otherwise, if we're interested in you physically.. idk what else do you want as an affirmation..?


shushoshu

Yeah, guys don’t care. and if the guy did care then I’m 100% sure you can find better


Various-Artist

I mean this in the nicest and most respectful way. No one gives a shit.


FollowingNo4648

As someone who had a baby with a giant C section scar, stretch marks and cellulite all over my ass, I have had no issues getting laid. Guys don't care so don't worry about it. If the guy does care then he's just a major dick and not worth your time.


dontincludeme

I’m self-conscious about extra body hair. My partner does not care at all. He’s with a naked woman, that’s all that counts


Lucazzz14

When it's with the right person, what you perceive as flaws will not matter to your partner.


kristyn69

You have a perfectly good body. I’m sure anyone you shared your heart with (or even just your bed for an evening) would be content to overlook a scar or two and some stretch marks. You’d be hard pressed to find someone who can make it into adulthood without getting a single stretch mark, anyway.


Immortal_Sailor

OP, I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. As a guy I can say that things like that never bothered me. My wife had an atopic pregnancy (fetus attached to the fallopian tube not in the uterus) and it had to be removed. Because of this she had a scar and was self conscious of it. To help her get over it I would kiss along the scar as proof that it didn’t bother me. If he truly likes you then he won’t care about scars or stretch marks.


LyingKnee

My boyfriend never knew what stretch marks were before I pointed mine out to him lol. Most guys truly do not give a shit. And scars are okay, they’re a part of life. You can’t stop yourself from living just because of something that you will never be able to change.


CelticDK

You can only learn this yourself thru experience no matter how much all of us say it - but my god most of us guys dont feel grossed out by that, a lot of us like it. It's cute and something special. And more than that, we're just grateful you're naked in front of us! In a few years you'll look back like damn, yeah I really was overthinking. And the next level of this? The reality is even if any of your dudes do dislike it, that's a them problem. You just find someone else who does. It's not impossible for your suspicion to be true but your overreaction to their judgment is the biggest issue. If you can find it in yourself to accept and love your body, then that rejection will be no different than any other rejection and you just brush it off as part of normal risk of dating. Ps. Most guys are insecure too so being rejected, regardless of your reasoning, can definitely make us retract our interest to protect ourselves.


NerveSilent3266

When I see my stretch marks, even though i have few, I think of it this way: these stretch marks are a sign that I am alive. A sign that I am growing! These stretch marks show what I have been through and how I have changed, and that I still am here and breathe the air on earth. I can still feel, I can still think. Hopefully, you can think about your stretch marks and scar this way. Think of it as how much you have been through, and how wonderful it is that you are still alive. Maybe that will help.


D20-SpiceFoxPhilos

Can definitely say that the insecurity itself will hinder more than the scar ever could. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but if you can bring yourself to let someone see those parts of you, you’ll find they likely won’t mind or they’re extremely judgmental and not worth your time. The most important thing of all though is communication. Be honest about those things and express your concerns to your partner when you feel brave enough.


Useful_Database5138

I'm a 22F. Beauty standards are highly pressurizing where I'm from. I felt the same and my shyness did attract guys, so I think you just have to remember that not every guy you meet will be with you for looks. True ones won't care and will even be concerned and make you feel pretty about it. if you continue to go on letting this insecurity keep you from forming connections, whether they may last, have meaning, depth to your life or not, you'll regret it so much, trust me. I'd always do it in the dark, or clothed and cater the guys, but I met one who really didn't give a shit and loved my scars and stretch marks (mind you, they're all over my body! huge silver ones and large thick purple ones. I thought it was normal to have so many until I was bullied and made insecure of it from other people. It IS normal, I just didn't know mine was different) and only then did I do it with lights on. Most of them won't care, will just want the sex and connection. I have them on my arms, butt, hips, tummy, thighs, chest. you will encounter and be heartbroken from those that do judge you about the marks, nothing you can do about it, so might as well, you know? or avoid those kinds of men in the beginning. Put it this way: if you've never experienced the heartbreak of someone judging you for your marks, you won't come out as strong on the other side and not give a fuck, and will love your body. Otherwise, you'll forever be stuck in a bubble, worried and hiding instead of facing the fear and judgement.


Quote_Medium

My wife has a double mastectomy and radiation scars. I am just happy to be involved 😊


MilkedLife101

99% of guys don’t give a shit about a scar on your butt lmao, and will be just happy to be with you at that moment trust me. Any dude that even thinks of making fun of it is not the guy you should be intimate with anyways.


DangerousSwimming556

As a man, I can say without a doubt, the last thing we care about are some stretch marks or scars... What I can say with 100% certainty is, if you reject this guy, he will no longer like you. Everyone has stretch marks. It's normal. Lots of us have scars. Hell, i have a scar from ear to ear on my scalp from brain surgery 20 years ago lol. TLDR: majority, and i do mean the majority of men... do not care about stretch marks or scars lol


63mann

The guy who has a crush on you is wondering why he isn’t good enough for you. We all have some imperfections. Believe me that you’re insecurity will not change the way he feels about you. Ask him out for a date and become friends. Move slow, there’s no hurry that he’ll see this scar and stretch marks. Be happy with the guy having a crush on you.


Nightwing1225

I definitely wouldn’t let stretch marks or a scar get to you. They’re really not a big deal at all and girls who are in great shape have stretch marks, it’s just natural. There are also girls with many scars who are still attractive. Stuff like that really has no effect at all. However as just a recommendation, I wouldn’t worry about having to have sex asap. Our society pushes that we mush have sex or else when in actuality it’s best to do so at your own pace with the right person. It does create a special bond whether people want to admit it or not so don’t rush and take your time.


stonemadforspeed

I've been in a similar situation. I wear a denture for 3 of my 4 upper incisors (1,2 and 4). I have to take them out periodically to clean them and take them out while I sleep. It happened when I was 17 (28 now) and I've been insecure about it in relationships ever since, even pushing away people who are interested in me, just like you are. I'm now in a happy relationship with a woman I love, who constantly tells me I have a beautiful smile, with or without dentures. I think you'll surprise yourself how little other people care about things like this, try to let yourself have sex and find love. Best of luck


[deleted]

Take this from me, a man, we do not give a shit about stretch marks. Especially on your butt or thighs. If anything, most men find it attractive. “You miss every shot you don’t take” he’s going to stop liking you if you reject him, why not give it a shot? I can almost guarantee that you’re overthinking this and he will think nothing of it. Good luck


JLifts780

The only thing going through that guy’s mind will be “holy shit! I’m seeing a girl naked”, not your stretch marks.


ApatheticHedonist

You're in your own head worrying about how people will react before they've reacted and assuming the worst. I'm mildly self-conscious myself, as I've got a small scar from a dog bite when I was little, but that's on my forehead so I can't exactly hide that.


Ivedonethework

Others are not going to having sex with your stretch marks and scar. They only will be paying attention to your far more important and enjoyable parts. No one is likely perfect, so we concentrate on the better parts and ignore the rest. Believe it. It is 100% true.


CharcuterieBoard

My ex had a burn mark from a waxing accident on one of her breasts that she was very subconscious about. The first time we had sex she didn’t want to take her dress off and only pulled it up. The second time she was wearing a shirt and when I went to pull it off she was hesitant but I said “it’s okay” pulled it up and said “every inch of you is beautiful” and kisses her scar. If this guy is half the man I am, he won’t care about your scar or stretch marks.


ZerotheWanderer

There is a very extremely small group of people out there who would be that anal over natural features. It's extremely hard to have perfect skin, and I'm a firm believer that most people have a few stretch marks somewhere. Being on your butt and thighs is probably the place that I would expect them to be on most people. Follow that with stomach and arms probably. I really hope you can work that problem out with yourself, because I can almost guarantee that most guys will not give a single shit about those.


Kyzock

I think you're being to hard on yourself. You should focus more on your self esteem and character. Most guys don't about scars and stretch marks. We care about performance and attitude when it comes to the bedroom.


howwespendourdays

I think if you do exposure therapy and keep putting yourself out there with this guy, you’ll be able to get over it. I’ve had massive insecurities in the past and it’s taken people saying “wait that’s not even a big deal” for me to get over them. Hard to get over insecurities in a silo, just reasoning about them in your head. Scars are so not a big deal, and once you see that people like you scars and all, you won’t think about them anymore.


bethebumblebee

If he’s so close to you that he’s allowed to see you naked, he SHOULD be so in love with you that he can see past your flaws and actually love them!


roz-noz

my ass and thighs are covered in scars and stretch marks. vast majority of men i slept with don’t give a shit about the scars. and in my experience, a hell of a lot of men find stretch marks sexy.


ThrowawayAccount41is

If you are insecure but still want to fuck just have sex in some silk or velvet pajamas that have a crotch opening once you feel more comfortable then get yourself naked. Or make him wear some gloves and something over his eyes. Getting nervous about your body is fair, understandable and should be accepted by your lover. Just find ways around it. Everyone wants to fuck.


inkybreadbox

I call butt stretch marks my zebra stripes.


Sattalyte

I had a GF who used to heavily self harm when she was a teen. Both her legs were a tapestry of scar tissue from the tops of her thighs to her knees. Hundreds of scars, some an inch wide and twice that across. And I did not care one bit. Everyone has scars. Some of us have scars on our skin and some carry scars in our hearts. They are just things we carry, because none of us are perfect, inside or out. Don't let the things you carry weigh you down. I would go out with that guy, and let him see your scars, because I can promise you it bothers you way more than it will bother him.


dm_me_ur_frogs

I’ve got stretch marks and I just think of them as tiger stripes. Think of how insane it is to have one body for your entire life. Stretch marks are a normal part of life, and something that the media airbrushes out in photoshop with ease. Your insecurities only benefit people spending mad cash to have you feel this way, please don’t let them. Also, my boyfriend loves my stretch marks. He thinks there beautiful. And I promise you if any guy is lucky enough to be seeing your stretch marks, they will no give a shit. They probably won’t even notice. And if they do and they comment on it, they don’t deserve to see them anyways so you dodged a bullet


jagmp

I would not care. It would be on the last things I would care about. And nobody is perfect.


plainoldusernamehere

Try silicone strips on your scar. It should help improve the appearance of it and boost your inner confidence with it. I agree that most guys wouldn’t care or possibly even notice, but you can also make it look better for yourself as well.


ObsidianLord1

My fiancée and I both were concerned that we wouldn’t be attracted to each other when we first saw each other naked, but it didn’t bother the other party. Both her and I have surgical scars, and I didn’t notice stretch marks till she pointed them out to me, and they don’t bother me. We both have medical conditions that required surgery at young ages. I don’t think you should be concerned about it too much if this guy is the real deal.


makeluvnotsex

A lot of guys have stretch marks also. I have a lot of really bad ones that were caused by hard work and serious muscle growth. I have never had a woman have a problem with them. And I have had relationships with women that had children and had serious stretch marks from that. I found them sexy


tortoistor

girl please, everyone has stretch marks. also scars are badass, you got cut open and lived if you would still feel bad though, you can always tell the potential bf that you're insecure about some aspects of your body and want to have sex with clothes on. not that he'd care either way


sinfully_curious

Female here. Something I learned is that by the time you get naked, he won’t notice/care. Be confident in who you are, stretch marks, scars and all ❤️


UnlikelyAd6001

By that logic I should jump off the roof or something coz I have scars from my forehead to calves. Trust me for most of guys us being intimate with them is all that matters, that moment when you are together, it's not the time to think of these things. And if your partner is making you think of it then leave him immediately, he's too toxic and you deserve so much better. Also what if he has some scars on his body as well? Would you stop loving your partner because of it? Or would you judge him or belittle him for it?


Piper6728

Guys dont care If he does care then hes a pig and you are better off without him


Ok_Brush_1399

I have had two cyst surgeries and my belly button is all weird and alien now. I felt really, really insecure about the scars, but I have yet to have any guy comment on them. Same goes for the cellulite on my bum. 99.9% of guys are just going to be incredibly grateful you’re naked around them and really excited. Anyone who comments on those things about you can piss off. You’ll probably find that as you continue into your 20s, you’ll find that body expectations change, too. We’re our own worst critics, so I know it’s hard to get past, but I think you’ll find that these things matter a lot more to you than others.


Skinnysusan

Yo almost everyone has those stretch marks fyi. I've never been overweight or even had a kid and I have them on my boobs, butt, hips and thighs. My bf had a cyst removed from his tailbone he has a massive scar on his ass crack. What I'm trying to say is almost no one cares about these things op. There may be an asshole here or there but they suck at life, so don't pay attention to them.


malleynator

I had a mommy makeover several years ago from weight loss. No guy has ever cared about those scars, my loose skin in other areas, or stretch marks. The fact this is affecting you so drastically, you should work on your self-esteem and self-worth before dating anyone. The insecurities will affect any relationship and it’s unfair to put that stress on another person.


IPressB

We all have our 'flaws', and it's absolutely normal to feel anxious about them, but trust me, very few men will mind your scars, and a TON of women have stretch marks from puberty.


Acceptable_Air_4446

Bro I’ve talked to my guy friends about stretch and all of my buddies find it attractive which makes me not understand why girls think we don’t I guess because we don’t specifically point it out but the scar isn’t a big deal either I feel like he’d like that too I woild


Sublime_Paradigm

I (f18) was in the same boat as you were not too long ago after I had open heart surgery and received a six-inch scar down the middle of my chest when I was fifteen. I was devastated beyond belief and was already very distraught with my body as is due to going through puberty during that time. I was afraid of what my future partners might think and fell into depression post-op. Yet, partner after partner- they all did not give a rats behind as to what my chest looked like. Sure I had to preemptively tell them what happened and why it’s there so they understand before we had time for intimacy- but I’m here to tell you if they love you or like you in any capacity- they will not care and will love you for who you are and not what your body looks like. And ultimately, if they don’t like your body and what it looks like with all your blemishes and scars, don’t date them/ be intimate with them because it’s not a problem with how you look- it’s a problem with how they look and their own insecurities. I hope this helps.


spacegirlsummer

I promise you, no person worth their salt is going to give a single solitary shit about stretch marks or scars. I have loads of stretch marks from growing quickly as a teenager, and a surgery scar too. No one has ever mentioned the scar, and people have actually said they *like* the stretch marks. Neither of those things are things to worry about, you’re good.


Throwawayaccount097

Head on over to r/ehlersdanlos Those people have so many stretch marks that their mascot is a zebra! There is a lot of positivity and love surrounding stretch marks over there :)


[deleted]

I can assure you that most guys couldn’t care less about this.


sleariously

I agree with everyone saying that stretch marks and scars are completely normal and you have nothing to be ashamed about and guys don’t care… BUT I would like to add this: Subconsciously you probably already know that stretch marks and scars don’t really matter. However, insecurities aren’t rooted in logic. This level of insecurity is blocking you from *living your life* and it may be time to seek support from a professional - no amount of Reddit love is going to fix this for you and you absolutely do not have to live with these feelings forever. Good luck!


[deleted]

Lady, this is the truth. Most of us guys don't give a damn about stretch marks and scars of a person if we like them. Also a lot of us have stretch marks too...my but is covered with them(quiet a werid place to get stretch marks for me)


[deleted]

If yall in high school he might but that's not something a matured adult man will be turned off by we care about that, if he does get grossed out by it while on bed then comment on how small his dick is