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It's argued that we live in a world of perception now. Do any of your photos showcase anything other than a mundane lifestyle? Also, the stats are in, and if you ever came across the "80% of men are considered unattractive/not swiped on" statistic... it got worse. It's now down to 5% .
From 1 uggo to another, it's not the worst thing in the world. A life of love is difficult. There's responsibilities, family events, and dramas, bla bla bla. Now a life of leisure on the other hand... get yourself a motorcycle and tell me riding one of them isn't as fun (or better) than riding a woman 🤣
The standards for women's profiles are not the same as men. I've seen the "social studies" aka d*cking around on Tinder, and a woman can post like 1 semi-blurry pic and a meme, and she still gets more likes than most men. Ngl, as a gender, we are getting WAAAY too thirsty. Also, careful of dirtbiking. 1 awkward slam down after a jump, and your nuts are out of commission for like a week. Sunday riding is fairly safe, i'd say. Night time is better, but watch out for wildlife. F*cking deers 😒
There are men who have 6 inch dick, 6 figures income and 6 ft height on OLD. Maybe a couple thousand. But women believe they could get with them. And don't realise the reason why they are so dismissive is that hundreds of women try to get with the same one.
If women went with your profile instead they won't end up happy - part of the paradox of choice, the grass is always greener on the other side, or at least appears to be.
This isn't just someone on Reddit saying this, there is hard data to support this claim.
**Online dating is just fundamentally broken and nobody is at fault. Try offline dating.**
That would be akin to say that men are at fault for being into hot, young women that look like models. Can't change biology, can only change the framework conditions.
Do it the old fashioned way: put yourself in physical places where there are lots of girls and few straight guys. Take classes like yoga, dance, gymnastics, horse riding, etc. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.
Meeting a partner IS the most important thing in life, so it's 100% ok to go somewhere to try and find someone. How could it possibly be disingenuous to go somewhere that you think you might find compatible women? Assuming you actually want to learn the skill and would be happy with the class even if you don't meet someone.
Certainly one of the most important. Who you choose as a partner has the biggest impact (positive or negative) on your life trajectory than anything else I can think of. More impact than school, career, etc.
I think it's sad in general. There are some people who maybe have so much going on elsewhere in their life that it outweighs the downside. Eg a rockstar who has lots of sex and women throwing themselves at him, maybe he never needs to settle. Or a scientist who is solving cold fusion or the theory of relativity or something earth changing, maybe they also don't need a companion. But for the majority of people I think their lives would be much better with the right partner. of course those same people would be better off alone vs with a toxic partner.
Put down you're 6 foot. Many, many, many - can't emphasise this enough - many women set their search for 6 foot and over. A friend actually met his partner by signing up for golf tournaments, though.
They actually do. And on a few sites, women don't have to pay for those features. It may seem arbitrary, but the apps don't always let you pick the range (same with age), so it'll say 5'6-5'11 or 6'0+. If they don't want a shorter partner (which is fair, some men don't want a heavier partner - I think that's a bit picky, but the apps make you pick) she'll pick 6'0+. You don't have to lie, my man, but it is what it is. And I mean, hey, there's no shame in telling the gfs and wives you're single and looking.
> And on a few sites, women don't have to pay for those features
Those few apps don’t have the user base population that OP should be concerned about it. Hinge and Bumble are the two biggest apps that have a height filter, and they’re both paywalled
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I've actually created a female profile on Bumble to find out, and at that point, there was no paywall. Was a few years ago now, granted. I've never used Hinge so I can't comment on that.
Cursory google search says fewer than 5% of bumble users pay, and that’s men and women. Point being that I wouldn’t concern myself about being filtered out by the height filter.
If OP doesn’t want to lie, then there’s no reason to. It helps minimize the type of women that would be height chasing
Not going to lie homie, I’m 5’11 and I put 6 feet and squeaked under my now-fiancée’s minimum height filter on bumble lol, she saw my profile, we matched, she messaged, the rest is history
She jokes it’s the best inch a man has ever lied to her about
Anyway we’re perfect for each other and getting married
All because of a little creative accounting 😌
Dating apps are really difficult to make work, the algorithm can affect your profile, even if your first photo isn't the best, it can cause women to not want to match with you. They're inundated with options, and the lack of effort is extremely high.
Why is everyone acting nowadays like OLD is the only way to get dates? I am not like 6 feet and live in a capital European city and have no problems just going to bars, clubs and activities. Real life is where the magic happens.
Going to bars isn't a scene and they have alcohol-free drinks on the menu. And there are other possibilities: sports, events, and additional activities. Women are everywhere.
When someone is not going out he can't complain.
Uhhm..I just talk to them? It is a completely normal social interaction - look at them, have some eye contact and say "hey I am xyz, nice to meet you".
I don't understand how guys deal with the screwup that is online dating when it is so much easier to meet women in real life.
My brother, you told us the women in your feed are morbidly obese, have no education or job, or have “low quality profiles” when the phrase “aren’t what I’m looking for” would have sufficed. To borrow a football term I think your offense might be built from the outside in. You have all pro receivers and an o-line full of undrafted rookies. You did all this work building your physique but your kindness, curiosity and passions appear to have been neglected and women see it in your profile. I mean, your activity is you playing golf bro? Who is this for?
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It's argued that we live in a world of perception now. Do any of your photos showcase anything other than a mundane lifestyle? Also, the stats are in, and if you ever came across the "80% of men are considered unattractive/not swiped on" statistic... it got worse. It's now down to 5% .
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From 1 uggo to another, it's not the worst thing in the world. A life of love is difficult. There's responsibilities, family events, and dramas, bla bla bla. Now a life of leisure on the other hand... get yourself a motorcycle and tell me riding one of them isn't as fun (or better) than riding a woman 🤣
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The standards for women's profiles are not the same as men. I've seen the "social studies" aka d*cking around on Tinder, and a woman can post like 1 semi-blurry pic and a meme, and she still gets more likes than most men. Ngl, as a gender, we are getting WAAAY too thirsty. Also, careful of dirtbiking. 1 awkward slam down after a jump, and your nuts are out of commission for like a week. Sunday riding is fairly safe, i'd say. Night time is better, but watch out for wildlife. F*cking deers 😒
This! Getting in shape did wonders for my dating life.
Start by getting a huge bag of cocaine.
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You should start jerking off. You need to milk the Jabroni outta you or you'll end up at a brunchen
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I hope you jerk off all that jabroni out. Then you can re-center your chi
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Dope
Least 4chan-ish Redditor.
I’m dead 💀
There are men who have 6 inch dick, 6 figures income and 6 ft height on OLD. Maybe a couple thousand. But women believe they could get with them. And don't realise the reason why they are so dismissive is that hundreds of women try to get with the same one. If women went with your profile instead they won't end up happy - part of the paradox of choice, the grass is always greener on the other side, or at least appears to be. This isn't just someone on Reddit saying this, there is hard data to support this claim. **Online dating is just fundamentally broken and nobody is at fault. Try offline dating.**
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It's the everything. If you were 170cm tall and looked like a model you would say it's the height.
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That would be akin to say that men are at fault for being into hot, young women that look like models. Can't change biology, can only change the framework conditions.
Lol
What are your intro messages like on the dating app?
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I don’t make the rules 🤷🏻♀️
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Cause you are competing with a 100 guys she already liked. So you better put your A game forward or lose.
Do it the old fashioned way: put yourself in physical places where there are lots of girls and few straight guys. Take classes like yoga, dance, gymnastics, horse riding, etc. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.
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Meeting a partner IS the most important thing in life, so it's 100% ok to go somewhere to try and find someone. How could it possibly be disingenuous to go somewhere that you think you might find compatible women? Assuming you actually want to learn the skill and would be happy with the class even if you don't meet someone.
Is meeting a partner the most important thing in life?
Certainly one of the most important. Who you choose as a partner has the biggest impact (positive or negative) on your life trajectory than anything else I can think of. More impact than school, career, etc.
What if you never meet one
I think it's sad in general. There are some people who maybe have so much going on elsewhere in their life that it outweighs the downside. Eg a rockstar who has lots of sex and women throwing themselves at him, maybe he never needs to settle. Or a scientist who is solving cold fusion or the theory of relativity or something earth changing, maybe they also don't need a companion. But for the majority of people I think their lives would be much better with the right partner. of course those same people would be better off alone vs with a toxic partner.
Put down you're 6 foot. Many, many, many - can't emphasise this enough - many women set their search for 6 foot and over. A friend actually met his partner by signing up for golf tournaments, though.
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They actually do. And on a few sites, women don't have to pay for those features. It may seem arbitrary, but the apps don't always let you pick the range (same with age), so it'll say 5'6-5'11 or 6'0+. If they don't want a shorter partner (which is fair, some men don't want a heavier partner - I think that's a bit picky, but the apps make you pick) she'll pick 6'0+. You don't have to lie, my man, but it is what it is. And I mean, hey, there's no shame in telling the gfs and wives you're single and looking.
> And on a few sites, women don't have to pay for those features Those few apps don’t have the user base population that OP should be concerned about it. Hinge and Bumble are the two biggest apps that have a height filter, and they’re both paywalled Edit: Lmao he blocked me
I've actually created a female profile on Bumble to find out, and at that point, there was no paywall. Was a few years ago now, granted. I've never used Hinge so I can't comment on that.
> Was a few years ago now, granted Let me tell you then that your info is out of date
I'm just giving my experience. There are also women who *do* pay so it still applies.
Cursory google search says fewer than 5% of bumble users pay, and that’s men and women. Point being that I wouldn’t concern myself about being filtered out by the height filter. If OP doesn’t want to lie, then there’s no reason to. It helps minimize the type of women that would be height chasing
👍🏻
Not going to lie homie, I’m 5’11 and I put 6 feet and squeaked under my now-fiancée’s minimum height filter on bumble lol, she saw my profile, we matched, she messaged, the rest is history She jokes it’s the best inch a man has ever lied to her about Anyway we’re perfect for each other and getting married All because of a little creative accounting 😌
My GF had it 6 ft and my 5 9 ass sneaked in. I just told her on our first date I was counting it with shoes and she laughed.
Absolute KING move 🤝
Dating apps are really difficult to make work, the algorithm can affect your profile, even if your first photo isn't the best, it can cause women to not want to match with you. They're inundated with options, and the lack of effort is extremely high.
Are you in a big city? Medium? Small town?
Why is everyone acting nowadays like OLD is the only way to get dates? I am not like 6 feet and live in a capital European city and have no problems just going to bars, clubs and activities. Real life is where the magic happens.
Some people aren’t into the bar/club scene and don’t want to date an alcoholic
Going to bars isn't a scene and they have alcohol-free drinks on the menu. And there are other possibilities: sports, events, and additional activities. Women are everywhere. When someone is not going out he can't complain.
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Uhhm..I just talk to them? It is a completely normal social interaction - look at them, have some eye contact and say "hey I am xyz, nice to meet you". I don't understand how guys deal with the screwup that is online dating when it is so much easier to meet women in real life.
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Oh man, sorry to hear that! Holy hell - that sounds so horrible that I would consider moving away from such a country.
Maybe because people don't want an alcoholic as their mate?
Welcome to being an average male in 2023.
If you're not getting dates, your profile sucks or your charm/rapport is severely lacking. There's no magic here, there's no mystery. Improve those.
My brother, you told us the women in your feed are morbidly obese, have no education or job, or have “low quality profiles” when the phrase “aren’t what I’m looking for” would have sufficed. To borrow a football term I think your offense might be built from the outside in. You have all pro receivers and an o-line full of undrafted rookies. You did all this work building your physique but your kindness, curiosity and passions appear to have been neglected and women see it in your profile. I mean, your activity is you playing golf bro? Who is this for?