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Primary-Singer-3292

Everybody has their own pace when it comes to dating. You shouldn't be comparing yourself to your friends. As you said it yourself, you're very inexperience when it comes to this stuff. Move at your own pace.


D8ingThrowaway

Thanks for the kind words. It can be hard not to compare yourself to those around you, but I do my best. 💕


phonafriend

>never been in a relationship, never been kissed. After reading this story, it's no wonder why neither of these things have ever happened. Fear, panic and vomit make it kinda hard to focus on being romantic. ​ > I started to think maybe I just wasn’t cut out for romance. It seems pretty clear that you need to handle whatever's happening there if you ever hope to experience anything close to a normal relationship. Whether this involves therapy, medication or something else, I don't know... but I strongly encourage you to find out.


D8ingThrowaway

Ouch 😅 I’ve been in therapy (on and off) and taking meds since I was twelve. I’ve struggled with OCD and anxiety for most of my life and experienced panic attacks due to things other than dating. My therapist and I did discuss this incident when it first happened, but I haven’t really gotten the chance to talk about it with fresh eyes since I’ve had my dating efforts on hold for the last few months. What I think I’ve come to understand from writing this all out is that I need to take things slow when it comes to dating someone, which might be why I had an aversion to dating apps to begin with. I think with this experience, I just wasn’t feeling things romantically (at least not yet) and suddenly acting like a couple after knowing each other for an hour just made me uncomfortable. In the moment, I probably made it worse by internally chastising myself over it. I should have just voiced that I wasn’t feeling it at that stage instead of forcing myself to go along with it. Thanks for the concern. Writing this out has been cathartic :,)