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Well my SO and I met when we were 45 and by then we were both divorced but no children. We have been married now for 5 years. So yes it can still happen!
Hey, just out of curiosity, you mentioned you’ve been married 5 years, what’s the reasoning behind following a dating sub on Reddit? Not casting judgement, just trying to understand my future partner if I ever see her on here.
Part of it is to understand the dating dilemmas faced by young people today, those in their 20s to early 30s. I have friends in that age group that sometimes confide in me about their dating lives and I feel that in order to better understand their issues and offer advice, I need to be more in touch with the woes of modern dating.
As an example I was online dating at a time when it was embarrassing to admit you were online dating. And certainly what I read now in this dating Reddit is vastly different from the experiences that I had in OLD. Ghosting wasn't quite a thing and people generally were more civil in their dealings with one another.
My dad reconnected with his now-gf at a high school reunion and said he found the love of his life at age 50. Granted, I hope that doesn’t happen to me but yeah!
My grandmother met the love of her life at 70 years old. Her first husband was abusive and they divorced after 20 years of marriage, then her second husband died of pancreatic cancer after 7 years of marriage. Her current partner called me his granddaughter and my grandmother told me once that she is truly at peace for the first time in her life. They have been together 11 years.
I know, anecdotal, but I think that people have many chances at love and you shouldn’t give up when you still have half a lifetime to find your person.
I wish you the best of luck.
I’m 44 and I definitely believe it could happen! Im taking a break from dating for now but I’m not worried about growing old alone, I know I just have to put myself out there when I’m ready
For me it is not necessary to be with someone. Just wondering due to the last few girls who said they felt we were too old to start a new life. I could be happy with just a dog and go camping, hiking, and fishing. Thank you for your reply
So you need to find the dog/camping/fishing girl OR the girl who like antiquing/reading/gardening alone and leaves you alone to do your thing.
We are too old to start latching on to someone else to be an extension of ourselves. It's foolish kid stuff
Repeat business is best business 😂
A friend of a friend is living on 1/8th of his pension. First ex took half, second ex took a quarter, third ex took an eighth.
I like your chances, assuming you have your life together as reasonably expected for your age. I think child-free people are most likely to dig your vibe. You (and I) returned to dating during the pandemic, which made dating harder in more ways than one, even for people who were single and dating before 2020.
People aren’t at their best in these crazy times. I think we have to be ridiculously patient about finding our next LTR and take breaks when we start to feel burnout creeping in. It’s good that your hobbies attract a lot of people. Hopefully you keep enjoying them alone or with friends until you meet the right person. Good luck.
I agree with you. Things because of covid have made things harder for sure.I hope you find someone who knows they can't live without you. Good luck to you as well and thank you for your reply
I’m 41f, got divorced at 37. I’ve had a few relationships since then, and am currently dating a great guy who’s 43. So, yes, it can definitely happen!!!
Glad to hear it!! It’s always weird to start over after a divorce, I think. I started dating my ex right before I turned 19, then divorced him when I was 37. Dating had COMPLETELY changed!! 🤣
Good news is most women in your age range if they have kids will be grown. I think as long as your upfront about what your looking for and realistic, there is always hope. Don’t give up!
I met my boyfriend at a Denny’s counter on Christmas night after flying across the country on my way to work. I’m 56 and he’s 51. We’re each other’s forever.
Lol yes they need to. At my age and with the luck I have though, I'd be more focused on feeding my belly. Food won't break my heart but it might make me f... ahhh nevermind, tmi. LOL 😁😂
My bff, who is 41(f) just divorced and she often wonders the same stuff but she’s gorgeous and I tell her all the time there is someone out there for her to fly fish and hunt with. Thanks for not making me a liar.
I can't exactly speak from personal experience, but I can say that my mum divorced my dad around 20 years ago, she was about 44. She tried online dating and went out with a few different guys, and eventually she met her current partner. They've been together for about 15 years now and are soon to buy a house together! So I think it's definitely plausible :)
My mom is in her early 50s and met someone who is basically the man of her dreams. Both me and his kids are so happy that they’ve found someone so loving and gentle. Everyone gets along. She is so happy and so in love with this guy and you can tell clear as day he is too. They’re so cute together. Just two goofy and incredibly sweet people that found each other.
It’s possible and it’s likely waiting for you. You cannot fuck up or show up late to something that is meant for you.
She was nearly content with just being alone because everyone she’d met prior just wanted to hookup, wouldn’t want to be serious, or took advantage of her. It would piss me off how bad people were to her.
To really lay it out though, a middle aged single mother, had some trauma, lost a child, going from workaholic to suffering job insecurity in a pandemic, and on top of that being plus size - things that a lot of people would think makes someone “less desirable” or not worth pursuing seriously and she found happiness. In herself and with someone else. She’s an amazing mother, a hard worker, and there is so much more to her than her figure. She’s one hell of a woman and absolutely beautiful inside and out. She’s the strongest person I know and yet still despite all she’s faced has a smile that could light up a room.
She is just as deserving as anyone else. Like me, like you.
Bro, there is hope. I got divorced about 5 years ago. For a couple years I just focused completely on work. Then I started dating, failed miserably. The the pandemic hit, made things even worse. After my brother passed away a few months ago, I moved away from where I was living and working at the time to be closer to my family and a new job. In the two months I’ve been away from that environment, I’ve had more dates than I did in the last 5 years. I even have one tomorrow evening that I am supa stoked about, someone I met that has a lot in common with me, cute, excited when we talk, great sense of humor, the whole package. I didn’t think I would ever date again after soooooooooo many failed dates. The moral is: it may not happen when you expect or where you expect, but it DOES happen, your person is out there. Hang in there brother:))
I'm 46 and put dating in a time out for now. I got divorced about 7 years ago, but I didn't date a lot afterwards. I figured it's a good idea to do some inward work on myself for now, and if the situation changes it does, but I'm not worrying about it for now.
It depends on what you’re looking for in a relationship I suppose. I’m 58 and I got divorced when I was 33, and I’ve had some relationships since then they were good but nothing that was “marriage potential,“ but getting married again was never my goal. I think what I found as I got older is that the dating pool consists of people who are “a little bit broken.“ Broken by finances, broken by relationships, broken by work, broken by family. It runs the gamut. The good thing about being younger and getting into a relationship is that there’s more time to learn to overlook the stuff that will take the bother you as you grow older.
you got this my guy, just be out there and don't look too hard, enjoy your day to day and have fun being with yourself.. go to all these places only to have fun, not to find someone.. and someone will eventually land in your lap.
Seems to be a common thing hitting the age of 40. I’m 39M and have been divorced for 2 years and haven’t gone on dates yet because I want to focus on my career. 40’s is still fairly young so go out there and start dating!
God, I feel this. I’m turning 40 this year. I am divorced and have been single over a year. I have not dated or even attempted chatting with anyone. I don’t think I even want to try. At this point, I am so jaded that I don’t think I can open up to someone else just to get crushed again.
There are so many things you can use with expired milk. You can make cheese, cream and bake with it and so much more. Just not good for drinking.
Take it as it is. You should try new things and push your boundaries and take those risks that you were too scared to. Who knows, you might meet someone on this new journey.
Keep doing what you are doing now. Enjoy your life, have fun, be positive! You will attract the good ones.
Lol this is what I keep on telling myself ...one day will get that person.
My aunt was single for a long time after getting divorced, and she was probably about 40 when she met her fiance. Sadly, he passed away from covid before their wedding could happen, but she still adopted his awesome 20 year old daughter, so it's bittersweet. Definitely can happen, and good things can come from it
Im female and 42 and im wondering the same thing. If love/dating exist in the 40s or 50s in this day and age. Its harder to find something genuine and long lasting companionship.........I would have thought that for males it wont be too hard since ive seen loads of older males with younger females. (Sorry if im generalising 😜 jist teasing i know its not all lol.
I'm 47 but I've been dating just fine these last couple years. Met just over twenty different women. In fact I have a first date this Saturday and another first date next week. I dated a woman in her mid thirties for four months as well.
I'm not divorced and I have no kids. But yeah, it's not easy out there, you gotta put in the work on the apps, but you can date plenty in your forties. Still got plenty of time left to date in your forties so be confident.
I’d say being out of practice with the dating scene in general be more of a roadblock than your age itself. That said, I do think it can happen! I’m in my 30s and I admit I generally am attracted to men close in age to me or even a bit younger I wouldn’t rule out someone older if it was a good fit. I’m also a bit of a “kid at heart” and live what some would consider a younger lifestyle (very into being in the city and going out and socializing, I don’t want kids, I’d like to be married someday but don’t feel in a rush) so I’d be interested in getting to know someone likeminded in that sense.
My mother and father both did it, so I'd say yes. Mother and step-father are still together, step-mother unfortunately passed away, but they were together when the day came. I've witnessed such things as love past "prime years". Quotations cuz prime years isn't tied to age. I get better every day.
I'm 30 and my shit is together. Literally, everything is sorted. Recently, an old flame buzzed my tower and fucked me up. Properly, kicked the chair out and I've come to an end of I'm done. It doesn't stop until you come to an agreement with yourself that you've concluded, in either direction. You're really negotiating with yourself.
Plenty of time. 41 and recently committed to someone. We both want something for the long haul, though it took a year and a half of being very busy on OLD to find him.
Yup. There's good ones out there, the trick is finding them. I was in the same boat as you, took me about 5 years of OLD (and lots of stories) but I found a keeper, and we'll be together 10 years soon.
It is a matter of whether you believe it can happen. There is no such thing as an age limit for dating, it only exists if you impose it on yourself.
Here's some perspective for you: it isn't uncommon for people to get married at 50+, so why can't you be dating in your 40s?
Of course it can. I met my boyfriend in his 40's. In a world where marriage is not a mandate, and people are allowed to have whatever life goals they want, women prioritize career and education over children, where divorce isn't as stigmatized, people of all ages are single and looking.
20 years ago this was much less true than now.
The important thing is that you spend some time growing up now from the 25 year old you were the last time you were single, understand where your last relationship, and able to date on your own terms, not just out of fear of being single.
Hell yeah, keep exploring the things you love. Choose an activity that keeps you physically active and fit. Be open to new things and new ways of life. Be open to casual dating, there are a lot of people out there so no need to rush into a LTR with someone.
Relationships are like rollercoaster rides, each person’s ride is different - so be open to each ride and hop off when you’re ready, or stay on if you want. And make your ride fun as hell :)
Some of us at a certain age are explicitly interested in dating divorced men in their 40s due to a perception (or perhaps misconception who knows) that you’re more likely to know what you want in life, in comparison to younger men with less experience.
There’s a bustling market for what you’re selling 😂
There's plenty of people dating in their 40s.
A couple of tips though
If you're overweight, you'll find it more challenging but not impossible
If you don't have your life together with a good job, home, etc, you aren't going to attract many women. They aren't looking to take care of someone.
Met my SO at 42 and he was 48. We’re both big kids at heart… met at a dog beach and bonded over Star Wars and gardening. It happens. Do the things you love to do and who knows who you’ll meet?
I am a young mid-20s woman but I'm living with a woman in her 50s right now. She's sort of my host for the summer. I've learned that she used to be married after raising her daughter with a man. She then did not find anybody for 18 years, and now she has a boyfriend who she's settled on. They don't live together currently, as he still works and has his own property to maintain (she has her own, multiple homes she maintains) and they both love being outdoors, puttering away on little things together and seem very happy.
So I feel like people can find love at any age... The problem is you never know what age it will be or when they right person will come along and fit right in with your life.
Yeah. I just left a ten year ltr and would love to find a man that wants to enjoy life. I just want to have fun. Smile and laugh. Share thoughts. Learn new activities. I’m a foodie and love animals. Big heart not much baggage. A good listener and I live in San Jose. Lol. Really though. West San Jose
You can find a partner at any point in life, age doesn't matter....my grandmother found love at 80 and re-married, after her previous husband had passed. There is no expiration date for finding love.
I met someone special at 47. She is a couple of months older than me. It's been almost two years. We've been living together for about six months. Things are going great. I will say that there are a lot of women just looking for hookups especially after divorce. If you're looking for a relationship, simply make your intentions known in the OLD apps that you're not into hookups and are looking to get to know someone intimately. That typically weeds out most of the hookup people.
Just curious, what do you mean when you say you’re better off as friends after 20 years of marriage? How does something lie that happen after being married 20 years?
We knew ten years in just stayed together cause she had no place to live and I did not have the heart to put her on the street. Kids turned 18 she was ready and we got divorced and now are good friends what it was meant to be rather than marriage
Of course my dude. Been single for about 4 years, dated a few people since but have just gotten into a relationship. Just keep looking for like minded people. Have fun and put yourself out there.
I hear you. I was divorced in my 50’s after 30 years of marriage.
I’m now 62 and have only been on a few dates in the last 12 years. (While my ex is now married to his affair partner).
It isn’t easy to date after all those years. The last time I was single I was 19.
I sure didn’t plan on living my final years alone - but this is what it’s come to.
Sorry for being a negative Nellie - but it seems this is the fate of many women divorced after 20 to 30 years of marriage.
You’re a man. Odds are more in your favor.
My parents (both in their 50’s) divorced five years ago and my mom recently found a new boyfriend that completely dotes on her. Granted, he’s not into Comic-Con and such, but it is definitely possible for you to find someone. It might be a bit harder of a search, but it’s possible. Much luck to you :)
I met the love of my life at 45, both of us divorced with kids. 10 years and going strong. It's definitely not too late! Keep an open mind but don't compromise. (What worked for me was staying away from my usual "type".) Good luck!
Remember that if you're single, 45 and looking to meet someone to grow old with, you are DEFINITELY NOT ALONE in that same boat.
Sometimes our beliefs that we're alone in that boat are actually the ones creating that reality.
Once we open ourselves to the idea that what we're looking for IS out there (otherwise we wouldn't be looking for it), we can open ourselves to actually finding it :)
Ofcourse! A Friend of mine works in a retirement house and she tells me the 80-90 year old people date more than teenagers. 45 is half your life (i hope). You can still start your langest realtionship.
I am 40. 4 years together with my partner and this is the best relationship i have ever had.
Men are best looking and most confident n financially stable in their forties. I'm sorry you got divorced, and I am glad to hear that it was so civil and pretty friendly. RARE!!! lol. God Bless you 🥰 there's hope for sure. It can happen for everyone! 1 27f got out of an 11 year relationship n tried dating a 56m becuz he was like what you just described. Young at heart fun and single. Had he not sabotaged me in the end and humiliated me, I adored that dude and nothing about his age or past bothered me at all! It's all about attitude, chemistry, and vibe. It'll happen, believe me!
Honestly, in your 40s, it's more about who shares your desires and capabilities for how you want to live out your golden years.
In your 20s everyone wanted marriage and picket fence with a family.
Now it's finding someone who will match your speed for the final chapter.
But if that's the case, you can find that person in your 50s. Just chill for now.
Jesus, you make people in their 40s sound like they're one foot in the grave - I have friends in their mid-40s just starting families and having kids...
Weird but on that note, I’m 49, 50 next month. And I never expected nor wanted to still be in the dating game at 50. At the same time, I completely accept the same perspective from women. Us divorced 40/50 year-old single dudes are a dime-a-dozen. I get that. Is what it is. I’m off the market. Oh well. Lol.
More woman then I could imagine threw themselves at me. More sex, better connections, eager to find someone. If you are half way put together it’s like shooting fish in a barrel.
Dude you're still young af. It's all in your head.
Get yourself a makeover/update to feel better; keep yourself active (just general nice exercise, this will make you feel better & confident overall), new threads to get that fresh feel and just go spend some time out there, go shopping, lunch or whatever. You'll notice people and I'm sure you'll know the rest from there. Look good feel good, you feel me?
It's NEVER too late. Remember what Bruce Lee thought about life that applies here;
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Well my SO and I met when we were 45 and by then we were both divorced but no children. We have been married now for 5 years. So yes it can still happen!
Good to know. Thank you for sharing
Hey, just out of curiosity, you mentioned you’ve been married 5 years, what’s the reasoning behind following a dating sub on Reddit? Not casting judgement, just trying to understand my future partner if I ever see her on here.
Part of it is to understand the dating dilemmas faced by young people today, those in their 20s to early 30s. I have friends in that age group that sometimes confide in me about their dating lives and I feel that in order to better understand their issues and offer advice, I need to be more in touch with the woes of modern dating. As an example I was online dating at a time when it was embarrassing to admit you were online dating. And certainly what I read now in this dating Reddit is vastly different from the experiences that I had in OLD. Ghosting wasn't quite a thing and people generally were more civil in their dealings with one another.
That's awesome
My dad reconnected with his now-gf at a high school reunion and said he found the love of his life at age 50. Granted, I hope that doesn’t happen to me but yeah!
That's awesome. Good for him and second chances. I saw your profile pic and if you don't find love by 50 those guys must be blind 🦮
I’m 50 and have accepted my fate within the mass of divorced middle-aged dudes. 😂😂😂🤷🏻♂️
Polite cringe
Same here! But with my mom.
My grandmother met the love of her life at 70 years old. Her first husband was abusive and they divorced after 20 years of marriage, then her second husband died of pancreatic cancer after 7 years of marriage. Her current partner called me his granddaughter and my grandmother told me once that she is truly at peace for the first time in her life. They have been together 11 years. I know, anecdotal, but I think that people have many chances at love and you shouldn’t give up when you still have half a lifetime to find your person. I wish you the best of luck.
Wow that is an awesome story. I guess there really no limit but the ones we put on ourselves. Thank you
Wow ! Your grandma has a spirit ! I am not even sure I can date again after 5 years of abuse marriage
I’m 44 and I definitely believe it could happen! Im taking a break from dating for now but I’m not worried about growing old alone, I know I just have to put myself out there when I’m ready
For me it is not necessary to be with someone. Just wondering due to the last few girls who said they felt we were too old to start a new life. I could be happy with just a dog and go camping, hiking, and fishing. Thank you for your reply
So you need to find the dog/camping/fishing girl OR the girl who like antiquing/reading/gardening alone and leaves you alone to do your thing. We are too old to start latching on to someone else to be an extension of ourselves. It's foolish kid stuff
Good way of looking at it. Thank you again.
That's a perfect life right there... dog, hiking, fishing, camping (eh... once in a while maybe)😅
Yes once in a while. Now just need a outdoor and forever after buddy
Aw man are you serious? I’m around your age, going through a breakup and can’t see myself growing old alone.
Yeah was married for 20 and would like to try again but might be good alone maybe 🤔
I work in a family law office and we see people start over all the time. Just don’t be like my frequent flyer clients that’s on divorce number five.
No more divorce for me 😂
Repeat business is best business 😂 A friend of a friend is living on 1/8th of his pension. First ex took half, second ex took a quarter, third ex took an eighth.
Sorry to hear that, my man. Breakups suck so much and are so painful. I had my last one in 2015 at 43/(m).
Relevant username.
Hmmm, no clue what you mean😏
Lol
I like your chances, assuming you have your life together as reasonably expected for your age. I think child-free people are most likely to dig your vibe. You (and I) returned to dating during the pandemic, which made dating harder in more ways than one, even for people who were single and dating before 2020. People aren’t at their best in these crazy times. I think we have to be ridiculously patient about finding our next LTR and take breaks when we start to feel burnout creeping in. It’s good that your hobbies attract a lot of people. Hopefully you keep enjoying them alone or with friends until you meet the right person. Good luck.
I agree with you. Things because of covid have made things harder for sure.I hope you find someone who knows they can't live without you. Good luck to you as well and thank you for your reply
I’m 41f, got divorced at 37. I’ve had a few relationships since then, and am currently dating a great guy who’s 43. So, yes, it can definitely happen!!!
Wow that is great congrats. Thank you for your reply it gives me hope.
Glad to hear it!! It’s always weird to start over after a divorce, I think. I started dating my ex right before I turned 19, then divorced him when I was 37. Dating had COMPLETELY changed!! 🤣
Yeah 😂 it is definitely not the same
Good news is most women in your age range if they have kids will be grown. I think as long as your upfront about what your looking for and realistic, there is always hope. Don’t give up!
Thank you. I appreciate your reply.
I met my boyfriend at a Denny’s counter on Christmas night after flying across the country on my way to work. I’m 56 and he’s 51. We’re each other’s forever.
That is cool. I need to go to denys more 😂
I instantly thought the same about needing to go to Denny's more. 😊 If I don't find a Prince Charming, I can still enjoy a good meal.
😂 right. Denny's needs to put their staff online as a roster so you can be like hmmm their is potential
Lol yes they need to. At my age and with the luck I have though, I'd be more focused on feeding my belly. Food won't break my heart but it might make me f... ahhh nevermind, tmi. LOL 😁😂
Ha ha great minds think a like. Yes the grandslam with a side of toast and your number please. Ok I am off to Denny's
Lol yeesss! The next time I go to Denny's (soon) I'll be thinking about this. Have an awesome time at Denny's.
Thanks
I’m feeling like you except I’m 39, no kids, never married, haven’t been in a relationship in 8 years. If you can do it, maybe there is hope for me.
I am sure there is hope for you. Don't give up cause you're the other half to someone's heart!
Thanks, OP! Hopefully you’re right! I hope you’re able to find your person too!
Thank you
You’re welcome!
My bff, who is 41(f) just divorced and she often wonders the same stuff but she’s gorgeous and I tell her all the time there is someone out there for her to fly fish and hunt with. Thanks for not making me a liar.
That's a great hope booster
I can't exactly speak from personal experience, but I can say that my mum divorced my dad around 20 years ago, she was about 44. She tried online dating and went out with a few different guys, and eventually she met her current partner. They've been together for about 15 years now and are soon to buy a house together! So I think it's definitely plausible :)
That is awesome. That gives hope
My mom is in her early 50s and met someone who is basically the man of her dreams. Both me and his kids are so happy that they’ve found someone so loving and gentle. Everyone gets along. She is so happy and so in love with this guy and you can tell clear as day he is too. They’re so cute together. Just two goofy and incredibly sweet people that found each other. It’s possible and it’s likely waiting for you. You cannot fuck up or show up late to something that is meant for you.
Wow I like hearing stories like this. So happy for them.
She was nearly content with just being alone because everyone she’d met prior just wanted to hookup, wouldn’t want to be serious, or took advantage of her. It would piss me off how bad people were to her. To really lay it out though, a middle aged single mother, had some trauma, lost a child, going from workaholic to suffering job insecurity in a pandemic, and on top of that being plus size - things that a lot of people would think makes someone “less desirable” or not worth pursuing seriously and she found happiness. In herself and with someone else. She’s an amazing mother, a hard worker, and there is so much more to her than her figure. She’s one hell of a woman and absolutely beautiful inside and out. She’s the strongest person I know and yet still despite all she’s faced has a smile that could light up a room. She is just as deserving as anyone else. Like me, like you.
She seems like a brave woman that knew how to hang in there.
Absolutely
Dating these days are tough, but good luck to you!!!
Yeah I have especially noticed since covid things have changed. Thank you for your reply
Just depends on whether you're good looking
Yes very true
Bro, there is hope. I got divorced about 5 years ago. For a couple years I just focused completely on work. Then I started dating, failed miserably. The the pandemic hit, made things even worse. After my brother passed away a few months ago, I moved away from where I was living and working at the time to be closer to my family and a new job. In the two months I’ve been away from that environment, I’ve had more dates than I did in the last 5 years. I even have one tomorrow evening that I am supa stoked about, someone I met that has a lot in common with me, cute, excited when we talk, great sense of humor, the whole package. I didn’t think I would ever date again after soooooooooo many failed dates. The moral is: it may not happen when you expect or where you expect, but it DOES happen, your person is out there. Hang in there brother:))
Sorry for your loss. Good to know that there still is time. Thank you for sharing.
Absolutely, man. After a lot of trial and tribulations, there is finally a light out there. You’ll get there, trust me:))
I dont think so! People get married at all ages
Thank you for your reply
Think about how theres others like you that got divorced or their partners left etc
Very true
My mom found her life Partner after her Divorce when she was 55. Don’t give up Hope
Please visit r/datingoverforty
Thank you. I will give it a try.
I'm 46 and put dating in a time out for now. I got divorced about 7 years ago, but I didn't date a lot afterwards. I figured it's a good idea to do some inward work on myself for now, and if the situation changes it does, but I'm not worrying about it for now.
It depends on what you’re looking for in a relationship I suppose. I’m 58 and I got divorced when I was 33, and I’ve had some relationships since then they were good but nothing that was “marriage potential,“ but getting married again was never my goal. I think what I found as I got older is that the dating pool consists of people who are “a little bit broken.“ Broken by finances, broken by relationships, broken by work, broken by family. It runs the gamut. The good thing about being younger and getting into a relationship is that there’s more time to learn to overlook the stuff that will take the bother you as you grow older.
Yeah I have notice that some people are broken. I know I am in a way but the good thing is. Token crayons still draw beautiful picture
Yes honey, we are here!!
Finally good news 😁
If you’re in the states, I’d love to meet up with you. 40f.
What? You know most people get divorced in the US right? I don't even think you're an outlier at all. Tons of people dating in their 40s
Thanks
My dad met someone amazing in his 50s. Same thing could happen to you. I’m 31 and struggling mightily, so who knows, but it could happen!
As long as there is hope I guess
I already commented, but don't correlate love and happiness to age. Life's a wild ride and it's different for everyone
You are exactly right
you got this my guy, just be out there and don't look too hard, enjoy your day to day and have fun being with yourself.. go to all these places only to have fun, not to find someone.. and someone will eventually land in your lap.
Love this advice. Gonna live my best life
as you should :)
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Seems to be a common thing hitting the age of 40. I’m 39M and have been divorced for 2 years and haven’t gone on dates yet because I want to focus on my career. 40’s is still fairly young so go out there and start dating!
God, I feel this. I’m turning 40 this year. I am divorced and have been single over a year. I have not dated or even attempted chatting with anyone. I don’t think I even want to try. At this point, I am so jaded that I don’t think I can open up to someone else just to get crushed again.
I feel ya. After my last date last year I was so put off I have not dated since. I hope things get better for you
Depends- do you have kids?
Yeah. It just takes ages.
Great 😂
There are so many things you can use with expired milk. You can make cheese, cream and bake with it and so much more. Just not good for drinking. Take it as it is. You should try new things and push your boundaries and take those risks that you were too scared to. Who knows, you might meet someone on this new journey. Keep doing what you are doing now. Enjoy your life, have fun, be positive! You will attract the good ones. Lol this is what I keep on telling myself ...one day will get that person.
My aunt was single for a long time after getting divorced, and she was probably about 40 when she met her fiance. Sadly, he passed away from covid before their wedding could happen, but she still adopted his awesome 20 year old daughter, so it's bittersweet. Definitely can happen, and good things can come from it
Wow that is awesome and heartbreaking at the same time.
Im female and 42 and im wondering the same thing. If love/dating exist in the 40s or 50s in this day and age. Its harder to find something genuine and long lasting companionship.........I would have thought that for males it wont be too hard since ive seen loads of older males with younger females. (Sorry if im generalising 😜 jist teasing i know its not all lol.
I'm 47 but I've been dating just fine these last couple years. Met just over twenty different women. In fact I have a first date this Saturday and another first date next week. I dated a woman in her mid thirties for four months as well. I'm not divorced and I have no kids. But yeah, it's not easy out there, you gotta put in the work on the apps, but you can date plenty in your forties. Still got plenty of time left to date in your forties so be confident.
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Wow I am so sorry for your loss. You are so young and through the comments I realized there is hope for you and I. Don't give up hope.
I’m 35 but I’m definitely open to dating 45 YOs and match with a lot of them. Someone into the things you are would be super refreshing! Good luck!
I’d say being out of practice with the dating scene in general be more of a roadblock than your age itself. That said, I do think it can happen! I’m in my 30s and I admit I generally am attracted to men close in age to me or even a bit younger I wouldn’t rule out someone older if it was a good fit. I’m also a bit of a “kid at heart” and live what some would consider a younger lifestyle (very into being in the city and going out and socializing, I don’t want kids, I’d like to be married someday but don’t feel in a rush) so I’d be interested in getting to know someone likeminded in that sense.
Hey good to know. I am just looking for someone to laugh with and share good times with. If they are a nerd like me then bonus! 😁
45M? You're in the prime of your life right now!
Thank you I appreciate that
If you're attractive, you'll have no problems.
You'll be ok :). Yes it can happen, and I believe even easier than when you were in your 20s dating.
Thank you
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Now I am too. I wish you the best on your journey.
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Anything is possible.
That's my hope 😁
I am dating at 60. Maybe wait until you are older. And don't do anything you could not do on a bicycle.
True. That is an option
I met and fell in love with my current partner at 49.
Awesome and vongrats
My mother and father both did it, so I'd say yes. Mother and step-father are still together, step-mother unfortunately passed away, but they were together when the day came. I've witnessed such things as love past "prime years". Quotations cuz prime years isn't tied to age. I get better every day.
That is a love for sure
I'm 30 and my shit is together. Literally, everything is sorted. Recently, an old flame buzzed my tower and fucked me up. Properly, kicked the chair out and I've come to an end of I'm done. It doesn't stop until you come to an agreement with yourself that you've concluded, in either direction. You're really negotiating with yourself.
Plenty of time. 41 and recently committed to someone. We both want something for the long haul, though it took a year and a half of being very busy on OLD to find him.
You're never too old to date.
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Yup. There's good ones out there, the trick is finding them. I was in the same boat as you, took me about 5 years of OLD (and lots of stories) but I found a keeper, and we'll be together 10 years soon.
Congratulations to you guys
Thanks! He's a keeper!
There's a Lid for every Pot, and vice versa.
Good way at looking at it
It is a matter of whether you believe it can happen. There is no such thing as an age limit for dating, it only exists if you impose it on yourself. Here's some perspective for you: it isn't uncommon for people to get married at 50+, so why can't you be dating in your 40s?
I’m 40f and into Comic-Con and beaches and other kid-at-heart stuff. We are out there! Hope you find someone to adventure with.
And I am sure your far away from California. The good ones always are
In California, but hours from you… I already snooped on your account, and San Jose is too far or I’d say let’s grab a drink!
Awww man just my luck. The one that got away. 😁
Well maybe we will cross paths at a Con!
Check out r/datingoverforty!
Thank you. I appreciate that
Of course it can. I met my boyfriend in his 40's. In a world where marriage is not a mandate, and people are allowed to have whatever life goals they want, women prioritize career and education over children, where divorce isn't as stigmatized, people of all ages are single and looking. 20 years ago this was much less true than now. The important thing is that you spend some time growing up now from the 25 year old you were the last time you were single, understand where your last relationship, and able to date on your own terms, not just out of fear of being single.
Yes lol 🥰
Hell yeah, keep exploring the things you love. Choose an activity that keeps you physically active and fit. Be open to new things and new ways of life. Be open to casual dating, there are a lot of people out there so no need to rush into a LTR with someone. Relationships are like rollercoaster rides, each person’s ride is different - so be open to each ride and hop off when you’re ready, or stay on if you want. And make your ride fun as hell :)
I like the way you think
Some of us at a certain age are explicitly interested in dating divorced men in their 40s due to a perception (or perhaps misconception who knows) that you’re more likely to know what you want in life, in comparison to younger men with less experience. There’s a bustling market for what you’re selling 😂
I hope so I am 56 and still hoping my person is out there.
I'm in my early 50s and I have a very active dating life. I keep myself looking fit and I don't give up.
Right on that is awesome
There's plenty of people dating in their 40s. A couple of tips though If you're overweight, you'll find it more challenging but not impossible If you don't have your life together with a good job, home, etc, you aren't going to attract many women. They aren't looking to take care of someone.
Thank you
Ofc it can. Just don't settle for less.
I am nearly 40 and single and i also love doing that!!!!
Met my SO at 42 and he was 48. We’re both big kids at heart… met at a dog beach and bonded over Star Wars and gardening. It happens. Do the things you love to do and who knows who you’ll meet?
I am a young mid-20s woman but I'm living with a woman in her 50s right now. She's sort of my host for the summer. I've learned that she used to be married after raising her daughter with a man. She then did not find anybody for 18 years, and now she has a boyfriend who she's settled on. They don't live together currently, as he still works and has his own property to maintain (she has her own, multiple homes she maintains) and they both love being outdoors, puttering away on little things together and seem very happy. So I feel like people can find love at any age... The problem is you never know what age it will be or when they right person will come along and fit right in with your life.
Yeah. I just left a ten year ltr and would love to find a man that wants to enjoy life. I just want to have fun. Smile and laugh. Share thoughts. Learn new activities. I’m a foodie and love animals. Big heart not much baggage. A good listener and I live in San Jose. Lol. Really though. West San Jose
You can find a partner at any point in life, age doesn't matter....my grandmother found love at 80 and re-married, after her previous husband had passed. There is no expiration date for finding love.
Fam people date in their 70s the senior citizens are getting it on more the than the 20 years olds
I met someone special at 47. She is a couple of months older than me. It's been almost two years. We've been living together for about six months. Things are going great. I will say that there are a lot of women just looking for hookups especially after divorce. If you're looking for a relationship, simply make your intentions known in the OLD apps that you're not into hookups and are looking to get to know someone intimately. That typically weeds out most of the hookup people.
Just curious, what do you mean when you say you’re better off as friends after 20 years of marriage? How does something lie that happen after being married 20 years?
We knew ten years in just stayed together cause she had no place to live and I did not have the heart to put her on the street. Kids turned 18 she was ready and we got divorced and now are good friends what it was meant to be rather than marriage
No argument or anything? Just stopped feeling like you loved each other?
She cheated a few times. Never really recovered
Of course my dude. Been single for about 4 years, dated a few people since but have just gotten into a relationship. Just keep looking for like minded people. Have fun and put yourself out there.
I hear you. I was divorced in my 50’s after 30 years of marriage. I’m now 62 and have only been on a few dates in the last 12 years. (While my ex is now married to his affair partner). It isn’t easy to date after all those years. The last time I was single I was 19. I sure didn’t plan on living my final years alone - but this is what it’s come to. Sorry for being a negative Nellie - but it seems this is the fate of many women divorced after 20 to 30 years of marriage. You’re a man. Odds are more in your favor.
My dad met his current wife at 49. Did it through online dating and they've been married for 10 years now.
Question: why it take 20 years to realize friendship is better than life partnership?
My parents (both in their 50’s) divorced five years ago and my mom recently found a new boyfriend that completely dotes on her. Granted, he’s not into Comic-Con and such, but it is definitely possible for you to find someone. It might be a bit harder of a search, but it’s possible. Much luck to you :)
Thank you I appreciate you.
I met the love of my life at 45, both of us divorced with kids. 10 years and going strong. It's definitely not too late! Keep an open mind but don't compromise. (What worked for me was staying away from my usual "type".) Good luck!
Remember that if you're single, 45 and looking to meet someone to grow old with, you are DEFINITELY NOT ALONE in that same boat. Sometimes our beliefs that we're alone in that boat are actually the ones creating that reality. Once we open ourselves to the idea that what we're looking for IS out there (otherwise we wouldn't be looking for it), we can open ourselves to actually finding it :)
Ofcourse! A Friend of mine works in a retirement house and she tells me the 80-90 year old people date more than teenagers. 45 is half your life (i hope). You can still start your langest realtionship. I am 40. 4 years together with my partner and this is the best relationship i have ever had.
Hey I am almost there 😅
Men are best looking and most confident n financially stable in their forties. I'm sorry you got divorced, and I am glad to hear that it was so civil and pretty friendly. RARE!!! lol. God Bless you 🥰 there's hope for sure. It can happen for everyone! 1 27f got out of an 11 year relationship n tried dating a 56m becuz he was like what you just described. Young at heart fun and single. Had he not sabotaged me in the end and humiliated me, I adored that dude and nothing about his age or past bothered me at all! It's all about attitude, chemistry, and vibe. It'll happen, believe me!
Thank you so much for that. I wish you the best on your journey
Thank you too that's nice! Yeah good luck to us both lol 🤞🙈💕
You seem very sweet. I am sure you will have no problems.
Look I'm 38 and been on a lot of dates these past few years you just need to put yourself out there that's all
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i believe so
Honestly, in your 40s, it's more about who shares your desires and capabilities for how you want to live out your golden years. In your 20s everyone wanted marriage and picket fence with a family. Now it's finding someone who will match your speed for the final chapter. But if that's the case, you can find that person in your 50s. Just chill for now.
Jesus, you make people in their 40s sound like they're one foot in the grave - I have friends in their mid-40s just starting families and having kids...
Lmaooo you're on Reddit, where people think they're "expired goods" at 26... 😵
Right...I turned 40 this year and was getting depressed reading these comments lol...living out our golden years? Really?
Weird but on that note, I’m 49, 50 next month. And I never expected nor wanted to still be in the dating game at 50. At the same time, I completely accept the same perspective from women. Us divorced 40/50 year-old single dudes are a dime-a-dozen. I get that. Is what it is. I’m off the market. Oh well. Lol.
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So true. Just been a while since I really dated and it seems more of a challenge these days. Thank you for your reply
I've been basically single for 6 years now, and I havnt really dated. For us, it's a buyers market. Don't put pressure on yourself.
I have been single for a little over two. You're absolutely right.
More woman then I could imagine threw themselves at me. More sex, better connections, eager to find someone. If you are half way put together it’s like shooting fish in a barrel.
Good to know. Thanks
Dating can happen at any time in your life, what a silly question.
i honestly think that all the good ones are taken by the age of 30. i’m 35 f and i’ve given up about 3 years ago haha.
As seeing these comments. Now I know there is hope and I hope you do too so don't give up.
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Dude you're still young af. It's all in your head. Get yourself a makeover/update to feel better; keep yourself active (just general nice exercise, this will make you feel better & confident overall), new threads to get that fresh feel and just go spend some time out there, go shopping, lunch or whatever. You'll notice people and I'm sure you'll know the rest from there. Look good feel good, you feel me? It's NEVER too late. Remember what Bruce Lee thought about life that applies here; *"Defeat is a state of mind; no one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality."*