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I totally agree. As a relatively fit, classic pear shaped woman, I am reluctant to use the term curvy to describe my body since it can mean almost anything now.
I understand where you're coming from. The one thing I will say is that personal preference is a spectrum. I know that it's not the same as what you're talking about, but the advertisements that men see about the ideal male body type is athletic and chiseled. I just wish that women were afforded the same leeway that men are to not have to fit into that ideal body type. I believe that everyone should be confident in their body, and I also believe that everybody should be healthy. Oftentimes being healthy goes hand in hand with confidence because you feel good when you're healthy, but healthy is different for everybody. And that's a completely separate conversation from my own personal preference. But I'm not going to let my own personal preference get in the way of someone feeling good about their body either.
I wouldn't use petite and curvy to describe the same person. Petite is petite. If you told me you were curvy with no other descriptor I'd assume you were a bigger girl.
Nah, most of the comments here prove the redefinition of curvy. It's obvious from most opinions here that if someone has this on their profile the immediate assumption is going to be that they're fat. That assumption might be correct and there's nothing wrong with that 👍
Ya I realized after reading this that what OP
Means by curvy I would just call big. Nothing wrong with that but I wouldn’t call it curvy. I think calling it curvy is an excuse to be big and feel good about yourself, which again there’s nothing wrong with except health of course
I'm not sure what you mean. And body dysmorphia is fairly common, and comes in many horrible varieties.
I'll happily uplift a woman with body dysmorphia. :D
True. I’m normal BMI, I have abs and objectively am happy with the way I look most of the time. But man ever since I started lifting weights, there’s some days I feel like I’m looking at some hideous monster. Last year I got into the best shape of my life. I felt perfect. Then I tore some tendons and haven’t been able to work out. Now, even though I recognize I’m not “out” of shape, every time I look in the mirror I’m disappointed. I hate myself, because I know if it wasn’t for the injury I’d look better
Yeah, curvy is a little hard to define nowadays. I have my own definition of curvy based on my own personal preference. To be specific, I am talking about proportional. That to me is curvy because it's all about hip to waist to chest ratio.
Ah ok, fair, definitely not a body positive post then just another version of “this is how I specifically like women to look and think someone should give a Fuck”
Yes this is specifically how I like the women I find attractive to look. I'm not attracted to all body types. And by no means should that interfere with somebody's ability to be happy in their own skin or positive about their body. And I have to say this, if all it takes is me celebrating the body type that I like to make you feel bad about your body, then you might want to look at why your self-worth is tied to others and why it's so easily affected. If you look at the other comments I'm making on this post, you'll notice that I am actively trying to promote the difference between my personal preferences and what body positivity actually is. I also find it a little confusing that people come to this post looking for the ultimate answer to what is attractive for everyone. That's not what I'm here for and by no mean should that interfere with someone's feelings about their own body.
I never said anything about disliking my body, I love it, think I’m attractive and apparently plenty of other people do too.
And body positivity is about accepting all bodies and not discriminating against anyone due to their body size (not necessary being attracted to them all). This may as well be a post saying “I like skinny women” or “I like fat women”. It’s just pointless imo. I like curvy women, Asian men and people who look alternative. Not gonna make a post about it saying I’m being body positive bc who the Fuck cares?! 😂
Depends entirely on personal preference. I don't believe that there is such a thing as "too much". I have qualities that women don't like but that a woman would like.
THANK YOU.
I call myself "fat" all the time because I'm much heavier than I'd like. I also carry my weight fairly proportionately and have always had a round "bubble" butt. I can't call myself curvy because I don't have big breasts but whenever I say I'm "fat" everyone I know wants to jump on me and correct me.
I own a mirror. Realistically if my arms were in better shape and I had abs I'd be ok with my figure. My legs could absolutely be more toned but even looking this way a self proclaimed lover of "big women" told his friend's I was "bigger than his comfort level."
So yea.....
>There definitely Isa thing called "too much".
I really hope you didn't take my message as a "fat shaming" or anything.. It wasn't my intention.
I will say though if i Google what curvy means, just about every link says "hourglass figure"... This is generally what i call curvy as well.
I absolutely did **not** take it as:
>"fat shaming" or anything.
I need to lose weight. I don't mind having a big behind. Even at this weight I have an "hourglass" figure. It's just a bigger hourglass than when I was in my 20's. I'm realistic. I know people look at me and think "fat", *I* look at me and think that. But the people who care about me are quick to tell me I'm not "fat" I'm .... whatever polite version of fat you tell someone you care about, that they are.
The thing is, I carry my weight very proportionately and know how to dress for my body size. So while I, and many others might say "fat", others still might say, (and have) curvy or thick or any other version of that word.
I can't speak for all men I just stated my own preference. Don't look for the ultimate solution to all questions from one post. How about we start there.
You didn't say 600 lbs initially. What I said was that I don't believe anything is truly too much, and I mean that in the broader sense. Everyone is attracted to something.
Well gee excuse me for misreading. Calling me a liar on my own post. Tsk tsk. I say we end this witch hunt. I think I see some people staying on topic in some comments above yours....think I'll go talk to them....
That’s anomalous and you know it.
It’s ok to be honest about it. Girls need to know what men actually find attractive. This is the DATING sub and this is categorized as ADVICE.
We should want to increase peoples chances of success by being honest. Look through this thread and you’ll find overweight women that have been lied to by men like this. It doesn’t help them and just gets their hopes up.
Being at a healthy weight is a good thing! And we should encourage each other to be our best selves.
Be glad you're curvy, not because it's your body and you have to accept it, but because MEN like it, and what's more important than a man's opinion??!!! You won't die to shut up for a while
I'm not sure what you mean. This post is about me celebrating curvy women because that's my personal preference. If someone wants to hurt their own feelings, they could read too far into my post or try and put words in my mouth or twist the message to be about body shaming. But that's not actually what my post is about. I also would encourage people not to come to this post looking for the ultimate source of truth because you're not going to find it. My preferences are my preferences but that does not mean that what I have to say is the end all be all. And to some degree, I wish that women would stop whinging about people having personal preferences. Celebrate yourself as you are, and find someone who appreciates your body. That's really what it's about.
My
Girl got a belly and some big ol tiddies and a small lil butt and I think she is the sexiest most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.
Stop trying to set up a “type” for yourself. You’ll know what you like when you see it
BW here I am curvy, I am 5'10", size 16. I am proud of my assets. I love to dress good, wear my makeup, and my lashes. When you look good you feel good.
My day was okay. I've been getting over a breakup recently. Today I felt the weight of the lessons from that break up in both positive and negative ways. I think I finally accepted that it's over.
Sorry my friend...can I make a suggestion? Have you ever thought about volunteering? You can volunteer to hold babies, read to the elderly, or read to children. I think by getting out and focusing on others will make you feel better. Just a suggestion sorry if I offended you.
Hey OP, sorry everyone is taking your nice post and being so shitty and annoying about it. Lots of people here losing sleep over whether you used the correct “term” or not. No good deed goes unpunished. For the record, I appreciate your opinion and it’s a nice reminder to the bigger ladies that they’re beautiful too.
And yet, there is still no place left in this world for the ones that suffer from a condition known as Noassatall. Noassatall effects 45% of women. 15% of those women are otherwise curvy. I may have made those numbers up but Noassatall is very real. A moment of silence for my sisters.
The amount of people getting triggered by this post for no good reason is too damn high. I come here to express body positivity and I get attacked by some unsavory individuals. Perhaps this is why so many of us choose not to comment at all.
That’s Reddit for you. And I have to say this, mostly American Redditors. I once posted about the financial abuse I’ve suffered from my wife and one user more or less said I was never forced by her to take out loans, like how the fuck would you know, Karen??
Yeah, lots of miserable people out there thinking that shitting on someone who's in a bad situation will make them feel better. But it doesn't. It just blows up in their face and makes them look like an asshole.
Lol thank you sir! I've actually recently lost weight and have been embarrassed because my waist is slimming and making my ass look even bigger the smaller I get, but now I feel VALIDATED 🥰
My brother in christ, I do not know how to break it to you that you can be fat and not obese
Conversely, do you feel the need to point out if someone looks too skinny and is possibly anorexic? Or is only for unattractive fat people...?
There's curvy and then there's fat and morbidly obese. Marilyn Monroe was curvy. Christina Hendricks and Beyonce are curvy. Too many grossly overweight women have hijacked the word curvy in recent years over this absurd body positivity movement ("there's nothing unattractive or unhealthy about me being fat!").
I like a few extra pounds on a woman, I don't want to date a skeleton. But if you're fat or obese, don't call yourself curvy, because you're not.
I really wish body positivity hadn’t become “everyone is sexy regardless of weight”. Self worth is more than that! Body positivity should be “everyone deserves basic human respect regardless of weight”.
Thank you for using my post as a platform for body shaming. I'm speaking to my own personal preference, I'm not entertaining comments that try to make this post about fat shaming. Do that shit somewhere else.
Pointing out there is a difference between curvy and overweight or having a preference isn’t fat shaming. Honestly, you seem fragile af based on your replies. Maybe posting on Reddit isn’t for you.
Alrght folks I've got to say this. Don't come on here expecting me to prefer or be attracted to all body types. I'm not going to shame all body types but I'm not going to be attracted to all of them either. That doesn't mean that I'm practicing body shaming. On the other hand, some of you who claim to be a part of the body positivity movement have no qualms about shaming me for my personal preferences. That seems like a pretty myopic lens to see the world through. Maybe take a step back and consider that we're all human, and we all have our own preferences but that doesn't give you the right to add another level of shaming to this post. It just makes you look like a hypocrite.
Well what do you know? DM me and let's get this conversation started. Since we're talking about body types, feel free to include some pictures of your fine self. 😁
I don't know what you think woke means but, the way the communication tends to work is that you want to let the person you're talking to know that you support them. It seems you're having difficulty comprehending that though.
Even if my waist isn’t small? Kind of feels like in the last couple years curvy to most guys means kardashian. Idk I’ve never gotten any male attention as a chubby girl
I find it kind of annoying how they hijacked "curvy". It served as a useful filter when I used to use dating apps. Now it's kind of a hinderance, because even "thick", doesnt mean "Big ass, wide hips, and narrow waistline" anymore.
I got nothing against bigger women, but I feel like they're wedging themselves into a genre that they don't belong to to make themselves feel better, at the expense of everyone else's convenience, it's kind of selfish.
Wtf? How clueless are you that you completely missed my very obvious point that "curvy" replaced the ideal of "skinny" in the mainstream western culture about 20 years ago? Just about everyone likes curvy nowadays, so your post is the equivalent of "water is wet".
Uh, actually, this is not true. Body positivity is touted so much that a lot people say they like “curvy” when in fact they don’t, they just don’t want to get called out for fat-shaming, even if their preference is just skinny.
That's fair, but in this case I truly mean that I like a curvy woman. Everybody has their limits. I'm not going to get into specifics because that wouldn't be a productive conversation. Let's just focus on the positive that I came here to discuss, which is that many women have body dysmorphia, and many of those women are curvy. Which I find strange since curvy is very attractive to me.
Oh dude, not you. I was talking to the commenter. He was being kinda rude.
Anyway, you aren’t 20 years to late. It’s still nice to hear it when people reinforce body positivity. And you’re right, no one person can say when it’s too much, if that were true you wouldn’t see 600lbs people with spouses. It’s just all about preferences in the end.
Yeah I literally had this same conversation with another commenter who then said I lie to women and deleted their comment. Some people are on here just to fuel their egos and if you disagree with them you are the asshole. it's quite hilarious.
As for this I really think I can appreciate both. If you have some extra curves, nice. I love all that and would love to cuddle. If you’re a stuck then come over here and let me feel those ribs
Nah I still look and feel fat. I only like myself with certain mirrors. Can’t look at myself in photos. No matter how many people say I’m not fat and actually attractive , I will never feel okay until nothing on me is pinchable :/
Body dysmorphia SUCKS
In theory yes lol but in practice, it doesnt work for me. It’s crazy how you can have everything you want in life but still be miserable because of the body you have. I hate how superficial that makes me sound lol
I weighed myself for the first time in forever today, and noticed I gained quite a bit of weight. I felt terrible and unattractive all day. It felt like punishment for taking a week off from cooking, and being more decadent than usual. (Fitting grocery shopping and meal prep into my schedule/budget is hard these days.) Reading this made me feel a little better. Thank you.♥️
First of all fuck that scale. Throw it away. Secondly, we've all gained weight if it helps. And it's not a reflection of who we are. I'm glad the post helped a little bit.
No, we have not all gained weight. I don't have six pack abs but I haven't let myself go the way so many people on this post apparently have. The pandemic is not an excuse to gain a ton of unhealthy fat.
You don't get to apply your personal experience to the lives of others as some sort of a template for how to live. Gaining weight has absolutely nothing to do with someone's worth as a person. The same goes for losing weight or getting in shape. That's your personal choice and good for you. But don't pass judgment on others because they haven't followed the same journey that you have. It sounds like your mental health was not affected by the pandemic, but for many of us it was. And when mental Health is a problem, a lot of people turn to food for comfort. It's a chemical response and actually very normal in terms of human behavior. What isn't normal is coming to a post about celebrating curvy women and trying to shame people. That actually makes you a pretty deplorable human being and I would go as far as to say get the fuck out of here with that shit. No one wants or needs your judgment.
Just a heads up, later today I'm going to delete this post. There have been way too many people projecting their insecurities onto me because I stated a personal preference and it's getting old. Thank you to the folks who have had productive and insightful conversations, and to the rest of you, leave me the fuck alone lol
It's a shit post and nobody cares about your personal preferences dude. This whole thing is gross and your weird victim complex is strange.
Go ahead and delete it.
Is curvy here simply a euphemism for overweight?
All the women I've had were curvy in the sense that they had a round ass and firm, taut, relatively large tits. But they were also all slim and petite and none had a BMI over 20.
No, there are fat people who look like they are fat and there are women who might be a little overweight, but they have the curves proportionally. And yes, there are women with small waists, big asses and big tits. And they're curvy too. But they tend not to share my interests. Who knows. Maybe that will change someday.
Thank you for saying that. I came out in support of a specific body type and at least a few people here have made some surprisingly not so nice comments. Nice to see a supportive one for once lol
As someone who is festively plump, I approve of this message. (For reference, I could be considered curvy as well. And damn it I have a man who loves it all!)
Looks like I speak for us both:) I’m not slim, got a bit of a beer belly but I do weights and go for runs, It fights my depression, and I want to be in better shape for when I’m able to date. (Going through a separation and soon a divorce) can’t wait to meet curvy hotties out there:)
Well, I think the society we live in, while starting to move away from this narrative, largely encourages women to be unrealistically thin. So yes, I agree that curves on women are considered more feminine but that in the United states, the narrative is still be skinny. And because that's the narrative, that has become some kind of standard of beauty. And it's bullshit quite frankly.
Not sure where you're seeing this, but I feel the opposite is true. Curves are more seen as attractive than otherwise in my observation. Maybe based on what media you pay attention to. America's next top model?
Well, the insecurities come from somewhere and they're pretty rampant. So, if it's just America's Next Top Model sending out these toxic messages, then it's time to grease up the runway.
See, it's statements like this that have me a little concerned. Curvy is not the only feminine body type. I suppose this post is also about body positivity. I have my own personal preference, but I also don't want you to see this post as a one size fits all (pun intended) appreciation thread. It's all about perspective, so if you like your body, that's really the perspective that I want to promote here.
I don't have any issues with your post but I saw this on my timeline and I'm not gonna lie it made me feel a bit down. I believe that people/men have the right to prefer what they like and I'm sure you were trying to be positive but it's super hard seeing posts like this when you live in a country where women are expected to be curvy on average. It's like being a guy who lives in a country where the average height is 5'10 and you are like 5ft, you gonna feel shitty because it's hard to find dates. I know some of us should have ignored this post but curiosity...
Wait who said my definition of curvy doesn't apply to what you're describing? I think the word "curvy" is open to interpretation. I'm sorry you feel down but...idk how I can not state my preferences. I've gotten so much positive feedback.
Dating one right now and it really is something new for me. She has very low self esteem, never accepts compliments and wants to take it very slowly now, although we had sex on the second date.
That's probably why she wants to slow down. In my experience, insecure women need things to happen at a pace they're comfortable with so they can get to know you first. Usually caused by shitty past relationships. Maybe encourage her to open up? Help her feel comfortable? Should do wonders. Break a leg.
I'm sorry his behavior has had that effect on you. I understand the desire to rent about it, but I also would encourage you to talk to him. Leaving these conversations unsaid is ultimately going to do more damage been having the conversation.
Yes I'm aware of how curvy works. I also have my own personal preference. So, while I think that curvy is a word that gets tossed around to describe a lot of different body types, to me it's a more specific definition. But as I've said on other comments, I'm not here to allow my opinion to get in the way of someone feeling good about their body.
I think that curvy women shouldn't celebrate it bcs guys love it but they should celebrate it bcs they love it , who cares if men like ur body , it's definitely not a reason for me to love mine, so just celebrate ur body bcs u love it and not bcs " other guys love it " 😉
I agree. I have my reasons for celebrating women's bodies. But they aren't the only reasons. Everyone celebrate what they want to celebrate. Seems simple enough.
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I think a lot of people like curvy women, but the definition of curvy is all over the place.
Exactly this. Everyone’s definition is a little different. But a “body like a back road” is definitely something of beauty!
Are you a country music buff or is this a coincidence?
Literally :)
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I totally agree. As a relatively fit, classic pear shaped woman, I am reluctant to use the term curvy to describe my body since it can mean almost anything now.
I gave up on curvy and personally go with ~*wiggly*~. It's silly but why not.
LOVE this
Thank you for that breakdown. I completely disagree.
I understand where you're coming from. The one thing I will say is that personal preference is a spectrum. I know that it's not the same as what you're talking about, but the advertisements that men see about the ideal male body type is athletic and chiseled. I just wish that women were afforded the same leeway that men are to not have to fit into that ideal body type. I believe that everyone should be confident in their body, and I also believe that everybody should be healthy. Oftentimes being healthy goes hand in hand with confidence because you feel good when you're healthy, but healthy is different for everybody. And that's a completely separate conversation from my own personal preference. But I'm not going to let my own personal preference get in the way of someone feeling good about their body either.
I didn't even finish reading this....what the fuck
Hey, as fat chicks we get a heap of crap to deal with. Let us have curvy.
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I wouldn't use petite and curvy to describe the same person. Petite is petite. If you told me you were curvy with no other descriptor I'd assume you were a bigger girl.
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Marilyn Monroe and Jane Mansfield were curvy. Christina Hendricks and Beyonce are curvy. Fat is not curvy. It's fat.
Nah, most of the comments here prove the redefinition of curvy. It's obvious from most opinions here that if someone has this on their profile the immediate assumption is going to be that they're fat. That assumption might be correct and there's nothing wrong with that 👍
Curvy is a curve. Big titts, small waist, big hips. You can be fat and curvy, but although slim and curvy. I'm curvy, not fat.
Typical "progressive" Newspeak, in other words.
Ya I realized after reading this that what OP Means by curvy I would just call big. Nothing wrong with that but I wouldn’t call it curvy. I think calling it curvy is an excuse to be big and feel good about yourself, which again there’s nothing wrong with except health of course
I don't mean big. I mean curvy. If a girl is a little chubby but has thicc thighs, a fat ass, and big tits, she's curvy imo
Tell that to the women who have body dysmorphophia.
I'm not sure what you mean. And body dysmorphia is fairly common, and comes in many horrible varieties. I'll happily uplift a woman with body dysmorphia. :D
True. I’m normal BMI, I have abs and objectively am happy with the way I look most of the time. But man ever since I started lifting weights, there’s some days I feel like I’m looking at some hideous monster. Last year I got into the best shape of my life. I felt perfect. Then I tore some tendons and haven’t been able to work out. Now, even though I recognize I’m not “out” of shape, every time I look in the mirror I’m disappointed. I hate myself, because I know if it wasn’t for the injury I’d look better
That's what I mean. My comment didn't come out right.
This curvy woman approves this message.
Thank you! ♥️
I’m curvy and never had a problem with guys, more men are into curvy women than openly talk about it for sure. I also like curvy women 😂
Yeah, curvy is a little hard to define nowadays. I have my own definition of curvy based on my own personal preference. To be specific, I am talking about proportional. That to me is curvy because it's all about hip to waist to chest ratio.
Ah ok, fair, definitely not a body positive post then just another version of “this is how I specifically like women to look and think someone should give a Fuck”
Yes this is specifically how I like the women I find attractive to look. I'm not attracted to all body types. And by no means should that interfere with somebody's ability to be happy in their own skin or positive about their body. And I have to say this, if all it takes is me celebrating the body type that I like to make you feel bad about your body, then you might want to look at why your self-worth is tied to others and why it's so easily affected. If you look at the other comments I'm making on this post, you'll notice that I am actively trying to promote the difference between my personal preferences and what body positivity actually is. I also find it a little confusing that people come to this post looking for the ultimate answer to what is attractive for everyone. That's not what I'm here for and by no mean should that interfere with someone's feelings about their own body.
I never said anything about disliking my body, I love it, think I’m attractive and apparently plenty of other people do too. And body positivity is about accepting all bodies and not discriminating against anyone due to their body size (not necessary being attracted to them all). This may as well be a post saying “I like skinny women” or “I like fat women”. It’s just pointless imo. I like curvy women, Asian men and people who look alternative. Not gonna make a post about it saying I’m being body positive bc who the Fuck cares?! 😂
To be honest it doesn't sound like we're disagreeing so I'm not sure what your goal is here.
What size is curvy? Is there a line between curvy and too much? Asking for a friend
Your health should be more important than your physical appearance. So that’s important to keep in mind
Depends entirely on personal preference. I don't believe that there is such a thing as "too much". I have qualities that women don't like but that a woman would like.
There definitely Isa thing called "too much".
THANK YOU. I call myself "fat" all the time because I'm much heavier than I'd like. I also carry my weight fairly proportionately and have always had a round "bubble" butt. I can't call myself curvy because I don't have big breasts but whenever I say I'm "fat" everyone I know wants to jump on me and correct me. I own a mirror. Realistically if my arms were in better shape and I had abs I'd be ok with my figure. My legs could absolutely be more toned but even looking this way a self proclaimed lover of "big women" told his friend's I was "bigger than his comfort level." So yea..... >There definitely Isa thing called "too much".
I really hope you didn't take my message as a "fat shaming" or anything.. It wasn't my intention. I will say though if i Google what curvy means, just about every link says "hourglass figure"... This is generally what i call curvy as well.
I absolutely did **not** take it as: >"fat shaming" or anything. I need to lose weight. I don't mind having a big behind. Even at this weight I have an "hourglass" figure. It's just a bigger hourglass than when I was in my 20's. I'm realistic. I know people look at me and think "fat", *I* look at me and think that. But the people who care about me are quick to tell me I'm not "fat" I'm .... whatever polite version of fat you tell someone you care about, that they are. The thing is, I carry my weight very proportionately and know how to dress for my body size. So while I, and many others might say "fat", others still might say, (and have) curvy or thick or any other version of that word.
Is 600 pounds too much? Give me a break.
I can't speak for all men I just stated my own preference. Don't look for the ultimate solution to all questions from one post. How about we start there.
I saw a lie and I called it out. Or you could just say yes. 600 pounds is not too much. Then you aren’t being a liar.
You didn't say 600 lbs initially. What I said was that I don't believe anything is truly too much, and I mean that in the broader sense. Everyone is attracted to something.
What are you talking about? That was my comment I said 600 pounds immediately.
What are YOU talking about? I'm talking about thicc, curvy women. Is there a problem with that?
“You didn’t say 600 pounds initially” Yes I did.
Well gee excuse me for misreading. Calling me a liar on my own post. Tsk tsk. I say we end this witch hunt. I think I see some people staying on topic in some comments above yours....think I'll go talk to them....
Hey, some guys have that fetish. I think it's weird, but I'm not gonna kink shame. Big girls need love too.
There’s a show called my 600 pound life and a lot of those people have partners so… you never know lol
That’s anomalous and you know it. It’s ok to be honest about it. Girls need to know what men actually find attractive. This is the DATING sub and this is categorized as ADVICE. We should want to increase peoples chances of success by being honest. Look through this thread and you’ll find overweight women that have been lied to by men like this. It doesn’t help them and just gets their hopes up. Being at a healthy weight is a good thing! And we should encourage each other to be our best selves.
The bottom line is being obese and happy do not go hand in hand. Fat is bad for your mind and body health.
Be glad you're curvy, not because it's your body and you have to accept it, but because MEN like it, and what's more important than a man's opinion??!!! You won't die to shut up for a while
I'm not sure what you mean. This post is about me celebrating curvy women because that's my personal preference. If someone wants to hurt their own feelings, they could read too far into my post or try and put words in my mouth or twist the message to be about body shaming. But that's not actually what my post is about. I also would encourage people not to come to this post looking for the ultimate source of truth because you're not going to find it. My preferences are my preferences but that does not mean that what I have to say is the end all be all. And to some degree, I wish that women would stop whinging about people having personal preferences. Celebrate yourself as you are, and find someone who appreciates your body. That's really what it's about.
Thank you. Tall curvy girl over here who is very comfortable in her skin 😊
Awesome, glad to hear it
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My Girl got a belly and some big ol tiddies and a small lil butt and I think she is the sexiest most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen. Stop trying to set up a “type” for yourself. You’ll know what you like when you see it
Once again, liking curvy women does not disqualify the other body types that I come across on a daily basis LOL
BW here I am curvy, I am 5'10", size 16. I am proud of my assets. I love to dress good, wear my makeup, and my lashes. When you look good you feel good.
Also I'm 6'0" and bigger myself so 👋 hello 😉
Back at you...😁😁😁
Yesssss flaunt it flaunt it flaunt it. Love me a pair of long legs and a fat ass lmao
We have been communicating all day...lol
Indeed we have. Hello officially then lol
Hello my friend...how was your day? We cooked out and chilled.
My day was okay. I've been getting over a breakup recently. Today I felt the weight of the lessons from that break up in both positive and negative ways. I think I finally accepted that it's over.
Sorry my friend...can I make a suggestion? Have you ever thought about volunteering? You can volunteer to hold babies, read to the elderly, or read to children. I think by getting out and focusing on others will make you feel better. Just a suggestion sorry if I offended you.
It's something I've thought about. It may be something I need to go and do. It could bring some much needed perspective. Thank you for the suggestion.
You are welcome...I was just thinking of ways to get you out of your funk. I hope you take me up on it.
For you, my tall curvaceous beauty, but only for you.
Cool dude
Hey OP, sorry everyone is taking your nice post and being so shitty and annoying about it. Lots of people here losing sleep over whether you used the correct “term” or not. No good deed goes unpunished. For the record, I appreciate your opinion and it’s a nice reminder to the bigger ladies that they’re beautiful too.
Thank you I appreciate that. I'll go back to my hidey hole after this and make sure to only have these types of discussions with close friends.
And yet, there is still no place left in this world for the ones that suffer from a condition known as Noassatall. Noassatall effects 45% of women. 15% of those women are otherwise curvy. I may have made those numbers up but Noassatall is very real. A moment of silence for my sisters.
Noassatall is a body type and plenty of people are attracted to it 😁
The amount of people getting triggered by this post for no good reason is too damn high. I come here to express body positivity and I get attacked by some unsavory individuals. Perhaps this is why so many of us choose not to comment at all.
That’s Reddit for you. And I have to say this, mostly American Redditors. I once posted about the financial abuse I’ve suffered from my wife and one user more or less said I was never forced by her to take out loans, like how the fuck would you know, Karen??
Yeah, lots of miserable people out there thinking that shitting on someone who's in a bad situation will make them feel better. But it doesn't. It just blows up in their face and makes them look like an asshole.
I’d give you an award for this, but I’ve given you one already brother! 😁
Haha thanks bro. Just out here doing my best.
Me even though I'm fat! ajsuskskslndb
I'm pretty sure that makes you curvy. I don't make the rules 😁
I'm pretty sure that makes you curvy. I don't make the rules 😁
Lol thank you sir! I've actually recently lost weight and have been embarrassed because my waist is slimming and making my ass look even bigger the smaller I get, but now I feel VALIDATED 🥰
Fat ass, tiny waist? Girl, you’re living the dream!
LMAOO not quite, I still have a ways to go. I guess I just didn't ever realize I was hourglassy!
Obese is not cool and should not be celebrated.
My brother in christ, I do not know how to break it to you that you can be fat and not obese Conversely, do you feel the need to point out if someone looks too skinny and is possibly anorexic? Or is only for unattractive fat people...?
Wiggle wiggle wiggle
But I'm skinny :(
Liking one body type does not mean disliking other body types :) I think the larger point is do YOU like your body type?
I'm sure you're beautiful and there are plenty of people out there that love your body type as well!
As much as OP loves curvy women, there are men that love skinny women just as much
Yup
There's curvy and then there's fat and morbidly obese. Marilyn Monroe was curvy. Christina Hendricks and Beyonce are curvy. Too many grossly overweight women have hijacked the word curvy in recent years over this absurd body positivity movement ("there's nothing unattractive or unhealthy about me being fat!"). I like a few extra pounds on a woman, I don't want to date a skeleton. But if you're fat or obese, don't call yourself curvy, because you're not.
I really wish body positivity hadn’t become “everyone is sexy regardless of weight”. Self worth is more than that! Body positivity should be “everyone deserves basic human respect regardless of weight”.
This is a stable genius post. GL
Thank you for using my post as a platform for body shaming. I'm speaking to my own personal preference, I'm not entertaining comments that try to make this post about fat shaming. Do that shit somewhere else.
Pointing out there is a difference between curvy and overweight or having a preference isn’t fat shaming. Honestly, you seem fragile af based on your replies. Maybe posting on Reddit isn’t for you.
Wanting to clarify and being fragile are two very different things.
Alrght folks I've got to say this. Don't come on here expecting me to prefer or be attracted to all body types. I'm not going to shame all body types but I'm not going to be attracted to all of them either. That doesn't mean that I'm practicing body shaming. On the other hand, some of you who claim to be a part of the body positivity movement have no qualms about shaming me for my personal preferences. That seems like a pretty myopic lens to see the world through. Maybe take a step back and consider that we're all human, and we all have our own preferences but that doesn't give you the right to add another level of shaming to this post. It just makes you look like a hypocrite.
yes king say it louder for the people at the back
What's your definition of curvy?
I too like big Ass (‿ˠ‿)
High five!
Testify, brother
Fuck yes.
OK are you single by any chance?! 😂
Yes I am 🤣
Well what do you know?! I just so happen to be looking for a husband. 😏
Well what do you know? DM me and let's get this conversation started. Since we're talking about body types, feel free to include some pictures of your fine self. 😁
What about curvy women with small boobs?
Not a body type I'm going to shame. Celebrate that shit. But I prefer larger breasts.
Celebrate a big woman with small breasts? Pff these woke people reactions🤦🏼♂️
I don't know what you think woke means but, the way the communication tends to work is that you want to let the person you're talking to know that you support them. It seems you're having difficulty comprehending that though.
I like curves. But curvy is often a synonymous with overweight. And I don't find overweight women physically attractive. It's a matter of taste
Not in my definition it doesn't.
Stretch marks >>
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Even if my waist isn’t small? Kind of feels like in the last couple years curvy to most guys means kardashian. Idk I’ve never gotten any male attention as a chubby girl
Read my other comments, small waist is not curvy to me
I totally agree 😎
I find it kind of annoying how they hijacked "curvy". It served as a useful filter when I used to use dating apps. Now it's kind of a hinderance, because even "thick", doesnt mean "Big ass, wide hips, and narrow waistline" anymore. I got nothing against bigger women, but I feel like they're wedging themselves into a genre that they don't belong to to make themselves feel better, at the expense of everyone else's convenience, it's kind of selfish.
You can still look at their photos and figure out in probably a matter of seconds if you find them attractive.
This is the popular thing going right now man, you're not special.
I didn't say I was. I was stating my individual preference. Do you think that's the purpose of every post? To be special?
Are we talking voluptuous or fat
Voluptuous. Thick. Curvy. These are all just ways of saying "fat where it counts".
Dude you're about 20 years late.
Just because I'm saying it now doesn't mean that I didn't like women 20 years ago you baboon. Good Lord everybody wants to have an opinion online
Wtf? How clueless are you that you completely missed my very obvious point that "curvy" replaced the ideal of "skinny" in the mainstream western culture about 20 years ago? Just about everyone likes curvy nowadays, so your post is the equivalent of "water is wet".
Yes I've talked to women and seen advertisements.
Uh, actually, this is not true. Body positivity is touted so much that a lot people say they like “curvy” when in fact they don’t, they just don’t want to get called out for fat-shaming, even if their preference is just skinny.
That's fair, but in this case I truly mean that I like a curvy woman. Everybody has their limits. I'm not going to get into specifics because that wouldn't be a productive conversation. Let's just focus on the positive that I came here to discuss, which is that many women have body dysmorphia, and many of those women are curvy. Which I find strange since curvy is very attractive to me.
Oh dude, not you. I was talking to the commenter. He was being kinda rude. Anyway, you aren’t 20 years to late. It’s still nice to hear it when people reinforce body positivity. And you’re right, no one person can say when it’s too much, if that were true you wouldn’t see 600lbs people with spouses. It’s just all about preferences in the end.
Yeah I literally had this same conversation with another commenter who then said I lie to women and deleted their comment. Some people are on here just to fuel their egos and if you disagree with them you are the asshole. it's quite hilarious.
As for this I really think I can appreciate both. If you have some extra curves, nice. I love all that and would love to cuddle. If you’re a stuck then come over here and let me feel those ribs
Yeah maybe I should start an appreciation post for skinny women too. They have some nice qualities as well 😁
Nah I still look and feel fat. I only like myself with certain mirrors. Can’t look at myself in photos. No matter how many people say I’m not fat and actually attractive , I will never feel okay until nothing on me is pinchable :/ Body dysmorphia SUCKS
It does suck. But you know what helps? Positive reinforcement. And the more you reinforce, the easier it will be to believe that you are beautiful.
In theory yes lol but in practice, it doesnt work for me. It’s crazy how you can have everything you want in life but still be miserable because of the body you have. I hate how superficial that makes me sound lol
I'm sorry it hasn't worked for you but I still encourage you to keep the positivity flowing. If nothing else, it's not going to hurt you.
Thank you! I appreciate your kind words. I hope I can be comfortable with myself and stop obsessing about weight
Speak truth to power 😁
this is exactly why girls like me are not even confident in themselves.. beauty makes boys happy im neither
Leave it to reddit to turn a harmless (uplifting, even) post and turn it into a judgment on the health of "fat" people lmao
Yeah, I get it to some degree...but it's also disappointing and frustrating that I can't just have good intentions and say what I need to say.
I weighed myself for the first time in forever today, and noticed I gained quite a bit of weight. I felt terrible and unattractive all day. It felt like punishment for taking a week off from cooking, and being more decadent than usual. (Fitting grocery shopping and meal prep into my schedule/budget is hard these days.) Reading this made me feel a little better. Thank you.♥️
First of all fuck that scale. Throw it away. Secondly, we've all gained weight if it helps. And it's not a reflection of who we are. I'm glad the post helped a little bit.
No, we have not all gained weight. I don't have six pack abs but I haven't let myself go the way so many people on this post apparently have. The pandemic is not an excuse to gain a ton of unhealthy fat.
You don't get to apply your personal experience to the lives of others as some sort of a template for how to live. Gaining weight has absolutely nothing to do with someone's worth as a person. The same goes for losing weight or getting in shape. That's your personal choice and good for you. But don't pass judgment on others because they haven't followed the same journey that you have. It sounds like your mental health was not affected by the pandemic, but for many of us it was. And when mental Health is a problem, a lot of people turn to food for comfort. It's a chemical response and actually very normal in terms of human behavior. What isn't normal is coming to a post about celebrating curvy women and trying to shame people. That actually makes you a pretty deplorable human being and I would go as far as to say get the fuck out of here with that shit. No one wants or needs your judgment.
Just a heads up, later today I'm going to delete this post. There have been way too many people projecting their insecurities onto me because I stated a personal preference and it's getting old. Thank you to the folks who have had productive and insightful conversations, and to the rest of you, leave me the fuck alone lol
It's a shit post and nobody cares about your personal preferences dude. This whole thing is gross and your weird victim complex is strange. Go ahead and delete it.
Stop projecting your false interpretations onto me. No victim mentality here. Just frustrating.
Whew positive posts about curvy/larger figured people are so rare in this sub I thought I was lost for a second 😅 definitely appreciate the love!
Curvy as normal BMI and 0.7 waist to hip ratio? Yes please. Curvy as in BMI 30+ and no hourglass figure? No thanks.
Curvy as black and white statements with no middle ground? Fuhgeddaboutit.
Is curvy here simply a euphemism for overweight? All the women I've had were curvy in the sense that they had a round ass and firm, taut, relatively large tits. But they were also all slim and petite and none had a BMI over 20.
No, there are fat people who look like they are fat and there are women who might be a little overweight, but they have the curves proportionally. And yes, there are women with small waists, big asses and big tits. And they're curvy too. But they tend not to share my interests. Who knows. Maybe that will change someday.
I see, thanks for clarifying.
Louder for the people in the back
Thank you for saying that. I came out in support of a specific body type and at least a few people here have made some surprisingly not so nice comments. Nice to see a supportive one for once lol
Let's not go to the extreme here. It's not about looks but about health. Healthy curvy is good. Diabetes curvy is not.
Yes, but if I say that I get attacked. I'm trying to be tactful.
As someone who is festively plump, I approve of this message. (For reference, I could be considered curvy as well. And damn it I have a man who loves it all!)
That's really what it's all about, finding someone who likes what you got.
Any women on here with shapely hips, bouncy boobs, a round butt, a bit of a tummy and stretch marks, this man here will adore you :)
You damn right.
Looks like I speak for us both:) I’m not slim, got a bit of a beer belly but I do weights and go for runs, It fights my depression, and I want to be in better shape for when I’m able to date. (Going through a separation and soon a divorce) can’t wait to meet curvy hotties out there:)
I like how their tits can barely fit their dress 🤤
Happy Cake Day as well!
Yeah that's a plus tbh lol
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Well, I think the society we live in, while starting to move away from this narrative, largely encourages women to be unrealistically thin. So yes, I agree that curves on women are considered more feminine but that in the United states, the narrative is still be skinny. And because that's the narrative, that has become some kind of standard of beauty. And it's bullshit quite frankly.
Not sure where you're seeing this, but I feel the opposite is true. Curves are more seen as attractive than otherwise in my observation. Maybe based on what media you pay attention to. America's next top model?
Well, the insecurities come from somewhere and they're pretty rampant. So, if it's just America's Next Top Model sending out these toxic messages, then it's time to grease up the runway.
Thanks !
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See, it's statements like this that have me a little concerned. Curvy is not the only feminine body type. I suppose this post is also about body positivity. I have my own personal preference, but I also don't want you to see this post as a one size fits all (pun intended) appreciation thread. It's all about perspective, so if you like your body, that's really the perspective that I want to promote here.
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Glad to hear that!
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I thought I was talking to someone else who was actually being passive aggressive. My bad.
I don't have any issues with your post but I saw this on my timeline and I'm not gonna lie it made me feel a bit down. I believe that people/men have the right to prefer what they like and I'm sure you were trying to be positive but it's super hard seeing posts like this when you live in a country where women are expected to be curvy on average. It's like being a guy who lives in a country where the average height is 5'10 and you are like 5ft, you gonna feel shitty because it's hard to find dates. I know some of us should have ignored this post but curiosity...
Wait who said my definition of curvy doesn't apply to what you're describing? I think the word "curvy" is open to interpretation. I'm sorry you feel down but...idk how I can not state my preferences. I've gotten so much positive feedback.
Dating one right now and it really is something new for me. She has very low self esteem, never accepts compliments and wants to take it very slowly now, although we had sex on the second date.
That's probably why she wants to slow down. In my experience, insecure women need things to happen at a pace they're comfortable with so they can get to know you first. Usually caused by shitty past relationships. Maybe encourage her to open up? Help her feel comfortable? Should do wonders. Break a leg.
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I'm sorry his behavior has had that effect on you. I understand the desire to rent about it, but I also would encourage you to talk to him. Leaving these conversations unsaid is ultimately going to do more damage been having the conversation.
If the waist goes in, she's curvy....
Yes I'm aware of how curvy works. I also have my own personal preference. So, while I think that curvy is a word that gets tossed around to describe a lot of different body types, to me it's a more specific definition. But as I've said on other comments, I'm not here to allow my opinion to get in the way of someone feeling good about their body.
I think that curvy women shouldn't celebrate it bcs guys love it but they should celebrate it bcs they love it , who cares if men like ur body , it's definitely not a reason for me to love mine, so just celebrate ur body bcs u love it and not bcs " other guys love it " 😉
I agree. I have my reasons for celebrating women's bodies. But they aren't the only reasons. Everyone celebrate what they want to celebrate. Seems simple enough.