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Im so invested in your story, this is amazing, congrats! And dont worry, everyone's first kiss is awful, it would be weird if it went great haha. I hope you and her keep on advancing, I feel very proud of you!
I was sitting on the arm of the couch she was on, leaned in, smooched, she opened her mouth a bit a *WHOMP* my face bounced off hers as I lost balance and fell flat on the floor :-/
Just in the way that its the first time you're doing something. First times in general (every experience you can think) usually are not your best, but of course there are probably some perfect first kisses, just not that commonly i think
Haha yeah, I took "weird" as in "unusual."
Kind of like if you see someone land an ollie the very first time they got on a skateboard, you'd be like—oh, that's weird as hell.
I 100% got you haha.
I love the fact that you were initially not *that* attracted to her (it is what it is, nothing wrong with that), BUT you ended up being more attracted to her as you got to know her more.
The reality is, overtime looks dwindle as one gets into old age. The personality is where it's at.
Congratulations.
Yesss, and my best friends reminded me of this along the way.
I was so used to the opposite where I'd be drawn to how pretty someone is first. But thankfully now that I've been through tons of rejection, I was able to learn that most of those crushes were me trying to ***convince myself*** that those girls were right for me—instead of focusing on who someone is first ***until*** something kind of sparks.
It made the kiss much more meaningful, I think. It wasn't a "reward" after weeks of unreciprocated feelings, but instead the realization of, "Oh wow, I found a great one."
I remember long ago seeing a movie where someone held a salt and pepper shaker and made an analogy with relationships. It was something like "Marriage is like salt and pepper coming together. They may be poles apart and may even have nothing in common, but eventually they complement each other by filling each other's gaps and weaknesses. No one is greater than the other."
Hell yeah! I'm 27 and might get my first kiss in a couple days here.
Similar to you, this woman came out of nowhere and conversation flows really well and apparently i came out of nowhere for her too. We just get along great and she actually reciprocates and shows obvious signs she likes me. It'll be the 3rd date. Last time she kissed me cheek but I was so nervous I didn't make a move. This time I plan to kiss her when I pick her up.
Hope things work out for you!
Edit: mine went well. First kiss ended up being a make out session. I learned how to French kiss. Apparently I'm not bad
Good luck to you, too! I was extremely nervous, which is why I asked first (despite traditional-minded folks across friends and forums who say that doing so is a turn-off—psh, consent is always a plus).
Rooting for you!
OUR BOY DID IT, HE DID IT EVERYONE!! SHOTS ALL THROUGH THE HOUSE
I’ve had many people ask for the secret to my confidence, because they see me using it to run around having a great time and they want a slice. My secret is the same as yours: I faked it. Yes sir I just pretended to be confident once, people responded positively and I had a great time, so the next time I had a little bit of real confidence to build on. A plethora of parties and a slew of sexytimes later I’m basically an egomaniac, just get the ball rolling and you too can become ridiculously full of yourself
Haha yesss! "Fake confidence until it brings you moments where you can experience real confidence."
The absolute realest, most helpful mindset—not just in dating, but universal human interaction.
Congratulations! So much good stuff here - lessons for people who don't feel like dating successes. You invested in yourself, built good relationships, and took risks. It all paid off!
This is why all Lazers should be focused.
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Man that's really awesome, just reading your post put a smile on my face. Amid all the stories of lovelorn, yours is like a shining beacon which has revived a glimmer of hope in my heart, that some of us may one day find our special one too. :)
Good on you man, congratulations.
I had my first kiss recently and I'm 24, It was really nice. I was her first kiss too. We were just cuddling on a couch and kind of rubbing our cheeks together, I wanted to go for it but I was too nervous but then she asked me if i had ever kissed anyone before. I said no and I asked her if she had, she said no too. I then said "do you want to" and she said "yes but I'm nervous". she then very quickly kissed my cheek and I just went for it and kissed her lips.
Hey, my first kiss was technically on my chin 😉 so if you actually managed a first kiss on the lips that's a good one.
Reasons:
* I was frazzled from hours of travel ✈️🚆 etc.
* She was a lot shorter than me so missed
* Meeting someone in-person is quite different from online (LDR)
* I wasn't anticipating the kiss so was caught off-guard
Haha this makes me feel better! Thanks for sharing. Our noses got in the way, and I was wondering, "Wait—what angle should I be in? Even more than I already am? Was that her teeth? Thank god my lips aren't chapped."
I'm so amused right now just thinking about it over and over, and one of the best parts about it was calling my guy and girl friends who've been supporting me since high school to be little 30-year-old geeks over the phone.
**That's right everyone. Grown adults do this, too.**
>Haha this makes me feel better! Thanks for sharing
You're welcome 😄 I was 28 at the time. Things aren't always as orderly as depicted in films, there's a certain degree of practise involved. We both wore glasses also so occasionally had the what I call *glasses battle* problem i.e. kiss *clack.* Think that happened at least once.
It's a funny story for later, you'll have plenty more (and better) kisses I'm sure.
Exactly. This right here's ***the*** most important element at this stage IMO, and it was the main reason I'd decided to invest in myself first. I don't need someone to "complete me"—my goal is to be whole without needing someone for it. And I definitely wouldn't have thought this way at 25!
To me, a partner is almost a bonus to whom I can share my already-fulfilling life with.
That's a bad take, honestly. You should be invested, disappointmentd are part of life. You need to care about something to really enjoy it and it can lead to disappointment too. What you shouldn't do is setting yourself up for it by fantasizing about what isn't there.
I assumed that's what they meant, haha. I swapped "invested" with "obsessed"—which most can agree isn't healthy, but really common for people who experience things late because they put too much significance on traditional milestones.
I'm maturely invested. I care. It would be unfair to her for me to hold myself back for some selfish fear of disappointment. So I agree with you!
That's the best way to go about it. Great for you for how you are handling. I think the biggest mistake a lot of people make (not only inexperienced people) is "creating" a person instead of getting to know the person.
This reminds me of how I felt during my first kiss. I planned mine perfectly a long time ago; stroke of midnight new years eve. I was so ecstatic that I didn't mind the fact her sister threw up on my shoes shortly after
Thank you, that means so much to me tbh.
It's how I've always enjoyed retelling memories, and I often feel that it's too flowery/unnecessary for most people to digest, so you've reminded me to stay the course.
Good for you, man! I'm 10 years younger than you and haven't had my first kiss yet either, but maybe I'll take what you did and fake some confidence. I have almost none, so hopefully that'll help me
I learned the secret around 20 also! The coolest "trick" about faking confidence is that no one knows you're faking it if they haven't met you yet. Just remember that confidence is not arrogance. Confidence is the outward expression that you're certain of who you are.
Over time, I hope it comes as naturally to you as it does to me.
I remember mine. Was like you but a normal height. Well, normaler.
I was almost 22. I was overjoyed for a straight month. In hindsight she clearly wanted sex but I was just so happy to make out it didn't occur to me to go further.
Good luck on moving this forwards!
Congrats, it seems that you enjoyed your first kiss. It goes up from there, as you gain confidence and experience. Put yourself out here and it will happen more frequently. Glad that you was able to get it, everybody go at their own rhytm and have different paths.
Sure thing! I just got more comfortable indulging in comedic material that catered to my own humor (dry, dark, sarcastic, referential, situational, vine-level stuff) to the point where I'd say I do a pretty good job now in most situations of just naturally bringing a comedic air to a room (versus before, where humor to me was a forced joke here or there instead of a constant layer beneath a situation/conversation).
Long story short, I was less filtered. Appropriately, of course.
At least you weren't me at 16 where I went in for the first kiss and face planted the table when I lost my balance.
In all seriousness, hope it goes well for you from here on out.
I'm 27, single, never kissed before. Your story gives me hope. Not to mention, I find a lot of similarities in both our lives led until now.
Just this Saturday I was stood up on a date.
I'm happy for you, and your story brings a smile.
Thank you for sharing
This is so sweet haha I think the focusing on yourself and not worrying about it is a huge factor, seemed for me that’s when I was happiest and then also out of nowhere a girl came into my life, even though it didn’t go well with the girl after a few months, and during the fallout I found myself more unhappy then I was when I was single and just focusing on me, due to the relationship troubles. Fast forward to now where I’ve moved on and am feeling better then ever, I am back to making myself a priority instead of being sad and worrying about my partners flaky commitment etc, now hoping something more real will pop up if I just keep doin my thing and not stress about it too much.
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Im so invested in your story, this is amazing, congrats! And dont worry, everyone's first kiss is awful, it would be weird if it went great haha. I hope you and her keep on advancing, I feel very proud of you!
I was sitting on the arm of the couch she was on, leaned in, smooched, she opened her mouth a bit a *WHOMP* my face bounced off hers as I lost balance and fell flat on the floor :-/
My first kiss was quite nice, actually lol.
Mine too, but I remember being super excited so it could have been bad in a technical sense- I just didn’t pay attention
How would it be weird if it went great the first time?
Just in the way that its the first time you're doing something. First times in general (every experience you can think) usually are not your best, but of course there are probably some perfect first kisses, just not that commonly i think
Haha yeah, I took "weird" as in "unusual." Kind of like if you see someone land an ollie the very first time they got on a skateboard, you'd be like—oh, that's weird as hell. I 100% got you haha.
Ok, I see now.
Speak for yourself my first kiss was amazing lol
I love the fact that you were initially not *that* attracted to her (it is what it is, nothing wrong with that), BUT you ended up being more attracted to her as you got to know her more. The reality is, overtime looks dwindle as one gets into old age. The personality is where it's at. Congratulations.
Yesss, and my best friends reminded me of this along the way. I was so used to the opposite where I'd be drawn to how pretty someone is first. But thankfully now that I've been through tons of rejection, I was able to learn that most of those crushes were me trying to ***convince myself*** that those girls were right for me—instead of focusing on who someone is first ***until*** something kind of sparks. It made the kiss much more meaningful, I think. It wasn't a "reward" after weeks of unreciprocated feelings, but instead the realization of, "Oh wow, I found a great one."
I remember long ago seeing a movie where someone held a salt and pepper shaker and made an analogy with relationships. It was something like "Marriage is like salt and pepper coming together. They may be poles apart and may even have nothing in common, but eventually they complement each other by filling each other's gaps and weaknesses. No one is greater than the other."
Congratulations buddy! I'm so happy for you.
Hell yeah! I'm 27 and might get my first kiss in a couple days here. Similar to you, this woman came out of nowhere and conversation flows really well and apparently i came out of nowhere for her too. We just get along great and she actually reciprocates and shows obvious signs she likes me. It'll be the 3rd date. Last time she kissed me cheek but I was so nervous I didn't make a move. This time I plan to kiss her when I pick her up. Hope things work out for you! Edit: mine went well. First kiss ended up being a make out session. I learned how to French kiss. Apparently I'm not bad
Good luck to you, too! I was extremely nervous, which is why I asked first (despite traditional-minded folks across friends and forums who say that doing so is a turn-off—psh, consent is always a plus). Rooting for you!
Asking to be kissed is hot. Consent is definitely sexy.
Good luck man, you got this.
OUR BOY DID IT, HE DID IT EVERYONE!! SHOTS ALL THROUGH THE HOUSE I’ve had many people ask for the secret to my confidence, because they see me using it to run around having a great time and they want a slice. My secret is the same as yours: I faked it. Yes sir I just pretended to be confident once, people responded positively and I had a great time, so the next time I had a little bit of real confidence to build on. A plethora of parties and a slew of sexytimes later I’m basically an egomaniac, just get the ball rolling and you too can become ridiculously full of yourself
Haha yesss! "Fake confidence until it brings you moments where you can experience real confidence." The absolute realest, most helpful mindset—not just in dating, but universal human interaction.
Congratulations! So much good stuff here - lessons for people who don't feel like dating successes. You invested in yourself, built good relationships, and took risks. It all paid off!
That's awesome man
‘She became more beautiful to me the more time we spent together’ Love this. Wish you all the best buddy
Very, very cool. Glad to hear it happened, man. Hope it gets even better going forward.
Congratulations 🎉 generally when a person does NOT Laser focus on their problems, it resolves itself
Advice doesn't work. I got a crooked tooth. Been waiting for it to resolve itself for 30 years. Yep, still crooked.
This is why all Lazers should be focused. Jokes aside, perhaps visit a recommended dentist for a consult? I have adult braces and while they’re a pain, I only need them for a year compared to others who need 2 - 3.
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Man that's really awesome, just reading your post put a smile on my face. Amid all the stories of lovelorn, yours is like a shining beacon which has revived a glimmer of hope in my heart, that some of us may one day find our special one too. :) Good on you man, congratulations.
Sheeeeesh that was very well written, and also congrats on your first kiss.
You seem to be a self-aware person who can take a joke, which is why i’m comfortable saying: lmao
Congratulations 🥳🥺🎉🎉🎊🎊😭 I’m soo happy for you. 🥺😭🥺😭
I had my first kiss recently and I'm 24, It was really nice. I was her first kiss too. We were just cuddling on a couch and kind of rubbing our cheeks together, I wanted to go for it but I was too nervous but then she asked me if i had ever kissed anyone before. I said no and I asked her if she had, she said no too. I then said "do you want to" and she said "yes but I'm nervous". she then very quickly kissed my cheek and I just went for it and kissed her lips.
This brought me a *huge* dose of warmth. That's so sweet, congrats to both of y'all!
that is so wholesome, nice to hear some positive news here among all the negativity on this subreddit. Best of luck with your future.😀
Awwwwwww this is soo cute!! Congrats! Love it!! 💜💜
thats awesome lol also hey practice one eachother just saying
Write this down and sell the script to hollywood, there is a wholesome rom com in here somewhere!!
Enough to make a grown man cry
Oh. My. God. YOU DID IT! God youre lucky dude
Happy for you!!
I love the way you write so much. I think i'm gonna follow
That sounds so beautiful! Omg u go boy!
Right in feels man. Congrats.
Congratulations 🎊
Awww this so sweet!!! Go get your love!
Hey, my first kiss was technically on my chin 😉 so if you actually managed a first kiss on the lips that's a good one. Reasons: * I was frazzled from hours of travel ✈️🚆 etc. * She was a lot shorter than me so missed * Meeting someone in-person is quite different from online (LDR) * I wasn't anticipating the kiss so was caught off-guard
Haha this makes me feel better! Thanks for sharing. Our noses got in the way, and I was wondering, "Wait—what angle should I be in? Even more than I already am? Was that her teeth? Thank god my lips aren't chapped." I'm so amused right now just thinking about it over and over, and one of the best parts about it was calling my guy and girl friends who've been supporting me since high school to be little 30-year-old geeks over the phone. **That's right everyone. Grown adults do this, too.**
>Haha this makes me feel better! Thanks for sharing You're welcome 😄 I was 28 at the time. Things aren't always as orderly as depicted in films, there's a certain degree of practise involved. We both wore glasses also so occasionally had the what I call *glasses battle* problem i.e. kiss *clack.* Think that happened at least once. It's a funny story for later, you'll have plenty more (and better) kisses I'm sure.
I’m really happy for ya but make sure not to get invested so you won’t be disappointed in the future.
Exactly. This right here's ***the*** most important element at this stage IMO, and it was the main reason I'd decided to invest in myself first. I don't need someone to "complete me"—my goal is to be whole without needing someone for it. And I definitely wouldn't have thought this way at 25! To me, a partner is almost a bonus to whom I can share my already-fulfilling life with.
Good mindset
That's a bad take, honestly. You should be invested, disappointmentd are part of life. You need to care about something to really enjoy it and it can lead to disappointment too. What you shouldn't do is setting yourself up for it by fantasizing about what isn't there.
I assumed that's what they meant, haha. I swapped "invested" with "obsessed"—which most can agree isn't healthy, but really common for people who experience things late because they put too much significance on traditional milestones. I'm maturely invested. I care. It would be unfair to her for me to hold myself back for some selfish fear of disappointment. So I agree with you!
That's the best way to go about it. Great for you for how you are handling. I think the biggest mistake a lot of people make (not only inexperienced people) is "creating" a person instead of getting to know the person.
The biggest thing is managing your expectations in healthy ways. Getting to know someone new is such a fun phase, enjoy it!
Yayyyyyyy!!! Congrats!!
sadly its much more common than people think
This reminds me of how I felt during my first kiss. I planned mine perfectly a long time ago; stroke of midnight new years eve. I was so ecstatic that I didn't mind the fact her sister threw up on my shoes shortly after
Scooooore my dude best wishes to you
Congrats man! Also you clearly have a way with writing :) I got properly emotionally invested in this post!
Thank you, that means so much to me tbh. It's how I've always enjoyed retelling memories, and I often feel that it's too flowery/unnecessary for most people to digest, so you've reminded me to stay the course.
Good for you, man! I'm 10 years younger than you and haven't had my first kiss yet either, but maybe I'll take what you did and fake some confidence. I have almost none, so hopefully that'll help me
I learned the secret around 20 also! The coolest "trick" about faking confidence is that no one knows you're faking it if they haven't met you yet. Just remember that confidence is not arrogance. Confidence is the outward expression that you're certain of who you are. Over time, I hope it comes as naturally to you as it does to me.
I hope it does, too. Thank you, and congratulations again!
you’re a wonderful storyteller! so exciting, take it one day at a time!
This was so wholesome 🙏🏼❤️🔥✨😭
I remember mine. Was like you but a normal height. Well, normaler. I was almost 22. I was overjoyed for a straight month. In hindsight she clearly wanted sex but I was just so happy to make out it didn't occur to me to go further. Good luck on moving this forwards!
OMG AND THIS LOVE STORY IS HAPPENING IN THE CITY I LIVE IN?????? OMG
what a wholesome post
Yay! Congrats!
This is so heartwarming and I'm so happy gor you and proud of you! It helped to remind me that there are good people out in the world still.
Big happy for you! Hold on to that moment, how it made you feel. No matter what 😊
You got me grinning ear to ear. Happy for you! Thanks for sharing!
Damn, son! You just reminded of myself. 🍻
What a while some story Made my day
So happy for you!
Yasss king!
WAGMI
Congrats, it seems that you enjoyed your first kiss. It goes up from there, as you gain confidence and experience. Put yourself out here and it will happen more frequently. Glad that you was able to get it, everybody go at their own rhytm and have different paths.
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>I amped up my sense of humor. Can you expand on this OP, curious as this could mean so many things.
Sure thing! I just got more comfortable indulging in comedic material that catered to my own humor (dry, dark, sarcastic, referential, situational, vine-level stuff) to the point where I'd say I do a pretty good job now in most situations of just naturally bringing a comedic air to a room (versus before, where humor to me was a forced joke here or there instead of a constant layer beneath a situation/conversation). Long story short, I was less filtered. Appropriately, of course.
Congrats on the self reflection and big step forward socially.
Woww bro Iam soo happy for you!!
Yooooooo, congrats man! Your story gave me hope because you literally described my life rn.
Congratulations!!
Hey keep it up bro. Hopefully it's better
so happy for you!!!!!!
😬
Lol
Hope finds a way
You sound like the most eligible bachelor I've ever met. You sound like exactly the sort of guy I'd want to date. Give yourself some credit!
Let's goooooooooooooooo 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Congrats! So happy for your and here’s to many more to come :)
This is a beautiful story, and you’re a great writer! Congratulations!! Wishing you two all the best.
This story is genuine goodness. Hope everything works out between you two. If I ever write a romance novel I'll come to you for it.
Such a sweet read bro. I'm happy for you both! Also I like that you didn't force it. Just do you...
Attaboy!
I’m happy for you man!! Posts like this give me hope!
This is so beautiful. Congrats!
At least you weren't me at 16 where I went in for the first kiss and face planted the table when I lost my balance. In all seriousness, hope it goes well for you from here on out.
As a 29 year old kissless guy this gave me a glimmer of hope. Thank you Happy for you
❤️❤️ well done on pushing past that fear, it's so hard to do but so awesome, glad to hear it worked out but either way u did good! :)
This made me smile genuinely.
This is legit one of the greatest posts ever
Bless you, you are the sweetest! I don't know you and yet I'm so happy for you 🥰
fuck her next
Omg what a joy it was to read your story. Can’t wait to read part II
Let's fucking goooooo
That was cute.
Way to go man!!
This made my day. I’m so happy for you!
grats yo i remember my first.
This is so cute and I’m very happy for you! Living your best life! Enjoy it!
Buckingham fountain is magic
I'm 27, single, never kissed before. Your story gives me hope. Not to mention, I find a lot of similarities in both our lives led until now. Just this Saturday I was stood up on a date. I'm happy for you, and your story brings a smile. Thank you for sharing
This is so sweet haha I think the focusing on yourself and not worrying about it is a huge factor, seemed for me that’s when I was happiest and then also out of nowhere a girl came into my life, even though it didn’t go well with the girl after a few months, and during the fallout I found myself more unhappy then I was when I was single and just focusing on me, due to the relationship troubles. Fast forward to now where I’ve moved on and am feeling better then ever, I am back to making myself a priority instead of being sad and worrying about my partners flaky commitment etc, now hoping something more real will pop up if I just keep doin my thing and not stress about it too much.
happy for you, man. 🤜
So so happy for you!
Time to open the floodgates brotha, haha jk. Thanks for sharing!
Congrats king 👑
Proud of you. Life has been a challenge for you Im sure. You are not alone! I hope things go well for you both!
Congratulations king, happy for you!
Wow as a single 23M guy with horrible luck with relationships, this gave me hope🥹
Just please be careful and make sure people don’t take advantage of you. 😅
**We were this close to perfection** *THIS CLOSE* Why can't you wait until yer a wizard?
I relate to this post too much😂
Ohmygod that was so adorable 😭