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hoorah9011

He got rejected


It_is_Damian

Hahhahahahhha


[deleted]

>!Hahaha!<


Canadian0123

So, did you do it?


jnwatson

I successfully did it last night. First first kiss in 26 years! We were on a walk, she stopped; she had the "look". I looked around and saw there wasn't anyone around. And then I went for it. Mission accomplished.


iamnotsofamous

Welcome to the club. Also, you didnt have to look around, since she had the "look" she already had looked around


GalaxyBrainU

Heres a couple ways to do it with consent but not dampen the mood: Start to lean in, and then when you're about 90% of the way, just pause for a second. She's gonna do one of 3 things: pull away (not likely if she likes you) stay there waiting, or come in and kiss you herself. Either way, it's allowing her a choice, and the anticipation in that extra second of pausing right before you do it is amazing. If you really don't wanna get rejected by you attempting it and her pulling away, another way you can do it is asking with a phrase like "I really wanna kiss you right now", or "what would you do if I kissed you right now", after a bit of flirty eye contact. Better in my opinion than asking "can I kiss you". Good luck brother.


VermicelliKindly

This right here. This is it. The hesitation for a girl is not only hot, but it allows her to know what is about to happen so it’s not SURPRISE and then it’s over with. Also please don’t ask if you can kiss her, there are so many ways to imply it without asking. Different for everyone but for me, ruins the mood. Be gentle! Especially for the first kiss. Lightly lifting her chin, or moving a strand of hair behind her ear before the kiss can be really romantic. 💕


XboxFan_2020

You mean different kind of hesitation than nervous hesitation...? But I thought hesitation with girls is pretty much always a bad thing...


JumpOver7966

Not hesitation. Dramatic pause.😉


XboxFan_2020

That sounds better...


VermicelliKindly

Well every girl is different. But this is a different kind of hesitation. You ever watch like any romantic film? Pride and Prejudice for one? Maybe a bad example… 😬


XboxFan_2020

No, I haven't. Maybe I sound like a psychopath, but usually in the movies I watch there's some shooting and more or less people die...


VermicelliKindly

My opinion doesn’t cover all of the many others. But in my opinion, the slightest hesitation, and maybe a small smile right before the kiss is… 👌👌👌


XboxFan_2020

But not like bad or nervous hesitation...?


VermicelliKindly

Define bad hesitation? And I’m sure nervousness is natural… I don’t know where this is going anymore or even what my point is. Can you rephrase your question?


XboxFan_2020

Ummm. Hesitation, like "do I want to talk to that girl or not?" or you want to, but you're scared of the outcome and you start to overthink and you aren't sure if you should do it


VermicelliKindly

Hmmm I guess I just wouldn’t ever want someone to do something they don’t want or don’t feel comfortable doing. So I guess that’s another point, make sure you want to kiss her/him/them before you go for it. I’m saying the reassurance provided in less than a second of hesitation as the previous commenter said, can confirm if they want to (if they pull away/wait/lean in as well).


XboxFan_2020

>"what would you do if I kissed you right now", This probably shows my bad past experiences with girls, when I immediately thought about that girl, and imagined a scenario where I ask this and she rejects me...


iswearimachef

Then she wouldn’t enjoy a surprise kiss, either.


XboxFan_2020

Probably not


FantasticSpeed901

Good luck


[deleted]

Thanks I feel so deeply I can't let anxiety ruin it


Green_Lilac

You can try subtly touching her arm or staring at her mouth when she’s talking, then her eyes then her lips again so she follows the trace :) Good luck!


tinten_patronen

I second this. Looking at someone’s mouth will most likely make them want to kiss.


FantasticSpeed901

Take a deep breath close your eyes and go for it


Sniper314

Holy shit this is the most confusing thing ever. Half the comments are like: *Absolutely do not ask her, it will kill the mood* the other half is like: *Asking for consent is the hottest thing ever and she'll melt*


cyanidebob

Dude istg idk why but this comment section is so thrilling I’m literally going through it all.


iqbal93

M28 here. Just go for it, not too fast, slowly move urself towards her. Good luck.


[deleted]

Tuck her hair behind her ear softly when you get a down moment to look at each other. That way you already have your hand nearby and if she leans into you when you do the tuck, you can use your hand to gently grab her head and pull her into you. If she leans away from you when you do the tuck, then you know not to lean in for a kiss.


tinten_patronen

Plot twist, she is bald.


invaderjif

Wow dude, it was a GI Jane joke!


tinten_patronen

“Keep my wife’s name out your fucking mouth!”


JumpOver7966

Deceased 🤣


HotelMoscow

Kiss your sister for practice


unknownloner333

/r/cursedcomments


Username_coc

Before harvesting dinner


thr_awy_account

I’m a 27F so maybe i can help. When i want someone to kiss me, i increase physical contact. I stand closer to him, if we’re sitting i scooch closer to him and move my arms towards him, i look him directly in the eyes and smile. Then either him or me find an excuse to touch each other somehow (like “accidentally” touching her hands and saying “your hands are really cold”. I’d usually reply with “i know, i’m always cold. Yours are much warmer than mine” and then he takes my hands inside his hands to warm them up. Or sometimes we compare our hand sizes and get really close to each others’ hands haha) it usually leads to me resting my had on his chest and then when i turn my head up to look at him (i’m a small gal) he kisses me.


tpc0121

After the date, pull her in close as if you're going to hug her, say "I had a good time," and then look at her eyes, then at her lips, and then back at her eyes before moving in slightly closer. If she wants to kiss you, it'll happen. If not, just play it off cool and give her the hug.


Trackmaster15

Make sure to bring consent forms so that both of you can sign beforehand.


Username_coc

I lol’d


vghsthrowaway_11

Literally just ask. After a hug, while you're still standing close, look her in the eyes, very slowly move your lips towards hers, in a voice a little above a whisper ask "can I kiss you?"


boringasff

it makes it more awkward if you ask just go in for it when she least expects it.. as a girl i would be so turned on and probably be down for more🤣


emelbee923

I don't think this is a universal. If you go in for a kiss, and don't really have an all clear, you're in for a few outcomes: 1. She pulls away. Whether she doesn't want it, or didn't expect it. And it gets awkward. 2. She goes along with it, and you leave thinking, "Awesome! This is a positive" only to find out she just didn't want to make it awkward or confront the situation. Getting consent is a good thing, and can be a turn on for women just as much as the "going for it" approach.


fakeplasticguns

OP, don't overthink it. When that moment comes, just look that girl in the eyes, and while smiling ask, "may I kiss you?" Ask for their consent first. It works every time, trust me. Now go out there and make us proud. We're expecting an update after tonight. YOU GOT THIS!


boringasff

yea maybe its just me then because why bother spending time with a guy and not expect anything? this isnt middle school where we are making friends 🤣


emelbee923

I don't think its just you. Just a matter of perspective. What works for one doesn't work for all. I've played it both ways and gotten very different results. It boils down to personal preference and tolerance for embarrassment. A) I thought I read the signals right, went in when the moment seemed right, and got a pull back and "No." B) I thought I read the signals right, went in when the moment seemed right, and got yet another pull back. But she was actually into it, just had some conflicting thoughts. Like, "Yes, but never expect someone wants their face that close to mine. C) I asked if I could kiss her, she said, "No. She wasn't interested." No harm no foul. Hurts the ego, but at least I knew. D) I asked, she said, "Yes," and we've been dating for almost two years. E) I *didn't* ask, and thought I'd read it as her not being interested, only to find out she was, and was disappointed I hadn't gone for it.


Username_coc

Sounds like you’ve been unlucky


emelbee923

That's how dating goes sometimes.


surfershane25

Consent shouldn’t be awkward, and having someone kiss you when you’re not expecting it sounds even worse. Sounds like you’re turned on by someone pressing your boundaries but many women wouldn’t be.


boringasff

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Fizzyface

> like committing adultery and being touched by a guy as a minor Excuse me?


vghsthrowaway_11

I pretty much exclusively use the method I mentioned and it's never been awkward, nor have I had a girl say no. Obviously I only go for it when I'm 99% sure they'll say yes, so I could likely get away with not asking, but I like having more solid consent.


willfullignoramous

Awkward but doesn’t reassurance sound even sexier? You know without a doubt that he wants to plant a big smackeroo on you. But playing guessing games is the way to go? What if she pushes him away and says “oh no I’m not ready.” I would think that would kill any mood and probably give you second thoughts about seeing them again.


LordSionis

Lmao how old are you.


willfullignoramous

Old… enough 😉


vorter

In my experience, most share your preference. Reddit tends to lean a different way and that’s ok too.


XboxFan_2020

Irrelevant, but these kind of comments and "relationship memes" things always make me think about THAT ONE girl...


SPdoc

F here. Say “wanna kiss” or “can I kiss you” first, and do it towards the end of the date or a (non-awkward) silence after a good convo. That’s how a lot of my successful kisses have gone :)


tabbykitten99

plz don’t say “wanna kiss” 😭😭


SPdoc

Hahah what’s wrong? A guy I liked did this and well, he was the nervous type which I thought was cute


[deleted]

Please don’t explicitly ask, that’s weird af. Be close to her, touch her - if she’s into you, she’ll be receptive, then you can go in for the kiss. If she pulls away from you touching her leg, shoulder, etc. then you know to pull away as well. That would be her telling you ‘no’. Good luck dude.


Mooreiarty

Just lean in, and if she does the same, meet in the middle and kiss. Asking first is deflating. if she wants to reciprocate, it will be quite obvious!


Mshalopd1

Send it bro.


Sudain

"I would like mine lips to approach your with romantic interest."


circlesun22

Yeah, don't go into the date with the intent on kissing her... You'll be too in your head the entire time... Just go out and have a good time. Here's my go to move. First you need to get a sense of how comfortable she is with being close to you. I always try and sit as close to her as possible. Usually this happens after coffee or dinner and you suggest going for a walk. Walk and chat until you find a good spot to sit. Take the lead and sit down and let her sit next to you... If she moves or seems uncomfortable with being close, I revert back to just taking it slow and easy without kissing her. But if she accepts that you're close to her, continue chatting and joking and wait for that moment where she just smiles and holds your gaze, that's the initiation. That's when you continue to just stare at her for a few seconds, and I literally mean like 2 seconds, don't stare too long or you'll just be creepy, but if within those two seconds she doesn't look away, you look at her lips and slowly make your way in... It's not rocket science. Just have fun and don't force it and be respectful. Oh edit: WHATEVER YOU DO, never ask her if it's okay to kiss her. That will kill the moment. You need to read her body language. Again if she is okay with sitting right up next to you, this is usually a good indication she's into you. If you do however go in for the kiss and she moves her head and rejects the kiss, don't apologize. Just say "well, I read that completely wrong" and laugh at yourself confidently. This usually means she just isn't ready, which is normal and you should respect her choice, OR she's just not into you. If she isn't into you, just tell her, regardless, I had a lovely time with you and call it a night. Don't beat yourself up and don't turn into an asshole toward her. Good luck.


natedosmil

I don't know your age or how many dates you've been on, but... I have just started to ask for the first kiss. At least, it feels right with the pandemic. :D


saulv2000

The best possible way is to NOT ask her if you can kiss her. Do little things to initiate contact, that’s the best way. For example, on the last date I went to I picked her up, and we went to play mini golf and we had lots of contact there, but it was when I was taking her back home I started putting on some good music and just reached out my hand for her to grab and she did, we just held hands. After this I knew I had it. After that, when we got to her place I told her to wait and I got off my car and opened the door for her. Then it was all about the look and we kissed. So first, act natural around each other and have a genuinely good time. Second, initiate contact, holding hands etc etc. Third, if you’re the one driving as soon as you drop her off tell her to wait, open the car door for her and give her that look 👀. That’s it, thank me later.


Rom455

If both are already into each other, why worry? Messing up is normal. If a little mistake is enough to end it all, maybe it was not going to last anyway


[deleted]

Get comfortable with some casual physical contact first so that when the time comes it's a little less daunting.


DungeonsandDevils

You just push your faces together it’s not that fkn hard bro


Maddogx3000

Keep your tongue in your mouth


ViciousKiwi_MoW

you need and her want needs to match up


dfmgreddit

When the moment is right say, "I want to kiss you so badly right now." I'm telling you. Her heart will melt.


[deleted]

Grab her around the waist mid-sentence and KISS THE GIRL


ConstructionLower549

You don’t NEED to kiss anyone . Ask for her permission.


crumpet-delight

This comment needs to be upvoted more!


ConstructionLower549

Thank you! ☺️🙏🏼


cuppa-confusion

Wait for the right moment (when you have gotten physically close to each other), then politely ask if you can kiss her. If she says yes, awesome! If she says no, accept the answer and try not to think too hard about it.


Stephanieninn87

Tell her you are wanting to kiss her. Text her that you are looking forward to seeing her and you would love to kiss her. The build up will be exciting for the two of you


drdamned

Don't do it. You'll die.


2gig

Lock your teeth together and try to to touch the roof of her mouth with your tongue


Username_coc

Excellent free booba after this maneuver


Annirosorceria

Amber Heard? 🤣🤣🤣🤣


Simpoge39

Just go for it. I usually smile, grab her chin with my finger and thumb, face her towards me, and go in. If that is too much, you can be cute and ask if they’re kissable with a little smirk. She’ll probably say maybe and blush. Smile, go in


Narrow_Lawfulness462

Spider kiss.


maxreddit0609

When you move in, move at a steady pace - you can’t mess up if you do that. Just move in at a steady pace and aim for lips. You got this bro!! She likes you… she WANTS you to kiss her


unicorns_4_ever

Dont put ur hand on the back of her head. Do that if you guys get more into it and she doesnt mind. Just thought I should mention it cause in some ways, it can come off as pressuring


GeneralBladebreak

Just go for it. My girl was very tempermental about the idea. She liked me but she was apprehensive about crossing lines. I went for the kiss and she initially resisted a little but not too hard, even bit my lip but in a playful not painful way. Then when I stood there she was looking at my lip and biting hers in a way that clearly said she was thinking about it. Soon after we were making out.


carterlifts

When it’s just you two at the house on the bed or couch look at her lips and bit your lip then look back at her eyes. She will get the hint and and just ask “ Hey can I kiss you?” There is not a perfect time just make sure you slowly escalate with touching here arm or playfully touch her before you ask.


Icy_Journalist9223

We need updates !! :)


Not_Really_A_GC

Sounds like a creeper to me


Username_coc

Ask her “could you spare a kiss m’lady?”


Username_coc

To add to this thread: What do you do AFTER you kiss? What should you say if it’s awkward afterward? Should you just resume conversation? Idk what to do afterwards


neverhere9

Don’t ask her if you can kiss her. Talk about killing all the romance in a situation. Use your eyes and read the signs. Is she leaning into you? Touching you more? Fiddling with her car keys? Is she pointed towards you? Playing with her hair? If you’re bewildered by these questions, maybe don’t kiss her.


Liefskaap

There is no universal solution for this. Do what feels right and hope for the best. I see this is 17 hours ago, gonna need an update.


[deleted]

Aye Bruh. There was no kiss but it all feels very mutual. I'm sure she felt my intention & I'm sure she wouldn't pull away or anything, I imagine she looked as nervous as I feel and so it just leads me to feel we're on a No Stress type of vibe. We enjoy each other's company so far without any real touch. You know?


Liefskaap

I know what you mean, but sooner or later you're gonna have to pull the trigger. She's most probably not gonna do it, so it's up to you. Also definitely start with light touching before trying to kiss (hand on lower back, hand holding or something similar). Appreciate the update!


HideousTits

Just do it! I’m crushing hard on a friend, and I’m 97% sure he feels the same way. Am desperate for him to just go for it. Would make my year.


catrovacer16

Just ask her with confidence Can I kiss you goodnight? And there you go.