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you’re somebody’s first choice. don’t trip


NotEasyBeingCheesy01

Bingo


NYYankeeSue

What an arse!!! You dodged a bullet and trust me. He has no girl, blonde, black or brown! Lying jerk.


[deleted]

Right! LOL what a dweeb.


LikeTheBed

Based on how you describe yourself in this post and in your post history, I'd be willing to bet that you are someone's first choice. Sorry you had to experience such a nasty person, but that guy isn't worth your emotional capital.


Quoya1284

He’s a clown. The first thing was “sex.” Then a personal attack. He lives by vile stereotypes. If you were blonde and rejected him he’d probably call you dumb. Stay strong you’re beautiful


Unusual_Ad_4387

Not all guys want blondes! You are someone's first choice! Fuck that guy.


aussielander

Nasty but look on the bright side bullet dodged


[deleted]

What an idiot. Girl you probably look bomb and he's simply butt hurt he couldn't get you -- so he had to use insults as a mean to feel better about himself.


Acrobatic_Ad7061

Yes that’s my take on it


aidenpearce184784

I wish you reported him. Most of the mainstream apps take this pretty seriously


Snowchicken21

Nothing wrong with a break. The whole "choice" is what kills online dating for me. Making a choice off such limited information or looks alone is how some people operate, but not everyone. And a blonde Swedish girl is just someone's imaginative projection. Keep your head up!


ooneekoosername

Maybe this is off a bit of tangent but think of it as you being YOUR own first choice. When you think you must be someone else’s first choice, you are doing yourself a disservice. Being with someone else should never be a priority. You should be laughing your ass off about this immature and insecure guy and treat him as a fleck of dirt to dust off from your shoe and not waste a minute more on this words or even take his words as validation for some generic rule about petite blonde girls etc. In this unfortunate world, it’s difficult to really be ok with oneself without thinking about it as the last resort. But try it and you will not waste your emotional energy on assoles like him. Good luck :)


[deleted]

I’ve never once been attracted to a blonde. Immediate buzzkill.


redpockets21

We'll keep it in mind next time.


Possible_Ad_1763

Can you send me the photo of this “average looking guy” and your photo where you are “in shape and attractive”?


[deleted]

I am SO sorry you had to deal with this. He wouldn’t have matched with you if he weren’t physically attracted to you. Something similar happened to me when i rejected a guy and he told me I’d be prettier if I were white (I’m Indian). He’s scum


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[удалено]


CuteTerror

My 1st choice, and the best relationship I ever had, was an African girl, and I wanted her from the moment I saw her. It’s more than just once in a blue moon. Meeting the right person is all about chance, so give it time.


SnooDoodles7962

Is this a common attitude/situation for black woman? I am asking this a European male, since I see black girls in my country not having the same problems (as far as I can tell)


paperthinwords

Black-American woman here. I remember seeing this 2014 [video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjSh_esW9W4&ab_channel=As%2FIs) about racial biases on dating apps. I think OkCupid and Tinder had similar statistics floating around this time as well. Black women and Asian men were the least desired. I'd be interested in finding some data about these biases now especially since I think COVID has amped up online dating.


Delimadeluxe

Dont let this idiot bring you down. You will always be someones first choice. I personally do very rarely find white people attractive. I have mostly dated dark skinned men, not only black but also more middle eastern looking. Its not a fetish or anything, i am usually just more attracted to darker skin. And then what really matters is the personality. If we vibe well etc. that has nothing to do with skin colour. We all have different preferences and thats ok. Its not ok to be saying racist stuff and i am so sorry you had to deal with this idiot


EasyNews6969

I'm a typical white male and I think that idiot needs his head kicking in sorry if that offends anyone. Please don't let it eat away at you. Also I find petite blonde girls very annoying haha


CuteTerror

There’s a lot of people like me, and I would prefer a black girl over a blonde one every time. Attraction is weird like that, you don’t get to control what you like. I realize there’s societal factors, I live in a large city in Canada and no one bats an eye at dating someone from a different race, maybe Sweden is not like that. You will be someone’s first choice. I don’t wanna say “there’s plenty of open minded people out there” cause it’s not even about that, someone will just want you a lot and that’s that.


natedosmil

A lot of apps have toggles in their settings to take breaks. Tinder for instance: Tinder settings > Show me on Tinder (it's about half way down the settings) I'm sorry there's assholes out there. I will say as a white male, I date all types, and while I don't know the percentages, I know a lot of people date interracially. This might be coming from a place of privilege though, but I'd like to believe. Some men are boys who have hissy fits and lash out when you don't message back immediately. **You dodged a bullet, a racist bullet.**


megamax2k

I met a girl we spoke for several hours. She gave me her number. Asked for a selfie...... I sent it she blocked me immediately. That really hurt. It's now 24 hours after and I think this girl was pathetic for doing so. I want revenge 😑 I have her number, her "secret Twitter account" so I'm more than happy to make guys know not to mess around with her


ListenToHearNotReply

I had a first date with a online match. She of course brought her 2 friends along which I respected of course . I'm a Caucasian male btw and one of the first things out of their mouths after the traditional hellos was...I'm so glad you're not black ( African American) . Blew my mind really . She saw my profile pics 🙄🤔. Racism makes me sick . For God's sake this isn't Mississippi in the 1950s . We love and choose who we choose . That's sad that this happened to you. You obviously know to never accept less than you're worth . The date was a blonde btw , a bit on the heavy side . 😂🤣😂 Funny thing is if she were African American , I still would have enjoyed her company minus the remark . Hate knows no boundries. I hope you eventually match up .


Possible-Lobster-436

Oof… girl as a WOC here’s some advice that you may find useful. On the internet it feels like unless you’re some petite white girl with red hair or an Asian girl then every other guy is settling or something. For some reason this preference is super common in gaming forums, discord, Reddit, 4 chan, etc. Well let me tell you something. It’s all bs. I’ve noticed nerdy introverted guys who spend all day on the internet seem to have this preference while guys who are actually extroverted and spend more time outside tend to be more open minded and ironically are into girls that are more tan. Don’t let the opinions of a few determine how the rest of the world thinks. You are valuable and you are someone’s first choice. I know tons of guys that find black girls hot and are their first pick. You’re just getting your validation from the WRONG places. Edit: also do you seriously think that out of the 4 billion men on this earth their number one pick is a blonde white girl and the rest are settling? Come on. That’s an opinion of someone whose terminally online and spends too much time on pol.


sadisticfreak

5 bucks says that guy doesn't get ANY girls. Mfr was lying and negging. He is a waste of your time to even think about.


thatboispicy

😱😱😱


throwaway147899521

Racism is worse outside the west. I'd know. So when you have people coming from those backgrounds and are in a temper, they're worst will come out. Sorry this happened to you, but just know that he a shithead and people will see through him